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From facing her own struggles with anxiety and perfectionism, Nebraska Psychologist Dr. Hayden Finch has studied and researched a natural based approach to overcoming these issues. She has become a specialist around the psychology of procrastination, and works closely with high functioning anxiety as well.

In this BITES episode Dr. Finch unpacks anxiety in to very digestible parts and gives a simplified understanding to the often over complicated topic. She even adds in strategies that you can use to navigate your own anxieties.

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Dr. Nicole LePera also known as The Holistic Psychologist (@the.holistic.psychologist) is a deeply experienced and renowned player in the mental health scene. She is a published author and has amassed a huge Instagram following over the last few years because of her scientific, truthful and digestible content around mental illness and trauma. I had the privilege of having a conversation with her a few years ago for the podcast and that episode was filled with absolute gems of information! So, I've decided to repost part of that conversation into a shorter BITESIZED episode. If you are interested in hearing the full episode with Nicole, just search "Pocket Coach Nicole LePera" on any of your podcast platforms.

In this BITES episode we speak about some tips Nicole finds fundamental in improving your mental being.

Enjoy!

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Alongside painful experiences, memory is created. That memory is used as data to prevent future painful scenarios. Normally, this is just an engrained reaction. However, when the memory is painful enough, this can be labeled as trauma. Trauma leads to triggering reactions in our life today based on an experience of the past.

I was recently in a car crash in Kenya. I explain how this occurred, the trauma I accrued from the experience, and how I have already processed the trauma of being a passenger in a moving vehicle. I have used this method countless times for my own trauma, as well as my clients’ trauma. May it serve you well.

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Jermaine is a former founder with experience in education tech, mar-tech, creative agency, and CPG (toys) industries. He took a sabbatical from the business world and served as finance deputy to the former California State Treasurer's gubernatorial campaign. Alongside his multiple business endeavors, he has ongoing pressure coming from multiple directions that he’s constantly dealing with, and I’m increasingly impressed by how he does it, whilst maintaining such high output in a clear minded way.

Jermaine shares what he does and what he focuses on in order to prevent himself from falling victim to the pressure and expectations that are continuously put onto him by others.

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A mind-blowing episode on the recent science that many scientists in the 90’s or early 2000’s would have scoffed at on building self-esteem and confidence in a way that’s sustainable. Thought-provoking indeed.

Tobias is an online coach who helps people transform their health & physique. He is also a published scientist, with his research focusing on how to overcome self-defeating behaviour. Tobias studied Neuroscience at the University of New South Wales, graduating with First Class Honours.

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Building discipline is a very abstract idea, and often misunderstood for grit. Discipline is not grit (as Tobias alludes to). He shares a follow-on framework that can be used (backed by science) to help us build the disciplinary muscle so that we can gain more control over our life in a healthy way that adds wellbeing, rather than taking it away.

Tobias is an online coach who helps people transform their health & physique. He is also a published scientist, with his research focusing on how to overcome self-defeating behaviour. Tobias studied Neuroscience at the University of New South Wales, graduating with First Class Honours.

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This often-not-talked-about key was enlightening for me. It’s helped me see discipline in a completely different light that I feel will be life changing for many of you who take action on the brilliant notes Tobias shares. A lot of us (including myself) had it all wrong.

Tobias is an online coach who helps people transform their health & physique. He is also a published scientist, with his research focusing on how to overcome self-defeating behaviour. Tobias studied Neuroscience at the University of New South Wales, graduating with First Class Honours.

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I had the amazing opportunity to Interview Clinical Psychologist Doctor Stephanie Carinia who specializes in various forms of therapy ranging from CBT + EMDR to Schema + Psychodynamic therapies. We did a Live Q&A on Instagram, and we had some incredible questions come through that I’m sure many will relate to. She provided fantastic insights on many topics that are important aspects of developing more peace and harmony in one’s life. Tune into this thought provoking and healing episode for some incredible insights and practical steps one can take.

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Clinical Psychologist Doctor Stephanie Carinia who specializes in various forms of therapy ranging from CBT + EMDR to Schema + Psychodynamic therapies touches on an important topic, codependency and narcissism. Both of these being opposite ends of the spectrum of inner stability, Dr. Stephanie shares steps to build this inner stability, and to start the healing journey from these tendencies within ourselves, and also how one can start taking action when these tendencies are identified in our loving relationships.

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Clinical Psychologist Doctor Stephanie Carinia who specialises in various forms of therapy ranging from CBT + EMDR to Schema + Psychodynamic therapies touches on an important topic, the inner child. She talks about how one can self parent themselves into healing from inner child wounds, and she discusses how these wounds affect us today.

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These steps improved the quality of my sleep to a degree where I could sleep less, AND have an improved mental and emotional wellbeing + clarity from greater rejuvenation. Implement these 3 science-based steps (with supporting evidence) to improve the quality of your sleep in ways that you probably have never heard of, yet are more positively impactful than long term sleeping pills or melatonin use.

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Why I abused steroids, and what I learnt from the experience. We talk about how it triggered my major depression, the abuse sent me into a huge energy lull complete with brain fog and many other health problems (including impotence). I also speak about the steps I took to recover from the health problems and my ill mentality at the time. It’s my hope that others don’t have to go through this like I did.

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I was meditating last night, and recognised a strong unpleasant feeling. It lasted for a few moments and then passed. It triggered a memory of how I used to spiral into depression if strong unpleasant emotions were noticed. My life has changed drastically in a positive way. I share some things that have led to these changes.

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After trying various forms of therapy and healing modalities, I finally found vipassana meditation. This, more than anything, helped me heal my deepest wounds and trauma. I have come to understand the lack of necessity for any specific modality (even meditation). I also delve into the neuroscience of trauma as to why, so long as the neurons associated with the trauma are rewired in a positive way, how this happens is not important.

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Let’s break this falsely believed segregation between extroversion and introversion. I grew up introverted. I then learnt how to be extroverted. At different stages of my life I was attached to needing my own space, or needing others. I have now learnt how to be non-dependent on either. This episode is about the steps I’ve taken to out train these boxes we call introverted and extroverted.

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I had peace backwards for most of my life. Understand this one thing about peace, then implement it into your life, and I strongly believe your life will be different forever. This understanding around peace and suffering changed my life, may it change yours, too.

