Running Wild with ChristineAug 18, 2022
Ep 125: Birth Control Minefields, with Dallas Barnes from Reya Health
Meet Dallas Barnes, CEO of Reya Health - a digital platform for personalized contraceptive counselling. Dallas created her company to help people with ovaries navigate their birth control journey. If you're like us, it's been a wild fucking ride figuring it out with NO guidance and you'll be screaming alongside the episode: ME FUCKING TOO!
In our RWWC custom, we retrace some of the steps which led Dallas to where she is today and how Reya Health came to be two years ago. Sadly too many of us are familiar with feeling dismissed or unserved by the medical community when negative side effects arise. Funding for research in marginalized genders' health must be prioritized in order for a lot of us to avoid unnecessary trials and tribulations. Help us spread the word, echo our plea for more research funding and help yourself with Reya Health. The app launches September 1st, and while the website and services are currently only available in Canada, if you are able to help Dallas cross borders do get in touch.
Topics: the challenges of starting your first business, celebrating small wins, discovering your sexuality, accessing the RIGHT birth control methods for yourself, setting boundaries, safety and access to information, advocating for yourself, feeling validated.
Mention: Dr Sarah Hill.
Give @reyahealth a follow and as always please do share this episode if you've found it helpful! With all my love, C. xox
Ep 124: Just a Feeling, with Milica Radak
This week let me introduce you to Mili, from @barenaked_me! The forces of nature, otherwise known as Mili's mother, brought us together one fateful morning, over some Kajmak and Jaffa cakes. Today, about a year later, we finally sit down to share what we've learned about emotions. Mili is an empowerment coach, who works with women on finding their true emotional selves. Join us in discussing what empowerment feels like and the effects of discovering it. If you've cried yourself to panic lying on the floor, because of a story you've been telling yourself, this one is for you.
Topics: #bodyimage, #patriarchy, covid #cocooning, #motherhood and #dietculture, debunking self love, learning is cyclical, #trauma, adrenal consequences of stress, #negativeselftalk, #validation, #storytelling, #nuance and MORE!
This episode has some true nuggets of gold, belly laughs and rants, as is on brand in this podcast. If this conversation calls you, please share it with your friends. It is more important than ever that we find time for these conversations. Topics: Find Mili on Instagram if you find yourself called to work with her, or know someone who could benefit from this kid of self work. As always, I leave you with love, until our next talk. xx
Ep 123: Being Alone Together, with Kristine Cofsky
Hello lovers! Please meet the lovely Kristine. You might know her from @theportraitsessions or @persepective feminine on IG. She is here today to chat with me about definitions of intimacy, of community and of relationship models. Join us on this exploration of - well, our feelings, and - the effects of covid isolation on our non-monogamous relationships.
Topics: pendulum swings, being alone together, codependency, control and consequences, cohabitation in non-monogamy, emotions vs reason, fear-based decisions, *a rant* about the lack of resources for ENM, loving your partner in opposing ways, living authentic lives in the good and the shitty, online dating and SO MUCH MORE.
Come join us on this exploration of how we have learned to love, to have sex, to see ourselves, and to create community.
Please feel free to refer back to episode 96 with Devon for context if you are curious! Go check out Kristine and her beautiful, awe inspiring work. Thank you so much for listening and remaining faithful to our human explorations. Please let me know if you have any suggestions for future episodes! With all the love, C. x
Ep 122: Representation Matters, with Janessa St. Pierre
Hello everyone! We are closing off September, also known as Alopecia Awareness Month, with this vulnerable and rage-filled episode with Janessa St Pierre! Join us for this tour of the marks as she has experienced them, working in the film industry as a Black woman in Vancouver. As usual, we go back to childhood and family, ballet dancing and high school socialization, to highlight how we got here. Listen in if you wanna rage with us about racism, misogyny, the male gaze and how toxic the filmmaking machine still is. Last but not least, Janessa takes the time and energy to share her Alopecia story with us and raise some awareness about the autoimmune disorder and its lack of representation.
Topics: reaching awareness of racist micro-aggressions, performative activism vs. accountability, belonging & internalized racism, inclusivity & imposter syndrome, toxicity in the film industry, the 3 different types of Alopecia, why is hair loss scary?, beauty standards, storytelling and the way it informs the collective self, and much more.
The first half of this conversation ties into a lot of stories featured by @iastories about the potential strike of film technicians in the US at the moment and I urge you to educate yourself about what it takes to make the TV shows and movies that you love, and amplify the voices fighting for our workers' rights.
Shout out to Jason ALM for introducing us way back when and to Sommer from @raisethatbarre. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it widely as the intent here is to spread a moment of vulnerability, togetherness and awareness. With love, C. xox
Ep 121: Breakups and Backpacks, with Erin E. Davidson
Hi everyone! Meet Erin Davidson, sex and relationship therapist from Vancouver, BC, here today to talk about her new book Break Through the Breakup. Join me in discovery Erin's story of the "reformed good girl/people pleaser" as we discover which rules she decided to scrap and how she ended up here. Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault content. We talk about unlearning religious sexual scripts and messages, highschool boyfriends in university, and embodying the attributes that we personally decided were valuable. What would happen if sex didn't exist? Or not in the way we conceive of it? Join us on this ride down my favorite rabbit holes.
Topics: Christianity vs Sex, hearts as the backpacks of our lives, heartbreak, shame & guilt, sexual debuts, therapy, processing sexual assault openly, #metoo, the power of writing, healing, the 3 Components of Self Compassion, and so much more!
For more about Erin, go to erinedavidson.com or find her on IG @erin.e.davidson. Thank you so much for listening to the podcast and sticking around. I see you and I'm so grateful for you. So much love, C. xo
Ep 120: Trials and Tribulations of Mental Health, with Tony Ganton
Hello weirdos. Meet my good friend Tony. Tony and I went to university together and have managed to stay in each other's lives in various capacities for the last 8 years. Today, in line with men's health month, we are here to talk about mental health and in particular, how it's affected Tony and what tools have helped him in difficult times. Join us for this walk down memory lane at UBC and how the last two years have shaped his relationships.
Topics: children of divorces, athletes and their outlets, #dormlife, the evolution of dating, communication skills, unconventional career choices, vulnerability and emotions, #videodates, going to therapy, reaching out and sharing with friends, and life advice from an auto-mechanic shop.
Shout out to the OG UBC Pit Pub and its survivors, as well as anyone who survived Gage towers. Also bonus embarrassing story of my boat accident at the end of the episode. You're welcome
Thanks so much for listening. We hope that as a society we can foster a more healthy mental environment for all people and dismantle the systems of shame that have previously prevented men from seeking and receiving mental healthcare. As always, Tony and I are here if you need an ear or a shoulder for support. You can reach him @t.ganto on IG and you know where to find me. With all the love, C. xo
Ep 119: Dissociating & Associating, with Ariel
Hi friends, lovers and strangers, meet Ariel. Ariel comes to us this week thanks to Mark, to tell her story of addiction and recovery. Trigger warnings for eating disorders, addiction, mental health and sexual trauma. Please listen at your own discretion.
