The Positive Talk Podcast
By Chuck Allen & Julie Homrich
The Positive Talk PodcastSep 01, 2022
ANXIETY & RELIGION
On this week's Positive Talk Podcast, we are merging faith and psychology in a really practical way as we discuss what happens when we feel anxiety about our faith. There is actually a word, SCRUPULOSITY, for when we feel this uneasy sense of guilt or anxiety about the quality of our religious beliefs.
GASLIGHTED? NOW WHAT?
Last week, Julie and Chuck discussed Gaslighting, and this week, in part two, they will discuss what to do if you are being gaslighted. It starts with ten phrases that help you identify gaslighting and the appropriate responses to avoid being gaslighted.
GASLIGHTING part ONE
“You’re crazy”. “It didn’t happen that way,” “You’re too sensitive.” and “Oh stop, you’re okay.” These are all phrases that are used when an individual is seeking to gain power and control over another person through an act we call “gaslighting.” Are you involved in a relationship where you are being gaslighted? Join Julie and Chuck for an interesting discussion on this week's Positive Talk Podcast.
I EXPECTED MORE FROM ME
You look in the mirror and think, "I Never Thought This Would Be Me." Now, what do I do? Join Mandi and Chuck for a practical conversation about happiness, expectations, disappointment, and where we think we "should be."
EXPECTATIONS AND THE EXPECTATION HANGOVER
Expectations and the hangovers they can create. That can happen when our expectations, created and assumed, run wild. Join Chuck and his guest host, Mandi Allison, for how to manage our expectations on this week's episode of the Positive Talk Podcast.
ARE ONLINE RELATIONSHIPS CHEATING?
Is an online relationship cheating? What if I hide my online relationships? Do you think I should be concerned about my partner's online relationship? Join this week's discussion as Chuck and Julie unpack some helpful advice on the Positive Talk Podcast.
TECHNOLOGY AND YOUR FAMILY
We all face it! How do my life and family interact with technology and build healthy relationships? Join Chuck and Julie for this helpful conversation.
PARENTING WITH SCREEN LITERACY
Parenting in the digital age isn’t for the faint of heart. How can we help our kids develop healthy screen habits through screen literacy? Join Julie and Chuck as they offer a few practical tools for parents looking to find the right balance with screen literacy.
In this week’s episode, you will discover helpful and practical ways to manage screen time, screen tools, and screen help.
What you will not find in this week’s episode is shutting down technology, avoiding the fact that screens are “a real thing,” and shaming how technology can assist in parenting.
Every parent can benefit from this candid conversation in screen literacy. Thanks for joining the Positive Talk Podcast!
HEALING FROM UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
We all have some unhealthy relationships in our lives. How do we identify them, and what do we do about them? Julie and Chuck offer a few helpful tools to help us work through the challenge of unhealthy relationships on the Positive Talk Podcast.
WHY DO I KEEP CHOOSING THESE RELATIONSHIPS?
Without knowing it, we often choose relationships that are unhealthy, and too often we choose those relationships based on our past, our hurts, our habits, etc. When we recognize those relationships are unhealthy or toxic, we need a little help in working our way through them. Join Julie and Chuck as they help us all navigate our way through challenging relationships on the Positive Talk Podcast.
RED FLAGS IN RELATIONSHIPS
Red Flags in Relationships:
Relationships can be complex. However, learning to identify relationship red flags from the start can mitigate a lot of suffering in the long run. Join Chuck and Julie this week on the Positive Talk Podcast as they simplify the process of identifying red flags in your relationships. Mixing therapeutic guidance and spiritual discernment, you can learn to engage in authentic, reciprocal and mutually beneficial relationships that help you grow into the best version of yourself.
RED FLAGS in RELATIONSHIPS
Relationships can be complex. However, identifying relationship red flags can mitigate much suffering in the long run. Join Chuck and Julie on the Positive Talk Podcast this week as they simplify identifying red flags in your relationships.
