The Coaches Way With S & J
By Shahab Nilgiri
The Coaches Way With S & JSep 17, 2018
Ep 19: NLP 6 Step Reframe System
NLP is a great way to instill more positive change within your life, in various areas.
One of the ways is the 6 step re-frame.
What I love about this episode, is that it's great for your car ride if you want to listen to something informative, inspirational, and practical. It's just under 20 minutes, and we list out all 6 steps.
1st step starts at 3:12, then we go into detail for everything else
A list of the 6 steps.
1. What do you want?
2. What behaviour is getting in the way of what you actually want?
3. What is the positive intention behind that behaviour? (the one that's getting in the way)
4. What are 3 other behaviours that would accomplish that positive intention from the previous question??
5. Are you willing to take these new actions instead of your previous behaviour routine?
6. Is there any part of you that would object to taking these actions??
Ep 18: Confidence Building For Building The The Best You
Confidence is a big thing, especially in todays crazy world.
So what do you do?? How do you build it? Is there ONE magic thing you can do, and it automatically comes?
But we talk about habits, action steps, state of mind, and al things that have a part to play in you becoming a BETTER you.
:25 - Radio Maria
3:00 - Confidence for men and women
3:20 - MoMonday (motivational mondays)
5:07 - What does confidence mean to you? What it means to me.
6:45 - Jon’s take on confidence
7:25 - My MoMonday talk topic on having fun, despite of fear being present
10:25 - Jon’s NLP talk
11:40 - Small steps, for example - doing video is scary, but it’s a small step in the right direction.
12:50 - Pitfall feeling in stomach
16:00 - The more you do something, the more you realize that the earth is still spinning, there are worst care scenarios. Your confidence is more a state of mind, and everything around you is still going on, it’s still happening.
19:00 - Situations that bring you down. Each different situation requires the same approach mentally, BUT require different action steps.
25:15 - Asking what you think of when you hear the term Alpha Male. Negative connotations.
28:10 Confidence in general, but other areas may be iffy. - Connect with the internal stream, and let out the joy.
32:45 - Liquid Courage
37:30 - Ask yourself are all areas of life where they want them to be.
Ep 17: Male & Female Energies, & How We Intertwine The Two
Jon & I dive into the concept of male and female energies. We all have the, but we just use them at different times depending on the situation.
There might have been times where you've been more aggressive than your partner, or you've been more calmer.
There may have been times where you've had this great vision, and you followed through no matter what.
These are all examples of the different energies at play.
I'll leave them time stamps here.
If you have resonated with some of the things said, then please share this with the people you know :)
P.S. There were some technical difficulties, but it was all good!
:53 - What do people think when they hear masculine and feminine energy
3:35 - What’s your balance??
4:42 - Masculine energy - what is it?
6:15 - Female energy
8 - Back to balance
15 - Mine and Jon’s side
16 - Not a matter of “having” it, but it’s just
using it, and when you use it
18 - Self audit
20 - Partners wanting a certain “energy” to come out a bit more
29 - Got both energies, here’s how you know
Ep 16: We Talking SPACE!
Jon and I go into SPACE BABY!
True, we don't directly talk about coaching, but it does have it's part to play within the whole space realm, and you'll see that within the podcast.
With TRILLIONS of stars and what not, space is huge, like absolutely huge. it's no wonder that your head might hurt if you start thinking about it too much!
Have a listen, and enjoy getting lost in thought :)
2:00 - Space, and the existential properties of it. It’s vastness, and what it means to you.
3:40 - We are small, literally
6:15 - Hubble poignant that telescope
9:00 - Our galaxy alone - 20 billion
11:35 - Picture this in your head
16:00 - Blow someones mind
21: You choose what you believe in
Ep 15: Finding Equilibrium/Balance In Life
With so many things pulling us in different directions daily, how do you decide which to give most of your attention to? How do you divide the time and energy??
Jon and I dive into this thought provoking question, and help you on your road to answering it for yourself.
Even thought all of our directions are different, we can still use the magic of finding some sense of balance, some sense of equilibrium.
1:00 - Jamaica / Equilibrium using trips as reset
5:00 - Away from social media
8:30 - Balance, and all it's different aspects
14:00 - The life boundaries - Work/life balance
22:00 - Taking audit of if you're out of equilibrium/ emotions
26:00 - Mini tasks/ Mini audit
32:50 - Blind spots
Here is a link to take a equilibrium quiz, courtesy of Tony Robbins. It will give you a score based upon your answers, and you'll find out what areas you might have to pay more/less attention to.
