So You Can Relate
By So You Can Relate
So You Can RelateFeb 26, 2021
47. The bad girl that I am
Welcome back guys! In today's episode we discuss what makes a good party and some of the worst party experiences we’ve had. We reminisce over our university experiences, and dive into the root causes of people pleasing.
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Minisode: Help me believe
Hey guys, happy new year and welcome back! We hope you enjoy this minisode, we're ranking our top 10 songs by the one and only Kirk Franklin. Let us know your favourite songs by him too! Have a good one 💗
46. If Jesus tarries...
Welcome back! This week we're rating Christian phrases we hear all the time - what phrases deserve 0/10 or full marks?! We're also thinking of how we'll feel when our parents pass away, and how we cope with grief in general. We hope you enjoy
45. Am I celibate!?
Hey guys, welcome back! In today's episode we discuss fatal flaws in friendships, our thoughts on romantic relationships starting off as friends, and our celibacy journeys, if at all!
Mentioned: The Sorrows of Love
44. God won't let me go
Welcome back guys! In this episode we spoke about Beyonce's Renaissance, Adefela's faith journey, the reality of "new believer's syndrome", how truthful Christians should really be, and inter-faith relationships... We hope you enjoy! Blog post mentioned: Considering God.
It’s been a while….. but we are back!
In this episode we are catching up on where we have been, and what’s new in our lives.
We discuss finding the balance in life, toxic relationships and give our 2 cents on love-related topics 😉.
Love and peace x
42. If it had not been ft. Ekow
Welcome back guys! It has been a while... but we are alive and kicking. Here's our episode with our good friend Ekow. We spoke about our experiences at university and how it shaped who we are today. We also take a dive into Ekow's app, Foodable, of which he is the CEO! We hope you enjoy this one.
P.s, the podcast will be taking a break for a few weeks, but we will be back - it's just very important to prioritise rest when you need it. Thank you for your support and tuning in to our episodes, the pod wouldn't exist without you 🥰
In the meantime, you have 42 episodes to listen to... are there any that you missed?!
Soon we'll be back and better!
Love from Joyce + Adefela ❤️
41. It's okay
Hi friends! This week we have a Q&A episode where we have discussion around transactional friendships, imposter syndrome and a whole lot of story times. We hope you enjoy xoxo
40. Mummy's monsters, daddy's demons
Hi guys! Our special guests Beatrice and Jemima are here again today, and we're throwing it back to the early 00's - being raised in the church and our experiences of that part of our lives. We're talking all things spirituality and how we perceived it as children, and also how our upbringing has shaped who we are today. We hope you enjoy xCurrent faves mentioned: La Roche-Posay Nutritic Intense Rich, Pastor Beatrice 'Bee3' Byemanzi
39. I’ll take the one to say I love you Ft. Beatrice & Jemimah
Welcome back friends! This week we have two special guests on the podcast Beatrice and Jemimah. In this episode we are doing a Mary Mary Top 5! Brace yourself for some serious deliberation and loads of laughs along the way. We also get into discussion around the old school gospel songs we love and a lot more.
Peace and love x
Welcome back! This week we have a minisode that is in the theme of valentine’s day. We talk about the love songs we can’t get enough of and laugh as we breakdown the concepts behind the song lyrics of Cater2u.
Peace and love x
38. Skip to 7 mins
Join us this week as we discuss all things to do with friendship. What type of friend are you and can you ever have too many friends? We discuss our fears around getting older and the TV shows that we miss watching. Disclaimer we also do a mini Insecure review of the season finale!
Faves mentioned: The stem UK - https://thestem.co.uk/ Midwife vlogs YouTube channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCalEzZh0x7O0hm4bzaqzh_g/videos
37. Growing pains
Faves mentioned: Just worship – Jesus Medley and The Homecoming podcast with Dr Thema
36. Capture a moment Ft. Kay
Welcome back! This week's guest is our friend Kay, aka filmsnthehood. We're bouncing between so many topics in this episode - from how Kay got into film photography and why he does it, to our music taste, culture, food and more. We hope you enjoy it as much as we enjoyed recording it!
Mentioned - Selfish by Slum Village, What's Going On (album) by Marvin Gaye, Rapture (album) by Anita Baker.
Follow Kay's photography page on instagram!: filmsnthehood
Minisode: Seek truth Ft. Toda
Toda’s Music open.spotify.com/artist/5pZ4GTtn7TMK1BOUB4Da3b?si=YCIaWjUSSsqEM1CdYkidiA
35. 8 ½ month wrestle Ft. Emi
This week we’ve got a special guest Emi, she talks to us about her journey into becoming a Christian. We also discuss the concept of confessing your sin to your support network to maintain accountability. How do we deal with the struggle of giving up things we like to grow in relationship with God?
Scripture mentioned: James 5:6
34. Count it all joy
Welcome back! This week we discuss the portrayal of Black women in movies specifically Tyler Perry movies lool. Then we dive into conversation around how we deal with being angry with God and the urge we feel to live more recklessly.
