The non.bi.nary Show
By Mika and Sam
The non.bi.nary ShowJul 31, 2023
In which Matilda Wormwood was Sam as a child
CW: discussions of abuse, neglect and trauma (and one brief mention of suicide)
Sam takes the mic to share her origin story, and how she may have had autistic representation in her life way sooner than she realised.
Are you neurodivergent? What representation do you see in the media?
Share your stories with us on our socials. Or, suggest a topic for us to discuss in a future episode!
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We are back!
After a LONGGGGG hiatus we return to the podcast by discussing what we've been up to in the last 18 months, and responding to a few emails that got lost in our inbox.
No music, no transitions, just us. Hope you welcome us back.
"But you don't look non-binary..."
We talk about our wardrobes and how we bend the gender norms of fashion to make ourselves feel good.
Please support our petition to make Mx more widely accessible! Visit https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/588348 to sign your name.
How do you reflect your gender through fashion? Share your stories with us on our socials. Or, suggest a topic for us to discuss in a future episode!
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n.e.w.s: One step forward for the US, three steps back for the UK
Your weekly roundup of queer-related news.
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Got a news story? Get in touch with us on our socials. Or, suggest a topic for us to discuss in a future episode!
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n.e.w.s: No trans rights, no gay rights, but no gender stereotypes??
Your weekly roundup of queer-related news.
Please support our petition to make Mx more widely accessible! Visit https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/588348 to sign your name.
Got a news story? Get in touch with us on our socials. Or, suggest a topic for us to discuss in a future episode!
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Does Netflix deserve our money?
TW: Lots of discussion of transphobia and some discussion of racism.
We are caught in a dilemma. Recording this episode helped us come to a decision.
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Are you cancelling your Netflix account over this issue? Share your stories with us on our socials. Or, suggest a topic for us to discuss in a future episode!
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n.e.w.s: Solidarity, Superman, and Stevie Nicks
Your weekly roundup of queer-related news.
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Attraction to bicycles and our sex-life
In this episode, we discuss the stereotypes we have faced as queer people, from the annoying to the downright insulting.
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What queer stereotypes have you encountered? Share your stories with us on our socials. Or, suggest a topic for us to discuss in a future episode!
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n.e.w.s: parking spaces and misgendering court cases
In a new segment on the podcast, we deliver a news report on the queer-related news of the week.
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Got a news story? Get in touch with us on our socials. Or, suggest a topic for us to discuss in a future episode!
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How to deal with people that won't support your identity
A request from a listener makes us think about who didn't support us when we came out, and what we wished they had done differently.
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What advice would you give to someone that feels unsupported? Share your stories with us on our socials. Or, suggest a topic for us to discuss in a future episode!
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Where the hell have we been?
We catch you up on what we've been up to the last few months, and a listener shares a very special moment with us.
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Season 2 is coming, people!
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A message for YOU
Yes, you. Because you can help us make a change.
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How can I make the words I use more gender-inclusive?
Featuring a lot of ranting about triggering language, and unfortunately a lot of laughter on our part.
News of the week: Lithuania's not-so-equal marriage equality act, a stolen pride flag, and the University of Edinburgh's new trans-inclusive language guidance.
How have you changed your language to include other genders? How do you like to be addressed? Share your stories with us on our socials. Or, suggest a topic for us to discuss in a future episode!
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Celebrate good times, come on!
We are back from our honeymoon! Featuring a scam we unfortunately fell for, Mika's English teacher in Lithuanian school, and aggressively hungry lambs. We also respond to a listener's DM, and share some of our podcast stats.
Please tell us which country you're listening from by getting in touch with us on our socials. Or, suggest a topic for us to discuss in a future episode!
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(Additional music is "Kazoom" and "Canal 3" by Quincas Moreira.)
UPDATED: The Story of Us
The wait is over - we are getting married today! We are inviting you to celebrate our love with us, so we have re-released our first episode. We hadn't recorded our intro and outro yet so it might sound a bit bare, but... we got rid of that annoying piano music in the background. You're welcome!
To kick off our podcast, we reminisced on how we started dating in between lockdowns, we read out our Tinder chat, and we shared some of the songs we listened to together in a steamed-up car. Juicy.
