People Pleasers Anonymous

Do you feel like you are getting nowhere on your journey of self-healing?

Or struggling to make sense of why you keep repeating the same ole patterns that you know you've already worked on and thought you'd broken up with?

Well, I've got some news for you ... that I think you'll enjoy.

Today’s episode is a follow on from my previous solo episode (#47) where I shared my thoughts on what the self-development industry doesn’t tell us about the journey of personal development.

Tune in to discover:

>> The main reason I ended up at the bottom of the pit (again!)

>> 4 lessons I learned from my recent breakdown

>> A message of hope for you if you are struggling

and as always ... there’s so much more!

I’m excited to have another one of my very special biz buddies here with me on the poddy. Today I’m chatting with Skye Baxter all about social anxiety:

>> What it is

>> Why it shows up

>> How it impacts us in unhelpful ways.

>> Some simple tips to break the cycle of social anxiety

And sooo much more...

(Ps this episode is one you are going to want to listen to over and over again!! Just sayn! 🤪)

Skye is the Owner & Creator of Heal - Grow – Thrive

She is a mentor and a coach, who helps people heal generational trauma, and integrate their shadows so they can vibrate with confidence and love their life.

Skye clients are generally burnt out or healing from a toxic relationship and she helps them to re-gain the part of themselves they have shut off from or are healing so they can love themselves and know their worth in order to break that cycle.

Here are the links to where you can find out more about Skye’s work:

I'm excited for you to meet today's guest Dee Brennan. Dee is a Wellbeing and Mindfulness Coach and her unique approach to wellness includes fun, rooftops, fairy lights and wine!

Yes you heard that right - Wine too!

Tune in to find out how she combines wellness and entertainment to ensure her clients and participants leave feeling relaxed and inspired.

Here's how you can connect with Dee:

The self-help industry is full of promises of personal transformation and quick-fixes, which is actually a good thing because as humans we are primed for improving ourselves both personally and professionally.

And it can definitely be a valuable and rewarding process. (I should know, I am one of those coaches who can help you transform your life!!)

But what happens when it doesn’t go exactly as planned?

Find out why I think the Self-Help Industry is actually full of shit

So, if you are serious about truly transforming your life I have some hard truths you need to know before you begin.

Let's dive in ...

>> Want to know how you can connect with Lesa?

Join me for an informative & inspirational conversation with my special guest and business bestie Amanda Cremonini, owner and creative director of Smiling Hearts & Minds Hypnotherapy.

We have so many golden nuggets to share with you today.

You are going to hear what major life event coupled with a significant life transition was the catalyst for Amanda to seek solace in the techniques of Rapid Transformational Therapy and Hypno Therapy.

And how these two modalities have become the not-so secret weapons she utilises not only for her own life-changing transformation, but in her Mindset Coaching Business to help clients create their own life-changing transformations.

And... so, so much more.

I’m so excited to have my very special guest Emily Fogg joining me on the podcast today.

Emily is a kindred spirit. We are both ex-teachers who walked away from the profession in order to put our vast array of skills to good use and make a difference in the world.

Emily is the owner of a tutoring business called Wise Owl Tuition.

Wise Owl Tuition provides individualised, tailor-made tutoring to students who need the extra support, confidence, and teaching to thrive.

Specialising in helping students from Years 1 to 10 with learning difficulties such as Dyslexia, ADHD and Autism.

Our conversation is all about ...

>> What to do when people pleasing gets in the way of having important conversations with your child’s schoolteacher.

>> Tips for speaking up for your child's needs

>> Why keeping the lines of communication open with the school is so important for your child

and so much more ...

You can find out more about Wise Owl Tuition here:

Today’s episode is going to be a bit more of a workshop style presentation, so if you are up for a bit of inner work and self-discovery, press pause, grab a pen and paper or your journal and jump back in. You are about to uncover what your core values and why they are important.

Are you feeling a little off kilter, out of whack or misaligned?

Or perhaps you are experiencing resentment, bitterness, overwhelm or even burnout!

Chances are you aren't living in alignment with your core values.

Tune in to day to uncover:

>> What core values are

>> Why they are important 

and 

>> How you can identify your personal core values.

>> Want to know how you can connect with Lesa?

