Healing Courageously

As we close out the month of May, we are excited to have Lupita join us as she shares her experiences of Parenting Adult Children. Yes... parents are always parenting. Don't miss this final episode for the month of May!

Raising teens can be challenging. In this week's episode, Ruben and Andrea share their experiences in raising their two fine young men. We all can use a little help from our friends. Join us, won't you?

This week we have a very special couple joining us to share their story on the steps they took and where they are today to help their son, who was diagnosed with special needs. This story will touch your heart!

We had the honor and privilege to have Adrian and Jeanette join us on this weeks podcast where they discuss their experience on Blended Families. They have done a beautiful job in bringing two families into one, full of love, honor and respect. We hope you will join us!

New Month...New Topic! We are excited for the Month of May on Parenting. In this episode, Erik and Katrina join us and share what it's like to be parents of their beautiful newborn daughter.

We can all be part of the solution. In this episode, Randy and Cathy will provide information on How You Can Help survivors of abuse.

Have you ever wondered who these men and women are that abuse children? In this episode, Randy and Cathy will be sharing very informative information that may surprise you.

As we continue this month of April on National Child Abuse Awareness Prevention Month, this week Randy and Cathy discuss the Signs, Examples and Effects of Abuse. Join us and invite a friend....you never know who you may be helping.

April is National Child Abuse Awareness Month. Randy and Cathy will be sharing each week on this important subject. They will kick off this week sharing What is Abuse? along with giving you some very eye opening statistics. We hope that we are able to bring more awareness to our listeners on this very difficult subject.

In this week's episode, we will hear from Justin and Esther, as they share the miracle of Justin's experience when Covid hit him.  You will hear how Esther's faith took over and the true miracle of what not giving up looks like when you believe what God can do in your life.

 You won't want to miss it.

In this episode Uncle Eddie and Randy share a couple of miracles, out of many,  that happened in 2017 on the Ride Across America to Stomp Out Shame. You won't want to miss this one as you never know what is going to happen when Eddie and Randy start tallking. 

In this week's episode, we will hear from JJ, who had a medical condition that almost took his life.  He had a 50/50 chance of surviving.  But God... miracles do happen and we hear how God had other plans for JJ.

In this week's episode, we hear Ramona share the beautiful miracle of God's healing over her sister, as a result of Ramona's obedience and faith. You won't want to miss it.

As we kick off the month of March, we invite you to listen to these beautiful stories of miracles that happen in our lives.  In this episode, Alina shares her miracle of how God showed up and showed off in making her dream come true.

In this episode, we close out our series on The 4 P's of Love. Our host Randy & Cathy will be talking about "Persevering Love" and how they have themselves persevered through some very tough issues in their 39+ years of marriage.  You won't want to miss one. 

As we continue our series on The 4 P's of Love, we would love to have you join us in hearing how Albert & Lauren, a blended family of 7, has learned how to Pursue Love with each other and their kids while managing the home and working full time.  All of this while making a move across country to Texas to start a fresh new life as a blended family. 

As we continue our series on The 4 P's of Love, we would love to have you join us in hearing how Chris & Alicia, a family of 7 with twins has learned how to create Practical Love with each other and their kids.  All of this while making a move across country to Alabama, starting a new job and a new business as well.

As we begin the month of February, we are excited to talk about The 4 P's of Love - this week we will have our special guest Jared & Allyssa share what "Patient Love" is for them and how they apply patience to their marriage and family.

As we close out the month of January, we will leave you with the letter "T" of S.M.A.R.T. Goals for "Time-Specific".  We hope you enjoyed this months episodes.

R is for Relevant - A goal is Relevant when it's important to you - join us this week as we journey on and discover how to apply the R in our S.M.A.R.T. Goals

 ATTAINABLE:  Possible to achieve; capable of being accomplished - Tune in to this week's episode as Randy and Cathy continue discussing SMART Goals.

This week we continue sharing S.M.A.R.T. Goals with you with the letter "M" for Measurable.  Join us as Randy explains what a Measurable goal is and the importance of having one.

Have you struggled with setting and accomplishing Goals?  Well, we have the solution.  Join Randy and Cathy in this weeks episode as we kick off 2023 discussing S.M.A.R.T. Goals beginning with the S - Specific Goals.

Have you ever said Yes when you mean No?  You are not alone.  This week we have our special guest joining us and sharing her struggles and successes in finding her voice and learning that No is a Complete Sentence.  Join us Monday December 26th.

What happens if we don't have boundaries?  In this episode, we share several things that can happen to us both physically and emotionally.  Tune in on Monday December 19th as we share about those consequences.