Disclaimer – There are some ‘insecure’ spoilers included!
Faves mentioned: Maurette Brown-Clark – Just want to praise you, Hillsong – Blessed, Lauryn Hill - The sweetest thing, Lawrence flowers – More, Lawrence flowers – Hey hey God
33. A tough season Ft. Manuela
We are back with another episode! We are so happy to have our very first guest Manuela. Join us as we discuss our top 5 Hillsong songs, ideal wedding song playlists and Gospel slow jams. We also talk to Manuela about the development of her faith journey whilst at uni and her revelation of understanding God’s grace.
Peace and love x
Minisode: Apologies to Charles
Hey friends! We are back discussing what happens when the artists we love die. A story time about our friends boxing match, and all things pertaining to adulting.
Buckle up and enjoy!
Welcome back! Today's episode (which was meant to be a minisode 😂) was spontaneous - we're listing our favourite underrated songs by the most popular gospel artists - Mary Mary, Fred Hammond, Marvin Sapp, Cece Winans and Kirk Franklin.
What do you know about Seattle by Mary Mary and Show Yourself Strong by Fred Hammond?! Let's explore the list together! Here's a playlist of the songs mentioned in this episode, along with a few others that slipped our minds: underrated goodies 💕. Enjoy 😘
31. You’re lagging babe
Disclaimer: There is some lagging at the beginning of the episode but only for the first 4 mins – the struggle was real guys lool
Scriptures mentioned: Mark 8:36, Matthew 6:23
Faves mentioned: Scandal and Korean baking videos
30. At least I had a good time
Welcome back guys! This week we talk about what’s been making us happy recently. Our ideal birthdays in comparison to the worst birthdays that we’ve had. We also discuss whether we are too judgemental of teenagers today and reminisce on school memories.
Peace and love x
29. I don’t wanna leave the same
Mentions: Miseducation of Lauryn Hill album, Instagram page: Shama4realz
Faves mentioned: Beyonce – Crazy in love
28. All or nothing
Joseph Solomon podcast episode - open.spotify.com/episode/2zQjRwplLBBxbZDazT7Fzm?si=71f38c94775b443f
Joseph Solomon YouTube video - When Your Theology Fails you w/ Joseph Solomon - YouTube
Faves mentioned: Tiwa Savage: Somebody’s son
Minisode: Babe, can we have a fake wedding?
Scripture mentioned: So, faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ. – Romans 10:17
Peace and love x
Faves mentioned: Sunset lamp Sunset Projection Lamp Sunset Lamp LED Projector Light, USB Charging Sunset Light, 360° Angle Adjustment Free Bending Sunset Projector Lamp Floor Stand Night Light for Living Room Bedroom Decor : Amazon.co.uk: Lighting and the barbican conservatory
26. Always in my feelings
Faves mentioned: Mary Mary - Can’t give up now, Janelle Monae - Victory, Halfcast podcast - The hood is built on contradictions.
Peace and love x
25. Get the shoulders out!
Bible verse mentioned: Ecclesiastes 12:13 -14
Faves mentioned: Trin-I-Tee 5:7 - Holla, Dance like Sunday, Rescue Me, Limoblaze - Afrobeat's rap and Jesus, Mide Naike and R-scar - Forever and now
24. Black women are beautiful… but let me refocus
Peace and Love x
23. Come back home
Songs mentioned: In awe of you, this altar (by Trey Mclaughlin), Last Jesus (Kirk Franklin)
Faves mentioned: Gold (by Jake Isaac) God morning (by Natalie Lauren)
Minisode: God & I need to go to therapy
We hope you enjoy this minisode ✨
Peace and love x
22. See ya!
21. It could get worse
Hey guys, we're back! After a break we're catching up with each other and diving into how our mental health has been challenged like never before in recent months. We're also reflecting on hindrances to our love lives, and discussing how easy we find it to comfort ourselves when we're down.
It's good to be back - enjoy today's episode!
Current faves: Adella on Youtube
20. You don’t want the cake
We’re back with another episode! Join us as we discuss how much we think we’ve grown since recording some of our fave episodes so far, and we get very distracted doing it too lol. Diving into topics such as advising friends, movies that make us cry, horror movies and sad love songs.
Also, we’re taking a little break for the next month, so join our Instagram live today @ 8pm for a chat before we go! We’ll be back in June!
Love always x
· Songs mentioned: For the good times ~ Al Green, He turned it ~ Tye Tribbet.
· Faves mentioned: The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill and Courage ~ Lianne La Havas.
19. Turn to your neighbour
Welcome back! In this Friday’s episode we’re discussing our experiences with finding a new church, and going into detail about our good, bad and ugly experiences with uni Christian fellowships.
Buckle up and enjoy the ride!
18. Next caller!
Happy Friday! This week is dedicated to all our listeners as we are addressing your dilemmas! Everything from Christian dating, bringing a friend to church and pole dancing at Bible study. Get our insight on these dilemmas and we hope you have a laugh whilst listening in.