In today's episode I'm discussing how a dysregulated nervous system can amplify your people pleasing symptoms and what you can do about it, with my very special guest Amanda Louisa.

We chat about:

>> How to identify what a dysregulated nervous system looks & feels like.

>> Why acting on autopilot leads to reacting rather than responding to events and circumstances.

>> The importance of having a regulated nervous system, and

>> We leave you with some tangible tools you can use to help you regulate your nervous system after a situation that creates a fight/ flight scenario in your system.

Amanda's Social Media Links

Continuing on from Episode 41 where Lesa shared the reasons why setting boundaries is hard, today is all about how to communicate your boundaries so you feel heard.

Lesa shares a simple 3 step plan to keep communicating your boundaries simple so that you can say what you mean and mean what you say.

You know setting boundaries is good for you.

You know you need to set healthy boundaries.

And yet it’s just so hard to put boundaries in place and stick to them.

In today’s solo episode Lesa exposes 5 reasons why we find it difficult to set boundaries with others and what you can do to overcome each of those barriers.

>> Want to know how you can connect with Lesa?

Today’s episode is a little different.

In this episode Lesa takes you behind the scenes and into her inner world.

She shares about what it's like being on a personal development journey. You’ll hear her verbalising her thoughts and working through some challenges that are coming up for her right now.

Listen to her unpack how she’s feeling, reframe some of those unhelpful thought patterns and come to some clarity around why she is feeling the way she is feeling.

The episode is more of a self reflection rather than content for you to consume. What it shows you is that appearances can be deceiving and oftentimes we don’t really know what is going on behind the scenes.

It’s a bit of a longer episode today, but a couple of key things to listen out for are:

>> Having someone to talk to can really help you to make sense of those unhelpful thought loops that go around endlessly in your mind.

>> And if you are planning on heading down the personal development route, be sure to enter with caution and an open mind.

If you need a trusted, unbiased and compassionate ear to listen to your unruly thoughts.

Lesa is your gal.

>> Want to know how you can connect with Lesa?

How spacious does your life feel?

People pleasers are renowned for over-scheduling their time leaving themselves with limited energy and no-space in their calendars, homes or minds for creativity and clarity.

Join Lesa today as she shares her thoughts on why we need to create more space in our lives and how we can do that.

Links:

>> Want to know how you can connect with Lesa?

Well Hello 2023!!

It can be difficult to stick with your resolutions, no matter how good your intentions are.

But what if there was an easier way?

What if there was something that could keep you focused and motivated all year long?

Well, there is! And it starts with just one word.

In today's episode Lesa unpacks why we are shit at sticking to our resolutions and offers up a way to ensure that you don't feel like a failure in a couple of months time.

>> Links mentioned in the episode:

This month PPA turns 1 and I could not be prouder. 

2022 has been a year of many firsts. Which has included massive highs to crashing lows and everything in-between.

Thank you for joining me for the rollercoaster ride.

If you've been feeling like you've failed in 2022, take a listen, this is your invitation to look back at what you HAVE achieved rather than focussing on what you haven't.

Even if you are half as surprised as I was, you'll leave feeling like the winner that you actually are.

Links mentioned in the episode:

How can we possibly know what we don't know ... ?

While hindsight is a wonderful thing, it's not really that helpful to you in the NOW.

So the things that I wished I'd know before I started my personal development journey, are actually 4 of the most important lessons that I've learned along the way.

I am so very grateful for the journey I have been on and would not change a single minute of it. I am proud of who I have become and who I am going to be in the future.

My hope is that the lessons I have to share with you, help you to navigate your personal development journey a little more easily.

Want to know how you can connect with Lesa?

>> Join Lesa's FREE online community for loads of inspiration, connection with like-minded women and support for your People Pleasing Recovery journey.

We are supposedly coming into the "most wonderful time of the year," and yet for many of us chronic people pleasers, it is anything but wonderful...

The festive season can be a time of immense pressure, unrealistic expectations not to mention stress, overwhelm and anxiety.

If you are feeling like you are under the pump to meet a whole lot of additional obligations and expectations.

Or there's a very real possibility that by the time Christmas day arrives you are going to flip your lid or crash and burn

Or you'd just love to enjoy the day like everybody else and feel completely relaxed, totally at peace and fully present.