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It's getting harder to be openly trans in the US
We were nervous to cover this topic because so much is going on, but after the news in Arkansas, we had to.
Also featuring our first listener email, a nag at Boris Johnson to buy a hairbrush, and the story of a girl from Mika's childhood that turned out to be a transphobe.
We are also looking for stories from you! Do you or a straight person you know have a story behind how they realised they were straight? Get in touch with us on our socials. Or suggest a topic for us to discuss in a future episode!
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"Why do you have to shove your queerness in our faces?"
Featuring a mild graffiti shutdown in the UK, and a huge graffiti war in Lithuania.
News of the week: Bimini Bon Boulash mural painted over.
Have you ever been told you're showing off who you are 'too much'? Share your stories with us on our socials. Or, suggest a topic for us to discuss in a future episode!
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LGBTQ+ characters in video games
We show our appreciation for those creators that didn't back down. Featuring GayBlade, The Outer Worlds, Tell Me Why, The Last of Us, and The Sims. Just go play the Sims.
News of the week: We got interviewed by a Lithuanian journalist! We're also outraged over who won Drag Race UK.
Do you think we're being represented enough in video games? Share your opinions with us on our socials. Or, suggest a topic for us to discuss in a future episode!
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(Additional music is "8-Bit Dreamscape" by The Whole Other.)
Minisode: the "super straight" trend
A short and sweet look at the fact that there is no disguise for transphobia.
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Letting children see queer people
Featuring a reading of a pro-queer storybook, a brief look at Section 28, and a character called Sir Ambrosia Goldenloin.
Do you think children should know queer people exist? Share your opinions with us on our socials.
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(Story is "Part of the Party" by Chloe Gillie, and additional music is "Jigsaw Puzzle" by The Green Orbs.)
Love at first sight
Mika translates our Lithuanian listeners' opinions on this mysterious concept. Featuring happy and sad stories, and an introduction to demiromantics.
News of the week: Miriam Margolyes appreciation time!
Do you believe in love at first sight? Share your thoughts with us on our socials.
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Erasure
"The one thing they should erase is assumptions!" Featuring gaydar, lesbian pirates, and Sam's mom trying to downplay our wedding.
Have you ever had your queer identity erased? Get in touch with us on our socials to be featured in a future episode.
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Getting to know us
"If you clap on 1 and 3, Sam will slap you on 2 and 4."
Using questions from a random generator, we reveal our favourite smells, go-to dance moves, and secret internet names. And those fucking squirrels get mentioned again.
News of the week: Homophobic tweets about Luke Pollard showing love to his partner.
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Representation on TV (part 2)
Trigger warnings for mentions of homophobia, transphobia and HIV/AIDS.
We finish our discussion on our favourite shows that feature LGBTQ+ characters, and have an impartial conversation about cis and straight actors playing queer characters.
TV shows discussed: One Day at a Time, Bojack Horseman, Big Mouth, Jane the Virgin, Grace and Frankie, You Me Her, Rupaul's Drag Race, Queer Eye, It's a Sin.
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Representation on TV (part 1)
Trigger warnings for mentions of homophobia, transphobia, domestic violence and HIV/AIDS.
TV shows discussed: Golden Girls, Friends, Brooklyn 99, Steven Universe, The Good Place, Ellen, Glee.
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LGBT hate within the LGBT community
The takeaway message from this episode: "Hate is not an opinion." Featuring headteachers coming out to pupils, talk of Sam's bisexual rap, and gold and platinum star gays.
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Learning each other's languages
The deadline to send your toilet complaints to the UK government is Friday 26th February! Send them to toilets@communities.gov.uk
Car. Purse. 'Saw it'. Just some of the words Mika laughs at Sam's accent for. Mika also learns which part of the UK they speak like the most.
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Misgendering and public toilets
A very news-article-oriented episode, featuring Harry Potter, Eddie Izzard, and periods. And not even AI cares about your real name.
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Unnecessarily gendered products
Featuring dog bowls, free balloons, and onesies for thigh-hating babies. And as Mika so eloquently puts it, "If your poop is not pink, you're a piece of trash."
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Coming out stories
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Censoring music
We address the double standards around censored songs in Just Dance, and songs that were banned on the radio for stupid reasons.
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