
Real Deep Stuff
By Kristi Buttles

Real Deep StuffMar 22, 2023

Day 6 on the Camino - the beautiful day | Kristi & Michelle Buttles

Day 5 of the Camino - the hospital episode | Kristi & Michelle Buttles

Day 4 of the Camino - the angry episode | Kristi & Michelle Buttles

Our Crazy European Adventure Days 2 & 3 on the Camino | Kristi & Michelle Buttles

Our Crazy European Adventure (Part 1) | Kristi & Michelle Buttles

Blood Sugar & Mental Health | Kristi Buttles
May is Mental Health Awareness Month. To emphasize this, Kristi discusses the surprising connection between mental health and blood sugar. Find out how she is reducing the damaging effects stress can have on blood sugar and maintaining balanced mental health.

Legacy of Motherhood | Kristi Buttles
Kristi celebrates motherhood by sharing the gift of legacy from four amazing women who have impacted her life.

When Grief & Goals Align | Kristi Buttles
Loss is losing anything valuable to us. If we work through the natural, normal, and necessary process of loss and grief, we find hope, healing, and even joy await.
In this episode, Kristi discusses what loss looks like, the stages of grief, and the tasks of mourning. She offers practical examples of the grief we carry and how to work through it in a healthy way. This journey leads us to let go of former goals and embrace new ones while preserving meaningful memories of what once was.
SHOW NOTES:

Ethics & Entrepreneurship | Cliff Ingari
Successful entrepreneur, Cliff Ingari, sits down with Kristi to discuss the ethics of business including maintaining a moral standard for the company, personal & employee accountability, and the challenge of balancing the demands of work and personal life while following the dream of creating a business.

New breath, New Life | Wilkie Pitman (Part 2)
April is National Donate Life Month! To bring awareness to this important topic, Wilkie joins the conversation and bravely shares her story of receiving a double-lung transplant.
Hear the incredible, divine events that led to her transplant, her gratefulness for the donor, and how this journey has changed her life.
Show Notes:
* Another person is added to the waiting list every 9 minutes.
* 17 people die each day while waiting for an organ transplant.
* One organ, eye, and tissue donor can save and heal more than 75 lives. (www.DonateLife.net)
* 103,876 men, women, and children are on the national transplant waiting list. (www.OrganDonor.gov)
Info on organ donation
Info on dispelling myths about organ donation
Info on National Donate Life Month
Register to become an organ donor

New breath, New Life | Wilkie Pitman (Part 1)
April is National Donate Life Month! To bring awareness to this important topic, Wilkie joins the conversation and bravely shares her story of receiving a double-lung transplant.
Hear the incredible, divine events that led to her transplant, her gratefulness for the donor, and how this journey has changed her life.
Show Notes:
* Another person is added to the waiting list every 9 minutes.
* 17 people die each day while waiting for an organ transplant.
* One organ, eye, and tissue donor can save and heal more than 75 lives. (www.DonateLife.net)
* 103,876 men, women, and children are on the national transplant waiting list. (www.OrganDonor.gov)
Info on organ donation
Info on dispelling myths of organ donation
Info on National Donate Life Month
Register to become an organ donor
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I (Still) Do | Bruce & Kristi Buttles [Part 4]
Bruce and Kristi conclude their conversation about what's worked and not worked over the past 33 years of marriage. They've saved the best for last!
Today's topics are: Pick up after yourself, do the work of marriage, have a sense of humor, live a life of service, and keep God #1.
Show Notes:
40 Promises for Marriage by Steve Stephens
1. Start each day with a kiss.
2. Wear your wedding ring at all times.
3. Date once a week.
4. Accept differences.
5. Be polite
6. Give gifts.
7. Smile often.
8. Touch.
9. Give back rubs.
10. Laugh together
11. Send a card for no reason.
12. Do what the other person wants before he or she asks.
13. Listen.
14. Encourage.
15. Know his or her needs.
16. Fix the other person's breakfast.
17. Compliment twice a day.
18. Call during the day.
19. Slow down.
20. Hold hands.
21. Cuddle.
22. Ask for the other's opinion.
23. Show respect.
24. Look your best.
25. Celebrate birthdays in a big way.
26. Apologize.
27. Forgive.
28. Set up a romantic getaway.
29. Be positive.
30. Be kind.
31. Be vulnerable.
32. Respond quickly to the other person's request.
33. Reminence about your favorite times together.
34. Treat each other's friends and relatives with courtesy.
35. Send flowers every Valentine's Day and anniversary.
36. Admit when wrong.
37. Be sensitive to each other's sexual desires.
38. Pray for (and with) each other daily.
39. Say "I love you" frequently.
40. Seek outside help when needed.
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I (Still) Do | Bruce & Kristi Buttles [Part 3]
Bruce and Kristi continue the conversation on what has helped keep their marriage strong for 33 years.
This is the third of four episodes in this special anniversary series.
Today's episode includes topics:
* Family & friends
* Finances
* Ground rules & red lines
* Love languages
* Dating
* The value of teamwork
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I (Still) Do | Bruce & Kristi Buttles [Part 2]
Join Bruce & Kristi as they continue their conversation about what they've learned over 33 years of marriage including today's topics:
Considering the other's character
Trust and what that looks like in everyday life
Keeping growing without growing apart
Rules of conflict
Love is a choice
Letting it go versus giving grace
Respect personal/couple red lines
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I (Still) Do | Bruce & Kristi Buttles [Part 1]
Kristi's husband, Bruce, joins her as they have a raw and honest conversation looking back on their 33 years of marriage including the lessons they've learned and what makes their marriage work after more than three decades.
A variety of topics are discussed as they each offer examples of and perspectives on them including today's topics:
* How they met
* Setting & realizing vision and goals
* Respect
* What drives them crazy
* Work/life balance
* Keep having fun!
Pull up a chair and join Bruce and Kristi at the table for this engaging, multi-episode series!

