N.A.R.C. Troopers: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Collaborators
By P. Pesqueda
N.A.R.C. Troopers: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery CollaboratorsFeb 26, 2020
The Solopsistic Narcissist
Solipsism and narcissism have quite a bit in common. Let's take a look at what that means with a brief philosophical examination.
Interview: Co-parenting with Kshama Singhi
Interview with Kshama on co-parenting with a narcissist.
Kshama is an Empowerment Coach. She coaches professional women to transform their lives by shifting from feeling rejected and fearful to empowered and happy. Her mission is to empower women to deepen their self-awareness, find their purpose and direction, and move from inaction to powerful action.
Being married to a narcissist and coming out a winner led her to become an Empowerment Coach. Kshama would like to share her experience and expertise on your show.
Coach Kshama Singhi's Profile Links:-
Email - email@example.com
Website - https://www.coachkshama.comLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kshamasinghiFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/JourneyToYourBestSelf/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/being_you_with_kshama/
Media Page - https://coachkshama.com/podcasts-and-media/
Prajinta, please let Coach Kshama know if she is a good fit, and what would be the next steps.
Awaiting your response.
The Narcissist is a Parasite That Lives Inside of You!
The narcissist may be gone, but they live on inside of you. Because of the enmeshment, brainwashing, entrainment, intermittent reinforcement, parentification, and more manipulative and predatory techniques, you are poisoned. You are filled with introjects (the narcissist's voice), ruminations, peptide addiction dopamine cravings, trauma bonding and the list goes on!
This explains in part why recovery from such a relationship is so difficult and unlike any other!
Can We Be Healthy in Such a Sick World?
Welcome to Season 9! Each season has about 20 episodes and we are now approaching 250 podcast episodes.
"Holy trauma, Bayman!"
Today, we take an expanded 45-minute deep dive into the failing systems and warnings that should compel us to do better. The time is ripe for narcissists to rise to power and we are rapidly producing a new crop of them continually with our misplaced priorities and bad choices. Probably a bit preachy at times but painfully true all of the time. Not just opinions but facts about where we are headed and why. Even some tips on how to turn it around. Enjoy
NOTE: The podcast begins after a 5-minute explanation of where Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Collaborators (N.A.R.C. Troopers) is at this juncture and where I am headed.
1,527 Days After the Discard: What I Have Learned
A reflection on the valuable lessons I learned in the months and years following the discard.
The Narcissist is an Lethal Alpha Predator who is Smarter Than You
"You're in the jungle, baby. I'm gonna watch you bleed."
It's hard to believe that your dream come true could shapeshift in the most heartless cold-blooded predator you could ever imagine.
It's nothing personal. It's just what they are.
Fear and Loathing in Narcopath Land
The person with NPD with a splash of psychopathy may have no fear, but they sure know how to loathe you. It's a wild trip to Fantasy Island, then a mysterious death.
SADISM Is a Component of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Sadism and Narcissism are "close cousins" in every sense and often overlap in pathological ways. Let's explore the sadistic narcissist.
How Could Such a Sweet and Charming Person be So Deadly?
The shy vulnerable covert narcissist is often adorable, polite, charismatic, and helpful. Beware, they even convince themselves they are the good guy, but make no mistake. They are missing key components of humanity and are actually empty hollow actors only playing a part in a play.
If You Love a Monster. . .
How does the world perceive someone who stays with a mentally ill predatory beast and chooses them over their friends and family? You know the answer. It is not kind. But they will never really understand, so who can blame them? What you can focus on instead. . .
Self Trashing After Narcissistic Abuse
After the narcissist, it is not uncommon to experience a period of self-trashing, and this self-trashing often involves unsavory sexual liaisons. Forgive yourself, find your boundaries, and create a safe space to recover fully before rushing out into the world. It is dangerous out there.
How to Keep Going After the Music Ends with a Narcissist
How do you summon the will to live after a brutal discard?
Many of us find it hard enough to get through the daily anxieties and injustices of every day life. When the narcissist abandons you, there is usually a scorched earth policy where they burn your whole life to the ground with you in it, then erase you like it never happened.