THE DNA OF RELATIONSHIPS
Psychologists, pastors, and leadership experts tell us that the quality of our lives depends, in no small part, on the quality of our relationships.
And yet, the actual substance of what makes a good relationship remains a mystery to many of us. Join Chuck and Julie as we kick off Season 5 of the Positive Talk Podcast, unpacking what happens in our body, mind, and spirit during a relationship. If you’ve ever wondered where emotions, attachment, and love begin, join us as we explore the DNA of Relationships.
ARE YOU BURNED OUT?
The World Health Organization defines burnout as feelings of energy depletion or exhaustion, increased mental distance, or feelings of negativism or cynicism and reduced efficiency. This means that if you’re exhausted, feel disconnected from the people and things that matter most to you, have difficulty cultivating a hopeful mindset, and aren’t operating at your best, you could be experiencing burnout. The name mirrors what happens when a flame goes out—you feel like you’ve lost your spark- you’re burnt out.
Join Julie and Chuck for this essential and entertaining conversation on the Positive Talk Podcast.
They are unavoidable. They are frustrating. They can be terrible. But they do not have to define you; you do not have to engage in all of them.
Join Julie and Chuck as they discuss arguing without "losing it."
This week's Positive Talk Podcast is a super-practical look at a subject we all deal with - ARGUMENTS!
S.P.A.C.E. and Your Kids
Join therapist and co-host Julie Homrich on this week's Positive Talk Podcast as she unpacks a revolutionary way to help parent your children through S.P.A.C.E.
S.P.A.C.E., which stands for Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions, is a new treatment method proposing a change to this model. The S.P.A.C.E. program is designed to help children feel less anxious, but the parents and caregivers participate in treatment sessions — not the kid.
This is a constructive conversation for parents struggling with anxious kids. Join Julie for this important episode.
I'M SO OVERWHELMED!
Are you feeling buried under an avalanche of tasks, responsibilities, and commitments? Do you wake up every morning with a sense of dread and anxiety about managing everything on your plate? Overwhelm can be crippling and exhausting, but it's not a life sentence. In this week's Positive Talk Podcast, Julie and Chuck explore practical strategies for working out of overwhelm and regaining control over your time, energy, and focus.
Whether you're a busy professional juggling multiple projects or a stay-at-home parent trying to keep up with household chores, these tips will help you regain the reins and feel more empowered in your daily life. So grab a cup of coffee (or tea), and let's get started!
I'M SO DANG OFFENDED, NOW WHAT?
What do we do when we seem to remain "offended?"
The “mental ingredients” of offense we’d have to take into account in today's episode include,
1.) The triggering event
2.) Our perception of that event (we used the term “The story I am telling myself is…”) and then,
3.) Our ability or inability to move through the anger, so it doesn’t fester into resentment.
How exactly do we do that? We’re going to discuss that today.
Join Chuck and Julie for this helpful conversation on the Positive Talk Podcast.
THE UNOFFENDABLE LIFE
Why are we so offended by everything? It seems like every day; there is someone or something that we are offended by. Whether it's a political candidate, a commercial, or even a Facebook status, we can't seem to help but be offended by something.
This week’s Positive Talk Podcast will examine what makes us so offended. From examining our biases to understanding words' power and how they can affect us. But more importantly, how can we live UNOFFENDABLE.
ARE YOU SUPPORTING OR ENABLING?
It's a far too frequent challenge; when do I cross the line from being supportive, to becoming an enabler?
There are some signs that we can use to help ourselves be supportive without becoming an enabler. Whether is it in the context of addictions, marriage, workplace, friends or even ourselves! Join Julie and Chuck for this fascinating conversation as they merge faith and psychology on the Positive Talk Podcast.
THE DANGERS OF FUNDAMENTALISM
Maybe the word FUNDAMENTALISM triggers something in you, whether good or bad.
