Loving Ahead Breakup Coaching

This week's episode is long overdue and it's all about learning to identify and tactfully deal with flying monkeys who have been sent to spy on you by your toxic ex and cause nothing but drama in your life post breakup.

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Being single on Valentine's Day doesn't have to be a miserable, lonely experience. In this week's episode I share a gems of wisdom from my own healing and recovery journey after experiencing a devastating breakup from the covert narcissist I was dating a few years ago. I also tap into the energy of Divine Feminine with my tarot and oracle deck to help you get further clarity on what's needed for you to continue moving forward with confidence.

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Navigating the sticky situation of dealing with a smear campaign as a high value woman. In this episode I share my personal story of becoming a high value woman on my journey of healing and recovery after experiencing a vindictive smear campaign from my toxic ex the covert narcissist.

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In this episode we will explore what does it actually mean to authentically lean into the emotional energetics of your healing and recovery journey after experiencing a toxic relationship that ended in a devastating breakup; or perhaps you are a woman who is simply having a difficult time getting over the recent breakdown of a relationship and you can't seem to get your emotions under control when you think about your ex. 

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Happy New Year Divine Lights!

Welcome to the brand new year of YOU.

Divine Feminine came through in last night's year end energy reading with nothing but LOVE; at times tough love, but nevertheless it was a warm, loving message of inspiration to get off your butt and get moving on your goals this year and beyond!

The video version of this beautiful message will be posted later this afternoon and you can also check it out on my YouTube channel. 

Wishing you all a happy new year!

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HAPPY NEW YEAR! Divine Lights 

Wishing you all a happy, blessed and abundant 2023!

This week's message has a few gems for you. Let me know below this week's episode what will be your personal POWER word for 2023!

Don't forget to tune for the year end energy reading for the collective of the Loving Ahead Community!

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Happy holidays Divine Lights!

Wishing you peaceful and blessed holiday season.

I will be posting a special energy and tarot card reading for the community of Loving Head towards the end of next week!

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With a potential recession looming I totally get it. Investing in a private coaching program or mini course may not be top priority for you right now; and can feel like an unnecessary financial risk, especially if you are not sure what to expect or if your investment will pay off. The bottom line is... What's the ROI? I completely understand your position and for that reason I've decided to extend the FREE monthly Coffee & Chat sessions that would have been held once a month in to FREE WEEKLY Coffee and Chat Sessions via Zoom - Come one, come all!

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Breakup season is an actual occurrence that usually kicks off between the months of November and December in the United States, and early October in Canada (if you're observing the Canadian Thanksgiving). Many women often report that they were blindsided by a holiday breakup and had know clue their significant other wanted out of the relationship. In todays mini coaching session I get into what's at play, and questions to ask yourself if you feel that you might be at risk for experiencing a holiday breakup.   

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In this week's episode I've decided that's it's time to discuss the sacred spiritual ritual of cord cutting and why you should consider performing this sacred ritual after experiencing a toxic relationship that ended in a devastating breakup or divorce. If you are ready to up level your healing and recovery journey in 2023 I highly suggest you listen to this episode. However, this sacred practice isn't suited for everyone so if this week's episode is not your cup of tea that's ok, take what resonates with you and leave the rest; perhaps this isn't your season for healing and recovery post breakup or divorce.

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In this week's special, bonus episode I discuss the prevalent epidemic of single mothers experiencing continued patterns of toxic relationships and society's judgement and criticism of the single mom journey; especially after experiencing a devastating breakup or divorce. This episode might trigger some of you, but I believe that's a good thing! Because it's going to force you to listen to the TRUTH from one single mom to the next who has been on the same journey of recovery and healing after experiencing a toxic relationship that ended in a devastating breakup, more than once. This is not intended to be a debate, rather an episode to encourage you to keep moving toward the life you've always desired to have for yourself even when you feel like giving up.

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In this week's episode I get into the topic of Toxic Silence. Have you heard of this term? If you haven't I'm pretty sure at some point within your toxic relationship you've encountered this manipulative tactic used by many narcissist and other toxic personality types as a way to keep you in line and controlled within that relationship. Toxic silence AKA the silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse that many targets don't realize is toxic because it's a subtle, quiet form of emotional abuse that is often employed by toxic intimate partners for various sinister reasons. Check out the episode and let me know in the poll if you've ever dealt with toxic silence and if you have, how did it make you feel?