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During time in my life when my self-esteem was still quite low. I got so sick of the lack of confidence I had, that I set an intention for the year of 2017 to meet 2 new people every day. As a naturally introverted person, this was a massive challenge. It did however grow me into what many would call extroverted over the course of that year. I speak about the steps I took and the lessons I learnt over that time.

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Used properly, this tool can cushion fears and quell anxiety. Take this tool seriously, and practice it a few times over. You will find that with the right amount of time and intention, the thing you feel anxious about will no longer bother you anywhere near as much as it does right now. Enjoy.

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From not being able to sit still for 2 minutes, to being able to sit for hours without movement. After learning the art of meditation from buddhist monks, a Vipassana (100+ hours of meditation in 10 days) and even scientific approaches to the art, I have decided to compile some of the main lessons I have learnt into this mini podcast. This of course doesn’t cover all of it, but it does cover some of the main lessons that helped me to become an advanced meditator. I hope it serves you well.

Here is the free 10 minute meditation I mentioned. Enjoy.

There was a time when anxiety crippled me to the point of panic attacks and uncontrollable crying. I prayed, I meditated, I got therapy, I tried what I thought was everything. I had a huge breakthrough during this time when anxiety peaked most. I wish to share it with you. It’s my hope that if anxiety of overwhelm exists in your life, that this can be of use to you. Treat this info with care. Enjoy.

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Taking the lessons from the episode prior to this that I took from Shi Heng Yi and S.N Goenka as well as some deeper teaching from Buddha, I now present a practical process that has helped me heal many times over from attachments that brewed in my life from trauma. Having helped many others through my coaching to do the same, I hope that this process will serve you just as well if taken on seriously. Enjoy.

Attachment is a majoy cause of anxiety and depression. When attachment is understood more fully, one can gain greater control over their life. These are some profound lessons I have learnt on my journey of healing, 2 of which have been learnt from a Kung Fu master Shi Heng Yi and the Buddhist monk S.N Goenka. Enjoy.

I once dreamed of being able to travel and work online. After years of “figuring it out” verging on broke and being constantly late to pay rent, it clicked. This episode is me sharing the insights that I’ve gained through my journey of starting my own online business and becoming what many call a digital nomad.

I hope this helps those interested. Enjoy!

Reverse engineering judgement has helped me to feel free of feeling judged by others. Judgement is something that’s not in my control, so living my life to fit inside another’s box (which by the way will not fit in everyone’s box), is a life set up of fear and anxiety. To free myself of this, the practice shared in this episode is something that has massively served me.

“What’s missing is not the thing, it’s what I’m not giving myself that’s leading to the need of the thing”. An idea that changed my life. It helped me to regain control of my life that was dependent on other people. My well-being relied on the decisions, words, and actions of others. My well-being is now mostly in my control. The implementation of this understanding that’s explained in depth in the episode has been life-changing for me.

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Use these 3 steps to help decrease anxiety levels associaited with hyper awareness, and to simplify the “healing” process when working through overwhelm / overthinking.

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Listen to Part 1 for full clarity on this topic before diving into this episode. Scientific data laying out practical steps that will help you to improve your visualisation practice so that you can enhance performance, focus and as a consequence gain a better result in whatever you want.

Scientific data laying out practical steps that will help you to improve your visualisation practice so that you can enhance performance, focus and as a consequence gain a better result in whatever you want.

I work with clients from all over the world. The focus is taking them from anxiety to calmness, from shy to confident. The underlying factor to this cause is this taboo word “trauma”. It’s misunderstood, but it is more straightforward than we give it credit for.

Here is a valuable sound bite from a 3-minute moment in one of my 90-minute sessions with a small group I coach. I felt the urge to share it with you, just as the message landed with two of my clients on this call in a massive way. Grasping this understanding can change your life.

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Frustration can be a very inhibiting emotion. It can cause massive suffering to us, and to those around us. It can cause us to derail from our focus (and even our life), and it can break up important relationships and destroy opportunities. When the frustration is understood, it can be taken control of, replaced with calmness, and controlled in a manner than enables you to channel it if that’s what you feel would serve.

Regain control. A sniper that’s handled with skill gets more done with less resources than a flame thrower who wants to fire at everything in hopes of landing their mark.

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Understand the basic biology and neuroscience of stress. By having a sense of the causation of stress, reverse engineering stress is more comprehendable. We breakdown the steps of stress into simple and basic steps to grasp, and then present strategies to reduce daily stress.

Here are the two main angles to building your ability to be more present. Both focuses enable you to be more sustainably present, leading to less disassociation, brain fog, anxiety and overthinking. You’ll improve your listening skills, memory and peace in your day to day. Listen to the breakdown of presence, as understanding what this is will help.

I will share more advanced techniques at a later date I have been taught by a spiritual leader himself, whom I have been blessed enough to work daily with for three months. That changed my life.

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Welcome back!

This is the first Pocket Coach episode in over a year. Thank you for those who have joined back with me, it’s because of you that makes this an exciting venture for me.

These are simply my findings. From someone who didn't see the point, to someone who was anti, to someone who simply went and got it. I share my reasons in the episode. I felt a sense of responsibility to share my findings, as this may help someone listening to find some ease and let go of some fear. If this serves you, please share it.

I am writing this a few hours after my first jab, and I'm feeling sweet. I'm not pro or anti vax, I'm for humans. Thus, my shares are unbiased.

Below are the links to the studies and articles I touched on in this episode.

I did my best to find studies that weren't government funded so we could ensure unbiasedness... however, a couple naturally were still govt funded, as studies focused on these areas are still limited.

I am not a doctor, and this is not medical advise. Please do your own research, and make the decision that you feel is best for you.

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Today's episode is to conclude Mental Health Awareness Week. It's time we brought the conversation about mental health to the forefront and made it as normalised as everyday conversation. I invited 5 individuals to share with me their biggest challenge with mental health, and the one thing they did in order to shift their greatest struggle. I invite you to tune into these amazing stories. I'm sure you'll get just as much out of them as I did. They start at about 20 minutes onward in the order below as follows.

Eddie is a Personal Freedom & Soul Embodiment Coach, Retreat Host, Ceremonial Ecstatic Dance Facilitator, and Curator of Immersive Experiences. He strongly believes that living a life of freedom and expression in all forms is one of the best things we can do for both ourselves and others when it comes to raising our vibration as well as the collective consciousness of the planet.