In this episode, Randy and Cathy continue the conversation on Emotional Boundaries.  Emotional Boundaries are so important to implement, not only around the holidays, but for the rest of your life.  Join us this Monday for Part 2 of Emotional Boundaries.

Setting Boundaries can be difficult for sure.  In this episode of Emotional Boundaries - Part 1, Randy and Cathy ask the question  "What are Emotional Boundaries?"  Join us for this important episode.  

Many times Forgiveness can be difficult.  In this week's episode, Randy and Cathy share about Forgiveness and why it is so important to Forgive. 

Many times we are faced with uncomfortable situations during the holidays.  Randy and Cathy share 10 tips you can use during the holidays if you are faced with an uncomfortable situation with family and friends.

This is a conversation with the co-founders of The Carpenter Shed. Their goal at The Carpenter Shed is to give their residents, typically between the age of 16 and 21, the tools they need to build lives of purpose. If I had an adolescent son that needed help, this is where I would send them. You don't want to miss this conversation. 

As the holidays quickly approach, some of us struggle with family during the holidays.  In this episode, Randy and Cathy will share their experiences in the 1st years of recovery on how they managed difficult situations and give tips on what will help you as well.

November is the month of Thanksgiving.  We kick off this month with everything we are thankful for.  Join us on our next podcast called "Gratitude".  There is always something to be grateful for.  What are you grateful for today?

Leadership Matters.... join us on Monday October 31st for this week's episode "Traits of a Good Leader".  Randy and Cathy will discuss what those character traits are and share some areas of their lives that they worked at leading well.  We look forward to you joining us.

Join us on Monday October 24th for our new episode "What is Love?"  Randy will be sharing some scripture from the bible and share how these important scriptures give us exactly what we need to do to Love..... Love is not always easy, but it is necessary.... we hope you will join us.

Have you been curious as to What a Life Coach does?  In this episode, Randy will go over some of the items on how a life coach works and what you as a client can expect out of your coaching sessions.  He will also explain what a Life Coach is not.  If we're being honest, we can all benefit from a Life Coach.  Tune in Monday October 17th for this informative episode....

In this episode Cathy switches roles with Randy and is asking him questions about his early  recovery. What was it like going to his first meeting? Did it meet or exceed his expectations? Was it different than he had anticipated. When was he finally comfortable enough to be around family and friends when drinking was involved. How important is it to have a relationship with God and several other great questions. If you're thinking about getting sober or struggling with getting sober, you will not want to miss this episode. 

We hoped you enjoyed last weeks Healing Courageously podcast - "Meet Cathy - Part 1" and look forward to you joining us on Monday October 3rd for "Meet Cathy - Part 2".  Cathy will continue sharing her testimony through the dark times of her marriage and on to her healing journey.  Cathy will reflect the  amazing work God has done in her.  She will continue to share her story of courage, hope and healing.  We look forward to having you join us.

We have a fun and exciting episode this week on the "Healing Courageously" podcast.  Join Randy and Cathy this week as Cathy shares her testimony to her healing journey.  "Meet Cathy" will bring you insight to Cathy's life growing up and into her marriage with Randy.  We look forward to having you join us.

In this episoade Randy talks about the real meaning of "wives submitting to your husbands." It is not what you many believe igt to be. Join Randy as he dives into Ephesians 5:21 - 33 for a look at what the bible says about submission of both the wife and the husband. 

Do you want to know your spouse on a deeper level? Are you curious why your spouse does the things they do and why they do them a specific way? Are you wondering how you can gain a better understanding and comprehension of the uniqueness of your spouse's traits and personality? Well S.Y.M.B.I.S. (Save Your Marriage Before it Starts) is exactly the tool to help you gain that knowledge. It is not a personality test, spiritual strength test, or any sort of a test. It is a simple assessment that was developed by marriage counselors over a 21 year period of time. In this episode Randy & Cathy discuss some of the details and benefits of S.Y.M.B.I.S. Rather you are just getting engaged, just married, or have been married for 10, 20, 30 or more years, this assessment will greatly enhance your relationship with your fiance, partner, or spouse. 

Click on the link below to go directly to our S.Y.M.B.I.S page. 

http://www.changeyourlifestorynow.com/symbis-packages.html

Dreams are unrefined hopes, aspirations we would like to accomplish one day. Converting a dream into reality is a decision that only you can make. It is possible to make your realistic dreams come and hopes come true. However only you hold the key to make that happen. It starts by setting a goal and then being "intentional" about achieving your goal. On this episode Randy and Cathy talk about the importance of setting goals and then being intentional about working towards completing those goals. 