Then today's episode is for you...

I have a few simple reminders to help you cope with the crazy. busy silly season and arrive at Christmas day feeling relaxed, peaceful and present.

Check out the Mini RESET right here:

Today I want to talk about a topic that is at the centre of many of my discussions with the women in the Good Girl Rebellion and that is around how we can better manage our time.

Managing our time is one of the biggest challenges us busy mums face.

And yet it is the one thing that we spend MOST of our time WORRYING about.

As people pleasers we often struggle to manage our time on account that we are always doing so many things for other people.

(symptoms of thinking you have poor time management skills)

>> Your to-do-list is made up of a ton of activities for everyone else.

>> You feel like there is no time left in your day for taking care of yourself or doing something nice that’s just for you.

>> Planning your day feels like a momentous chore.

>>  And knocking off even the tiniest of tasks … requires all the determination you can muster.

What a girl supposed to do??

Today I want to talk about what you can do to better manage your time … and start actually feeling like you have some time to do something that is just for you.

(Cause of why your time management feels like it’s up shiz creek)

• Assess where you are spending all your time
• Do a time audit – track what you are doing every 15 minutes for a whole day)

Grab you ear buds and let's get started!!

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Lately I have been carrying a really heavy mental load, and I figured if I’m carry a heavy load then maybe you might be too.

So, in today’s episode I want to talk about the mental load we carry.

You’ll learn …

>> What the mental load is.

>> Why we feel inclined to carry it around all day & night.

>> What impact carrying a heavy mental load can have.

and

>> What you can do to lighten the load.

Want more insight and inspiration form Lesa Blackham Coaching??

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Is your tinsel already in a tiz?

Feeling under the pump and out of control????

The stress of the 'end of year' can be overwhelming when there is so much to do!

With … Too much work … too much play … too much emotional mayhem!

It’s every people pleaser’s nightmare!

>> Work deadlines to be met

 >> End of year concerts to attend

>> Festive catch ups with friends

>> Chrissy pressies to buy

>> Decorations to put up

Planning, prepping, primping, and prettifying

Is it any wonder you feel like a maniac on a mission?

If the end of year crazies are already turning your life upside down, then today's episode is just for you.

I'm sharing 3 ways to go from under the pump to care free in just 14 days.

Check it out 🙏🏻

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Self-care isn't selfish, IT IS ESSENTIAL.

You’ve gotta stop treating self-care like it’s an optional extra!

·  Like it’s the thing you will do… once all the important sh*t is done.

·  Like it’s the side order of chips rather than the burger.

·  Like it’s something you’ll do …when you have time.

·  Like it’s a freaking LUXURY!

Tune in to find out the REAL costs of not taking care of you are ... And what you can do about it!

Make taking care of yourself a PRIORITY and join me for a half day in-person, SELF-CARE retreat

And immerse yourself in a truly nurturing experience as you give yourself a permission to rest and reset.

A beautifully curated experience infused with activities to help you relax, recharge, rejuvenate & connect.

When: 30 October, Sunday, 9.45 am to 1.15 pm

Where:  Esperance, WA

What:

• Yoga and Meditation
• Women's Circle
• Yummy Morning Tea Treats

THIS IS THE BREAK YOU NEED!

Just a few hours (can make a HUGE difference) and it won't break the bank.

Do yourself a favour... BOOK NOW to secure your spot!

Boundaries would have to be ONE of the hottest topics that women who have a tendency to people please ask me about all the time!

So, let’s talk about boundaries, shall we??

Having healthy boundaries is one of those powerful skills you need if you want to lead a life that is rewarding, fulfilling and meaningful.

But how do we know what boundaries we need and how do we create them if we’ve never been taught why boundaries are essential.

If you’ve ever wondered what boundaries are, why we need them and how to implement them. Then this episode is for you!

Today I want to give you a quick run-down of the what, why, and how of boundary setting.

Arming yourself with this knowledge will help you to get back in the driver’s seat of your life so you can experience more peace, joy and satisfaction.

Here's where you can sign up for the FREE 5-day challenge:

In today’s episode I introduce you to my friend and biz buddy Jasia Hunt, Owner of Inner Zen Bowen Therapy.

Jasia is a Bowen Therapist who is passionate about helping people live pain free, feel better and ultimately to live a better life.

