Sex on Sundays

Projecting someone is a narcissist is something I hear a lot. Not just from what I see on social media but from my own clients as well.

Let's take a few min to look at what that diagnosis actually looks like and learn if NPD is truly part of the equation or,

if you're just in an unhealthy relationship that you need to leave.

Are you settling into your relationship comfort zone but crave the excitement and passion that the infatuation phase offered? Let's dive into what that looks like and how to get that new relationship energy back on the radar with a few ideas.

And grab your journal and pen.... there's a little homework to do.

Share your experience @ sexonsundays6@gmail.com

Grab your Sex on Sunday Journals, tonite you're manifesting deeper bonds with your partner.

I'll share 4 couples rituals that you can start implementing in your relationship that will create more intimate connections. Whether you're in the privacy of your own bedroom or grocery shopping @ Trader Joes together, connecting in with one another can be practiced anywhere.

Take a few notes on the practices that you feel aligned with. Journal about your experience afterward.

I'd love to hear about your experience.

Got an idea of your own? Rituals you already practice? Share the ways you find yourself building intimate connections with your partner(s).

Write to me : sexonsundays6@gmail.com

 Kendalyn received her bachelor of Arts in Photography in 2019 from Grand Valley State University. Her journey into photography started her freshman year of high school and continued to flourish into the career she has today. She is currently based in Michigan and creates commercial, editorial, and personal photographic art in Detroit, Ann Arbor, and all over Michigan. Her current focus is capturing events and community in Cannabis and Psychedelic spaces. 

 For Kendalyn, art and creativity have always played a huge role in her life. Her love for people, life, community, and relationships with them allows her to  capture the essence of people, places, and things.  Our relationships with ourselves, our loved ones, our peers, our products, and the people we meet along the journey that is life is what shapes our perspective of reality. By tuning into the subtle nuances and complexities of our relationship with the world, Kendalyn is able to create photographs that highlight and showcase different perspectives and tells a story. Photography allows Kendalyn to meet and interact with people that teach her about life and challenge her to grow as a Photographer, Creative, and Human.

Www.kensimagery.com

IG : @kensimagery_

The next sexual revolution is here.

Got sexpertise? Hit me up @ sexonsundays6@gmail.com

when the break up happens, is closure necessary? here's my thoughts, pt. 1

Wanna share your story? Hit me up at sexonsundays6@gmail.com

#getnakedaskquestions

• TRIGGER WARNING

This one is going to hit home for a few of you. Just take a deep breath and consider my thoughts. Then trash them if you'd like but i bet for a few of you, this is a painful truth you need to explore.

Are you happy? When was the last time you considered the idea of being single? OR Maybe you're recognizing signs that your partner is simply no longer present. Why are you staying married?

I genuinely want to know. Hit me up- sexonsundays6@gmail.com

This weeks SHOUT OUT goes to Pans Apothika in Los Angeles. Go see Vickie and tell her Kendellove from S.D. sent you.

panpipes.com

I might be addicted to watching these couples to see if i guess right on who stays together...but do any of them actually make it?

Is the infatuation phase still a thing or has it become a primary objective for a relationship making it easy to end and move on to the next?

Do we ever wise up to understanding that the intense passion morphs into a comfortable realization that the person we fell for was temporary?

I always love talking with Summer. A tribe sister of mine that I instantly connected with a few years ago when we met. Her marriage has long been one that I adore (and one that always inspires me to want to couple up). Our conversations could easily be it's own podcast and today I get to broadcast one that shares some beautiful wisdom on a few thoughts that help keep a marriage healthy.

Grab a pen and paper for this one, you might want to make a few notes to share w your partner.

This sessions invitation- Have you had success on the dating apps and are currently in a relationship with someone you swiped right on? I want to hear your love story. Or maybe you've been disappointed recently with everyone you have swiped right on.... I'd love to have you share your experience.

Got wisdom of your own? Want to share some personal knowledge about relationships, sex and dating? Maybe a difference of opinion around something you heard me say ...Let's talk!

Hit me up, sexonsundays6@gmail.com

Because I've been slackin' while I've been on my academia grind.