In this episode Randy & Cathy Boyd will continue to answer several questions about what's helped them maintain a healthy marriage for 39 years in hopes that they can help answer some the questions you might be asking yourself on how to maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse/partner.

In this episode Randy & Cathy Boyd answer several questions about what's helped them maintain a healthy marriage for 39 years in hopes that they can help answer some the questions you might be asking yourself on how to maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse/partner. 

Randy is joined by his wife for the first of many conversations about relationship challenges and blessings. In this episode they talk about "Couples in Recovery," the challenges both spouse face and the long term blessings as you incorporate the tools of recovery in your daily walk through life. You won't want to miss this one. 

What is the difference between suffering and struggling? Is suffering really necessary? Is struggling just a part of everyday life? Does it really have to be? Do we have a choice in either instance? I will be talking about and answer these questions in the episode of Healing Courageously.

There are scriptures in the bible that many parents use as a means of justifying the punishment of their children. There are also scriptures in the bible that are rarely if ever heard in a church on the consequences of abusing children. On this episode we will dive into some of these scriptures.  

Are you a person that struggles believing there is a God that lives and cares for you? Do you believe that if there is a God, he forgot about you and has no time for you? I can relate as I was in those exact shoes sixteen years ago. 

In this episode I am going to talk about some reasons we might not believe in God. I'm also going to talk about some reasons that if you are like me, should convince you that God is alive and real.

Acceptance really is the answer to all our problems today. Until we can accept life completely on life's terms, not ours, we cannot truly be free or happy. We need to concentrate not so much on what needs to change in the world, but as on what needs to be changed in us and our attitudes. If we do not accept the things we cannot change, then we are fighting them. We are at war within our own mind. What are we fighting for, control over people, places, and things that you have not, nor will ever have control over. We must stop fighting everyone and everything. Remember, acceptance does not mean approval. 

What exactly does Paul mean by "forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forward to those things which are ahead?" 

Exactly how to we become Renewed by the Transforming of our mind? 

In this episode we will break down these two questions and give you answers for both. 

Have you ever been or are you currently Spiritually confused. I know that growing up and into much of my adult life I was. I can only imaging that in todays times, many of you are spiritually confused. I know many survivors of abuse are very confused,

Have you ever asked you questions similar to the ones listed below. 

– Does God really exist? 

– Is the Devil real? 

– Is meditation a form of satanic worship? 

– I yoga a form of satanic worship and a satanic belief? 

These are questions I struggled with as a result of the spiritual abuse I endured growing up. What exactly is spiritual abuse: Abuse of any type occurs when someone has power over another and uses that power to hurt. Thus spiritual abuse happens when a leader with spiritual authority uses that authority to coerce, control, or exploit a follower, thus causing spiritual wounds.

In this episode we will discuss in detail using real life examples of spiritual abuse, how it is manipulated and how it can effect our out look on the bible, church and God. 

Because of the most recent mass shooting in Uvalde, I will be discussing things that happened and went wrong on this dreadful day. I will also be talking about mental health, gun control, 2nd amendment and solutions. 

This is my interview with Eddie, my driver on our great adventure, known as Stitch to me. This is a long overdo talk about our Ride Across America in 2017. A life changing experience for both of us. 

For the month of May we will be talking about community and the importance of it in our lives. In this episode we will be talking about different types of communities and the importance of surrounding yourself with a healthy community with like minded people who live like you want to live and have what you want emotionally and spiritually. 

On this episode I am having an intimate conversation with the the Founders/Owners of Boyce Family Recovery - One on One Recovery Coaching for Adolescents & Young Adults age 13-23 years old. They offer Family Case Management, Family Workshops, Young Adult Recovery Coaching, and Interventions. If you have a adolescent or young adult struggling with addiction or mental issues, wo DO NOT want to miss this one. 

For the month of May we will be talking about community and the importance of it in our lives. In this episode we will be talking about what a community is.

National Child Abuse Prevention Month recognizes the importance of families and communities working together to strengthen families to prevent child abuse and neglect. Through this collaboration, prevention services and supports help protect children and produce thriving families.

On this episode we will discuss: How we Can Help - Why We Don't Tell

National Child Abuse Prevention Month recognizes the importance of families and communities working together to strengthen families to prevent child abuse and neglect. Through this collaboration, prevention services and supports help protect children and produce thriving families.