From Anorexia to Bakery Biz | Renee Ratcliffe
Renee Ratcliffe joins Kristi in an open conversation about her journey through anorexia and recovery with humbling detail. Hear the warning signs she faced, the hard work she put into recovery, and the heartwarming way she's now using food to help others.
*For more information about Cakeable Charlotte, click HERE
Instagram – @cakeable_charlotte
Facebook – Like our Cakeable Charlotte page.
Contact Renee at Renee@CakeableCharlotte.com
*A letter Renee wrote to her younger self and those struggling ...
"Dear younger me,
This is not the end. I'm writing to tell you that there is hope. I know it's hard to believe now, but you need to know that healing and joy await you. But freedom will come at a cost, and I am years down the road to tell you that your life is worth it. You are not your eating disorder..." Click HERE to continue reading...
*Eating Disorder Helplines:
MayoClinic.org (Signs & symptoms overview of anorexia nervosa)
NationalEatingDisorders.org - National Eating Disorders Association (Chat, call, text for support, resources & treatment options)
CrisisTextLine.org or text HOME to 741741 (Text, chat, or message on WhatsApp)
ANAD.org or (888)-375-7767 / ANAD - National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders (Support & resources)
EatingDisorderHope.com (List for 24/7 crisis hotlines)
HelpGuide.org (Eating disorder FAQs)
Equip.Health (Eating disorder treatment)
United Way's 211.org call 2-1-1 (Information & referrals for eating disorder treatment)
BestColleges.com (Resources for students with eating disorders)
LemonAidCo.com (10 ways to help a friend with an eating disorder)
BetterHelp.com (Online therapy)

Cancer & the Camino | Dr. Michael Kendall, MD
Listen to Mike's journey as he went from being doctor to patient to pilgrim.
In the middle of preparing for retirement as an Internal Medicine Specialist, he discovered he had cancer. Learn how he has met this challenge head-on and not allowed it to deter from him his goals, dreams, and new opportunities...including walking 100km of the El Camino trail through Portugal and Spain as a pilgrim meeting sojourners from over 29 countries along the way. His story is motivating and challenging as he shares it with transparent honesty.
Hear Mike's strategies for staying mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually strong and balanced while fighting cancer, as he uses his experience in service to others in several inspiring ways. He is embracing every day and finding peace within himself while discovering new joys and passions living life to its fullest!
Cancer Helplines:
* American Cancer Society - prostate cancer info HERE* Mayo Clinic - prostate cancer info HERE
* Novant Health - free support for cancer patients and their families HERE * NCI's Cancer Information Service (CIS) can help "answer your cancer-related questions whether you are a patient, family or friend, health care provider, or researcher" HERE* Cancer Support Community - "Find your community with us. We believe that Community is Stronger than Cancer. We are a relentless ally for anyone who strives to manage the realities of this disruptive disease. So no one faces cancer alone." HERE
* Maggie's everyone's home of cancer care - "information about how to manage when you or someone you care about has cancer" HERE
* Give In Kind - set up support for someone with cancer HERE
Camino de Santiago Info:
* What is the Camino HERE
* Why walk the Camino HERE
* Camino FAQs HERE
* Camino Routes HERE
* Plan your trip HERE