Because I prefer not to advertise myself on my episodes, this isn't an episode as much as it's an opportunity for me to share a few words on the chapters I've written and how they are all being merged into 1 big niche of a therapeutic modality.  My style is def not for everyone...as it should be but if you feel aligned with any or all of what I offer, feel free to hit me up. 

sexonsundays6@gmail.com

https://lovealkemist.com/

The Sacral Chakra, our sexual power and creativity center, has more power than you might realize. I'm staying at the shallow end with this quick session on bullet points and highlights. (I'll take a deep dive later when I share the 8 Limbs and applying those to the love relationships in our lives.)

This weeks 2nd Shout Out- It wouldn't be Valentines without a romantic suggestion for dinner....or date nite any time of year. 

BARREL & BOARD in Hillcrest has a little of everything... beautiful charcuterie boards, artisanally hand crafted by Board Artists, delicious craft cocktails, romantic ambiance, and a sexy little speak easy. Check the hours before you venture. 

https://barrelandboardsd.com/#about 

This is the closing of the previous episode that was delayed due to some technical difficulties over file size.  (Rookie at Work)

The sexiest couples activity yet  

Due to a file size issue (that I don't understand) The information on the Sacral Chakra will be published at a later date. I apologize. I really wanted to share this additional piece in the episode but instead, I have a learning opportunity in front of me. 

THIS WEEKS SHOUT OUT FOR LOCAL BUSINESSES GOES TO ANDY'S ORCHIDS IN ENCINITAS. 

https://beta.andysorchids.com//

Thinking about using psychedelics to heal your marriage?  

Want to microdose w your partner to feel more connected?

Before you dive down the rabbit hole together, make sure you are ready for what is waiting when you come out on the other side.  The Mushrooms help you realize your truth. And the truth always surfaces.

This weeks shout-out goes to 

Luib Health Center in Clairemont. LuibHealthCenter.com

Want to dive deeper into a conversation on something you disagree with? Hit me up sexonsundays6@gmail.com

A look at a few behaviors that may be signs that your partner is less than faithful to your relationship. 

This list is not exhaustive but if your partner checks any of these boxes it might be time to sit down and ask if they are happy in the relationship you have established with them. 

Members of Sex on Sundays as well as Love Alkemy do not condone any acts of drama towards property or ppl. 

This reading is to guide the Sunday listener. 

This session dives into a couple letters to the love alkemist that look at some very tricky situations and Pt. 2 - the rest of the hit list on why you and your partner may not be having sex.... consider some of these dynamics may be the cause.

This session shares a 2nd couples activity as well as activities you can do no matter your relationship status.  I finally pull up the letters from listeners and share a note on Asexuality and why it might be the reason your partner is not having or even wanting sex.

Next week I'll go thru the rest of the hit list on other reasons why and share some thoughts / advice on a few of them. 

Want to share an opinion? Talk about an experience with a partner? Air some one night stand dirty laundry?  Hit me up at sexonsundays6@gmail.com or Text me @ 415.692.1029

Chapter 15-The Men of 2016: An open letter to JS. I learned a lot. 

Unsent words. Inspired by Jeff Buckley.

A quick run down of the topics I have scheduled for the 2nd season and a quick love shout out to Bridget. 

Oh, also, a mic test to see the quality difference. 

Kick off your 2023 with this (first of many) couples activity, cast a little love spell and sit back and listen to a piece of a letter from Henry to Anais that may or may not deliver a personal message to you. 

Hit me up with your questions or opinions on love, sex and relationship topics or letters and questions to the Love Alkemist - sexonsundays6@gmail.com 

#getnakedaskquestions

I am inviting all feedback, opinions and points of view to share an opposite view and help me understand why you would stay if you are unhappy? 

Let's connect sexonsundays6@gmail.com or text 415.692.1029

This week I voice a few opinions around a couple of topics that most of us feel some way about: Marriage is not a guarantee and the real contract should be between you and your partner, not the government.  I also have a few things to say and offer a check in point around the 'Friend Therapist' to see if you need to establish some boundaries. And I close out with an important IG post from Centered Self Therapy w a suggestion on how to connect in deeper with your partner(s).

This week's Local Owned Business is EARTHEN HAND CERAMICS by MADELINE SANDLER.  Check out her amazing work and if you're feeling inspired, sign up and take a class with her. You can find all the info on her website: 

https://www.earthenhandsceramics.com/

 Got opinions? Are you an expert in something that relationships might benefit from? Come join me for a chat.  Hit me up at sexonsundays6@gmail.com or text me direct on THE LOVE LINE 415.692.1029.