How do you rise from the smouldering ashes to start again?
While I Was Sleeping. . . Lost Time When Away with the Narcissist
When you are in the shared fantasy with the narcissist, time keeps moving on without you. It is as if you were in a coma and when you awaken, everything is different and the people who were most important to you have gone on with their lives without you. It is a confusing and heartbreaking loss. The sooner we get back to reality, the better!
When You've Lost More Than You Can Bear
8/episode 11 looks at what happens after narcissistic abuse. You lose everything and have a really hard time getting up and getting on. What can we do about it?
Are You Alive?
What does it mean to be alive? The person with NPD is not truly alive by most definitions. Let's take a look at what it means to be alive and what separates the narcissist from a neurotypical healthy human.
Anxiety - The Beast that Must Be Tamed
After a relationship with a disordered narcissist, it is common to have anxiety and even panic. We discuss 5 maladaptive bad ways to respond to anxiety that can lead to the bad place. Then we discuss better alternatives to get a positive outcome.
Ding Dong, the Witch is Dead. Now What?
A relationship with a narcissist is all about death. Their death (they killed themselves a long time ago), your death (the narcissist must "kill you" to separate and individuate), the "dead mother (that caused all this in the first place), the death of your identity and agency, and the death of everything around them.
So when they are gone, why is there still a problem? And what can we do to get past it!
Are You a Narcoholic?
There are soooo many effects that a covert malignant narcissist has aon their significant other. And the worst part is that all of this abuse can cause an addiction to them which in turn causes emotional, psychological, physiological, neuro-chemical, energetic, and just about every other type of disruption, sickness, and injury in the victim.
The Sound of Silence
The silent treatment is one of the narcissist's favorite weapons to use against you at different stages in the relationship. At some point, we need to accept what they are and let them go- knowing they are very sick people. In the meantime, getting to know our own silence spaces can bring us peace.
Interview with Teahna N. Edralin: Disempowerment and Powering Up
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Attachment Styles Impact Trauma Recovery
THE TYPE OF ATTACHMENT STYLE we have influences how we RECOVER from relationships with MALIGNANT NARCISSISTS. Neurotypical people can modify or change their attachment styles, but the narcissist has flat attachment and can never change.
Object Constancy & Object Relations: The Root of Most Narcissistic Disorders
What is at the heart of narcissistic personality disorder? Understanding Object inconstancy, discontinuous memory, and object relations will make everything come into focus.
Stop Re-Traumatizing the Victim of Narcissistic Abuse
Well meaning people may do more harm then good when they try to support the narcissistic abuse victim. It's important to understand the unique journey to recovery.
Interview Phoenix Gould: They Change Us- How They Do It & How We Heal
There are casualties in a relationship with a person with NPD. Everyone goes down, and the narcissist rides into the sunset to live hollowly ever after.
The Dark Passenger that Inhabits the Narcissist
My assertion is that all narcissists and psychopaths are walking invitations for dark forces to inhabit them. I believe they carry a "Vacancy" sign that draws entities to them who crawl into the empty space within them and proceed to influence their decisions, perceptions, behavior, etc. . .
I have witnessed this phenomenon face to face. This is my testimony and a cautionary plea to protect yourself.
INTERVIEW Betty Jo Greenlee Discusses Shame, Blame, & Advocacy
Betty Jo Greenlee discusses shame, blame, and finding your voice on today's interview/
Betty Jo is the founder of Discover Life Coaching and a former victim of emotional abuse who needlessly carried the embarrassment and shame of two toxic marriages that ended in divorce. Now, Betty Jo is a victorious survivor who uses everything she learned, climbing out of her pain to help others. Coupling that with her 10 years of experience as a mental health advocate, today, she guides those who feel lost, don't trust themselves, or know what they want, to rise up and take charge of creating a life they love. Her mission through her 1 on 1 personal coaching and her online course is to help many discover what lights them up so they become the change they want.
