
Matters of Influence
By Debbie Frapp

Matters of InfluenceJul 04, 2023

Becoming More Matters
Are you longing for more beyond your current circumstances?To have more? Do more? Be more? Give more?
These vital questions form the heart of 'Becoming More', a game changing exploration by Dianna Kokoszka, an award-winning Entrepreneur, former CEO and business leader.
In this episode we explore the author of "Becoming More" Dianna Kokoszka how her book came about and what readers can expect from the book.

Resilience & Grit Matters
The definition for resilience reads the capacity to withstand or to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness. The ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape. Grit is defined as courage and resolve; strength of character. Those definition describe our guest Matt "Brutal" Gruidl as he shares his story of resilience and how it has lead him to success in his life.
Matt currently serves as the co-leader for Keller Williams Realty Internationals KW Military Community.

Generational Diversity Matters
Tim Elmore is a Leadership and Next Generation Expert. He is the founder and CEO of Growing Leaders. His work grew out of 20 years of working along side Dr. John Maxwell. Dr Elmore has appeared in the Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today, USA Today, Washington Post and CNN Headline News. He is author of 35 books and in this podcast we discuss why the topic of generational diversity is important in our professional and personal lives.
"A New Kind of Diversity: Making the Different Generations on Your Team a Competitive Advantage" by Dr. Tim Elmore
Website to Order – www.newdiversitybook.com
Website Includes Bonus Content from Tim and FREE Generational Intelligence Assessment

Championing Others Matters
In this episode we interview Miss Val on her passion for creating champions in life and not just in the gym. See below for a complete bio and to purchase her book.
Valorie Kondos Field, aka Miss Val, as she’s affectionately known by the scores of champion gymnasts she’s coached over her career—has no background in gymnastics. She never tumbled, flipped, or played any type of organized sport. And yet she became a legendary, hall of fame coach, through curiosity, creativity, attention to detail, and unwavering care for the overall well-being of her athletes.
Head coach of the seven-time NCAA Champion, 22-time Regional and 18-time Pac-12 Champion UCLA Women’s Gymnastics team, Miss Val was inducted into the UCLA Athletic Hall of Fame in 2010. The four-time “National Coach of the Year” was recently named “West Region Coach” of the Year, Pac-12 Coach of the Year, and “Coach of the Century” for her solid track record as a preeminent coach.
Crediting her mentor, legendary basketball coach John Wooden, and the Olympians and athletes with whom she’s worked, Miss Val’s success is due to her extraordinary leadership and mentorship of young student-athletes, and the way in which she uses gymnastics as an avenue through which to teach valuable life lessons.
In her book, LIFE IS SHORT, DON’T WAIT TO DANCE, Miss Val shares personal stories, anecdotes and lessons learned throughout the 37-year career of a dancer/choreographer turned athletic coach. She shares stories about the Olympians and athletes with whom she’s worked, explains how her diagnosis with breast cancer actually turned into one of the best years of her life, and expounds on how she shaped her UCLA Gymnastics program as a life skills class. For Miss Val, it’s not about winning and losing, it’s about choreographing your life< and owning the choices you make.
Miss Val is a dynamic speaker and choreographer. She lights up a crowd with her enthusiasm and zest for life, and mesmerizes audiences with her spectacular ability to entertain. And, as a newly retired head coach, she’s ready to spread her joy even further.

MAGIC Matters - It's a Magical Interview
In our first episode for season five you are bringing you a Magical interview with Alyce Dailey, coach, mom and author. To learn more about Alyce and the community of MAGIC MOM's you can join the her group on FB.
To get your copy of Alyce's book The Magic Mom click here .

Stories Matter with Nancy Ormon
In the episode we are starting a series called Stories Matter in which we will be bringing you stories of individuals with a powerful message. We all have a story and that story needs to be shared and told. Too often we don't really see the courage, genius or power of our own story. This episode is the story of Nancy Ormon with a message of hope. We encourage you to go deeper with Nancy and her story with her book "Stronger than I Thought" which is available on amazon and go to her website for a workbook companion. www.nancyormon.com

Depleted Matters
In this episode Terrie and I are discussing how the impact of the last two years through an extended, world wide traumatic time has had on us as leaders. We hope this episode will create the awareness on how we are not just tired, we are depleted and so are our people. As a result we need to lean in and evaluate where we are in all areas of our life. What values may have shifted and what do we need to be replenished.