Ariel candidly recounts her childhood and adolescence, with the hindsight that recovery allows. We follow her along her journey from teen rebellion, through adventures and homelessness, into treatment facilities and life on the other side. If you've ever wondered how or why people are nice, you might wanna listen in to Ariel's revelation about pro-social behaviour and what happiness is.
Topics: bulimia, alcohol and drug addiction, trauma, rock bottoms and amends, homelessness, escapism, negative self-talk, the inefficacy of social safety nets and programs, emotions, NA & AA, sober dating & sex, healing, abortion, polyamory, and so much more!
Shout out to charlfordhouse.ca.
Thanks so much for listening to yet another story. We tell these with empathy and love in mind. If you know anyone who would benefit from hearing it, please do share. To get in touch with Ariel, you can find her @thattallgirlariel.
With lots of love, your C. xo
Ep 118: Good Grief, with Oona Krieg
Friends, lovers and strangers - meet my darling dear friend Oona. Oona runs and co-founded a tech co-op called BRAVE, that provides services to prevent overdose deaths. Today, she discusses with me the myriad rabbit holes that brought her to her calling, as well as her personal experiences with grief that currently inhabit her heart. We talk about the virtual supervised injection site app that she helped create and implement, and how technology continues to allow for tangible, actionable change (despite our growing disappointments with it). Join us for this very personal, vulnerable and rich episode about how life is senseless and we - and only we - ascribe it its meaning.
Topics: substance use, the #overdosecrisis & OD prevention, isolation, reaching out, social media, death, soulmates, taboos in the circle of life, rites of passage, grief vs pain, coping, colonialism, parenting, self-love, and so much more!
Oona's prompt and homework for the week goes as follows: in what ways do you currently put yourself at the center of your own life? If you do manage to do so, what tools do you use? Feel free to answer this question via email or by finding me on IG.
Thanks again for spending this hour with us and don't forget to support this podcast any which way you can if this has brought you anything worth keeping. xx
Ep 117: Soft And Squishy, with Josh Banday
Hello lovers! Meet Josh! You might know him as Ivan in Amazon's comedy series Upload, but Josh is also a writer and hilarious human all around. He takes me down memory lane as we explore his childhood in Baldwin Hills, LA and going to multiple denominations of religious schools. We share our common experience of having survivalist parents and coming out to our parents as creatives. Join us for this wonderful ride down some unexpected paths of conversation and some real deep shit.
Topics: favorite kinds of underwear, shame, immigrant mentality, our worst #weed stories, quarantine stories, parenting, #marriage, the impulse to create, OnlyFans for Crying, being #softandsquishy vs. tough love, vulnerability as strength, resilience, sexuality and boundaries, writing and MORE!
Thanks again for joining us for this glorious rabbit hole of a podcast episode and I hope some of these topics will inspire you to have these difficult conversations with your parents, children and/or chosen family. With all the love, your C.
Ep 116: Post-Covid Dissection, with Mark
Welcome back my lovers. Well, this one is a personal one. My partner Mark recently recovered from COVID 19. We talk about what it was like: from finding out he tested positive, to balancing isolation from each other in a one bedroom apartment. The mental toll of this disease is unlike anything we've been through in our lifetimes and we get into those feels. Mark describes his symptoms, his fears and the impact of social media on his recovery. "We're stuck with each other, but I'm not even there," are words that haunt me still. Join in if you have experienced this situation and need to feel not alone in this. Or if you are curious and want to be prepared, should this happen to you.
Topics: #covid19, social isolation, the privileges required to actually quarantine, the strain on our relationship, resentment, fear, #boomers, the irony of survivalist mentality, shame, capitalism, Glennon Doyle's Imagination, anger and social stratas.
Please, please, please take this seriously. We are not out of this yet. I need you all to make it so we can continue to tear it all apart for a better reconstruction.
Ps: This episode was recorded outside so bear with us in the first few minutes of heavy breathing sounds. We are learning as we go here, always have and always will. Shoutout to Kevin Costner's Yellowstone for keeping me alive.
Thanks for being part of the journey and now more than ever, I send you all my love and well wishes. C, xo.
Ep 115: Filmmaking Today, with Neil Fox
It's a warm welcome back to Neil Fox from episode 22!! Over two years later, the host of the Cinematologists podcast is back. The movie he'd just finished is now being distributed globally next month, and we catch up on the movie industry today and the hurdles film makers may (should?) face.
If you want the full back story, listen to the previous episode, but in brief, Neil is a senior lecturer in Film at the School of Film & Television, Falmouth University, a screenwriter, podcaster and very lovely all around human. We catch up today about what it's like teaching the next generation of filmmakers and learning from them in turn. We talk about his film Wilderness (2017, Baracoa Pictures) and how it might hold up today. It was written five years ago, and depicts social and personal themes that are quite timely. Please do consider giving it a watch. Now, join us for this conversation about the realities of our industry.
Topics: hindsight, what stories need telling, shifts in mindsets, #metoo and #blm, the problem with the film industry, you vs. the machine, the missed opportunities for post-COVID work life, modern day exploitation vs. worthy sacrifice, rethinking filmmaking, and some hopeful notes.
For more about Neil, go to drneilfox.com! Thanks for listening to another episode and for your continuing support. With all my love, C.
Ep 114: Life By Design, with Thomas K Girard
Hello friends! Meet Thomas K Girard, an emerging scholar in the Design field. Thomas reached out to me to talk about life and its design. We meander establishing the basics: a Vancouver childhood, playing international strategy card games in high school, thinking you've learned nothing in undergrad and manifesting yourself into the 'real world'. We debunk the mythical "do what you love and the money will follow" approach and detour into TED talks and teaching.
Topics: choosing to fail, art vs. logic, manifesting your intention, familiarity in strange places, introverts on public speaking, prototyping in the real world, community building, "wicked problems", planning in these uncertain times, faith, and MORE!
With Love, C. xo
Ep 113: Sustaining Happiness in Long-term Relationships, with Andreia Scotto
Hi everyone! Welcome back to Andreia from episode 105! She is a Marriage and Family Therapist, based in Denver, Colorado. Today, she wanted to discuss one of the most prevalent topics that she's heard this past year: "My partner doesn't make me happy anymore." We delve into codependency in long-term committed relationships and establish some common hurdles and resources. It was so refreshing and helpful to hear Andreia talk about her personal experiences, alongside mine, as well as the theoretical frameworks that guide her practice. Listen in, even if you're not in a relationship, as there are some crucial self-worth nuggets of wisdom in here.
Topics: therapy as a "last resort", the effects of isolation on relationships, autonomy vs connection, communication, defining individual happiness, family patterns, distinguishing and making room for someone else's feelings, codependency, where you draw self-worth from, boundaries, evaluating the myth of "marriage is boring", establishing your relationship's TOS, being lost in translation, what does "better sex" mean, self-exploration, the biggest enemy of excitement, the three S's that can help you: Self-Awareness, Self-Soothing and Sharing.
