Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself.
By Matthew Handel
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Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself. May 07, 2023
Protect Your Energy
Your Story Matters
My Manila Folder
You Are Not A Burden
Showing Love to the Present
Everyone Is Carrying Something, Be Kind
We all have things we "carry" around with us. In our minds and hearts. Sometimes in life, we carry multiple things. We meet people and often have no idea what they are going through. That's where kindness can come into play. Kindness is free and I've never regretted being kind. Episode 161 dives deeper into into the idea of helping people along their "stepping stones".
with love,
Matthew
Having Grace and Setting Boundaries
The two ideas in this episode are both things I want to continue to get better at. Let's talk about each one and what they can mean to us. As always,
with love,
Matthew
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Not Being Grateful for Pain and Suffering
I recently listened to an episode of the On Purpose podcast hosted by Jay Shetty. Jay was talking with Trevor Noah and they discussed the idea of not being grateful for the pain and suffering we go through. Instead, they say to be grateful for the qualities that help us push through those experiences. This was something that instantly clicked in my brain and I wanted to share my thoughts about it with y'all.
Let me know what you think!
with love,
Matthew
Why Active Listening Matters
Applying Pressure On Yourself
Making decisions in your life is already hard enough. When you add pressure and guilt into the mix then it can feel completely overwhelming. For episode 158, I wanted to talk through a recent decision I made and how I prioritized removing any guilt or pressure on myself to make the "right" decision.
As always,
with love,
Matthew
Being Intentional About Pausing
I recently discovered that there is still so much power when I pause and take time to reflect. Of course, a new year is seen as a great time to do this, but I'm advocating for more pauses, not just for myself, but for you too my friend. It feels so good to release an episode again and I appreciate your patience and grace with me. I love y'all!
With love,
Matthew
The Power of Being Vulnerable
It feels like a lot of my life recently has been led by being vulnerable. It got me thinking. How has being vulnerable positively impacted my life, relationships, and my ability to show up as my authentic self? Being vulnerable is something I've leaned into the past couple of years and I'm continuing to practice it every day. For myself and the people I love. I hope you enjoy episode 156.
with love,
Matthew
Growing Sideways (Thank you, Noah Kahan)
Episode 155 happened because I felt recharged. My cup felt like it was refilled. Do you know what I mean? It felt so good to sit down and record another episode. I had some things I needed to let out and I hope you find value in them. I cannot wait until we do this again.
with love,
Matthew
Your 80th Birthday
It can be a crazy thing to try to think about -- your 80th birthday. Why would we even think about that? Take a listen to episode 154 and see what you think about this idea. I hope you enjoy it!
with love,
Matthew
Talking Self-Compassion with Magnus
The internet can be a really beautiful tool sometimes. I was scrolling through TikTok one day and I saw someone named Magnus who made really positive videos. In particular, his videos where he asked strangers one thing they loved about themselves really drew me in. I was immediately inspired and wanted to try this idea on my own. Fast forward a few weeks and Magnus and I are sitting down to record this podcast episode. There is a lot to be said about self-love and being compassionate towards ourselves. This is something Magnus and I firmly believe is really important. We talked about this, and more, in episode 153. I hope you enjoy it!
Please go follow Magnus, he's a great human doing really positive things. You can follow him at the links below:
Magnus on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@magnusdavies?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc
Magnus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/magnus.davies/
Magnus on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCA2VfV4CQ6axRaxGSqjFoZA
with love,
Matthew
Your Timeline
Do we even have timelines in our lives? Throughout episode 152 I think I came to a conclusion on this question. Let's talk about it.
with love,
Matthew
June Is A Beautiful Month
In episode 151, I wanted to talk about some things happening in June. They are important and special to me, and I think you can find value in them too. Let's chat about it, my friends.
with love,
Matthew
mental health resources:
American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP): https://afsp.org/
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): https://www.nami.org/Home
Show Up For Yourself
When we change who we are we lose that authenticity that is awesome about each of us. In episode 150 let's talk about how we can continue to show up for ourselves.
with love,
Matthew
Taking Rejection in Stride
Rejection hurts. It just does. The doubt may start to linger each day when we get rejected in our life. Let's talk about taking that rejection in stride and not doubting ourselves through the process.
with love,
Matthew
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Celebrating Ourselves
Celebrating yourself can feel uncomfortable sometimes. That's how I feel at least. What happens when we decide to celebrate ourselves more often? Let's talk about it.