We get the lowdown on what Bowen Therapy is, how it works and why taking a Magnesium supplement is crucial if you want to feel better more often.

Strap yourselves in ladies, open your minds and prepare yourself to be inspired.

Here's how you can connect with Jasia:

Today I want to share with you something super exciting that I am about to release to my online community. I reckon you are going to love it.

Do you struggle to say NO? …

⁃ constantly sacrificing your time & energy to meet the needs of others. Leaving you feeling resentful, frustrated and angry.

⁃ constantly doubting your ability to know what is right for you and second guessing every decision you make. Impacting your self-worth and self-confidence.

⁃ feeling obligated to say yes, even when every bone in your body wants to say no. And you feel guilty for even thinking about saying no.

⁃ you have no time to focus on your dreams and passions because your schedule is overloaded with task for everyone else. Leaving you feeling unsatisfied and unfulfilled.

⁃ burnt out and overwhelmed by all the tasks, roles & responsibilities because wearing the “Busy Badge” is what is expected of you and you believe that being anything less than busy means you’re lazy!

I want to share with you all the details about a new free challenge that is going to help you to say NO with CONFIDENCE & CONVICTION so you can step back into your personal power and become the boss of your own life.

Your inability to say NO dictates how your time, energy and resources are spent. 

And in this 5 day Powerless to Powerful Challenge. I am going to help you understand why saying NO is the most powerful skill you need so you can reclaim your personal power and say YES to what is important to you.

Here's where you can sign up for the FREE 5-day challenge:

Sleep ... We all need it ... In fact humans cannot survive without it!

And yet a lack of quality sleep is one of the hottest topics of discussion I have with not only my clients, but with many of the women I come in contact with.

I have spent the better part of the last 30 years struggling to get a decent night’s sleep. In the past my sleep habits were so messed up that I was lucky if I had 6 hours of uninterrupted sleep at night. I identified myself to anyone who would ask, as an insomniac!

This chronic sleep deprivation was making my daily life a real chore.

I’d be irritable, unable to concentrate, moody, prone to accidents and hurting myself, my mind was fuzzy and I used to forget everything.

Can you relate?

Fast forward to now…

And my sleep habits have improved so much that I no longer label myself an insomniac.

In today's episode I am going to expose:

>> What is getting in your way of a good nights sleep.

>> And my secrets to sleeping like a baby more often than not.

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One of the questions I often get asked is “What are the easiest things to start saying no to?”

Let’s face it - when you start saying NO to others … it’s highly likely that your NO will create some resistance or back lash - this new behaviour is not the norm and you will unintentionally ruffle some feathers.

So, to build your NO muscle and practice saying NO, I like to recommend that you start by saying NO to the easy things, things that won't have a big impact on others. Things that if you say NO to them, then the only person it will have an effect on, is yourself.

In today's episode I'll be sharing 15 of the easiest things to start saying NO to, that won't ruffle the feathers of family and friends! 

Links mentioned in today's episode:

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Introducing .... UNLEASHED: The Masterclass teaching you How to Unleash Yourself from the Shackles of People Pleasing

Are you ready to…

🔥 Recover your sense of self and live a life in which you are the author of your own story 🔥Explore your values and learn how to live in harmony with them

🔥 Experience more authentic and fulfilling relationships

🔥 Learn how to truly nurture yourself so you have more energy to realise your true, authentic and unique potential.

YES???

Then it's time to take back your personal power and start treating yourself with the respect that you ordinarily only reserve for others…

This masterclass will leave you ready to step fully into who you are meant to be and what is right for YOU.

In the class I’m going to be getting down and dirty on:

♥ Why you sacrifice your needs for the sake of others

♥ What the real cost of continuing to disrespect yourself is

and

♥ How you can finally unleash yourself from the shackles of people pleasing to start living your life led by you… instead of it being dictated by the needs of others.

Are you READY?

I am super excited to have my dear friend and bestie boss babe buddy here with me on the podcast today.

Fiona Taylor ("Fee" to her nearest and dearest! AKA me!!) is the owner and founder of Choose Healthy.

Fee’s passions are food, exercise & self-care and bringing women together to create 'me-time' experiences.