Reference: Family Systems Theory: "Differentiation of Self" (Kerr & Bowen, 1988), Esther Perel's Mating in Captivity at estherperel.com.
For more on Andie, go visit her IG @andies.therapy.couch! Thanks for listening.
Ep 112: Let's Talk About Sex, with Tatyannah King
Hello lovers! Meet Taty. She's a sex blogger, speaker and educator, currently in grad school at Widener university. Join us on this fun journey of figuring out how to break it to your Southern family that you're moving North to study sex! We talk about how other people's reactions can turn a genuine curiosity into a repressed, shameful taboo. Luckily, Taty had a great lightbulb moment that put her back on the right track. Listen in to find out more about her journey and what it takes to do what sets your soul on fire.
Topics: shame and embarrassment, sexuality and culture, shibari, the Bible as an R rated book, the meaning of life, defining what Sex is, attending sex conferences, personality vs. sexuality, power dynamics in kink, how writing about sex affects her dating life, unsolicited propositions, watching porn in the classroom, imposter syndrome, helping people find their pleasure, and doing whatever the fuck it is you want to do.
Thanks for listening as per usual. We love that you're here. Please do not hesitate to reach out with comments, feedback and suggestions for past or future episodes. You can find us on IG @runningwildwithchristine. For more about Taty, go to @taty_k_king on IG or twitter. Shout out to @javaydabae and @stephauteri!
As always with lots of love, C. xox
Ep 111: Fighting Online Abuse, with Pheebs Jameson
Welcome back friends, lovers and strangers. Meet @fatpheebs! She's a superwoman, a kind soul, and a true sunshine. Today, she shares with us her harrowing story with online abuse and mental health. [TW: SI, SH, MH, SA, Violence]
Pheebs is a well-rounded activist, covering body acceptance, self-love, fatphobia, fat positivity, sexual violence, mental health and lately only abuse and harassment. We get to listen in on how one interview about "How Fat Feels" led Pheebs to discover, and own, her voice and place in the world, giving her the strength to go down the rabbit hole of activism and social work. Please join us for this crucial conversation that should be mandatory listening. There are significant trigger warnings for this episode so please use your discretion. Pheebs is very clear about her duty of care when it comes to the topics at hand. However, it is necessary that we start developing tools to effectively deal with violence online. Please join us on this mission.
Topics: being silenced, shame, bullying, unlearning, transparency & vulnerability, living in a fat body, trauma, mental illness, therapy, self-harm, IRL vs Online, trolling and death threats, misogyny, fatphobia, doxing, suicide attempts, the inadequacy of resources to deal with online crime, how to protect oneself (HINT: there's no good solution yet), CALL TO ACTION (around 50').
Please, if you have any constructive input or resources to share with Pheebs, you can find her @fatpheebs on social media. You can also reach out to me if you prefer and I will forward any pertinent information.
Today, and all days, please take care of yourselves and each other. With all my love,
Ep 110: Fixing Ourselves, with Irving Chong
Hi Lovers! Meet Irving, the host of Asians in Space, the man behind The Asian Canadian, and one of the participants of @menwhotakebaths. He joins us today to talk the world over. We discuss growing up in Alberta and figuring out how to do this thing called life. We then delve into what led him to creating @theasncanadian page and what matters to him most today.
Topics: internalized racism, basketball, being a dickhead in high school, childhood vs adulthood, fears, trauma, the continuous path of fixing ourselves, perfectionism, therapy, guilt & shame, how we share and find news today, academic gatekeeping, belonging, experience vs. expertise, systems of oppression, the discomfort of the unknown, conspiracy theorists, shifting to a more sustainable system of society, cancel culture, the pedestalization of individuals vs. the eternity of the planet, the ability to be wrong, modernization theory, ... It spirals from there. Tune in you won't regret it.
Big shout out to Nicolle Hodges from episode 74 and Ji-Youn Kim from episodes 78 and 104!
For more from Irving, I highly recommend you follow @theasncanadian on IG, or listen to @asiansinspace! Thanks again for listening my darlings and stay tuned for the next episode. Lots of love, C. xox
Ep 109: Body And Soul: Dancing & Disorders, with Sommer from RaiseThatBarre
Hello Lovers! Meet Sommer! She's a dear friend and the bright and compassionate mind behind a new awareness IG account called @raisethatbarre. Her mission is to start a conversation, to shed light on the harsh realities of the dance world, as well as to come up with collaborative, community-based solutions to the hardships faced by dancers. She bares her heart and soul today in this very candid conversation about her experience in the ballet world and her relationship with her body. At 22, she suffered a spinal injury that would end her dance career, AND begin her healing and self-love journeys.
Topics: the toxicity of the dance world (and ballet in particular), body dissatisfaction, eating disorders, socialization and stigmatization, shame around resting, injuries and healing, substance abuse, social pressure, health and sustainability, mental health, feeling not good enough, self-worth vs. looks/thinness, "productivity" and guilt-trips, collaborative solutions, competition vs community, SELF-LOVE and empathy!
Shout out to @maddiebless on IG. You can go and participate in her survey via her link in bio. And many thanks to @paulazulkoskey for the happiest picture of Sommer.
Please do give her a follow @raisethatbarre and engage in the conversation. Thank you all for listening and for sticking around. I have decided to relax my publishing schedule and focus on quality conversations, over self-imposed rigorous scheduling. Thank you for trusting me and sticking around. #humaninprogress
All my love, C. xox
Ep 108: Up in the Air: Reducing Polarization, with Jakub Ferencik
Hello friends! Change of pace today! Meet Jakub Ferencik, author of upcoming debut book titled “Up in the Air: Christianity, Atheism, & the Global Problems of the 21st Century”. Jakub just arrived in Slovakia, his homeland, to weather this COVID storm and we catch up on his travels, background and interests before taking a deeper dive. We explore where the inspiration to write came from and what he hopes to accomplish. Join us on this epistemological adventure in the fight against certainty.
Topics: Christianity, blogging, human connection, values & epistemology, the reality of nuances and the bypassing of reality in political discourse, reducing polarization, morality, the thought exercise of defending "the opposition", drawing lines where empathy ends, the discomfort of preaching radical vulnerability vs. human rights battles, going beyond the self-affirming echo chambers, progress and regress, the meaning of life, the experience of suffering, mindfulness and guilt, social taboos and many more light topics.
Reference: Chris Erickson's (from Ep. 9) The Poetics of Fear: A Human Response to Human Security, Jonathan Gottschall's The Storytelling Animal, Stephen Fry quote mentioned: "I believe one of the greatest human failings is to prefer to be right than to be effective."
Thanks so much for listening. As always, feedback is welcome as I am but a human in progress. The schedule might start to change for next few episodes as my work life begins again, but stories will always find their way here. Because stories are all we have. I love you. C. xo
Ep 107: Finding & Honouring Your Purpose, with Ericka Gail, M.S.Ed
Hello my lovers. Meet Ericka Gail, a non-binary, queer, Black femme [they/them, she/her] trauma therapist, known as @mentalhealthfemme! We start by catching up on the context we find ourselves in this year and the conflicting feelings that 2020 can bring up. They tell me about how their QTBIPOC focus has evolved and shifted over time, and what their recent rise in reach means to them and their work. We talk about the important people in our lives who made us who we are, and how grief can be a driver. Join us in this deep and personal conversation about what drives us as humans and how we cope!
