Communicate with Confidence with Lilith Rose
By Lilith Rose
Communicate with Confidence with Lilith RoseNov 07, 2019
Approaching Strangers while Battling Social Anxiety
Today, I'd like to start off your week by talking about a unique experience that I had over the last couple weeks in regards to approaching strangers while dealing with a whole heap of social anxiety and just overall exhaustion. I came in contact with this guy who runs this project called Unlabel Me. The project’s focus is knowing and understanding people's labels and then seeing past those to who they actually are as people. Pretty cool project. We were doing some filming in the studio and everything went wrong. I was exhausted, all my tech was breaking, and I ended up spending almost an hour just trying to set up the shots while the interviewee was there. So, I'm dealing with all this and just barrel through to get it done. But the next day we meet up again and this guy says, “Hey, I want to do some off the cuff interviews, like with people on the street.” And this filled me with such a rush of anxiety, it almost broke me.
Belief in the False 4 Minute Mile
Did you know that the 4 minute mile isn't actually real?
136. How to Introduce Your Idea & Voice in Any Situation
We have all been in a situation where we just can't get a word in edgewise.
Dare to be Dangerous
Let's be dangerous this week.
Introducing Movement Monday
Let's get moving
135 LIVE: Speech Coaching Session with an Expert, Devin Tracy
I offered my friend, Devin Tracy, a free expert coaching session...if he's comfortable with me filming it for all of you. He said yes, and the rest is history.
In this episode, we cover stage fright, answering Q&As, and seeing each audience member as individuals changed by your words.
134. Make Plans to Prove Your Beliefs about Yourself
Drawing upon my years of public speaking to tens of thousands across the nation and coaching hundreds one-on-one, I share actionable ways to build confidence, increase your communication skills, and journey with me in the relentless pursuit of what you want most in life. Be unashamed.
133. Fighting for Confidence: What Esports Competition Changed in Me
Every had a hobby you just can't shut up about? Well, I've been involved in competitive esports for years now. And I have fundamentally changed as a competitor in life due to my growth in:
- Understanding the nature of competitive events
- Having fun during the process of learning
- Finding the grit to survive and relentlessly pursuing my win condition
132. How to Start a Podcast with Purpose and Confidence
131. Using Sales Skills to Broadcast Your Authentic Self w/ Shane Leever
130. Mastering NonProfit Success w/ Cynthia Luvlee
Now meet Cynthia:
Born and raised in San Diego, Cynthia Austin has over twenty years of experience in the non-profit and youth development fields, making it her mission to help create and launch innovative social change organizations in her hometown. After successfully launching over 7 new non-profit organizations and programs in San Diego as a consultant to founding members, Cynthia learned of the harsh realities of human trafficking in San Diego. With a passion for human rights, coupled with her vast experience, she successfully launched Shyne San Diego in June of last year with an Advisory Team including the former CEO of Nestle, Dave Hubinger; Working together, her volunteer-driven agency is on a mission to create economic pathways of success for survivors through entrepreneurship, mentorship, and grassroots leadership.
129. Your Journey Over 6 Years of Speaking
I just celebrated the 6 year anniversary of my very first speech, so I'm creating a roadmap for you to follow and accelerate your first 6 years of your speaking career.
128. Branding Your True Self
You ever look back at your past and feel like a different person? I've been reflecting on my goals and ambitions over the last 8 years or so, and I realized that there's something that has remained constant.
I was talking with my buddy about a free marketing training series we're running (if you haven't heard about it yet, just leave a comment or message me), and I wasn't feeling well physically or mentally that day. So much so that I was unable to finish a task that day that had a deadline. And in our discussion, he asked me a singular question, "When we grow this, and we have people who pay us and depend on us for help, will you be able to perform?" And that's a fair question. But after looking through my past, I realized something. That every single time my job was to help someone directly (either in my personal or professional life), I threw away every single pain I was feeling to focus on the task at hand.