She helps women navigating their 40s, 50s (& 60s!) to change their relationship with food & exercise and get their energy back without missing out.

Her secret sauce is teaching women how to make food easy, find the right type of exercise & make self-care a priority through 'Me-time' Retreats & 1:1 coaching.

People pleasers are renowned for putting themselves last and sacrificing their health and wellbeing. Fee shares some tiny, tangible tips that will help even the most time poor among us to make the necessary tweaks and finally start putting ourselves first.

Join us as we discuss how to cut through all the overwhelm and confusion about health and wellbeing, simplify the decision making and start incorporating those tiny lifestyle tweaks today.

Here's where you can find Fee:

Is all that stress as a result of people pleasing impacting on your sleep?

Join me and my good friend Naturopath, Kate Liddle for a jam packed episode exploring how stress is impacting your sleep and what you can do about it!

Kate’s philosophy is, “if you don't look after your body, where will you live?”

We talk about the impact that people pleasing has on our physiology.

We get all sciency & nerdy and discuss brain chemicals, herbs and lifestyle tweaks to help create some calm so you can get a good night’s sleep.

Kate shares some real practical ideas for women to take home and start to practice in their life to help combat the likes of sleep issues, stress, anxiety and how to create more calm.

This episode is jam packed with so many golden nuggets, you’ll be coming back time & time again to re-listen.

#Note of caution, to avoid overwhelm ... We both recommend that you just focus on one thing at a time. Which is why you’ll want to listen to it over and over.

Here's how you can connect with Kate

Today I'd love to introduce you to my friend and biz buddy Lauren Winzar, the queen of simplicity.

We People Pleaser's are prone to experiencing too much, too many, too much... too much everything! Basically we overcomplicate I.T .A.L.L!

Life CAN be simpler, and Lauren is the perfect expert to have on the show to tell us exactly how we can do that. Lauren is your Decluttering and Organisation Coach.

Lauren brings a light-hearted and non-judgemental approach to decluttering, she reduces stress and overwhelm in her clients' lives. Lauren doesn't believe that we're born organised and wants to help you learn the strategies that work for you so you can curate your ideal life.

Tune in to hear what Lauren has to say on how you can change your environment to support you rather that changing yourself to fit your environment. We discuss how simplifying your physical space will help you to simplify your life.

We also talk about how there are so many ways to DO YOU and finding what works and what does can be so confusing. Lauren helps us to cut through all the confusion and find what works FOR YOU.

#Truth Bomb! - There is NOT ONE WAY to do it! 

Links to other podcast episodes mentioned:

If you are a people-pleaser, consider yourself warned: today's podcast episode is designed to help you break your habit — and set yourself free. However, if you’re someone who is constantly challenging themselves, looking to become better and more “self aware” (thanks for reading, by the way), buckle up.

Have you ever been so focused on other people's needs that you have completed forgotten about caring about yourself? Yep, I have too. The good news is that this is a habit that you can break, by becoming more aware of what makes you tick. I'm sharing a bunch of ways to help you to build your awareness muscle in order to make the necessary changes.

If you are enjoying this episode I would be so grateful if you would leave me a 5 star review and share the podcast with your friends. And of course I'd love it if you would tag me on socials if you are loving what you are hearing.

Join my FREE online community for loads of inspiration, connection with like-minded women and support for your People Pleasing Recovery journey.

It is an honour to introduce my first ever guest on the Podcast, Em Gee (Aka, Emily Smith) Owner and founder of Be Think Do Coaching.

When I was thinking about who I would like to have as a guest on the Podcast it was a no brainer that Em Gee would be my first. Em Gee is the reason this podcast even exists.

She is my business coach, spiritual advisor, strategic biz expander, and BS mindset butt kicker.

Em Gee empowers her clients with unstoppable strategies for their mind and their biz to create the biggest f*cking impact that they were born for.

In today’s episode we're having an inspirational conversation about what women, who are living and working with people pleasing tendencies can do to break the habit, set healthy boundaries and start thriving in a world where their place is wherever the fuck they wanted to be. Listen out for her funny story about how feeding chickens turned out to be a valuable lesson in when being a people pleaser could've ended a long term friendship.

Em Gee's Links:

When women gather something truly magical occurs. Especially when we allow each other the space to be ourselves.