Wealth Building Matters
SPECIAL Edition of MOI with guest Linda McKissack. Terrie interviews Linda on the topic of Wealth Building. See more on Linda at her website https://lindamckissack.com/

OUT OF THE VAULT - Unstoppable Matters
We are brining out the Unstoppable Matters interview with Cheiri Lowry from the vault for new reasons. Being Unstoppable is an on-going journey and during this season of so much change and uncertainty we need to continue to be Unstoppable. The second reason is Cheiri has release now her third book which is another children book. Check it out all of Cheiri's books on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/s?k=cheiri+lowry&i=stripbooks&crid=Y9NGTYY6TVC&sprefix=cheiri+%2Cstripbooks%2C420&ref=nb_sb_ss_c_2_7_ts-doa-p

Values Matter
In this episode we define values, the impact they have on our lives and how are goals should be in alignment and helps us achieve our values.
We lay out some simple tasks to help you identify if you goals are in alignment with your true self and values.

Goal Patterns Matter
Are you suffering from goal fatigue? We discuss what goal fatigue, the signs and symptoms of goal fatigue and the cycle's an organization or team goes through and how goals change depending on which phase or cycle your team or organization is in.

Words Matter
In this kick off to the New Year 2022; we share a practice on selecting a word for the year.

The Danger Zone Matters
Is your business at risk of being sued? In the episode we talk with Brett Trembly from Miami that walks us through the 5 Danger Zones that every business owner, small or large needs to explore to identify your exposure. One Ill-advised lawsuit can put everything at risk.
You can learn more about Brett and his law firm HERE
To order his book The Danger Zone

Being Unstoppable Matters
What causes some people to rise to meteoric levels of success fueled by unstoppable peak performance, passion, phenomenal relationships and sustain that success over a lifetime? With our special guest Cheiri Lowry, Professional Coach, Mentor, Rock Star and author, we explore some the 8 key foundations to being unstoppable.
You can order Cheiri's book You Are Unstoppable here.

Boundaries Still Matter (Boundaries 2.0)
At the request of our listeners, we dig deeper on the topic of boundaries. Specifically we dig into the how boundaries help you and what not having boundaries can do.

Money Matters
Are you prisoner to consumerism? Do you wear your money or does your money work for you? We had the pleasure of interviewing friend, leader and author of "Down Home Money" a Best Seller on the topic of financial freedom. You don't want to miss the nuggets on this episode. You'll learn simple steps towards financial freedom and having a life by design. Make sure you order the book and/or checkout the tools from the Down Home Money website.
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website: https://downhomemoney.com/ Click for video's Down Home Money Youtube Channel

Boundaries Matter
Boundaries while a simple concept and yet it's not easy. We will either set up boundaries purposely or they will be done by default and remember we teach people how to treat us. Remember, boundaries are good and necessary for healthy relationships. Boundaries let people know what behaviors make you want to be around them and what behaviors are simply not acceptable to you. Boundaries let other people know how you expect to be treated.

Evoking Awareness Matters
Evoke - calling forth. How can we can call forth your awareness that leads to understanding and then change. We discuss what the awareness looks like for us and give you a few strategies on how and why you would want to create for yourself

Healing Matters
The 2020 has left many if not all of us experiencing some degree of trauma. Specifically if you are in any kind of leadership it is vital that you raise your awareness for yourself and the leads others. In this episode we define trauma and outline how to identify if you have or are experiencing a trauma. We will give you steps and strategies in how to heal yourself and then how to be available and assist others in their healing.

Reflection Matters
We reflect on the year of 2020 and how the process of reflecting moves us forward. Great lessons for learning and growth.

Vision Matters
In this episode we address the reality of what happens with your vision when things out of your control shift your vision. How do you reset, recreate yourself and the vision you have for yourself and in leadership.

Essence Matters
Your essence is fully you. Your potential, your potency, is your flavor of life and it matters in everything you do. In this episode we explore the concept of essence and how it can impact your satisfaction in your life and your career.

Embracing Empathy Matters
As we continue to navigate through the Covid 19 crisis we explore the surviving vs thriving THINKING and ways to recognize and move through this as a leader. Resources mentioned in this episode: "Fear is Fuel" by Patrick Sweeney and "The Motive" by Patrick Lencioni.

Understanding Behavior in Crisis Matters

Health at Home Matters
With Stay at Home Orders in place many are struggling not being able to workout or exercise. Maintaining our movement and health is more important than ever to keep our energy and immune system strong. In this episode we visit with Certified Personal Trainer Tara Hill. Tara shares her own background with the discipline of health and exercise and practical tips to keep our health and exercise going! For more information on Tara and her personal trainer programs you can reach her by email at tehill16@gmail.com and let her know you heard about her from the Matters of Influence podcast.