Topics: activism & social justice, vulnerability as a radical practice, fawning as a trauma response, writing, PTSD and anxiety, experiential knowledge, imposter syndrome, asking for help, emotional processing and empathy, public grieving, being a "people pleaser in recovery", and community care.
For more on Ericka, go to @mentalhealthfemme on IG and DM them for the Poetry Zine. I also invite you to Venmo them at EriqooBWM or on PayPayl at paypal.me/ErickaGBey.
Thanks so much for listening to another episode of the podcast and please do share it far and wide! Lots of love, C. xox
Ep 106: Authenticity and Empowerment, with Victoria Henrietta
Topics: quitting a life you've settled into, teaching, the life of a woman, the need for open conversations, taking up space, community building, race conversations, "good" parenting, privilege, giving yourself license to be yourself, BLM, kindness, internalized racism and misogyny, learning and unlearning, queerness and periods, liberation, and SO MUCH MORE.
Resources: Channel Four's "The Talk", Steph Auteri @stephauteri on Sex-Positive Parenting, Rachel Ricketts @iamrachelricketts and this article "Reframing Cancel Culture: Why Calling Someone Out Is an Act Of Service"
For more on Victoria, go to @thevwordshow on Instagram and find her on YT! Thanks again for listening my babies and take sweet care of yourselves this week. You are enough. Always yours, C. xox
Ep 105: Finding Your Passion, with Andreia Scotto
Hi everyone! Meet Andreia! She is a Marriage and Family Therapy Candidate, based in Denver, Colorado. Andreia joyfully walks me through her Brazilian upbringing, including her progressive Catholic high school, and her journey into American society. We meander through the little life things that end up shaping lives and get us to a point of embracing our true selves. Join us for this lovely introspection - the stuff you wish you knew about your therapist.
Topics: coming out of one's sheltered childhood, the endless international student life, being nerds, immigrant obstacles, the struggles of corporate life, mental health, anxiety, tools for BIG life changes, relationships and therapy, being true to oneself, facing insecurities, asking "Why Now?", how COVID has affected couples and families, survival mode and sex drives, redefining joy, grief and lessons, and the state of the world. Thanks Casey Murphy for the intro! Check her out in ep 37 for more about her businesses! Reference: Esther Perel at estherperel.com.
For more on Andie, go visit her IG @andies.therapy.couch! Thanks for listening. speak to you all next week. Do not hesitate to reach out if you would like to come speak on the podcast, priority will be given to BIPOC, Trans and Sex Workers' voices. All my love, C.
Ep 104: White Supremacy vs. Anti-Oppressive Counselling, with Ji-Youn Kim
It's a warm welcome back to our dear Ji-Youn (jee-yan) Kim. If you haven't yet met her in ep 78, Ji-Youn is an anti-oppressive, trauma informed counsellor. She's an advocate for rage as liberation, and facilitates workshops called Processing Rage in collaboration with Cicely Blain. She reached out to me a couple of weeks ago to use this platform to talk about white supremacy and toxic power dynamics in the counselling industry. So that's what we did. Here's our unfiltered conversation on spiritual bypassing, white supremacy and oppression as it takes place on a LOT of counsellors' couches. Stay tuned for tools on what to look for in an anti-oppressive counsellor.
Rage trigger warning.
Topics: #counselling, trauma, the current climate of #BLM "awakening" for non-Black people, the repercussions on anti-oppression activists of color, #mentalhealth, the toxicity of feel good therapeutic approaches, tone policing, cognitive dissonance and self-doubt, white saviour complex, white fragility, racial gaslighting, de-colonizing your mind, going past attachment theory, the roots of therapy, community vs individual, and SO MUCH more.
Ep 103: Radical Compassion and Vulnerability, with Eman Salem
Topics: difficult conversations, vulnerability, immigrant mentality, feeling sexually caught between two cultures, cognitive sexualized dissonance, queerness!, self-work as privilege, validation culture, tough love, the role of the ego, resistance to healing, empowerment, community building, and feeling valuable.
To find out more, go to @ironself18 on IG and stay tuned for the online course! SHARE her platform if it genuinely speaks to you!
Thank you so much for listening my loves. The platform is available for any BIPOC should they want it! Do not hesitate to reach out or share if it can be of interest. In the meantime, let's get to work. Yours, C. xo
Ep 102: Art Around the World, with Kriss Munsya
Welcome to our first guest of Season Three: photographer and visual artist Kriss Munsya. He came over to the podcast to talk about his current project The Eraser, as well as his life more broadly. We discuss his upbringing as an immigrant from the DRC in Belgium and his journey to today. We talk about hitchhiking from New York to Brazil (in 2013!!) and the riches of meeting people whose path you otherwise would never have crossed. He casually tells us about his first movie, and subsequent documentaries, expanding on what kind of art and storytelling matters to him.
Topics: being made to feel "not Black enough"; Europe vs the Americas; feeling lost; stumbling into making his first movie; touring with bands across the world; control issues; culture shock, politeness as a concept, grieving a lifestyle; the charm of grimey bars & their honesty; the current state of the world, the outside look on America today; feelings of hate, hope and sadness; art, love and empathy as activism, and wisdom in humility.
You can watch more about Kriss' films here: krissmunsya.com/videos. Go check out the gorgeous project @mgmt.krissmunsya and @krissmunsya on IG, as well as his Etsy page where you can purchase his prints.
Thanks so much for keeping up with the podcast. Can't wait to bring more incredible people to the "couch" and continue to foster this vulnerable and authentic environment we've built. With love, C. xox
Ep 101: Here Comes Season 3!
Welcome back my lovers. How are y'all holding up?
Firstly, THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. It has been amazing to host the last two seasons and I am beyond ecstatic that we are back for another one. To kick things off, Julia from @soihadanabortion takes the reins in a flipping of the script. I got to experience what it's like relinquishing control and being in the hot seat. Julia has me blabbing about the origins of the podcast, as well as its current process. She asks me poignant questions about the lessons I've learned, in this space we've created, and how they highlight where we are at as a society. We then move on to the AMA questions that you submitted!
Topics: avoidance, cognitive dissonance, survival, generational patterns, being called in/out, learning as a process of elimination, certainty as the basis for oppression, accountability, non-monogamy, learning about the kink community while entering it, kink anxiety, bullying, the evolution of my understandings of sex from childhood to now, every experience having inherent value, masturbation, world change, activism, anti-racism and other slippery rabbit holes.
Here are some Black sex-positive advocates you should be following (as promised in the episode) :
Ericka Hart, M. Ed @ihartericka, Ev’Yan Whitney. @evyan.whitney, Ashley Cobb @sexwithashley, Afrosexology @afrosexology_, Goody Howard @askgoody, Unf*ck Your Polyamory @polyrolemodels, Cindy Lee Alves @cindyleealves. Vagesteem @vagesteem, Jimanekia Eborn, MS @jimanekia, Javay Frye @javaydabae and so many more!
