
The King Within
By Millar Montgomery
- Move on with your life
- See your kids more
- Improve things with your ex

The King WithinOct 15, 2018

Stuck In Your Head? Here's 3 Reasons Why + How To Stop It
Going through a breakup can challenge the internal direction of any man. Where to from here? Was everything back then BS? Am I really what she is accusing me of?
In this podcast I cover the 3 main reasons (in my experience) that have led to me being so far stuck in my head I could barely function. Although make no mistake, being stuck in your head isn't necessarily a BAD thing.. it only is when you can't function in the world properly.. anyway check it out.

How To Say Yes or No To People With Confidence, Conviction and Clarity
Today I talk about the importance of knowing exactly what you want and why you want it. Sometimes the things we want aren't even things that are truly our own - Do you ever feel like the reasons your parents wanted things are the same things you do..? Maybe that's ok but maybe there is also a part of you that doesn't like those things...
If you don't know what you want and why you want it, you will forever be a yes man who 'goes with the flow' of those around him.... and that's not a good thing.

How To Withstand 'The Barrage' of Insults When Communicating
How many times have you attempted to have a 'productive' conversation only to find that it ends up in a war of words that all hit below the belt?
It's hard as shit not to get caught up in the emotion of the situation when you have someone personally attacking you about being a crap father or loveless partner.
In this podcast I give some clarity as to why people do this and how you can improve your own communication ability.

Why It's Your RESPONSIBILITY To Disappoint People
Men, enough of this people pleasing so that we don't 'rock the boat'. It's time to shake that shit up! (if it's for your benefit).
What I'm saying is that too many of us (including myself in the past) start living life based upon WHAT WE THINK OTHER PEOPLE WANT US TO DO.
And let me tell you from experience, that leads you to a place of misery, fear and shame because you simply cannot keep everyone happy ALL THE TIME.
Instead, listen into this podcast to find out how I shifted this problem inside of my life and how you can to.

3 Hard Truths You're Avoiding That Will Unlock Life Mastery (If You Have The Courage)
Have you ever felt like other people just 'get it' in life and you somehow come off second best. Every. Single. Time?
What about feeling like others are in the 'cool' group and you're stuck on the outer looking in behind some sort of perspex barrier that prevents you from getting inside?
I felt like for AGES.. before I painstakingly worked out the 3 most important traits you need to develop to unlock this potential within you.

One Massive Mistake You're Making When Speaking To Your Ex (I Still Do This Too)
Are you constantly in battles between your ex where you'll say one thing that annoys her and then you feel the repercussions through:
- More restricted time with your kids
- The Silent Treatment
- Not being able to see your kids
It's not uncommon.
And what can happen is you end up feeling like you can't say anything at all because you're constantly walking on egg shells.
Then, you feel powerless.....then frustrated...then you blow up at her and it just makes things worse..
In this podcast I go through a few actionable items you can take TODAY to stop this cycle.

Happy Wife = NO LIFE
How many times have you had it where you've had some great idea for it to be shot down by your partners fear/uncertainty?
Where you have that seed of potential inside of you calling you somewhere or to do something but when discussing it with your partner or friend they shoot you down saying it was silly/stupid/not realistic?
This happens all the time - ESPECIALLY when you have made mistakes in the past that lead those people to lose faith/trust in your ability to DELIVER the goods on whatever thing it is you promised.
In this episode I run through how you should look at these challenges and step into your power as a man.

How To Stop Waiting For 'The Dust To Settle' To Be Happy Again
Most people need all their ducks in their EXTERNAL environment to be in line before they can be happy.. Needing the validation and permission from others and things to be happy again..
BS
Here are a few facts:
- There are always new problems arising in life
- No one is going to give you permission to be happy
In this podcast I go through how to stop this nonsense today.

Stop F*cking Lying: Why Burning Your Life To The Ground Is Important
It's important for every man to go through change or rebirth in his life.. and the reality is: It's happening whether you like it or not. The question is.. Do you want to be in control of it? Or in reaction to it?
In this podcast I go through why lying and being wilfully blind are suffocating your progress in life.
PS: It gets a bit heated at the end.. so get prepared!

Gambling, Drugs and Sex: What Are You Doing To Fill The Void?
After we go through the breakup we go from work/kids/family time as the main things that we do to then being in a situation where we're on our own a lot more.
Then what happens is we become our own worst enemy because of the constant thoughts about the future, the past and everything in between.
In this podcast I go through some practical things that you can do that will fill that void more productively...
No more gambling, sex and drugs filling your time as a band aid solution, avoiding the real shit at hand.
Enjoy.

Stop Sucking On The Tit of Life! Masculinity is More Than Obtaining Things
Buying houses, toys, clothes, money or cars... All things that we've been told to search for and will subsequently make us happy...right?
Wrong.
Masculinity is more than just obtaining shit to make ourselves feel a temporary surge of serotonin. In fact, when it comes to developing yourself, coming to the conclusion that everything MUST BE LET GO is a much better place to start.
Listen in to this rant.... it's important.