I'm shifting my formatting a bit and will be trying out a new dynamic for the podcast this season. 

Today's episode lets me share my thoughts on using psilocybin in healing therapy and the importance of connecting with healers who are properly trained. If you have any questions or would like to inquire about how it may help you (and your partner) in your relationship(s), please feel free to email me @ sdpsilsociety@gmail.com or text direct @ 415.692.1029

19:30-The difference in dating and a look at balance. 

40:32-The bedroom energy. 

Do you have thoughts on anything I shared today?  Maybe you have a topic you'd love to discuss or something you feel you're an expert in.  Hit me up at sexonsundays6@gmail.com and let's set up some discourse. 

For everyone who was waiting to hear my version of what went down between the two of us from the book...here come those stories.

All names have been changed to protect the sexy, the broken, the innocent and especially the ones who turned out to be the hardest lessons for me. 

You ready to share your swipe right dating disasters and shenanigans?  Was your love story written from Bumble? Did the Tinder date turn into a long term relationship?  I want to hear about it all. 

Send in your story to sexonsundays6@gmail.com 

or hit me up direct @ (415) 692-1029

When was the last time you physically connected with your partner without it evolving into sex? 

Maybe it's time to give it a try. 

Have thoughts on this?  Let's set up some discourse.  Email me at sexonsundays6@gmail.com

After an unexpected (and long) hiatus, I'm back in my recording studio sharing my opinions, thoughts, suggestions and ideas on love, sex, relationships and exercises you can do with your partner(s) to create deeper connections and more intimate bonds. 

As always, I'm looking to advertise for small businesses and local shops - no matter what city you live in. Are you offering a service or product in your area?  Do you or someone you know have an online shop or website I can blast for you?  

Do you want to come share your thoughts, opinions or knowledge on any particular topic? Maybe you want to change my mind on something I've shared or said... 

EMAIL ME @ sexonsundays6@gmail.com or text me direct at 415.692.1029

#getnakedaskquestions

If you're in a relationship, think about your current situation or what has potential to unfold. 

If you're single, consider yourself and how you know you handle things and what, if anything, you'll do different in the future.

Have some thoughts and opinions around this?  Got another topic you want to share your experience in? 

sexonsundays5@gmail.com

Just a quick thought on being in a relationship that is not determined by any title. 

What are your thoughts?   

Have some opinions or experience on something you'd love to share?  Hit me up @ sexonsundays6@gmail.com

I sit down with Dennis and get to hear just a few of his sexy adventures and get to find out a little bit about the life of a swinger.  (you know I'll have to get him (and hopefully his wife) back in to update us all on his sexcapades...)

Shout Out

Cool Creations - A great idea for a first date, an adventure with the kids or a simple creative outlet to express yourself. 

https://www.coolcreationspb.com

I sit down with Ada to talk about hook up culture and the dynamics of dating in this day and age. 

Shout Out

MusiciansClub.com- Open Mics, Community Band, Jam Sessions, Recording Projects...and that's just part of what this amazing organization has for the city's musical creatives!  Check out upcoming events... what a great way to meet people!

I sit down w Danielle to talk about her personal experience with addiction and her journey in her relationships. 

Shout Outs to Local Organizations:

Tritons in Recovery- If anyone on campus is looking for support with substance abuse and/or harmful behavior, please reach out to 

collegiaterecovery@health.ucsd.edu

House of Resilience - A phenomenal organization for housing trans people in San Diego. https://www.facebook.com/houseofresiliencesd/

Amazing Stray Dogs Rescue- Helping stray dogs get rescued and adopted around San Diego and Mexico.  https://www.amazingstraysrescue.org/

Here's the 101 - sorta - on whether someone is good for you.  I consider this pt. 1.  I'll work on adding to this list. 

Got suggestions?  Or feel like revisiting something you've already heard?  Hit me up @ sexonsundays6@gmail.com

1st order of business.... let's replace Dr. Love.  There are so many out there.  I'm going by "the Love Alkemist" until YOU re-identify me.  