And yes, this is not necessarily a good thing when it's not balanced. I've hurt myself by not focusing on my own wellbeing and so damaged my ability to help others. But this moment of reflection helped me in that moment of intense pain to put that suffering into the perspective of my whole life and see it for growth and pitfalls I've gone through since starting my career.
I still facepalm at my younger self, but at the same time, I can't help but smile at how open and good-hearted that little scrawny kid is.
127. What Bartending at a 5 Star Resort Taught Me about Entrepreneurship and Success
At one point in my life, I was wondering what I wanted to do with my life. And because of that, I was looking for a job. So, I ended up working at a bar in a 5-star resort. Working there taught me so much about diligence, customer service, and how to learn from every opportunity...good or bad.
126. How to Interview Expert Guests...BOSS Style
I was recently chatting with a friend who was starting a new interview podcast, and she wanted some tips on how to interview people. So I went ahead and made an audio guide here on how to relate, listen, and formulate the best questions possible so you can interview experts like a boss.
125. Grow Your Passion While in Quarantine
We're stuck. And I'm getting antsy. So here's what I've been doing while in quarantine to not only be productive with work but also take care of myself.
124. LIVE Coaching Call to Create Your Own PODCAST w/ Don Pham
This was recorded a while ago, but I've decided to rescue it from the archive to guide you through a coaching call with Don Pham. In this episode, I guide Don (and all of you) through how to develop the idea for your podcast, plan the episode structure, and the starter equipment that you need for professional-grade quality.
123. Your Impossible Dream (the 4 Minute Mile)
I've been obsessed with the story of the 4 Minute Mile. And I've been doing everything I can to incorporate that mindset into my life.
122. Prove It
It's been a not great journey this last month. But I've been making some changes and I'm ready to move forward.
121. An Explosive Comeback and Doing What You Love
I've been gone for a while. And there are reasons. I had to take everything out of my life and then decide what to put back in. Now I'm here, doing exactly what I'm passionate about.
120. Coaching Sales Around the World w/ Jim "Jaime" Hernandez
This has been a long time coming, but I finally have a new friend, mentor, and overall business beast on the show. Jim Hernandez has been a hustler since he was young. He started outselling seasoned staff as just a teenager at a sporting goods store and hasn't stopped moving forward since then. Now, he's the president of Strategic Business Communications and travels the world leading sales and business development trainings. And we've even started to work together in his newest venture, SoJedi. Be inspired, find practical sales tips, and learn to lead no matter what your past or background may be.Links Discussed
119. Moving, Losing Everything, and Now Rebuilding
I've recently moved to Texas! It's a big change and a lot of things went wrong. But I learned a lot from the experiences in a major way.
118. The Confidence Therapist w/ Talia Bombola
Talia Bombola, a therapist who focuses on helping youth and young adults build confidence, is joining us today to share her experiences with giving therapy and how to build confidence while building a thriving business. Listen to her podcasts, It’s Complicated, the couple’s guide podcast, as well as Between Two Clinicians.
117. 4 Steps to Making the Best Possible Apology w/ Devin Tracy
My friend and Co-Founder of Windfall Elite, Devin Tracy, joins us today. We're here to catch up on what a real entrepreneur's journey looks like, and delve into Devin's four steps to make the best apology possible.
116. How Military Leadership, Family Tragedy, and Common Rocks became a Global Phenomenon w/ Bill York
I am thrilled to have Bill York on the podcast today. He's retired Lieutenant Colonel and current founder of The Joshua York Legacy Foundation, an organization dedicated to suicide prevention through outreach, education, and improving mental healthcare accessibility. In this episode, we discuss the methods and mindset of leading a team in the military and how he created a worldwide phenomenon in the wake of the suicide of his son.
115. What Starting a Brand New Business ACTUALLY Looks Like w/ Clara Mouawad
Welcome to Season 2 of the podcast. All that means is that I'm focusing more on expert interviews and bringing on people with different viewpoints and experiences than my own. Clara is here to update us on her starting her copywriting business and the realistic steps she's taking to build a foundations and build upon that.
