Deeper with Sophie Josephina

In this week’s episode, Sophie is joined by Andrew & Dawn, a married 24/7 Dominant/submissive couple. There are so many misconceptions around this topic so in this conversation, they are going to share the depth, love and devotion that is possible when incorporating Dominant/submissive power dynamics into a loving relationship. You will also hear the reasons why this works for them, and why it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Listen in!

1:40 How Andrew & Dawn met and how they got into what they are doing today

4:05 What is a Dominant/submissive relationship and real-life examples

10:30 What made Dawn feel good about incorporating Dominant/submissive power dynamics into their relationship

16:15 Common misconceptions with Dom/sub relationship

21:15 D/s during a disagreement

23:45 How Andrew got into this work and interest in this work

27:15 Masculine/feminine energy in their relationship

33:16 Blocks that can show up in this D/s relationship

41:30 Dominant as God in a human form

56:00  Wearing a collar in public

1:01:00 What it really means to be in a D/s relationship

Andrew & Dawn are a married 24/7 Dominant/submissive couple. Together, they work to support individuals and couples in their integration of D/s as a healthy, loving way of relating. Through their deep connection, they have developed a powerful understanding of the intersection of D/s, masculine/feminine polarity, and divine union, and they make a practice of teaching and sharing from their authentic lived experience. 

In this week episode, Sophie interviews a trauma healer, period whisperer and embodiment coach, Monica Yates and they talk about the difference between being a lover vs a mother in a relationship.

3:00 Who is Monica Yates, what it is that she does and how she got to where she is today

5:06 The biggest pain the feminine has toward masculine

9:05 How women emasculate their men without even realizing it

17:15 Difference between entitlement vs letting men to lead

23:05 What it's really like to make more money than your partner

29:15 Signs and how to stop mothering in a relationship

43:00 Codependency and the difference between caretaking and caregiving

Monica is a trauma healer, period whisperer and embodiment coach. She's a double Sagittarius and a rising Gemini, an enneagram 8 and a generator. Monica helps women get into their magnetic as fuck feminine energy, and men feel ecstasy and intimacy.

Monica’s work is commonly described as ‘unlike anything else’ and ‘indescribable.’ Over the years, Monica has become an expert in helping women step out of their masculine amour, tap into their core feminine desires and live a life in alignment. Through the use of trauma healing, inner child healing, womb clearing, womb activation, subconscious reprogramming, embodiment, somatic work and a shit ton of other modalities, she has helped thousands of women heal their cycle, reconnect with their period, break their trauma cycles and no longer be triggered by their past.

In this podcast, certified coach, and facilitator of men’s work, breath work, plant medicine and sacred intimacy, Nic Warner talks about the importance of finding your life purpose in order to unlock your best life and also other topics like healing your father’s wounds, toxic masculinity and more.

3:00 Who is Nic Warner and his story of how he got to where he is today

9:05 How to know if you are living your life or the one society wants you to live

11:45 What to do if you've lost your sense of purpose

15:05 How to heal from a 'father wound'

19:45 Heal your wounds and find your true self

23:45 His thoughts about the recent supreme court ruling event

28:00 The real problem with toxic masculinity is that it assumes there is only one way of being a man

34:05 Women’s expectation for a man to ejaculate

41:10 His journey with porn addiction recovery

47:10 Finding your purpose in life

Nic is an architect of transformative experiences. A certified coach, and facilitator of men’s work, breath work, plant medicine and sacred intimacy.

After discovering he didn’t fit society’s version of the dream life, he gave up his architect career and marriage to create his own. For three years he traveled the world, learning in jungles, darkness, ashrams and silence. Nic spent the past 6 years helping guide and hold space for those willing to step into their own darkness. To release, heal, integrate, and reconnect with their deepest truth.

You can find his work here: 

In this first episode of 2022, Will de Roode, a Trauma Informed Coach comes onto the podcast to talk about the science of the nervous system and polyvagal theory as it relates to the way we interact and have relationships with others.

3:46 - Who is Will de Roode

6:18 - What is polyvagal theory?

