Sippin' T with Nat & Z

Regret can be accompanied by guilt, embarrassment, and self-blame. It can include asking yourself a lot of hypothetical questions: “What if I acted differently? What if I took that opportunity? What if I didn’t say what I said?” Do you live with regret? Listen to find out!

What is bitter? It's feelings, emotions, and how you act toward others. Most often it's saying mean things that hurt people, feeling hatred, or feeling sorry for yourself. It can also be picking fights to be antagonistic or vindictive and spiteful. It typically involves a ton of resentment and feeling like life isn’t fair. And bitterness can taint everything.

Fortunately, it usually fades with time and perspective. But if it’s too strong or lingers for too long, bitterness can keep you from moving forward and healing. And that can make it very hard for you to have fulfilling, healthy relationships, friendships, and experiences.

Intimacy is a feeling of closeness and connection in an interpersonal relationship. It is an essential part of intimate relationships, but it also plays an important role in other relationships with friends, family members, and other acquaintances. We hope you take a listen!

Despite the progressions we’ve made, there is still an overarching, oft-unspoken message that there is one right way to conduct a romantic relationship.  There is much proof, research-wise, and via the experiences of real people, that there are so many more ways to have a relationship, and, which actually work for a lot of people.  This is a great episode y'all!

Narcissistic abuse isn’t limited to romantic relationships with narcissistic partners and the effects of the abuse can be devastating. We hope you take a listen!

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Narcissism is characterized by a grandiose sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy for others, a need for excessive admiration, and the belief that one is unique and deserving of special treatment.  This is a good one y'all!

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Your “inner child” is a part of your subconscious that has been picking up messages way before it was able to fully process what was going on (mentally and emotionally). It holds emotions, memories, and beliefs from the past as well as hopes and dreams for the future. This is a good episode y'all!

We are back!!! In this episode, we revisit 2022 and discuss what we want 2023 to bring.  Whew!  This episode is all over the place, so bare with us and we get back into the swing of things...LMAO!

Join us for the last episode of the year!

Though many people consider “envy” and “jealousy” synonymous, they actually have distinct meanings. This is an episode you don't want to miss!

Intimate partner violence (IPV) describes physical violence, sexual violence, stalking, and psychological aggression (including coercive acts) by a current or former intimate partner (CDC, 2016).  It can occur among heterosexual or same-sex couples and does not require sexual intimacy.  Please don't miss this very important episode.

Trauma bonding is an example of something that is difficult to detect from inside a relationship. This is due to the constant manipulation at the hands of a narcissistic partner. 

But what exactly is trauma bonding? Why do people trauma bond and continue to stay with a manipulative partner?  This is an episode you don't want to miss!

Few people can go through life without encountering some kind of trauma. Parental loss in childhood, auto accidents, physical violence, sexual assault, military combat experiences, and the unexpected loss of a loved one are commonly traumatic events.  Join us in this episode where we discuss trauma, its effects, and how to navigate through it.

The term "triggered" refers to the experience of having an emotional reaction to a disturbing topic (such as violence or the mention of suicide) in the media or a social setting.  Feeling triggered isn't just about something rubbing you the wrong way and can vary from person to person.  This is a great episode y'all!

Generation X is a term typically used to describe the generation of Americans born between 1965 and 1980/1981, although some sources used slightly different ranges. It has sometimes been called the “middle child” generation, following the well-known and predominantly white baby boomer generation and preceding the more diverse millennial generation.  Come join us as we take a walk down memory lane and discuss all the things that make Gen X unique.

Vulnerability is consciously choosing to NOT hide your emotions or desires from others. The key to true vulnerability is that you are willing to accept the consequences no matter what.  Join us as we dive deeper into what vulnerability looks like.

The topic of submission and being submissive has been floating around social media lately, specifically in regard to relationships.   Webster defines submissive as “ready to conform to the authority or will of others; meekly obedient or passive.  So what does someone being submissive mean?  Join us in this episode, it gets real!

Join us in this episode as we discuss what we would do in a zombie apocalypse and if we would rather be without elbows or knees.  A lot of laughs this episode y'all!

