By Sherry Yuan Hunter
The Sandwich Parenting podcast is hosted by trauma-trained parenting coach Sherry Yuan Hunter. Learn more about Sherry at www.sherryyuanhunter.com.
Produced by William Hunter and Mayra Willis | Music: "Farm" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)
Sandwich ParentingNov 26, 2020
Why Everyone Needs a Coach
1. We are human
2. Change is hard
3. Coaches can save you time and energy
#sherryyuanhunter #recoveringshouldaholic #sandwichparenting #traumarecoverycoaching #changeishard #whyweallneedcoaching
What is Khud Agahi? Beta Mama Coach Aizah Ashraf Explains
Trigger warning: Suicide ideation mentioned briefly.
Aizah Ashraf is a US Certified Conscious Parenting & Mindset Master Coach with several years of corporate & neuroscience based coaching experience. As the Beta Mama, she has helped parents and educators gain valuable self-awareness, heal from trauma and become emotionally-safe individuals and caregivers.
Listen to Learn:
• how Aizah overcame a dark place • parenting is for parents, THEN kids • what is Khud Agahi? • on being a Muslim parenting coach • Aizah's one piece of advice •
00:00 - Introduction
00:58 - Aizah's origin story
02:41 - She felt alone and had thoughts of suicide
04:34 - Looking for a better connection with God
06:56 - Better parenting is for the parents first, and then the kids
07:50 - What is the concept of Khud Agahi?
15:30 - On being a Muslim parenting coach
18:00 - Why Aizah is so passionate about what she does
22:07 - Aizah's process of parenting coaching
26:54 - Aizah's one piece of advice to parents
28:31 - Goodbye
#khudagahi #betamama #emotionalsafety #iseeme #selfawareness #healing #ibelongtome #childhoodwounds #authenticself #selfhealing #mindsetcoach #itstopswithme #cyclebreaker #generationalpatterns #trauma #neuroscience #attachmentscience #brainscience #childhoodtrauma #emotionalwellbeing #feelings #permissiontofeel #emotionaltrauma #motherwound #attachmenttrauma #belonging #empathy #selfregulation #emotionalregulation #consciousparenting #mindfulparenting #peacefulparenting #yesican #consciousparent #parentcoach #empoweredparenting #holisticparenting #awakenedparent #emotions #coregulation #brainscience #breakingpatterns #mindfulness #consciousness #perspectiveshift
Clean Your Clutter While Rearranging Your Values with Tonia Cordi
Tonia Cordi has been helping people transform their lives for the past 20 years. Not only does she help people organize their stuff, in her process she also helps people realize the true value of their lives along with their stuff.
Listen to Learn:
• Tonia's origin story • why people can't organize their lives • figuring out why you do what you do • working with families •power, passion and purpose • Tonia's advice •
00:00 - Introduction
00:35 - Tonia's origin story, from therapist to teaching to life alignment coaching
02:11 - Getting to the root of why people can't organize their lives
05:37 - Evolving your life in a fun, playful way
08:04 - Tonia's process: figuring out why you do what you do
12:46 - Fitting the process in with the rest of the family
15:55 - It takes as long as it takes
20:51 - Power, passion and purpose
22:47 - Tonia's parting advice for parents
24:43 - Goodbye
Monthly Membership Info (https://toniacordi.com/memberships/)
#sherryyuanhunter #sandwichparenting #parenting #organizingyourlife #healingfromtrauma #childhoodtrauma #mentalhealth #moneymatters #lifealignment #toniacordi #powerpassionpurpose
Angela Tam, The Embodied Entrepreneur
Angela Tam is on a quest to help people turn intergenerational trauma into intergenerational wealth-building. Sherry talks with her about her life journey, her challenging of pathologies as a Mental Health Therapist, her work helping people remove mental barriers to financial success, and her ultimate hope to change what people use as metrics of success.
Listen to learn:
• how Angela's parents fled Vietnam and built a new life • kids being a catalyst of real change in your life • the issues with modern mental health diagnosis • how personal mental health affects your professional life • angela's last piece of advice •
00:00 - Intro
00:49 - Angela Tam's origin story: her parents trauma bonding over the Vietnam War
03:52 - Angela Tam's origin story: growing up with parents dealing with deep trauma
10:10 - Family converting from Buddhism to evangelical Christianity
12:59 - Having kids being the catalyst for Angela's changing life journey
15:28 - Modern medicine pathologizing people over systemic oppression and trauma
17:43 - The medical DSM as systemically racist
19:38 - Angela and the Embodied Entrepreneur Program: your personal struggles = your financial struggles
21:09 - Personal is professional and professional is personal
25:49 - Angela's one piece of advice to people
27:36 - Goodbye
#parenting #angelatam #embodiedentrepreneur #reparenting #healingfromtrauma #childhoodtrauma #mentalhealth #moneymatters #wealthbuilding #financialfreedom
Caring for Aging Parents with Stephanie Chan
Stephanie Chan is the founder and owner of two companies in the senior living industry, and she has a passion around helping seniors and family caregivers. Her first company Home to Home helps seniors and families with caregiving, health care, navigation transitions and care management. And her other company, myCareBase, helps families find and hire prescreened professional caregivers and then provides tools for the family caregivers to manage that care remotely. This is a topic that isn't really top of mind... until it is (has to be) and can be extremely triggering to deal with. Stephanie gives some practical advice based on her experience with her clients.
Listen to learn:
• Stephanie's origin story • biggest challenges for caretakers of the elderly • caretaker self-care • tips for caregivers • elder care modelling for your own kids • Stephanie's last piece of advice •
00:00 - Intro
01:00 - Stephanie Chan's origin story
03:36 - Stephanie relates the biggest challenges faced by caretakers of aging parents
06:23 - Caretaker self-care: take care of yourself as you care for others
08:46 - Don't be scared to reach out for help
11:03 - Navigating the reality of role reversal in caring for your parents
12:28 - Stephanie's tips for caregivers
14:08 - Remember that your own kids are watching as you care for your parents
17:42 - Advice when kids live far from their parents
20:00 - Respect and help the sibling(s) local to your parents
21:47 - Stephanie's one last piece of advice
22:22 - Goodbye
Stephanie's company links:
#eldercare #homecare #seniorcare #careplanning #advancecareplanning #familycaregivers
What is Hygge? Iben Sandahl, Best-Selling Author of The Danish Way of Parenting, Explains
Iben Sandahl, the best-selling author of The Danish Way of Parenting, has 20 years of experience in child psychology. I talk to her today about her phenomenal book, and what makes Danish families so darn happy!
Listen to learn:
• the Danish way of parenting • what is hygge? • the inner work parents need to do • how teens are unfairly labeled • fluid boundaries of children • importance of critical thinking skills • Iben's final piece of advice
00:00 - Intro
01:30 - What is the Danish way of parenting?
05:07 - What is hygge and why is it so important to Danes?