Tell me the persona that creates this platform.  The name I decide to go with will ... WIN... something. 

Douchebags in training... are you sure he (my fellow podcaster) is a straight shooter?  Do you want to step into your power or be remembered as an asshole?  'Cause she's gonna write about it in her journal. I promise.

sexonsundays6@gmail.com

Is it possible to love someone unconditionally, be friends with them and connect soulfully on a level without sex?  I say, "absolutely".

Here's a couple thoughts.

Not all relationships are created equal. In this episode, I share a couple thoughts around the idea of a booty call.

When's the last time you hooked up just for the sex of it?

All your relationships are priority. 

Do you practice relationship anarchy?  Are you just realizing it now?  I'm curious to know how this works for you. 

Hit me up sexonsundays6@gmail.com or text direct 619.368.7272

So you think your partner cheated...How do you address it?

This episode kicks off my initial thought and a little soul food for thought for you. 

Let me know what you think.  I'll be following up with Pt. 2 late next month with a full episode and dive deeper into the realms of emotional, physical and mental infidelity. 

Want to join that conversation and discuss pov's? Hit me up or Send your experience or opinions to sexonsundays6@gmail.com

Here's the bridge between a monogamous relationship/marriage and entering into a non-monogamous relationship.  

The question we all should be asking ourselves, "Is monogamy really right for me?" 

Do you practice this lifestyle?  Have experience to share?  Hit me up sexonsundays6@gmail.com 

So you're thinking about entering a FWB relationship....Have you asked yourself the important questions?  Talked to your FRIEND about what this looks like to them?  You MUST define the boundaries before getting naked.  Here are some vital questions to consider. 

Small Local Business Shout Out - Crooks Coffee in Santa Rosa.  Thank you Mrs. Jiggers!  

When's the last time you took a look at the people you involve in your life?  Those who spend time with you and your partner(s)?  Here's the green light to take a few minutes to sit back and give outside relationships some deep inner thought. 

Monogamy and Polyamory are just a couple of options for our intimate relationships these days.

Here's what I'm excited to talk about thru this first sexy season of Sex on Sundays.

And 

Get your stogie on.... I went after a great cigar and found a brand new bean!

Did I miss a relationship?  Let me know what I need to add to the list.  Email me at sexonsundays6@gmail.com

Sunday Jan 2, 2022

Polyamorous relationships are quickly becoming recognized, honored, and respected for the loving, trusting, healthy relationships that they are.  And while they are not right for everyone, the permission of having options to choose poly over monogamy is now a lifestyle any one of us can adopt for ourselves. 

Before I tackle an episode around the details on the types of relationships, the rules that need to be considered, and all the responsibilities that come with multiple partners, I sat down with Mary, who shared her personal experience on her journey. 

Sex on Sundays is taking a look at ALL kinds of relationships and kicking Season 1 off by jumping right in with the personal experience of one woman who rediscovered herself after years of being married and monogamous.

I'll be sharing my opinions on relationships i've been in personally, look at how relationships have changed, get the secret to long distance relationships and find out what it's like to be a swinger; just for starters.  Yes, my lovers,  Season 1 gets emo every way possible. 

Got thoughts?  Want to share your experience?  hit me up sexonsundays6@gmail.com

Podcast practice is officially over...now i really need to get my shit together and figure out how to get organized and professional. 

Kicking off Season 1-Relationships. (Thank you E$, for the great structure idea!)

Challenge:

Very, very slowly, describe your relationship.  I've suggested a couple of aspects to look at but you can take it as deep as you want to dive.  

It may be harder than it sounds, but spend some intentional time today and challenge yourself with describing your relationship.

Got something you want to say about sex?  Opinions on relationships and all the stuff that comes with them?  Wanna get some opinions or advice on something you're going thru right now?  Hit me up @ sexonsundays6@gmail.com 

Are you happy?  (Did 2020 fuck you up a little?)

Step back to bring it into focus.  It's time to get some clarity around who YOU are and the relationship you're in. 

That's all the advice you need.

Or is it? This is the first episode of many to come where I share my opinion around all the posts I've saved on my IG.

While I'm no longer active on social media, I was able to set aside posts that I found thought worthy over the years.  

If you have any opinions here, hit me up @ sexonsundays6@gmail.com