The women in my personal development book club are so wise and I just love spending time with them.

We really go deep and unpack life's idiosynchronicities. 

In todays episode hear how one member of my personal development book club inspired me to reflect on how having a deep sense of self-awareness allows us to truly trust and honour our own inner guidance system. And lead a life in which we truly are able to be the creator of our own destiny.

If you are loving what you are hearing please leave a review and share it with a friend or two who would really benefit from tuning in.

Join my FREE online community for loads of inspiration, connection with like-minded women and support for your People Pleasing Recovery journey.

How when we ASSUME it makes an ASS out of U and ME.

Today we are unpacking how making assumptions really does leave you with egg on your face ... and what you can do about it.

I'll be discussing ...

>> What are you making assumptions about?

>> The real problem with making assumptions?

>> How can you avoid making assumptions in the future?

If you are enjoying the show I'd love you to leave me a 5 star rating and share it with someone who could do with a little life changing inspiration.

Links mentioned in this Episode:

Join my FREE online community for loads of inspiration, connection with like-minded women, and support for your People-Pleasing Recovery journey.

What is stopping you from stepping into that true potential?

• Today I want to get real and raw with you and share about what has been getting in my way of stepping into my greatness.
• And it's not something that you would typically expect!
• Then I'll give you some tips on how you can step into your true potential and unleash all the incredible wisdom, skills and opportunities that are waiting for you to embrace.

Links mentioned in today’s episode

Register for the FREE Online Masterclass: Unleash Yourself from the Shackles of People Pleasing:

Here’s the thing … if you’re a busy mum, you probably want to say NO without feeling guilty!

Like, yesterday.

But finding the right way to say NO can feel a little like …. “I don’t even know what to say” without sounding mean.

You want to say NO … 

You know you need to say NO for your own sanity … 

You’ve even tried saying NO a thousand times before … 

But you just end up getting all tongue-tied … spluttering out some half-arsed feeble attempt at a NO … and feeling guilty for wanting to put yourself first.

You struggle to say No, coz you just don’t know what to say?

Having the right words to use makes it so much easier to say NO when you really need to.

In today's episode, I’ll share a few WAYS to say NO with you so you can get started.

And I'll talk about a few things you’ll need to keep in mind as you start to dish out those Noes, so you don’t quit before you become a pro! 

Get my Free PDF Scripts: 45 Ways to Say NO

Do you know what your priorities are?

Many of the women I work with really struggle with this question when I first ask them.

A) Because no one has ever asked them this question before and

B) Because they actually have no idea what is important to them.

So, if you are thinking … Umm, NO, I really don’t know what my priorities are, then today's episode is for you.

I’ll be shedding some light on WHY you DON'T KNOW what your priorities are, WHY that’s a PROBLEM and what YOU CAN DO about it.

In today's episode, I talk about your worthy-o-meter, and how you can move the dial up a notch or two so that you can start to put your needs first for a change. 

Could your self-worth do with a boost?

Is that a heck yes??

Excellent – you are in the right place …

I explain:

>> what self-worth is, 

>> why you need it, 

>> why as a people pleaser you struggle to validate your own self-worth and 

>> what you can start doing today to build your own self-worth so you can finally start putting your needs first.

Because girl – You are worth it! You have always been worthy, and you will always be worthy!

Want more?

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Today I identify some of the emotions that may come up for you when you are in People-Pleasing mode and give you some tips on what you can do if your feel any of the following emotions.

Need more personalised support?

My 1:1 coaching program is designed specifically to identify the root cause of the emotional state that is keeping you stuck, then help you to manage your emotions in a more helpful way so that you can start to unleash your true potential.

Please reach out, I’d be glad to set a clarity call for you. It will help us decide if we make a good fit to work together.

Meditation … have you heard of it?

Have you tried it?

Are you interested in learning more about it?

Do you have a Meditation Practice?

Did you start a Meditation Practice and give up?

Where are you at with Meditation? Love it or hate it?

In today’s episode, I’m going to share how Meditation has helped me to manage my people-pleasing tendencies.

I cover ...

>> What meditation is.

>> How it is related to mindfulness.

>> What are the benefits of meditation are.

>> How to start a meditation practice.

Want to know more?