11:14 How your nervous system gets encoded when you are young

14:02 What is happening when men shut down in relationship

17:17 What can women do to support their partner emotionally

22:40 Creating safety when shutting down emotionally

25:59 What to do when you’re shutting down

30:30 What to do when you’re drowning in your emotions

38:13 The importance of taking time and space from your partner after an “activation”

42:09 The phenomenon of fawning and people pleasing

51:08 How do you know if you are in a fawning state

56:45 When you want to do something, but you feel shut down emotionally

58:17 Everyone’s nervous system is unique and different

1:01:16 The importance of conscious rest

1:08:27 How focusing on regulating your nervous system can help your career/business

1:14:40 How to heal your nervous system

1:19:14 Where to learn more about Will de Roode

Will is a Trauma Informed Coach who offers Nervous System Support & Coaching. He helps his clients heal at the nervous system level without digging into their past using an approach which involves Applied Polyvagal Theory, Neuroplasticity, HeartMath tools and daily HRV biometrics tracking.

Will emphasizes proactive nervous system education, regulation practice, somatic-work & daily resonance frequency breathing to help his clients operate from safety, trust, intimacy, play & Self-Leadership.

In this podcast, life & relationship coach, Bryan Reeves and Sophie Joesphina discuss the nuances between the many approaches that men have towards love. They explore what the internal work looks like for both men and women to reach a certain functionality in their relationships.

02:25 Who is Bryan Reeves

06:15 Bryan's journey in relationships

12:33 The self-serving approach of love

15:52 How you can be ‘wrong’ even when you’re ‘right’

19:30 The path of emotional mastery for men

25:48 What is the male check-out system

30:55 How men contrasts in experiencing emotions with women

38:20 Your partner will never give enthusiastically what you selfishly demand from them

43:09 The fear of being uncared for

47:20 How to get a man to choose his partner everyday

55:51The realities of having a highly emotionally and spiritually conscious partner

1:03:46 How getting into relationship is a spiritual relationship 

1:08:38 Where to find Bryan Reeves on Social Media

A former US Air Force Captain, Bryan is now an internationally renowned Author and Life/Relationship Coach, and host of the podcast, “Men, This Way.” His viral blog has been read by over 30 million people in every country on the planet (except North Korea). His newest book, Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her), is now available on Amazon and other retailers, and also at www.bryanreeves.com/book.

You can find Bryan's social media here:

In this podcast episode, Men's Coach, Brandon Archer and Sophie Josephina dive deep into the emotional journey that men have the opportunity to embark on in order to better themselves in their relationship with the feminine. They go over the importance of having guidance from other men, and how to navigate turbulent emotional landscapes.

02:30 Who is Brandon Archer

07:10 What is the main struggle men have when it comes to communicating with the feminine

13:18 Why men need to take care of themselves first

15:18 The journey of masculinity

16:45 The importance of a men’s group

20:57 Brandon’s journey with the feminine

27:07 How the masculine and feminine call each other to their highest selves

31:20 Women needs men to navigate their emotional landscape

33:42 How men deal with heartbreak

40:55 How can men be vulnerable in an honorable way

46:38 The importance of holding space for your partner

52:05 How much space does a woman give to a man to see his potential?

53:28 Many people want to heal before they have the tools to do so

57:07 How heartbreak inspires a rebirth

58:41 The importance of knowing yourself emotionally as a man

1:02:36 What Brandon loves about the feminine 

1:03:52 Where to find Brandon online

Brandon's life has been one of learning, observing, growing on his own path and helping support others' journeys. In his quest to discover his deeper self, he discovered his buried masculine and feminine traits while striving to have a healthy romantic relationship. Now, he is on his life's mission to help other men discover the glowing embers of their higher self, a balance of masculine and feminine, and fan them into the fire every man can feel scratching at them to ignite into the most passionate, fulfilling relationships they have always wanted. He works 1:1 and with groups of men to tap into their true desires and power.

In this episode, womxn's Embodiment & Intimacy Coach, Nadia Munla introduces an embodied framework that helps both men and women expand their consciousness in relationship and to be fully nourished. 

