The “It” Cast: Real Talk On Sex with Nika Cherrelle

Cathy Reisenwitz. is the mastermind behind the captivating newsletter, Sex and the State, where she skillfully blends the realms of policy and human experiences, offering invaluable insights into the fascinating subjects of sex and gender. With a keen focus on these areas, Cathy explores the intricate interplay between societal frameworks and personal narratives, unraveling the complex tapestry that shapes our understanding of human sexuality and gender dynamics. Cathy invites readers to delve into these crucial discussions through her thought-provoking writing, shedding light on diverse perspectives and fostering a more nuanced comprehension of these key topics.

You can Reach Cathy on any of these platforms: 

Cathyreisenwitz.substack.com

 @cathyreisenwitz on Twitter

Today we will be having some Real Talk on Childhood Innocence with a special guest Katharine Lee. Katharine is a passionate advocate for embracing our humanity, unlocking the electromagnetic wonders of full body coherence, and loving unconditionally. With a personal history of overcoming immense adversity, she followed her inner calling to integrate spirituality, science, and sexuality, resulting in a powerfully transformative journey. Through emotional honesty, sanctified sexuality, energy cultivation, healthy living, and timeless wisdom, Katherine has experienced profound personal growth. Now, as a healing artist and psychotherapist (AMFT/APCC), she guides others on their own transformative paths to lead fulfilling lives. To learn more about Katharine and her therapeutic arts, visit her website:www.KatharineLeeTherapyArts.com

This week we will be having some Real Talk on Wholistic Sex with Amanda. 

Amanda is a trauma-informed somatic energy healer and coach with more than 18 years of professional experience in holistic healing. She has lived in a Buddhist meditation center for a year and discovered that true happiness is found in our connection with others. She is also a cis-gender, heterosexual woman, who has lived through the stories of many men and women, including her own, in a professional setting. This led her to broaden her professional repertoire by becoming a certified sexuality educator. Growing up as the daughter of a Protestant Christian minister, learning the ancient Eastern philosophies of Taoism and Tantra from a young age, has helped her rephrase her religious conditioning.

It is her intention to open up the conversation about sex in order to up-level the foundation from which we all approach our sexual expression, for the fulfillment of ourselves and the collective healing of generations before and after us.

You can reach out to Amanda on these platforms:

amandametta.com, kiahealing.com IG: @thesacralchakrawell, @kiahealing, FB: @kiahealing YT: @chakrahealingholisticwelln7740

Welcome to the "It" Cast: Real Talk on Sex. Pleasure Awakening Rachel is a Somatica Certified Sex and Relationship Coach with years of experience working somatically with clients on their personal healing journey. Rachel’s work focuses on helping people create brave spaces in their lives. She helps her clients sniff out limiting beliefs and dogma that act as roadblocks to intimacy and play. Rachel is a skilled bridge-builder between becoming and belonging, especially in relationships. Rachel believes in pleasure as a lifestyle and guides others to somatically map a courageous path for a more present, connected, and sexy life. Through somatic practices, the body experiences spacious healing. A world of pleasure awaits – first within, then beyond the walls of her office. She invites others to step boldly hand-in-hand and heart-to-heart, on a mission to learn to live this life together, deliciously.

Today we will be having Real Talk on What we believe about sex and aging, with 

Dr. Nicole O. Crawford.

Dr. Nicole O. Crawford earned a Bachelor's degree in Gerontology, dual Master's degrees in Social Work and Public Health with a behavioral health focus, and a Doctor of Public Health degree from the University of South Florida. Dr. Crawford is the owner of Keep Moving Forward Consulting. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, she walks with her clients on their therapeutic journeys, focused on the well-being of adults, older adults and care partners/caregivers or people living with dementia. Dr. Crawford advocates against ageist beliefs and addresses the aging population's needs in her communities through advocacy, educational presentations, individual consultations, and research.

IG: @kmf_consults

Twitter: @NOCrawford_DrPH

Today we will be having some Real Talk on The Angry Black Woman with a special guest Kathryn Seabron.

Kathryn Seabron is a multi-talented artist known for her work as a writer, performer, producer, dancer, choreographer, actor, and activist. She is the writer and performer of the thought-provoking one-woman show "Angry Black Woman 101". As a co-choreographer, she is behind the creative vision of the "Fat Flash Mob". Kathryn also serves as a moderator for the "Good Men Project", using her platform to advocate for important issues. In addition to her work as a performer, Kathryn is the Co-Artistic Director for the Bay Area Women's Theater Festival, further solidifying her commitment to elevating and empowering female voices in the arts.