INTERVIEW Dr. Praveena Rajendra on PARENTAL NARCISSIM
Today's guest speaks about parental narcissism, the shame and blame , and ways to move beyond the abuse.
Dr. Praveena is a Certified Mental Health & Awareness practitioner and works with parental narcissistic abuse victims. She uses various techniques and coping mechanisms, including her personal life experience, to help victims recognize abusive behaviors, heal and live an empowered life. She has also created a framework known as the Narcissistic Victim Empowerment Technique (NVET) to help victims find freedom from manipulating and controlling thoughts of toxic parenting. She understands that many may find it difficult to speak about parental narcissistic abuse due to the trauma bondage and societal perception associated with it, hence Dr. Praveena takes it as a personal mission to empower as many individuals out there to take the reins of their own life.
Dr. Praveena has a dedicated column called “Mind the Mind” in The Sun; Malaysia’s national daily where she writes about mental health awareness. Also, Dr. Praveena sits on the board of the Malaysia Mental Health Association (MMHA)
On the professional front, Dr. Praveena wears various hats. As an engineer, academician, researcher, and avid animal activist, Dr. Praveena holds notable positions in multiple non-profit organizations and serves as a voice for issues pertaining to the environment and animals. She is currently a senior lecturer at Taylor’s University.
For her numerous contributions to society as a whole: people, environment, and animals namely, Dr. Praveena has received Malaysia's Women Leaders Award from the World Women Leadership Congress.
The Power of Imagery to Heal Trauma
Imagery is another tool for your toolbox that works wonders for many who are suffering from the aftermath of narcissistic abuse.
How to Prepare for What's to Come While Recovering from Trauma
Tough times are here and you may be recovering from a relationship with a narcissist. Double whammy!x!
So how do you navigate these perilous waters? I have some tips for you.
When the going gets tough, the tough put their tits up. It's all about being resilient and plucky.
Mental illness is contagious
Time is Marked by Memories, but Not for the Disordered
Continuous memory is an essential to emotional empathy, compassion, and reflection. Cluster B disordered people who do not have it are lacking a core quality that makes them human. When they leave, and they all leave sooner or later, they hit the delete button and you disappear as if you never existed. No memories, no regrets, not accountability, no sadness- just instant erasure and complete amnesia. What could be more soul-crushing to their partner than to be deleted and forgotten with absolutely no reflection or remorse? It is a fate worse than death. We remember the dead with respect and kindness. Not so with the narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath. You disintegrate in a moment, and there is nothing to remember.
The Narcissist's Role in the Great Awakening
I begin with 3 perspectives about what the narcissist is ranging back into the past 1902-1907. There was an awareness of "their kind" even 100+ years ago. But where do they fit into the picture of current change. Is that where we are headed? Into a collective consciousness of hollow remorseless callousness? Are they simply an adaptation that was necessary to survive the modern world? Or are they harbingers of decay, depravity, emptiness, and soullessness that seem to increase every day?
The Cluster B Disordered Lack a Constellated Self
Jung described a constellated self where the individual is ordered and everything works in taddem with everything else in a natuarl, organized and constant way. Narcissists and other Cluster B disordered people do not have this design.
The narcissist and psychopath use people because they are not real and human and unique- they are all just objects to play with for awhile then cast aside for the next new thing. I am not fungible, disposable, interchangeable, replaceable. I am one of a kind. Even in a world where everything is built for the here and the now with no long term commitment, even in the multiverse, even in the transactional society that is always searching for what best serves them. That is my manifesto. It should be yours , too.
I Will Follow You Into the Dark
Remember that Death Cab for Cutie song from 20 years ago? Well, my darkness is encroaching blindness which might frighten even the most average spouse. But mine was a covert narcissist, so sticking around to be there for a partner with a disability is simply not something they are capable of doing. If you are in a relationship with one, stay healthy and strong. They can't be there for you if you are in need. Let's launch into this dark matter and see if there is a helpful take-away.