Join us as we delve into the power of authenticity and integrity, and how these two qualities will transform your life in a way that you would never believe. Eddie shares with us his incredible journey thus from a place of having intentions to take his own life, and now living a life where he not only lives life in full expression as the most authentic person I personally know, he also helps many others to do the same.

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Procrastination gets even the best of us. But, why does it happen? What's going on in the brain when we procrastinate? And, how do you reverse engineer this happening? I explain in brief some of the science to procrastination, as well as 3 key things you can start doing right this moment that will help you to rid procrastination for good. These aren't just your general "hype" tools or the fancy "5-second" and 2-minute" rules that you hear out there. These tools work more deeply at the root causation of why procrastination exists in your life in the first place.

I wish you a productive and effective day.

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If you have ever wanted to build a life of success that's aligned with your passion, and from a foundation of fulfillment, then this episode is a must-listen. Morgan has done just that, and, he talks us through the things he did in order to create this sort of life for himself. Financially free at 23, a six-figure residual income at 24, spoken to groups of up to 6000 on becoming better, and has a top-10 Self-Development podcast, it goes without saying that this man knows what it takes.

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A commonly sought out quality, confidence. It's something that I was not gifted with, it was developed through the steps laid out on this episode. From being the slouched over, shy, stuttering individual that I was, over the years I have built a strong sense of confidence.

Confidence is not to be mistaken with cockiness, for they come from completely different foundations as we will touch on in the episode. I will cover the 5 pillars of what builds unshakable confidence, and the key isn't through not giving a f*ck.

I guarantee, so long as you utilise the tools and 5-steps shared in this episode (and consistently with intent), that within the space of a week, you will already start to feel more confident within yourself. Change starts when you do. Get at it.

I would love to hear how these implementations go for you. Message me on IG with the changes you create, I'm excited to hear about your transformation!

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Turmoil is a common experience, especially with lockdowns and Covid going on.

I’m here to speak on my experiences with turmoil, and the steps one can take to move through it. There are frame shifts that can help, as well as three key core tools you can start using right away and notice an instant difference within yourself.

Sing out if you need anything.

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The highly successful and inspirational fitness and mindset coach Jaxon Tippet has been on a crazy journey of working through a steorid addiction, struggling with moments of depression and self-doubt. He shares with us the transformational moment in his life that put him on the path of helping others and changing lives by the hundreds.

Join us as we enter a deep and authentic discussion about how one can move from a place where you might feel a lack of drive and purpose, to impacting and changing lives. To do so, you must first transform yourself from within.

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Everyone is on a unique life journey and with that, comes unique stories. Tune in as I interview strangers on the street to chat about mental health, life's challenges, and self-improvement. In Takapuna, New Zealand, I chatted with Conal Ryan.

Everyone is on a unique life journey and with that, comes unique stories. Tune in as I interview strangers on the street to chat about mental health, life's challenges, and self-improvement. In Takapuna, New Zealand, I unexpectedly chatted with three lovely humans about all things self-development, meditation, mental health, and future goals. 

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Everyone is on a unique life journey and with that, comes unique stories. Tune in as I interview strangers on the street to chat about mental health, life's challenges, and self-improvement. In Takapuna, New Zealand, I chatted with Charlotte Thomson.

Being both a friend and mentor in my life, Chent has provided inspiration, and helped with many insights on my own journey in both a personal development sense, and in a business sense. Previously a lost, egoic, and scarce individual, Chent shares his journey into financial abundance, success, and freedom within himself from both ego and depression.

We talk about money. It's spiritual significance, and how one can learn to create more of it. Having had a day where he's brought in $50,000 (yes, in a single day), and having a strong background within spirituality, Chent is the perfect person to discuss the energetic factors around money.

We also talk about perspective, transformation, depression, ego, and business.

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Everyone is on a unique life journey and with that, comes unique stories. Tune in as I interview strangers on the street to chat about mental health, life's challenges, and self-improvement. In Takapuna, New Zealand, I chatted with Shane Butler about his own progress in the mental health space. 

There is a new and profound spiritual festival on the rise here in New Zealand... And, this man Jock is the co-founder of the whole gig. Whilst successfully creating a strong community and business, Jock has journeyed from a place of anger and frustration to cultivating a life full of peace and harmony. His journey displays many lessons.

Tune in for practical steps you can take to feel less in anger, and more in peace. We also break down steps one can take when an overwhelming feeling takes over so that you can find more self-control during what would normally have been a consuming situation.

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Freedom from suffering. Yes, this is entirely possible. I used to suffer intensely from anxiety, depression, loneliness, solitude, and so much more. I have found greater freedom from this suffering through a lot of inner work. This has come from the teachings in both science and spirituality. From both studying the brain, and from Buddhist Monks.

Today, I dive into what suffering is and the four key steps you can take to start to create greater freedom from suffering itself.

Rawinia has faced an extraordinary amount of challenges in her life. She graciously shares the struggles she’s had in her romantic relationships, around self-worth, with her intuition, with trauma, with religion and faith, and with overall self-love.

We go on to discuss the lessons she’s extracted from these challenges along the way, and we talk about how these lessons have positively impacted our lives. We touch on tools and practices that have served us in moving through these challenges as well.

May this conversation and the lessons shared to serve you so that the challenges you face won’t need to be as heavy.

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The what, the why, the how, and the steps to take to truly start to heal from this. Anxiety is an incredibly common human experience that can be very detrimental. We speak scientifically about why it's there, and practical steps you can start taking to begin healing from anxiety. We touch on panic attacks and what to do if they ever arise as well.

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Kai Jordan is an incredibly influential and impactful coach in his space. He guides us through his journey of self-realisation, and shares with us the deep wisdom that he has on mental health, and life itself. Kai has an incredible skill to simplify the essence of what it means to become your own healer, more than most people that I personally know. It was a blessing having him on the show, and I can guarantee that if you tune in, you will absolutely take many insights away that may enhance or shift your perspective and understanding of the mind, and of life itself.