In this week's episode I get into my personal story of despite enforcing my no contact rule I failed failed miserably at it, until I made the firm decision that to successfully heal and move on from this dark phase of my life I could no longer joke around with why I must be more serious and consistent with enforcing no contact after leaving a toxic relationship. The no contact rule is not something to joke around with or to be used for manipulative head games. Once you've made the decision to enforce no contact after experiencing being in a toxic or narcissistic abusive relationship you must be clear in your energy and take the appropriate steps to not only protect your wellbeing, but that of your children as well.

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In this live replay from my summer Facebook Group mini coaching session I briefly discuss why enforcing your no contact rule isn't a joke. There are many approaches and coaching theories on why one should or shouldn't enforce no contact during a devastating breakup or divorce, but what's really at stake if you are simply enforcing no contact for manipulative gains? Find out in this week's bonus, mini episode.

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Welcome back to season two, episode 10 of the Loving Ahead Podcast. 

This week I’ll be diving into what’s at stake if you continue to stay stuck in your breakup or divorce energy months or even years after the relationship has ended.

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Welcome back to season 2, special bonus episode #3 of the Loving Ahead Podcast.

Hi ladies! I have a special announcement and invite to share with all of you! On November 26th I will be hosting the first Loving Ahead monthly Coffee and Chat session. These 1-hour coffee chats are intended to help you navigate your healing journey post-breakup/divorce. You are invited to bring any questions you may have and need help and clarity as a result. You will also receive free, live, mini coaching sessions from me, while building a community with other like-minded women who are also on the path of healing and recovery after experiencing a devastating breakup or divorce, as a result of being in a toxic, emotionally destructive relationship.

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Welcome back to season 2, episode #9 of the Loving Ahead Podcast.

Hi! I'm back with part 4 from my book review What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing - (Connected vs. Disconnected). In this week's episode I will be continuing with chapter 9 + 10. The main highlights from this week's episode I will discuss the importance of community, and the difference in your healing journey when you are connected vs. disconnected. 

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In this live replay I discuss the issue of enforcing no contact and why your no contact rule isn't working out for you on your journey of healing and recovery after experiencing a devastating breakup or divorce.  There is a major difference between knowing what no contact is all about and actually enforcing your no contact rule in reality. As a Holistic Breakup and Spiritual Wellness Coach my approach to enforcing no contact takes into consideration the 4-major domains of your recovery and healing journey; and they include your mindset (mental), spiritual, emotional and physical.

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Welcome back to season 2, episode #7 of the Loving Ahead Podcast.

Hi! I'm back with part 3 from my book review What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing - (Journey of Healing). In this week's episode I will be continuing with chapter 7, 8 and 9. The main highlights from this week's episode I will discuss the wisdom gained from the trauma of a breakup or divorce. Trauma informed - what does that really mean in practice? Western Medicine vs. a holistic, integrated healing approach.

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Welcome back to season 2, episode #6 of the Loving Ahead Podcast.

Hi! I'm back with part 2 from my book review What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing - Trauma After a Breakup. In this week's episode I will be continuing with chapter 4, 5 and 6. The main highlights from this week's episode will discuss how we experience trauma, connecting the dots between our early childhood years and the trauma we have experienced in our adult, intimate relationships and lastly, how to begin the healing journey despite having experienced trauma that has been transmitted down to us through early childhood.

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Welcome back to season 2, episode #5 of the Loving Ahead Podcast.

This week I'm introducing a new 4-part, mini series which will be discussing the amazing book What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing. Each episode I will highlight a topic or quote from a chosen chapter to discuss and hopefully further assist you on your recovery and healing journey as you continue to process what happened to you as a result of this devastating breakup, divorce or separation.

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Welcome back to another bonus episode of the Loving Ahead Podcast. In this bonus episode Tonya discusses three reasons why your integrity will set the tone for your recovery and healing journey after experiencing a devastating breakup.

(Breakup to Level 3-Month Program) 

In this bonus episode Tonya shares the unfiltered TRUTH about your recovery and healing journey after experiencing a devastating breakup; especially if you were involved in a toxic, emotionally destructive relationship. During your healing journey post-breakup, our friends and family may have good intentions of wanting to help us and be as supportive as possible, but at some point their time, energy and patience with our healing journey may dwindle overtime and it is up to us to not rely on others to do our healing journey for us. Ultimately, it is up to us/YOU to do the necessary inner work to get to that next level of abundance, healing and transformation you desire after experiencing a devastating breakup.

Breakup to Level Up 3-Month Program

Welcome back to episode #4 of the Loving Head Podcast!

In this week's episode I will be doing a mini recap of my long awaited solo, self-care retreat post-breakup after experiencing covert narcissistic abuse. I will be getting into the five, powerful aha moments I've had while self retreating; and although I've spoken about some of them in previous episodes, the Universe blessed me with additional, sacred downloads of goodness that I want to share with you in this week's episode as you continue to recover and heal after experiencing a devastating breakup.

