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Pursuing Me with Shakirah Forde

Pursuing Me with Shakirah Forde

By Shakirah Forde

Welcome to ”Pursuing Me,” a transformative podcast that dares to explore the captivating journey of self-discovery. This captivating podcast invites you to embark on a deliberate and purposeful quest to uncover your truest self.

Join us as we navigate a range of topics, including mindfulness, personal growth, emotional intelligence, and self-compassion. From uncovering hidden passions and overcoming self-limiting beliefs to cultivating meaningful relationships and finding balance in our hectic lives, ”Pursuing Me” guides you through the twists and turns of self-exploration.
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Alignment = Happiness

Pursuing Me with Shakirah Forde Jul 19, 2023

How I learned to stop caring

How I learned to stop caring


Show Notes:

  • Brief overview of the significance of liberating oneself from others' opinions.
  • Personal anecdotes illustrating the struggles with caring too much about other people's perspectives.
  • The objective of exploring and discussing practical insights, advice, and techniques to break free from the influence of external judgments.
  • Exploration of the evolutionary and psychological roots of why humans care about what others think.
  • Discussion on social acceptance, belonging, fear of ostracism, and societal pressures.
  • Impact of cultural norms and social media on our perception and self-worth.
  • Sharing moments and events leading to the realization of the need for change and self-acceptance.
  • Emphasis on the importance of internal validation over external approval.
  • Practical steps and daily habits for fostering self-confidence and a strong sense of self.
  • The role of mindfulness, meditation, and self-reflection in reducing anxiety and changing thought patterns related to others’ opinions.
  • Experiences and impacts of living more authentically on well-being.
  • Exploration of the deep connection between authenticity and happiness.
  • Contact information for further interaction, advice, and support.

In this episode, we delve deep into the journey of liberating oneself from the fear of others' opinions, exploring the psychological and evolutionary origins, the turning points that inspire change, and practical strategies for living more authentically. Through personal anecdotes and expert insights, this episode aims to inspire and empower listeners to embrace their true selves and find happiness and fulfillment in authenticity.

Oct 02, 202322:33
The Jealous Boyfriend
Sep 12, 202312:55
Who am I ?

Who am I ?

Episode Description

In today’s episode, we embark on a transformative journey exploring self-awareness. Why is it so important to know who you are? What barriers stand in the way of self-discovery? How do consciousness and subconsciousness play into it? By the end, you’ll have practical tools and exercises to help you dig deeper into your own self-awareness journey.

  1. Importance of Self-Awareness: Definition and its role in personal growth and relationships.

  2. Barriers to Self-Awareness: Social conditioning, fear of facing the truth, emotional defensiveness, and lack of introspective tools.

  3. Consciousness and Subconsciousness: Their roles and interactions in shaping self-awareness.

  4. Practical Tools: Journal prompts and mindfulness exercises to aid in your journey to self-awareness.

  • One Actionable Task: Pick one journal prompt and one mindfulness exercise from the episode and commit to practicing them over the next week.
  • Topic: The Art of Effective Communication
  • Special Guest: Dr. Jane Smith, a renowned psychologist and communication expert

Thank you for tuning in! If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, and share. Your support helps us reach more people and make a bigger impact. Until next time, take care and stay curious.

Recommended Books:

  • "The Untethered Soul" by Michael A. Singer
  • "Daring Greatly" by Brené Brown
  • "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl

Sep 04, 202324:45
Letting Go of Friends

Letting Go of Friends

Episode Summary:

In this episode, we explore the often overlooked beauty of impermanence in friendships. We talk about the varying dynamics that friendships can undergo, how to recognize when it’s time to let go, and the positives that emerge from doing so. Join us as we dive into the nuances of our relationships and how they contribute to our growth and self-understanding.

Key Takeaways:

  1. Impermanence is a Natural Aspect of Life:

    • Friendships can go through phases, and that's perfectly normal.
  2. Recognizing When to Let Go:

    • Evaluating a friendship is crucial for both parties involved. Are you growing together or growing apart?
  3. Amicable Separation:

    • It’s possible to end a friendship with understanding, clarity, and even gratitude for the moments shared.
  4. Personal Growth:

    • The end of a friendship can lead to individual growth, freedom from constraints, and the opportunity for new connections.
Aug 27, 202317:03


1. Defining Boundaries:

  • Unraveling what boundaries mean in a holistic sense.
  • Categorizing boundaries: Physical vs. Emotional vs. Mental.

2. Why Boundaries are Essential:

  • The role of boundaries in safeguarding mental health and emotional well-being.
  • How boundaries carve out space for personal growth and self-discovery.
  • Strengthening relationships through clear and respectful boundaries.

3. Debunking Myths: Common Misconceptions about Boundaries:

  • Are boundaries a sign of selfishness? Unraveling the truth.
  • Addressing the idea of boundaries as rigid constructs.
  • Exploring the fear: Will setting boundaries alienate loved ones?

4. Red Flags and Alarms: The Signs of Poor Boundaries:

  • Recognizing when we're overcommitting and its consequences.
  • The silent toll: How resentment and burnout creep in.
  • The relationship domino effect: Conflicts and misunderstandings.
  • The danger of sidelining personal needs.

