
Midwife Talks
By Lindy Casey

Midwife TalksOct 15, 2022

The Baby Was Not His
NPE means Not Parent Expected or Non-Paternity Event. What happens when the father named on the birth certificate is not really the biological father? This is one story out of many.
As many as 1 in 10 births might be incorrectly attributed to the wrong father. That's a lot of surprises and potential heartache.
When a person finds out they have a different parent than they expected it can be shocking and almost universally, they blame their mother. If you are a mother who misattributed your baby's father either on the birth certificate or through what you told your child, I'd love to hear your side of the story.
Leave a 3-minute voice mail, or text me at (715) 575-9420 You can also email midwyfery@gmail.com Thanks for listening today and I hope you'll join me in the future. Please like, share, and subscribe. That helps more people find this podcast.

Introducing Truly Terrified: Paranormal vs. Physics
Lin and her son, Joe discuss all sorts of things so they started recording their conversations. He’s a physicist and a mathematician while she's a little bit more woo.
Lin tells Joe stories of things she thinks are really strange, a little scary, or downright paranormal and he goes there with her as far as his science brain can take him.
Sometimes he has an explanation for how physics can explain something, but other times he calls BS. And sometimes, just sometimes, Lin convinces him that there are things that defy explanation.
Come along and listen in to see if either of them changes your mind about how the universe works and what is actually truly terrifying or just a glitch in the matrix.
Listen to Truly Terrified: Paranormal versus Physics wherever you listen to podcasts.
Tell us YOUR story! Send us a 3-minute voice mail! Or Text us! (715) 575-9420
Email: linandjoeonthego@gmail.com Website: http://saltpress.com/podcasts

Weird Baby Names
Naming a baby is more than giving a label to a helpless infant - you could be influencing their entire life. I learned some things I didn’t know and share some of the weirder names I’ve run across.
You can Text me at (715) 575-9420 with your comments and questions. By texting my number you understand and agree that I may read and respond to your message in a future episode.
Music: Lullaby and Comfort by Serge Quadrado
Links
- https://www.thediverseperspective.com/home/ghetto-black-names-the-real-embarrassment-of-america
- My TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@midwyfery\
- My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
- My Books: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08V9GT3S7

Birth Story: Molly Mae’s London Birth
Molly Mae is a content creator with a significant online presence. She and her partner, Tommy, recently gave birth to a baby girl in London. This is the story of their birth. While I had plenty of disagreements with how the medical staff handled Molly's labor, I know that she did the best she could with the information she was given.
Molly's YouTube birth story: https://youtu.be/YksHmV5cWdg
You can Text me at (715) 575-9420 with your comments and questions. By texting my number you understand and agree that I may read and respond to your message in a future episode.
- My TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@midwyfery\
- My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
- My Books: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08V9GT3S7

Why You Should Never Call the Police When Your Child is Having a Mental Health Crisis
Did you know that more than half of all the people killed in police shootings each year have a mental illness? In this episode, I tell some stories - as usual - and then I dive into the facts. At the end, I'll give you some ideas of what to do instead of calling the police when your loved one is experiencing a mental health crisis.
This episode discusses some difficult subjects like suicide and gun violence. It could be triggering for some people. Please don’t listen if you think it will trigger you. Links to resources are below.
You can Text me at (715) 575-9420 with your comments and questions. By texting my number you understand and agree that I may read and respond to your message in a future episode.
Links
988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline
Hours: Available 24 hours. Languages: English, Spanish.
988
- https://dontcallthepolice.com/
- National Alliance on Mental Illness: http://Nami.org
- My TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@midwyfery\
- My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
- My Books: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08V9GT3S7

The Secret Way Clients Sabotage Midwifery Care
The people who love having access to midwives the most, the clients, are sabotaging that care. Find out how and why, and what you can do about it.
You can Text me at (715) 575-9420 with your comments and questions. By texting my number you understand and agree that I may read and respond to your message in a future episode.
Links
- My TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@midwyfery\
- My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
- My Books: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08V9GT3S7