My Bakery, My Choice is a small bakery that donates 100% of its proceeds to abortion access funds to those in states where the procedure is banned. It is run by Nan, a star baker and mother of the best friend of Zoe, who also bakes a bit, but mainly helps with the bureaucratic elements. As Californians, Nan and Zoe feel it is our obligation to help those seeking abortion all across these "United" States.  You can reach Zoe and Nan through Zoe's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/zstricker Please check out the event that Nika will be appearing at next week - on Polyamory - https://www.elizabethcunningham.love/event/the-summit

Recently we had a four guest panel to have some Real Talk on Sex work with our special guests Jasmine, Auntie Vice (Rebecca Blanton), Cathy Reisenwitz, and Kathryn.  

 Jasmine is a Psychotherapist, the owner and lead therapist of Blue Pearl Therapy.  Jasmine co-owns, with partner King Noire, award-winning Royal Fetish Films and together have over 20 years of experience as adult entertainers, directors and producers.Their work on the Decolonization of Sex & Porn and Politics has been featured in Huffington Post, Rolling Stones, Paper Magazine, VICE, Playboy, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, BBC, Psychology Today and more. 

Auntie Vice is a kink educator and writer. They run the award-winning blog Love Letters to a Unicorn and have published 3 non-fiction works about BDSM. Their work uses an academic approach to understanding identity, intrapersonal power dynamics, gender, and sexuality. They also run the podcast Fat Chicks on Top.

Cathy Reisenwitz is a writer with bylines in TechCrunch, The Week, VICE, Daily Beast, and other publications. Her newsletter is Sex and the State.

Kathryn is a burlesque performer, sex educator, and a former pro-domme and sex worker of over 20 years.

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You can keep up with our guests and follow them:  jetsettingjasmine.com / royalfetishxxx.com / @jetsetjasmine

Cathy’s Newsletter: Sex and the State: http://cathyreisenwitz.substack.com; Twitter: @cathyreisenwitz.

AuntieVice.com; LoveLettersToAUnicorn.com; Fat Chicks on Top Podcast on all streaming services; @AuntieVice on Twitter, Instagram, Reddit, TikTok, Facebook, and FetLife

 Kathryn can be found at juicydlight on all platforms. She emcees burlesque shows for Hubba Hubba Revue at the DNA Lounge in SF.

Part TWO of our episode of Real Talk on Coming Home for the Holidays with special guests Rachel Grant and Kathleen Hearod.

Kathleen Hearod is an advocate for healthy sexual life experiences and prevention of sexual trauma. Kathleen is the author of the book “Hurt People Help People” and “Things I Wish I Knew”. Kathleen is a sexual abuse survivor and minister. Kathleen helps individuals have conversations about preventing child sexual abuse with a focus on reporting. Kathleen also shares tools to help manage  life after trauma and minimize long term effects of triggers including daily care, self-releasing and event care. All of Kathleen’s work is based on life experiences and guided practices she has used over the years.

You can find more resources from Kathleen and follow her work at https://linktr.ee/khconsciouscoach

Rachel is the owner and founder of Rachel Grant Coaching and is a Sexual Abuse Recovery Coach and M.A. in Counseling Psychology. She is also the author of Beyond Surviving: The Final Stage in Recovery from Sexual Abuse.

Based on her educational training, study of neuroscience, and lessons learned from her own journey, she has successfully used the Beyond Surviving Program since 2007 to help survivors break free from the pain of abuse and finally move on with their lives.

You can follow Rachel’s work at:

www.rachelgrantcoaching.com ; www.facebook.com/realtalkwithrachel, instagram.com/coachrachelgrant ; www.tiktok.com/@coachrachelgrant

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Today we will be having some Real Talk on Coming Home for the Holidays with special guests Rachel Grant and Kathleen Hearod.

Kathleen Hearod is an advocate for healthy sexual life experiences and prevention of sexual trauma. Kathleen is the author of the book “Hurt People Help People” and “Things I Wish I Knew”. Kathleen is a sexual abuse survivor and minister. Kathleen helps individuals have conversations about preventing child sexual abuse with a focus on reporting. Kathleen also shares tools to help manage  life after trauma and minimize long term effects of triggers including daily care, self-releasing and event care. All of Kathleen’s work is based on life experiences and guided practices she has used over the years.