114. Telling an Entertaining Story about a Terrible Situation
You’ve gone through a bad situation, probably many of them. And if you’re like most people, you don’t share it with other people. But whether you want to share something with someone close to you, sell yourself, create an entertaining piece of content, or share your experiences on the stage, these are the three things to know about sharing a sad story and making it entertaining.
113. The One Action that Relieves My Anxiety and Depression
If you've listened to this podcast or know anything about me. You know that I've dealt with mental health issues since I was young. And in the recent changes and developments of this year, I've forgotten to incorporate one key habit back into my life. The habit that has built me to who I am today. The habit of smiling.
112. 4 Steps to Relieving Anxiety w/ Erica Arvanitis
Erica Arvanitis from Anxiety Erica joins me today to discuss anxiety, therapy, ANTs (Automatic Negative Thoughts), and what to do about them.
Now meet Erica:
A copywriter by day, Erica spends all her free time writing. Living in San Diego with her 11-year-old Chow mix Gussie, she was diagnosed with GAD – Generalized Anxiety Disorder – about a year and a half ago. When she’s not attending therapy, she finds so much value in writing about her journey with mental health.
On a mission to unite all the magnificent, magical souls suffering from mental illness, she truly hopes that everyone leaves her blog – Anxiety Erica – feeling just a little less alone. The more we talk about mental illness, the less stigma there is surrounding anxiety and mental health.
Erica’s website: AnxietyErica.com
Erica’s Instagram: @anxietyerica
111. Be That Light
Are you the person that people will compliment behind your back? This episode is all about how to be the light in other people's lives, but not at the cost of your own sanity and health.
110. Changing Your Life to Pursue Your Passion w/ Clara Mouawad
To start our month with some inspiring news, we go through Clara's and my recent journeys of making huge changes and focusing entirely on exactly what you want to create for your life.
109. Create a Positive Focus by Cleaning
The other day, the only reason I got out of bed on time was to clean my desk. Weird, yes. But it worked. This got me thinking about the idea of cleaning in your physical space, work life, and relationships, and how this can be a massive step forward for you to take this week.
108. What Gets You Out of Bed?
This last couple months, I've been on a mission to align what I do with who I am. And part of that is solidifying exactly what my vision for myself is. In this episode, I take you through my process for creating this and why each part drives you closer to your goals.
107. Start Achieving Your Huge Future Goals NOW
You probably have a vision and dream for your future, but are you moving towards it right now? In this episode, I go through how to passively or actively start to accomplish your huge future goals now.
106. How to be More Attractive w/ Clara Mouawad
Clara is back after a short break to talk about what attractiveness in all its facets really is and how you can develop it. Also, as a treat, we go through some Tinder bios and conversations to see if maybe we could give some advice.
105. Delivering a SHATTERING Testimony | A Speech
I recently spoke at a conference, and I liked it so much, I wanted to share it with all of you as an example of how to share your story. Nothing quite motivates an audience like an authentic transparent story told with passion.
104. You Need to Disagree with Your Friends | HDBR #2
Gallup just released a whole new set of reports, which is perfect timing for this episode of Hump Day Business Report. This week, we're looking at how we should be analyzing our conversations to see what opportunities we're losing, constantly exposing ourselves to disagreement, and using the core values of what HR should be to improve our own lives while they're still getting around to it.
103. 4 Ideas for Destroying Stress this Week
We all hate stress, right? So why do we stand dealing with it every single day? Well, you don't have to anymore because today's Monday Motivation is all about finding peace and productivity this week while building habits to last you a lifetime. Why don't we all take a breath and calm down together?
102. How to Adapt and Speak to Specific People
You're not a robot and neither are the people you speak to...hopefully. And since we're all people who exist on so many different spectrums, we like being spoken to directly. So here are my three steps to adjusting your speeches and stories to the people in front of you for maximum effectiveness.
