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Mommy Oyoyo

Mommy Oyoyo

By Mommy Oyoyo

The Mommy Oyoyo podcast is a platform for the Modern African woman to talk about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING relating to Motherhood. Hosted and produced by Berry Dakara, listen to hear funny anecdotes, inspiring stories, challenging topics, heartbreaking moments and more that come with motherhood from an African perspective. African mothers in Africa and the Diaspora, listen in for honest, transparent, and authentic conversations about motherhood. Topics include Divorce, Homeschooling, Mum Guilt, Single Motherhood, Trying to Conceive, Sex, Discipline, Staying at Home, Working Mums, and much more!
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3: What NOT to say to Someone Who is TTC (Trying to Conceive)

Mommy OyoyoJul 04, 2019

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77. Extracurricular Activities for Kids

77. Extracurricular Activities for Kids

In this episode, I talk about choosing extra-curricular activities for your children.

Topics Discussed

Examples of Extracurricular Activities
Things to consider when choosing extra-curricular activities for kids, including Cost, Schedule, Interest, and more
Aug 04, 202325:46
76 - MultiGenerational Living

76 - MultiGenerational Living

Are multigenerational households a thing of the past? In this episode I talk about the pros, challenges and my own personal experiences of multigenerational living.

Topics Discussed

What is multigenerational living?
Why might people choose to live in multigenerational households
The benefits of multigenerational living
The challenges of multigenerational living
Tips for multigenerational households


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Follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @MommyOyoyo. Don't forget to rate, review, share and subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Amazon, and more! You can also leave a voice note HERE! Share your feedback to any episode, the podcast and any suggestions for future topics.
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75 - Stepmother Life featuring Tambari of @GoodStepmother
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71. Long Distance Mother feat. Dr. Ijeoma Kola

71. Long Distance Mother feat. Dr. Ijeoma Kola

In this episode Dr. Ijeoma Kola shares about her approach to parenting her toddler long-distance. Ijeoma talks about the decision for her family to maintain residences in two countries (Kenya and America), which takes her away from her son for a few weeks at a time. We discuss why mothers are reprimanded for prioritizing their careers, whereas fathers aren't. Ijeoma also shares what caused her to feel Mom Guilt and practical tips to mothers who may have to move long-distance in order to push their careers/education further.

Follow and find out more about Dr. Ijeoma at www.ijeomakola.com and on social media @ijeomakola. Check out her nonprofit Cohort Sistas at www.cohortsistas.com and on social media @cohortsistas


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Follow Mommy Oyoyo via the website at www.mommyoyoyo.com and on social media @MommyOyoyo. Don't forget to rate, review, share and subscribe to the podcast on AppleSpotifyGoogleAmazonAnchor and more! You can also leave a voice note HERE! Share your feedback to any episode, the podcast and any suggestions for future topics.

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70 - Fostering Your Child's Creativity feat. Titi Sule
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67. Dating As a Single Mother feat. Ebube N. A.
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66. Child Support feat. Berry Dakara
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65. Having Only One Child featuring Berry Dakara
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64. Preparing for a Successful Maternity Leave as a Working Mom feat. Millie Malum | @MergingParenthood

64. Preparing for a Successful Maternity Leave as a Working Mom feat. Millie Malum | @MergingParenthood

It's no secret that women stand the risk of being penalized career-wise when they become mothers. According to the Harvard Business Review, "Evidence from a variety of countries reveals that the longer new mothers are away from paid work, the less likely they are to be promoted, move into management, or receive a pay raise once their leave is over. They are also at greater risk of being fired or demoted. Length of leave can be a factor in the perceptions of co-workers as well – women who take longer leaves are often seen as less committed to their jobs than women who take much shorter leaves. This trade-off undercuts a major goal of legislating national parental leave policies: ensuring that women don’t have to choose between motherhood and career success."

In this episode, I speak with Millie Malum, founder of Merging Parenthood and she shed light on how to prepare for your maternity leave, how far in advance to start getting ready, how you can develop yourself during maternity leave, the motherhood penalty and much more.

Check out Merging Parenthood on their website and Instagram for more information on merging parenthood and work. 


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Follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @MommyOyoyo and visit the website at www.mommyoyoyo.com. Don't forget to rate, review, share and subscribe to the podcast on AppleSpotifyGoogleAmazonAnchor and more! You can also leave a voice note HERE! Share your feedback to any episode, the podcast and any suggestions for future topics.

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63. Is There a Limit to Active Parenting by Fathers?

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This episode comes from my thoughts after watching a particular video that made the rounds on Instagram in February 2021. The video made me question whether there are or should be some limits when it comes to parenting from the father.
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62. I Caught Covid! feat. Tomisin O | @TwentySix.Digital
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60. Teaching Children About Consent feat. Ndali Gregory-Ozegbe | @HandsOffNG

60. Teaching Children About Consent feat. Ndali Gregory-Ozegbe | @HandsOffNG

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In this episode, Ndali, Associate Director of Hands Off Initiative, talks about teaching children, teenagers and young adults about consent. Hands Off is an organization that aims to break the cycle of abuse and address the problem of rape, sexual abuse, harassment and assault. Ndali shared some signs of child abuse to look out for, how to speak to children to prevent and/or address abuse, and more.

Check out Hands Off Initiative on social media @HandsOffNG and check out the website www.handsoffinitiative.org for resources on Consent. You can find Ndali on social media @NdaliOzegbe

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Follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @MommyOyoyo and the website www.mommyoyoyo.com. Don't forget to rate, review, share and subscribe to the podcast on AppleSpotifyGoogleAmazonAnchor and more! You can also leave a voice note HERE! Share your feedback to any episode, the podcast and any suggestions for future topics.