02:34 who is Nadia Munla
07:00 How to trust men again
11:05 The importance of embodying multiple archetypes
25:19 How taking up space as the feminine can nourish the masculine
30:02 Why you need to give your body time to expand
31:40 Going beyond checklists
35:17 What it feels to be fully met by the masculine
41:51 What good sex actually feels like
47:34 What is the embodied power framework
1:02:17 Where to find Nadia's work

Nadia is an Embodiment & Intimacy Coach and the creator of Embody by Nadia™. Through private coaching and her Embody Certification, she helps visionaries reach embodied expression in their love & leadership.

Embody has been featured at the the Health Coach Institute, Soul Camp (East & West), Goddess-on-the-Go, World Domination Summit, and many other events/retreats in Bali, Peru, Tulum and Hawaii. Embody has been taught at a UK Womxn’s Prison, at an Eating Disorder Clinic and will soon teach classes to teens and WOC fighting depression.

Nadia’s core belief is that embracing our full range is the way we access our deepest potential and create space for an Embodied Union that heals the planet.

In this podcast, dear friend, Nemanja Sonero comes on the podcast to discuss how movement can play an essential role in the development of both masculine and feminine polarities in an individual. We also explore the topics of what it means to create freedom within a relationship, magnifying love, and how to reclaim our power to ignite the energies of our partners.

Timestamps

2:45 Who is Nemanja Sonero?

5:50 How movement can help access masculine and feminine archetypes

6:44 Nemanja Sonero's story

9:24 How to integrate the feminine as a man

14:32 How to create freedom in a relationship

18:35 What does it mean to be powerful as a man?

23:40 Things men can do to reclaim their power

28:07 How to express the dark masculine?

33:35 How our personal development affects others

35:08 Using penetration to magnify love

40:30 What is it like to have a “witch” as a partner

43:50 How the feminine can be inviting and ignite the masculine

46:36 What Nemanja Sonero loves about the feminine

48:28 Nemanja Sonero's course

Nemanja Sonero

A Lover Of Life. A Mentor. A Lover Of Movement. A Soul Essence Photographer. A Community Leader. A King. A Partner To A Queen.  
My purpose is to invoke the conscious awakening and rise of Men & Women in this world. To serve as a vessel of love and inspiration for humanity.

I grew up in an environment where I did not have a healthy example of the healthy Masculine or what does it truly mean to be a Man in this world. So, one day I decided to change all that by setting out into the world and find mentors & teachers who can support my emergence and help me in reclaiming my own life. From that moment I devoted 20+ years latter with endless trainings in martial arts, movement, yoga, psychology, personal development, living in the jungle in an Indian tribe and studying plant medicine, shamanism, tantra and so much more.]

I strongly believe we are here on this planet to live fully every day of our lives, share our open and radiant hearts so we can create a better world for our children and every next generation to come.

In this week's podcast guest, Samir Janjua describes the positive impact men's circles can have in helping men get in touch with their masculinity as well as express vulnerability. Samir and Sophie discuss the biggest challenges in the lives of modern men, and how to dance the line of challenging yourself to become better vs beating yourself up.

Timestamps

02:40 Who is Samir Janua

06:24 Why don’t men naturally express vulnerability

10:36 How is it to have “elders” in men’s circles?

14:39 How to honor your fathers and ancestors

15:40 What makes men feel safe to express themselves

19:58 How do we get men to participate in men’s circles

23:18 What are men’s biggest pains and challenges?

26:30 How can a man start asking for help?

28:10 Advice for young men

32:40 The importance of accepting your family members for who they are

38:20 Challenging yourself vs beating yourself up

42:30 What is the tendency of men to disappear when doing personal development circles

47:24 What Samir appreciates about the masculine

49:15 Where to find more of Samir’s work and groups

Samir Janjua is a co-founder of The Men's Circle & a commercial & personal brand photographer located in Los Angeles, CA

You can learn more about his Men's Circles at https://linktr.ee/themenscircle and instagram page at www.instagram.com/themenscircle/

From listening to your feedback, we have brought Damien Bohler back onto the podcast for a second time to expand on the ideas of polarity and integrated consciousness. In this episode, Damien and Sophie explore the value that exists in living out and integrating both masculine and feminine polarities so that you can be a more functional in your personal life and relationships. 