Breakup to Level Up 3-Month Program

Welcome back to season two, episode 3 of the Loving Ahead Podcast.

In this week’s episode, as promised, I am going to be getting into the importance of self-retreating after experiencing a devastating breakup. More specifically, I’ll be delving into what exactly is a self-retreat and why you need to allocate specific time for yourself to unplug from the hectic busyness of your life post-breakup.

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In Episode two of the Loving Ahead Podcast we are continuing with part two from the mini series on scandalous love affairs gone horribly wrong. In this episode, Tonya highlights 10 quotable moments from The Bad Vegan that every woman can learn from and apply to their own dating and breakup situation.

We're officially back with the first episode of season two.

In today's episode we are delving into 5 critical lessons women can learn from the scandalous docuseries The Tinder Swindler.

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How many times have we heard the saying "forgiveness isn't for the other person, it's for you"? But, what if your forgiveness feels rushed, influenced or inauthentic, should you still 'forgive' your toxic ex?

Welcome back to Healing From Trauma Bonding (Part Two).

Episode #10

Hey Gorgeous,

Welcome back to episode #9

In this week's episode of Loving Ahead - Breakup Coaching, I get into the topic of Trauma Bonding.

Questions I ask and attempt to clarify for you are the following:

1. What Trauma Bonding is when you are in a toxic, emotionally abusive relationship.

2. Probable reasons for why it happens to women experiencing emotional abuse while dating a narcissist

3. What's happening to you when you feel love addicted

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Hey Gorgeous,

Welcome back to episode 8.

Dearest Divine Lights,

Episode 7.

Will you choose to challenge gender inequality and domestic violence facing women within your community?

Please take a moment to listen to today's message and also take INSPIRED ACTION!

What can you do to SUPPORT women in your life and within your community who you suspect or know for a fact are experiencing abuse of any kind?

1. CALL her and let her know you are available to talk to her about anything.

2. Create safety signals between the two of you as a form of protection.

3. Create a list of support and resources online and off that are easily accessible for her to access when needed. She may not have access to the Internet.

For women experiencing emotional abuse and cannot seek help and support because of the pandemic:

1. Please be patient and compassionate towards yourself. Try to get enough rest, get out for fresh air to help clear your mind.

2. When you can try to take a moment to meditate or simply focus on something, anything that is uplifting and positive to you.

3. Reach out and get the support you DESERVE! If resources in your community are limited because of the pandemic, please reach out to a trusted friend or family member you can rely upon.

Additional Support:

United States Domestic Violence Support  (1-800) 799-7233 Ontario

Canada – Assaulted Women’s HOTLINE (1-866-863-0511)

The free guide can be downloaded via my website

Topic: Grieving a Toxic Relationship - The 6-Stages

Dearest Divine Light, Welcome back to the Light Your Divine Path Podcast - Episode 6.

This week we will be delving into the topic of Grieving a Toxic Relationship -What to Expect at Each Stage.

(S1#5) How to Move on From a Toxic Relationship with Dignity

This week we will be delving into the topic of How to Move on From a Toxic Relationship with Dignity. Knowing how to move on from a toxic relationship with dignity is something I admittedly was horrible at, and to be quite honest with you, I was a walking train wreck shortly after breaking up from the covert narcissist i was dating at the time.

In today’s episode, I would like to share with you a few tips and some genuine advice from my heart to yours that I wish someone, anyone in my life would have stepped forward to offer me as I tumbled out of that tumultuous relationship not knowing what to do with all the raw emotions and thoughts that was ruling my every action at the then time.The 6-Guided Tips + Advice include:

1. Knowing what's your WHY for wanting to leave such a relationship.

2. Having the 'final' conversation and standing in your truth.

3. Why you should implement 'no contact' and STAY 'no contact.'

4. Create sacred space.

5. Cleansing your energy regularly

6. Create your comeback plan.

BONUS: You can also read the full article on my website:

(S1 #4) 8-Warning Signs You are Dating a Toxic Person

(Previously recorded as Light Your Divine Path - fast forward past the intro, it's a bit long.)

One thing I wish I had known more about when I first started dating the covert narcissist – and this is an issue women tend to overlook or don’t pay enough attention to – are the subtle and not so subtle warning signs you are dating a toxic person. The main question I often hear women regretfully ask after leaving or breaking up from an emotionally abusive relationship is the fact that they had no clue that their ex-partner was capable of such cruelty and that to their knowledge there were no warning signs until it was too late; they were already hooked into the crazy-making, emotional roller-coaster of being in a toxic relationship, in my case this was with a covert narcissist.