08:02 - The inner work that every parent should do
13:40 - How teens are unfairly labeled
18:31 - The fluid boundaries of children
21:24 - The vital importance of teaching our kids critical thinking skills
24:04 - The benefits of being a full member of Iben's support group
29:06 - Iben's one piece of advice to parents
29:48 - Goodbye
Iben's website: The Danish Parenting Club: https://ibensandahl.com/
Find Iben's book at Bookshop.org: https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-danish-way-of-parenting-what-the-happiest-people-in-the-world-know-about-raising-confident-capable-kids-jessica-joelle-alexander/11712589?ean=9780143111719
#hygge #danishwayofparenting #danishparenting #parenting #childrearing #childpsychology #psychology #happykids #family #innerwork #dothework #criticalthinking #danishparenting #danishparentingclub
The Hurt Recovery Coach Candice Colgan
This episode features Candice Colgan, aka the Hurt Recovery Coach. She has moved from assault survivor to criminal lawyer to political activism to becoming a trauma recovery coach. She also has navigated the tricky world of moving to different cultures and dealing with a multi-cultural family! All that, and publishing the best-selling book Creating Impact.
Highlights to watch for:
0:00 - Intro
3:19 - The Candice Colgan origin story
7:32 - Deciding to work in trauma recovery
10:17 - Having hope while recovering from trauma
11:12 - Candice's amazing journey: from the Philippines to Australia to England
15:07 - The uniqueness of multicultural kids
16:23 - Candice's upbringing and how she is raising her kids
21:03 - The perils of always being obedient and compliant
25:05 - Stephen Porges and the Polyvagal Theory
28:39 - Candice has another definition of Sandwich Parenting
30:34 - Cultural differences example: co-sleeping with children
34:07 - Candice's one piece of advice for parents
34:57 - Goodbye
#intergenerationaltrauma #assaulttrauma #survivingtrauma #traumarecovery #multiculturalism #polyvagaltheory
The Fiercely Compassionate Achara Tarfa
In this episode of Sandwich Parenting, Sherry Yuan Hunter has a conversation with good friend and fellow trauma recovery coach Achara Tarfa.
Achara is a survivor of child sexual abuse, narcissistic abuse, domestic violence, miscarriage, high conflict divorce, co-parenting with a narcissist, and nonparent expected (NPE). She believes in fierce self-compassion and has dedicated her life to the healing of trauma. Achara is also a Supervisor with the International Association of Trauma Recovery Coaching.
Connect with Achara at:
HIGHLIGHTS FROM THIS EPISODE:
1. Learn about IFS (Internal Family Systems) and PATH
2. Using IFS in healing
3. Advice to parents
TUNE IN TO HEAR:
● 00:18 Guest introduction
● 02:30 Origin story
● 18:57 Becoming a trauma recovery coach
● 21:52 PATH and IFS
● 34:19 Healing process with IFS
● 40:11 One piece of advice to other parents
● 43:47 Thank You
#healingparentsapproach #reparenting #spanishspeakingparentingcoach #childabuseawareness #childhoodtrauma #domesticviolence #narcissisticabuse #miscarriage #divorcerecovery #selfcare #trauma #mentalhealth
Money Coach Anna Yen
In this episode of Sandwich Parenting, Sherry Yuan Hunter has a conversation with Anna Yen. Anna is a money coach that runs FamilyFI, a personal finance community dedicated to empowering families to develop a positive money mindset. She also runs a Chinese learning podcast with her daughter!
HIGHLIGHTS FROM THIS EPISODE:
- Find out why Anna is so good with money.
- The difference between how she was parented and how she chooses to parent
- Supporting the next generation and themes often seen in other parents
- Anna’s one piece of advice to parents
TUNE IN TO HEAR:
● 00:18 Guest introduction
● 00:55 Origin story
● 09:50 The way Anna chooses to parent
● 16:22 Money and finances themes
● 18:13 Prioritizing yourself too
● 20:42 Money tied to goals, values, and emotions
● 27:51 Teaching Chinese podcast with daughter
● 37:21 One piece of advice to other parents
● 40:13 Thank You
#annayen #money #moneymatters #FamilyFI #finance #wealth #success #personalfinance #financialfreedom #chinese #chineseculture
Healing through Comedy with Kelly
Kelly Wilson is a certified trauma recovery coach, and a survivor of childhood sexual abuse who has channeled her experiences in trauma recover via the comedy modality. Not the usual way, but an effective and accessible way.
A former elementary school teacher, Kelly was beloved for her deadpan sarcasm, which led her to pursue standup comedy, quit her job, and navigate a three year long identity crisis.
Kelly started the PTSD Parent podcast for parents dealing with trauma, and currently offers trauma remediation to lessen triggers, grief recovery, and healing through humor as part of her work in trauma recovery coaching on MapYourHealing.com
HIGHLIGHTS FROM THIS EPISODE:
- How Kelly used comedy to cope
- Teaching and being a comedian
- Kelly and the PTSD Parent Podcast
- Advice from Kelly
TUNE IN TO HEAR:
● 0:25: Guest introduction
● 1:08: Origin Story
● 3:38: Identity Crisis at 40
● 6:00: Combining mental health speaking and comedy
● 8:22: Humor as a survival mechanism
● 11:28: PTSD Parent Podcast
● 14:03: One piece of advice for parents dealing with trauma
● 19:54: Kelly’s work and getting in touch
● 22:07: Grief recovery
● 26:31: Thank you
#healinglaughter #humour #PTSDparenting #sexualabuse #teaching #triggers #relationships #couples #healingfromcomplextrauma
Vera Cheng of Talk Therapy
Vera Cheng is a Registered Social Worker, Psychotherapist, Consultant, Media Expert and the founder of Talk Therapy with Vera (https://talktherapywithvera.com/). She identifies as a 1.5-generation Chinese Canadian and has openly shared the obstacles she has overcome in life that allowed her to accept and challenge herself. These experiences have allowed her to cultivate herself as a therapist and support individuals with similar challenges.
Vera has over 15 years of clinical experience working in community and medical settings with a diverse population ranging from teens to seniors. She is a mental health advocate for the Asian community, and currently works with clients who identify as Asian millennials who struggle with mental health. In addition, she facilitates anti-Asian racism and mental health workshops for organizations across Ontario. You can learn more about her from her website or Instagram account.
TUNE IN TO HEAR:
00:57: Origin Story
01:52: Not using Chinese name
05:17: Experiences of racism in the Asian community
06:30: Becoming a mental health worker
09:44: Not knowing how to have compassion for the self
13:03: Not dismissing our feelings
14:48: Current trends with Vera’s clients
15:41: “Right to Be”, a workshop on handling racism
18:39: One piece of advice for parents dealing with trauma
22:05: Vera’s work and getting in touch
26:31: Thank you
#talktherapywithvera #letstalk #asiancanadian #asiansdotherapy #mentalhealthforasians
Gabriela Blanco, Conscious Parenting Coach
Gabriela Blanco is a conscious parenting coach who helps parents embody their truest capacity for caregiving through all of life’s ups and downs. She believes in leaving shame behind for not only children, but parents as well.
