Live Long Lead Well

2 Timothy 1:7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

2 Cor 5:17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

"Why many high achievers eventually self sabotage"

Doing the work thar matters before walking out a calling:

1. Ridding oneself of EGO

2. Developing an orientation of servitude

3. Preparing your soul for war

4. Dirty work of deliverance

5.Strengthening your relationships (marriage)

6. Refining your orientation: CHRIST IS LIFE

7. Entering His rest before you work: eliminating the rat race / losing anxiety

8. Developing a winning routine (Rhythm)

9. Circle of accountability

10. Habit of testing your motives

Marriage conference w/ Mark & Lisa Jones

"Cultivating a drive to constantly offer an improving version of yourself"

Philippians 3:12

Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.

LIFE IS NOT GOING TO GET EASIER, YOU HAVE TO GET BETTER

Critical SOCIAL SKILLS for Effective Leadership

James 1:19 AMP

Understand this, my beloved brothers and sisters. Let everyone be quick to hear [be a careful, thoughtful listener], slow to speak [a speaker of carefully chosen words and], slow to anger [patient, reflective, forgiving];

Ephesians 4:32 KJV

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.

1 Thess 5:13

Now also we beseech you, brethren, get to know those who labor among you [recognize them for what they are, acknowledge and appreciate and respect them all]—your leaders who are over you in the Lord and those who warn and kindly reprove and exhort you.

Matt 18:15 “If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back.

Matthew 6:33

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

2 Cor 11:26 In journeyings often, in perils of waters, in perils of robbers, in perils by mine own countrymen, in perils by the heathen, in perils in the city, in perils in the wilderness, in perils in the sea, in perils among false brethren;

Jude 1:4 For certain men have crept in among you unnoticed—ungodly ones who were designated long ago for condemnation. They turn the grace of our God into a license for immorality, and they deny our only Master and Lord, Jesus Christ.

Job 1:10  “Have you not put a hedge around him and his household and everything he has? You have blessed the work of his hands, so that his flocks and herds are spread throughout the land.

Gal 5:16

This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.

2 Corinthians 11:26-28

26 I have been constantly on the move. I have been in danger from rivers, in danger from bandits, in danger from my fellow Jews, in danger from Gentiles; in danger in the city, in danger in the country, in danger at sea; and in danger from false believers. 27 I have labored and toiled and have often gone without sleep; I have known hunger and thirst and have often gone without food; I have been cold and naked. 28 Besides everything else, I face daily the pressure of my concern for all the churches.

What does it cost to lead effectively?

Keys for making the transition from idea to implementing your vision.

Psalm 23

1 The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.

2 He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.

3 He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.

4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.

Psalm 127:1

Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.

Psalm 144:15

Happy are the people who are in such a state; Happy are the people whose God is the LORD!

Joel 2:28-29

28 “And afterward, I will pour out my Spirit on all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy, your old men will dream dreams, your young men will see visions.

29 Even on my servants, both men and women, I will pour out my Spirit in those days.

Financial well being training conference.

Isaiah 26:3

You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.

SEVEN THINGS THAT GOD WANTS FROM END TIME PROPHETS

• ATTENTION: resist the urge to be chronically distracted. Especially the distraction of constantly looking for other confirming voices. You either know God's voice or you don't.

• AUDIENCE: more time in God's presence, with a greater emphasis upon listening.

• AWARENESS: being knowledgeable and mindful of where we are on God's prophetic time table be mindful of the unfolding of events and their implications to warn the church.

• ACTIVATION: All prophets on deck, No time for sitting back being on mute. Know what God is saying through you and know the proper audience for the word he gives.

• AUTHENTICITY: resist the urge to mimic popular prophets or even familiar prophets.

• AGILITY: God is going to send you into other arenas, and you must be willing and able to shift quickly and act decisively.

• AUDACITY: You must address any self-esteem issues which would cause you to nullify the directive of the Lord to speak boldly and to act decisively with prophetic instructions.

Who I am and what I do are not the same! In this lesson you will learn how to operate with a clear sense of identity.

2 Tim 2:24

A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people.

Malachi 3:6 For I am the Lord, I change not; therefore ye sons of Jacob are not consumed.

Hebrews 13:8 Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.

The effect of consistency upon those who follow your lead:

•  Trust
• Security

• Confidence
• Hope

Matthew 14:27 And when Peter was come down out of the ship, he walked on the water, to go to Jesus. But when he saw the wind boisterous, he was afraid; and beginning to sink, he cried, saying, Lord, save me.

Matt 4:4 Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds. out of the mouth of God.

John 15:8 Herein is my Father glorified, that ye bear much fruit; so shall ye be my disciples.

• Creating balance

• Sharing the assignment
• Structuring for success
• Preparing for purchasing

Eph 4:15

Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.

PRINCIPLES FOR ESTABLISHING RIGHT RELATIONSHIPS

Matthew 12:33

Either make the tree good, and his fruit good; or else make the tree corrupt, and his fruit corrupt: for the tree is known by his fruit.

1. Your relationships will never be better than your ABILITY to relate.

• Many desire what they do not have the ability to co- create.

•  You must develop relational skill: communication, resolution, reasoning, coping, negotiating.

 2. Never compare your relationship to anyone else’s.

 3. Relationships are work and always require process, if you despise process, you cannot grow together.

4. Couples who pray together might not stay together:

• You must change together / evolve / plan together/ move together: process

 5. Do you want to be RIGHT more than you want to be ONE?

6. You must be developed in LONG-SUFFERING: the fruit of accommodation.

 7. Focus on personal growth and development: constantly offering a better version of yourself to your marriage.

8. It's not your job to FIX anyone: you have one person to keep right with God.

9. Assess your definition of “right relationship” - manage your expectations .

 10. Avoid having double standards (toilet seat).

Luke 8:1 After this, Jesus traveled from one city and village to another. He spread the Good News about God’s kingdom. The twelve apostles were with him. 2 Also, some women were with him. They had been cured from evil spirits and various illnesses. These women were Mary, also called Magdalene, from whom seven demons had gone out; 3 Joanna, whose husband Chusa was Herod’s administrator; Susanna; and many other women. They provided financial support for Jesus and his disciples.

Proverbs 25:28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.

SELF REGULATION

Self-regulation is the ability to understand and manage your behaviour and your reactions to the feelings of others, and things happening around you. It includes being able to: regulate reactions to strong emotions like frustration, excitement, anger and embarrassment. calm down after something exciting or upsetting. focus on a task.

 Result: greater productivity

SELF SOOTHING

any behavior an individual uses in order to regulate their emotional state by themselves.

Result: inner - peace

Not dragging others into your inability to sort & file

PROV 17:9 Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.

SELF GOVERNANCE

Self-government, or self-rule is the ability of a person or group to exercise all necessary functions of regulation without intervention from an external authority.

Result: you quit interrupting the establishment with petty stuff

SELF MASTERY

When you have developed self-mastery, you have the ability to control yourself in all situations, and you move forward consciously and steadily towards your goals. You know your purpose, andyou have the self-discipline needed to do things in a deliberate, focused, and honorable way.

Definition: Temperament refers to personality traits that determine how someone reacts to the world

Ephesians 4:15

Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.

Habakkuk 2:1-2 

I will stand upon my watch, and set me upon the tower, and will watch to see what he will say unto me, and what I shall answer when I am reproved. And the LORD answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it.

Proverbs 31:10-12 

Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, So that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil All the days of her life.

Hebrews 10:35-36

So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded.

You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised.

"Ensuring Your Ongoing Personal Development"

1 Corinthians 13:13 And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.