Thanks again my loves. It feels weird releasing an "about me" episode in these times, but the battle continues and will always be an intersectional fight. I hope some of the insights in here are valuable and that we remember this work is only possible today thanks to Marsha P. Johnson and other black trans activists.
Ps: you still get 20% @intamopleasurables products with our promo code WILD20!
Ep 100: Black Lives Matter
Welcome my dears. I was going to do a thing for the big 100, but it hardly seems relevant now. If you sent me your AMA's for that, don't worry, it will be the opener for season three. In the meantime, before we go on a little break, I wanted to leave you with something much more important.
Here's a list of 100+ resources to educate yourself on anti-racism and Black history. Please, please, please, especially if you are white, take the time to delve into some of the works of the Black artists, activists, writers and thinkers below. We owe it to humanity. Thank you. That is all from me today. Take care of yourselves, stay safe and let's ACT against racism and oppression.
Ep 99: Toxic Masculinity & Misconceptions of Pleasure, with Cam Fraser
Hello my lovers! Welcome to 90-fucking-9! Meet Cam Fraser! He is a men's Sex Coach, as well as a Certified Sexologist, Counselor, Registered Yoga Teacher, Tantric Practitioner, and Workshop Facilitator. Do you think there's enough there to get us started? We cover his Australian upbringing, American college experience and journey into his current practice, before delving into the good stuff.
Topics: toxic masculinity, the relationship between early sex and binge drinking, the search for alternative models of masculinity and pleasure, not fitting in, sex ed, yoga for better sex, paying attention the your body, shame, Tantric Shaivism and Hatha Yoga, what it looks like to work with Cam, ejaculatory control, what is sex, statistics of sexuality, AND offering solutions past the criticism.
(Referenced in podcast: Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent and Jameela Jamil.)
Thank you SO MUCH for being around for episode 99! This is an incredible journey we are on, and I for one couldn't be more grateful!
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Ep 98: Sex Work is Work, with Danica Darling
Hello lovers! Meet Danica Darling, our guest and sex worker extraordinaire! Although she is primarily an exotic dancer and escort professionally, Danica also holds psychology and paralegal degrees, and guest lectures on sex work legality in Canada! We retrace her steps from childhood in a religious suburb, to thriving during university years and becoming a sex worker.
Topics: #sexworkiswork, what supportive parents can look like, being nerds, first nights as an exotic dancer, Fort McMurray (yes, you read that right), serving vs. stripping, feeling less judged within the sex worker community, onlive vs. in-person, #OnlyFans, the root of negative stigma, coming out as a sex worker, how to make sex work safer, and much more!
You can find out more about Danica's podcast 50 plus a tip on your favourite podcast apps or @50plusatip on IG! You can also check out her OnlyFans @danica_darling! Don't hesitate to DM her on IG @danica_darling_ regarding the book club and/or lap dance workshops!
Thanks for listening and supporting sex workers this week and all weeks. Get yourselves some pleasure! Yours, C. xo
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Ep 97: Activism: from Grassroots to Corporate, with Cicely Belle Blain
Hello world! This week, I had the honour and pleasure to chat with incredible Cicely Belle Blain! They are a black, mixed raced, queer writer and entrepreneur, CEO of a diversity and inclusion consulting firm, and activist powerhouse. I'm excited for you all to hear this story of how they founded Black Lives Matter Vancouver and discovered how they could best positively impact society.
Topics: emigrating to Vancouver, discovering queerness over Rihanna, reinventing oneself, feminism, anti-racism activism, entrepreneurship, #diversity, "fake it 'till you make it", basics in inclusion, the Stratagem conference, broadening education & resources for everyone who can't necessarily afford a consultancy, audience capacity, expertise and imposter syndrome, and being in progress!
For more on Cicely, go to cicelyblainconsulting.com or @cicelyblainconsulting on the socials! Be sure to watch out for Stratagem 2020 that will take place during the month of July online! You can also find out more about Strategem The Podcast @stratagemvirtual on Instagram!
Thanks so much for listening to this inspiring episode! Please do let me know if you have any suggestions for upcoming episodes and continue to rate, share and like this podcast! With love, C. xo
Ep 96: Alternatives to Monogamy & Tales of Pleasure, with Devon
Hello lovers! Meet my dear friend IRL Devon. He did me the honour of spending an hour on the record talking about all things non-monogamy and political science. You folx are in for a treat! Listen in on how one might go from being a serial monogamist, to currently finding oneself in a polyamorous constellation! This is a joyful episode about alternatives to monogamy, the sometimes awkwardness of play and the magic of pleasure. I hope you'll like listening to it as much as I enjoyed taking part in it.
Topics: shibari rope bondage, bisexuality, learning how to communicate about sex and relationships, touch & sensualism, breathwork, relationship anarchy & polyamory, words vs. labels, oversharing vs. vulnerability, therapy, falling in love with two different people simultaneously, the work that takes, the connection to your body (from sports-induced endorphins to psychedelic effects), the lasting taboo around what pleasure can look like for men (ejaculation vs. orgasm), AND MORE!
And because I'm a sucker for lessons out of PoliSci100, here's the takeaway: "Models are useful for making sense of the world that we're in, but be weary of defining the world by the model."
Here's the article referenced halfway through the episode: Thirteen things I wish I’d learned before choosing non-monogamy, by Lola Phoenix (on Medium).
Thanks so much for listening my darlings. I love you. C, xo.
Ep 95: Counselling For and By Queer, NB and Trans Folx, with Maverick
Welcome friends, meet Maverick. They are a counsellor who just finished their program and are now launching themselves into their career. We talk about their focus on queer, non-binary and trans clients and why trauma-informed counselling by and for their community is crucial.
Topics: small town life as a queer PoC, puberty for trans youths, coming out, mental health, moving to the city, tarot, finding your niche, choice paralysis, the importance of pronouns, creating a support system, being social creatures, reconnection in isolation, the cis and straight biases of the counselling and wellness world, self-care, becoming a "professional" and grappling with imposter syndrome.
Thank you my darlings for listening! Please do share, review and rage about this podcast so we can reach more ears! All my love, C. xo
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Ep 94: Isolation and Feminization, with Adri Koc Spadaro
WELCOME LOVERS! How's everybody holding up? 'Cause we are... fine? Join us on this honest and candid whirlwind about covid feelings and feminism! Adriana defines herself as an artist, a woman, a spirituality and self-love seeker, and a total badass. Okay, that last one was my description, but hey, it's true. Today, we decided to talk about TOUCH and feminism, as well as how those have been BIG themes in Adri's life. Has that been the case for you?
Topics: graphic design, swimming, expectations, entrepreneurs vs. the covid slowdown, the importance of touch, fashion marketing, body and age diversity, feminism, palatability, feeling like an energy dispenser, self-exploration in isolation, sitting in discomfort, fear, comfort, slowing down.
