Nobody Talks Shidduchim

100: Our Very Last Show - The End Part 2 - Everybody Talks Jewish Matchmaking

Nobody Talks Shidduchim Podcast (2019 - 2023)

Thank you to our amazing listeners!

IJ (Izak) and Avery (Avigdor) retire after 4 years. They discuss Netflix's Jewish Matchmaking. It’s a big one folks! Izak and Avigdor pull down the curtain, it’s not goodbye son, it’s I’ll see ya later.
1) Avigdor Wolf as Avery
2) Shevi Lipschitz as Rosie
3) Fagie Strom as Paige
4) Avromi Meyer as Rabbi AY
5) Yona & Chani Laster as The Lasters

6) Ahuva Shandelman as Holy Shid

7) Izak J. Held as IJ

Guest Cast:
1) Yona Laster
2) Chani Laster
3) Devora Kahan aka Miss D
4) Shevi Lipschitz
5) Faige Strom
6) Avromi Meyer
7) Rachel Vaynberg
8) Holy Shid aka Ahuva Shandelman
9) Cousin Malc aka Michael Max
10) Serena aka Rikki Yarmish
11) Alexis aka Blimi
12) Tamar
13) Lakewood Michal
14) Lakewood Tami
15) Felix
16) Shlomo from Nashville

17) Missy aka Samantha

18) Emm aka Malya

19) JoJo aka Isaac Nahon

20) Yosef Feldman

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Ever have a role model growing up? We all look to someone as a person that we can strive to be. In high school it may be the senior when you are a freshman. In camp it may be your counselor when you are a camper. Or in yeshiva it could be a Morah or Rabbi of yours. In this episode we discuss role models, and what they mean to you and your life. Paige and Nechama join IJ in this episode.

1) What is a role model?

2) Can siblings be a role model?

3) Are we dealing with a generation that was raised to resent their role models?

4) Jewish versus non-Jewish role models

5) When role models "go off the rails" what to do?

94 - Bachelor Party Bitachon

So the main man is getting married and it’s happening, the big wedding day that everyone’s excited about. But now it’s time to throw the bachelor party. What can you do as an Orthodox Jew doing a bachelor party? Are there limits to the fun you can have? What is a Jewish bachelor party like? Yosef, Eliyahu & Shua/Jared join IJ in this episode.


1) when you’re younger, everyone comes to the bachelor party, when you’re older, it’s a different story
2) Here’s why you want rich friends
3) Do all guys just go to the steakhouse and then the Cigar Lounge?
4) Is the bride allowed at the bachelor party?
5) Is a bachelorette party a thing in the Jewish community?
6) What if there’s beef between some of the groomsmen?
7) I know what if certain guys can’t pay or afford to chip in to cover the group?
8) What if it’s one of these three day luxurious trips?
9) Ranking shidduch dates from Michigan, Maryland, Florida, California, Minnesota, Illinois & Israel

Enter The Meta-Shidduch-Verse: What It Was Like To Be Married For The Day

THE SHIDDUCHVERSE aka Multiverse: IJ and Avery enter the meta-verse...After opening up a magical box of Latkes on Chanukah... In the universe of Westeros IJ and Avery have different lives. In this alternative reality IJ is a stay at home Dad (with a cool haircut home biz), married to a beautiful women he met on his 5th shidduch date experience. His wife Darla, actually joins the podcast to preach her Shidduch take. Avery is a comedic writing tycoon, married to Olga, a rich Russian Oligarch's daughter, attorney and currently spends his fat alimony checks (from his first wife) on lucrative neighborhood tennis matches.

They decide that it's time for them to get into the podcast game. Here's what that world looks like...

1) What's wrong with these single people?

2) Here's why they are getting it wrong...

3) Why do they think they can hang out with us and our married friends...echh gross

4) Here is a list of Shadchanit's they need to listen too

5) Dvar Torah

6) Our interview with a shadchan (they know what their doing)

7) AI DATING (Artificial intelligence dating)

Izak and Malky follow up from episode 5, they discuss the full process of actually planning a date. Though, this time it's magical and it's exactly how the ladies would like it to be :). Izak also wears a wicked cool Chanukah sweater.