with love,
Matthew
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Remembering to Pause
In life, it can be easy to think about what already happened (our past) and what is yet to happen (our future). Somewhere in between lies the opportunity to pause and take a break. Taking a break does not make you weird, lazy, unproductive or anything else you might hear from others or tell yourself. Taking a pause in life is a form of self-love. Let's remember the pause.
with love,
Matthew
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In Between the Good and the Bad
Letting Go Many Times
Sometimes it may feel like nothing happens after we let go once. Some things in life may require us to let go more than once. Maybe even over and over. Let's talk about this idea.
with love,
Matthew
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Life Is All About the Questions
Have you ever felt like all you have is questions in your life? Sometimes it can feel like you can't figure anything out. That's what I've been feeling lately. I'm practicing being okay with leaning into the questions that my life is giving me right now. Let's talk about it on episode 144.
with love,
Matthew
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Getting It Wrong
Sometimes we get it "wrong". We can't always be perfect and that's okay. Episode 143 is meant to serve as a gentle reminder to let yourself grow when you get it "wrong".
with love,
Matthew
Noting Our Emotions
What happens when you take a moment to think about those current emotions? It can help us take away the permanence of it all. Let's talk about this practice and how it can help.
with love,
Matthew
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Power of a Second Chance
Episode 141 talks about the power of a second chance. Inside of second chances is the powerful feelings of forgiveness and growth. Let's talk about what that means for us.
with love,
Matthew
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Giving Our Heart Grace & Patience
Most, if not all, of the best moments of my life, have been when my heart was open to new people or new experiences. When we're healing, it can be difficult to feel that again. When we lead with grace and compassion for our hearts, it can be that way again. I hope you enjoy episode 140.
with love,
Matthew
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Celebrating Our Progress
Sometimes the end result gets all the attention and credit. What about the steps along the way? Let's take a moment to celebrate our moments along the way in our journey. I hope you enjoy episode 139, my friends.
with love,
Matthew
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Change Reflects Growth
Change is constant in our life. Sometimes change can feel overwhelming. What happens when we take the role of "student" in the face of changes? I think we should talk about this. I hope you enjoy this one!
with love,
Matthew
Approaching Tough Situations with Honesty & Transparency
Throughout our lives, we are bound to face tough situations. When these situations arise, I've found that honesty and transparency can be key skills to help us thrive. In episode 137, I wanted to talk more about this idea and how we can each apply it to our daily lives.
with love,
Matthew
link to poetry book discussed in the episode: https://bookshop.org/books/inward-9781449495756/9781449495756
Time to Process
Hello, my people. It's been a while, right? 4 months if my calculations are correct. Episode 136 is right from my heart. I've missed this and I hope that this episode gives you more insight into what I've been going through. I love y'all so much.
With love,
Matthew
First Week of National Suicide Prevention Awareness Month
Episode 135 is audio taken from an Instagram live I did back on May 19th of 2020. I wanted to bring this clip to the podcast because when this episode is aired it will almost be the first full week of September, which is National Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. This clip talks about how to discuss mental health with others with topics and questions from the AFSP (American Foundation for Suicide Prevention). I hope you enjoy and remember you deserve to be here.
with love,
Matthew
You Are Not Lost
Sometimes we feel "lost". I recently heard a way to shift the way we think of this feeling. You're not lost. You're still right here. Let's talk about it on episode 134.
with love,
Matthew
Mental Health Chat with My Dad
This episode feels both groundbreaking and surreal for my podcast. For episode 133, I sat down with my dad to talk about mental health. What has his mental health journey looked like so far? How do you support someone you care about without judging their decisions? This episode means everything to me. I hope you enjoy it!
with love,
Matthew
Consistency Can Be Frustrating
Consistency makes me feel at ease. It slides nicely into my routine. I'm not perfect, though. I make mistakes, I don't always do want I want, and sometimes that bothers me. Let's talk about the frustrations that arise when trying to be more consistent in our lives.
with love,
Matthew
The Great Freedom of Creativity
Why do kids seem to have more imagination than adults? When do most adults lose that imagination? What happens when we free ourselves from judgement and let our creativity take control? I believe that when we are taking creative risks we are also showing ourselves that being vulnerable is beautiful and strong. Let's do more of this. Shall we?
