Growing Big People with PS.

I was about 9 years old and in the early hours of the morning to escape my fathers violence I climbed out of my bedroom window and fled into the wintry night.

This is a story from my childhood, I am sharing this traumatic experience in the hope it helps anyone who can relate to be curious about your own trauma and continue to heal and grow from your own negative life experiences. 🙏🏼

We all have things in our childhood, I want to encourage you to go and sit with those memories that will help give you a key to your recovery and moving on.

Your life matters, and you can break generational patterns - and commit to do the work.

In part two of this podcast about my Relationship Wisdom I share more about these 3 points.

#3 - All Relationships Come With Distinct Energies

#4 - You cannot control other people’s behaviour, but you can limit the impact with boundaries.

#5 - Never make your emotional home in another person.

Here is part one of Paul Scanlon's Top 5 Relationship Wisdom.  

#1 - Relationships Are Spatial  

#2 - The Version Of Me In Your Head Is Not My Responsibility  

Has life been painting layers on you?

I want you to get back to the bare oak version of who you are.

Here is a preview from my online course - The Prosperity Of The Soul.

In this short episode I want to share with you about

• How to get back to the best version of you, free from labels
• The origins of The Ego.
• How to manage your ego.

Narcissism is all about a false self it’s a mask that people wear which slips over time and when it does you should be paying attention.

It’s the fear of appearing ordinary which drives them to exaggeration and showing off to appear extraordinary.

Don’t ever try to confront or change a narcissist it’s like trying to nail jelly to the wall. Wish them well and move away from their toxicity.

Here are my 10 signs to look out for when it comes to narcissism to avoid in others and look out for if you have them in yourself.

1. They are self obsessed, self promoting and self absorbed whilst pretending to be interested in you.

2. They brainwash you to believe that you need them in your life because their life is far superior.

3. They manipulate you into their version of you.

4. They make you question your thoughts and decisions in favour of theirs.

5. They will never respect your boundaries because they only see their own importance.

6. They don’t mind ignoring shaming minimising or isolating you to serve themselves.

7. They will Gaslight and marginalise you then encourage and praise you simultaneously in the hope you don’t spot the manipulation.

8. They use people because their agenda and priorities are always more important.

9. They need people and relationships just like the rest of us but they’re unable to see others as equals.

10. They will only want you in their world if you offer them financial security, status, support their projects or just generally stroke their ego in some way.

This vid has been weird to film because due to the NDA I signed I’ve hardly spoken about it out loud.   

It still feels like my body is catching up with my mind about it all, and hearing my own voice talking to you about it was another step in realising what just happened.  

I want you more than anything to lean into saying “YES” to some scary opportunity in your life right now.  

You just never know where your yes will take you to in life.   I was asked the other day by the guy next to me on a plane “so what do you do”?  I looked at him and said for the first time ever:  “I’m an actor”.., Saying it felt both crazy and somehow grounding and normal.   

I owned it out loud for the first time and my imposter syndrome fell silent and I felt like an actor, because I am.  

What do you need to own today?

Stolen Focus: Why You Can’t Pay Attention And How To Think Deeply Again.

Here is part two of my conversation with best selling author Johann Hari about his new book Stolen Focus which is out this month (January 2022).   Johann is a brilliant thinker and this is the best book I’ve read on the issue of how our attention is being hijacked and our focus being stolen in our digitally addicted world.

In this conversation Johann shares some of the insights he has learnt from interviewing 250+ of the leading experts when it comes to Attention.   He gives some great advice on what we can practically do in our own lives to help live a more focused life, as well as what we can begin to do not just individually but as a society.

This is a conversation that we can all get a lot from and I hope it adds value to your world, and I’d love for you to share it with someone in your world.  Please leave a review and subscribe!

Stolen Focus: Why You Can’t Pay Attention And How To Think Deeply Again.

Here is part one of my conversation with best selling author Johann Hari about his new book Stolen Focus which is out this month (January 2022).   Johann is a brilliant thinker and this is the best book I’ve read on the issue of how our attention is being hijacked and our focus being stolen in our digitally addicted world.  

In this conversation Johann shares some of the insights he has learnt from interviewing 250+ of the leading experts when it comes to Attention.   He gives some great advice on what we can practically do in our own lives to help live a more focused life, as well as what we can begin to do not just individually but as a society.   

This is a conversation that we can all get a lot from and I hope it adds value to your world, and I’d love for you to share it with someone in your world.  Please leave a review and subscribe!   

If you are in any form of leadership, cultural engineering or team building this podcast conversation is for you!

Part two of the conversation I had with New York Times best seller - Greg McKeown

In this episode we speak about how to scale all that you want to do and do it effortlessly.

We also speak about how to adapt this way of working with your family, teams and culture.

This podcast conversation is for you if you want to learn the ways of living an effortless life in all that you do as well as achieving all that is within you!

Greg McKeown is the author of 2 New York Times best seller Essentialism and Effortless.

We have split this conversation over 2 episodes, this first part focuses on how to live a more effortless life and the foundations of it.