Her journey to parenting was inspired by her older sisters - from nannying to business development to working at a preschool, what she deeply enjoys is the small moments of watching parents interact with their children.
Gabriela currently hosts a three-month course where parents are invited to show up just as they are, no homework or scripts required, to build a caring and compassionate parenting community.
TUNE IN TO HEAR:
0:25: Guest introduction
1:08: Gabriela's Origin Story
6:48: The Healing Parents Course
7:04: We Don’t Need Scripts
14:41: Integral Role of a Parenting Community
25:20: No Homework
28:31: One piece of advice to parents who have trauma of their own
31:06: Thank you
#gabrielablanco #consciousparenting #healingparentsapproach #reparenting #spanishspeakingparentingcoach
IAOTRC Bobbi Parish
Bobbi Parish is the Founder and Executive Director of the International Association of Trauma Recovery Coaching. Bobbi started the association in 2017 to support a global need to heal from trauma. In transparency, I am certified as a Trauma Recovery Coach through the Association, having completed the Initial and Advanced certificates.
A survivor of childhood abuse herself, Bobbi used her graduate degree in Marriage and Family Therapy to work with other trauma survivors. She switched from therapy to coaching in 2014, finding the freedom to tell her clients that she loved them just as they are.
After experiencing how powerfully coaching helped survivors of trauma heal, Bobbi decided to help others become Trauma Recovery Coaches. As one person she could help a limited number of survivors heal, but teaching other coaches and sending them into the world provides thousands of survivors with high quality, easily accessible help.
(Trigger Warning: In recounting her origin story, Bobbi shares her story of trauma and survival.)
Why is this such an important message to get out to the world? Because there is hope for trauma survivors.
She's created a program that welcomes you home, to a safe place, to be loved, seen, heard, understood and cared for. She is building an team of Trauma Recovery Coaches who have lived experience who want to support and help other trauma survivors. "I'm here with you. How do we get out together?"
A must listen. Learn with us. Heal with us.
Come join the global movement of trauma recovery!
In this very special edition of Sandwich Parenting, Sherry Yuan Hunter has a conversation with
Bobbi Parish. Bobbi is our Executive Director of the International Association of Trauma
Recovery Coaching. She specializes in working with survivors of childhood trauma. As a
survivor of childhood trauma herself, Bobbi brings a great deal of compassion and
understanding to her work with clients.
HIGHLIGHTS FROM THIS EPISODE:
1. American therapy model is evolving
2. The 4 lies trauma teaches
3. New association developments
TUNE IN TO HEAR:
● 00:23 Guest introduction
● 00:32 The origin story of the International Association of Trauma Recovery Coaching
● 05:15 New research on depression
● 06:10 The therapist that loved me
● 14:59 Transitioning into trauma recovery coaching
● 17:09 Starting a program to teach others
● 23:23 How the American model is evolving
● 30:01 What aspiring coaching professionals need before starting their healing journey
● 35:51 What aspiring coaching professionals need before starting their coaching journey
● 39:05 4 essential lies that trauma teaches
● 40:20 What would Bobbi now tell herself 10 years ago
● 42:37 New association developments
● 53:08 One piece of advice to parents
● 54:52 Thank You
#iaotrc #healingfromtrauma #bobbiparish #traumarecovery #traumarecoverycoaching #trauma #depression #anxiety #mentalhealth
From Triggered to Tranquil Susan Campbell
In this episode of Sandwich Parenting, I am incredibly honoured to speak with Susan Campbell. Susan is a psychologist and has worked as a professional speaker and a dating and relationship coach for over 35 years. She is the author of many books, including her ground-breaking The Couples Journey. Her most recent book is From Triggered to Tranquil and it's one of the best books I have ever read in my entire life. It’s incredibly practical and explains everything in a straightforward, logical way. To me, this is one of the few Human Life Handbooks that no one gives you when you are born and says "Read this. It will save you a lot of headaches; you don't have to muddle through this on your own." It's all about triggers and how they are the bridge into healing what we need to heal.
Please look her up and please Do the Work! You will not regret the time spent working on your triggers. It changes everything and all relationships you have, especially with your children, who might be the biggest source of all your triggers!
HIGHLIGHTS FROM THIS EPISODE:
- What Susan continues to learn about all her clients
- Importance of living an authentic life
- How to pause, feel, and heal
- Advice to parents with trauma
TUNE IN TO HEAR:
● 00:16 Guest introduction
● 01:20 Origin story
● 04:23 The layers of unconsciousness in people
● 07:09 Why it’s important to live an authentic life?
● 08:37 Getting Real and unlearning the wrong thing
● 11:34 How Triggered to Tranquil lands differently with people
● 13:02 Trauma with nursing
● 21:14 Learning to pause and feel for healing unprocessed childhood wounds
● 26:26 Susan’s reason for writing the book
● 31:37 One piece of advice to parents who have trauma of their own
● 34:46 Thank You
#susancampbell #fromtriggeredtotranquil #triggers #relationships #couples #healingfromcomplextrauma
DEI Strategist Pooja Shahani
Pooja Shahani, founder of Kintsugi Consulting and co-found of Metamorphosis, is a Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion Strategist. She has experience working with multinational organizations and non-profit across the globe, including in India, Hong Kong, and the US. Pooja has had a number of careers, including being a journalist, a development practitioner and a corporate leader. She believes in the power of courageous questioning and co-creating more sustainable and equitable ecosystems.
Prior to launching Kintsugi, she led Diversity and Inclusion (D&I) for Goldman Sachs India and was the Country Manager for Community Business in India, a D&I consulting practice headquartered in Hong Kong. Pooja has co-authored a publication called “D&I: Building the Business Case – Stories from India” and has received the Global Diversity Leadership award by the World HRD Congress for her contribution in the diversity space in 2015 and 2016. Pooja graduated from Middlebury College, USA with a degree in English and has completed the Stanford Graduate Business School Ignite Program on Innovation and Entrepreneurship. She is a certified executive coach leveraging a unique approach of brain-based methodologies and expressive arts.
We talk about her unusual origin story, a generational story of migration that not many in the world know about. She shares her amazing story and his she makes the world a better place through her DEI work.
01:01 Pooja’s Origin Story - Life as a ‘Sindhi’ displaced citizen of Pakistan, going to school in Hong Kong, and internalizing discrimination and racism
03:49 The language of her father - Cantonese through a thick Indian accent
14:06 - Having to work to constantly prove your worth as an immigrant, and how this belief might actually help, and hinder
17:32 - Pooja was unable to tell the stories she wanted to tell, how she wanted tell them, under today’s version of “journalism”
20:42 - Pooja’s move into equity, inclusion and diversity work
23:47 - The Changemakers program, helping the helpers
27:42 - The big missing piece of the diversity movement is equity
29:23 - Dealing with diversity practitioner burn-out
31:16 - A story about balancing the needs of diversity employees and the resources available to create the infrastructure they need to work
38:41 - A constant series of tiny changes can add up to big differences over time
45:18 - Pooja’s advice to parents from a diversity lens: self-awareness
#EDI #DEI #equity #globalcitizen #poojashahani #kintsugiconsulting #metamorphosis #diversity #inclusion #coaching
FOTA Project Jolyn Armstrong
In this episode of Sandwich Parenting, Sherry Yuan Hunter has a conversation with a special guest, Joyln Armstrong. Joyln is a trauma recovery coach and the founder of the FOTA project (family of the accused). She and her husband, Jim, have built a support system to meet the emotional needs of those who are supporting loved ones through the criminal justice system. She understands the challenges families face from accusation to trial to prison and life after prison. With Joylyn on your team, you never have to be alone or lost when going through something so difficult and unthinkable.