Ted Talk mentioned: https://youtu.be/WRS9Gek4V5Q
with love,
Matthew
Compassion before Comprehension
Sometimes life gets really confusing. We just want to get it all figured out, right? What happens if we took a step back, took a deep breath, and led with compassion instead? In episode 130, I want to talk about this idea that I recently learned from a podcast I listened to. Let's chat.
with love,
Matthew
The Man Enough Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tq3C9R8HNUQ
ALOK on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alokvmenon/
When Outside Judgement Impacts Decision Making
Sometimes it can feel like other people are writing our story. I'm here to gently remind you that that's simply not true. Let's talk about this idea in episode 129.
with love,
Matthew
Their Thoughts Are Not Who You Are
Something that can be really challenging is letting things go. Especially, when other people say or do things that you can't control. Let's talk about this in episode 128!
with love,
Matthew
Fresh Starts
Sometimes the idea of a "fresh start" sounds overwhelming. Maybe it sounds incredible. What does it even look like for you? Well, I recently had a fresh start in my life and I wanted to talk about it on episode 127. I hope you enjoy it!
with love,
Matthew
See Y'all In New York
Episode 126 is an episode meant to encourage you. What are we waiting for? Let's go!
with love,
Matthew
Gentle Reminder about Assumptions
Recently, experiences in my life provided another opportunity to think about assumptions. Some are needed while others can be checked. Take a listen to episode 125 and let me know what you think!
with love,
Matthew
Recycling the Boxes
I'll admit, the title of this episode is confusing at first. But, trust me on this one. Inside of episode 124, it all makes sense. Thank you for continuing to listen. Take care of yourself!
with love,
Matthew
When Strong Emotions Fade Out
It's probably much easier to think about times when strong emotions come into your life. Yet, when thinking about when those same emotions go away, it can be harder to recall those times. It was for me. That's why I wanted to talk about this idea in episode 123. I hope you enjoy!
with love,
Matthew
My Therapy Journey (So Far)
Therapy is something I wanted to add to my life for a long time now. I finally got myself back into the swing of things. It wasn't that easy for me. But, I wanted to share my experiences so you know you're alone and most definitely not weird. I hope you enjoy it!
with love,
Matthew
Compassion fatigue resource: https://www.compassionfatigue.org/
The Power of Expression
In episode 121 I'm asking this question, "How do you express yourself?". I also want to know who makes the rules on what "normal" is. Let's talk.
with love,
Matthew
Diamond Dialogue
Sometimes you have conversations that leave you walking away with a "diamond". The diamond is the new perspective you just gained. Let's talk about it in episode 120.
with love,
Matthew
Mental Health Google form: https://forms.gle/Uj96DGJHmEhTAs9u6
Compromise Does Not Equal Weakness
For a long time, I felt like compromising anything meant that I was weak. But, lately, my idea of compromising has shifted. I talked about this shift in episode 119. I hope you enjoy this one!
with love,
Matthew
Erasing Your Whiteboard
There was an idea that I learned about while I was in college. It came to me again just recently. I wanted to share this idea with you and expand on it when it comes to how to support our own mental health. Also, happy Mental Health Awareness Month! I have linked a few websites below that I find very helpful. You deserve to be here!
with love,
Matthew
National Alliance on Mental Illness: https://www.nami.org/Home
American Foundation for Suicide Prevention: https://afsp.org/
River of Well-Being
I recently read an idea from the book The Whole-Brain Child and it talked about the idea of a "river of well-being". This was an idea that seemed really clear to me and I want to share it with you in episode 117. Where do you find yourself on the river? Ask yourself this question, without judgment, and let's see where we take it from there!
with love,
Matthew
Being In Tune With Our Mental
Trying meditation was something I never gave much thought to. Recently, that changed. In episode 116 I wanted to share the start of meditation for me and how it feels so far. Beyond just meditation, the overarching theme of mental health is something we need to take care of for ourselves. I hope you have a lovely day! Below is the link to the guided meditation video I use each morning!
Meditation video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OccjH_2ddQc&list=PLDmjRTAXSaoM0YjLUI402POtvuueT9Nh9
Three Steps That Help Me with Perspective
Keeping things in perspective isn't always possible. For me, in 2018, it wasn't possible at all. Fast forward to 2021 and I feel personal growth inside me. I'm not an expert and I have a lot of growing left to do (I believe for life), but can feel the light inside me. I wanted to share three things that helped me with my growth on perspective with you. I hope you feel a connection!
with love,
Matthew
Chasing Perfection
Chasing perfection in your life can be an exhausting task. Things can get overlooked, victories can become checklist items, and life can pass us by. Episode 114 talks about this idea and how to take a step back!