Timestamps:

02:27 How to cultivate your opposite polarity

10:12 When women behave more masculine than men

16:35 The place criticism and nit-picking comes from the feminine

21:02 What is integrated consciousness 

23:36 How a woman can live more in her feminine

26:57 When a woman has to be in her masculine

29:51 How radical trust can honor the masculine

34:07 The way the feminine and masculine are wired

38:27 How can the feminine help the him step more into his masculine

45:38 Realizing the infinite penetration of your polarity

53:50 What happens when men lose themselves in a relationship

1:04:10 More information on Damien's new course

Damien is a regular human, flaws and all. He is also the head facilitator and founder of the work of Evolutionary Relating.

He has been facilitating and teaching groups in intersubjective and relational practices for 10 years. He has a diverse educational background, a curious mind and seems to be a natural teacher and facilitator.

He enjoys creating safe and transformational group containers, and imparting complex knowledge in a way that is easy to grasp.

He is motivated to offer this work out of a love for planet earth and a deep, compelling desire to contribute to human evolution.

In this week's podcast, Sophie interviews author and romance artist, Zan Perrion on his views on the lover, the feminine and seduction. 

Timestamps:

02:30 Who is Zan Perrion

8:30 What is Zan's relationship with women and beauty

11:49 How to become the man that women adore

14:50 The societal expectations on men

16:13 The 2 traits of men that are needed for seduction

21:15 A man who loves women is loved by women

24:15 The power of beauty and appreciation

25:02 Developing your archetype and authenticity

27:50 What is seduction?

30:19 What if your man does not seduce you anymore?

35:55 The approach and devotion for seduction

38:40 How other men see Zan

45:00 How to deal with rejection

52:00 What Zan loves about women

57:37 Where to find Zan's work

Zan Perrion is recognized as one of the most original and insightful voices on relationships and seduction in the world today.

Zan Perrion has been talking and writing about beauty for decades. In his travels around the world, he has encountered a sublime myriad of people… some searching, some indifferent, some committed to changing their life, some just curious to see what he was going on about, some ordinary, some famous or people from the media. And over the years, he has been called many things. They called him a player, a beauty seeker, a relationship guru, a hopeless romantic, a pickup artist, a dating coach, a seducer… the media even at one time called him “the world’s greatest seducer”. But, according to him, it is far more simple than all that.

You can learn more about him at zanperrion.com, and join his coaching groups at arsamorata.com

In this episode, Sophie and Damien explore the paths we can take to relate better with our partners. They go deep on attachment theories, and describe how we can truly be present and support our partners when they are triggered back into their child-like state.

Timestamps:

2:40 Who is Damien Bohler

7:35 Damien’s relationship with community

8:37 The dogma that exists in the relating and new age field

13:31 Why the ways in which we relate is way more fluid than any definition or distinction we give it

17:50 The dynamic tension between agency and communion

22:11 How can we support our partners when they are triggered into a child-like state

27:43 The avoidant needs to learn to be more vulnerable, the anxious needs to listen better

29:59 Why do we attract someone that saves us

33:27 Methods to resolve our misattunement as a child

38:23 Why is the stable-secure not as sexy?

47:52 Why the man who wants to save you is not a conscious man

51:08How can the masculine express an inviting desire instead of pushiness

59:40 The more elegant she is with her no, the more likely he will ask

1:04:14 The sexiness and subtitles of boundaries

1:14:08 Creating an object of the experience of emotions

1:16:00 Where to find Damien Bohler’s work

Damien is a regular human, flaws and all. He is also the head facilitator and founder of the work of Evolutionary Relating.

​He has been facilitating and teaching groups in intersubjective and relational practices for 10 years. He has a diverse educational background, a curious mind and seems to be a natural teacher and facilitator.

He enjoys creating safe and transformational group containers, and imparting complex knowledge in a way that is easy to grasp.

He is motivated to offer this work out of a love for planet earth and a deep, compelling desire to contribute to human evolution.

