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Non-Monogamy Help

By Lola Phoenix

Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
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Episode 103 - Rose Tinted Glasses

Non-Monogamy HelpMar 17, 2023

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Episode 103 - Rose Tinted Glasses

Episode 103 - Rose Tinted Glasses

Picking polyamory because you don’t politically agree with monogamy doesn’t necessarily mean that you won’t experience any negative emotions. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Mar 17, 202323:09
Episode 102 - Clear Communication

Episode 102 - Clear Communication

Polyamory won’t solve an issue where you don’t believe people when they tell you they are interested in you and this podcast explains why. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Mar 03, 202316:23
Episode 101 - Reconciliation or Retribution

Episode 101 - Reconciliation or Retribution

Your new non-monogamous relationship has begun from cheating — and your partner wants to keep dating the person they cheated with. How do you rebuild trust from that? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Feb 17, 202321:53
Episode 100 - Monogamy Is Not A Belief

Episode 100 - Monogamy Is Not A Belief

You can ask yourself if monogamous people can “change” or you can ask yourself why you keep choosing to expect monogamous people will change for you. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jan 27, 202334:46
Episode 99 - Long Distance Jealousy

Episode 99 - Long Distance Jealousy

It’s hard when you’re in a long distance relationship and someone else gets to be with your partner when you can’t. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jan 13, 202324:55
Episode 98 - Mixed Signals is a Signal

Episode 98 - Mixed Signals is a Signal

Learn how to step away from not only mixed signals but also from managing your partner’s other relationships. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Dec 30, 202218:23
Episode 97 - When to Say When

Episode 97 - When to Say When

Non-monogamy is *not* about building a series of unfulfilling relationships until you reach a permissible stasis. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Dec 16, 202220:10
Episode 96 - Needing Distance After Dates

Episode 96 - Needing Distance After Dates

Your partner comes home from a date and needs reassurance, but you can’t give it in that moment. Is this something to overcome? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Dec 02, 202224:51
Episode 95 - Secretly Non-Monogamous

Episode 95 - Secretly Non-Monogamous

If you’re not sure if you’re really non-monogamous or not, how do you label yourself on dating sites to make sure you’re not doing something wrong? Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Nov 18, 202216:30
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Non-Monogamy Help Trailer

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Nov 12, 202201:01
Episode 94 - Clashing Triggers

Episode 94 - Clashing Triggers

It triggers you to open the relationship but it triggers your partner to close it. Is there any way to solve it? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Nov 04, 202244:38
Episode 93 - Meeting Metamours

Episode 93 - Meeting Metamours

A metamour not wanting to meet you is not always a sign of insecurity or jealousy but demanding to meet and be friends with a metamour might actually be about insecurity. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Oct 21, 202220:17
Episode 92 - Unclear Boundaries

Episode 92 - Unclear Boundaries

Sometimes people are jerks and sometimes experiences help us learn when we can also step away. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Oct 07, 202228:53
Episode 91 - Hierarchies and Ethics

Episode 91 - Hierarchies and Ethics

Some people think having a “primary” partner is always an unethical decision but isn’t prioritising a long term marriage logical? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Sep 23, 202233:09
Episode 90 - Breakup News

Episode 90 - Breakup News

Mentioning that you’re going through a breakup is not an expectation of emotional support to new partners, friends or anyone else. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Sep 02, 202217:53
Episode 89 - Mismatched Drives

Episode 89 - Mismatched Drives

Will opening a relationship help if one partner expects spontaneous sex but the other is dealing with a stressful job and anxiety medication? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Aug 19, 202229:35
Episode 88 - One Rule to Rule Them All

Episode 88 - One Rule to Rule Them All

Sometimes making a rule causes the exact problem that the rule is designed to prevent. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Aug 05, 202220:32
Episode 87 - Showering Rules

Episode 87 - Showering Rules

When having strict rules makes you feel controlled, coming to a compromise with a partner who wants a specific thing can seem impossible. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Jul 15, 202218:03
Episode 86 - No Exes as Friends

Episode 86 - No Exes as Friends

Your new partner demands, during a period of grief, that you stop being friends with an ex and now might not be the best time to push back on the ultimatum. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Jul 08, 202223:29
Episode 85 - Insecurity and Comparisons