HIGHLIGHTS FROM THIS EPISODE:
- How the FOTA project started
- Experiencing shame, isolation, and judgment for having a loved one in prison
- How to share your biggest weight without lying
- Advice for those going through a similar situation
TUNE IN TO HEAR:
- 00:20 Guest introduction
- 01:10 Origin story of the FOTA project
- 03:35 Finding out her son is in jail
- 07:54 Experiencing shame, isolation, and judgment
- 08:38 Having a supportive husband
- 10:48 Going through grief and loss for a loved one in the prison world
- 13:28 Realizing I needed therapy after months of suffering
- 14:37 Having to end our profitable coaching program
- 17:00 My gift being clouded by my trauma
- 19:01 Attending therapy and finding myself
- 21:40 Through my healing I was able to support my son better
- 22:37 I was never alone!
- 24:55 Sharing your biggest weight without lying to your inner circle or arm’s length friends
- 29:38 Putting on the “oxygen mask” first to provide support
- 34:15 Finding similar trauma experiences in the prison world
- 36:20 Love seeing people reframe after trauma
- 37:40 One piece of advice for those going through a similar situation
- 41:33 Partnered with a non-profit organization to help prison families financially
- 42:02 Thank You
#FOTAProject #jolynarmstrong #traumarecovery #familyoftheaccused #prisonfamilies
Singaporean Therapist Dr. Charissa Ng
In this episode of Sandwich Parenting, Sherry Yuan Hunter has a conversation with a special guest, Charisse Ng. Fluent in English and Mandarin, Dr. Charissa Ng is a psychologist in Singapore and has worked with individuals from as young as 4 to those in their 70s, helping them to cope with life struggles. Charissa believes in journeying with her clients with the help of personalized diagnostics, and a variety of therapeutic techniques that include CBT, acceptance & commitment therapy, schema therapy, inner child work, EMDR therapy, and other neuro-psychological techniques. Connect with her at https://care.putrastar.com/
HIGHLIGHTS FROM THIS EPISODE:
- Why do people suffer from depression and anxiety
- Beginning the healing process
- All about EMDR therapy
- Benefits from inner-child work for complex trauma
TUNE IN TO HEAR:
- 00:21 Guest introduction
- 01:26 Origin Story
- 03:59 When I learned about trauma work
- 06:23 Why do so many people suffer from generalized depression and anxiety?
- 08:47 Lots of expectations being Singaporean
- 11:28 Which modality to use to begin the healing process
- 13:39 What is brain spotting/EMDR?
- 16:50 EMDR eye movement/REM sleep
- 20:42 Bilateral stimulation technique benefits trauma survivors
- 23:42 How trauma is beneficial
- 25:25 CBT best for a one-time trauma situation
- 26:35 Complex trauma
- 30:20 Inner-child work and its importance for complex trauma
- 35:40 One piece of advice to parents
- 39:10 Sharing passion about therapy work
- 41:42 Schools need to be trauma trained and informed
- 44:43 Thank You
#charissang #healingfromtrauma #innerchildwork
Angela Wu: The Sassy Asian Therapist
In this episode of Sandwich Parenting, Sherry Yuan Hunter has a conversation with a special guest, Angela Wu. Angela is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Empowerment Coach who is passionate about de-stigmatizing mental health in the AAPI community as well as helping women of color reclaim and raise their voices in order to embody their empowered authentic selves! Angela was a high school math teacher who taught in Title 1 schools in Miami and in San Francisco. It was in the classroom where she witnessed how racial trauma and toxic stress impacted her students' ability to learn which led her to pursue a degree in counseling. She started her practice to be a much-needed resource for the Asian community. You can learn more about Angela at www.thesassyasiantherapist.com or on Instagram @thesassyasiantherapist.
HIGHLIGHTS FROM THIS EPISODE:
- Learn about the layers of trauma being Taiwanese
- Why Angela choose to be both a coach and therapist
- The basic, emotional, and psychological needs
- Details about the Take Up Space coaching program
TUNE IN TO HEAR:
● 00:17 Guest introduction
● 01:47 The various layers of trauma being Taiwanese
● 06:22 Proud to be Taiwanese
● 08:31 Grandparents’ story
● 10:36 Family immigrating
● 13:04 Why choose to do both coaching and therapy?
● 15:10 Basic needs, emotional needs, & psychological needs
● 18:23 Angela’s group coaching program
● 22:54 Take Up Space program details
● 27:07 One piece of advice to parents
● 29:07 Thank You
#angelawu #thesassyasiantherapist #mentalhealth #aapi #asianmentalhealth #empowerment #taiwan #takeupspace #immigration #complextrauma #sandwichparenting #sherryyuanhunter
Trauma Recovery with Jennifer Kindera
In this episode of Sandwich Parenting, Sherry Yuan Hunter has a conversation with a special guest, Jennifer Kindera, an instructor supervisor at The International Association of Trauma Recovery Coaching. She is a mentor for many coaches that have come through the program after her. She's an expert in trauma recovery, but she's also an in-depth scholar in the area of shame and teaches continuing education courses. She really takes the shame and helps us see how this is impacting us on a day to day. She gets into the healing from trauma through an understanding and through healing from shame.
HIGHLIGHTS FROM THIS EPISODE:
- 👉Difference between victim and survivor
👉 What is healthy shame and toxic pervasive
👉Importance of hard-wired in and soft-wired in
👉Coaching versus therapy
TUNE IN TO HEAR:
- 00:18 Guest introduction
- 01:20 Origin story
- 03:53 Started therapy
- 06:56 Helping others with their journey
- 07:15 Difference between victim and survivor
- 09:09 Becoming a Trauma Recovery Coach
- 11:16 Why the focus on shame?