On this episode we will discuss: Examples of Sexual Abuse - The Effects - Signs to Look For

We have all done this that we regret, however we do not have to live with regret for the rest of our lives. In fact, why be regretful at all. How about if we can just start looking at our "regrets' as a learning moment. What did you learn from the thing you "regretted?" Own it, learn from it, write out what you would like to differently, become entranced in today, and make a plan as to what you will do differently the next time the situation arises. Take the action needed not to repeat the same actions as before. We will discuss all of this in this episode of Healing Courageously. 

National Child Abuse Prevention Month recognizes the importance of families and communities working together to strengthen families to prevent child abuse and neglect. Through this collaboration, prevention services and supports help protect children and produce thriving families.

In this episode we will discuss what abuse is, who the perpetrators are, what a abuse perpetrator is, and some general characteristics of a abuse perpetrator. You will be shocked to find out who most of the perpetrators are.

Each week this month we will be discussing some aspect of child abuse and how we might prevent it.

National Child Abuse Prevention Month recognizes the importance of families and communities working together to strengthen families to prevent child abuse and neglect. Through this collaboration, prevention services and supports help protect children and produce thriving families. 

In this episode we will discuss what abuse is, some statistics, and who the perpetrators are. You will be shocked to find out who most of the perpetrators are. 

Each week this month we will be discussing some aspect of child abuse and how we might prevent it. 

The importance of words and word choice is a key to developing healthy relationships. Using positive affirmations is probably the #1 key to taking those relationships to a much a higher level. Often times we affirm a person's physical attributes, which is absolutely needed. However, there is a much more needed and deeper affirmation that can take your relationship to a much higher level. Affirmations of the soul. In this episode Randy and his wife Cathy talk in depth about these types of affirmations and how it has helped their relationship and how they can and will help yours as well, as long as you are consistent at it.

Is it anger or rage? Is anger an okay emotion to have? In this episode my wife and I dive into the myths and truths about these questions and hopefully give some clarity as well. 

This is a great interview with Neal Williams Founder of Elevated Lifestyles Academy and his father Rex. An intimate conversation of a sons addiction and a fathers love that stayed strong and faithful that his son would find God and recovery. While they talk about the addiction and their struggles, they more importantly talk about their recovery journey and what led Neal to start his Coaching career. You absolutely do not want to miss this episode.   

This is a intimate conversation with Elizabeth & Nicole about betrayal and Forgiveness. We talk about perhaps the biggest betrayal of all that is virtually never talked about - betrayal of ourselves. They will also talk about their upcoming 12 week course - Becoming (W)hole. 

Forgiveness is one of the subjects that is most ignored by trauma survivors. I know I was once one that wanted nothing to do with forgiveness. That has all changed. I can honestly say that it was forgiving that truly set me free from the bondage of the past. Forgiveness gave me a freedom I never knew possible. In this episode I talk about what forgiveness is and is not, as well as steps in the forgiving process.

Are you living for your identity or from your identity? 

This is an intimate interview with Nathaniel Blackburn, Founder of True North Retreats, a place of spiritual healing for men 20 years old and older. You won't want to miss this one. 

An interview with Melissa Cavanaugh LPC and author of "Please, Write Back." We will discuss what inspired her to write this book and other questions about what challenges she might have faced writing it and what she hopes readers will take away from her book. This is a personal and intimate interview you won't want to miss. 

Expectations are simply resentments under construction. Should we have expectations of man? Should we have expectations of God. What are expectations really? These are things I will discuss in this episode of Healing Courageously. 

Many pastors make it sound like once you have accepted Christ in your life, fairy dust falls from heaven and all your problems, behaviors and issues just automatically disappear. It's really not that simple and I talk some scriptures, that in my opinion, make this clear. 

The Green Shoe foundation is a mental health non-profit organization offering confidential, professional, five-day retreats aimed towards improving and impacting individual lives and communities. Our goal is to help you embrace and heal the past, restore healthy patterns in your life, create space to be your authentic self, and discover joy.​

Our team is here to provide guidance, inspiration, and tools to help you overcome challenges in your life. Our no-cost, five-day retreat allows an individual to experience transformational change focusing on personal growth, self-actualization, and self-realization. We work with people to raise awareness of how past family roles and family systems reverberate in their current relationships - personal or professional.  

​Acknowledge your past relational history, start healing, and learn to live fully in the present. 

We understand this decision may be a challenge to move towards living in recovery. It is natural to have uncertainty, unanswered questions about our retreat or maybe you're unsure about taking the next step to start the healing process.

Some experts in the field of addiction believe that addiction is a disease, I don't and I have plenty of reasons why I believe it is a CHOICE. In this episode I give a couple of real life examples that spell out clearly that addiction is a choice.