Toxic positivity is shallow. It’s a false reassurance, like someone saying “everything happens for a reason” after your grandmother dies or “everything will work out” after you lose your job and apartment and are forced to relocate.  When positivity is used to cover up or silence the human experience, it becomes toxic.  Join us during this eye-opening conversation. 

Both toxic masculinity and toxic femininity are performed by men and women to attempt to keep their value in society. Toxic masculinity and toxic femininity tell men and women that their worth, value, and validity as men and women is conditional upon their adherence to these roles.  Join us as we dive deeper into the two.

From dry-dating to future faking, join Sippin T' with Nat & Z as we discuss new trends in dating & how to survive them!

When people are in healthy relationships respect each other.  They can talk honestly and freely to each other and share power and control over decisions.  They trust and support each other and respect each other’s independence.  In contrast, an unhealthy relationship is unbalanced.  It is important to know that red flags are real and many of us ignore them until it’s too late. 

Some studies show that Black women are the most educated group in the U.S. But what does this mean for their opportunities, wages, and quality of life?  Join us in this episode for a very timely conversation!

DIY is really about you seeking out the knowledge and developing the skills you need to do something that you would normally pay someone else to do for you.  It can also be applied to things like cutting your own hair, sewing your own clothes, decorating a cake, managing your own investments, and so much more.   Now that Spring is upon us, it may be a great time to take on a few DIY projects of your own.

Staying in your lane is a great tool to have in your mental wellness toolbox. It can be utilized when it comes to warding off comparison and with loved ones who overwhelm you with problems.  Join us in this episode where we dive deeper into this topic.

In the last episode of Sippin’ T, we tackled accountability & the importance of taking ownership and responsibility when our actions affect not only ourselves but those around us.  However, did you know that accountability, guilt & shame are often intertwined? Join us this episode and hear us tackle these difficult emotions.

When you're personally accountable, you take ownership of what happens as a result of your choices and actions. You don't blame others or make excuses, and you do what you can to make amends when things go wrong.  Join us this episode where we dive into Accountability and how to have more in our lives.

By definition, growth is a process of change, and change can be unsettling.  But growth...totally worth it!  It's exhausting but it's rewarding!  Join us in this episode as we dive deeper into how we can grow both in our professional and personal lives.  

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Definition:
1. indulgence in and enjoyment of rich, comfortable, and sumptuous living.
2. something that is considered an indulgence rather than a necessity.
3. something pleasant and satisfying.

Join us this episode where we get into what luxury means to us!

Mean women typically target other women based on their own insecurities, jealousy, feelings of competition, and envy. Usually, the victim will be independent, popular, successful – in short, a threat in some way to the aggressor. Join us in this episode and we dive deeper into the mean girl syndrome.

Grat·i·tude

/ˈɡradəˌt(y)o͞od/

noun

The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

Join us in this episode as we discuss gratitude, why it matters and how we can foster it in our life.  

What is it that adds meaning and satisfaction to life? What is it that gives us a sense of purpose?  Join us in this episode where we discuss how to cultivate purpose in your life.  

In this episode, we discuss colorism in the Black community, trace its origin, discuss its impact, and what we can do to overcome it.

The beauty industry has never really catered or considered black skin or hair. Companies market to what they considered their “base” and black women & women of color sometimes had to get in where they fit in. In this episode, we speak to some of the beauty needs of AA women and highlight some of the awesome brands that always get it right.

A lot of the conversations are rooted in the following questions: Are they on equal footing? For prospective Black college students, which is the better fit? To be honest there is no right or wrong answer in this equation.  Experience is subjective...you can meet two students who go to the same school and have different feelings about it.  In this episode, we decided to tackle the myths, the pros, and the cons of PWIs & HBCUs.

When we decided to start this podcast we never thought our topics and conversations would resonate with so many people. Join us as we look back at the year, share our favorite episodes, and thank you loyal listeners for all your support!

Looking back there are a multitude of things we wish we would have been told or learned sooner.  Join us as we discuss a list of things we know now but wish someone would have told us earlier.