Episode 85 - Insecurity and Comparisons

You want to be non-monogamous but you can’t stop feeling a way about your partner commenting or liking pictures of others. How do you deal? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Jun 24, 202225:49
Episode 84 - Disclosure and Outing

Episode 84 - Disclosure and Outing

You’re in a not so open minded city. How do you tell people you want to date that you’re currently in a polyamorous or open relationship? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Jun 10, 202220:43
Episode 83 - Recycled Dates

Episode 83 - Recycled Dates

What happens when you’re trying non-monogamy for the first time, but you and your partner can’t come to an agreement on things like not going to the same places they’ve taken a metamour? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
May 27, 202235:05
Episode 82 - Dating Metamours

Episode 82 - Dating Metamours

When your shared partner is making you both feel like you’re a triad when you’ve never agreed to that… it can get a little awkward. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
May 13, 202215:00
Episode 81 - Just FOMO

Episode 81 - Just FOMO

Thinking about the things you might be missing out on doesn’t, in fact, make you a jerk. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Apr 29, 202218:20
Episode 80 - Trying to Convince

Episode 80 - Trying to Convince

If you’re trying to convince your partner to be polyamorous, you may not be able to “fix” them wanting monogamy. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Apr 08, 202215:16
Episode 79 - Outside Veto

Episode 79 - Outside Veto

This week's episode is about what happens when a mutual friend is unhappy with the relationship building happening between you and someone else. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Apr 01, 202219:44
Episode 78 - Not Good Enough

Episode 78 - Not Good Enough

Sometimes when your partner wants non-monogamy you can be left feeling like you’ve failed or not done enough. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Mar 11, 202221:40
Episode 77 - Making the Leap

Episode 77 - Making the Leap

If non-monogamy is a no go, should you say goodbye to a five year relationship on a hunch? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Feb 25, 202216:48
Episode 76 - No Way Out

Episode 76 - No Way Out

If you feel you’re between crushing emotions and a family breakdown, you might feel like there’s no way out. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Feb 11, 202228:39
Episode 75 - Overreacting

Episode 75 - Overreacting

Your short term partner is snapping and says it’s a joke and your long term partner says you’re overreacting. How do you deal? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Jan 28, 202216:59
Episode 74 - Dating Family

Episode 74 - Dating Family

In starting out in polyamory, most people want to make rules — like no dating friends or family. It’s worth thinking more about that rule. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! More about Non-Monogamy Help: Read the column Subscribe to the newsletter Become a patron Follow us on Twitter Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.
Jan 14, 202218:13
Episode 73 - Caveat Emptor

Episode 73 - Caveat Emptor

It’s easy to think you might be interest in non-monogamy, but what if you have some conflicting feelings when theory becomes practice?
Jan 01, 202219:33
Episode 72 - Problematic Pedestal

Episode 72 - Problematic Pedestal

When you put one partner on a pedestal, it can cause a lot of constant anxiety. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help.
Dec 17, 202122:13
Episode 71 - Feelings and Friends

Episode 71 - Feelings and Friends

We create rules sometimes about what our partners can do because we’re afraid of losing them, but sometimes the rules we make don’t actually change anything.
Dec 03, 202119:51
Episode 70 - Half Ghosting

Episode 70 - Half Ghosting

What happens when your mutual partner ghosts you, but not your partner? Rejection sucks, but this feels a bit different. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What happens when your partner and your best friend don’t get along?
Nov 12, 202119:57
Episode 69 - Self-Sacrificing Too Much

Episode 69 - Self-Sacrificing Too Much

If you’ve given a partner 10 years in monogamy, but they expect you to be happy and feel compersion after deciding to be polyamorous, you might be self-sacrificing  a little too much.  That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What’s one major way your values have changed in the last 10 years?
Oct 29, 202125:34
Episode 68 - Mismatched Ideals

Episode 68 - Mismatched Ideals

If your partner is polyamorous but you are non-monogamous is your relationship doomed? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What is your ideal polyamory or non-monogamy set-up?
Oct 15, 202121:45
Episode 67 - Temporary Monogamy

Episode 67 - Temporary Monogamy

Can an aversion to non-monogamy come from relationship anxiety and trauma? Discussion Topic - What have you changed your mind about in terms of how you want to live your life?
Oct 01, 202134:11
Episode 66 - Hidden Metamour