You can find more resources from Kathleen and follow her work at https://linktr.ee/khconsciouscoach

Rachel is the owner and founder of Rachel Grant Coaching and is a Sexual Abuse Recovery Coach and M.A. in Counseling Psychology. She is also the author of Beyond Surviving: The Final Stage in Recovery from Sexual Abuse.

Based on her educational training, study of neuroscience, and lessons learned from her own journey, she has successfully used the Beyond Surviving Program since 2007 to help survivors break free from the pain of abuse and finally move on with their lives.

You can follow Rachel’s work at:

www.rachelgrantcoaching.com ; www.facebook.com/realtalkwithrachel, instagram.com/coachrachelgrant ; www.tiktok.com/@coachrachelgrant

If you want bonus content from our episodes, access to exclusive goodies, and the knowledge that you'll be supporting our mission to create a world healed from shame, join our Patreon! By becoming a patron you support the production, editing, and marketing for our show. patreon.com/nikacherrelle. 

Shadybee is an Arabic Drag Queen from the  Middle East. In 2021 Shadybee decided to become a drag queen after finding many elements in drag she enjoys like sewing,  makeup, and crafts. Through her journey she has overcome racism and xenophobia while navigating what it means to find safe spaces within the LGBTQ+ community.

Follow Shadybee on IG @iamshadybee

This week we will be having some Real Talk on Sparking your Life with Cannabis with Cannabis Lifestyle expert and creator of The MariJayne Maven ™ An Entertaining & Educational, Cannabis Lifestyle Wellness & Multi Media Brand . As the MariJayne Maven, Tiffanee has compiled her knowledge over the years to create an all-encompassing lifestyle brand.

Tiffanee’s ultimate dream came true when she became a cannabis entrepreneur. She is obsessed with cleaning up the industry and providing plant-based education to patients and consumers alike; helping people create more joy in their lives with the "Power Flower."  It's her goal to help transform the 'taboos' of cannabis  with a brand mission to EDUCATE, ERADICATE, and ELEVATE ™. You can follow her work at themarijaynemaven@gmail.com ig: @themarijaynemaven

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Last week we had some Real Talk on Discovering Bondage with Pro Domme, Elise Graves. Elise has been a performer in BDSM for 15 years, a performer, director, and producer for BondageLiberation.com for 5+ years and has offered professional bondage experiences through BondageTherapy.com for 7+ years. It’s safe to say that Elise is obsessed with bondage :)

She is also 100% a switch, which is to say that she is a bondage slut.

You can support Elise's work on instagram @bondageliberation, and her website bondageliberation.com and bondagetherapy.com

Last week in spirit of Folsom Street Fair weekend we had some Real Talk on Healing the Soul through Kink with leather crafters, Dani and Seven of Sabersmyth. Sabersmyth is a queer-owned and operated leather maker based in Oregon, specializing in gear, garments, and lingerie that affirm the sensory needs of sensitive people. Each piece is made to last a lifetime with proper care, and strives to deliver on quality, functionality, and beauty.

Their attention to detail prioritizes comfort for the user, making pleasure accessible to even the most sensitive non-neurotypical queer. They recognize that leathers are not simply accessories, but creations with the potential to be spiritually bonded, gender and sexuality-affirming companions.

You can follow Sabersmyth at: 

@sabersmyth on Instagram

@lovesabersmyth on Twitter

u/sabersmyth on Reddit

@sabersmyth on FetLife

Last week we had some Real Talk with River Drosera. River is a somatic sex educator and sexological bodywork for queer folx and women seeking support with scar tissue remediation, reconnecting to pleasure after trauma, learning to ask for what they want, and honoring their body’s internal wisdom. They offer both online support and in-person sessions in Sacramento, CA. River is also the creator of The Erotic Arts Project, a queer-centered online space that offers workshops and courses celebrating the erotic and creative body.

www.RiverDrosera.life

IG/TikTok/twitter @river_drosera

www.TheEroticArtsProject.life

IG: @pleasurable_creativity

Last week we had some Real Talk on Aftercare with trailblazing educator, s*xologist, artist, and irritant to banality, @planetmidori! Trailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women's Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, "Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage" in 2001, paving the way to the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the "Super Nova of Kink," while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching.