Women Are Still Dying
The US Maternal Mortality Rate is rising! Find out why, and what you can do about it in your own life.
You can Text me at (715) 575-9420 with your comments and questions. By texting my number you understand and agree that I may read and respond to your message in a future episode.
Links
- https://everymothercounts.org/giving-birth-in-america
- https://www.instagram.com/thebirthtrauma_mama/
- My TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@midwyfery
- My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
- My Books: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08V9GT3S7

Birth Story - Sarah and Derik Beeston
Join me as I tell the story of well-known YouTubers Sarah and Derik Beeston's birth of their daughter. This birth includes "false labor", induction, epidural, rupture of membranes, and vaginal delivery.
Links and Show Notes
- You can Text me at (715) 575-9420 with your comments and questions. By texting my number you understand and agree that I may read and respond to your message in a future episode.
- The Beeston Fam Birth video part 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dPJyBWSorBM
- The Beeston Fam Birth video part 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gVY_OkwTuZs
- Lo and Tanner’s YouTube Channel “The Beeston Bunch”: https://www.youtube.com/@thebeestonbunch
- My TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@midwyfery\
- My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
- My Books: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08V9GT3S7

New Year's Resolutions
Overwhelmingly women make New Year's Resolutions every January first. Learn some strategies for success as well as some interesting factoids.
If you’re in emotional distress or a suicidal crisis, find help in your area by calling 988. If you believe that someone else is in danger of suicide and you have their contact information, contact your local law enforcement for immediate help. You can also encourage the person to contact a suicide prevention hotline at 988.
You can Text me at (715) 575-9420 with your comments and questions. By texting my number you understand and agree that I may read and respond to your message in a future episode.
Study on resolutions: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7725288/
My TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@midwyfery\
My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
My Books: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08V9GT3S7

Intro to Talking You Through A Contraction
This is a very short intro to the episode where I talk you through a labor contraction. The method I use has been around in various forms for many years and it works. It's simple and easy. The next episode called "Talking You Through A Contraction" is one minute long and consists of an easy-to-follow breathing/meditative exercise.
Links
Send me a text message with your questions and comments: (715) 575-9420
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@midwyfery\
Instagram: @midwife_talks
My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
My Books: https://wishpickleshop.com/product-category/books/ Use code FreeForMe to receive free shipping at checkout.

Talking You Through A Contraction
This episode is one minute long and consists entirely of my voice with soft background sounds of ocean waves and music. There are no ads or other material. The method I use is an easy-to-follow breathing/meditative exercise and has been around in various forms for many years, and it works. It's simple and easy. Listen to "Intro To Talking You Through A Contraction" if you haven’t already for an explanation. You can use this recording to practice for labor, or you can even use it in labor by replaying it each time a contraction starts.
Links
Send me a text message with your questions and comments: (715) 575-9420
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@midwyfery\
Instagram: @midwife_talks
My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
My Books: https://wishpickleshop.com/product-category/books/ Use code FreeForMe to receive free shipping at checkout.

TikTok and Texts Responses August 2022
Answering your questions and responding to your comments on TikTok and from messages I've received from listeners. Do I hate doctors? Why in the world did I call that earlier episode "Dead Babies"? What does labor really feel like?
Links
Send me a text message with your questions and comments: (715) 575-9420
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@midwyfery\
Instagram: @midwife_talks
My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
My Books: https://wishpickleshop.com/product-category/books/ Use code FreeForMe to receive free shipping at checkout.

Questions To Ask A Midwife On Your First Visit
If you're shopping for a midwife, come prepared to ask questions on your first visit! With this list of questions, and my explanations, you'll be in a better position to make a decision. You can download a free printable file of the questions - just text me at (715) 575-9420 or message me on Instagram or TikTok with your email address.
Links
Send me a text message with your questions and comments:
| (715) 575-9420 |
| TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@midwyfery\ |
| Instagram: @midwife_talks |
| My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm |
| My Books: https://wishpickleshop.com/product-category/books/ Use code FreeForMe to receive free shipping at checkout. |
IMPORTANT NOTE: I AM RETIRED FROM MIDWIFERY. I'M NOT AVAILABLE TO BE YOUR MIDWIFE.