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Matthew
Productivity Burnout
When you feel like you can't push through anymore what does that make you? I'm going with human. That's my answer. On episode 113 I wanted to talk about this idea of burnout and how it can impact more than one area of our lives. Let's chat!
with love,
Matthew
Shifting Energy Away from the Middle
The middle can look different for all of us. The middle is a place I like to think of as the "rocky moments" on our way to goals, objectives, or anything else that we want to get to. What happens when our emotions and energy shift away from that place? Let's talk about it on episode 112!
with love,
Matthew
2 Steps Forward
Taking two steps forward can be followed by 1 step backward. Have you heard that before? What happens when we look at that step backward in a different way? Let's talk about it on episode 111!
with love,
Matthew
The One We May Overlook
There's someone who gets overlooked a lot by most people. But, what happens when we slow down and ask them how they are? Good things. That's what. Let's talk through this on episode 110.
with love,
Matthew
Inspiration From a Documentary
As the title hints, episode 109 draws inspiration from a documentary I recently watched. This episode centers around human connection and how I believe mental health can be talked about more comfortably for all of us. I hope you enjoy!
with love,
Matthew
You Deserve Confidence
Just like the title of the episode reads, you deserve this. Confidence is something we can all have. I truly believe it. Listen to episode 108 to find out why I'm talking about confidence and what we can do moving forward!
with love,
Matthew
You Deserve Goals
What are you after? What do you want to get done for yourself? These are the things I want to know in episode 107!
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Matthew
The Power of Support
Hidden within episode 106 is an activity that I find incredibly valuable in my own life. I wanted to share it with you. Take a listen and let me know what you think!
with love,
Matthew
Representation Matters
Do you often see people that look like you in the media? What about in positions of leadership? I believe this is a very important feeling that everyone deserves to feel. Let's talk about it on episode 105!
with love,
Matthew
Best-Version Thinking
What's the best version of you seem like? What characteristics does that version of you have? Really think about this for episode 104. We have work to do, let's keep growing together!
with love,
Matthew
Drawn to the Negatives
I can still remember things from years ago that were said to me. These things I deem "negative". On the flip side, I struggle to remember "positive" things more than weeks ago. Why is this? Why am I so drawn to the negatives?
with love,
Matthew
Time and Practice
I just need time...I just need practice. Something to remember when facing new skills, challenges, and/or changes.
with love,
Matthew
New Year Choices
A lot of the time that a new year comes around we think we have to hit the restart button. Is that always the case, though? I'm proposing some choices for 2021. I hope you enjoy episode 101!
with love,
Matthew
100 Word Send-Off
Leaving 2020 with the 100th episode just feels right. I never thought I would have a podcast that has 100 episodes. Thank you all so much. I love each of you and I'm so grateful to feel the love and support from each episode so far. See you in 2021!
with love,
Matthew
Labeling Our Emotions
I've been reading Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett and it's been such a great read for me so far. I wanted to share one of the ideas he shared in the book. It's about "Labeling" our emotions. What does it mean to be able to label our emotions? How does that help us? These questions are ones that I'm still learning a lot a bout and wanted to pass along my thoughts on episode 99!
with love,
Matthew
With Or Without Closure
We hear people "moving on" all the time. I always heard of this when people broke up. After a few years of experiences, though, I'm realizing how deep "moving on" really is. I hope you enjoy episode 98!
with love,
Matthew
What Really Matters
Episode 97 is what it's all about. When life runs out of time what's left? Let's talk.
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Matthew
Reassessing Our Goals and Achievements
Episode 96 is all about reassessment. What happens when we achieve our goals? What happens when people we love do the same? Well, let's have a chat!
with love,
Matthew
We're All Icebergs
Episode 95 is all about icebergs. Yep, icebergs. Why does this analogy work so well? What does it really mean? Take a listen to this episode and let me know what you think!
with love,
Matthew
Taking Up Space
How much space do you take up in conversations or groups? This was a concept that was very new to me in the past few years. Why? Well, because I am very privileged and naive. Let's talk about it in episode 94!
with love,
Matthew
Over Apologizing
The Power of Observation
Episode 92 is all about observing. What can we do when life starts to speed up on us? Let's find out together!