Managing Chronic & Acute Pain | Ashlee Hall PT, DPT
In this episode, learn how chronic and acute pain affects our physical, mental, and emotional health. Ashlee walks us through the toll pain takes on us and how physical therapy can help.
If you're like many who believe they have to live with pain and the stress and havoc it wreaks, Ashlee gives great insight into understanding the root of pain, ways to help the body heal, and the benefits of investing in ourselves to help get us back on track and moving forward again.
This conversation is for people suffering from pain and those who care about them and want to understand their journey, and the options available to help.
Contact Ashlee Hall - Ashlee@ArchitechSports.com
www.ArchitechSports.com * 704-900-8960

Suicide & Religion | Jai Ramnauth
Jai Ramnauth shares his story of growing up in Guyana with a Hindu background, what drove him to attempt suicide, who stopped him, starting over with a new purpose, and what life looks like now.
SHOW NOTES:
* For more information on this non-profit - International Celebration Association
* 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline - The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.
* Crisis Text Line Text HOME to 741741
* National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255) / TTY: 1-800-799-4889 / Spanish: 1-888-628-9454
* National Alliance on Mental Illness HelpLine 1-800-950-6264 Email / Text NAMI to 741741
* National Institute of Mental Health Information Resource Center 1-866-615-6464 / TTY: 1-866-415-8051
* National Federation of Families - A compilation of key organizations and information about suicide and suicide prevention including their links.
* 1-800-662-4357 SAMHSA National Helpline - Confidential free help, from public health agencies, to find substance use treatment and information.
* National Drug HelpLine 1-844-289-0879
* Partnership for Drug-Free Kids 1-855-378-4373 Email / Text 55753

Trauma & EMDR Therapy | Faith Northington, LPC
Faith Northington, LPC, joins us for a fascinating conversation about EMDR therapy (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). She explains what EMDR is, how it works, who it helps, its long-term efficacy, and much more.
We talk about real-life experiences with EMDR and the incredible ways it benefits the mind, body, and spirit.
Sneak peek ..."EMDR enables people to heal from the symptoms and emotional distress that are the result of disturbing life experiences. Repeated studies show that by using EMDR therapy people can experience the benefits of psychotherapy that once took years to make a difference." (EMDR.com)
Contact Faith at Faith.Northington@gmail.com
View Faith's bio here
Find an EMDR therapist here

Depression & Suicide | Lindsey Lee (Part 2)
In part 2 of this episode, Lindsey Lee shares the importance of a support system, single parenting, going back to work after loss, do's and don't's for family and friends who want to help, creating a new normal, self-care, tips to help heal, finding joy, counting blessings, discovering inner strength, reconciling the past, present, and future ... and more.
This episode is dedicated to the memory of David Lee. He touched many lives in countless wonderful ways. May his legacy continue to help others who struggle with mental health and those who love them.
SHOW NOTES:
* 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline - The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.
* Crisis Text Line Text HOME to 741741
* National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255) / TTY: 1-800-799-4889 / Spanish: 1-888-628-9454
* National Alliance on Mental Illness HelpLine 1-800-950-6264 Email / Text NAMI to 741741
* National Institute of Mental Health Information Resource Center 1-866-615-6464 / TTY: 1-866-415-8051
* National Federation of Families - A compilation of key organizations and information about suicide and suicide prevention including their links.
* Link to ... Help a family member or friend dealing with depression get treatment and find resources.
* NY Times article - "How to Help a Partner Living With Depression"
* The children's book Lindsey read is "Maybe" by Kobi Yamada. It is available for purchase on Amazon and other online retailers.
* Below is Lindsey's prayer. She's given permission to personalize it for yourself or someone you love ...
Lord, I’m saying goodbye to the happiest, and yet most painful, time of my life, but believing there is abundant joy and life that lies ahead.
I’m entering this new season with open hands.
Open to change.
Open to growth.
Open to new dreams.
Open to continued healing.
Open to finding love again.
Open to embracing all that life has to offer.
Open to finding the beautiful potential of what is hiding just beneath the surface.
May this season be filled with hope, growth, joy, immense gratitude, and appreciation for all that you, God, have done in my life.
Ways you have provided when I was scared or worried.
Ways you have shown your goodness when I thought all was lost.
Ways you continually show me that you are a good and faithful God.
I need only to trust you. Amen.