1) What is the best first date place?
2) Where do you go for the second?
After going to a Lounge for the first date, what place is best to go  to for a second date?
A) Lounge (again?)
B) A Lite Dairy Restaurant (too soon to be eating?)
C) Activity (you don’t really know them yet!
When can you just give up on going out and just hang out with each other… Basically becoming an official couple
3) What would the perfect conversation be like?
4) Where she lives debate…can you date near her town??
5) The spots you just don’t want to go go
6) Can the girl just meet you half way?
7) Can you do an action first date
8) Making reservations, what is the girls take on whether a guy calls up in advance about a reservation or not? Precocious of him?
9) girls Having to have backup plans just in case the guy goofs or something unplanned happens. Precarious of him?

#dating #jewish #chanukah #hanukkah #weddings 

91: Tales of the Shidduch Journeywoman

What is a Journeywoman? A woman who is an experienced and competent professional in her field but doesn't yet have that "trophy boyfriend or husband" to show off! So we have heard from the journeymen; now we are spotlighting the journeywomen, well one woman and that's Rivka who tells us what's going on with the Shidduch Journeywoman's life.

1. Figuring out the uncle and aunt life
2. What are niblings?
3. Continued discussion on long distance dating challenges
4. The time zone tobbacle!
5. Getting catfished
6. When you have to move away after you get married
7. Culture changes when you're in a relationship
8. When you can say "but my rabbi said"
9. How not to rely on friend setups!!

90 - Long Distance Dating and Reflecting On That Whole Zoom Thing

We continue the long-distance convo from episode 72. Long-distance can be quite the challenge for many couples but it could also provide a very unique and special experience. There’s a plethora of awesomeness and problems that can take place during a long distance relationship. Are you one of those who this has happened to? Izak is joined by Rivka and Rabbi AY to opine.


1) Does long-distance really work?
2) Did zooming during COVID count as long distance?
3) People are so busy today. It’s like all dating is  long distance.
4) Making sure they are a real person and not a cat fish!
5) What if both parties struggle with moving away from where they are?
6) Is face timing a substitute for in person dating?
7) How come small minded people roll their eyes when you tell people that you met and are together primarily online
8) Ideas for facetime Dates! Like actually doing something
9) Taking long-distance breaks
10) Getting over regrets

#jewish #dating #aka #shidduchim #app #shidduch #shadchan #lakewood #sheitals #podcast #shabbos #simchas #weddings #jewishlife #modestfashion #jewishfashion #shabbos #kosher

89: How I Met Your Therapist (ft. Ahuva Shandelman a.k.a. Holy Shid)

Ever wonder how orthodox Jewish women become dating coaches or therapists? in this episode, we discuss with dating expert Ahuva Shandelman LCSW how she got to where she is today. The gang also discusses the continuous tales of the Shidduch journey-person.

Dating specialists tales:
1) How the whole social work thing caught on
2) Going to a male therapist vs a female therapist
3) Jewish vs. nonJewish therapist
4) How you get into being a “Shidduch/dating expert”
5) How you relate your experience to those who have dating struggles
6) Commonalities of struggling daters
7) Parent care taker situation

#jewish #dating #aka #shidduchim #dating #app #shidduch #shadchan #lakewood #girls #weddings

88: There’s nothing wrong with you because you are single (ft. Jackie Glaser) 

In a world with so much stereotyping of orthodox Jewish singles, Jackie Glaser brings a fresh perspective On the fact that there really isn’t anything wrong with you. Dating is mostly a struggle for frum Singles, here are some ways you can alleviate your dating experience and break through preconceived notions when trying to affiliate yourself with the Jewish community and your dates. 