In this week's episode of the POSITIVE TALK PODCAST, Julie and Chuck discuss the dangers of fundamentalism in faith, especially how it impacts our brain
and emotional health. Regardless of how you initially receive the word fundamentalism, this is an important and fascinating topic that affects many of us.
PRACTICAL STEPS TO MEANINGFUL CHANGE
It is one thing to change, another to want to change, and yet another to actuate change. We were created to change, even when it is painful. In this week's Positive Talk Podcast, Julie and Chuck unpack five practical steps toward meaningful change. Don't miss this week's Positive Talk Podcast.
WHAT WE BECOME - MIRROR MIRROR!
Mirror, Mirror, Hoe Influence Shapes Us
WHAT WE BECOME - Our brains were created to reflect what we focus on and who we spend time with.
This is why some people say, “Want to see who you’ll become in 5 years?” Look at the five people you spend the most time with.
JOIN JULIE & CHUCK FOR THE FASCINATING EPISODE OF THE POSITIVE TALK PODCAST.
HOW CHANGE REALLY HAPPENS
Ever wonder how change truly happens in your life? The science of sanctification is a tangible action in our physical body.
Mind, body, and soul all play a role in strengthening and changing our lives from the inside out. You can change significantly as you co-create a new you in cooperation with your Creator.
Join Chuck and Julie for this fascinating conversation - The Science of Sanctification on the Positive Talk Podcast.
WHERE YOUR PEACE RESIDES
Discovering peace and maintaining a soul at peace is a significant task. We can experience peace in our physical bodies. It's not just a "feeling."
We must know where peace resides in our body, soul, and mind to do that. You can discover peace and build your "peace muscles."
Join Julie and Chuck for season four of the Positive Talk Podcast.
HOW TO FINISH WELL
Whether it is a relationship, a job, a career, or a life, we all need to know how to finish well. One thing we can all grow into is the difference between completion and ending. Join Julie, a therapist, and Chuck, a pastor as they merge faith and psychology each week on the Positive Talk Podcast. This week's conversation is so good!
Join the conversation in this season's final episode and find all of season 1, 2, and 3 on your favorite podcast platform, including Apple.
WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO?
So - what do you do when you don’t know what to do?
The answer isn’t the same for everyone, but you can decide via many different paths. Working through indecision can be a challenging experience, especially if you’re facing a big life change. You can find a way to get unstuck, consider your decision, and take action with a calm, peace-filled mind.
Join Julie and Chuck as they unpack the steps to move forward in a positive fashion when you don't what to do on this week's Positive Talk Podcast.
AT THE ROOT OF THE CHALLENGE
We all wonder what's at the root of the problem. Sometimes you need an encouraging word. Other times you need to dig a little further. Often, we don't stop to discover what is at the root of our challenges, and as a result, they continue to show up on our emotional and physical radars. So, join the conversation at the POSITIVE TALK PODCAST.
THE TOP FIVE REASONS WE SEE A THERAPIST!
We all want to know why most people see a therapist.
It might help us formulate our thoughts for when we decide that we need a therapist, coach, or counselor.
You may have heard Chuck or Julie say on the Positive Talk Podcast that we all have a season (or twenty) in our lives when we could benefit from a coach, a counselor, or a therapist. Don't miss this fun and helpful discussion with Julie and Chuck as they merge faith and psychology each week on the POSITIVE TALK PODCAST.
BOUNDARIES WITH TEENS
Maybe you are the parent or grandparent of an adolescent-aged child. Maybe you are a teen-aged kid. Regardless, you can gain a great deal of wisdom from this week's episode of the POSITIVE TALK PODCAST with hosts Julie Homrich and Chuck Allen. As always, Julie and Chuck merge faith and psychology in their usual helpful and humorous way. Join the conversation!
HEALTHY BOUNDARIES IN MARRIAGE
One of the best ways to strengthen or resurrect a marriage is to establish healthy internal and external boundaries.