5. Blueprint for Balance: How to Set Boundaries:

  • Cultivating self-awareness to understand personal limits.
  • The art of communicating boundaries: Clarity combined with kindness.
  • The importance of consistency in boundary-setting and maintenance.

6. Essential Reads: Top Books to Help Set and Manage Boundaries:

  • Highlighting key reads, including works by Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend, Anne Katherine, M.A., Randy J. Paterson, Dr. Brené Brown, and Tara Brach.
Aug 13, 202322:54
Leaning into Selfishness: Embracing Self-fullness

Leaning into Selfishness: Embracing Self-fullness

Episode Overview:

In this episode, we delve into the concept of 'self-fullness' - a healthier, empowering perspective on prioritizing your own needs and wellbeing. We aim to challenge societal notions about selfishness, propose ways to balance self-care with caring for others, and offer steps to practice 'self-fullness.'

Episode Highlights:

  1. Introduction & Background: Unpacking societal perspectives of selfishness and introducing the concept of 'self-fullness'

  2. Redefining Selfishness: Discussion on 'self-fullness,' the importance of prioritizing your needs, and distinguishing between being selfish and self-full

  3. Embracing 'Self-fullness': Practical steps to embrace 'self-fullness,' including recognizing your needs, learning to say no, and making time for self-care

  4. Conclusion: Encouraging listeners to take the first step towards 'self-fullness,' thanking listeners for their support, and announcing the next episode's topic

Key Quotes:

  • "Being 'self-full' means recognizing that you are just as deserving of care, kindness, and understanding as anyone else."
  • "Prioritizing your needs isn't just about feeling better in the short-term, it's about long-term health and happiness."
  • "By saying no when you need to, you're showing respect for yourself and your own limits."

I practice Self-fullness daily with my 90-min evening routine that you can check out here :

Aug 05, 202313:56


Show Notes

Part 1: Understanding the Rising Trend of Burnout

Part 2: Unraveling the Impact of Burnout

Part 3: Recognizing Burnout in Ourselves and Others

Part 4: Strategies to Combat Burnout

Signs and Symptoms of Burnout

  1. Physical Symptoms:Chronic fatigue and low energy levels, even after adequate rest. Frequent headaches, muscle tension, or other physical complaints. Changes in sleep patterns, such as insomnia or oversleeping. Weakened immune system, leading to frequent illnesses.
  2. Emotional Symptoms:Feeling overwhelmed and emotionally drained most of the time. Increased irritability and impatience with colleagues, friends, or family. Persistent feelings of sadness, anxiety, or hopelessness. Loss of motivation and a sense of detachment from work and responsibilities.
  3. Cognitive Symptoms:Reduced concentration and difficulty focusing on tasks. Memory problems and forgetfulness. Decreased creativity and problem-solving skills. Negative and cynical thoughts about work and life.
  4. Behavioral Symptoms:Withdrawal from social interactions and reduced engagement with others. Procrastination and avoidance of tasks. Increased reliance on unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as excessive alcohol or drug use. Neglecting personal care and hygiene.

Jul 30, 202317:45
Feeling are neither good nor bad

Feeling are neither good nor bad

This episode helps to shift our mindset around emotions by understanding what they are, their true purpose and ways to improve comfort with "Negative" emotions.

Show Notes:

Understanding Emotions

Feelings are an intrinsic aspect of the human experience. It shapes the way we perceive and interact with the world around us.

Feelings are not random or meaningless occurrences

Challenging the Good vs. Bad Dichotomy

Labeling emotions as "bad" can lead people to suppress or deny these feelings, self-judgment, poor relationships, and recurring pain.

Learning from "Negative" Feelings

Honoring, processing, and sharing our emotions can lead to personal development, emotional stability, and healthier relationships4 practical strategies for processing and learning from emotion

Learn 4 practical strategies for processing and learning from emotions

Jul 23, 202317:10
Soul Aligning Journal Prompts

Soul Aligning Journal Prompts

Bonus episode to reinforce Episode 3n " Alignment = Happiness". This episode provides 11 journal prompts that will help you to identify who you really are, what you desire and what you may need to let go of.

Jul 19, 202303:10
Alignment = Happiness

Alignment = Happiness

Show Notes

Defining Spiritual Alignment

"Spiritual Alignment is the recognition of a true self and the pursuit of behaving in ways that reflect your souls your higher purpose."

Understanding Happiness

What happens when we are not aligned

How do you create alignment

Personal Experience with alignment

Signs your are aligning yourself

Here are 5 signs that you are aligning with your true self

  1. You see things on a deeper and more selfless level
  2. You start to feel different from others and may experience a sense of alienation.
  3. You love yourself and others more genuinely
  4. You feel more connected to nature
  5. You notice an influx in synchronicities

Jul 19, 202318:39
Recurring Pain

Recurring Pain

Does it feel like no matter how hard you try to make changes in your life, you find yourself in the same type fo relationships or feeling the same dissatisfaction no matter the job. In this week's episode we explore why we experience recurring pain and how to stop the cycle.

Jul 03, 202318:51
Love and Acceptance

Love and Acceptance

In our launch episode, I explore what love is, what its not and why it can not exist without acceptance. I define what acceptance is and give tips and tools to cultivate more meaningful, loving and long lasting relationships.

Jun 20, 202311:57