1) Baruch Hashem Syndrome!!
2a) Is there really nothing wrong with someone when they are single? Clearly women or men are not finding this person attractive or viable, tell us more
2b) Singles see the problems with many current married people & there just may not be any realistic role models
3) Crap Testing Singles!! Jackie's Adam Neumann Story
4) What do you do with your position in the Jewish community, do you move on and look for other things or do you stay and fight back the stereotype?
5) Is there really something wrong with Singles or is it that there’s actually nowhere to find Singles? (& mature singles [Avery explains])
6) what are your singles saying about the Shidduch scene and their struggles?
7) Burn out is very real, keeping up at work, keeping up with yourself, salvaging your friends and family relationships, why are so many women closed off to trying? Why are so many men looking for the quick fix?
8) we noticed a lot of mental health advocacy like meditation and other tools for this genre, is it becoming more popular? Or is it the only answer?
9) How do you actually get more relaxed on dates? CBD, cigarette break? jump in on a Netflix and ice cream binge?
10) The trend of being a people pleaser, so many young girls are pressured by matchmakers to just be a people pleaser but in the world of today like social media and people’s voices to be heard perhaps it’s not the best thing. Also I learned in my pick up class that it is actually good to not always please & not always get excited about every single interest that your date may have…

Ep 87 Brachos and Segulas: Are they hocus pocus or will it get you married?
In this episode IJ & Avery discuss the concept of brachos & segulas people receive regarding be marrige.

1. What are the brachos & seuglas people refer to you need before marrige?
2. Mazal
3. Do the rabbinim really have any insight in to whom you will get married to?
4. Are kabbalists more accurate when predicting who you'll marry?
5. If their brachos don't work what next?
6. Should we stop giving money to these people who are giving us false blessings.
7. How to detect which rabbanim to trust when it comes to asking for a bracha.
8. Is the psychology of blessings the real reason they "work" for some, meaning; you manifest what you believe in.
9. Going to kevarim, repealing ayin haras,, bashert and all other spiritual quest. Do they work?
10. Diff between short term and long term segulas (ex of long term: (shir hashirim, nishmat kol chai, and going to the kotel (all for40 days in a row)
11. This is a sub topic but along the lines of segulas I think one of the main reasons people do them is out of desperation and I’ve been suggested some shadchanim that really take advantage of that and charge ridicuuuuulousssss fees

Ep 86: Zodiac Signs, Names & The Unknown

Even in Game of Thrones there was the religious, spooky and unknown factors out there in that universe. Here on NTS we believe that there are other things that could cause and effect shidduch dating. IJ, Avery & Cousin Malcolm opine…
1) Zodiac Signs Intro
2) Zodiac Signs: is it real that some zodiacs cannot be with others?
3) Also, why are gals so obsessed with this stuff?
4) Is it true that Names have to match up in order to be together?
5) What is the Torah's perspective on Zodiac Signs (Cousin Malcolm jives in)
6) Avery and IJ's Zodiac signs, and everybody else's
7) Avery discusses his books and their lessons
8) Most common Jewish names:
9) avi, ari, malky, shimi, yaakov, yitz, moshe, etc...
10) What do these names mean?

85 - Hobbies, Social Clubs & Going Home for the Chagim
When you are not working or with the friends/family, orthodox jewish singles have a unique opportunity, this is; to explore new things and new social groups. After that Paige & the NTS guys discuss more on the single life coterie.

1) Escaping too much family time during yuntif!
2) What kinds of social clubs are out there for singles?
3) Pickle ball, improv, hookah lounges, comedy clubs, etc...
4) How to handle going back home for the chagim and discussing it
5) Men going to shul and women going to tehillim groups
6) How to tell a shadchan that you have a social club
7) Whether or not to tell a shul goer (parishioner) in your old community about your new endeavors

#jewish #dating #aka #shidduchim #dating #app #shidduch #shadchan #mazaltov #lakewood #monsey #5towns

A work life balance is certainly something we all strive for. Is it truly feasible while living in Orthodox Jewish life? In this episode we bring on corporate employees who try to make best of their Jewish life and work life balance. Our grandparents had to give it up if they had to work for Shabbos, are we any different?