Midori is the Co-Director of Curriculum for Kink Informed Certification, part of Sexual Health Alliance, training therapists and helping professional to provide safe, compassionate, and inclusive service to their clients. She is the recipient of the 2022 Humanitarian Award from the American Association of Sex Educators Therapists & Counselors (AASECT) and 2022 Effing Foundation Grant, along with having honored with a Sainthood by the Sisters of Perpetual indulgence.

She is also the author of "Wild Side Sex," "Master Han's Daughter," and "Silk Threads.”

Learn, laugh, and enjoy her special online classes, events, and art on patreon @PlanetMidori (this is where she is working on her next shibari book through this site!)

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This week we will be having some Real Talk on the Divinity of Sex Magick with Iris Divine.

Iris Divine (@irisdivinemessages) has had the gift of divine communication as a child for as long as she can remember. As she grew in age and abilities her heart continued to pull her away from the Christianic background as she continued to question her place within the religion. Eventually her heart and The Most High led her to divination via Tarot, Astrology, Meditation giving her the peace she longed to experience. Now as a Hoodoo practitioner and Divination Counselor who has found her healing, she is ready to help others do the same. Iris continues to do healing work for her community via her divination services and donating her time and labor to Black Liberation. Iris believes that her purpose is to help connect her community to their spirituality and own life purpose, one card at a time.

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This week we will be having some Real Talk on having “The Talk” with our guest Olivia Sawi.

Olivia Gail Labalan Sawi is an educator, instructor, facilitator, and coach. She has been with her wife Annie Aarons-Sawi for 14 years, and they live in a multigenerational home with their child. Olivia is on the board of the Center for Babaylan Studies and produces the podcast Kultivating Kapwa with her dear friend and host Jana Lynne Umipig. Olivia’s life experiences help guide her desire to assist people in searching for their deeper meaning and purpose, and in achieving their full potential.

You can follow Olivia at @oliviaofdoom, and listen to her podcast, @kultivatingkapwa

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Last week we had some Real Talk on the Erotic Arts with 'Internationally known, Minnesota grown' RedBone! RedBone is one of the biggest names in burlesque! She began traveling the world as one of the Wham Bam Thank You Ma’ams, backing up the infamous Foxy Tann in her quest for world domination in 2005. RedBone has featured at Viva Las Vegas Rockabilly Weekend, is the 2019 reigning 'Princess of Burlesque' of The Miss Exotic World competition at The Burlesque Hall of Fame Weekender in Las Vegas and 2016-2022 made 21st Century Burlesque Magazine Top 50 Most Influential Industry Figures!!

Owner of Cyclone Enterprises, a production company focused on Black, Brown & Queer Fringe Arts Entertainment, she is also co-founder of The Nudie Nubie’s Show -- An Amateur Reveal established in 2013 designed to support & elevate the 4 years and under generation of teasers. Since 2014, RedBone has made it a priority to prevent ashiness by glamorously & naturally hydrating the skin of humans across the globe with her product Glam Jam -- an all-natural glitter lotion stick aka “Glo-tion For Your Motion".

Last week we had some real talk on shadow work with Amber Rose. Amber Rose is the creator of Zen Af Vibe, All Natural Energy infused offerings, and also the Creator of Lovesit, where she cares for pets, plants, and property. Amber has been practicing, studying, and dedicated to holistic health for the past 10 years. She has an AA in Human Services and Chemical Dependency. She 11+ years sober and intentionally/medicinally uses cannabis and shrooms. Amber is blessed with high sensitivity, empathic abilities, on point intuition, and lives heart centered. She is passionate about natural ways to feel our best, energy work, nature, cosmic/sacred sexuality, advocating, acts of kindness, healing generational trauma and unhealthy patterns and creating safe space.

You can follow Amber on Instagram at @zenafvibe.

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Today I will be joined by Betty Marcon and Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA), Elizabeth Crosby @ezcrosby to have some Real Talk on SCOTUS’s recent decision. As a Court Appointed Special Advocate, Elizabeth Crosby supports ab*sed and neglected children in court cases, and she can testify that there is nothing “pro-life” about forcing unwanted births and increasing the population of mistreated children. Betty is proud to have been around since the original Roe v Wade case, and together we are going to have a live discussion about this issue. We encourage you to tune in LIVE at 12pm PST/3pm EST, join our conversation, and make your voices heard!