The 8 warning signs covered in this week's podcast include:

1. Love Bombing

2. Ghosting

3. Dr. Jekyll vs. Mr. Hyde

4. Habitually Lying for No Reason

5. Gossiping + Slandering Past Lovers

6. Gaslighting

7. Drama, Drama, Drama

8. Depleted Energies (Emotional Vampirism)

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(S1#3) Topic: Emotional Abuse is Still Abuse

(Previously recorded as Light Your Divine Path - fast forward past the intro, it's a bit long.)

In this week’s episode, I am tackling the touchy and some may argue, controversial topic of Emotional R. Syndrome… Ever heard of it? I’ve personally experienced it, but at the time I didn’t know it was an actual syndrome as a result of being in an emotionally destructive and toxic relationship.

It’s a heavy and touchy topic, but I wouldn’t be doing my due diligence as a breakup coach if I did not openly speak up about this issue that many women who have experienced being in a toxic relationship, for example with a narcissist, have likely experienced some or all of the complications associated with the phenomena of Emotional Rape Syndrome.

PLEASE NOTE: I am not by any means diminishing the horrific act of being physically violated or sexually abused; however, there is much to dissect and contemplate regarding the serious occurrence of Emotional Rape Syndrome among women who are recovering and healing after being in a highly toxic relationship.

Here is a brief overview of today’s podcast content:

– What is Emotional R. Syndrome?

– Why do women in toxic relationships experience it?

– Common symptoms and complications of ERS

– Where to find support.

Right now, you probably feel as though you are on an emotional roller-coaster.

Whether you are actively in a toxic relationship or attempting leave a toxic relationship, the truth is it’s never a linear process. I dated a manipulative, covert narcissist for several years and by the time I left that relationship, I was a shadow of the woman I used to be.

To support you in this phase of your recovery and self-healing journey, I’ve created a FREE Emotional Detox Guide to help you begin the initial stages of emotionally detoxing from this relationship and your toxic ex-partner; which also includes a morning and evening meditation.

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[S1#2] Why You Need to Let Go of a Toxic Relationship (PART TWO)  

(Previously recorded as Light Your Divine Path - fast forward past the intro, it's a bit long.)

Check out part one from this topic on How to Let Go of A Toxic Relationship.  I highly suggest that you to listen to the first episode and then return to this one; as I covered a lot of foundational healing and recovery advice in the very first episode of this podcast.  

In part two of today’s episode, I delve a little deeper into my personal experiences of being in a toxic relationship with a covert narcissist and I also share with you additional words of advice for you to consider as you decide for yourself whether you are in fact in a toxic relationship and if you are, what you should be considering as you start the process of letting go of that relationship.  

Part two of this podcast is a condensed overview of my article Letting Go of a Toxic Relationship: What You Need to Know. If you would like to read the article for yourself, please check it out via my website, which I will link to below.  

I delve into the topics of:  

– What are the consequences of staying in a toxic relationship?  

– Do you have boundaries and why are they important?  

– Implementing the practice of going ‘no-contact’ It’s a more difficult practice than you think.  

Furthermore, to support you in this phase of your recovery and self-healing journey, I’ve created a FREE Emotional Detox Guide to help you begin the initial stages of emotionally detoxing from this relationship and your toxic ex-partner. I’ve also created two morning and evening meditations for you to listen to, as you work through the Emotional Detox Guide and implement each of the 10 tips.

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[S1#1] Moving on After a Toxic Relationship - What You Need to Know (PART ONE) 

(Previously recorded as Light Your Divine Path - fast forward past the intro, it's a bit long.)

Whether you are actively dating or are seriously considering leaving a toxic relationship, the truth is your healing journey won’t be a linear process. A few years ago I dated a manipulative, covert narcissist and by the time I left that relationship, I was a shadow of the woman I used to be; I don’t want that to happen to you. 

Your journey of healing and recovery might be completely different from mine, but it is my hope that this first episode of the Loving Ahead podcast will assist you in getting the clarity you desire to have as you embark on your healing and recovery journey after experiencing a toxic relationship that ended in a devastating breakup or divorce. 

Lastly, to support you in this phase of your recovery and self-healing I’ve created a FREE Emotional Detox Guide to help you begin the initial stages of emotionally detoxing from this relationship and your toxic ex-partner; which also includes a morning and evening meditation. In addition, you will receive access to the replay of my No Contact, No Joke! audio masterclass. 

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