1) What is a corporate place? (Everyone defines)
2) tell us about the schedule for a person who wants to make it in a corporate setting
3) What kind of education do they have to have, can they go to Yeshiva University, Landers College For Men/Women, Touro University?
4) Is getting home for Shabbat really tough on those early fridays?
5) Can you take Off for a Jewish holidays or are you really taking off and making up the time?
6) Do you go to the companywide Christmas party? I heard it’s really fun!
7) shabbat and chag:
-telling employer/teams/clients
-setting boundaries: leaving early and not responding to messages
-situations where jobs require work on weekends
-when holidays fall out during busy times

Ever notice that you enjoy the power of the swipe more than the dating itself? Maybe it's the rush or maybe you just haven't found Mr. or Mrs. Perfect yet. Sarah Haskell (Tiktok content creator as That Relatable Jew) joins Avery and IJ to discuss serial shidduch daters, shidduchim and the dating life as an orthodox Jewish twenties & thirties year old.

1) Can the girls define a serial shidduch dater? Can the boys?

2) Is serial shidduch dating some kind of addiction?

3) How hard it is to actually sort through the shuffle...

4) Is it easier for a guy or a girl to be the shidduch dater?

5) Why would you give a chance to a serial dater?

6) Why do girls love serial male daters!!

7) Why is it a stereotype that guys don't actually like gal serial daters?

8) TikTok and social medias role in the dating universe!

Ever think that there should be more shidduch shabbatons out there? We agree. Izak record's this episode with Isaac and Devora from Build A Bayis Inc., a shidduch events & shabbaton organization that looks to keep singles “busy” all the time.

1) What is a Shabbaton?
2) Why is speed dating so darn popular!
3) Walk us through the planning details!
4) Age parameters
5) Vetting
6) Hashkafa
7) Why is pricing so high? Or so cheap?
8) Tell us about the shabbatons you hosted!
9) Why aren’t there more shidduch events and shabbatons!?
10) Does a shadchan have to partake in order for this to happen?
11) How do you convince the frugal to give you a chance as well as the lavish party people out there?
12) Can you ask the guy/gal out right there?
13) Why does feedback take so long!

Episode 81: Food, Family & Guilt
The Role of Food in the Jewish Community with Chef Mendy Wolf. HBO’s Sopranos was a phenomenal depiction of Italian life in America. Perhaps the most relatable aspect of the show was its depiction of all things food, eating & solid cuisine. What is the role of food in the Jewish community, does it mean more to our community than others?

1) Diffrent kosher cuisines
2) Toughest parts about keeping kosher
3) What kinds of kosher keeping is there?
4) the private chef life and what it’s all about
5) Is a healthy kosher lifestyle attainable?
6) Why is it stereotypical for only women to be able to cook or have to cook!?
7) The rise of kosher taste is up! What do we do about it?
8) Inflation is here! How to budget and get the best bang for your grocery shopping
9) why is every Jewish single either a professional and a cook or a DJ? Or girl is a fashion influencer?
10) Is food a placebo for intimacy, partying or other vices?

In this episode NTS crew discusses how the "extra curriculars" helped or didn’t help daters in their shidduch journey. Growing up in the Jewish community, we are raised young to commit to duty, family and community. The propensity for young jewish people to be involved in the jewish community is ramped. There are hundreds of organizations that we get involved in. Looking back did it help? Was it worth it? We discuss.

Jared and Yosef join us!

1) Let's discuss the organizations we spent time in
2) Does everyone do it to find a shidduch!!
3) Was it real or was it a resume filler?
4) Some looking back nostalgia on these programs
5) Being branded as an "NCSY" guy or a "Chabad" gal
6) How can one move on if these choices don’t work out? (Example the forever Camp Counselor)
7) How to move on if there was a serious issue in this stage of your life

1) Chesed programs
2) NCSY
3) Chabad
4) Shabbatons
5) Bais Medresh
6) Yeshiva learning
7) Camp!
8) Israel program
9) Tomchei Shabbos
10) HASC Counselor
11) Chai Lifeline
12) Seforim sale
13) YU / Landers

Episode 79 - What your Yeshiva pick says about you

IJ is joined by Yeshiva Bucher Jeremy. He has a ton to share and help answer some questions about what goes on during this Israel yeshiva seminary gap-year experience and the yeshiva life when you get back!

1) What is the yeshiva seminary experience?