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Loneliness will be a part of everyone's life at some point, but it is how we work through it and look within ourselves that determines the effect it will have. This week I explore the road to peace and harmony, where you are able to feel content and therefore loneliness cannot enter your life. I share my own experiences and transformation from a place of deep loneliness, just filling the void, to a place of peace. 

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Going through hell-ish experiences, anxiety, sadness, insecurity, all those sufferable experiences we all dabble with at certain stages in our lives, Luke (Abstract) has chosen to live his life facing them and expressing his experiences through rapping. His success has not come easily. The work he's put into his music is extraordinary. Being naturally introverted, he shares how he has gone through challenge after challenge to be able to show up fully and perform in front of large audiences.

His success includes exceeding over 100 million listens on just one of his songs, let alone the 500 odd million total listens he's accumulated on Youtube alone with his work, that's not even counting Spotify.

We dive into what Luke does during his lulls and when moments of sadness or demotivation strike, and what he's done in order to face being an introvert. There's a lot to learn through this episode, be sure to tune in!

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There's a lot of misinformation out there about these "happy chemicals". I stumbled across an image on Instagram sharing a lot of half-truths on these, and quite frankly, it can limit one's ability to enable optimal levels of happiness in their life. I thought, "it's about time that I jumped on and spoke directly about these chemicals, as to what they really are, why they're there, and how to properly stimulate the create them". So, I did.

Here's a fairly succinct episode in some relative depth on the why, what, and how of these "happy chemicals". I highly recommend taking notes. In the future, I will go into extra detail on the chemicals individually so I can cover more ground on each one.

Happy listening!

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From the man who co-founded and host NZ Spirit, Resolution Festival, and Yoga Day, to the man who has shared the microphone with Donavan Frankenreiter, and opened for Xavier Rudd and Nahko & Medicine, Franko has accomplished a lot. It never used to be that way though.

Franko lived in depression, alcoholism, and confusion at many moments in his life. We dive into his story about what lead him to these depths, and how he was able to climb out of the darkness. He also shares how deepening his conscious awareness and spiritual understandings have enabled him to not just help himself, but many thousands through his festivals, kirtans, music, and coaching.

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The correlation between discipline and one's mental health is strong. Various studies have shown how building discipline can decrease anxiety and depression in subjects. Discipline has completely changed my life. I talk about what discipline is, compared to what it's believed to be, and how to build it in your life with simple steps. Naturally, procrastination will come down and performance will go up as a consequence too, let alone more peace and joy. 

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Jodie Bell has her honours in Psychology and is well on her way to a Ph.D. in Cognitive Neuroscience. She shares her findings on how compassion practices and meditation practices can benefit those that struggle with mental health, as well as their tie in with helping those that suffer from Dementia and Alzheimer's disease.

We also touch on practical steps someone can take to improve their meditation practice and to improve their overall cognitive ability to process difficult thoughts, feelings, and experiences.

Jodie has shared with me the links to the research she touches on in the podcast. You may head to the links below.

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Registered Nutritionist and NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Master Practitioner Kimberley Bell takes us through how we can find more peace, health, and vitality in through the world of nutrition. She helps guide us through the what happens in the mind of those who struggle with the insecurities of body image, and what we can do for ourselves, and our peers, to build greater confidence and health.

We discuss what we ideally want to be eating, and why, and we go into the depths of how we can make a healthy lifestyle more practical, so that we may enable less inflammation, less stress, and overall, a greater way of life.

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What even is happiness? This must be defined by you first. This is a recorded webinar I ran to help those interested in bringing about more happiness in their lives to understand how it works in the brain, and what they can do to feel more of this seemingly difficult to sustain emotion we call happiness.

Neuroscience is often overcomplicated. Here, we simplify the way neuroscience works in the realm of a "happy brain". We also dive into tools, practices, and simple habits that you can adopt to enable more happiness in your life.

The end segment of this episode is answering questions that you cannot hear being asked around happiness.

1. Please repeat what you shared about "what is happiness?".

2. What are the chemicals that relate to happiness?

3. What's the difference between gratitude journaling and future journaling? And, how do we change what happens at the deeper layer of the mind?

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Welcome to Season 2!

The Pocket Coach podcast is a movement to normalise conversation around this stigmatised concept of mental health, and to bring feasible and practical tools for you to apply to your own mental health, so that you can find more peace, and more happiness in your life. Tune in as we not only cover the basis as to what we will be covering going forward, we also touch on some of my journey with anxiety and depression, my biggest lessons in life, and what I did to find peace in the suffering that nearly took my life.

Get ready for some truly deep content that is difficult to find elsewhere.

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Understanding how the brain operates is so important for understanding mental health. With this understanding presented in this episode, you will then be able to practically apply the tools shared in this episode to help you to benefit your mental health in the most optimal way. Simply applying tools without understanding why can lead to a lack of effectiveness and an improper application of the tools altogether.

We discuss neurotransmitters, hormones, and regions in the brain that all correspond with poor mental health. We also discuss natural processes that would normally be called "biohacking", but is really a process that is already a part of the brain, we're just accessing it through a natural process.

Tune in to hear how you can optimise your mental health with simple and practical steps anyone can do.

This is the recording of a webinar I ran due to the large amounts of people in the non-profit I co-own sharing their enhanced struggles during this 4th lockdown here in Auckland. This is not just for Covid, this is for life.

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As a women who has faced the struggle of needing to put up a front of worthiness in order to be accepted by those around her, Sakula speaks to us about the challenges that we can all resonate with of feeling lesser than. She shares her journey of uncovering these masks of confidence and strength, and how one can learn to come away from anxiety by first becoming vulnerable. Through vulnerability, awareness grows, and through awareness lies the key to unwinding the anxiety that's present for many of us.

In this masculine dominant world, an internal imbalance is common amongst us, and many find it difficult to "feel" their emotions fully. We discuss how one can learn to develop greater emotional stability and intelligence in order to build a greater sense of true self-love, not the fake stuff we see on social media.

Join us as we dive into the Ryūkyūan healer's profound journey from anxiety and false confidence, into a genuine example of what it means to be a thriving, empowered, and fiercely loving human. Guy and girls, I guarantee you will all take something away from this interview.

This is the last episode of 2020. We will be back on the 10th of January 2021. Have a beautiful Christmas and New Years all of you!