Being scared to verbalize your wants and needs is a trauma response. There are many reasons we find having tough talks hard, and it ranges from our childhood experiences to the way we relate to the world around us. To many of us, it can seem easier to avoid an issue, rather than to address it.  Having delicate conversations can make us feel uncomfortable, or bring us back to points in our past we’d rather not address. Tough talks are no walk in the park, and they can leave us feeling anxious, stressed, and desperate for a way out.

The problem is that these conversations are often the most important ones we can have.  We have to overcome these hesitations, however, and we can do that by building up an understanding of who we are and why it’s so hard for us to address certain things and people.

According to Psychology Today, fear has the ability to alter our perception of reality in many different ways. There are two kinds of fear: one acute, life-saving direct fear, which heightens our awareness, and one slowly sneaking indirect fear, which lowers our awareness. The same basic emotion—fear—produces completely different results, depending on how it enters our reality and how we cope with it.  Join us for an important conversation about how we live with fear and how to let it go.  

People should be shamed when they say or do something reprehensible. Social sanctions are an important mechanism for social change, and they should be used. However, when the cancellation is subjective, arbitrary, and restricts the individual's path to redemption, we have to take a step back and determine if cancel culture is the justifiable means to the end. Please join us as we discuss the good, bad, and ugly of cancel culture

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Depictions of dads in popular culture push the stereotype of fathers as incompetent, emotionally disconnected, “secondary” parents who are not nearly as important to their children as their mothers. As a result, Fathers are often pressured to take a backseat when it comes to being involved with raising their kids and can face ridicule for things like admitting that they help change diapers or expressing an interest in taking paternity leave. In reality, although a mother’s love is important and special, having an active father figure plays an equally important role in the healthy development of a child. Please join us for this important and timely conversation.

Memorial Day has always been seen as the unofficial start to summer.  And now that warmer weather and summer sun is just around the corner, it’s a perfect time to start feeling light, fresh and energetic.  No need to wait for June’s official start to summer; the time to start is now!

Self-confidence and self-esteem are two terms that are often used interchangeably. In fact, they bear only a passing relationship to each other. Join Nat & Z as we discuss self-esteem, self-confidence, and how to drown out the outside noise.

Part 2 of this important conversation up now!

The interaction between mother and child is an important and dynamic process. Despite conventional wisdom, attachment and bonding between mother and child are not automatic and do not occur immediately. Rather, it becomes ingrained as the result of learned experiences that begin during the first year of life and are repeated daily throughout one’s childhood and adolescence.  Please join us for Part 1 of this conversation.  

The best way to declutter your home, your workspace, and your life is to take things one small step at a time. Join Nat & Z as we layout ways to get through the mess, organize your life and mind, and clear chaos out of your life.

Join Sippin T' with Nat & Z as we tackle the health inequities that plague women of color generally and black women specifically.  As women, we at times find it difficult to advocate for ourselves and our needs all while knowing that communication is the key to great health care.  We need to change from a passive patient to an active advocate.  Your health is worth fighting for.

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Preston Mitchum defines black love as rooted in resilience and hope. Black love allows us to reimagine our lineage and connections to ancestors through passion and empathy. Black love means allowing for balance and yielding space, while allowing a person to grow and change, and figure out ways to navigate the world separately and with a partner. In this episode Nat & Z discuss the concept of black love in 5 areas:

Tea on the Table: English Tea Shop Chocolate Rooibos & Vanilla

We are currently in what some can call a golden age for movies the showcase the true African-American experience. Get Into this quick sip where Nat & Z discuss their top 10 films that explore & amplify these stories.

Your zodiac sign is the biggest influence on your life and personality in Astrology.  Understanding the nature of your own zodiac sign can help you gain personal perspective, growth, and a greater connection to the universe and the earth around you.  Join Nat and Z as we give an overview of the astrological signs, and give you insight on what 2021 will bring for your zodiac!

It’s that time of the year again where many of us reflect on the year that was and look to the year that will be.  We begin to make goals & set intentions for what we are looking to accomplish, but many times we tend to fall short and have a hard time sticking to them.  In this episode, Nat & Z will get into ways to say IDFWU to 2020 and prep ourselves for what 2021 will bring.

