Self Help Sat Nav

In this forth episode of the Reinventing Your Life mini-series, Jim explores a life trap called Mistrust.

Mistrust centres around the expectation that others will let you down or harm you. Based on previous experiences, you carry the mistrust lifetrap into adulthood.

Listen to this episode if you want to explore the origins of mistrust and how to move forward by cultivating trust in your relationships.

In this episode, Jim Lucas, talks about how to use the power of cognitive defusion to unhook from fear and move forward through stress.

In this episode, Jim shares some thoughts on the experience of feeling suicidal. My intention was to write something that might help if you feel like killing yourself. It's important to seek help, and you've probably heard that message before. Fear of losing control often put people off, so I wanted to write an article that could help when you feel like you can't reach out for help.

If you have felt suicidal or know someone who is, then please listen to this episode for some to think. We explore how to be patient, calm and understanding when being with someone who feels suicidal.

Jim speaks to teacher, Lauren Porosoff and Therapist, Jonathan Weinstein about how they use self-help in their personal and professional lives. Drawing on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), they talk about how to get around their mental obstacles.

Jim talks about what to do if you're feeling depressed. Should you see a Doctor? Are you already taking anti-depressants.

Do anti-depressants work? Listen to this episode to find out the finer details and figure out what you think is best for you.

In this episode, Jim Lucas talks to Dr Ray Owen author of Living with The Enemy and Facing the Storm.

Ray talks about how he maintains direction by focusing on what matters most across different situations.

In this episode, I interview Psychologist Aisling Leonard Curtin about how she uses self-help in her life.

We talk about how she uses mindfulness to engage with the life she wants to build. She refers to being more aware of how she might avoid stuff or get caught up in a shame cycle.

In this episode, Jim interviews psychologist Mike Sinclair. Mike tells a story from his professional life of a client who he has helped a grieving husband. He was struggling with his wife's terminal illness and caught up in a blame story.

If you've been affected by loss, then listen to this episode to reflect on how you might approach the death of a loved one.

Jim Lucas builds on the first two parts in this episode by exploring the failure lifetap. We take a closer look at the Young and Klosko Self Help book, Reinventing Your Life.

Having a Failure lifetrap means you fear failure and see yourself as a failure.

Let's examine how it affects you and explore where it might have originated.

Jim finishes off work with some suggestions for tackling a fear of failure.

In this episode, Jim talks to author John Forsyth. John wrote The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety. They discuss his book and the impact it had on its readers.

John recalls a long-term anxiety sufferer who had tried Cognitive Behavioural Therapy unsuccessfully. He helped him for a short time, but the anxiety and depression returned. He stumbled on the workbook and contacted John to transform his approach to life.

Listen to this episode to hear his story.

In part two of the reinventing your life mini-series, Jim Lucas discusses the Abandonment Lifetrap.

The fear of abandonment is a strong persistent fear that everyone will leave you. Due to a history of abandonment or instability, you can become hyper-vigilant to further abandonments as an adult.

Listen to this episode if you notice clinging to others, avoid getting close or habitually choosing people you can't rely on.

Do you get stuck in the same patterns? Would you like to break free from your bad habits? Lifetraps or repeatable patterns often appear in relationships, work, health and well-being.

Jim introduces you to this approach using the brilliant self-help book, Reinventing Your Life by Jeffery Young and Janet Klosko.

He gives you a summary of the lifetap idea and how it negatively affects our life.

In this episode of Self-Help Sat-Nav, well-being specialist Jim Lucas explore mindfulness in the 21st century.

Jim considers how and why mindfulness has become so popular in the Western world. There are so many apps to choose from, but where do you start? Which apps are good and which are bad?

Jim talks about mindfulness and why it can help.

Listen to my interview with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) trainer, therapist and supervisor Joe Oliver.

Joe is a Clinical Psychologist based in London, UK and runs an ACT training organisation called Contextual Consulting.

Activate your Life is a Self-Help book designed to show you an effective approach to navigating problems with anxiety, depression and anger.

Many people feel alone and unloved due to an emotional deprivation life trap. Listen to Jim's analysis of Reinventing Your Life by Young and Klosko.

Are you your worst critic?  Do you label yourself in negative ways?  

Dr Mary Welford is the author of The Compassionate Mind Guide to Building Self Confidence in 2012, Compassion Focused Therapy for Dummies in 2016 and is currently writing a children’s book.  She is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist & Director of Compassion in Mind.  

She is a founding member of the Compassionate Mind Foundation and was Chair of the Charity for a 4-year term. 

Mary works across the age span.  She has clinics in Bude, Cornwall and Exeter, Devon.

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What thoughts and feelings get in the way of your helpful habits?  How do you stay motivated when behaviour change is so hard?

Therapist and trainer Benji Schoendorff teach you how to complete an ACT Matrix.

Grab an A4 piece of paper and pen to complete your ACT Matrix while listening to this interview between Jim and Ben.  

#acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy #actmatrix #benjischoendorff 

What is Self-help?  Can it help?  What sort of problems does it help you solve?

The Self-help industry is enormous, which is a double-edged sword - there is a lot to choose from, and there is too much to choose from.  How do you know what works?

In this episode, your host Jim Lucas tells you four key yardsticks to help you select the best self-help books available.

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#anxiety #selfesteem #depression #stress