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Matthew
Balancing Gratitude and Self-Care
Sometimes being grateful hurts. When? How is that even possible? I ask myself that all the time too. It may happen when we overlook our own self-care and emotions just to be grateful. Episode 91 dives into this idea. I hope you enjoy it!
with love,
Matthew
Patiently Waiting
Episode 90 is all about patience. It's a hard concept to think about sometimes, but it felt needed. Give it a listen and let me know how it feels!
with love,
Matthew
Opportunity Shift
From problems to opportunities. That's the goal. It was something I recently noticed working and I wanted to pass it along to you. I hope you're well!
with love.
Matthew
One Degree at a Time
Change and growth can feel overwhelming. The goal of episode 88 was to break that down and give you a tool to help.
I hope it was helpful.
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Matthew
Be Where Your Feet Are
Have you ever felt distracted? Same. Let's talk about tools that help bring our mental, and physical, state together as one!
I love y'all so much!
with love,
Matthew
Robin's Wish
Episode 86 talks about the stigma surrounding mental health. Following the viewing of Robin's Wish (**spoilers in the episode**), I wanted to vent. Are y'all okay with that?
Take care of yourself and then others.
with love,
Matthew
When There Are No Lemons
What happens when you go to make lemonade and the lemons are gone? In episode 85 I wanted to share my story about times the lemons ran out and I got my confidence back.
with love,
Matthew
Extending the Convo
September brings a lot of thoughts. One of those thoughts is about extending the conversation surrounding mental health. Let's have a chat!
with love,
Matthew
How Can You Be Yourself?
Episode 83 is different. These are different times. Listen to episode 83 and let me know what it feels like. What does it make you think of?
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Matthew
The Overflowing Glass of Self Care
I hope you listen to this episode and find some relief, advice, anything that makes your heart warm!
With love,
Matthew
Perspective Is a Teacher
Conversations, experiences, feelings from others can teach us. These moments that we hear or feel different ideas from others can shift how we think. How beautiful is that? Episode 81 takes this on!
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Matthew
Detours
What happens when life throws a detour your way? How do we know we're in the middle of a detour? How long after a detour do new life changes happen? All of these questions, and more, are talked about during episode 80!
with love,
Matthew
Sleep On It
We tend to make decisions when frustrated, tired, emotionally exhausted. What happens when we "sleep on it"? What does that look or feel like? Hopefully, episode 79 will provide explanations and clarity!
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Matthew
When There Is No Closure
What happens when closure isn't available? Does the world stop spinning? How do we move on? Hopefully, episode 78 will welcome new ideas!
Leading With a Question
What happens when conversations start with a question? It's normal, right? Okay, but what happens when conversations begin to be dominated by questions? I think we're on to something. Listen to episode 77 to find out!
with love,
Matthew
From Insecure to Self-Love
Let's have a REAL CONVO about being insecure
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Matthew
How Are You Feeling About the Future?
Let's have a REAL CONVO about our future!
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Matthew
Empathy Is a Light
Empathy? Yep, empathy. Let's have a chat, y'all
It's a Movement
Episode 73 details what the movement is. Why should you "un-learn" during these times? Also, what to remember during these trying times. I hope you enjoy!
The Most Important One
Episode 72 is a read-aloud of the most important piece I've written. I hope this episode resonates with you.
The piece that I read-aloud for this episode can be found here: https://medium.com/@MatthewHandel/june-2nd-2020-reflection-bc7af91020e6
Black Lives Matter.
Confused and Angry
I'm confused and angry and I want to talk with you about it.
Please remember and honor the name George Floyd
Love,
Matthew
The Power of Vulnerability
Being vulnerable can feel extremely weird at times, right? What happens when you overcome that feeling? There is true power in these moments. Episode 70 is about the power of being vulnerable.
With love,
Matthew
Two-Sided Adjustments
Two-sided adjustments? Absolutely. Episode 69 talks about this idea and how it can help both ourselves and someone we love. Let's continue to have healthy discussions about mental health!
with love,
Matthew
Growth of Perspective
Let's take a fresh glance at our perspective, shall we? Episode 68 is all about perspective. I hope you enjoy it!
with love
Matthew
Important Reminders During Mental Health Awareness Month
May is Mental Health Awareness Month and keeping a healthy conversation going is so important. Episode 67 provides important reminders for you, and anyone you may know, during this month!
You are not alone!
with love,
Matthew
Savoring Positive Moments
What is Negativity Bias? This idea was new to me and I wanted to pass it along to you. One of the ideas inside this article I talk about is 'Savoring Positive Moments'. I hope this shines a new light in your life!
Article: https://www.verywellmind.com/negative-bias-4589618
with love,
Matthew
First Things First
First things first, what are we all doing when the dust settles? What are we grateful for right now? What will we carry with us out of these times? These questions need your help to be answered!