🎄🎄With Christmas looking a bit different this year,  your anxiety from thinking of all the tasks involved in preparing for this holiday may be at an all-time high.  Here are some tips on how to prepare for Christmas & how to get into some alternative celebrations. 🎄🎄

Although health officials are urging families not to gather this holiday season, some of us are still planning to gather with family members outside of our immediate household.  It is important to keep in mind that big family gatherings can breed an atmosphere of hostility and conflict.  In this week’s episode, we provide some ways to navigate through holiday family dynamics and come out sane on the other side.

Tea of the Day: Adagio Cranberry Tea

We’ve all had to ask ourselves at least once in our life: is it time to leave? This week’s episode touches on knowing when to leave the party, the job, and the relationship.

Tea of the Day: Twinings Focus - Supports Mental Focus

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Did you know that nearly 70% of Americans have stated that the Presidential election has caused them a significant level of stress?

In this week’s episode, we dive into how to deal with post-election stress and anxiety in a healthy way.

Tea of the Day: Rooibos Latte

“If you don’t have a milk frother, get that in yo’ life!”

“Folks are supposed to be opponents, not enemies”

And We’re Back!!!!

In this week’s episode, Nat & Z discuss the 5 love languages, how to apply it in your relationship, and discovering how to communicate your needs to your partner.

Tea of the day: Call Me Your Sweetheart Blend

Editor’s Note: The sound quality may be a little distorted when listening.

Today's quick sip is about finding closure and learning to let go and move forward.   New episodes coming next week!

Hey, Y’all! While we are on a brief hiatus, sit down, relax and have a quick sip with us! Let’s discuss collective fatigue and how to combat it ❤️

Have you ever felt like you don’t belong? Like your friends or colleagues are going to discover you’re a fraud, and you don’t actually deserve your job and accomplishments?  Well, this week’s episode we talk about how these feelings can be attributed to a phenomenon called the “imposter syndrome”.

THE TEA ON THE TABLE:

Yogi Sweet Tangerine Positive Energy Tea

“You feel like a 3 day old Popeye’s biscuit.”

“Give it to God & give a co-pay.”

And We Are Back!

This episode we discuss the levels of friendship, the types of friends you should have and when it may be time to walk away.

“ Well you know he is a work in progress”

“It ain’t nuttin’ to cut that b!tch off”

“Cuz I was the last of the Mohicans when it came to marriage”

“Well girl that’s just a Tuesday”

Tea of Day: Have a Tea Party with Earl Grey & Darjeeling

☕️ NEW EPISODE ☕️

This week's episode tackles the do’s and don’ts of traveling with friends & the one’s you need to leave at home.

“I got Usher’s number”

“Did it work?”

Tea of the Day:  Bellini Tea Cocktail

EDITOR’S NOTE: We talk about the shooting of Jacob Blake and incorrectly stated that the shooting resulted in his death. We apologize for the inaccuracy in this statement.

This week's episode takes at securing the bag, estate planning & how to get your affairs in order.

“Martin Luther the King”

“I put that sh!t on everything”

Tea of the Day:  Cinnamon Apple Spice

☕️ NEW EPISODE ☕️

This week's episode takes a look at grief, how it affects the mind, body, and soul, and how to take of yourself during your grieving process.

“It was alleged, but I believed it”

“You grieve your body is betraying you”

Tea of the Day:  Psychocandy

During this week's episode, Nat & Z discuss their 10 top albums,  college memories & how Mary mispronounces words.

" Was it an entanglement?"

"I was 18, I wasn't nobody's damn secretary!"

Tea of the Day:  Royal Peach Tea

This week's episode takes a look at how to set boundaries, maintain peace in your life, and how not show up to every party you are invited to.

"Protecting your peace means being your own advocate."

Tea of the Day:  Snarky Tea Company

1. Calm The F*ck Down

2. Namaste Motherf**cker

In this episode we discuss Black is King, enjoying your 40’s & why Nat needs to tell the truth and shame the devil.
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“I need the horns like Beyoncé said”
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Tea of the day: Heath & Heather Organic Green Tea with Coconut
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Inaugural Episode!

In this episode, we discuss tips and tools to minimize stress and anxiety during the COVID-19 crisis.

"Is this thing on?"

Tea of the Day:  Pukka Lemon, Ginger and Manuka Honey