We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general Welfare, and secure the Blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity (all future generations of people.)

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Last week we had some real talk on Sexpectations with our muse, Jet Noir (@jetnoirmuse on Instagram). Jet  has been involved in sex positive communities since 2002 in Atlanta. As a Kinesiologist, educated in the study of human movement and psychology, he has spent years coaching people to improve their perception of their bodies. He has taught workshops on improving the relationship we have with our five senses, otherwise known as interoception. Jet has lectured on a wide variety of topics, including unpacking racial fetishization, humor in Sex Education, and navigating consent, internationally. He’s done clip work and education workshops for Kink dot com. He’s a co-organizer of Express Yourself, a play party for people of color by people of color, in Oakland and frequently volunteers as an emotional support “Angel” in support of sex positive communities. In his spare time (ha), he’s a part of the BIPOC Collective’s Wellness Committee. Jet is a published author and enjoys writing reviews for sex toys and porn. Jet lives in Oakland, CA with his two cats. You can follow and support Jet's work at https://linktr.ee/JetNoir

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This week we will be having some real talk about being Thick and Juicy with Auntie Vice. Auntie Vice is a kink writer, educator, and performer. They host the podcast Fat Chicks on Top. Her work includes several kink books and the award-winning blog LoveLettersToAUnicorn.com.  She has a Ph.D. in Political Psychology and worked in politics until pursuing the more respectable profession of kink writing.

You can learn more about Auntie Vice and follow their work at:

@AuntieVice on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Reddit, TikTok, and Fetlife

LoveLettersToAUnicorn.com blog

Fat Chicks on Top podcast (all streaming services)

AuntieVice.com (professional blog)

Books on Amazon, Google Play, and Barnes and Noble under Rebecca Blanton

This week we will be having some Real Talk on Sensual Intelligence with our special guest, Shawnrey Notto.

Shawnrey is an internationally paid facilitator in embodiment, empowerment, sensuality, and self-love. Through her work she inspires people to rediscover their joy, pleasure, and freedom, as well as build confidence in their bodies, intimate relationships, and lives!

She is the Bestselling Author of Sensual Intelligence: The Lost IQ, which guides readers on how to “seduce themselves to joy and fall in love with their bodies.” #1 NYT Bestselling Author, Marci Shimoff, says about the book, “BEAUTIFUL! [...] Her teaching will change your life.”

Shawnrey blends 15+ years of dance, erotic poetry, and mindfulness to help people heal cycles of shame and suppression so they can connect mind, body, spirit, and pleasure. She believes that we can change the world when we heal our relationship with our bodies.

You can support Shawnrey’s work and follow her on Instagram, @shawnreynotto, and her website: www.Shawnrey.com

This week we will have some Real Talk on Spicing Up Date Night with Chef Nikki Shaw.

Bringing her passion for food and appetite for adventure, celebrity Chef Nikki Shaw is committed to spreading awareness of and preventing heart disease, diabetes and high blood pressure. She is a partner for the restaurants and concessions at Oakland International Airport. In addition, Chef Nikki is a trained media spokesperson specializing in recipe development and product endorsement for major corporations. She has been a featured chef for the American Diabetes Association, American Heart Association and Kaiser Permanente. She conducts healthy cooking demonstrations and educates communities about the importance of making smart food choices and staying physically active, on TV and in-person.

Chef Nikki is a featured Media Chef for the Oakland A’s, promoting the teams Community Wellness Campaign. She is a featured Chef/Instructor for the Golden State Warriors community outreach programs, offering information and recipes to help prevent childhood obesity. She is the Chair of the Oakland Teen Empowerment Program, which teaches inner-city girls valuable life skills and helps them get into college.

Chef Nikki has appeared on Food Network as a finalist on The Next Food Network Star and she was also featured on the hit VH1 show Basketball Wives.

Chef Nikki graduated with honors from Howard University in Washington D.C. with a Bachelor’s degree in Journalism. She graduated as a Chef from the Southeastern Culinary Academy and completed her internship at Disney World in Orlando, Florida. She and her husband reside in California with their children.

Social Media: Chef Nikki Shaw

Website: www.chefnikkishaw.com

This week we will be having some real talk on Transformative Sëxual Spaces with our guest, Misha. Misha coproduces Bonobo Network where she passionately supports sex positive community and helps pleasure seekers worldwide to create more of what they want for themselves. Her private practice focuses on conflict resolution and communication coaching and she loves supporting her clients in creating sustainable, long-term relationship building. She is a recent graduate of Somatica Institute and is now offering an even bigger menu of sex and relationship coaching in her private coaching practice.