Delving Into The Subconscious: Cutting Out Neediness and Getting Your Buttons Pushed
The man you are RIGHT NOW is the tip of the ice-burg when compared to the man you COULD BE.
And the fact is that the things that are holding you back from getting from A to B are issues that YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW EXIST.
How are you meant to fix something that isn't inside of your awareness?
Brother in this podcast I go into detail about the questions you should be asking yourself to begin this process and start unlocking a power and potential inside of you that is laying dormant.
If you've ever wondered why you keep doing the same shit over and over and just wish the cycle would stop, then this is for you.
Talk soon

Climbing Out of Your Suffocating and Debilitating Rut
Soon after the breakup I went through this period of blaming others... but soon after that, I was left understanding that I needed to change something about myself but not knowing:
A) WHAT
or
B) HOW
There is no guide map and structure for pulling yourself out of that place so how can you begin to rebuild yourself and not only that, REALLY start living with the FIRE in your belly again.

Making The Transition To Single Dad, Faster and Easier By Looking Within
As men we can get so focussed on the end goal that we forget to appreciate the present OR when life events happen and that end goal is taking away from us it can leave us feeling like failures. We continue along in life just idling through without a purpose and wonder why we don't feel good anymore.
In this podcast I go through how STORIES that you have about yourself or the world are shaping how you feel (without you even knowing it) and how you can start to change them so you can lift that weight off your shoulders.
Listen in for practical exercises that you can do to find happiness again.

Your Problems Are Your Fault! ..Here's Why (And How To Fix Them)
Life's easy when you're blaming others. Life's A LOT harder when you're putting your own actions under the microscope - and for good reason.
The problems that are showing up in your life today are a reflection of the man that you have been up until this point. Period. If you want change, start owning them.
In today's podcast I go through why this is the case and how it practically applies to your life. Listen till the end to find an exercise that you can do to shift your perspective on the problems you have at the moment as well.

Stop Protecting Your Loved Ones From Pain
So often us men feel like we have to bare the brunt of all the pain, problems and obstacles in not only our own lives but also the lives of our children, partners, friends and family. Well, I'm here to tell you, you don't have to go in it alone.
Your family wants to go on a JOURNEY with you. So open that option up to them. LIFE IS PAIN, so show them how to deal with it best by DOING it yourself. Listen in to find out how you can apply this inside of your own life.

Am I A Man Basher, Blamer or Hater?
In today's episode I talk about 'man blaming' off the back of some videos I've posted recently. There are some comments in there about BLAMING men and not women...am I a man basher? Listen in to find out my thoughts on this issue.

How To Trust People Again When You've Been Burnt
How can you trust again after someone burns you? Listen in to find out.

Man Up With Millar is No More... Here's Why.
I cover:
- How to look at change in your life so it happens smoothly.
- Why 'manning up' is BS

Beginning The Journey Means Accepting That You're Shit
See, I was judging the shit out of myself for where I was and not appreciating that I was learning something new! So in this podcast I'm literally at home after I've been dancing, having a red, and getting real, raw and honest about the whole experience AND how it relates to where you're at right now as a single dad.

Walking Through The Door of Uncertainty
Going through a breakup with the mother of your kids can leave you feeling lost and uncertain....in more ways than one.
Will I see my kids again? Why did this happen? Who the FUCK am I?
If there's one thing for sure it's that this breakup has given you an opportunity. The door is open for you to grow and learn from this.. but are you ready......Really?
Listen in.

If You Really Love Her You'll Let Her Go
Is this because you 'love' them or because you 'need' them?
When the mother of your kids breaks up with you, many men will struggle to let go of her because of some kind of ownership or possession they believe they still have... but this is not love.
Listen in to find out how you can make this distinction for yourself.
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Life Without Pain is BS. [Personal Story]
I talk about:
- How there is always going to be pain in life
- How you can get through the pain quicker
- How you can pull out the lessons and principles in life that will give you happiness and fulfilment for longer.

The Warning Signs Men Don't Know About
In this podcast I cover:
- The warning signs that I saw which told me I wasn't happy
- What most men do to lose themselves whilst in a relationship
- The identity shift you need to make to find yourself again.

Robert Kandell on Narcissists, Parenting and Improving Communication
Here we talk about:
- Robert's coparenting situation and the learnings he's had as a result
- How to deal with narcissists!
- How you can start improving your communication today

Finding Your Purpose And Why You Should Go On

Sean Whalen On Owning Your Sh*t To Generate POWER
In this podcast we cover:
- How Sean went from wanting his ex DEAD to now having a great co-parenting relationship
- His rise from being suicidal and the lessons he took away from those moments
- The shift in mindset you must make if you want to live an empowered life again

How to Balance Your Masculine and Feminine
We are not taught how to be still, reflect, dig deep into ourselves and go on the journey within.
Work, hustle, grind, sex, sleep, repeat.
Today I talk about how to BALANCE your masculine and feminine. We all have both within us, but if left untapped and not practiced we sell ourselves short. If you struggle to connect to the HERE and NOW or struggle to connect to your emotions (other than anger) then this is for you.
Tune in!