The Death of Intimacy- The New Era of Narcissism and Psychopathy
The world has changed over the past 10+ years. We have lost our souls in exchange for searching for things that "serve us" and throwing away anything that is inconvenient or boring. We have lost our moral compass and have become ethically bankrupt. The world has corrupted us with promises of wealth and power that never ever come as we ruthlessly compete in a landscape of scarcity and lack. The narcissist, sociopath, and psychopath have risen to power and are leading us off a cliff as they get richer and we get poorer. The result? Violence, perversion, despair, apathy, addiction, death. Let's step back and stop this madness.
You Can't Kill 'Em if They're Already Dead
Dreams of vengeance, justice, karma? Obsession with getting even, balancing the scales, teaching them a lesson? Refusing to accept being erased, forgotten, annihilated, deleted? Plotting and planning revenge fantasies and driven by rage?
But what if they are already dead? Takes the wind right out of your sails, doesn't it?
How can you harm someone who is already the poster child for abuse? Someone so mentally delusional and sick?
It's a tough situation. What do you do?
Limerence and Loneliness
Limerence, experienced by both the narcissist and their partner, is not love and may not even be prerequisite for love. It is more of a middle school crush kind of thing only involving the neuro-chemicals of the brain and even peptide addiction. Loneliness is something many of us who are codependent or have problematic attachment styles or abandonment issues fear worse than death. It is a "howling wilderness" that screams to be comforted.It helps to understand both iso you can move toward healthy emotional connections with yourself and others.
Wisdom from the Experts About Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Three categories are discussed:
1. The professionals, researchers, medical and mental health community
2. The narcissistic abuse recovery facilitators
3. The narcissists who are experts on their own disorder
Recipe for a Narcissist- Half Baked or Extra Crispy?
What makes a person deelop narcissistic personality disorder?
We all have a healthy dose of narcissism, but how is a malignant, pathological one made? One that has no remorse, accountability, morals, love, or attachment to anyone. One that creates a false persona and wears a mask 24/7 that could fool even the most brilliant expert. One that cannot create a decent or stable life, self-sabotages, is reckless and impulsive, and always plays the victim?
How do you make one of those?
Some Of Us Only Crave the Crazy
For most of my life, I have been a narcoholic. I am someone who chose a disordered, malignant, pathological narcissist 3 times in my life, marrying them, having children with them, and ultimately, being discarded by them. I am currently sober, living one day at a time, trying to maintain no contact, and promising myself to never fall prey to another narcissist. Many of you will feel the truth in my story. It will resonate with you because it is a common dynamic. We must heal ourselves, do the work, and get free. It is a matter of life or death.
Please send questions or schedule 1:1 sessions at Narc2Thrive@gmail.com
I am unable to respond to voice messages left here at this time.
The Borderline and the Narcissist
The relationship with the borderline and narcissist is powerful. By themselves, they are a tornado. Together, they are the perfect storm.
The Narcopath is EVERYTHING You Can Imagine
The narcissist plays many roles in a relationship. Each one is so very real and convincing that it cannot be detected by even the most brilliant trained person. There is no other experience like it!
How to Survive the Holidays Live Webinar 11/5/22
For those who missed it, this is the part of the webinar where tips are offered to manage stress, anxiety, and depression during the holiday season. Licensed therapist Cathy Angi Brownell, trauma and PTSD trained art therapist and somatic interventionist joined me along with Myla Morningstar, writer and Quora content writer and married to a covert narcissist for nearly 30 years.
The Q & A was not shared, but another free event will be available for the next big hurdle. . . Valentine's Day.
Contact Cathy LPC at firstname.lastname@example.org
Contact me at Narc2Thrive@gmail.com
TITS UP !
This colloquial phrase has two meanings, and we are going to take a look at both. Maybe it's is exactly what we need to do.
A Silly Playful Spin on the Trending Narcissist
I practice an accent as I warn about the dangers of too much talk about narcissists and too much trust in the misinformation and disinformation provided by so many hacks on social media. Let's have a little fun, shall we?
Deception and Delusion
An audio version of a video I made for Riverside.