On my recent trip to Switzerland I had a bad experience in a beautiful place.  

My memory of that place was forever tarnished by my experience whilst being there.  

This phenomenon is called our experiencing self and it always overrides our otherwise happy memories.

Watch this longer video for free on my global MENTORSHIP GROUP with exclusive content added daily as well as an archive of free audio, blogs and video teaching series to access and be a part of a group of like minded thinkers and growers. 

People often come into our lives to help us rather than just inspire us.

One of those people for me was Bishop TD Jakes.

And over the 40+ years now I have been in communication in all different forms and I want to help you develop as a communicator.

I want to influence you to grow not just inspire you to copy.

They say when the students ready the teacher appears and so from today I’m offering you an amazing growth opportunity as a public speaker and communicator.

The world needs your voice but it won’t help you to find or develop it, but I will. 🙏🏼

In this podcast episode I want to help you identify the importance of recognising shifts in your life and how to navigate through them.

I also breakdown the evolution of media over the years and why its become important to me to make a move away from the noise that is social media and for me to be more intentional in who I pour my life into through this owned community rather then the rented space.

Reevaluating what is important to you and how to structure your life around your values, and learning the art of having a fitness mindset. 

Get rid of your junk values and hone in on your authentic self  The combination of health, fitness and wellness.

You are really going to love this conversation with my new friend Brian Keane, one of the most genuine guys who speaks authentically and helps make his world of fitness relatable and actionable starting first with having a healthy mindset.

Perceiving the dangerous that’s hidden amongst the apparently harmless.

Understanding what sub conscious beliefs in your life are governing negative outcomes?

Where in your life are there unexamined and unchallenged generational belief systems ?

In this podcast I look at family history trojan horses that bring harmful cargoes into our lives. I give you some examples from my own life of how I began to break free from generational repeat patterns of dysfunction and trauma.

Do you struggle with any of these areas in being vulnerable?

Speaking up? Saying No? Going for a new job? Lost a job? Having faith? Waiting for a medical outcome?

Doing things alone? Reaching out to someone? Asking for help? Sharing your creativity?

What is vulnerability to you?

In this episode I share some tips on how to experiment with vulnerability as well as some of my vulnerability. I breakdown what are the qualities to look for in people that are good to share your vulnerability with.

Vulnerability is complex and something I’ve struggled with all my life. It was a completely foreign concept in my fathers toxic masculinity parenting of us. Vulnerability is courage in you but it feels like inadequacy in me. I admire it in you but despise it in me. So in today’s show I’m trying to be vulnerable about vulnerability.

I share with you some practical tips on how you can start small in being more vulnerable with those in your world.

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Dr. Nicole LePera was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research. She also studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis.

She is the creator of the #SelfHealers movement where people from around the world are joining together in community to take healing into their own hands. Her first book, How to Do the Work, is currently available and became a New York Times Best Seller.

You can find her on instagram at @the.holistic.psychologist

In my conversation with the lovely Dr Nicole we spoke about the new age of Awakening.

Dealing with trauma, breaking patterns of familiarity and how to create healthy boundaries, what it means to create a life of holistic living.

As well as her thoughts on the education system, and how to do the work to be your authentic self, dealing with your emotions, and how to regulate yourself.

If you like me have ever gone through any form of trauma or grief you’re going to love this interview. As well as how to break the mould of the familiar to create a life of transformation.

Don’t forget to share with me when you’re watching or listening to this interview I love to hear from you.

Here are 5 Dream Killers that I’ve found to be the most common in our lives.

We have a huge capacity to sabotage our own dreams and yet be oblivious to it, so here’s 5 killers to look out for.

1: Sharing it with the wrong people too soon

2: Mistaking the dream for a plan

3: Unmanaged expectations

4: Not becoming who your dream needs you to be

5: Not building strategic alliances

Check out my new brand new ebook only available until April 6th called 100 SECRETS OF MY PROGRESS. Wisdom For Your Life, Leadership and Relationships. 

I had a dream that God was fast asleep. And because we couldn’t wake him to tell us what his next move was, we started our own.  

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I hope this encourages you today, share with someone in your world and post a comment below or send me a DM! 

There’s no such thing as ‘the’ move of God. God is doing millions of things simultaneously most of which you’ll never hear about.

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Your greatest gift to others is to be the healthiest version of you that you can be.I used to spend too much time working on others for me rather than working on me for them. Your personal health and well-being is the greatest gift you can give to the world.

Personal development is the hardest work you will ever do, and often the least appreciated by those close to you.

Make self improvement firstly for your own benefit then whether others notice or benefit from it at least you always will.

You can’t give away what you don’t have. You can’t sustain withdrawals others make from your life without sufficient deposits that leave you with surplus. It doesn’t work with money or love or energy or life. You can’t love your neighbour with a love you have never given to yourself.

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In this episode I give you a preview into my Communication Masterclass online course and this is from the introduction section of the 7 hour course for all who are in any form of communication.

Your frustrations can be seen as fuel to keep lifting your game as a communicator. Don’t chase a calling just pay attention to what problems consistently get your attention and how that makes you feel.