Since earning her Masters Degree in Counselor Education through the CACREP Accredited program at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette, Melissa Cavanaugh has been helping her community find clarity and balance. Melissa is focused on helping the youth through a mix of direct and non-direct play therapy, as well as adults through facilitating meaningful therapeutic relationships. Her eclectic approach enables her to adapt to each of her clients’ unique needs and situations.

Melissa published her first children's book in April of 2021 titled "Please, Write Back" where she tells her story of loving and eventually losing her mother to addiction. Melissa is passionate about spreading awareness around the topic of addiction. She aims to help families start having hard conversations, and begin the bath to healing through recovery.

In this episode we will be talking about how children are affected by parents who struggle with addiction. We will also be talking some of the  methods of therapy to help children understand  that it is not their fault and other issues they might deal with. 

There comes a time in the lives of those of us who raise children that they leave the nest. Rather its going off to college, getting married, or as adults, when they might move out of their hometown either to another city hours away or somewhere out of state. This is a time to experience both sadness and joy. My wife and I have felt both of these feelings and have grown closer to each other because of it. We talk about a few these experiences in this episode.

One of the big reasons people struggle so much with God is because they relate our Father in heaven (God) with their earthly father. In this episode I talk about what that looks like and the reasons this happens. There is light and hope for those that have this struggle.

One of the big reasons people struggle so much with God is because they relate our Father in heaven (God) with their earthly father. In this episode I talk about what that looks like and the reasons this happens. There is light and hope for those that have this struggle.   

In this episode I am joined by wife in talking about what spouses/partners go through when a spouse/partner is hit with COVID, something we dont hear much about. 

This is a short podcast about why I have not been podcasting for the last 6 or 7 weeks and my experience contracting COVID and my return

How good is your communication... in all your relationships?

We will explore, practice, and develop skills that lead to effective communication.

What is your body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice saying?

Communication is more than speaking. More importantly, it is listening and hearing what is being said.

Personal results from attending this workshop

WORKSHOPS FACILITATED BY

Pastors Randy & Cathy Boyd

MORE INFORMATION

Contact Allyssa: ATackman@courageoushealers.org

UPCOMING WORKSHOPS IN THE 4-PART SERIES

Journey to You

October 16 , 2021 

Secrets & Silence

November 13, 2021

Forgiveness

December 11th, 2021

WHO IS THIS WORKSHOP FOR?

Anyone who would like to experience better communication skills.

DATE & TIME

September 11, 2021 9am – 4pm

LOCATION

74040 El Paseo, Suite F Palm Desert, CA 92260

To Register go to: www.courageoushealers.org/workshops.html

Secrets and Lies are two things that will keep us in bondage. We hope no one will discover our secrets, yet it is inevitable that they will be exposed at some time in our life. Usually this will happen at the most inopportune times. We forget about the lies we have told in the past and eventually, we get caught telling a lie to cover up a lie we have been covering up in the past. It is a vicious circle with no good ending. What is hidden, WILL come to life. 

Growing up in a very toxic and abusive Christian home, I often times had scripture thrown at me in very inappropriate ways. We began walking with God in God in 2012 after a 38-year period of walking on the darkside, I decided I wanted to see what the bible had to say about abusing children. There are two very profound and direct scriptures that talk about the consequences of abusing children. On of the scriptures is found in Matthew, Luke, and Mark. The second scripture can be found in Colossians and Ephesians. In this episode I talk about these scriptures and how easily they can be disobeyed.

Growing up in a very toxic and abusive Christian home, I often times had scripture thrown at me in very inappropriate ways. We began walking with God in God in 2012 after a 38-year period of walking on the darkside, I decided I wanted to see what the bible had to say about abusing children. There are two very profound and direct scriptures that talk about the consequences of abusing children. On of the scriptures is found in Matthew, Luke, and Mark. The second scripture can be found in Colossians and Ephesians. In this episode I talk about these scriptures and how easily they can be disobeyed. 

We get a lot of payoff in our society for being inauthentic. We grew up learning how to pretend to be what we thought other people wanted us to be. We are taught that we receive love and approval from others based on how well we conform to what they want from us. The price tag for that kind of approval is far too high. We give up our own sense of self-worth when we change who we are in order to get someone else’s approval.

You might be thinking, Naw, Randy, that’s not me. I’m not that guy. I’m not a fake.

I didn’t think I was that guy, either. But as I delved deeper and deeper into personal growth, I realized that I was inauthentic most of the time.

After the excitement of the honeymoon wears off, it's easy to to get lost in the everyday grind of life. Climbing corporate ladders, getting kids to and from school, soccer games and dance recitals. Our partners no longer seem to be a priority and before you know it, your spouse is more like a roommate than a spouse. There is a easy solution, never stop dating it really is that simple. 