Understanding Energy Matters
In this episode we give an explanation of our human energy and how to understand it more and begin to be aware of our energy and how we can use it. Special guest my dog Max made an appearance - it was a timely appearance so we left it in. Again I would like to thank those in my life that have helped me on my path in understanding my energy, Nina Rowen Heller, my personal coach for over 7 years (Learn more about Nina) and Dr. Matt James (learn more about Dr. Matt and Empowerment Partnership Here).
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Positive Mindsets Matter
In this episode we explore the daily habit and practice of creating a positive mindset. I want to acknowledge on of my teachers and mentors Dr. Matt James for teaching me this practice. To learn more on Dr. Matt James you can go to www.nlp.com

Financial Coaching Matters
Join us and our SPECIAL guest Randy Crowell with ACT Financial Services as he talks about the strategies he uses in coaching his clients in the area of financial.
If you'd like to learn more about Randy, his models and how you can grow your financial well being. You can visit www.act-4-life.com or call his office at (918)664-0081.

The Journey Matters
Special Guest - Dave Jenks joins us for an authentic and real conversation about his journey and the lessons learned. You can learn more about Dave at www.DaveJenks.com.
What is your journey currently teaching you?

Purpose Matters
What do you want to be known for? Is the question not only for your own life - it's one for your business! Take a listen as we discuss this concept and why it's important.

What's Next Matters
Listen as we talk about how setting goals and achieving goals can be two different things.

Emotions Do Matter
What are your emotion's telling you? Are you listening?

Stillness Matters
In this episode we explore the need for more silence and stillness in our lives verses the consumption fatigue many of use find ourselves in. Click below for show notes.

Generations Matter
Did you know that in our workforce - it's the first time we have 4 (sometimes) 5 generations? What makes this complicated are the needs are different - what makes it exciting is how we can learn so much more and get their faster when we take advantage of it. Listen as I interview Terrie on the topic - and she's got some great references on it as well!
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Accountability Matters
In this episode we discuss how our definition of accountability impacts our context and how we use accountability. We will explore the ways we attempt to hold others accountable that only provide short term results. Listen in as Terrie interviews Debbie on this topic.

Catalyst Matters
In the episode we are sharing some of our many insights and take aways from an annual leadership conference called: Catalyst Leader. Who we are as a leader impact every relationship in our lives.

Blindspots & Leadership Matters
In the episode we explore blindspots - what are they, the impact they have us on in leadership, some common leadership blindspots and some strategies to identify yours.

SPECIAL Interview with Brandi Taylor
Brandi is a mom with a passion of supporting the military and their families. Listen is how she followed her heart in launching a business, Rocking Cactus Designs - Faith Driven Military Pride Wear. She's a humble servant, mom and business owner.
You can visit Brandi's website at http://Rockingcactusdesigns.com

Energy Matters
In the episode we explore the difference types of energy and their impact on our lives.

CHANGE Matters
We experience change all the time and once the change occurs we then move into transitions. In this episode we will address the difference between change and transition; the 3 phases of transition and how to strategies on handling change and transition.

Creating Matters
In this episode we will explore the work of Dr. Stephen Karpman's work on the Drama Triangle and David Emerald's work on the opposite of that triangle. We explore how this context filter produces the outcomes and results of our life. In the end, we can shift our context and get more of the things we say we want in our lives.

Emotions Matters
In this episode we explore the world of emotions. We all have them and yet we can get so much more information from our emotions if we reflect. We will cover 6 of the painful emotions and outline what we can learn from them to help us get more of what we want.

Vulnerability Matters
"Life is not about how much you can pack into your days - it's about the impact you can make with your days." - Valorie Burton.
In this episode we will explore the ways we are vulnerable in how we use our time. Our greatest teacher and key area of vulnerabilities is our non-renewable resource of time.

Letting Go Matters
In our last episode on Transparency we talked about letting go. This episode explore letting go as leaders through delegation.

Matters of Transparency
As leaders one key to connection with our people is transparency. In the episode we look at what transparency is and what benefit happens as a result.

Matters of Organizational Cycles
Just as we experience life cycles, so does your team or organization. We'll identify the various cycles (stages), symptoms and strategies to grow and identify your current cycle.

Introduction of your Hosts and the Matters of Influence Podcast
We will recording our first episode in the coming weeks. In the meantime please feel free to visit our Blog Site. www.mattersofinfluence.com.
Here you can learn more about each of the hosts and enjoy our blog posts.