Have a listen, like, share, and comment! :) We love the feedback.
Ep 14: Spiral Dynamics - Which Colour Are You??
You can check out Jon's blog post about spiral dynamics here:
Basically put, SD is the study of understanding human nature. There are many models, this just happens to be one of them.
There are 7-8 different levels, and each one falls under a category of traits.
I've listed the colours in the timestamps below.
This is interesting, because in your life and the many relationships that play a role, each one of you is a different "colour".
How you interact with one another depends on what your "colour" is.
Have a listen, enjoy, and share with people who you know will get use out of this!
3:00 - Model of how to understand human behaviour
4:40 - Different colours/levels
6:05 - First Level
8:40 - Second level
10:15 - Red
15:50 - Blue
21:20 - Orange
27:30 - Jon makes fun of my for taking 2-3 minute showers
29:35 - Green
33:20 - Yellow
Ep 13: Take Control Of Your Thoughts Ft. Tedx Speaker Anthony Cheam
This one's a beauty.
Anthony and I dive deep into your thought patterns, how it actually affects your day to day, and what you can do to BREAK the pattern if it doesn't serve you.
At the end of the day, if it doesn't serve us, then why have it as part of our routine?
For example. We briefly mention about looking at your phone the first thing in the morning. What if we were to ask, why?
-We speak about meditations, and how you can apply that in different ways.
-We speak about the importance of starting your day off right. Have a morning routine, and set your physiology up for a winning day.
-We talk about living our your purpose, finding out what drives you.
-We speak about your energy, taking care of your body. Without health, there is nothing
-Having a conversation with your ego. If you sit back and actually have a conversation with it, you'll find out how odd it sounds.
-Many more things!
Have a listen!
Share, comment, and spread the love!
You can check out Anthony's website here:
Episode 12: New Years Resolutions. Are You Making/Keeping Them The Right Way?
Right off the bat, we know that you don't HAVE to wait until this time to year to come up with resolutions.
Btw, I'll put in the timestamps when my loud and hearty laugh happens, just incase you just want to listen to that... Lol
We look into different things....
-What makes a good resolution
-Why people stick with it, or fall off
-How you should go about creating these resolutions
-Doing a self audit
-The mind, and it's part to play in your world
That being said, we know you'll enjoy the podcast and it'll change your perspective on this whole new years resolutions extravaganza.
Visit madmindcoaching.com for your free e-book, and blogs about life topics that you may have thought about, or been curious about.
:50 - Don’t have to wait until New Years
1:20 - Resolution you can stick with
4:20 - Addressing something in life that I wanna change, how do I go about doing that??
8:24 - My crazy laugh / audit of your life
11:10 - Make your mind your b****
12:00 Affirmations / cue cards
16:00 - LOF - Does it work?? (Law of attraction)
20:00 - Going over a resolution / barriers we put up/ self sabotage
30:00- Intentions / trust / weather. Are you going to let it get to you?
32:20 - Eat your feelings / Mindset/ LAUGH!! :)
40:00- There’s no way around it, it’s hard work and dedication.
Sometimes it’s not fair - the way things work.
45:00 - When you start to eat right, and have good gut bacteria, your body reacts differently to other foods you haven’t had in a while (pasta, subway, fast food, etc…)
Change your normal, to feeling optimal. And this goes for life goals as well. You should feel great about your body, mind, life, soul.
48:10 - Kraft dinner. We all have our moments. Melissa getting cinnamon rolls.
50:00 - Podcast cut off, and we started up again!
When we have days where we feel “off”, then that’s okay. No one is going to feel great all the time, but it’s about the overall.
Well aligned with what you want.
Congruent with your value system.
54: - Doubling financial income
People not appreciating where you’ve gone in your life, or where you’re going.
59:50 - Jon totally spacing out towards the end. Listen to this, cuz it’s unexpected, and I laugh like crazy.
Ep 11: Anxiety In It's Different Forms. How Do You Best Deal With It?