What does it mean to be a mystic? In this episode, Sophie explores the magician archetype of the masculine with David Lion. In this raw new age conversation, David shares the ethos and how-to when it comes to alchemizing a sexual relationship, and describes the role magic plays in our daily lives.

Timestamps:

2:36 Who is David Lion

5:39 On creating a mystery school of spiritual embodiment

7:47 What is channeling

13:42 Spiritual bypassing in the masculine

20:40 What if my raw self hurts others?

21:46 Follow the act of greater love

25:21 What is happening spiritually to men  and women in the modern world

27:29 The importance of selfishness in owning yourself

30:48 Living life through being during the pandemic

32:09 How do spirituality and sexuality come together?

35:36 How sex opens portals of spirituality and alchemy?

42:56 How can men give their heart to sex and access the divine?

45:03 How can the feminine call men into their power

47:06 The nuance of expression and communication within a relationship

53:09 How men connect more with their mystic archetype

59:16  How does one invite their spirit guides/angels in?

1:07:30 How to navigate a settling relationship

1:10:05 Where to find more of David's work?

David Lion is a pure-hearted master of magick and channel for the divine. He serves to awaken and ignite seekers on their path of ascension so as to inspire liberation, fulfillment and self-realization.  While many know him as an incarnation of THOTH, he is quite simply the embodiment of Love.  Through his mastery of the mind, and practical understanding of Spirit, his specialty is to reconnect those who walk the path of Light to their inner-magic, so that they may remember their divine birthrights with joy and ease.

What we most appreciate about his giftedness is his "no fluff" approach to self-mastery, as well as his emphasis on the necessity of bringing fun to spiritual practice. This opens up new realms of possibility and potential where density and rigidity once lay in its place.  All who experience him are sure to receive a treat that is both magical and expansive.  May your hearts and lives be blessed with joy and laughter through the experience of David Lion, embodiment and messenger of Living Magic.

In this episode, Sophie explores the darker expressions of the masculine with GS Youngblood. They talk about the necessary role it plays in long-term relationships and how the dark side, when combined with the heart, can create more powerful sexual experiences. 

Timestamps

00:00 Intro

02:51 GS Youngblood's backstory

05:54 The trap of men when with strong women

07:26 The notion of shifting gears

08:37 What is the dark masculine?

13:03 Pushing the edge in the container of safety

16:39 What is attractive about the dark masculine?

18:15 Why it's hard to trust nice guys or new agey men

20:42 3 Parts of sexual leadership for men

27:55 A man must channel his primal through his heart

29:54 The how-to's to domination

35:44 How can the feminine call men to a place of dominance in the bedroom

38:23 How can we awaken primal sexual energy in long-term relationships

41:30 How to know if the dark energy is welcomed

50:52 Where to find GS Youngblood's work

In this eighth edition of Conversations with Men, Sophie is joined by  relationship coach, Stefanos Sifandos. They explore the the challenges and potential pitfalls when the wounded feminine and wounded masculines try to communicate with one another. Stefanos explains how the masculine can connect rather than shut down, and differentiate true expressions from one's pain.  This episode will inform you on how to better navigate emotionally with your partner.

(3:22) Stefanos' personal journey with the feminine

(7:50) the masculine way of connecting with the feminine

(11:02) what makes it difficult for men to emote and express

(17:02) how can women invite the masculine back into presence and respect

(20:18) the masculine and feminine is within all of us

(21:45) the wounded feminine stuck in the masculine

(25:15) peter pan syndrome: how freedom combines with commitment

(28:49) how Stefanos' navigates his relationship

(33:08) neediness vs having needs

(34:04) the third entity in a relationship

(35:28) how to respond to your partner's child side of them

(38:05) how do we differentiate our true expressions from our pain

(41:30) what Stefanos loves most about the feminine

(44:06) where to find Stefanos' work

In this episode, Shaun Galanos explores the challenges that come with communicating emotions, especially those rooted in fear and shame. Shaun offers paths in letting go of those burdens through therapy or simply sharing with people you trust. Men and women will walk away understanding what it takes to have a clear and effective dialogue between partners.