For more on Adriana, go to @adricreative and adricreative.com!
Thanks again for joining and please, subscribe, rate and follow this podcast to spread the joy!
Ps: you still get 20% off all your slippery needs with the promo code WILD20 @ intamopleasurables.com! #supportpleasure
Ep 93: Is There a Gender Opt-out Button? with AJ Lowik
Hello lovers. This week, AJ Lowik (pronouns: they/them/theirs) came over to chat about their work and life! We talk about what it's like to walk in this world as a non-binary trans person, a queer liberationist, an unapologetic feminist, a PhD candidate, a researcher and instructor. Predictably, this episode goes in many different directions. We cover coming out narratives, academia and the ivory tower, and choosing one's battles. Listen in on this exploration of gender, learning and choices.
Topics: cats, trans-inclusive reproductive rights, childhood and nerdom, gender categories, sexuality studies, queerness, trans-inclusive care & accessibility to abortion clinics, deconstructing cis-normative narratives within healthcare and parenthood, empathy for all humans walking this earth, academia vs. activism, opting out of gender, misgendering, colonialism & social constructs, the need to stick people into boxes & boundary policing, AND SO MUCH MORE!
Correction and precision: Toni King-Rose from @transdeathcare uses he/him/his pronouns. Go check out his work!
Thanks again for listening to this week's episode of @runningwildwithchristine and please remember to subscribe, follow, rate and review this podcast! For more information on AJ, go to ajlowik.com or @thegenderoffender on socials.
With all my love and care, your little C. x
Ps: you still get 20% off all your slippery needs with the code WILD20 @intamopleasurables
Ep 92: Life, Movies, and Collective Trauma, with Odessa Young
MY LOVERS! Meet my new fave long-distance love, Odessa Young. Odessa is an Australian actor, whom you might have seen in Assassination Nation (2018), The Daughter (2015) and High Life (2017). She will also star as Frannie Goldsmith in the upcoming CBS mini-series The Stand. We were finally able to sit down and download on how we feel during this real-life pandemic.
We start off retracing her steps as a young actor inevitably ending up in LA. We then meander through the difficulties of choosing a vocation with no "natural" progression, and having to make your own path. We digress into our respective reviews of Marriage Story and Once Upon a Time in Hollywood, because why not? You'll just have to listen to hear where we go from there because it's wonderfully bizarre and yet wholesome! There's also some comforting life advice in here. You belong here.
Topics: discerning between hobby and career, the concept of stability, "fake it 'till you make it", expectations, the bubble of the film industry and its perversions, myopic storytelling and alienation, #metoo, networking and morals, feminism, wine, THE ISOLATION, staying the fuck at home, therapy and mental health, creatives in chaos, hustle culture (boo), socialism and SO MUCH MORE.
You can find Odessa @ayoungcowgirl on Instagram. And remember, you get 20% off your purchase at intamopleasurables.com with the promo code WILD20!
Thanks again my darlings for listening to another episode. Please do follow, subscribe, rate and share this podcast at your leisure.
With all my love, C. xo
Ep 91: Isolate and Masturbate, with Airial Clatney from Intamo Pleasurables
Welcome MY LOVERS! Meet Airial, our sexual health educator of the week and our newest and only PARTNER of the podcast! She's the CEO of Intamo Pleasurables, a company aimed at facilitating sex that feels better, using plant-based ingredients and the soothing properties of hemp-seed oil. Join us today for a hilarious and deeply personal ride on Airial's journey to today. We saunter through her Kitsilano childhood, through choosing a vocation, and spend some time investigating sexual woes. (Not for the faint of heart friends, crass depictions of what cervix healing procedures feel like - FUN.)
Topics: self-care, mental health, sexual health, empowerment, abortion, HPV, LEEP procedures, shame, sexual education for people with diverse abilities, getting creative, entrepreneurship, challenges of marketing sex-related products, masturbation, and SO MUCH MORE.
Shout out to the University of Alberta's graduate certificate in Sexual Health! Look it up if this online program speaks to you! Also, Polycystic ovary syndrome is what I couldn't remember around 26'!
Get 20% off your Intamo purchases (and FREE shipping for orders of 25$+) with our promo code WILD20! Simply go to intamopleasurables.com or @intamopleasurables on the socials! Remember, for every sale that Intamo Pleasurables makes, a portion of the proceeds goes towards providing free local (Vancouver Island & Vancouver) inclusive sex education.
Thanks again my lovers for sticking around for yet another episode, and please have yourself some SLIPPERY pleasure this weekend. (Get it - lube pun?) Yours delectably, C. xox
Ep 90: Recovering from Toxic Mothering, with Julia Gillis
Welcome my lovers!! 90 down WTF! Meet Julia, our single-mom and coach of the week! Today, we retrace Julia's steps throughout her life as a daughter to her mother, a mother to her daughter and a woman part of a larger story. She walks me through how many of her life decisions were influenced by her toxic relationship with her mother, and how recovering from the abusive parenting sent her on a path of discovery. Listen in on this fascinating life story. Who knows? It might resonate with you.
Topics: low-nurtured, poorly-bonded toxic and/or abusive parenting recovery, relationships, chef life, eloping, motherhood, trilogies, meditation, duplicity, narcissists, death, confidence, assertiveness, gaslighting, trauma, tools for feeling capable, self-worth, boundaries, generational baggage, sensuality, writing, happiness, the power of storytelling, and sisterhood.
Thanks friends, lovers and strangers for staying on this journey with us! Please do rate, subscribe, recommend the podcast to friends, share on IG, all the things.
Thanks to Sam from episode 70 for the intro! (Listen to that one for an incredible conversation about the way we do non-monogamy.)
Your cooped up little C. #staythefuckhome
Ep 89: Why Stories Matter, with Charlotte Daniel
My lovers! Meet my dear friend Charlotte, our writer, director and locations manager of the today! She walks me through her Scottish childhood, big move to London and travel discoveries across Australia and Canada. We talk about the film industry and its less-known Locations department, balancing creativity versus money, and creating one's own films. Follow us down these rabbit holes on narrative and creating positive discourse on trans people amongst other things.
Topics: storytelling, travel, taking Europe for granted, small town ambition, inevitably COVID-19, happy life accidents, logistics vs. creativity, problem solving, privilege, trans lives, acting, directing, gender representation, making space, expanding past our lived experiences, growth, writing, and trusting your instincts!!
Keep your eyes peeled for Eyes Down, Charlotte's short that we discuss at length. You can keep in the loop on IG @chard_films and on her personal page @charlottedaniel2. Shoutout to the Beaumont Society in the UK and to the Scottish Trans Alliance.
Thanks again for listening and I hope to be able to continue recording amidst COVID-19, as we all need more real talk and community during these trying times. I hope everyone is keeping safe and at home.
With all the love, from my little bleeding extroverted heart to yours, your little C.