Birth Story: Chelsea and Nick
Chelsea and Nick shared their birth Story on YouTube on July 26, 2021. They're popular YouTubers with one and a half million subscribers. I’ll be commenting and adding my two cents as I watch their video. As always, I won’t be insulting their choices, though I might point out where things could have been better if something else had happened.
You can Text me at (715) 575-9420 with your comments and questions. By texting my number you understand and agree that I may read and respond to your message in a future episode.
Links
Chelsea and Nick’s Birth Story Video: https://youtu.be/eWanbMG3ku4
My TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@midwyfery\
My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
My Books: https://wishpickleshop.com/product-category/books/ Use code FreeForMe to receive free shipping at checkout.

Dead Babies
Trigger warning: this entire episode contains graphic stories of babies who die before birth.
Somehow mothers are the most resilient creatures. We have babies, risking our own lives, knowing that there’s a chance our babies will die. And we just keep doing it. If you have lost a baby, my heart goes out to you.
Links
Cause-of-death Data From the Fetal Death File, 2015–2017: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr69/nvsr69-04-508.pdf
My TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@midwyfery\
My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
My Books: https://wishpickleshop.com/product-category/books/ Use code FreeForMe to receive free shipping at checkout.

When CPS Takes Your Kids
Recently, Gabrielle Blair shared that her brother and sister-in-law had their kids removed from their home by CPS. While their case is not now resolved, I share some other cases, and give you advice on what you should do if CPS ever shows up at your door in the middle of the night.
Links
Gabrielle Blair’s website: https://designmom.substack.com/
My TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@midwyfery\
My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
My Books: https://wishpickleshop.com/product-category/books/ Use code FreeForMe to receive free shipping at checkout

TikTok Responses July 2022
After receiving hundreds of messages, both public and private, to my recent TikTok videos, I've responded to a few with more information.
Links
My TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@midwyfery
My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
My Books: https://wishpickleshop.com/product-category/books/ Use code FreeForMe to receive free shipping at checkout.

Birth Story: Gemma Louise Miles

Mental Health Stories
An estimated 26% of Americans ages 18 and older -- about 1 in 4 adults -- suffer from a diagnosable mental disorder in a given year. Depression and anxiety are the most common mental health problems during pregnancy, with around 12% of women experiencing depression and 13% experiencing anxiety at some point; many women will experience both. Depression and anxiety also affect 15‑20% of women in the first year after childbirth.
This episode covers several examples of mental health issues I’ve dealt with during my career as a midwife.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Available 24 hours. Languages: English, Spanish. 800-273-8255
Links
My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
My Books: https://wishpickleshop.com/product-category/books/ Use code FreeForMe to receive free shipping at checkout.

A Little Bit of Justice
The Johnny Depp vs Amber Heard trial riveted us, as it probably did you. For some people, though, it triggered memories of their own domestic abuse. My guest, Christina, shares her own story of abuse, and her reactions to the trial, which might surprise you.
Warning: abuse, anger, sorrow, and cursey words
Links
My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
My Books: https://wishpickleshop.com/product-category/books/ Use code FreeForMe to receive free shipping at checkout.

Mean Girls
I don't have a horse in the midwifery race anymore so I can dish on the dirt. There's a saying amongst us that goes, "Midwives eat their own." Listen to some of the stories I share about mean things midwives have done to other midwives. If you're a midwife, I also offer some advice on how to mostly avoid getting caught up in the drama.
Links
My daughter's YouTube channel: http://youtube.com/caseyurbanfarm
My Books: https://wishpickleshop.com/product-category/books/ Use code FreeForMe to receive free shipping at checkout.

Birth Story: Ferrets in the House

The Right To Privacy
Join me as I rant about the Supreme Court's recent leak about overturning Roe v. Wade. I don't have any answers but I raise a few questions.

The measure of a mother
The midwife offers some positive affirmations to remind you that your body is pretty remarkable and shares how to make poo spray. Next she gives a deeper commentary on the birth story from the last episode, and then tells a home birth story.

Touchy, Touchy
Midwife Lindy Casey discusses how pregnant women feel when they get unsolicited advice from strangers, and worse - when they are touched. She also shares some tips about how to boost your child's immune system to protect them when they return to school this fall. And last, she shares a birth story.