Episode 66 - Hidden Metamour

Even if you have confusing boundaries and you’re not “official”, lying by omission can still feel like cheating. Discussion Topic - What is a non-monogamous setup that wouldn’t work for you?
Sep 17, 202115:22
Episode 65 - No Longer Primary

Episode 65 - No Longer Primary

How do you force yourself out of apathy if you feel the partner you want to settle down with is slipping away? Discussion Topic - How has your ideal lifestyle changed over time?
Sep 03, 202120:39
Episode 64 - What Rules to Have

Episode 64 - What Rules to Have

Will the rules you want to put in place prevent what you think they will prevent? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Aug 20, 202118:05
Episode 63 - Visualising Your Partner

Episode 63 - Visualising Your Partner

What if you can’t see your partner with someone else in your head without feeling terrible? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Aug 06, 202122:26
Episode 62 - More Metamour Toxicity

Episode 62 - More Metamour Toxicity

Your partner’s partner’s partner doesn’t seem like they’re good for your metamour, but what can you actually do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jul 23, 202118:57
Episode 61 - PTSD and Polyamory

Episode 61 - PTSD and Polyamory

A previous abusive experience of a polyam relationship is causing floods of emotions on your second try. Should you stop? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jul 09, 202127:53
Episode 60 - Temporarily Open

Episode 60 - Temporarily Open

Can opening your relationship temporarily work to address an incompatibility? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jun 18, 202122:05
Episode 59 - Feeling Disconnected

Episode 59 - Feeling Disconnected

If COVID caught a relationship when it was just forming, is it worth picking back up again if you’re feeling disconnected? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jun 04, 202118:28
Episode 58 - Sexual Incompatibility

Episode 58 - Sexual Incompatibility

After more than a decade, your partner wants to open up because he’s not happy, but you think things are going too fast. What do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
May 21, 202125:48
Episode 57 - Begging For Time

Episode 57 - Begging For Time

You’ve started in a new triad but you’re feeling like the third wheel and no one is spending time with you. What do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
May 07, 202121:29
Episode 56 - Escalating Past a Metamour

Episode 56 - Escalating Past a Metamour

Your partner is escalating your relationship and it’s making your metamour jealous. What can you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Apr 23, 202117:58
Episode 55 - How Much is Too Much

Episode 55 - How Much is Too Much

How much is too much to know about your partner’s other relationships? Where is the line? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Apr 09, 202125:49
Episode 54 - Sacrificing Too Much

Episode 54 - Sacrificing Too Much

When you're trying your best with polyamory but it feels like if you don't get it right, you may get divorced. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Mar 26, 202131:40
Episode 53 - Forgiving Mistakes

Episode 53 - Forgiving Mistakes

You have a metamour who thinks someone you're dating is a bad person. What do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Mar 12, 202128:16
Episode 52 - Anxious After Marriage

Episode 52 - Anxious After Marriage

Anxiety that's so overwhelming can make you feel like non-monogamy isn't for you at the time. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Feb 26, 202120:39
Episode 51 - Conversion Therapy

Episode 51 - Conversion Therapy

When you don't want to be polyamorous anymore and you're considering therapy to convert yourself back. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Feb 12, 202120:35
Episode 50 - What Is Love?

Episode 50 - What Is Love?

Your partner expects you to commit to monogamy eventually but you're not sure if you've ever been in love. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jan 15, 202120:49
Episode 49 - Wanting Monogamy

Episode 49 - Wanting Monogamy

A partner comes to you asking if you'd consider monogamy and then changes their mind later on, but you're still stuck on wanting it. What do you do? https://anchor.fm/dashboard/episode/e1s4f46
Jan 01, 202120:01
Episode 48 - Too Much NRE

Episode 48 - Too Much NRE

Is 18 months enough time to give someone to decide if they want polyamory?  That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Dec 18, 202033:49
Episode 47 - Harem Boy

Episode 47 - Harem Boy

Should you judge a guy who says that all men want a harem of submissive women? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Dec 04, 202029:19
Episode 46 - STI Risks

Episode 46 - STI Risks

How worried should you be about STI risk as an immunocompromised person? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Nov 20, 202032:29
Episode 45 - Sex Work and Polyamory

Episode 45 - Sex Work and Polyamory

What resources are available for someone who asks about dating a sex worker? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Nov 06, 202015:03
Episode 44 - You Don't Need 5 Partners

Episode 44 - You Don't Need 5 Partners

What happens when you struggle to find partners but your domestic partner does not? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Oct 23, 202017:10
Episode 43 - What if It Ends?