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As a man who has conquered depression, manifested wealth and become a powerful leader and healer of those seeking freedom, this was the perfect opportunity to dive into how he did this. Jesse Wynyard who's a musician, runs multiple businesses, and has helped many thousands of individuals to transform their lives, talks us through his journey of moving from the darkness and into the light.

Tune in as we dive into processes and shifts that you can apply to your own life to enhance your wellbeing, and to transcend the mind and body. Anyone who is willing to commit to themselves is capable of this.

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Dr. Amanda whom has over 30 years of expertise in human development and coaching offered her time to speak with us on how one can quite literally change their mind and their brain. As a doctor in Clinical Hypnotherapy, Dr. Amanda managed to develop some of her own techniques that are now used widely as tools to help one to be in control of their thought processes.

Tune in to hear how this marathon running, cancer survivor, author, speaker, neural coder and board approved trainer teaches people to bring an end to old thought patterns and beliefs that no longer serve them, and how to create new ones that do.

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Here's to the next phase of the Pocket Coach!

On this episode I share my most vulnerable experiences with mental health, and my most valuable lessons that I have taken away with me. I invite you to ask yourself the questions that I touch on, and to check in with your biggest lessons surrounding mental health and the challenges that have come your way. There's always a lesson.

I will always be able to source the info that I give. If you require evidence, just contact me!

If you got something out of this episode, it helps us, our missions, and those in need when you subscribe, share and/or review our podcast. We can reach more ears, and help to normalise this stigma that we call mental health. It's time this shift occurs exponentially, not minimally.

From facing her own struggles with anxiety and perfectionism, Nebraska Psychologist Dr. Hayden Finch has studied and researched a natural based approach to overcoming these issues. The consequence of the work she has done is the result of healing in many others through her psychology practice. As well as training in cognitive behavioural therapy, she has also trained a lot around exposure therapy and trauma based healing. 

If you find yourself in self-sabotage, or struggling to perform optimally and in the way you want to feel; then tune into Dr. Hayden’s wisdom around why the issues arise in the first place, how you can become more aware of them, and some daily tasks that you can apply so that they don’t become an issue later on.  

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Dennis Semsek (the Anxiety Guy) has accomplished a lot in his life, and even with all of his success with sport and his family, he still ran into 6 years of chronic anxiety during his mid 20’s. Join us as we explore Dennis’s story as to how he went from almost committing suicide, to now embodying a role model persona for 100’s of 1000’s whom struggle with anxiety, and how he went on to be known as “the Anxiety Guy”. 

Dennis explores the deeper reasons as to why anxiety arises, and dives into practical tools we can use at a time of anxiety to help reduce it. We also touch on supplements, medication and meditation. As a CBT and NLP practitioner, a best selling author and award winning speaker, you can tell that Dennis is someone who is heard when spoken, as his words resonate far and wide as he tells his story from a place of deep authenticity that is rarely found. 

Join the Healing Community for a free month on us. It’s a community for those that want to work on their mental health and surround themselves with others in the same boat. Various tools and constant support is provided. 

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This speaker and international soul coach working with successful business leaders who spans over multiple industries and helps thousands to embody a more abundant well-being, guides us through some mind-blowing and unique practical steps, so that we can do the same. Kyla Tustin has gone from working a high anxiety lifestyle in equities at Australia National Bank, and now works with clients in big companies such as Apple and Blackmore. She has also been featured in Good Health and the Cosmopolitan. 

Some common issues that Kyla has come across in the work she does is anxiety, disappointment and low self worth. So, we dive into these issues, and extract concepts and tools that can be easily implemented straight after listening to this podcast, so that you may go away and take action on up-leveling your way of life instantly. 

Tune in as we create a deeper understanding of what it takes to leverage your current situation and emotion, so that you may transform it into the situation and emotion that you want. 

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From party girl to self-love queen. Libby once attempted suicide from a dunken state, and this moment completely changed her life. Suffering multiple addictions, money problems, depression and a victim mentality, she made a complete transformation, and now coaches business leaders how to create an abundance of joy, income and success. She represents a life of freedom and independence, which allows her to be so effective with her work she does with others. 

Tune in as we take a deep dive into alcoholism and depression, and what was going on in Libby’s mind during this time. She speaks on the steps one can take in order to start to shift these tendencies, and how one can step into greater levels of joy, self-love and success in their life. She gives us a very digestible understanding as her Bachelor of Science in Psychology displays itself as she brings the science into the spiritual. 

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Shannon Graham battled with depression and homelessness, and now finds himself charging $150,000 USD per year (3-year minimum) for people to learn from his expertise in leadership and life. He has also become an author and a demanded speaker. Shannon has built an empire from what many would see as nothing. In doing so, he found that worthiness was key. Tune in to hear how Shannon has built this undeniable worthiness within, leading to an unshakeable yet authentic nature, and one bad-ass life. 

Join the Healing Community for a free month on us. It’s a community for those that want to work on their mental health and surround themselves with others in the same boat. Various tools and constant support is provided. 

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Ryan has been through sexual assault, drug abuse and near suicidal experiences. In all the trauma that developed, Ryan speaks on what the experience brought him in life, and the steps he took to learn to heal the darkness that resided within him. I find myself inspired constantly but this man’s work and his story. 

What blows my mind is that even though he has faced so much resistance in life, he has found a way to bring such joy, light and kindness to share with others. We give you practical tools that both Ryan and myself have used on our healing journey to help shift a lot of the suffering that built up over the years. 

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The Golden Power Ranger, Titanium the boy band, Lead Singer of Whazzoo and the Vibes, an absolute SKUX and overall a brilliant human being. Jordi has been an inspiration in my own life in many ways. Not just with his acting. Having him on my podcast has been a goal of mine for a while. 

When I first met Jordi 3 years ago, there was something special about the way he held himself. I felt an instant boost in my own energy and joy just by being around him. He clearly was doing something about himself that I was not. Ever since, I have been learning multitudes of tools and ideas from him on how to increase my levels of joy in life. He really understands what it means to bring out less seriousness in life. 

Tune in to learn how to do just that. To be less serious, to be more light, to be more connected. We speak on reframing the mind, manifesting specific goals, overcoming loneliness, finding community and friends, how to be more grounded and of course meditation. 