I hope you enjoy this episode!
with love,
Matthew
Self-Soothing or Self-Care?
This past Wednesday, one of my professors shared an interesting visual during our class. The focus was "The Unspoken Complexity of 'Self-Care'". The visual helped me learn something new and I wanted to pass it along to y'all. So, episode 64 is centered around the ideas this visual brings to life. I hope you enjoy!
Link to the visual: https://twitter.com/MatthewHandel/status/1248675364106354694?s=20
With love,
Matthew
Giving Yourself Permission
Have you thought about giving yourself permission? During these times of uncertainty and range of emotions, the time to give yourself permission to feel is at an all-time high. Episode 63 details what that means and looks like. I hope you enjoy! Stay safe and healthy!
With love,
Matthew
Being Proud Of Yourself Again (with Wardell)
Being proud of yourself is one of the most fulfilling feelings. But, what happens when that feeling becomes lost? I had an incredible opportunity to talk to Wardell about this. He shares his thoughts and we talk about seeking help, being proud of ourselves again, and what's next. I hope you enjoy this episode!
Wardell's Twitter: @ponaxWardell
With love,
Matthew
Quick Chats: Picking Up the Phone
In a time of uncertainty and adjustments, picking up our phone can be a quick and powerful gesture. In this segment of Quick Chats, you will hear two phone calls I had a while back with two people I care about. The power of picking up our phones and reaching out to people right now can be endless. Give it a try and tell me how it felt!
With love,
Matthew
What Can We Do Right Now?
There's no shortage of adjustments to be made right now. Coronavirus is forcing us to make adjustments. How have you been so far? Can we help you in any way? During episode 61 I talked about how social distancing is impacting my mental health and some things we can be thinking about during these times. Stay healthy and safe my friends!
With love,
Matthew
Do You Need a Break?
There is a lot going on in our world right now. If you need a break, episode 60 is your place. I hope you are able to stay safe, healthy (mentally and physically), and positive right now!
With love,
Matthew
Who's Driving Our Car?
As always,
with love,
Matthew
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Views From Our Mountain
Todd Handel Memorial Fund: afsp.donordrive.com/campaign/Todd-Handel-Memorial
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Matthew
Gaining Momentum
Episode 57 is about the momentum of life. Sometimes it's spot on, while other times it feels like a challenge. How do we navigate this? Take a listen to find out!
Love,
Matthew
Slowing Life Down
Sometimes it feels like I'm scrambling to catch my breath. It feels like everyone, and everything, around me, is moving too fast. How do you stop and catch up? Take a listen to episode 56 and find out!
Love you,
Matthew
Taking Life In Stride
Episode 55 is all about taking life in stride. What does that mean? What does that look, and feel, like? Give this episode a listen to find out!
Love,
Matthew
Time to Appreciate
Recent events led me to be confused and sad. Then I became confused again. As days passed, one thing became clearer. It's time to appreciate. Appreciate life. Appreciate what makes you happy. Appreciate the people who support and acknowledge you. We can do this!
Give episode 54 a listen and let me know how you feel!
Love,
Matthew
Adjusting Judgment
Episode 53 is about an adjustment. Adjusting the way we feel about judgment. What does that feel like? How does that sound? Take a listen and let me know what you think! I love you all!
-Matthew
Quick Chats: Positivity Always Wins
In this Quick Chats segment, I decided to focus on the idea that positivity will always win. Is it always easy to remain positive? Of course not. But, it's worth it in the long run. I hope you have an amazing day!
Love,
Matthew
There's Enough Pie For All Of Us
If you don't like pie don't worry! (Ha!) Episode 52 talks about life and the way the "pie" is split up. What if people around you are having success, but you aren't seeing that same level in your life? It's okay! We can all succeed, I promise.
Thank you for listening, I love each of you!
Respecting Your Path
How often do we let other people's paths enter our life? What happens when we respect our path and pay more attention to it? Luckily, episode 51 details these questions and much more! Take a listen and let me know what you think!
Thank you all from the bottom of my heart!
-Matthew
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Take A Look At Self-Discipline
Episode 50 dives into the idea of self-discipline. What does it mean? Do I have it? Do you have it? How can we get better at it? All of this and more on Episode 50 of the podcast!
ps: thank you all so much for the love and support. Having some time to reflect on having 50 episodes of the podcast is a humbling experience. I love you all so much!