Join Chuck and Julie for this significant conversation that can help every marriage and every relationship on this week's Positive Talk Podcast.
HEALTHY BOUNDARIES FOR SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS
WHEN WE EXPERIENCE LIFE DIFFERENTLY
NEURODIVERSITY. It sounds a bit daunting, but it is the term for when we or others experience and interact with the world around them in many different ways. Many families have some form of neurodiverse children and parents. Maybe you are a uniquely awesome neurodiverse person. Join Mandi and Julie for a positive conversation regarding neurodiversity on this week's POSITIVE TALK PODCAST.
WHEN OUR KIDS DON'T BOW TO OUR IDOLS
Join Julie Homrich and Mandi Allison for this special episode of the Positive Talk Podcast about what happens when our children don't live as we would like, or better stated when they do not bow to our idols. For every parent, grandparent, or soon-to-be parent, this conversation is so, so good. Join these two moms and therapists as they offer some practical and positive help for all of us.
THE POWER OF COMPASSION
COMPASSION - True compassion requires us to, first of all, pay attention, because when we are preoccupied with our own lives, we won't enter this process. But an exciting thing happens in the brain once we notice a need or see a crisis, like at Robb Elementary School. Our distress/threat circuitry lights up. We call it "empathetic distress," where we start to feel a bit of pain for someone else. Unfortunately, many of us get stuck in empathetic distress.
Moving forward in compassion will likely cause us to act on it. Join Julie and Chuck as they discuss how we can act and react positively through compassion on the Positive Talk Podcast.
HOW TO BE YOUR OWN THERAPIST Part 2
We can all be more of our own therapists with a few tools and helpful steps. Join Chuck and Julie as they unpack what you can do for the "other 167 hours" each week to help to become your own therapist. This is a great episode with Julie and Chuck on the Positive Talk Podcast.
HOW TO BE YOUR OWN THERAPIST
After you leave the therapist, what can you do for the other 167 hours this week? We all wonder, at times, how to effectuate change in our lives, right? What is it that helps people change thoughts, behaviors, and actions? There are several mechanisms of change, but today, we will provide insight into an efficient change process and help you move from knowledge to action. You can make considerable changes in your life as you learn to become your therapist!
Welcome to Season 3, Episode 2: HOW TO BE YOUR THERAPIST
THE CERTAINTY OF UNCERTAINTY
We all deal with the anxiety and stress that comes with UNCERTAINTY.
The question isn't if we will deal with uncertainty but how we will learn to cope, tolerate and even lean into uncertainty. Learning how to hold our predetermined assumptions and feelings about certainty and uncertainty is essential to living with greater peace and purpose. Join Chuck and Julie for an honest and positive conversation about our uncertainty. This episode is a powerful reminder of how we crave certainty as we launch season three of the POSITIVE TALK PODCAST.
POSITIVE STRATEGIES FOR A HEALTHY MARRIAGE
We all need to be reminded of the positive ways that we can strengthen our marriage. If we aren't Intentional, we will give greater attention to servicing our vehicles than servicing our marriage relationships. Join Pastor Chuck Allen for a positive discussion about how to strengthen your marriage through these simple strategies in this week's Positive Talk Podcast.
WHEN IS IT TIME TO SEEK HELP?
In a very special episode of the Positive Talk Podcast, Julie joins Mandi Allison for a truly important conversation about how we know that it is time to seek help. Sometimes we just need more than what friends and family can offer in our mental and emotional health quest. Join Julie and Mandi as they unpack when it is time to seek professional help. We all have our "pain points" and ignoring them or numbing them will never resolve them. This week's episode is a positive look at how and when to discover real help.
HELP! SPIRITUAL BYPASSING PART 2
When we feel like spiritual help hurts more than help, we might need to have a fresh look at a serious issue in a positive light - Spiritual bypassing can harm, hurt, and leave people traumatized for decades. Know how you can work your way through being spiritually bypassed, or even being the spiritual bypassed. Join Chuck and Julie for this important positive conversation on so many levels.