SHOWNOTES

(3:28) Shaun Galanos’ story

(9:30) ‘Not everyone likes pineapple pizza’

(13:01) Why men stay burdened

(20:32) How to say ‘no’ with love

(27:16) The unique ways in which people relate and communicate

(31:12) The challenge of communicating emotions

(32:55) The fear is worse than the actual expression

(37:27) How speaking in absolutes can be dangerous

(39:23) We demonize men as much as we demonize women

(40:41) Instead of trying to ‘fix things,’ ask how you can help

(42:30) A lot of work in relationships happen in therapy

(46:22) The importance of sharing your experiences with others

(50:43) Where are all the good men, I can’t find them

(52:24)What to do if you are attracted to the ‘bad boy’

(56:10) What is the reason why people are emotionally unavailable?

(58:14) How to connect with your feelings when you think you don’t know how to

(1:01:44) Where to find Shaun’s work

This is one of the most powerful episodes Ive ever done. 

There is gold in literally every minute of this conversation.

If you want to deepen your understanding of masculine/feminine energies, this is THE episode you need to hear. Chris offers such deep wisdom for both men and women. Men, you will walk away from this like a King. Women, you will drop even deeper into your sacred longing for that powerful man. 

SHOWNOTES

(7:00) what is the healthy masculine?

(9:00) the masculine practice of being around the woman that is too much

(14:00) how to attract a powerful man

(16:30) difference between nagging and expressing your pain

(18:00) what men need to feel safe

(22:00) the role of seduction for a King - she wants to reach for him

(26:00) difference between king energy and playing hard to get

(27:30) the demonisation of the male turnon

(31:30) what women are missing from men

(36:00) Chris’ advice for the strong independent woman

(40:00) how to feel someones energy

(43:30) the key to multi orgasmicness for men

(46:30) horniness as a deficiency of sexual energy

(50:30) boundaries from a man are sexy

(53:00) where are all the good men

(54:30) what Chris loves about the feminine

For this fourth edition of Conversations with Men, I am joined by Taylor Johnson. Taylor is a sex educator and coach who helps men master their sexual energy so they can create the intimate lives of their dreams.

Taylor and I have a deep and delicious conversation on the harder (pun intended) topics that can arise in intimacy and relating.

We go into

👉 how to best support your man when there are performance issues or struggles in the bedroom

👉 how to communicate consciously with the masculine and call him into his masculine leadership

👉 on sexual fantasies, and when they are related to trauma

👉 on how to be with your turn on, sexual energy, desires, fantasies as a man

👉 on the sexiness of safety; and how to turn on your woman with safety as a man

For this third edition of Conversations with Men, I am joined by Nils & Themer, the founders of the Embodied Masculine training program. These are two deeply conscious men that share their perspective on relating, masculinity and the beauty of the feminine. You will want to hear this

In this episode, we speak about

👉 not having healthy masculine role models as young men growing up and the effect that has on men today

👉 how men can start feeling again

👉 on being too much as a woman

👉  on carrying the burden of another man's misdoings

👉 + these two conscious men share everything they love about the feminine &  their views of men need in relationships

Nils Elzenga is a writer, trainer and coach with fifteen years of experience in the realms of spirituality and personal development. He is a certified facilitator of Breathwork and of Circling, a powerful relational meditation.

Themer Abourayan is a coach, bodyworker and facilitator. After ten years of working on his own growth, while working as an executive in a fast-paced commercial environment, he brings his experience of multiple personal and spiritual development disciplines together in his work.

For this episode, I am joined by Philippe Lewis - relationship educator and so much more. A deeply intelligent and wise human being, an episode filled with practical insights to feel safer and more empowered in both your feminine and your masculine. We speak about consent, primal intelligence, attachment theory and sovereign relating.

In this episode I am joined by Hans Comyn, master seducer, as we speak about honouring your man, honouring each other, the art of seduction, and the state of relating. 

Hans Comyn is a modern Renaissance man. Artist, athlete, adventurer, seducer. He is founder of 'Los Conquistadores,' an alliance between the 300 most interesting men in the world. For more, www.hanscomyn.com