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The science of anxiety and new ways to decrease it. The episode is surrounding the data of anxiety, this experience we all feel when we fear something or worry about something. It’s a natural human emotion that can also be elevated into dangerous areas of experience such as panic attacks, or even worse, heart attacks after a prolonged build up of anxiety.  

In this talk I did with the number one co-working space in Bali that had people from around the world tuning in, we focus on what happens within the brain and body when anxiety arises. There’s also a focus around practical steps one can take to reverse engineer their anxiety so that you can decrease how much anxiety is in your life. This is a fantastic path to inner freedom. Through understanding comes clarity. Through clarity comes safety and peace.  

The Hurricanes openside flanker Du'Plessis Kirifi, or as we refer to him on the show “Dupes”, found himself in far more depth than he could handle during his struggle in “making it”. He refers to a time when he would drown himself in the distraction of alcohol to escape this hopelessness and these feelings of confusion and being lost, as he felt his dream being swept away from him. Amongst the overwhelm, he managed to find clarity, he managed to find success. But, how? 

Join us as we take a deep dive into Dupes’s life as he strived from club rugby, to a rising Super Rugby star, and there’s hype around him possibly making it all the way to the All Black Team. Tune in to see how Dupes has taken himself from this lost and confused place, to finding hope, understanding and contentment within the chaos. He points out key areas that have allowed him to do this, so that you can take away and practice these tools for yourself. 

NOTE: I (Kieran Hedley) as the host of this podcast, actually had a puff of weed from a bong the night before as an experiment not thinking it would affect me much. There was a lot of THC (a psychoactive part of cannabis). I haven’t smoked much in my life (aside from a wild time when I lived in California), so the THC made me considerably vacant compared to my usual self for a whole 72 hours. I even struggled to converse with anyone. This podcast was less than 12 hours after my cannabis experience, which made for a very interesting and unique interview experience. Tune in to see if you can hear my struggle as I interview Dupes. He handles this incredibly well and was very welcoming to my different self.  

Legendary All Black Liam Messam speaks on mental health. Liam played 13 seasons for the Chiefs Super Rugby, and 7 whole season for the national team the All Blacks, and won a gold medal at the Commonwealth Games for Rugby 7’s. Living such a focused and solid career in professional rugby, Liam also developed a very hard exterior. In doing so, he battled carious internal struggles that not a single soul knew of, not even his wife.   

Join us as we speak on the international rugby star’s life from being adopted, to facing dark times, to climbing the ranks of his rugby career, to being one of the first of his generation in All Black rugby to start to speak up around mental health. I found myself incredibly inspired by his ability to share what was once perceived as “softness” in such a lighthearted but raw manner. He jokes that you can find him eating butter chicken in Hamilton if you look hard enough.    

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A safe place to educate yourself on racism, spirituality, gender adversity and other aspects of what it’s like to face life in what society deems a handicapped way. Alea Lovely takes us through what it’s like going through life as a woman of colour, and how she constantly finds the calm within the thunder storms she so frequently has to face.

As I was interviewing the host of USA’s #1 Spiritual Podcast “Spiritual Sh*t”, I absolutely had to take us on a ride through her spiritual journey, her experience with spirits (not that this is what spirituality means), and how her openness to the not physical has allowed her to transcend the various challenges she faces.

If you find yourself wanting to learn how to face the struggles head on, to grow from life’s resistances, and to find internal freedom, then tune into this perspective altering, awe-inspiring interview with Alea Lovely. I myself learnt a lot in this conversation.

Pernell has lived a life that many would only think were in movies and tales that you hear. Stories that you would be told of the racism in America, or the times when racism was peaking and slavery existed. Yet… he’s lived it.

He’s lived the repercussion of what deep rooted racism has created. From fearing for his life constantly, to being pinned by a police officer simply because he was asking for help, to seeing a man pass in front of his eyes. Now this may seem tragic, and you might be thinking “I don’t want to listen to something so dreadful”. Yet, Pernell brings such an abundant energy to this podcast, just listening to him brings light into my life! He then navigates his way to freedom. Freedom that he has created on his own terms. From living in fear in America, to living life the way he wants in Columbia writing a book!

I have learnt many lessons from this fantastic human, and I will continue to learn many more. Let us heal this planet together, one moment at a time.

Anjuli has taken the fitness industry by surprise. From a small town in New Zealand, she grew up wanting to have both a deep impact on people’s lives, and wanting to make her mark in the world in some way. Through fitness, she found that vehicle.

Along the way, she struggled with binge eating, traits of body dysmorphia, anxiety and many dark lows. Yet, she has found a way through it all. Anjuli talks on her journey through these tough times, to taking the stage in the WBFF Bikini Category for a bodybuilding show and getting second place, to launching a very successful and impactful coaching business, to being a sponsored athlete.

On her journey, she has uncovered many tools and techniques she uses to get herself out of the darkness, and back into the light. With her strong desire to help, she shares these very powerful and practical tips that will help you step into new areas of growth.

Yes, you read that right. Emily faced the pain and the anxiety of being on the receiving end of a 9 year affair. She discusses the lessons and the ways this experience has helped her become the woman she is today.

There's the direct pain of the Coronavirus itself... then there's the indirect pain. Less money coming in, troubles at home, fear of own thoughts, anxiety and depression itself, worries in relationships, worries about family overseas and loneliness. We address all of these issues that have come up during the time of this pandemic. Various questions were asked via Instagram, so we narrowed it down to a few of the main ones and answered them.

If you do struggle in this time, then this is the podcast for you, as we talk about practical tools and actionable things you can do to help your situation, and to feel so much dam better. This is advice you will take for not just this time period, but to execute on overall wellbeing in life. If you seek further help, please reach out to myself or a therapist close by that can assist as you need. This isn't a burden... it's a sign of strength.

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In the chaos of occurrences, Josh Lewthwaite has shown tremendous capability to grow through problems when most will making themselves smaller and hide from the world. The struggle of fear is real. "What if I'm not enough? What if what I want to accomplish in this life isn't possible for me?" These are all very common questions both Josh and I will hear.

Josh discusses how he has overcome these fears, and how his authentic past has given to him, not taken away. In this vulnerable story of Josh, various methods and lessons are expressed on this episode.

Tune in if you're struggling to realise and step into your true potential that's deep down inside of you.