You can learn more about Misha and support her work at:

http://www.clearingconversations.com - misha@clearingconversations.com

http://www.bonobonetwork.com - misha@bonobonetwork.com

Insta @bonobonetwork

http://bit.ly/slutsecure

This week we will be having some real talk on pleasure with The Queen Rev. Mutima Imani

Mutima Imani (@mutimaimani) is a Spiritual and Sexuality Student/Teacher. Her signature body of work is called Healing the Heart of Humanity, and she provides 21st Century Tools for Personal/Professional Development and Transformation.

You can learn more about Mutima's work at www.mutimaimani.com. 

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This week, we will be having some Real Talk on Impact Play with our guest, Deborah Kat.

Deborah Kat was born and raised in San Francisco, surrounded by the beautiful California coastline and alternative culture.

She leads monthly classes exploring the edges of sexuality and spirit combining her diverse background in Tantra, massage, and BDSM to support men and couples in clearing shame to have satisfying relationships and masterful sex. She just launched podcast "The Better Sex Podcast"

She firmly believes in the transformational power of desire and looks forward to utilizing her knowledge and experience in support of deeper surrender into bliss for all.

She is trained in the Somatica Method, a certified Tantric Educator, Bondassage Trainer and Orgasmic Meditation (OM) Desire Coach.

Last but not least she is the SF Bay area host for Tantra Seed Date.

You can learn more about Deborah at deborahkat.com, and follow her on instagram @deborahtantrakat

Tune in LIVE tomorrow at noon PST on you tube, and listen next week wherever you stream your podcasts. Remember to submit any questions you might have for our guest before the show!

This week we will be having some Real Talk on the subject of Belonging, featuring our wonderful guest Ali Bravo.

Ali is an artist, leatherworker, and seamstress. She recently launched her own business called Raptrix, where she makes small batch leather bondage gear out of upcycled leather and sustainable leather alternatives. She is also a leader and organizer of ForLove, an organization striving to build equitable, trauma informed, and privilege informed spaces for sexual liberation. She is fascinated by the intersection between kink and trauma transformation, and facilitates groups exploring embodiment and self acceptance.

Ali is passionate about honoring the full spectrum of ourselves so that we may honor the same in others and is a fierce advocate for everyone’s worthiness to feel pleasure and at home in their bodies.

You can support Ali’s work by following @raptorbravo, @kahlilacc, @raptrix, and @empress.of.bones on instagram.

This week’s special guest for the “It” Cast: Real Talk on Sex Podcast is Dr. Day, and we are going to be sharing some real talk on medical racism and how to combat it through empowering communities from within.

The cumulative events of the pandemic in addition to the worldwide calls for racial justice of 2020 have sparked discussions about another virus which is pervasive in our country: racism.

Unsurprisingly, there is a strong relationship between racism and the medical industry. Dr. Day and I will be discussing the ways that medical racism manifests in our society, it’s effects on patients of color, and how Dr. Day’s work teaches us to empower ourselves through wellness practices and community support.

Dr. Day is the CEO and Founder of IWokeWellness.  After seeing firsthand how systemic racism affects us all, they have devoted themselves to spreading wellness within communities.  They are Afro-Latina, a former EMT, a physiologist, and are well on their way to becoming a doctor of chiropractic!

You can follow Dr. Day’s work at @dr.day_, or @iwokewellness.

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This week on The "It" Cast We will be talking about Eroticism with our  Guest this week is Lorina Manzanita.  Lorina Manzanita MA, SEP is a Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach and  SE Trauma Resolution Practitioner. Her work integrates a number of  healing systems that honor mindfulness and the body's intelligence. She  helps individuals and partners cultivate essential skills and transform  traumas so that they can experience more and more pleasure, presence and  potency in their lives and relationships. With yum, laughter,  intelligence and love Lorina crafts healing and learning experiences to  help people around the issues of Eros, desire, boundaries, intimacy,  sexual integrity and more.