Ep 88: Sex Up Your Life, with Julie Archaumbault
Hi my lovers! Meet Julie, today's author and creative extraordinaire! We get to know more about her childhood in Montreal and evolution through different kinds of education. She tells me about her experiences following the red threads of her life that somehow unravelled into making her the author of Sex Up Your Life: The Mind-blowing Path to True Intimacy, Healing, and Hope. Join us down this fascinating path of how caring about people can take many different forms. You won't regret taking part in this holistic and multifaceted conversation of utmost cultural relevance.
Topics: activism, education, love, film life, teachers, writing, sex, taboos, healing, akashic records & sexual energy, creating spaces for stories, the continuum of sex from disruptive to healing, the new societal place of sex, definitions, legacies & trauma, rape culture & consent, shame and so MUCH MORE.
Shout out to Devi Ward for being awesome. (Check out authentictantra.com.)
Thanks again for listening to another week of #RWWC and speak to you next Friday! Love, C. xo
Ep 87: Just Bad Timing, with Christine Wild
Ep 86: Dating & Digressing, with Ash Belluz from Kilter&Mint
Welcome lovers to this crazy mashup crossover of Kilter&Mint vs. RWWC!
Ash Belluz came over to the couch to introduce herself and talk smack! Kilter&Mint is a podcast on snapshot storytelling, a place to hear from the movers & shakers of Vancouver and also a gentle nudge to go to yoga. Ash herself is a yoga teacher, mom, podcaster and hilarious gem of a human. Join us for this episode on our respective stories with podcasting, life and walking the path to today. (I gotta say, it felt weird and great answering questions for half the episode!) Come not your head and rant with us my lovers.
Topics: Tom Hardy, podcasting, motherhood, social justice and micro-scale activism, choosing whose voices you bring to your platform, competition vs networking, online dating, making lists, setting standards, privilege & community, motivation, touch, and strange tattoos.
Special treat: you get to hear about my raclette accident.
For more on the podcast and @the.feelosophy, go to kilterandmint.com or @kilterandmint or @ashbluz on the socials! Stay tuned for more on Common Ground coming up in YVR next month for accessible, inclusive and affordable yoga! Do also check out the Lululemon International Women's Day event @lululemonyvr.
Ep 85: Virginity & Self-awareness, with Jaden
Hi my lovers! Meet my colleague Jaden! This aussie import was open enough to come chat with me about his relationship to his sexuality, his body image issues and his sex life (or lack thereof). We go through his early life, student years, and coming out journey together. We spend some time talking about first relationships and self-sabotage. We digress into some highly entertaining stories of first moves and awkward flirting, before diving in deep. Listen in if you too feel like your inability to love yourself is hindering your ability to find a loving partner. Listen especially if you're fully aware of it and just haven't gotten to the point where you can help yourself.
Topics: high school awkwardness, relationships, body image, the importance of swimming lessons, university/college self-reinvention, rejecting physical touch, frustration, self-awareness of being one's own worst enemy, depression, escaping home vs escaping problems, virginity as a myth, spontaneity and more!
I am so grateful for open souls. Thank you Jaden for this refreshing dose of vulnerability and honest storytelling. Sorry for not being more helpful! Lovers, come get your dose of self-deprecating humor and cackles.
Thanks again for listening and speak to you next week. Please consider supporting this podcast financially at the appropriate button somewhere on this page, or reviewing and rating this podcast on your favorite platform. I love you mucho. x
ps: seriously tho, DM me if you're down to entertain Jaden and I with your dating profiles ;)
Ep 84: Anxiety & Ego Death, with Mark
Well lovers... This episode comes to you three days late, because life happens. I had planned to come out with a special Valentine's day episode about Love, with Mark, to talk about progress, learning and relationships. I wanted to be joyful, talk about us and celebrate the successes of this ever-changing relationship we are building. Instead, we had a bad weekend of arguments and anxiety. Here is our unedited, unchecked, vulnerable couch therapy session about mental health and our version of non-monogamy. Please do feel free to skip this one.
I love you all. May you all be kind to yourselves and take life one step at a time.
Yours, as always. C. x
Ep 83: Rewilding the Feminine, with Fiona McCoss
Welcome my lovers. Let us delve into the wild woman archetype today. Meet Fiona. She is a women's empowerment educator and feminine embodiment facilitator. We go back to her worldly upbringing, boarding school stint and decade of confusion spent climbing the corporate ladder. We then dive into the interesting bit, the breakdown bit, the "fuck this shit" bit. Stick around for this fascinating saunter around femininity and sexuality. I really loved getting to know Fiona and I hope you will too! Thank you for one of the few things that you do right, @instagram.
Topics: online connections, Brexit, life changing moments, fucking the system, travel, the digital nomad life, yoga, sex, periods, shame, shadow-banning, witches, wilderness, communities of self-identified women, movement, power, patriarchy, unlearning, trust, rules, healing, (as always storytelling), individualism vs. community, presence and so much more!
For coaching and more on the Wild Feminine Way, go to fionamccoss.com or @fionamccoss on IG! If you're in Seattle, WA, this Sunday Feb 9, check out the "We Sensual Womxn" event at the Mind Body Sanctuary!
Resources: Wild by Cheryl Strayed, The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin, Way of the Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman, Women who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estés.
Ep 82: Vulnerability as Strength, with Shane Sandiford
Welcome my lovers! Meet Shane! He's our human of the week, and also Sally's partner from episode 65! In this episode, Shane walks me through his British childhood and career in social & youth work. We get to today: a point in his life where he gets to wake up and think "What now?" A point of reinvention, unlearning and re-writing of the story. Join us for this genuine and special episode with the kindest man.
Topics: family values, Saint Albans Tourism, setting personal deadlines, getting laid off, Neuro-Linguistic Programming courses, silence, Love, vulnerability & masculinity, storytelling, community, being unprepared, fatherhood, identity building, having supportive partners, motivation, self-confidence and inadequacy, barriers to success, and SO MUCH MORE.
(Resource: KickOff@3 kickoffat3.co.uk )
Thanks for listening and speak to you all next week!
Much love, C. xox
Ep 81: Mind-Blowing Sex is Not a Myth, with Sarah Trivett
Hello there! Meet Sarah Trivett, our somatic trauma therapist of the day. As is tradition, we retrace her steps from childhood to today. We spend some time talking about how insidious trauma is and how the realisation of its existence is a huge step. This episode is all about how the personal intertwines with the practice. Sarah tells me about her focal shift from addictions' treatment (with mostly men) to somatic sexuality work focused on vulva-owners. Follow us down this path of paradigm shifts and Aha moments. Listen in on her journey from "blah" sex to what she calls altered-state orgasms!
Topics: Vancouver DTES, grief, parents, healing, trauma, counseling school, feminist narrative therapy, imposter syndrome, sexual healing, tantra, personal development, discovering pleasure, spirituality, jade eggs, conscious body exercises, inner child work, group sexual energy and so much more!
For one-on-one Holistic Sexuality Coaching and Trauma Resolutions with Sarah, go to sarahtrivett.com. You can also check out the Jade Magic Series at The Dharma Temple in Vancouver, starting Saturday Feb 15th!