Proverbs 22:6 says: “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” It is important to know that if you train up your child to act like a kid when matured, then that is what he/she will do. Conversely, if you train up your child to be a responsible adult and act like a responsible adult, then they will be and act responsible.

Have you ever felt as though you do not belong here, as though you are alone? I did. My true sense of belonging happened when I found and was able to present my true authentic, imperfect selve to the world. My sense of belonging can never be greater than my level of self-acceptance, and neither can yours. 

Anger is a misperceived emotion. For many of us from a very young age, we are told that we should not be angry, we have no right to be angry. We shouldn't be angry with God, our parents, our pastor, our____________you fill in the blanks. The reality is that when we see a person blow up in "anger," it is actually rage, repressed, or unresolved anger. In this podcast we talk about anger and how it can be used in a healing way. 

In a world that is so divided, so full of hate and unkindness, a little act of kindness can go a long way. Everybody is going through something, you are not alone. Acts of kindness do not have to be extravagant, grandiose, or expensive. Often times the simplest acts of kindness, such as a smile, a simple hello, or holding the door open for someone will turn a person's day around. I have found that when I am having a bad day, being kind to others is the best way to turn my day around. Try it sometime and see how your day will turn around. 

With the COVID pandemic raging over the past year, there is another pandemic far worse, unseen, and not talked about. What is it? Mental health. With substance abuse, overdoses, suicides, depression, anxiety disorders and many more mental health issues increasing, it is the true pandemic we need to be not only worried about, but talking about. The CDC reported the highest number of U.S. overdose deaths "ever" in May 2020. Between May 2019 and May 2020 there were 81,000 drug overdoses just to mention one part of the real pandemic. Randy talks about others in this episode of Healing Courageously. 

Generational curses have a lot to do with who we have become today. Until we can recognize and confront these curses as they have shown up in our lives today, we cannot truly receive the blessings that God has in store for us. We are not what has happened to us or the labels that ourselves or others have put on us. We were born with an assignment from God put us. In order to fulfill that purpose, we must first become the person God intended us to be. 

To often and by well intentioned people, survivors of abuse and trauma are told they need to forgive, forget, and move on, or they are told to get over it, it is done and over with. These words need to be removed from the vocabulary of those using them. Yes we need to learn to forgive and we need to be able to move on. However, this is a process. Forgetting our past is actually not a good thing nor is it psychologically possible. However, we never want to dwell or stay stuck in the trauma of our past. This podcast talks about why we do not want to forget our past, instead we need to learn from our past 

Temptation is a desire to engage in short-term urges for enjoyment that threatens long-term goals. In the context of some religions, temptation is the inclination to sin.Temptation also describes the coaxing or inducing a person into committing such an act, by manipulation or otherwise of curiosity, desire or fear of loss something important to a person.

Temptations have been around since the beginning of time. Adam and Eve were tested in the Garden of Eden and succumbed to that temptation. King David was tempted by Bathseba, succumbed to that temptation, and paid a heavy price. Jesus himself was tempted after spending forty days in the desert, only he defeated the devil at his game. I have even succumbed to temptation and paid some heavy prices.

Succumbing to temptation is a choice. We can NEVER blame others for succumbing to our temptations. The decision lies squarely in or hands. In all temptations lets us consider not what he offers but what we shall loose.

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Are you always self-sabotaging yourself? Waiting for the other shoe to drop? Deep in your subconscious mind do you believe that you are not worthy of having a loving husband or wife? Do you doubt that you are worthy of love? If you do, you're not alone. Please hear me loud and clear, YOU ARE WORTHY OF ALL THE GOODNESS COMING YOUR WAY. I was once a master of self-sabotaging. Now I am on the road to to self-believing and it is easier than you might think. 

What is discipleship? Do have fear around the idea of discipleship? Fear of being vulnerable and transparent with mentor or people you are discipling? You're not alone, it's natural. In this episode I talk with one of my mentees I have been discipling for over a year now. There are many ways that we can disciple others. Joins us as we discuss a few of these ways.  

How is your faith walk? Do you have more doubt than faith? Do you say you have the faith of a mustard seed, yet in the back corner of your mind there is that mustard seed size doubt? Build your faith slowly. Believe for the small things first. Like the mustard seed or oak tree seed (acorn). It starts small and weathers the small storms first in order to be able to weather the large storms that lie ahead. What is the mountain you are facing. Give it to God having the faith that he will help you move it, then get busy doing your part. 