This week on The "It" Cast We will be talking about opening up to  masculine vulnerability and what that makes available in breaking down  societal gender norms. Our Guest this week is Andre Lazarus.  Andre is an Intimacy Guide and Sacred Intimate. "I’ve felt connected to  my sexual energy my whole life but didn’t always understand my full  sexual power. My work incorporates embodied empathy, intimate touch,  BDSM, altered states of consciousness and spirituality to guide clients  on a journey of sexual awakening. I am trained in the Somatic Sex and  Intimacy Method and will begin Surrogate Partner training next year  through the International Professional Surrogates Association (IPSA)"

This week on The "It" Cast we will be discussing sex, but not just sex. This episode is a real talk on Sex As a Revolutionary Act! A new perspective that will help your sexuality grow in a positive way.   For this, we have Carol Queen as our guest and I couldn't feel more honored to share this talk with her.   She is Staff Sexologist and Company Historian at Good Vibrations, the women-founded sex shop, where she has worked since 1990; she also curates its Antique Vibrator Museum. A noted cultural sexologist whose work has been widely published, she's written, co-authored, or edited several books and frequently provides media commentary about sexuality-related issues.

Today The "It" Cast will be discussing Body Love and With Lyuba Venable!  She is a coach, trainer, and public speaker. Through her open and vulnerable speaking style, Lyuba leaves audiences inspired, open to honesty, and interested in new possibilities.

Consent has been evolving over the years, and it’s best to understand how we got there to keep growing and building a better world.   La’Dajia is a part-time law student and full-time dream chaser that already got a degree in International Relations, with a discipline in History and American Culture. Our perfect guide to understanding today’s topic.

What is love? Is it an action or a feeling? Join the It Cast to hear and participate in a real talk on love, with Sol & Daniel Lewis, a couple that has been together for over 11 years.

In this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, I will be joined by Kathleen Hearod, Author & Conscious Coach, to discuss the topic of Rape Culture. We will be diving into the topic of How to recognize predators.Understanding the significance of reporting Historic context of rape and sex in the black community.   Kathleen Hearod is a CMC, Conscious Mind Coach and author whose primary focus is helping individuals develop their conscious awareness levels. Her desire is to master conversations around taboo topics and to set higher expectations.  After experiences trauma as a child, Kathleen began to study, track and monitor results of behaviors associated with those of African American descent from broken homes and suffering from the residual affects of slavery. Her passion quickly grew into a desire to become an expert in the field of communicating how to create expectations, set boundaries and values within the family to decrease poverty, pain, childhood trauma and to crush the fatherless family model.  I’m extremely excited to talk with her, and I hope you all tune into this meaningful conversation

In this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, I will gather with Daniel, Luckie, and Alix to discuss the topic of  Domestic Violence (Toward The Masculine Archetype). We will be talking with masculine of center Abuse Survivors and get an insight into their experiences.

In this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, I will be joined by Erin Thompson to discuss the topic of healing from cultural trauma. In this episode,  the "It" Cast is getting back to Sex. The S Word Project is a non-profit that sets teens up to win at life by creating a safe space for them to learn and talk about sex and relationships. Erin also teaches parents how to speak with their children about sex, reducing the perpetuated cycles of trauma that can result from a lack of education.

In this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, I will be joined by Inez Teemer, Maggie Rast, Kim Harrington, Warren Varney, Ellen Morrison & Dr. Rita Fierro to discuss the topic Healing Historic Trauma. In this second part, We are looking at the impact of institutionalized & Systemic Racism in the US.

In this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, hypnotherapist Kristin Rivas, community correspondent Betty Marcon and I discuss the topic of healing religious trauma—how can religion play a significant role in developing sexual identity and the impacts that can have.

In this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, I was joined by Pat Gimeno, Founder of Holistic Love Neighborhood to discuss the heavy topic of gun violence. We will be discussing the topics of US shooting and sexual shame—two disparate topics that are actually connected.

On this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, I will be speaking with SF Pride Community Grand Marshals Melonie & Melorra Green.   Melonie and Melorra are Co-Executive Directors of the African American Art & Culture Complex (AAACC) located in San Francisco’s Fillmore/Western Addition neighborhood. Their involvement in the community has inspired and empowered Black people to tell their stories and uphold their truths. Listen to this inspiring podcast to learn more and continue celebrating Pride month.

On this week’s episode of The “It” Cast we are looking at the impact of slavery in the US and the current social climate. Tune in to hear our speaker's personal stories and professional insight. Listen to this impactful podcast on healing historic trauma.