2) Describe the seminary’s for us…if you go here you’re like this etc… Group pics & experience search

3) Your response to brainwashing

4) Are there yeshiva seminaries to sell your first born to in order to get in?

5) What are the effects of certain Yeshivas on your shidduch resume?

6) What’s your response to a girl that says she won’t date you bec. Of the yeshiva you went too?

7) So they only teach you to become Rabbis and Dentists? What’s the occupations that they push on to you?

8) Do yeshiva's actually prepare you for real life?

9) Do you actually keep the Kesher of your friends and Rebbeim??

10) Thoughts on guys who go Shana bet or gimmel? Shana Gimmel!

Episode 76: Age Gaps Explored - Nobody Talks Shidduchim Podcast

We’ve discussed many age facets on this show, but IJ & Avery delve into this topic when it comes to the many classes of age compatibility. Are there actual reasons of age differences? There is such a stigma here about guys just dating younger girls, so many do that; so why do we make comments about it when it happens? Also we are happy when we hear about an older girl with a younger guy…is it ok to make a big deal about that? Ahuva Shandelman A.K.A. Holy Shid stops by, along with Miss Rivka.

Different age gaps:
1) The Classic: Guy is older then the girl
2) The uncommon: the Girl is older than the guy
3) The assumed: Girl & Guy are the same age 

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1) What happened to the same age dater?
2) Does that even still exist?
3) Fertility for women
4) Is this a nature vs. nurture kind of thing?
5) Can this be explained?
6) Stories & people we know with age gaps
7) Are there really any differences between age blocks:
a) 19 to 26
b) 24 to 32
c) 30 to 40
7) When the younger girls father is just 10 years older then you!
8) You're parents are just way way way younger then her parents and thats tough!
9) What about someone married w an age gap, did it work for them? Should you ask them?
10) Freezing eggs
11) Friends being of age

75) Workplace Shidduch Stories & how to navigate working life while single.

Rachel Salutsky and JoJo visit IJ and Avery.  This episode is about American Jewish dating and its affects in the workplace. Have you ever been assigned to a new project at work and in comes your new partner...and wow!!! you’re taken by surprise because you think they’re cute. Well it gets even better you recognize that they are; Shidduch available, as you’ve gotten their résumé or you’ve asked a coworker or a friend to find out if they’re single and they are. For this episode Avery and IJ discuss the positives, the benefits, to the cons, the ramifications, the problems, the ethics, the everything of dating someone from work. 

1) is a work relationship real?

2) When your coworker you hate gets married…do you say Mazal tov!

3) Can it actually go somewhere

4) Wanting to go out with a Co-worker!

5) Asking coworkers out

6) Asking Vendors out

7) Clients out

8) Work place love

9) How the workplace will treat you if you are single in a Jewish setting

10) How the workplace will treat you in a non-Jewish setting

11) Pay raises in some Jewish firms when you get married

12) What if you were seeing someone and it ended, now what do you do if you work with them

13) Getting into fights with people that work because they encroach on your singleness

14) Yeah power struggles like when he called me do you oversee the other person or they oversee you

15) When someone else is jealous of the relationship that you are in with that other coworker

IJ sits down for a tell all to discuss his long distance fairytale. He found love but God had other plans. Long-distance can be quite the challenge for many couples but it could also provide a very unique and special experience. There’s a lot of character development and growth that takes place during long distance relationships; are you one of those who this has happened to?
Many times people wave their hand at you when they say “what you’ve never met each other in person“ Well I J is here to tell you why those people are full of garbage because long distance is more real than anyone could even imagine.

1) Does long-distance really work?
2) Making sure they are a real person and not a cat fish!
3) What if both parties struggle with moving away from where they are?
4) Is face timing a substitute for in person dating?
5) How come small minded people roll their eyes when you tell people that you met and are together primarily online
6) Taking long-distance breaks
7) Getting over regrets
8) Getting back together

Ep 70) Toxic friends & Platonic Relationships [Holy Shid] Part 2 

You grew up with them, shared the most sentimental memories with them; but once you enter the shidduch core...everything changes. Toxic friends exists and they are holding you back from your shiduch excursions. Holy Shid joins us to discuss what to do. 