Episode 43 - What if It Ends?

What happens when our biggest fear is losing our current relationship? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Oct 09, 202026:51
Episode 42 - The Dreaded Veto

Episode 42 - The Dreaded Veto

When you've conceded to many rules but your partner demands you dump another, what do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Sep 25, 202032:03
Episode 41 - No Rules Just Wrong

Episode 41 - No Rules Just Wrong

In trying establish rules, does that make you less "ready" for non-monogamy or polyamory? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Sep 11, 202031:46
Episode 40 - Polyam is Valid

Episode 40 - Polyam is Valid

What if you're struggling to see the relationship you have as valid if they're married to someone else? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Aug 14, 202016:39
Episode 39 - Multiple Escalators

Episode 39 - Multiple Escalators

Is it possible to build a new primary relationship on top of an existing, serious secondary relationship? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jul 31, 202018:27
Episode 38 - Is Polyamory Part of Me?

Episode 38 - Is Polyamory Part of Me?

Is polyamory an inherent part of who you are or is it something you can learn to be. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jul 17, 202023:35
Episode 37 - Don't Want to Share

Episode 37 - Don't Want to Share

When you and your partner are dating the same person and you're tired of sharing. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jul 03, 202014:09
Episode 36 - Last Ditch Attempt

Episode 36 - Last Ditch Attempt

Should you go with polyamory to keep someone in your life? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jun 19, 202021:35
Episode 35 - Primary Responsibility

Episode 35 - Primary Responsibility

Do titles matter when one partner asks for exclusive time? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jun 05, 202011:28
Episode 34 - Afraid of Loss

Episode 34 - Afraid of Loss

Your partner doesn't want to try polyamory because they are afraid to lose you. How do you move forward from that? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
May 22, 202017:24
Episode 33 - Stuck in the Middle

Episode 33 - Stuck in the Middle

What happens when you feel stuck in the middle of your partner and their metamour? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
May 08, 202018:46
Episode 32 - Dating a Colleague

Episode 32 - Dating a Colleague

If you fell for someone at work and they're now off limits, should you keep pushing it? Is your partner giving you an unfair veto? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Apr 24, 202022:48
Episode 31 - So Uncomfortable

Episode 31 - So Uncomfortable

If you've replaced your partner's primary, how do you stop caring that you'll be replaced too? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Apr 10, 202020:01
Episode 30 - How to Not Care

Episode 30 - How to Not Care

If you've replaced your partner's primary, how do you stop caring that you'll be replaced too? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Mar 20, 202025:42
Episode 29 - Preventing Cheating

Episode 29 - Preventing Cheating

Can opening a relationship prevent cheating from ever happening? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Mar 06, 202023:29
Episode 28 - Unhealthy or Incompatible

Episode 28 - Unhealthy or Incompatible

What do you do if your partner wants no restrictions but you need reassurance that what you have means something? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Feb 21, 202032:02
Episode 27 - Signs of Seriousness

Episode 27 - Signs of Seriousness

How do you know your relationship is 'serious'? Is asking about it going to bug your partner too much? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Feb 07, 202026:10
Episode 26 - Flirting or Cheating

Episode 26 - Flirting or Cheating

What if your partner has always flirted in a way you define is cheating and now they want to be non-monogamous. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jan 24, 202025:53
Episode 25 - First Time Jitters

Episode 25 - First Time Jitters

If your first foray into non-monogamy is cheating - but it's not sexual - are you doomed? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jan 10, 202022:28
Episode 24 - Rules Won't Save You

Episode 24 - Rules Won't Save You

Can you make enough rules to prevent your partner from leaving you? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Dec 27, 201940:10
Episode 23 - Abusive Metamours

Episode 23 - Abusive Metamours

Your partner is trapped in what you think is a psychologically abusive relationship. Can you get them to leave? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Dec 13, 201928:33
Episode 22 - Backup Wife

Episode 22 - Backup Wife

A husband asks a wife to open their relationship after cancer, with some troubling caveats. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Nov 29, 201927:36
Episode 21 - Walking on Eggshells

Episode 21 - Walking on Eggshells

A metamour's temper has this individual walking on eggshells. Is it because they aren't doing enough? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Nov 15, 201926:23
Episode 20 - Ethical Non-Monogamy

Episode 20 - Ethical Non-Monogamy

Your marriage doesn't have passion but a new friendship does. How do make what's been unethical ethical? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Oct 18, 201927:13
Episode 19 - Is Polyamory Lazy?