101. Should You Spend Money on College? | HDBR #1
Welcome to the first episode of my newest show, Hump Day Business Report. Today, I'm going to guide you through some of the smaller stories of the week and discuss how we can apply them to our own lives. This week's episode includes: is college really helpful to building a successful career, can a huge company be purpose driven, and how can we do better at managing our personal finances?
100. Celebrating 6 Years of Failure and Mistakes
On this, my 100th podcast episode, I have a special celebration for you. We're taking a look at the biggest mistakes I've made throughout my life because I want to show you how badly I mess up all the time. But none of that has stopped me from recording 100 episodes and taking a huge next step in my journey.
99. Conquer Your Fears and Get Good at Sales w/ Stephen Flemings
It's time to finally welcome my former boss and now fencing buddy, Stephen Flemings, to the podcast! As a partner and head of services at Yellow Line Digital, Stephen taught me almost everything I know about creating and launching a sales campaign. Throughout this podcast, we discuss how he overcame adversity throughout many companies until he came to Yellow Line, the steps you should take when you're beginning to sell a product or service, and what he thought about me when the first time he met me.One Habit You Can Learn from Stephen
When Stephen sells you, you don't even realize you're being sold. One of the first things I noticed about him is how slowly he takes sales calls. He'll chat about their family, where they're from, the company, and everything else...all while keeping meticulous notes of their answers to reference and bring up later. Being a high energy person myself, I personally built the habit of not rushing through sales calls (especially first contact) because of him. My personal rule: breathe before answering them. They'll either keep on talking, or you just gave yourself some time to think of a good reply. Win-win.Links Discussed
98. The Moving Mindset
If you want to do anything, movement is key. And this week's Motivation Mindset is to get you off your couch or out of your own head to move forward this week. Whether it's in your personal or professional life, I've got you covered with exactly what I've been doing to build the success I've had this year.
97. Dating for Friends w/ Clara Mouawad
It's the first Saturday of the month, and you know what that means, Clara is back to discuss what actions we've taken in our life to move forward personally and professionally. This month, we're talking about accountability. How do you build relationships to get to the point where you can keep each other accountable? What do you actually do to best help each other? Let's move forward together.
96. Your Voice Matters
Welcome to the Confidence Mindset for this week where I'm drilling into this idea into you: your voice has worth. What you say matters. I had to speak to graduate psychology classes, appear on panels alongside experts with more PhDs and decades of experience than I might ever have, and personally coach hundreds to overcome their extreme challenges to find success...all as a teenager. But the one thing I've always held on to during these times is that I know myself, and I know that my words have value.
95. From Zero to 6 Million in Two Years w/ Colton Bollinger
The golf-loving CEO of Jumper Media, Colton Bollinger, joins me today to discuss how he's built a 6 million dollar digital agency in two years, overcame his own personal struggles, and the first steps you can take to follow in his footsteps.
94. "But I Don't Want to Bother Them"...Get Over It
I've got a short piece of motivation for you today. Insecurity is only growing, and it's time to build habits to combat it.
93. You Don't Want to Change
Here's a piece of hard-hitting truth for you today. Stop trying to change your whole life. Stop giving up hope that you'll ever improve and succeed. Because here's the secret, you actually don't want you whole life to change. You don't want to improve all at once. What you do want is to tweak your life slowly and gradually. So take that hidden desire that we all have and use it to it's full potential.
92. Personal Branding SPEECH at Palomar College Marketing Class
I'm so happy to share with you my talk I gave today at Palomar College to a group of eager marketing students! We discuss personal branding, confidence, marketing, sales, and so much more with the questions afterward. I hope you enjoy.
91. Using Improv Games to Increase Likability w/ Clara Mouawad
You want to talk better, right? You want people to like you and think quick on your feet. To help you accomplish this, Clara Mouawad joins us to take a different approach...improv games. Drawing on her theater background, Clara teaches us four different improv games we can all play to develop social skills and have some fun at the same time.