First you find it, then you feel it, then you face it, then you heal it. This was a huge lesson I learnt through my journey of healing anxiety. It’s a process that I tried to cut short and go straight to the healing of anxiety. Unfortunately (as Aaron relays) it’s not that simple. If it was that simple anxiety wouldn’t even be a thing!

Through something called ‘Radical Acceptance’, we can come to a place where anxiety is no longer a place of no return, but a place of learning and understanding… which very shortly evolves into a state of growth; not regression.

Aaron Myres; a previous client and now friend of mine grew up in the chaos of loneliness, self-doubt and constant simmering anxiety that seemed to brew up over time. He’s done wonders over the period we worked together in our coach-client relationship, and has come out the other side in consistent growth and expansion. I am beyond proud of his progress.

If Aaron’s story resonates, then please feel free to reach out to either Aaron or I. You are not a burden to either of us in letting us know your struggles.

If guidance from anxiety to mental and emotional freedom is something you seek then you can message myself on the contact details below for further details.

Addiction drives its roots deeper than any drug or person could do on its own. There’s a manipulation within the self that happens with addiction. Problems, depression, anxiety... these are all addiction mannerisms within ourself we seem to manifest to protect ourselves. Jon-Olaf talks on how his addiction to drugs took him to a place where he thought he would never see the light of day again.

Through all of this, he has come out the other side completely revolutionized and helping others to do the same. Severe depression was one massive component of this addiction, as the addiction and the depression just fed each other. Tune in to hear how he broke the cycle, and as to how you can begin to do the same for yourself.

Chris Hardy is a man from England who pursued the life of an alpha male. Seeking pleasure through women and dominance, he clambered through life in a painful way. Constantly never quite happy.

Now living in Bali after a party life in Australia and Ibiza... he’s found it; his way to heal. He talks about his life from being a party animal to an emotional being. Someone that is in tuned with his feelings and isn’t afraid of speaking up when he feels sad or weak. That in my eyes is true strength.

Tune in for his intense spontaneous journey through life as to what he’s done in his life to bring him from ego to greater bliss.

With over 1,000,000 streams on the meditation app Insight Timer, David Gandelman is a well renowned meditation teacher, podcaster, workshop and retreat host, and coach. He has changed thousands of lives with countless testimonials showcasing this. Tune into how he's come along the path of meditation, and how it has taught him how to let go of attachments. Relationships, work, self image, he's struggled with them all. He knows the pain of attachment. The pain of needing something to go a certain way or to be a certain way. He understands. Now he can teach you how to let go too.

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One continuous thought on Sara's mind was that she "wanted to be dead by 25". Yet, here she is, years later, no longer working the corporate job she thought she had to work. No longer in love with the person she thought she had to spend the rest of her life with. No longer stuck in the city she believed would manifest the success she seeked. No longer aiming for the attachments of certain standards she thought would bring her happiness. Instead, Sara creates her own happiness, and blooms her own freedom from her own will.

Breath work changed her life. It woke her up from the dream she was living, and helped her realize how much pain and trauma she truly had. In this realization, she has had the opportunity to finally work along the path to heal these pains and traumas she's stored. Now, she helps others to do the same, while living the life she now finds true joy, love and fulfillment in whilst living in Bali.

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When Lani says she's been at rock bottom, she genuinely means it. She's had what most would say is a crazy upbringing, and It's almost a miracle that she's been able to become the Bad Ass lady she is today. But she would beg to differ.

She explains how truly attainable a bad ass mentality is, so long as you make the choice that you are not a victim of your current life. This is a decision only you can make. But, once you've made that decision, you can then move forward to heal and grow from your current struggles.

Past traumas from her abusive relationships and past financial struggles earning only $700 a month have lead her to learn from the pains of being stuck, and have taught her how powerful being unstuck can really be. The pain cave is something she now seeks, rather than a space she runs away from.

The raw truth of anxiety. The way our body literally attacks it's own self through rejection. Christina guides us through how in her culture, anxiety is a very taboo topic. More so than in the English speaking work. There isn't even an actual word for the term "anxiety".

She walks us through her struggles growing up, and how she was able to uncover the layers of unprocessed emotions and struggles that had built up over the years through her travels, and through the externalization of the issues she faced. From her anxiety attacks, to the truth she lives through now. Her journey is not just a powerful one, but a very relatable one. Many will be able to grasp tools usable for their own healing journey from her story.

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When rock bottom happens, not once, but twice. You can imagine that life becomes quite questionable. Sometimes there's drugs, sometimes there's alcohol, sometimes there's getting involved with things we shouldn't. This excruciating numbness brings out our beast.

Jacob talks about his own struggles. How his losses destroyed him. But how his losses also made him the man that he is today. We explore how true suffering can be our best teacher.

No matter how hard it gets, many of us don't even show the world our pain. No matter how pissed off you might be at someone, don't ever judge them for it. Their pain might be incomprehensible, leading to their externalization of this pain. Understand that we may act the same. We need to learn to forgive ourselves so that we can learn and grow from our lows.

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Choosing authenticity. There's no have to, there's no must. There's just choice. You don't have to do anything. You technically don't have to go to work tomorrow. You may get fired but you don't have to. You choose to. You're in a lot more power than you give yourself credit for.

We dive deep into Matt's past and how he's been able to choose true authenticity over what he believed would bring more overall success, yet brought more grief, anxiety and distrust in himself. Through this bred authenticity that he has chosen, he has grown to trust himself completely, and is coaching others to do so now too.

This is Part 2 of the interview. Be sure to listen to Part 1 for the introduction to these principles and a completely different layer to the ideas discussed.

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Becoming the real authentic you isn't as simple as just "being yourself". It's diving deep into your own self awareness and realizing what triggers your inner world. Where your pains lie. What clouds your true intuition from thinking, feeling and acting based off the real you, and not the you that reacts to the external. The external being the world the is happening around us and the people in it. None of this will affect the real authentic you. Matt Yates discusses exactly how. How we can mend that broken mind and self heal our way to our true higher self.

This isn't some woo woo self proclaiming motivational talk, it's practical perspectives and tactics that life coach Matt Yates himself stands behind and has successfully transformed many lives with. I myself have used many of these methods and perspectives for my clients and myself to help with healing and growth.

This is Part 1 of the interview. Part 2 will come out next week. It was such an incredible discussion that we had to extend to a 2 part series and I will absolutely be interviewing him again at some stage.