- 15:38 Healthy shame different from toxic pervasive
- 18:29 Importance of hard-wired in and soft-wired in
- 20:35 Defining shame
- 22:39 Unable to trust ourselves
- 26:29 When we first met (Jennifer & Sherry)
- 29:20 Navigating through toxic pervasive into healthy shame & self-compassion
- 32:06 Coaching versus therapy
- 39:15 One piece of advice to parents
- 43:44 Thank You
#jenniferkindera #traumarecoverycoaching #iaotrc #trauma #shame #traumasurvivor #healingfromshame #healthyshame #selfcompassion
Mary Kerwin: A Guide to Confident Families
In this episode of Sandwich Parenting, Sherry Yuan Hunter has a conversation with a special guest, Mary Kerwin from Confident Families, a mother of four and a teacher turned coach with more than 45 years in education. She's on a mission to help mom home business owners balance running a business while raising a family. Listeners will walk away from this conversation having learned simple strategies to meet their maximum potential, bring balance into their homes, to raise happier, healthier kids.HIGHLIGHTS FROM THIS EPISODE:
- Supporting busy mompreneurs
- Finding balance as a working parent
- The principles of building confidence
- The support group Encourage Greatness
TUNE IN TO HEAR:
● 00:14 Guest introduction
● 01:25 Origin story
● 03:19 School closing & retiring
● 04:43 Starting Confident Kids
● 05:17 COVID happened
● 06:20 Confident Families opened
● 07:00 From only working with kids to now working with the parents
● 08:09 Helping busy mompreneurs find confidence and balance
● 08:35 Seeing balance as a pizza
● 10:10 Juggling act example
● 11:59 We are the architects of our families
● 13:50 The ABC’s The Principles of Building Confidence
● 14:07 A- Acceptance
● 14:16 B- Build Resilience
● 14:42 C- Connect to your Core Values
● 15:34 D- Dream Big
● 16:05 What is the 1%
● 17:25 Our journey, take baby steps
● 18:20 Encourage Greatness Group for parents
● 20:25 One piece of advice to parents from Mary Kerwin
● 21:02 Practice your Navy Seal
● 22:10 Mantra
● 22:37 Thank You
#teacherturnedcoach #parentcoach #marykerwin #supportingbusymompreneurs #encouragegreatness #confidentfamilies #confidencecoachingforkids
Pepper Joy: Taking the Science of Healing Soul Deep
Physician, Cartoonist and Sex Coach Toni Liu
Having been groomed to be a doctor by two physician parents, Toni Liu did in fact become a physician and gynaecologist... until she made a big pivot in her life to work with clients on a more personal level. Now she coaches people and creates programs to help clients learn to love themselves and their sexuality, and avoid the devastating traps of self-loathing.
#selflove #selfcare #sextalk #sexcoach #womensadvocate #sexualliberation #sexeducation #selflovecoach
00:00 - Intro
00:26 - Toni’s origin story
04:26 - Truly helping people instead of just doctoring them
06:44 - Toni’s work empowering women of colour to explore their sexuality
08:24 - The journey Toni’s clients take on their road to sexual self-discovery
09:53 - Taking the onus off women for being sexually abused
12:31 - Determining the sources of low self-esteem and self-worth
14:36 - Giving Asian girls an outlet for discussion sexuality
15:25 - What people can learn from the programs that Toni creates
19:15 - How the work ethic is more valued over personal self-care
20:11 - Toni’s advice to parents about discussing sexuality with their children
24:05 - Discomfort is good
Journalist and This American Life Producer Stephanie Foo and Her Trauma Recovery
01:04 - Stephanie's book What My Bones Know.
04:33 - The process of how the book was written.
05:35 - Dealing with the distorted view of self that comes with complex trauma.
06:35 - The unconventional therapy of Dr. Ham.
08:45 - What needs to be changed with conventional therapy.
09:25 - The responses to What My Bones Know.
10:37 - Trauma is trauma is trauma.
13:18 - The way we think of mental health absolutely has to change.
17:46 - The promotion of culturally-insensitive psychotherapy
18:27 - Talking about Iris Chen's book Untigering.
19:51 - Companies say they want to promote a work/life balance, but your boss never takes anything off your plate.
21:58 - Dr. Greg Siegle and BADASS.
24:54 - Complex PTSD and the pandemic.
27:27 - Feel your feelings.
30:34 - Dealing with The Hulk.
32:50 - Talking about hope and agency.
36:07 - Stephanie's advice for parents dealing with complex trauma.
#complextrauma #complexPTSD #StephanieFoo #whatmybonesknow #trauma #culturallysensitive #untigering #survivingthepandemic #theincrediblehulk
Family and Culturally-Based Trauma Recovery, with Dr. Jai Belton
Moving from a clinical perspective as a therapist, to the more personal environment of trauma coaching, Dr. Jai has dealt with parents, families and helping women of colour work through their culturally specific traumas. Join me as I discuss these challenges and more with the amazing Jai Belton.
01:22 - Dr. Jai Belton's origin story.
05:26 - The clinical approach to psychotherapy vs. trauma recovery.
07:14 - What does a trauma recovery coach do?
10:17 - Taking the client present, forward.
11:28 - Working with family trauma.
12:58 - Dr. Jai's work as an inclusion and diversity manager in trauma recovery.
14:24 - Culturally-based mental health issues and trigger responses.
18:43 - Trauma recovery for African-American women.
20:21 - Changing the face of trauma.
23:29 - Not erasing trauma, but navigating it.
23:59 - Working with adolescence trauma.
26:52 - Trauma work for specifically African-American females, continued.
31:36 - Dr. Jai's one piece of advice for parents.... or maybe two.
#jaibelton #jaiknows #jaispeaks #SherryYuanHunter #IAOTRC #sandwichparenting #parenting #traumacoaching #trauma #motherhood #copingskills #traumarecovery #culturaltrauma #familytrauma #racialtrauma #diversity #multicultural #healing #education #disenfranchisement #reconnectwithyourself
Who Wants to Be Chill? Seibo Shen Can Help You!
Seibo Shen went to law school (and dropped out after two weeks), ran the race of Silicon Valley startups while running up his bank account balance, and served as a CEO in the cannabis space. Driven to accomplish so much from the strict and demanding upbringing instilled in him by his father, Seibo decided to reset his life and follow the loving and nurturing lessons of his mother. He now working as a transformational coach, helping professionals avoid the burn-out that he experienced. Please have a listen as we discuss Seibo's journey to self-discovery.
00:39 - Seibo featured in the Asian Hustle Network book Uplifted, helping Asian entrepreneurs achieve success.
02:27 - Seibo's origin story of dropping out of law school, finding career success creating software in Silicon Valley, and eventually moving into the cannabis space.
04:47 - The law of diminishing returns of fulfilment in continued monetary success.
08:51 - About this relentless drive to success: the amazing gift of Seibo's father.
12:17 - Learning by doing things: The difference between reading a map and walking the terrain.
13:35 - As a CEO, concerning yourself more about your team's success than your own advancement.
15:29 - Seibo as a coach: success stories.
17:59 - The parenting style of Seibo's mother and father.
20:20 - What Seibo kept from his own upbringing when parenting his children, and what he changed.
24:15 - Being able to self-express and show vulnerability as a parent.
26:57 - Showing your true, authentic self instead of trying to be the smartest person in the room.
27:56 - Using curiosity and understanding to heal the divisiveness in the world.
30:14 - Understanding the roots of racial prejudice. 33:18 - Making the best decisions with the information you have at the time.
35:55 - Seibo's one piece of advice to sandwich parents.