Keep coming back until the Miracle Happens

What kind of miracle are you looking for? The burning bush miracle, rising from the dead, terminal illness healed. Yes they do happen. However, few and far between apart. What about the small miracles that happen everyday. A baby being born, every breath you breath. The alcoholic or addict that never drinks again. The beauty of Gods Work in the artwork of his sunrises and sunsets. There are so many miracles that happen in our lives on a daily basis, yet many people never recognize or appreciate them. If you will just remain open minded and hearted, you too will start to see and appreciate the little miracles that are surrounding you everyday.

KEEP COMING BACK UNTIL THE MIRACLE HAPPENS

What is bliss?  A state of supreme happiness; utter joy or contentment

Most of us are so conditioned to follow our pleasure, or our responsibilities, that we have nearly forgotten that our bliss is what we are truly meant to find.

In this 2 part series we will be focusing on SB-145, what it is, its contradictions, and it's deceptions.

In this episode we will be focussing strictly on SB-145

One of the biggest tragedies in today's world is boys growing up with absentee fathers. Fathers are to be role models, instill language, create believes,  transfer self-worth, provide standards for the types of friends sons should have, teach their boys how to treat women and so much more. Fathers also help their daughters develop their worth and teach them how they are to be treated by men.

In this episode we will continue our  talk about -Generational Fathering

One of the biggest tragedies in today's world is boys growing up with absentee fathers. Fathers are to be role models, instill language, create believes,  transfer self-worth, provide standards for the types of friends sons should have, teach their boys how to treat women and so much more. Fathers also help their daughters develop their worth and teach them how they are to be treated by men.

In this episode we will continue our  talk about - How Fathers instill Self-Worth

In this 2 part series we will be focusing on SB-145, what it is, its contradictions, and it's deceptions.

In this episode we will be discussing some realities of sexual abuse and sex trafficking and how it ties into SB-145

One of the biggest tragedies in today's world is boys growing up with absentee fathers. Fathers are to be role models, instill language, create believes,  transfer self-worth, provide standards for the types of friends sons should have, teach their boys how to treat women and so much more. Fathers also help their daughters develop their worth and teach them how they are to be treated by men.  

In this episode we talk about - How Fathers instill Self-Worth

One of the biggest tragedies in today's world is boys growing up with absentee fathers. Fathers are to be role models, instill language, create believes,  transfer self-worth, provide standards for the types of friends sons should have, teach their boys how to treat women and so much more. Fathers also help their daughters develop their worth and teach them how they are to be treated by men. 

In this episode we talk about - The power of a father - How fathers instill behaviors and character in boys who become men - Ladies don't marry men, they marry histories - Fathers transfer Self-Worth

One of the biggest tragedies in today's world is boys growing up with absentee fathers. Fathers are to be role models, instill language, create believes,  transfer self-worth, provide standards for the types of friends sons should have, teach their boys how to treat women and so much more. Fathers also help their daughters develop their worth and teach them how they are to be treated by men. In this four part series will look at how God fathered Jesus and how we in turn are to father our children.

In this episode we will discuss: Qualities of a Good Father - Fathers Provide Character - Fathers Provide Language and Beliefs - Can You repeat what your father said, and much more. 

One of the biggest tragedies in today's world is boys growing up with absentee fathers. Fathers are to be role models, instill language, create believes,  transfer self-worth, provide standards for the types of friends sons should have, teach their boys how to treat women and so much more. Fathers also help their daughters develop their worth and teach them how they are to be treated by men. In this four part series will look at how God fathered Jesus and how we in turn are to father our children. 

I recently read a post on FaceBook from someone new in recovery that asked this question: What are some Higher Powers that you use other than God in the "Christian Sense?' It got me wondering about what has happened to people to make them believe that there is only  a God in a "Christian" sense. What have "people" done to turn people away from the one and only God. God Yaweh, God the Father. On this episode I dive into this topic with my good friend and fellow believer Albert.

Are you a person that struggles believing there is a God that loves and cares for you?

Do you believe that if there is a God, he forgot about you and has no time for you?

I can relate as I was in those exact shoes fifteen years ago. However, today is different. 

There is an pandemic not only in this country that throughout the world that no one wants to talk about. In fact most people act as though it never happens. If it happens in their family, to their son or daughter, more often than not they will blame it on them saying he/she must have asked for it.

So what is this pandemic I am talking about? Sexual abuse of boys and girls. Statistically 1:3 girls will be sexually abuse before the age of 18 and that statistic stands firm. On the other hand the statistic for boys that have been sexually abused is all over the board. The statistic I use in my presentations is 1:4 boys will be sexually abused before the age of 18 (Lisa Project 2010).