1) Shid breaks down what a toxic relationship is.
2) What is a frum platonic relationship?
3) Are platonic relationships also toxic?
4) Your friends say that shidduch idea isnt for you
5) The saying is "you are what you consume"; if you hang around people who are bad for you, how do you let them go?
6) Where to find friends that bring out the best in you.
7) How to tell if this friendship is healthy/toxic for you?
8) How to identify whether or not you're a toxic influence on your friends?
9) Can a platonic relationship exist within frum culture?
10) Should you pursue a romantic relationship with a platonic friend even though you may not feel "in love"?
11) How much does jealousy/insecurity play a role in toxic relationships?
12) Other toxic traits; that may not be as visible at the surface.
13) Maybe we are looking too deeply into all of these therapeutic techniques?
14) Activities you can do together to assist in building stronger friendships.

Ep 68 - The family has “issues”, what do I do? 

In this continuation of stigmatize dating we discuss more stigmatized issues that occur during your dating life cycle. Of course everyone hopes and believes and imagine that they are going to get the full package. The father-in-law is president of the young Israel the mother is coordinating three tehillim groups, his sister is a very well-balanced nurse at some hospital and her brother is happily married with kids in the five towns. As you know this does not happen all the time and in most cases stigmatized dating pops up. There’s always going to be an issue with some family mix perhaps someone is divorced perhaps a sibling does not fall into the community expectations. In this episode we break it down and get you a plan for this.

1. Father was in prison
2. They have 10 siblings, they have one sibling, they are an only child
3. The family is poor
4. Sibling is off the derech
5. Converts
6. Messy divorce
7. Mental illness in the family
8. Family has someone in it that is gay
9. They don't plan to attend their child's wedding
10. Parent’s don't speak to some of the children
11. Physical health issues in family
12. Child that is special needs
13. Parent who passed away 14. Money

Not every guy gets the privilege to have  asteve martin from father of the bride esque father-in-law. But, our guest, Avi Dreyfuss may be the closest thing to it. As a father, who has successfully vetted and dealt with numerous guys attempting to steal his daughter. Avi would provide us with some keen insight on how guys should  present themselves so maybe one day they too could actually get married. 

1. We discuss the resume process 2. Do the fathers get together in Shul or at work by the water cooler and make fun of this shidduch stuff?? 3. Careers, education & the game plan 4. what guys convey when expressing themselves on a resume. 5. Do you place any importance on a guy's looks, should we? 6. What guys should be aware of when they meet the parents for the first time/ 7. Fathers calling references 8. What if your child says no to your friends child 9. Avi's craziest stories about guys_____ 10. What should the gamelan be for guys post yeshiva/high school age 11. How to properly market your child & assist them in finding their spouse. 12. What happens when you see a former girl you’ve dated, during your Shidduchim days, sons resume?? 13. Vaping, drinking, drugs, does it matter to the parents?

In this episode Avery and IJ bring on Michal and Tami, two daters who reside in Lakewood and have experience going through the Shidduch system. Avery and IJ take a backseat and listen to what the girls have to say in regards to their dating encounters. 

1) A brief introduction to what dating is like in Lakewood 

2) Do you feel you are judged more harshly by people you meet because of where you're from? 

3) Lakewood is known for the BMG culture, we know what it is today. Are single Lakewood twenties still looking for that cookie-cutter type? 

4) Where do you think most girls get their ideal interests for what they are looking for in a guy 

5) They say the girls have it easy with matchmakers because they are not expected to push back or stand up for what they believe in. Do you think that is a correct statement? 6) How should a girl tell a matchmaker what they are exactly looking for? 7) what are the least relatable things in a résumé. What things do you think can be totally taken off. 8) in the mid 2010’s Bais Yaakov schools had to chase girls down for their social media participation. It seems that your generation has been able to grow up with this and have a healthy well balanced mindset in this area, what changed? 9) Is it difficult to explain your hashkafa to shadchanim, parents etc. Because they don't understand modern lakewood. 10) Can girls grow up in a rigid, frum environment and learn to rebel against it in a healthy way 11) Whereas girls 20 years ago didn't have an issue with photos and resumes, do you feel the yeshivish world is right to not allow photos to be sent?