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59. Parenting Styles feat. Jayne A. | @FabMumNG

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In this episode, Jayne of FabMumNG and Mom ChitChat TV, talks about the 4 main parenting styles: Authoritative, Permissive, Uninvolved and Authoritative. She also shared tips on how a couple with different styles can find a common ground when it comes to parenting.

Check out FabMumNG on social media @FabMumNG and check out the website www.fabmumng.com for motherhood resources.

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Follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @MommyOyoyo and the website www.mommyoyoyo.com. Don't forget to rate, review, share and subscribe to the podcast on AppleSpotifyGoogleAmazonAnchor and more! You can also leave a voice note HERE! Share your feedback to any episode, the podcast and any suggestions for future topics.

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2020 Reflections, 2021 Wishes

2020 Reflections, 2021 Wishes

Happy New Year!
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57. My Experience as a Mother and Wheelchair User feat. Lizzy O | @TheLizzyO
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56. Going Back to School as a Mom feat. Nene Azemogie @StillWaters_
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52. African Dad Vasectomy feat. Folabi Lawal

52. African Dad Vasectomy feat. Folabi Lawal

Typically, when an African couple decides that they no longer want children, the woman bears the physical brunt of getting a a procedure done (hysterectomy, tubal ligation, etc) to prevent future pregnancies. It is pretty uncommon to find an African man who chooses to undergo a vasectomy. In fact, a UN report from 2013 stated that only 0.1% of African men have undergone vasectomies! A major reason why they don't can be attributed to ignorance, misinformation (No, a vasectomy will not affect sex drive or ability to enjoy sex) and the unfortunate stigma that can follow (Yes, you're still a man).  

In this episode, my guest Folabi, candidly shares his experience of getting a vasectomy. Folabi is a Nigerian-American man, and very open with going through this procedure. He talked about coming to the decision that he and his wife did not want more children, why he chose to get a vasectomy (as opposed to the typical African household where the woman gets her tubes tied), the after-effects and recovery following the procedure, and why he is so open about sharing his decision and experience.  

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Follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @MommyOyoyo and visit the website at www.mommyoyoyo.com. Don't forget to rate, review, share and subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Amazon, Anchor and more! You can also leave a voice note HERE! Share your feedback to any episode, the podcast and any suggestions for future topics.

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44. Hyperemesis Gravidarum feat. Temi R. | @FirstTimeMumDotCom

44. Hyperemesis Gravidarum feat. Temi R. | @FirstTimeMumDotCom

Hyperemesis Gravidarum is a debilitating condition that causes sufferers extreme nausea, near-constant vomiting, weight loss, dehydration and even fainting in pregnancy. The first time I heard about Hyperemesis Gravidarum was just a couple of years ago, when Temi talked about her experience having the condition. To  be very honest, I still didn't quite grasp what HG was until she recommended The Sick Film for me to watch. 

Temi was diagnosed with HG after suffering through weeks of vomiting almost 20 times a day, and some medical practitioners/doctors who waved her sickness away. In this episode, she shares what the experience was like for her, especially as a Black (African) woman, and talked about the PTSD she still deals with from that very dark period in her life.

You can follow Temi on Instagram @FirstTimeMumDotCom and @BabySleepHelp

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Follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @MommyOyoyo and visit the website www.mommyoyoyo.com. Don't forget to rate, review, share and subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Google, Anchor and more! You can also leave a voice note HERE! Share your feedback to any episode, the podcast and any suggestions for future topics.

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Follow Mercy online  @immeiko @gistwithmercyandjibz and website. You can also check out the podcast she co-hosts on the BBC - Parentland.

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Follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @MommyOyoyo and check out our website at www.mommyoyoyo.com. Don't forget to rate, review, share and subscribe to the podcast. You can also leave a voice note HERE! Share your feedback to any episode, the podcast and any suggestions for future topics. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

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41. Decade-Long Struggle to Have A Child feat. Mama Z.

41. Decade-Long Struggle to Have A Child feat. Mama Z.

In today's episode, I chatted with Mama Z who struggled to get pregnant for about 7 years. She finally conceived, but unfortunately suffered a miscarriage a few months into her pregnancy. In her ninth year of marriage, Mama Z got pregnant again and on her tenth wedding anniversary, she and her husband celebrated their son's dedication. Listen to this episode as my anonymous guest shares her decade-long experience trying to conceive to having her child. (Kindly note it is a stock photo used in the cover art for this episode)

Fun fact: the first time I interacted with Mama Z was when she sent me an email in January 2016 to tell me that she was also trying to conceive - I had written a blog post at the end of 2015 and mentioned that I spent the entire year trying to get pregnant. We kept up communication, going from the random email here and there, to chatting on Whatsapp, and now having a voice conversation specifically for the podcast. I hope we get to meet some day!


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Follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @MommyOyoyo and check out our website at www.mommyoyoyo.com.

Don't forget to rate, review, share and subscribe to the podcast. You can also leave a voice note HERE! Share your feedback to any episode, the podcast and any suggestions for future topics.

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35. "Only Girls?!" Societal Pressure to Have a Male Child feat. Chinyere Abang @YummyMumLife
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34. Public Pregnancy Announcements

34. Public Pregnancy Announcements

After trying to conceive for almost two years after I got married, and publicly talking about it on my YouTube channel and blog, it made perfect sense to me to announce my pregnancy when I finally got pregnant. Almost 3 years to the day, I publicly announced that I was pregnant on my blog and social media... and then a few days later, I found myself in a situation where I repeatedly asked whether I jinxed myself by going public.

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33. I Don't Show My Child's Face Online feat. Tomi Olatunde | @TheCuddleBlog
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