Interview w Jeff Scult on Re-Connecting To Your Gold
After going through some big life events Jeff changed his tune on life, choosing to let go of the trauma and pivot towards a new direction.
In this podcast we cover:
- Jeff's experience with breaking up with a long term partner who had a child and how he was able to rebuild
- The shift you need to make to GIVE more love in a sustainable way
- How you can shift focus away from the past and future and into the NOW
- How to get past your grudges, trauma and roadblocks in your life
Listen to the end for a special gift for all listeners...
Check out www.onegoldenthread.com

The 4 Agreements For Every Man
In this podcast I go through the '4 Agreements' for any man to live his life by. But simply listening to these is not enough... you must embody them.
It takes consistency and constant self-examination. If you can truly take these on board your life will improve - I guarantee it.

What If I NEVER Meet Another Woman Again?
In this podcast I talk about how to shift your mindset away from this and into empowerment where YOU are the prize... Listen in...

Should You REALLY Get Back With The Mother of Your Kids?
I talk about a few fundamental concepts to take into account when doing this.

Are You Your Own Worst Enemy?
The mother of our kids... Parents... The court system..
But the reality is that behind closed doors when we're all alone, the biggest battle of all is within ourselves!
WE are our own worst enemy with the things we think, say or do to ourselves.
Tune in to find out how to get through this.

Have You Failed Your Kids?
Well, in this podcast I get clear on when you have and when you haven't failed...

The Four 'Hats' of Being In A Relationship...Life Changing
Money, Intimacy, friendship, children, leading... Shit is hard to manage.
Listen into this podcast about how to manage all these hats

Two Secrets to a 60 Year Long Marriage
I asked them what was the key to having a long marriage while I was overseas visiting them in Scotland. Their answers were great!

Stop The Cycle of Negative Thoughts With This Strategy
And when it comes to breaking through these spiralling dark thoughts, there is one strategy that you must use, which most don't...This, without a doubt got me through dark times after the breakup and also most recently while I was overseas.

Women Want To Know What You Want! Here's How to Show Them
Check out this episode to understand why this is the case and how you can smash through this with a rock solid identity as a man.

When Is The Right Time To Ask For Help?
So, why don't we? and when is the right time to ask for it?
In this podcast I go through what you need to know to stop this from happening.

Being Able to Heal Yourself and Move On With Life
There is one thing that most people miss when trying to move on with life which is what I cover in this podcast. If you are struggling with moving on and find that constant little reminders of the hurt you once had keep raising their head...then listen in!

When is it Time to Surrender The Fight?
When is it time to give this up... Is there ever a good time?
In this podcast I cover:
- The key distinction you need to make in being able to surrender and when to not
- The battle you are going to lose EVERY time if you don't listen
- How you can make life a lot easier for yourself by surrendering every time

Your World Is Your Mirror
This might be a bit hard to hear, but its true.
So if this is the case you must ask yourself, WHO do I have to become in order to have the life that I want?
In this podcast I cover:
- How to shift your perspective to take on the power in your life
- The reasons why YOU must be the one to change FIRST

Unlock Incredible Motivation With These Tools
How can you bridge the gap when A) the target seems so far away and B) you have to deal with a constant barrage of things from your ex, work and life.
I cover:
- The #1 misconception people have when it comes to 'getting motivated'
- The strategy I get all of my clients to go through when struggling to get motivated

How To Deal With Emotional Flare Ups With Women
Think about what repeatedly withdrawing from disagreements communicates to women..
In this podcast I cover:
- A strategy that you can use to deal with emotional flare ups when they happen
- The message that you're communicating when you won't engage in conversation
- The legacy that you're leaving behind as a result of being this kind of man

A World of Disempowered Men
Deep into why men are the most disempowered they have ever been and why I believe it has gotten to this point.
You will discover:
- How to pull yourself out of this and into empowerment
- How to live a more authentic life so you can be a better father.

A Powerful Technique To Improving Communication With Your Ex
- A powerful technique that I take all of my clients through when improving this area
- Where your currently falling down when trying to communicate

How Your Ego Is Holding You Back From POWER
If there's one thing for sure its that if you are ruled by your ego communication with the mother of your kids will be difficult and you will feel entitled and expectant of things in your life..
The ego is there to protect us but we are not our EGOs!
In this podcast I cover:
- Some warning signs to look out for when your ego comes out
- How your ego is suffocating your own growth
- The importance of letting the old you DIE in order to grow

Is Fear Ruling The Decisions You Make? Get On Purpose TODAY!
I cover:
- How you're currently living life on everyone else's terms and it will leave you disempowered and scared
- How you can shift your perspective on failure to empower yourself to take risky action
- How you can use your purpose and drive to improve your relationship with yourself and mother of your kids

Vulnerability VS Insecurity
In todays podcast I cover:
- The framework you need to making sure this doesn't happen
- What women are really saying when they say 'be more open to me'
- How you've gone about it in the past was 'too little, too late'

Stop Pushing Women Away With Your Neediness
'Its too much', 'Your over the top', 'I feel like you want me more than I want you'??
One thing that women HATE is neediness.. but why does this happen to men? Why do we get stuck in that trap of constantly chasing our OWN partner?
Listen in!