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We often fall into the idea that we are someone completely different to the person that we want to be. However we are the ones that have crafted and created our own identity up until now, so we can do the same to create the world that we want to live in as well.

OWN your own happiness. It's not someone. It's not something. It's you. It takes you and you alone to make yourself happy through doing what's required for that happiness. Now people and things can increase happiness yes, but that happiness needs to be there from within first. Then anything extra will compliment that happiness.

You are your own complete person. Mitch talks on how his chase in the fitness industry over running his family business, which is what he thought was expected of him. His identity was running his father's business. His identity was also a sportsman, a team member, not a personal trainer. He did however want to be one, but his identity got in the way. There was too much friction... until he woke himself up.

Tune in to see how Mitch overcame his own identity crisis, and how this took him all the way over to the west coast of USA, away from his home state.

Brian and Lindsey talk how their past battles have both served them and brought them closer than they could have ever been. Pains that need healing don't always need to be healed on their own. If you have a partner on a similar path, one that lifts you up and sets your soul afire, then allow that relationship to amplify the healing process.

The stresses of relationships are there for a reason. But working through rough patches by being a support, not an anchor, allows for relationship growth, and a place for the other half to flourish.

Both Brian and Lindsey have had difficult upbringings, so tune in to see how these struggles have made them one inspiritational power couple shining a bright light for others to follow.

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When love is painful, it's not right. Love is a commitment, not a contract. We learn on this great journey of life... and boy has Kevin been on a journey. From being suicidal to the point of holding a loaded gun in his mouth, to living a beautiful long distance relationship that he finds JOY in. He's had some tough times. This is coming from a man who has been cheated on by his ex fiancee... He's had it tough!

Through the pains he's been through, he's come out the other side with a massive curiosity for love, and a much stronger individual because of the pains that he's learnt from. I encourage you to listen to this episode if you've ever been through a tough love, or are currently confused about love in some way. Why doesn't he/she see me this way, or act that way, or tell me these things. This episode clears a lot of that muddy area up that we all seem to face in relationships.

This is the key to fulfillment. Learning about love in others, but even more so, love in yourself. Self love is the root of all love. Learn this and you'll be unshakable to the point of not being phased in a negative way in a rocky situation.

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Brian DeCosta has big biceps and an even bigger heart. He's an amazing human being who's incredibly grounded and humbled as a fitness influencer. Even with his success in the fitness industry, social media and as an entrepreneur, he stays true to his beliefs and values more than one would believe. With over 127k on Instagram alone (at the time of recording), growing around from 80k in just over a month! Also living with the most spectacular view of LA from the pristine location of Sherman Oaks... His hard work is undeniable.

He's come from 4 years suffering from bulimia, an eating disorder that entails making yourself throw up after eating. This is generally triggered from the fear of disliking one's own image, yet the addiction to food is undeniable. So the clear option one may come up with is to throw it up after eating it. It's a scary world, but even I've done this a couple of times post competition in the past.

Brian shares the darkness this brought upon him and how he went on to overcome this issue. He's now on a mission to not only help those with eating disorders, but also those who struggle around food and time in general, but want to achieve a fitter, healthier and stronger self - mind and body.

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Pain. We all go through it. It's unavoidable. At the same time it's always curable. Mental Health, Mental Illness or whatever you label it as, it's something you can be freed from with your own self healing.

BUT

You need to take action and dedicate yourself to this 12 step process. It's not easy to convince yourself that healing it possible when you've been "diagnosed" with depression or been told you're going to live with anxiety for your entire life. I was medically diagnosed with depression and suggested medication for it. I said no.

Over the years I have worked my butt off daily to help heal my pains to not overcome them, but to make them my ally. It's a blessing in disguise, something that I will touch on during this episode.

The 12 step process talked on during this episode is taken from the traditional 12 steps used since 1935 to heal people from addiction be it alcohol or drugs. Tony Robbins a world class psychologist talks about our problems being the biggest addiction of all. Thus this process is the perfect tool to free us from our problems.

The variation I have personally utilized is Russel Brand's 12 step process he uses in his book "Recovery". I then dive deep into the science based methods of each step to be actioned in order for you to heal yourself from your own pains.

Nicole LePera also known as The Holistic Psychologist is a deeply experienced and renowned player in the mental health scene. She's recently exploded on Instagram because of her scientific and truthful approach to what was quotes mental illness, now shown to be curable subconscious issues created from old wounds.

We discuss how issues such as depression and anxiety can be temporarily freed from the horrible symptoms we experience through medication such as SSRI's (Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors). However in the frequent consumption of these, our body becomes adaptive, and then requires excess stimulation or consumption in order to produce these feel good hormones. This does not solve the underlying issue of the true mental health issues we face as humans. Our mind needs to undergo a a lifelong phase of self healing, an expression Nicole has come up with to embody the idea that we are responsible for the healing of our own issues, and that it's possible no matter how big the scars.

Some great practical tips for overcoming these issues on your own are also discussed, as well as why we as humans are addicted to our problems, and our most common fears that we face in today's society.

You can find Nicole LePera at https://yourholisticpsychologist.com/ and via Instagram @the.holistic.psychologist

I highly recommend reaching out to her if you're in need of therapy, as I myself have done with her in the past. Pay attention to her Instagram posts, as there is so much untold truths being showcased on her page that today's society still doesn't talk on enough.

It's now 2019, and we're all coming in strong with some crazy life changing resolutions. Now this is a good thing because it shows a desire for change. A desire to produce a better version of ourselves. However, will you action it this year, or will it turn out like 99% of all of your other resolutions. Dead by January the 21st.

We all have our own giants, so start there. Start by facing the giants you have deep down trying to protect you from yourself. Whether that's low self worth, jealousy, anger, depression, anxiety, discouragement, low motivation - they're all giants we have to face at some point. Even if you fall into your subconscious to protect yourself from your own struggles, they all surface eventually. Action on these, and make your giants conquerable through the methods described in this episode.

While listening, I want you to ask yourself this one question consistently, and notice how throughout the podcast it changes considerably. The question is "who are you really?". Is this something you can answer in depth without hesitation? I guarantee your answer to that now will change after listening, and you will have a whole new power in personal development through a new self awareness.