-Matthew
Quick Chats: Say I Love You
It's 2020 and we're feeling good! In this Quick Chats segment, I wanted to remind you of something.
What Are You Leaving In 2019?
So often we get caught up in what we want the next year to look like. What about taking some time to reflect on our past year? As the new year approaches, I wanted to take time to think about what we want to leave in 2019. Episode 49 gives us a chance to do exactly that!
*2019 was a great year for the podcast. I can't thank each and every one of you enough. I love you from the bottom of my heart.
Missing Our Target
So often we place so much weight on our failures. The thing is, we all fail. It's what makes us who we are. In episode 48 I wanted to share a helpful analogy I recently heard about how to view our failures!
Who's Your Harshest Critic?
Episode 47 was a reflection of judgment and critique. Who takes up the most space in your mind? For me, it's often myself. I wanted to share what that means for my life and how it could help you too!
Thank you, for everything!
Did Curiosity Kill the Cat?
I've been wondering about this for a while. Did curiosity kill the cat? Or was the cat in bigger trouble? Silly sayings aside, I wanted to talk more about this idea of curiosity. What makes you curious? Do you dig deeper and follow your curiosities? I talked about this, and more, in episode 46!
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The Power of Advocacy
Advocating can be an overwhelming idea. Where do I start? How do I do it? Will I do it wrong? All of those questions are natural. I wanted to tell you how a football commercial helped me answer each one. Give episode 45 a listen and tell me what you think!
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Are You Selling Yourself Short?
Lately, I found myself coming up short of some of my goals. I told myself they weren't realistic and I'd be okay without them. Do you ever do this? It got me thinking about how often I would tell myself it would be okay to not chase my goals and dreams. In episode 44 I wanted to talk more about this and see if we could change it going forward. I hope you enjoy & thank you for listening!
Adjusting Your Goals
Can you adjust the goals you've already set? How does that impact the balance in your life? I had so many questions on Episode 43! I hope you enjoy it!
Quick Chats: Happy World Kindness Day!
Your Outcomes Don't Define You
What? Outcomes don't define you?
I know, I know. Hang with me. Sometimes we get caught up in what each outcome in our life means. If I fail am I a failure? No, but you have an opportunity to adjust to that "failure". We get to define our own lives and who we are based on the choices we make each day. Don't let the outside noise distract you from who you really are and who you want to be.
Episode 42 describes what this can look like!
As always, thank you for supporting this beautiful journey we are on!
Facing Change Head On
Change is something that is happening all the time in life. For some people, change is happening a lot. For others, change doesn't happen as often. No matter the amount of change you seem to have in your life, we can adjust the way we view change. Episode 41 is all about adjusting our mindset to the changes in our life!
The Ways Compliments Ripple
Stop Doubting Your Skill Set
Pushing Priorities
Episode 38 starts with an apology and follows with some explaining. What happens when our priorities become messed up (or out of order)? I wanted to share my experiences and let you know what we can do!
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Thank you!
Looking At Loneliness Differently
Episode 37 talks about loneliness. How can you look at it in a different way? Can you? I hope to show you how!
Birthday Reflections
It's my birthday this week and I want to reflect on year's past. Do you ever do this? Why would I want to look back? Episode 36 dives into it!
Stuck In Neutral?
What happens when we get stuck in "neutral"? I wanted to talk about a recent time I found my day taking over me and what I did to get out of "neutral". I hope you enjoy!
Am I Being Irrational?
A recent event in my life made me question myself. "Am I being too irrational?" is what kept coming into my head. I shared my experiences and thoughts in episode 34 and I hope you enjoy!
Quick Chats: Normalizing Mental Health
What Are You Counting?
Episode 33 dives into the idea of "counting". What are you counting? Listen to find out!
What I'm Learning From Being Vegetarian
I've recently switched to a vegetarian lifestyle. What have I learned? Listen to episode 32 to find out!
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Are You Too Comfortable?
Episode 31 is all about asking yourself if you're too comfortable. The idea of chasing curiosity is also discussed. Thank you for always supporting this podcast!
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Fear Of The Unknown
Sometimes life has changes and they are new and unknown ones. How do we navigate these changes? Episode 30 dives deeper into it. Plus, a special message to my sister!
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Chasing The Sunrise
Have you ever chased the sunrise? Had a front row view to the morning sun? I shared my experiences and thoughts on episode 29!
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Finding Inspiration
What inspires you? Do you inspire others? We discuss this and more on episode 28!