In many ways sexual abuse of children, of any gender, is like an out of control cancer, and like any cancer there is a treatment for it. However, before the treatment can begin we must acknowledge the fact that we do indeed have a cancer growing inside of us. Next lets look at some comparisons.

“Everything belongs; God uses everything. There are no dead-ends. There is no wasted energy. Everything is recycled. Sin history and salvation are two sides of one coin”

–Richard Rohr

"Faith does not need to push the river precisely because it is able to trust that there is a river. The river is flowing; we are in it. The river is God’s providential love - so do not be afraid.”

– Richard Rohr

In the atmosphere of todays world and times, fear and anxiety are on the uprise and rightfully so. It's okay to be fearful, let's just not live in fear. In this episode of Healing Courageously, I talk about how fear has existed even in some of he biggest biblical leaders and how we can learn to deal with our fear through some biblical principles. 

There is much confusion and controversy around the subject of spanking our children especially in the realm of Christianity. Many parents believe that there is a biblical mandate that tells them they must spank their children or chance committing a sin by not not having control of their children.

All to often parents take "spare the rod and spoil the child" literally. The truth is that by doing so they are miss understanding the true concept of the "rod."  In this episode your host explores this topic biblically and brings to light the reality of how the "rod" and scriptures are taken out of context in order to justify a parents abusive behaviors. He also brings to light scripture that are rarely if ever talked about regarding how God looks at parents who harm little ones. 

In order for abuse to happen, by definition, it has to come from a place of higher power to a place of lesser power.

When someone perpetrates abuse from a position of power, the victim is vulnerable because, if he does not comply with the abuser’s demands, he fears that his spiritual and emotional needs, and perhaps even his basic survival needs, will not be met.

If the victim is a child or adolescent, he is reliant on his parents to meet his basic survival needs, which include food, shelter, clothes, and love.

A victim of simultaneous sexual and spiritual abuse feels that if he does not give his power over to the abusive spiritual leader, these basic survival needs will not be met.

So, let’s always remember that spiritual “spiritual abuse is always a power issue.”

As a child abuse and neglect therapist, I do battle daily with Christians enamored of the Old Testament phrase “Spare the rod and spoil the child.” No matter how far I stretch my imagination, it does not stretch far enough to include the image of a cool dude like Jesus taking a rod to a kid.

—Chris Crutcher

In the same way that sexual abuse can be devastating because it leaves the child no safe physical space to go to heal from the trauma, spiritual abuse denies the victim any soul-based solace.

On this episode we will be discussing what Spiritual abuse looks like, how it used, and the long term ramifications it1 is has the victims of said abuse. 

Many people resonate with the idea of spiritual abuse but have not had the chance to explore the parameters of this unique type of abuse.

It is important to understand it, and to know its possible repercussions, so you can address the specific issues you might be dealing with.

The founders of AA are likely rolling over in their graves today. Why? Because the God that most people in the rooms of A.A. understand today is more commonly referred to as a tree, stone, radiator, fan and so many other tangible items. This is not the God that Dr. Bob and Bill W. are talking about in Step 3. If you notice that God is spelled with a capital “G” which is referring to God the creator or Yahweh. Not the false god’s that are being referred to in the rooms of A.A. today as mentioned above. Even the “H” in Him is referring to God. This has always been something that stumped me. So, I decided to do a little research of my own. I was referred to the book titled “The James Club and The Original A.A. Programs Absolute Essentials,” – By: Bick B. This book answered all of my questions regarding the original intent of A.A.’s founders.

We will be discussing topics surrounding recovery of addictions, abuse, and spirituality.Our goal is to encourage people to “Heal Courageously” and support them on their journey. Encouraging them to take the risk to do what they’ve always wanted to do yet were afraid to do. We will be delivering a strong message of hope and healing through interviews with professionals in the field and courageous stories from others who have Healed Courageously. 

We will be discussing topics surrounding recovery of addictions, abuse, and spirituality.Our goal is to encourage people to “Heal Courageously” and support them on their journey. Encouraging them to take the risk to do what they’ve always wanted to do yet we're afraid to do. We will be delivering a strong message of hope and healing through interviews with professionals in the field and courageous stories from others who have Healed Courageously. 

This is an introduction to the Healing Courageously podcast where we will be discussing topics surrounding recovery of addictions, abuse, and spirituality.Our goal is to encourage people to “Heal Courageously” and support them on their journey. Encouraging them to take the risk to do what they’ve always wanted to do yet are afraid to do. We will be delivering a strong message of hope and healing through interviews with professionals in the field and courageous stories from others who have Healed Courageously.