Depression & Suicide | Lindsey Lee (Part 1)
In part one of this episode, Lindsey Lee shares her journey through her husband's depression and suicide. Some of the topics discussed are stages of grief, trauma, triggers, symptoms of depression, signs of suicidal patterns, living through the cycle of loss, and managing major life decisions.
This episode is dedicated to the memory of David Lee. He touched many lives in countless wonderful ways. May his legacy continue to help others who struggle with mental health and those who love them.
SHOW NOTES:
* 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline - The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.
* Crisis Text Line Text HOME to 741741
* National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255) / TTY: 1-800-799-4889 / Spanish: 1-888-628-9454
* National Alliance on Mental Illness HelpLine 1-800-950-6264 Email / Text NAMI to 741741
* National Institute of Mental Health Information Resource Center 1-866-615-6464 / TTY: 1-866-415-8051
* National Federation of Families - A compilation of key organizations and information about suicide and suicide prevention including their links.
* Link to ... Help a family member or friend dealing with depression get treatment and find resources.
* NY Times article - "How to Help a Partner Living With Depression"

Addiction, Incarceration & Freedom | Charles Hite (Part 2)
In part 2 of 2, Charles and I continue the conversation as he shares the steps he took, and the resources available, to kickstart his new future.
SHOW NOTES:
* Check out Charles Hite's podcast - THE RABBIT HOLE SHOW - available on all streaming platforms
* 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline - The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.
* 1-800-662-4357 SAMHSA National Helpline - Confidential free help, from public health agencies, to find substance use treatment and information.
* Crisis Text Line Text HOME to 741741
* National Alliance on Mental Illness HelpLine 1-800-950-6264 Email / Text NAMI to 741741
* National Drug HelpLine 1-844-289-0879
* National Institute of Mental Health Information Resource Center 1-866-615-6464 / TTY: 1-866-415-8051
* Partnership for Drug-Free Kids 1-855-378-4373 Email / Text 55753
* National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255) / TTY: 1-800-799-4889 / Spanish: 1-888-628-9454
* National Problem Gambling Helpline Network - Help is available 24/7 and is 100% confidential. 1-800-522-4700 (text and chat services available)

Substance Abuse & Life Support | Charles Hite (Part 1)
In part 1 of 2, Charles shares his story of experiencing the darkness of drug and alcohol abuse, the despair of imprisonment, and the hope of a second chance. Through surviving death on life support, he has found a new purpose and a new beginning and is now committed to sharing his story with others.
SHOW NOTES:
* Check out Charles Hite's podcast - THE RABBIT HOLE SHOW - available on all streaming platforms
* 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline - The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.
* 1-800-662-4357 SAMHSA National Helpline - Confidential free help, from public health agencies, to find substance use treatment and information.
* Crisis Text Line Text HOME to 741741
* National Alliance on Mental Illness HelpLine 1-800-950-6264 Email / Text NAMI to 741741
* National Drug HelpLine 1-844-289-0879
* National Institute of Mental Health Information Resource Center 1-866-615-6464 / TTY: 1-866-415-8051
* Partnership for Drug-Free Kids 1-855-378-4373 Email / Text 55753
* National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255) / TTY: 1-800-799-4889 / Spanish: 1-888-628-9454

Conversation Charcuterie | Kristi Buttles
This introductory episode is a meet and greet with Kristi as she shares the inspiration for Real Deep Stuff, the vision behind it, and the goals ahead for it.
Beginning with episode 2, pull up a chair and lean into the conversation as guests share their life-changing moments regarding all things mental health. Be inspired, challenged, encouraged, and motivated through honest transparency and open questions.
Dig beneath the surface. Find value in life.