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Reflecting On Positive & Negative Experiences
We go through life and we experience both positive and negative experiences, right? Of course. How we deal, and reflect, on these experiences may differ!
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Are You Grateful?
Sometimes life can be overwhelming and finding something to be grateful for impossible. Episode 26 talks about this idea and how a slight adjustment in your mindset may help!
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Saying Yes More Often
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Respecting The Janitor & The CEO
Sometimes relationships get overlooked if they don't provide us with anything. In episode 24 this idea, and the idea of repscting the janitor and the CEO, are all discussed!
Keeping Life In Perspective, Over-communicating & Checking In
Sometimes life can seem too stressful and we may lose touch with others. Trying to keep our life in perspective by over-communicating and checking in may help a lot!
I'm Going to Counseling
Episode 22 was one that had me reflecting on my journey. Today is a good day, but there is more work to do! Listen to episode 22 to find out what's happening!
What Is Your Happiness & Success? (With Jose)
Episode 21 is a groundbreaking episode for the podcast. Not only is our first guest, my previous professor Jose, on but he gives so many good ideas that I wanted to share! Take a listen, I hope you enjoy!
Living In Your Moment
How often do we overlook good moments in our life due to looking ahead? I recently struggled with this idea and episode 20 dives deeper into it!
Special Episode From the Beach!
Episode 19 takes place on vacation! Listen to what this podcast has meant to me so far, connections that have been made, and my promise going forward!
Making Assumptions
Assumptions can limit our lives. After a self-reflection I realized some things about assumptions in my own life. Episode 18 dives into the idea of assumptions!
Are You Taking Your Own Advice?
I haven't been taking my own advice and I was wondering why. Why is it that we tend to give great advice to others, but turn around and not follow it for ourselves? Episode 17 dives into this idea and shares something I think we need to do more of!
Mental Health Tips
May is Mental Health Awareness Month. According to NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness), 1 in 5 people will be affected by mental illness in their lifetime. Let's band together to help each other with mental health. The conversation doesn't stop in May, but we will ramp up the talk ad awareness. You are not alone. Episode 16 is meant to refresh the idea of what the podcast is all about. Having a conversation about mental health!
What Does Happiness Look Like?
Episode 15 dives into the idea behind this question, "What does happiness look like?" What does it look like when you're on top of the mountain compared to the bottom? What about the view on happiness when you're happy compared to sad? Episode 15 will talk about these ideas!
I Cried Last Week
I cried last week and maybe that's surprising? I wanted to talk about why and what happens when I have a rough time in my life. It's okay to feel like you don't know what's going on in your life at a certain moment. You will overcome whatever is dragging you down and I know it!
4 Challenges For You
How do you talk to yourself? Are you writing down your goals? Do you have a focus on your health? Who haven't you talked to in a while that you wish you could? All of these things are talked about in Episode 13!
What Do You Want to Be Known For?
What do you want to be know for in your life? When it's all said and done with what will you be known for? Are you working towards that? Are you the one that is writing your life's story or are other people dictating it?
These ideas, along with a recap of the AFSP Walk I did will be discussed on episode 12!
Empowering the Youth
Let's empower the youth. How? Episode 11 touches on this idea and also touches on wrapping up Mindful March!
Self Reflection
Do you ever find yourself reflecting on your strengths and areas of improvement? Even if this is missing in your life, there are ways to start! In episode 10 of "Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself." I do my own self reflection and ask for suggestions!
Acceptance
What exactly do I need to know about acceptance first? Give episode 9 a listen to find out!
Mindful March
In Episode 8 of "Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself." I talk about Mindful March and what that means!
Reacting To Change
In Episode 7 of "Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself." I talk about how to react to changes in your life, no matter the scale.
Feeling Like A Burden
Have you ever felt like a burden? Sometimes sharing your feelings or times of stress can make you feel like one. In this episode of "Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself." how you can avoid feeling like a burden is broken down.
Positive Experiences, New Years Resolutions & Things I Want To Teach My Kids
Positive experiences that I've seen recently, my New Years resolutions, and three things that I want to teach my kids are all found in episode 5 of "Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself."
How to Love and Support Toxic Family Members
Sometimes you may have a toxic relationship. Sometimes that relationship is with a member of your family. How do you overcome that and continue to love and support them? That's what is discussed in Episode 4 of "Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself."
Dealing With Failure In A Healthy Way
We all go through failure and it never seems to get easier. How can you deal with it in a healthy way? That's what is discussed on this episode of "Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself."
Anxiety