#seiboshen #seiboknows #seibospeaks #SherryYuanHunter #asianhustlenetwork #sandwichparenting #parenting #startuplife #fatherhood #motherhood #ceo #transformationalcoach #selfdiscovery #cannabis #professionaldevelopment #AsianMentalHealth
Sen Zhan - Host of the 'Beyond Asian' Podcast
In my discussion with radio and podcast host Sen Zhan, we talk about the immigrant experience, consider a path for coming to terms with trauma, look at methods of acclimatizing to new surroundings, and so much more. I hope you'll listen to this episode and learn as much from Sen as I did talking about her fascinating story. Here are the highlights of our talk:
00:29 - Sen Zhan’s origin story
05:26 - Culture shock as a little kid arriving in Canada, straight from China
06:05 - Western kids are like wild animals compared to Chinese kids
07:46 - Acclimatizing to life in Calgary
09:16 - Overcoming a language barrier within your own community
10:47 - Rejected everything Chinese for a safer path
11:52 - Immersion in western youth fiction reading gives Sen a sense of self-discovery and independence
12:47 - Balancing the priorities of two different cultures
14:00 - A lesson at western school: What is your favourite colour?
16:38 - A struggle for survival as an immigrant family
18:09 - It’s not so much about forgiveness as it is about understanding
20:49 - Processing trauma
22:07 - Talk about Sen’s Beyond Asian podcast
25:20 - Neutral Asian Avoidance
29:49 - Discussing the Asian experience without delving into identity politics
33:29 - Thinking that your Chinese heritage is something to overcome, rather than embrace
35:32 - Standing out more as an Asian in Europe, than in North America
36:44 - Being from somewhere else is itself a super-power
38:02 - Just surviving is a great immigrant success story
40:29 - The story of Sen’s grandmother’s survival
42:59 - Sen’s advice to parents, as a sandwich kid
To visit Sen's podcast, Beyond Asian, please follow this link: https://beyondasian.com/
#immigration #immigrants #heritage
#chinese #survivor #healing
Dave Walker - "Mondays Don't Have to Suck"
Dave Walker lived a life that might be familiar to anyone trapped in the rat race, making good money and surrounding himself with "stuff", but fundamentally unhappy with his work, using alcohol as a coping mechanism, and disturbed by the person staring back at him in the mirror. What might not be so familiar is Dave's trajectory out of this spiral: re-examining his upbringing, leaving his work situation and starting a new company, investing more time with his children, and re-inventing himself... all in the shadow of a harrowing car accident. Please join me as we journey with Dave through his transformation, and discover the different legs of the metaphorical stool that supports him.
Here is a breakdown of our discussion:
01:03 - Dave's origin story, where he talks about his way out of clinical depression and alcoholism.
03:36 - His Six-Legged Stool model for life.
04:51 - Our children are the catalyst for change.
07:02 - Knowing your love languages.
08:03 - Little changes adding up to big improvements.
08:37 - The different parenting styles between Dave's Mom and Dad.
09:32 - Not liking the face looking back in the mirror.
10:20 - Reparenting yourself when your parents haven't given you the tools to cope with life.
11:57 - A Harvard degree in suppressing your feelings.
12:53 - Dave reconnecting with his Mom.
14:20 - Being in touch with your feelings is not being emasculated.
16:56 - The Universe speaks: Dave gets into a terrible car wreck.
17:45 - Dave's Mom continues to plant seeds, even after her passing.
18:46 - Giving your kids the gift of knowing you trust them to be okay.
19:45 - As opposed to parenting from fear.
22:35 - Giving your kids "The Talk" when you never got one.
23:04 - Guys don't cry. 24:16 - Using movies as crying therapy.
26:03 - enJOY life.
27:00 - Savour your relationships.
28:50 - Using alcohol as a coping mechanism.
30:33 - We're only human. We're bound to make mistakes.
31:20 - Trust in yourself.
32:05 - Passing the values you learned from a parent to your own kids.
32:58 - People are gonna “should” all over you.
33:55 - Courage isn't not being afraid. Courage is being afraid and still going forward.
34:48 - From Captain Comfort Zone to Captain Courageous. 36:02 - Why we fear the things we fear.
37:14 - Big thinker vs. big feeler.
40:23 - Judging your father when the blinders come off.
42:17 - Saying "I love you" to an emotionally stunted father.
44:04 - Dave downsizing, but he'd rather connect with people than with stuff.
45:00 - Working hard and being paid well is a powerful and addictive drug.
46:38 - “Feeling Dave” is keeping an eye on the life compass.
49:12 - Dave's final advice to parents: Trust your kids and learn their love languages.
#MondaysDontHavetoSuck #DaveWalker #SherryYuanHunter #sandwichparenting #parentlife #motherhood #fatherhood #cptsd #recovery #selfcare
Custody Coach Renée Rodriguez
For many people who are in the helping vocation or field, a very personal story of pain and then triumph is a usually part of their healing/helping journey. Renée Rodriguez went through her personal fight in a battle in order to have custody of her children after a divorce. This can be a very isolating experience... confusing, overwhelming, nonsensical and illogical. She managed to build a team of experts to help her understand what was needed and what she had to do in order to get to a final result that was safe for her and her children.
Renée is a Custody Coach, of Best Foot Forward. She works with parents who must fight to protect their children's well-being (from abusive partners or narcissistic ex-partners) via a busy justice system that may not have the time to truly see the day to day of parent-children interaction. She helps her clients through her pillars: Strategy, Evidence, and Mindset. She is passionate, empathetic, and determined to help parents who often get stuck with no real support or no advocate for their rights from domestic violence.
This is a very special opportunity to hear her story, her approach, and her advice to parents struggling with the painful experience of fighting for their children. Learn more about Renée:
#reneerodriguez #bestfootforward #custody #custodycoach #narcissisticex #abusivepartners #healingjourney #justicesystem #domesticviolence #divorce #advocate #strategy #evidence #mindset #sherryyuanhunter #sandwichparenting
Mentor to Teen Girls Jeannie Baldomero
Jeannie Baldomero comes from a military immigrant family originally from the Philippines, which meant that they moved around a lot depending on where her father was deployed until they settled in San Diego. She went to a private Catholic school and was a typical Latch Key kid. While she grew up fast and became very independent, her conservative family did not allowing dating. That meant, of course, that her first boyfriend was a gang member! Join our conversation and hear her story about how she came to run a program specifically for moms of teenage girls, helping them connect and getting them through what can be a tough phase of life!
Visit her site at Jeannie Baldomero
#jeanniebaldomero #parentingteengirls #parenting #teens #rooted #rootedprogram #motherofteens #sandwichparenting #sherryyuanhunter #parentingwithcomplextrauma
First Gen Greek American Sofia Reddy
A social worker for two decades and a mother of a teenager, Sofia Reddy is a first generation Greek American who is now shifting into the role of a wellness coach. We explore how our parenting has changed from that from the previous generation, which tended to be more authoritarian and hierarchical.
We have a wonderful conversation about parenting, stress, choices, celebrating the wins, and role modeling behaviours like flexibility and self care.
Learn more about Sofia Reddy and how to connect with her!