Your calling is in that neighbourhood.

Stay close to the reason that set you on the path you’re on. You never travel away from your reasons you only travel deeper into them.

In this podcast episode I am giving you a glimpse into what one of my mentorship group sessions look like and the topic we discussed in this episode is about GHOSTING and the pandemic that it has become. 

Ghosting is deliberate emotional cruelty. Those who ghost you leave you to come up with a reason why they cut you off and they don’t care if it’s true or not. They sacrifice your emotions for their control. Listen or watch this podcast episode about ghosting at paulscanlon.com/podcast-channel

In this podcast episode I am giving you a glimpse into what one of my mentorship group sessions look like and I have chosen together some of the great questions that were asked from this session that might be of help to you.

We did a discussion around the book I read recently called ATTACHED by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller.

Here are some of the questions I discuss with some of the amazing tribe that are in my Mentorship Group from around the world!

Q: How do you make an assessment between if you are secure in a relationship or if you are developing apathy to protect yourself?

Q: How can we avoid becoming controlling when it comes to relationship styles?

Q: What are some non-negotiable tips and boundaries that you’ve put in place when you have been growing your relationship styles as you keep reinventing yourself?

Q: How do I move past anxiety and go deeper into your relationships?

I hope you enjoy this episode and make sure you share with me your thoughts by tagging me in a post or sending me a DM @PaulScanlonUK

You are not your labels!

We are obsessed with labelling of both ourselves and others, so from birth we begin a life tethered to a false narrative based on those labels. 

That limited level of consciousness can only be broken by self awareness.

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Find out more about my new online course only available until Friday October 30th!

Where you get excited about the process?  Not just the outcome - the study, investigation, conversation, research - all the things that are involved in how to get a good outcome - than that is an indication of what your passions and strengths are.

If you’re struggling to figure out where you’re heading in life or what your passions and strengths are the pay attention to where you love process. We are so driven by validation through results that we assume successful outcomes is where we should look. 

The secret and it is a secret because so few know it, is to look where you love the process not the results. Look at the creativity, study, planning, risk, uncertainty, struggle and effort that you love and there you will find yourself. 

Look for something where you love the process and the rest will follow.

Don't forget to subscribe, comment and share this podcast. 

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Humans are the only species that store pain. We do this by either resisting or clinging.

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PART ONE - In this conversation I speak with my new friend Glo Atanmo on her entrepreneurial beginnings, how it is to travel the world, dealing with wealth and finances, her tips and tricks on being an influencer and graphic designer as well as continuing out important conversation around the current racial divide. 

You are going to love this part one of the conversation and don't forget to subscribe, share and check out Glo on instagram @GloGraphics.

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In this episode I want to share with you the final 3 keys to having a great mentoring relationship.

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In this episode I want to share with you the first 3 keys to having a great mentoring relationship. 

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In this podcast episode I am in Conversation with Bethany Hamilton who many will know as a professional surfer who at a young age was attacked by a shark and lost her arm.

You are going to love this interview, Bethany is passionate about helping young women be unstoppable in life and faith.

Her greatest joy is being a wife and mother, and she continues to touch and inspire lives globally as a professional surfer and motivational speaker.

Correlation is the connection we make between two or more things. Causation takes that a step further and decides what that connection means. 

It’s human nature to lazily place unrelated things into an instant correlation without any thought to the tragic consequences that can have. 

A black man jogging in a white neighbourhood is a CORRELATION, the belief that he’s a threat is then the following CAUSATION of his death. 

Unless we examine our flawed correlations we will keep having flawed causes of all kinds of injustice, pain and suffering.

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In this interview I have a great conversation with Laura Toggs.

Laura, together with her husband Peter, is the Global Youth Pastor of Hillsong Church and the pioneer behind Hillsong Young & Free, a movement passionate about seeing young people rise up across the earth in freedom.

She is also the visionary behind ‘The Secret Garden TV’ – a space designed to reach and inspire young women by compelling them to dig deeper into the things that consume their hearts. Laura has been noted for her creativity and ability to speak with authenticity and is gifted at paving the way for others to find their true identity in Jesus.

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Sidney Mohede is world Renowned worship leader and award winning singer song writer. He’s the worship pastor at the mighty JPCC church in Jakarta Indonesia an entrepreneur and creative genius. You’re going to love our chat on all of the above and more. 

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Big people are intentional about  growing they don’t wait for things to make them grow. Big people see every day as another opportunity to evolve and flourish into their best selves.  

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You’re gonna love my conversation with Lorna Maseko. She is a celebrity chef in South Africa, a TV presenter, entrepreneur and all round great human.

We spoke about LORNA’s poor disadvantaged beginnings and how she imagined and worked her way to the top. We spoke about her work ethic, belief in people, self doubt and also her dreams and aspirations for taking South African cuisine global. 

Please subscribe and comment and help me spread the word.

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I’ve always struggled with the word racist until I understood white privilege.

We can’t see white privilege by speaking to white people we must ask black people to help us, to educate us.

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