YUCK! IT'S CALLED SPIRITUAL BYPASSING
This is a challenging subject. But, as usual. Julie and Chuck offer a positive take on confronting the ugly in the next two weeks. Suppose you’ve felt like your pain was invalidated by a well-meaning person telling you to “pray harder” or insinuating you’re struggling physically or emotionally simply because you don’t have enough faith. In that case, you’ll want to tune in today and next week. The subject? SPIRITUAL BYPASSING!
WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS NOW
We would all agree that the world seems out of sorts these days, but what can we do about it? It seems so daunting to consider what your part of our job might be as we attempt to instigate better in these turbulent days. Join Julie Homrich, LPC, and Pastor Chuck Allen for a positive conversation about what we can do to make our world a far more peace-filled place to live...together.
WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS NOW...
We all feel it, know it, and experience it—that anxious, restless feeling in our world today. There is a not-so-subtle undertone of anger and angst in almost every sector of our society, and we have a way to combat that positively. Join Julie and Chuck for this life-altering conversation as they discuss an equation that can help lead you to a more peace-filled and purposeful life!
BEYOND THE MELTDOWN with Our Children
Last week, on the Positive Talk Podcast, we discussed what happens when our kids have a meltdown. In this week's episode, Julie and Chuck unpack how we can assist our children through a meltdown and how we can parent so that each meltdown can be redeemed. If you are a parent, then you have felt the guilt of the big question - Am I failing as a parent? NO! You need a few tools to help you lead and love that allow you and your child to move forward in a more positive direction. Join Julie and Chuck for this super-helpful conversation!
CHILDREN & MELTDOWNS
If behavior is a form of communication, what are our children telling us when they have emotional meltdowns? And let's face it, every parent has been there - their child's meltdown.
Even the best of parents can’t always avoid their child having a meltdown, but we ALL can learn how to respond positively in ways that set our family up for success.
It is possible to stay connected with your child while setting clear boundaries during a meltdown.
Join Chuck and Julie as they discuss brain-based approaches to moving through meltdowns in a meaningful way.
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU HAVE A MELTDOWN
The Meltdown. That time when your frustration, anger, exhaustion, and impatience collide, and you just have a complete meltdown. We’ve all had them, and it’s not pretty. In this week's episode of the Positive Talk Podcast, Julie and Chuck help us avoid more meltdowns, and positively recover from them. Because recovering from a total emotional meltdown can seem like the most impossible of tasks. But, with a little conscious thought and gentle self-care, it is possible to get back on the horse again after a meltdown. Join the conversation as Julie and Chuck merge FAITH & PSYCHOLOGY on the Positive Talk Podcast.
WHEN THE WORLD IS FALLING APART
That is the question, right? But we have some tools that might help you handle this "unokayness" a bit better. Is that a real word? NO, it isn't. But it makes sense to all of us struggling to make sense in a world that seems completely out of control. Join Julie and Chuck for this 30-minute conversation that provides a positive way to live healthy in unhealthy circumstances.
CHANGE AND DESIRED RESULTS
The life you desire to create is directly proportionate to your ability to tolerate its opposite.
The life you want is waiting for you, but it’s only going to become a reality for you if you can tolerate its opposite in the process.
Time and time again, individuals are stopped along their journey. Just because they failed once doesn’t mean their failures define them or their project will never work. It simply means, as Thomas Edison believed, they found one more way it didn’t work. But that means they are one step closer to achieving the result. FINDING A WAY THROUGH CHANGE AND PROGRESS IS ESSENTIAL TO OUR PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT!
CHANGE - OH COME ON!
The world is such a terminal state of change, and we all hate it when change is done to us.
Join Chuck and Julie as they unpack how we can move past contemplation into significant change.
The Positive Talk Podcast merges faith and psychology to help our listeners discover a more peace-filled and purposeful life!