On this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, going with the theme of Juneteenth, I will be joined by Dr. Sarah Webb to discuss colorism—a topic that is more important than ever to learn about in the current social and political climate.

On this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, to continue the month-long theme surrounding pride, there will be a conversation that looks at the dangers of internalizing shame, shame-based thinking, and the use of shame to teach or modify behaviors

Tune in for an amazing and honest talk.

On this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, I am joined by Elisa Ouien as we talk about the history of genitals and pride, to celebrate the beginning of Pride Month⁠ ⁠ Tune into this episode to hear about the origins of circumcision, castration, and many more topics that are normally considered too "taboo".⁠ ⁠

In this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, I am joined by Jackie Rotman, the CEO and Founder of the Center for Intimacy Justice as we talk about intimacy justice—gender-based ads, policy restrictions, and much more!

Tune into this episode to hear from an expert, and to listen to an honest and open conversation!

In this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, I am joined by Star Love as we talk about gender—gender expectations, gender privilege, gender-based violence, and so much more.

Tune into this episode to learn more about the complicated gender relations in society, or if you just want to listen to an honest and open podcast.

On this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, I am joined by Melinda Gray as we talk about racism—who participates in racism, who benefits from it, and the nuances of it.

Now, more than ever, this episode is relevant and necessary for people to hear, so tune in for this honest and open episode!

On this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, I am joined by Poet-Author Natasha El-Scari as we talk about motherhood aligned with the month’s theme of Mother’s Day—specifically about raising a Black man in America.

If you are a mother, know a woman who is a mother, or want to learn about the nuances of raising a Black man, or just want to listen to an honest and open podcast, tune in to this episode!

On this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, I am joined by correspondent Luckie as we talk about porn education—specifically ethical, safe, and educational porn.

If you have your own doubts about the ethics of the porn industry, want to learn more about these aspects of porn, or just want to listen to an honest and open podcast, tune in to this episode!

On this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, I am joined by Anna Colibri as we talk about dating  after loss, going through grief, and Shadow work!

If you have ever had to go through dating after loss, anxious about how to love after grief, or just want to listen to an honest and open podcast, check out this episode!

On this week’s episode of The “It” Cast, I am joined by Kim as we talk about sexuality and spirituality, ways that sex can be meditative, and energy exchange Easter!

If you are curious about sex’s #spiritual elements, the #meditative benefits of #sex, or just want to listen to an open and honest podast , you do not want to miss this new episode!

Listen to Nika Cherrelle, with Ethology Collective, West Coast Jungle Gym, POCKLE & Invisible Men, talk about the nuanes of ageplay. 

Listen to Nika Cherrelle and Marlu Soria, conscious beauty expert, discuss the shifting beauty standards in our society! 

Listen to Nika Cherrelle and Kim talk about the importance of orgasms!

Listen to Nika Cherrelle and Luckie Alexander, the founder of Invisible Men, talk about the nuances of trans health.

Nika and Kim discuss what is a safe sex toy in an unregulated industry.

Nika and Kim chat with guest Tony Rogers about Weaponized Privilege.

Nika and Betty Discuss the impacts of invisible privilege.

Our 2021 Valentine's Day Episode

Nika and Kim discuss what privilege looks like in America.

This episode features an interview on human trafficking with Lisa B. Of The Grateful Garment Project. Trigger Warning: This episode feature content that may be sensitive for some listeners.

This episode is our a part of our Ask An Elder Series. The Ask An Elder Series is an annual cross generational conversation on health and sexuality. Focusing on how we relate to sexuality as we age, and the cultural and social changes that occur around sexuality over time.

In this episode Nika Discusses how politics affect our live now and for the years ahead.

In this episode Nika is joined by Ethology Collective and Erica AKA Rix an avid BDSM & kink Ambassador to discuss what consent looks like inside the realm of kink and pleasure play.

This episode features a collection of powerful poets and their work discussing being black queer and in love!

In this episode on Allyship Nika has a powerful conversation with the Sum of Us community to discuss what allyship is, what it can look like and what it is not. Tune in to learn more.

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This episode is our a part of our Ask An Elder Series. The Ask An Elder  Series is an annual cross generational conversation on health and  sexuality. Focusing on how we relate to sexuality as we age, and the  cultural and social changes that occur around sexuality over time. This panel features Rev. Mutima Imani, Juicy D. Light, Tarita Thomas & Kin Folkz

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