Lawyer Coach Jenny Toh
Jenny Toh was doing well professionally. She studied law in England and her legal career spanned almost 3 decades in Malaysia and Singapore. She worked as a litigator, a corporate attorney and a derivatives legal counsel. Married mother of 3 children and an active member in her local church, she was living a good life. But she felt called to be a life coach and started River Life Coaching to help people unearth, rediscover and rekindle their dreams and passions. Many of her clients are lawyers and those in professional services, balancing work and family.
Learn more about Jenny:
#jennytoh #lawyercoach #sandwichparenting #sherryyuanhunter #riverlifecoaching
Parent-child Psychotherapist Jasmina
Jasmina Pilak is a Pediatric Family and Developmental Counselor at St. Michael's Hospital in Toronto, working with families with children from 0 to 18 age of year. She also has a psychotherapy private practice focusing on the Parent-Child interaction. Passionate about helping parents deal with the challenges of parenting, she brings a calm, authentic wisdom to her work with parents and children.
We really got into how much stress children and young people face nowadays from societal pressures. Completely convinced that the parent-child relationship is key in the mental health of anyone, she wants to help her clients manage the challenges of parenting. We go deep into the meaning of life, parenting, slowing down, and building resiliency in our children. You don't want to miss hearing Jasmina talk. If you want to work with her, visit her site: therapyTOhelp
#jasminapilak #psychotherapy #parenting #trauma #complextrauma #sandwichparenting #sherryyuanhunter
Torontonians Kulbinder and Scott from Gen-I
Kulbinder Saran Caldwell's background in advocacy for diversity drives every project she is involved with. When race, gender or sexual orientation are the basis of any barrier, she will knock it down. As Founder & CEO of Reallife Pictures, Kulbinder is passionate about opening doors for diverse and emerging writers that had been closed by complacent decision-makers in the screen industry over many decades. Right by her side is partner husband Scott Caldwell who has worked in the news media for nearly 30 years, behind the mic and behind the scenes. He spent a decade as a radio news reporter and anchor before becoming a television news producer in Canada’s largest media market. He's evolved into a podcast producer & co-host of Gen-I (Generation Immigrant, that is, anyone who was born to immigrant parents.) Parents to adopted Sihk daughter and mixed-race son, they are reflective of the global community we live in and navigate. They take their experience to the next level by coaching others both on a personal level as well as in organizations that can make broader impactful change in the daily lives of their stakeholders.
One of my few interviews with people in the same time zone, let alone in the same city!
#kulbindersarancaldwell #scottcadwell #gen-i #generationimmigrant #sandwichparenting
Narcissistic Abuse Coach Kimberly Weeks
Kimberly Weeks is a Trauma Recovery Coach specializing in working with people recovering from abused by narcissists. Her choice of specialization comes from a very personal place. Not only is she doing this work for own healing journey and for her clients through theirs, Kimberly is also a Supervisor for the International Association of Trauma Recovery Coaching. That is to say, she's so passionate about this work that she is helping other coaches too.
Confident, authentic, compassionate, passionate, and energetic, she is a single mother of four boys, who also deals with a chronic health issue (autoimmune disease) that will never be able to stop her from achieving her goals. It may remind her when she needs to rest and recover, but she will never be defined by her illness. In our conversation, she explores the expectations on her and the successful achievements (SO MANY) from her life as the child of (SUPER) high achieving parents, the outward public view versus the internal family reality, and why she chooses to parent differently than how she was parented.
She is such an incredible example of a Sandwich Parent. Please join me in hearing her story and learning how she recovered, which then lead to her work as a coach helping others recover from childhood trauma.
#KimberlyWeeks #narcissisticabusecoach #narcissism #traumarecoverycoach #traumarecovery #sandwichparenting #sherryuanhunter
Model Breaker Charlene Wang
#CharleneWang #LivingOS #ModelBreakers #SherryYuanHunter
Sandwich Kid Tou Ger Lee
Raw and real, Tou Ger Lee shares the story about his Hmong parents' journey from the dangerous jungles of Laos to their new sponsored life in Wisconsin. A transformational coach who works with high achievers, Tou Ger knows what it is like to be successful and not actually feel anything. Drawing on his experience rejecting and then embracing his culture and heritage, Tou Ger embodies how to live your full authentic life doing what you are meant to do. A true Sandwich Kid, I love his wise advice to Sandwich Parents and and Kids.
#sandwichparenting #sandwichkid #tougerlee
Sandwich Kid Raj Tawney
Raj Tawney is an American essayist and journalist based in New York. Raised in a multiracial household by an Indian father and an Italian/Puerto Rican American mother, his exposure to race, culture, and class has uniquely impacted his viewpoint. He has contributed essays to New York Magazine, The Boston Globe, O, the Oprah Magazine, Variety, LA Weekly, F(r)iction, Broad Street Review, Entropy Magazine, L.A. TACO and others. He’s hosted on TV for Zee North America, Namaste America and Public Television; and live events for Gold Coast International Film Festival, North Fork TV Festival, The Mudra Foundation and at numerous universities and cinemas. Currently working on a memoir about multiracial/multiethnic Americans, Raj is a proud husband, and father of two rescue parrots and one rescue puppy.
#sherryyuanhunter #sandwichparenting #sandwichkid #rajtawney
Third Culture Kid Tim Brantingham
Tim Brantingham comes from a long line of Ohio missionaries living in Asia (5th generation to be exact). He was born in Taiwan, returned to the US for college, lived in various cities in Asia as an expat, married an American-Japanese wife, is the father of 3 kids, and recently relocated from Hong Kong to Japan. He’s not only a Sandwich Kid where his parents made decisions that greatly differed from what was expected of them, he is also a Third Culture Kid and a Sandwich Parent himself. Join us as we discuss how all this impacts his life and how he parents his children.
#sandwichparenting #consciousparenting #thirdculturekid #sandwichkid #expatlife #timbrantingham #livinginAsia #greatdad
Czech-Iraqi-Canadian Author Elen Ghulam
Canadian author Elen Ghulam was born to a Czech mother and an Iraqi father. She spent her youth going back and forth between the two cultures and languages. Mother to three grown children, she is also a flamenco dancer, an artist, and a hostess-chef extraordinaire. Prior to having kids, she had the fantasy of being the best mother in the world, you know, Mother Theresa + Mary Poppins + Mr. Rogers all mushed together! Lovable and strict. The kids would be the most awesome kids in the world, excelling in everything. But then she became a mother and realized that it was much harder than she thought. Join our joyous chat where we reunite after decades of apart to talk about motherhood from the perspective of an empty nester.
#sandwichparenting #consciousparenting #respectfulparenting #gentleparenting #peacefulparenting #elenghulam #ihath
Jen Lumanlan: Your Parenting Mojo
Jen Lumanlan is the founder of Your Parenting Mojo, where she examines scientific research related to child development through the lens of respectful parenting. She is a prolific researcher, writer and podcaster. In our conversation, Jen touches on numerous topics that I think you will find profound and insightful.