Episode 19 - Is Polyamory Lazy?

Is polyamory just an easy way to go from person to person to get what you want. Or is there more to it than that? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Oct 04, 201922:10
Episode 18 - Monster of a Metamour

Episode 18 - Monster of a Metamour

You don't get along with your metamour and what's more -- you think they might be unhealthy for your partner. What do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Sep 20, 201928:12
Episode 17 - Delaying The Inevitable

Episode 17 - Delaying The Inevitable

Your partner has agreed to open your relationship, but you're afraid to make the first leap. Should you wait until they have a date first? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Sep 06, 201930:11
Episode 16 - Just Deal With It

Episode 16 - Just Deal With It

Your partner has told you that they want to sleep with other people and expects you to just deal with it. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Aug 23, 201917:54
Episode 15 - Fancying An Artist

Episode 15 - Fancying An Artist

Your partner has never been too keen on non-monogamy, but you have an appointment with an artist you can't resist. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Aug 09, 201914:05
Episode 14 - To Open or Not To Open

Episode 14 - To Open or Not To Open

Should you end a marriage with kids just because your partner wants to be explore? Or just wait it out? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jul 29, 201931:59
Episode 13 - I Wanna Ruin Our Friendship

Episode 13 - I Wanna Ruin Our Friendship

You've fallen for your (very monogamous) best friend. Should you take the plunge and 'ruin' your friendship? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jul 12, 201919:07
Episode 12 - Needing To Be Touched

Episode 12 - Needing To Be Touched

When your partner feels like they can’t touch anyone any more, are cheating or polyamory your only options? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jun 28, 201919:19
Episode 11 - Long Distance Lament

Episode 11 - Long Distance Lament

Your relationship has moved to long distance and your partner has a new partner... and is now ignoring your needs. What do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jun 14, 201925:58
Episode 10 - Forced into Polyamory

Episode 10 - Forced into Polyamory

Your partner wants to open your relationship, but you don't. And you have kids. What now? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
May 17, 201928:03
Episode 9 - Winning Gold Medals

Episode 9 - Winning Gold Medals

Are you giving your partner a gold medal for doing something they should be doing anyway? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
May 03, 201922:27
Episode 8 - Polyamorous and Pregnant

Episode 8 - Polyamorous and Pregnant

When a baby's on the way should you close the relationship if you feel you can't trust your partner? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Apr 19, 201927:34
Episode 7 - Polyagony

Episode 7 - Polyagony

Tired of juggling partners, living in polyagony, and ready to throw in the towel. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Apr 05, 201930:17
Episode 6: Polyam in the Middle

Episode 6: Polyam in the Middle

When an attempt at kitchen table polyamory goes awry and two of your loves can't see eye to eye. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Mar 22, 201924:19
Episode 5: Tricky Triangles and BPD

Episode 5: Tricky Triangles and BPD

When is a good time to try and see if you are non-monogamous? And how can borderline personality disorder impact it? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Mar 08, 201934:50
Episode 4: Getting Married As a Triad

Episode 4: Getting Married As a Triad

Is it possible to get married to both of the loves of your life? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Feb 22, 201917:05
Episode 3: Shouldn't this be easier if I've cheated?

Episode 3: Shouldn't this be easier if I've cheated?

What if you've tried non-monogamy because you cheated, and it's not working out as well as you thought? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website. Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com! Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Feb 08, 201924:32
Episode 2: STIs Don't Care About Feelings

Episode 2: STIs Don't Care About Feelings

What happens when your partner is fluid bonded with others but you want them to be fluid bonded to you instead? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jan 25, 201934:24
Episode 1: Thruple Trouble

Episode 1: Thruple Trouble

What do you do when you start dating a couple and things don't seem to be going right... but that's actually going according to plan? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.
Jan 11, 201919:28