Jon and I go into the possible reasons as to
-why one may go through anxious periods
-your language behind the anxiety
-the stories that you are accustomed to, that may cause/lessen anxiety
-your words, emotions, and how they tie in together
-why being on the "go" isn't always the answer
-living within a certain environment
If any of these ring some kind of a bell, then you might get some helpful insights from this episode.
For more information on topics pertaining to confidence, habits, exercise, and life, visit our websites.
0-3 min - Toastmasters
5:15 - Let the thoughts be. The most you try to fight it, the more power it gets
7:00 - Getting situationally depressed
8:10 - Putting words to emotion, and that becomes how we project ourselves to the world
16:45 - Anxious about everything. What are the options? Write things down, get a therapist (to help with past), get a coach (to help you moving forward), embrace current situation
22:00 - “Have” implying that your anxiety is you, and this is who you are. Which then also implies that you need to get RID of it.
You want these emotions to come through when it’s acceptable.
What if fear left? We just want to replace them with something better. There’s a time and place for different emotions.
29:00 - Living within an environment that’s not 100% positive. Changing the frame.
34:00 - Stressful situations. The possible solutions
44:20 - People always constantly on the go to almost distract themselves from whatever is going on currently
Social media scrolling - Not always the full picture
Ep 10: Vulnerability In Relationships / Physiology Of Stress
Then we actually go into being vulnerable, vulnerability in relationships, and how it's NOT a sign of weakness to show it!
So... We discuss a few things in this one :)
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Ep 9: What Drives People To Change? What Drives YOU?
Both of us have had our bouts with change, we will continue to have to face changes in the future.
Everyone can listen in and take something out of this podcast!
:45 strong stimulus
8:10 - Going through some pain now, so you can reap the benefit of becoming that better version of yourself
10:40- What else will stimulate you for change?
13:00- Self sabotage
14:05- My personal story of change
19:35 - Listening to yourself, you learn more / Jons story
28:00- Actually going through with change
34:00- Leverage mindset
41:00- Is your life, and your wants congruent with each other?
46:00 Inner changes
48:10 Dickens pattern
Ep 8: Need For Certainty, And Why It Can Make You, Or Break You Ft Jon Thomas
:35 - slight annoyance, but not a big deal
1:22 - bigger scale, uncertainty
3:50 uncertainty in relationships - response
5:30 - base amount of control
9:15 uncertainty in your finances
12:10 Cigarettes - another certainty tool
16:30 - Religion for certainty, but the other side of it too
20:39 - External sources for certainty (smoke, drink, etc…)
26:00 - Deep breathing
32:00 - Certainty/Uncertainty in relationships
44:00 - Don’t be that guy who thinks he knows everything
Please comment and share if this has given you value :)
Ep 7: Meditation, And Why You Should Consider It
Ep 6: Perfectionism, And How To Deal With It
But is it an advantage to you, or is it becoming detrimental?
Jon and I dive into what perfectionism is, our own experiences with it, and how stepping back a bit can help you get to the things you want.
Both Jon and I have had that "perfect" image in our minds when it came to our bodies, until we all of a sudden realized, why stress so much about this? Why not just do the best you can, and keep going about it that way?
We hope you enjoy listening in, whether it be in the car, or at home while cleaning up the kitchen.
Episode 5: NLP, Mindset Despite Negativity, Ways Of Coaching
We also go over having a type of mindset that helps you do the things that your environment doesn't necessarily see as "safe" (like starting a business)
There is also discussion on ways of coaching other than NLP, and the benefits of it, and how even the most successful people in the world have coaches, and for a good reason too.
Ep 4: Dealing w/ Back 2 School Stress w/ Jon Thomas
We talk about mindset, keeping it simple, your ultimate reason, and strategies to sneak in activity while your with your kids, or on your own.
Don't let your circumstances define how you will live day to day.
Hope you enjoy the listen!
We go through a recap at the 26:52 minute mark.
Sherapy With Shahab Episide 3: Conditions vs Decisions
This knowledge is thanks to my coaching program that I've joined for my personal development - The Healthy Wealthy and Wise coaching program.
For more info, visit Wealthitforward.com
In this episode, I go over 4 of the questions you need to ask yourself when it comes to making a decision. This goes for any situation.
-Who would you like to be?
-How would you like to respond?
-How would you like to feel?
-What would you like to do?
I go over how these conditions effect your mind.
Leave a comment, a like, or a share if any of the points resonated with you.