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I often talk about People Pleasing being a habit that we repeatedly practice over and over again. It's little wonder the habit becomes automatic after a time!

In today's episode I introduce the practice of Mindfulness as a way to grow your awareness muscle. Because when you become aware of something, a behaviour or thought – you can take action, you can make a change, you can look for different opportunities!!

Find out ...

>> What Mindfulness is.

>> How you can use Mindfulness to break the habit of People Pleasing.

>> The benefits of creating a mindfulness practice.

>> Ways to practice being more mindful.

As always, if you enjoy todays episode and there’s someone in your community who you think would benefit from what I’ve shared … please send them the link to the podcast.

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In today’s episode I’m going to expose the No 1 Reason Why People Pleasing is a Hard Habit to Break

Even though you know your people-pleasing is not helpful and is the reason why you are so tired, overwhelmed, and exhausted all the time …

You just can’t seem to break the habit!

When I discovered this one thing, it was a complete game-changer.

I share with you why you are struggling to break the habit of people-pleasing and a couple of things you can try to kick start your recovery program.

Tips to help you remove any limiting beliefs around the need to please others.

>> Discover how curiosity and openness increase your awareness of reality.

>> Uncover that doing too much for others hurts, rather than helps, relationships.

>> Learn that knowing what you want is KEY to shaping the decisions you make and the actions you take every day to move you closer to YOUR goals.

>> Find out the steps to re-training your mind & body to respond differently.

Spread the love by sharing these episodes with those nearest and dearest who you feel would benefit.

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You have great intentions ...

You set realistic goals ...

You give yourself every opportunity to succeed...

And yet time & time again you end up quitting and feeling like a failure.

Discover why there is nothing wrong with you, you are not broken and you do not need fixing.

Find out the No. 1 thing that is sabotaging your best efforts and is the cause of your perceived failures.

Learn my simple 8 step method to help you achieve those goals and dreams once and for all and finally feel like you are winning in life.

For more targeted support?

In this episode we discuss ...

• Why people-pleasers have a hard time taking care of themselves.
• If self-care is not all about getting away and having "Time Off" from living ... what the heck is it all about then?
• The benefits of taking better care of yourself.
• What you can do to make sure you are taking better care of yourself.

Click here to join the conversation in my private Facebook Group the Calm Mums Rebellion and let me know your thoughts.

Learn the three A’s that every people-pleaser needs to know to begin the journey of recovering from people-pleasing.

Find out what:

• Awareness
• Acknowledgment
• Acceptance

Has to do with recovering from people-pleasing.

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In today’s episode, I discuss the impact that Nature & Nurture have on why we may develop people-pleasing habits.

There are sound reasons as to why this habit of people please has become a not so helpful habit and because it’s a habit, based on thoughts that you think you can change the way you think and ultimately the way you act.

To help you get to the bottom of why you behave the way you do … start by looking back at your childhood experiences and ask yourself  …

What experiences moulded you into a people-pleaser?

I'd love to know what you uncover ... 

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In today’s episode I want to share with you a super simple practice that has been a complete gamer changer for me …

It has allowed me:

• To stop judging, criticising and blaming myself
• To become more aware of the part I play in my relationships

and

• To take personal responsibility for showing up as the person I want to be

It’s so simple and yet so powerful that I am 100% positive it will be helpful for you to … so let’s dive in…

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The festive season can be a tricky time for a lot of us recovering people pleasers. 

If you feel like you have to psych yourself up for all the get-togethers and gatherings. And you have no idea how you’ll navigate another year where you have to be in the same room as your mother/ father/ brother/ sister/ uncle/ aunt/ (insert the most judgemental, toxic person in your family here).

I’ve got a few tips to share today, that will ensure that your Christmas is one you’ll remember for all the right reasons.

If you need some support around surviving the festive season … let’s chat.

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It would seem on the surface that pleasing others is a nice thing to do, right?

You feel like a good person. You are nice to everyone; you are agreeable and you’re helpful.

You keep the peace so there’s never any arguments or conflict.

And you may very well get lots of praise and appreciation, even if some people do seem to take what you do for granted.

People-pleasing is actually highly destructive to your well-being, your self-esteem, and even your relationships.

In today’s episode, I want to share with you the downside of being a people pleaser.

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