Thanks again for listening! Speak to you next week. And as always, please do follow, subscribe and review the podcast to help others find us!
Ep 80: Comedy & Audacity, with Claire Marie Pollock
Happy new year!!! Welcome back my lovers! What a treat we have prepared for you today! Meet Claire, our superstar comedian, dancer, actress and producer. She came over to the couch to talk about The Dirty Betty Show, Feminism, and small towns! Naturally, we kick off the episode by discussing strip clubs. We then do our usual "who are you" dance, from childhood in a small town to producing a provocative show to shake up said small towns. Join us for this candid and giggly episode about personal achievements and definitions of success. New fave quote of the pod: "When you love something so much, you can squeeze it too tight and just break it." Claire's advice: start with something you don't love quite that much.
She tells me about her funny, filthy, feminist femme-led comedy shows, and the challenges she faces touring across Canada.
Topics: Luminesque, theatre, depression, bombing auditions, comedy, making your own big break, fuckboys, drag performances, handling negative reviews, creating something that isn't meant for everyone, TW: rape mention & lack of consent, learning, the smart use of half-measures, producing & casting a show, acting, extroverts vs. introverts, stage vs. screen, community building and storytelling, fostering JOY and so much more.
Thanks Paula for the connection! For more on Claire, go to @clairemariepollock and @thedirtybettyshow on IG! I also encourage you to go see a show! You can find out more about the detes and dates at thedirtybettyshow.com.
Ep 79: Queer Indigeneity, with jaye simpson
Welcome to the last episode of 2019!!! Thanks so much for sticking around for this very special episode with an indescribable human! (Let me attempt this anyway..)
Meet jaye simpson, an Oji-Cree Saulteaux Non-Binary Two Spirit Queer Trans Woman (Sapotaweyak Cree Nation) poet, artist, performer and activist. They came over to the couch to tell me all the things. We go back to their 16 years in foster care, their art, advocacy and social justice work. In this episode, they tell me about their trials and tribulations, but also about stepping into their power and what the keys to their successes are.
Topics: spotted owls, small town cruelty, queerness, slam poetry, erasure, violence, baby queers, call out vs cancel culture, privilege, indigeneity, social capital, colonialism, the tragic story of Tina Fontaine, the problem with the [white and capitalist] justice system, politics, land acknowledgments, the limitations of "awareness", gender identity, social work failures, coming out, bullying, sex, writing about sex, dating standards, power, and SO MUCH MORE, LIKE A FUCKING LOT.
Bottom line: be unapologetic and consensual.
Mentions: Maggie from @graceclubyvr, Billy-Ray Belcourt @nakinisowin, Kai Cheng Thom kaichengthom.com, Gwen Benaway @gwenbenaway, Arielle Twist @ArielleTwist, Sonya Renee Taylor thebodyisnotanapology.com, and probably a few more.
Thanks so much my beautiful souls for feeling all these feelings with us. Thank you for being part of this journey, for broadening your conversations, for laughing, crying and raging with us. I wish you rest, constructive energy and purpose in these reflective days. See you in the roaring twenties for more unabashed, unfiltered, uncomfortable topics with new and familiar souls.
All my love belongs to you. C. xo
Ep 78: Processing Rage, with Ji-Youn Kim
Rage. How does it feel? Where do you feel it?
Welcome to this week's awe inspiring episode with Ji-Youn (pronounce Jiyanne) Kim. I had the pleasure of welcoming her over to the couch to talk about social injustice and feelings. We do our usual walk about her Korean roots and Vancouverite childhood. We zero in on her university days. Fun fact: if you google "UBC drop out" one of the first photos you'll find is of Ji-Youn! It's in those days that she started advocating for mental health after she went viral for dropping out following a suicide attempt. Check out the Tipping Point if you want to know more about an advocacy movement that aims to push post-secondary institutions to better support student mental health.
We wander around her steps from drop out to counsellor, to arrive at her work on Processing Rage. Follow us down this rabbit hole to hear more about the tools we might have or need to work through some of this world's most burdensome emotions.
Topics: white supremacy, survivors guilt, social justice, assimilation, healing, the whiteness of the wellness industry, somatica, shame, anti-oppression, intersectional feminism, anger vs. violence, screaming, the socialization of expressing/suppressing emotions, non-closure, valuing the questions when there are no answers, attachment theory, de-colonizing socialization, labeling, self-responsibility, control issues and SO MUCH MORE.
Thanks so much for listening my loves. I wish you some grounding moments of peace. All yours,
Ep 77: Trans Lives & Death Care, with Toni King-Rose
Meet Toni, our 20 year old advocate for gender inclusion and acceptance within death services for today! He is a transgender man, who identifies openly within the funeral and death care services profession. He is currently studying to become a funeral director and embalmer at the Canadian College of Funeral Services. Today, Toni candidly opens up to us about what it means to him and talks about the current system's implications for transgender and gender-nonconforming people.
Death and Funeral services are not (yet) equipped for transgender care and it will take people like Toni to make it happen! Please do join us for this fascinating episode on a topic I had never thought about before (privilege!). Thank you so much Toni for taking my hand and leading us down the rabbit hole.
Topics: death, coming out as trans, grief, the three main options you get once you're dead: embalming, cremation and no embalming, representation, trans rights within death services, mental health, death doulas, abuse, funeral rites and remembering, suicide, science and binaries, empathy, LGBTQI+ rights and services, and so much MORE!
Bit of wisdom for today: "Accepting your own death is a really good way to learn to live."
Thank you so much Debbie for the intro! Sorry I got to tell the world about him first! (Everyone check out the Uncomfortable podcast!) And obviously, go support Toni @transdeathcare on IG and Twitter!
Much much love and tenderness to you all. Yours as always,
Ep 76: Three Braless Women on a Couch, with Joanne and Julia
Welcome to the much-anticipated follow-up episode to Joanne and Julia's Expressions of Self series on life after trauma. The women held three consecutive storytelling events, each one month apart, on the topics of Survival, Resilience, and Healing after trauma. They came over to my couch to discuss how it went, what they learned and what surprised them. Their aim was to gear the conversation towards the HOW, and not the who, what, and why's of survival. Listen to this hilarious and empowering episode, led by your fave trio!
For an intro to the girls, refer to episodes: 31 with Joanne, 39 with Julia, and 58!
Topics: trauma, forgiveness, storytelling, thinking out loud with others, somatic exercises, resilience as a constant, healing as a non-linear concept, learning and connection from personal experiences, counseling, the pitfalls of certain post-traumatic services, imposter syndrome as a survivor, setting and expressing boundaries, battling negative self-talk, knowledge building, empathy, setting standards on treating each other with dignity and respect - and not doing it alone!!
The common thread of these conversations was simple, and worth repeating: we need to practice showing the forgiveness and kindness that we show others, to ourselves.
TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK. Tell me what you wanna hear my lovers. I'm happy to keep using this podcast as my personal platform for free education, but I'm happy to shift my attention to any potential blind spots! ;)
I love you all. Thanks for coming to play.