Yona & Chani join Avery to have a sophisticated and nuanced discussion over the many differences and similarities those of us share when it comes to our hashkafos in Shidduchim.  We tackle the concept of dating someone based on various stereotypes such as wearing a black hat, davening in Young Israel's and preferring a TV in your home. 

 1) Defining religious orientation 2) Black hat 3) Zionistic 4) TV and TV in the house 5) Sending your kids to white shirt or co ed yeshiva 6) What community do we want to live in 7) Is how you observe Shabbos a hashkafic difference? ie how you want to run a Shabbos table, going swimming, wife holds of the eruv 8) How much do we listen to the families rov? 9) Do we put a filter on the house internet? Kids phones. Etc. 10) Making aliyah 11) Learning

Episode 47: How to take full advantage of being single. Avery explains all the new things he has found from being single, with Rosie.

1. Pursue your passions (Business, travel, restaurants, career change)

2. Getting closer to G-d

3. Shabbos plans for girls and how to get invited to meals

4. Making all new friends

5. Choosing your new look/wardrobe not having your spouse do it.

6. Working on building a house, apartment, decorating?

7. Getting into shape for your future wedding (barf)

8. Connecting with more people who might have that match

9. Taking time to reflect on how you can be better

10. Not letting your single state define you. What are your other unrelated qualities

11. How can you get out of the “waiting funk”

Moving out, moving on and changing up your situation. The helpful tips for moving on from dating burn out, rejection and an almost relationship.

1) Do all singles have to move out of there house?

2) Do you mention it on a resume

3) Do men move out of the house more than women?

4) When your burnt out from dating what do you do?

5) The Shadchan you just worked with for 6 months is done with you, now what?

6) Shadchan life cycle: playcate the shadchan

7) does Going on a vacation do it for ya

8) Moving on from Shidduch cliches and your current game strategy

9) Reorganizing

10) Changing up your dating usuals? New dating places, diffrent girls, etc...

11) Re-assesing your look, style.

12) If it hasn't worked for you all these years why not try something totally different

Ep 33: The Parent Trap
• Using a parent as your shadchan

• A mother knows best– how much should I trust my parent’s experience/advice?

• My agent will handle this– How involved should my parents be in “handling” my shidduchim? Do I have a responsibility to take part in the process?

• Parental consent– what if my parents nix a good idea for reasons that don’t actually matter to me?

• The Parent Trap– my parents are very controlling and won’t let me make my own dating decisions. How do I break free?

• One man’s treasure... My parents just don’t get me and are trying to match me with the wrong type. What should I do?

• I heard concerning things about his/her parents. Should I end it?

• Pair-rents– do both sets of parents have to be a good shidduch too?

• Mommas boy– I really like the person I’m dating, but he/she has an unhealthily close relationship with his/her parents. Is this a concern?

In today's episode we discuss who has it tougher in shidduchim the guys or the girls?

We cover many different areas where the girls have it tougher including break ups, resumes, and the emotional aspect of dating. 

Also debated are some of the challenges for guys when it comes to the logistics of dating, which we discuss with our callers in a humorous and thoughtful way. 

For today's episode we brought on the Brooklyn Food Snob AKA Rivkie,  who is known as one of the foremost experts in NYC food & date spots . We discuss a wide range of issues that can take place when going on a food date.  Some of which include, bringing back leftovers, the friendly neighbor approaching you, and can you take that Instagram photo in front of your date?

Featuring renowned Dating Coach & Shadchan Hanna Kahana. In this epsiode the crew discusses- How you know things are getting serious? The signs to know your shidduch is serious about you and how many dates until we’ve broached the daunting subject of meeting the parents?

 A shidduch podcast series exclusively for talking shiduchim in the Jewish Dating world.  For Jewish religious orientations: Modern Orthodox, Yeshivish, Hassidic, Lubavitch, Conservative and Machmir.