#sandwichparenting #consciousparenting #respectfulparenting #gentleparenting #peacefulparenting #yourparentingmojo #jenlumanlan #parentcoach
Power Coach Couple: Respect CC Jen and Eli
Eli and Jen are a husband and wife coaching team with two teen children. They decided shortly after their first child was born they were going to parent differently than their parents did. They are professional coaches with years of training, certified by the World Coaching Institute as Child, Youth, Parent and Family Coaches. They work with parents who are dealing with toxic /dysfunctional / abusive parents trying to heal their childhood trauma to ensure they are not continuing the cycle with their own children.
#sandwichparenting #consciousparenting #respectfulparenting #gentleparenting #peacefulparenting #respectcc #jenandeli #familycoaching #childhoodtrauma #breakthecycle
Recovering Perfectionist Michelle Lee Diasinos
Michelle Lee Diasinos, parent to two, is a Conscious Parent advocate, coach, author and co-host of The Mothers’ Roundtable podcast. Read her chapter in the #1 International Best Selling Change Makers Volume 4, where she shares her personal transformation that led her into this place of service to parents navigating their unique path. A recovering perfectionist, Michelle delves into the challenges parents face when perfection becomes a problem. One of the many exciting projects she's initiated is "Heal My Story" a platform for people to anonymously write about their healing journey. Join our chat and hear what she said that moved me to tears.
#sandwichparenting #consciousparenting #respectfulparenting #gentleparenting #peacefulparenting #michelleleediasinos #healmystory #themothersroundtable #perfectionism
Lina Lie: The Heartful Mama Coach
After deciding that her Super Mom/Tiger Mom approach was not going to work (not too long after the birth of her son!), Lina Lie did her research and now is a parenting coach, focused on Peaceful Parenting. She shares her journey and how a peaceful parenting approach not only helped her be the kind of parent she wants to be, but it has also improved her marriage. Listen to our chat and find out how parent coaching can be the supportive, non-judgmental support you need.
#sandwichparenting #consciousparenting #respectfulparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #linalie #theheartfulmamacoach
Parenting with Humour: Adrienne Hedger
Adrienne Hedger is the award-winning cartoonist behind the popular web comic “Hedger Humor.” Her work has been featured on popular media outlets such as BuzzFeed, The Huffington Post, Upworthy, Today.com, Yahoo!, Disney, and Nickelodeon. Several of Adrienne’s cartoons have become viral sensations, reaching tens of millions of people worldwide. We had so much fun on this episode where she shared her story and parenting approach. Parenting is ridiculous hard and humour really is the best way to deal with some of the frustrating moments. Read Adrienne’s hilarious and relatable cartoons at her Hedger Humor website, watch her videos on YouTube, like her Facebook page, and laugh along at Instagram.
#sandwichparenting #consciousparenting #respectfulparenting #peacefulparenting #parentingwithumor #parentingwithhumour #hedgerhumor #adriennehedger
Healing from CPTSD with Linda Meredith
A Sandwich Parent who saved herself from a complete loss of cognitive functions to being Australia’s first Certified Trauma Recovery Coach, Linda Meredith truly knows what suffering from CPTSD is like. Based out of Brisbane, Linda makes her trauma recovery expertise available globally through her YouTube channel, Healing CPTSD website, and Facebook community. She wants you to believe in yourself and have hope. She did it and she wants you to know you can too.
#sandwichparenting #consciousparenting #peacefulparenting #respectfulparenting #parentingwithcptsd #lindameredith #healingfromcomplexptsd
Joline Lim: A Chin-dian Learning Parent!
Joline Lim comes from a Chin-dian background (Chinese/Indian). Living in Singapore, a very competitive environment with a huge focus on academic achievement, Joline embraced Gentle Parenting, feeling there is much to learn from a variety of experts and approaches. Listen to our fun chat to learn about the journey to The Learning Parent SG where she advocates for respectful parenting with a Singaporean twist!
We talk about:
- Growing up with intense pressure to conform to social expectations for parents
- Expectations vs Reality!
- A gradual implementation of respectful parenting changed everything.
- Parenting, and respectful parenting in particular, is playing the long game.
#JolineLim #GentleParenting #RespectfulParenting #TheLearningParentSG #ChapterZero #SherryYuanHunter #Sandwichparenting #raisingkidsinsingapore #socialexpectations #socialexpectationsforparents #expectationsvsreality
Iris Chen: Untigering Parent
Iris Chen played by the rules of society and was a great success by society's standards, but felt that those achievements didn't mean anything at the end of the day. She is now on a journey of Untigering: which she defines as Gentle Parenting and Unschooling. She is a deconstructing Tiger Mom, and in the process, brings us along to question our own upbringing and how we parent our own children. Listen to our podcast as we talk about interesting parenting topics such as obedience, past trauma, achievement, and consent-based living.
In our conversation, Iris touches on numerous topics:
- Obedience: how she initially defaulted to an authoritarian style of parenting and had a tendency to demand obedience.
- Acknowledging Past Trauma: It is very important to explore our own wounds, our past trauma, not for blaming purposes, but to move forward.
- Learning: Instead of focusing on content, we should be giving our children the skills for how to learn.
- Curating Own Lifestyle: How her family created the family and community culture they wanted.
- Achievement and expectation: We shouldn’t focus on the outward markers of achievement to prove that we’ve made it.
- Consent-based living: It’s about how to honour our children. Unschooling isn’t just about education.
#sherryyuanhunter #sandwichparenting #consciousparenting #parentingwithcptsd #irischen #untigering #gentleparenting #deconstructingtigermom #consentbasedparenting #education #Asianparenting #unschooling #sandwichgeneration
Su Family: From "Perfect Chinese Son" to "Backpacking Bum"
Jonathan and Annie Su have learned to preserve values they learned from their parents and to evolve new ones as parents themselves. Breaking from traditional immigrant Chinese expectations, they live their lives defined by their own meaning and passion. I interviewed Jonathan and Annie Su on the last day of their quarantine in Hong Kong, right before they left for their third family Gap Year. Find out why they are the epitome of Sandwich Parenting in our inaugural podcast episode! Visit their website Su Family Adventures!
Authentic (and brutally honest), Jonathan and Annie share their experiences in our podcast, touching on numerous Sandwich Parenting Topics, such as:
- Generational Difference: Jonathan and Annie had to move from survival mode to a focus on living with meaning.
- Education: For Asians, education is important and its costs are usually all covered by parents, but they found a way uniquely theirs.
- Cultural Differences: Parenting with cultural differences requires making a mind shift.
- Mental Health Issues: Taking care of mental health is very important to do!
- Meeting parental expectations: How they turned parental expectations upside down.
#sherryyuanhunter #sandwichparenting #consciousparenting #parentingwithcptsd #jonathansu #anniesu #sufamilyadventures #asianparenting #parentingwithcomplextrauma #peacefulparenting #untigering #respectfulparenting #marriageishard #Chineseparents #intergenerationaltrauma #parentalexpectations #sandwichgeneration