Peace and love x
17. Don't provoke me to anger
Welcome back! Today we are switching things up with some general chitchat, giving our 2 cents on recent events. You can expect conversation around the Christian community's response to Lil Nas X latest video, our pet peeves with birthday celebrations, Derrick Jaxn and toxic friendships. We also dive into discussion around our post lockdown plans and the artists that we cannot wait to see in concert!
We hope that you enjoy this one x
Minisode: The lady, her lover & the Lord
16. Playing with eternal placement
Minisode: The Holy Washing Machine
Today's minisode was suggested by you - a trip down memory lane to the Christian media we had growing up, from music to TV shows and movies! And on the other hand, what were we forbidden from watching because it was too worldy and inappropriate for 'children of God'? Lol! Reminisce with us and enjoy x
Mentioned: The Holy Washing Machine
15. Sweet Mother
We're back! To honour Mother's Day this Sunday, today we're talking about motherhood and our perceptions and experiences with our mums from childhood until now. What do you have in common with your mum? Are you her "favourite child?" Also, what do we think of the parallels drawn between motherhood and womanhood, and the way people may intertwine them? Enjoy this episode and treat your mum this Sunday!
Current faves mentioned: How Great Medley - Israel & New Breed, He Still loves me - Fighting Temptations
14. I can speak to dreams, they will come true
Welcome back! Join us today as we talk about dreams, both personal and general. How much can we draw similarities between what we experience in real life and what we experience in our dreams, and is there a message and/or meaning behind them all? We're also discussing whether God speaks to us through all of our night-time experiences, be them classified as 'God', 'soulish' or 'demonic' dreams. Brace yourself, and enjoy!
Current faves mentioned: New Rivers TV, The Clark Sisters - Livin'
13. Deep in my heart, the answer it was in me
We're back with another other episode! This is part 2 of our interviews, where we're asking each other questions that make us look deep inside for answers. Today, Joyce is interviewing Adefela with questions like, 'What do you think being in love feels like?', and 'What kind of parent do you think you'll be?' We hope this episode gives you even more questions to ask yourself in the effort to know and understand yourself more, and to ask the people you care about in the effort to know more about them. These are questions we don't ask ourselves on a casual basis. Enjoy part 2 - let's get introspective!
Adefela's blog: somevariables.org
12. I don't believe in happy tears
Welcome back! Over the next couple of episodes, we'll be interviewing each other, with questions as simple as 'Do you like your hair?', to thought evoking ones like, 'What burdens your mind?'. Today we're starting off with Adefela interviewing Joyce. Besides you getting to know Joyce, we hope this episode gives you some questions to ask yourself in the effort to know and understand yourself more, and to ask the people you care about in the effort to know more about them. These are questions we don't ask ourselves on a casual basis. Enjoy this one - let's get introspective!
Adefela's blog: somevariables.org
11. How does gender qualify submission?
10. Definition is overrated, frizz is fantastic
Today we're celebrating 10 episodes of So You Can Relate! We're so happy to have made it to double digits, and we thank you for sticking by us thus far. Now, let's talk about hair! Listen in as we discuss our hair journeys, horror stories, the natural hair movement, and our current perceptions of Black hair. Why does Joyce say that hair can be political, and why is Adefela concerned about texturism and excessive protective styling? Of course, we'll cover all this and more in the episode. Relax and enjoy as we talk about all things hair!
Minisode: Whatever you feed will grow
We're back with another minisode! We always have so much to say and they're getting longer lol. Today we're talking about our stance on love languages, personality tests and horoscopes - do we identify with them? We're figuring out how safe it is for Christians to read into beliefs that contrast with ours as God tells us who we are, and the situations where reading into these things could be most helpful. Enjoy this one and have a wonderful weekend!
Verses referenced in minisode:
'Star signs/pagan practises' - Deuteronomy 18:10-14,
'All things to all men' - 1 Corinthians 9:19-23.
Reading around these scriptures gives context to them, and enables your deeper understanding of them!
9. Nobody airs like God.
Happy Friday! Today we're rounding off last week's evangelism topic: How do we evangelise freedom in Christ to those who already feel free without Him? Also, what do we think about missionary work as a neo-colonial act?
We're also playing a game to figure out just how churchy we are given our Christian upbringings, whilst discussing things we've seen on Christian Twitter, such as whether or not free will is nothing but a myth! Enjoy this episode x
Links mentioned in episode:
Preston Perry's BOLDtv channel: Apologetics with Preston Perry - YouTube
Honey Haven: Beauty | Honey Haven
8. One thing to be born, another thing to stay alive
Hello! After a slight delay we are back with a discussion about our relationships with testimonies, overcoming insecurities, building self-confidence, and self-help. Whew! Today's episode is loaded and longer than usual - we hope you're touched by our conversation and compelled to move past insecurities and negative self-perceptions that have been holding you back. We'll be returning to the studio soon - in the meantime, enjoy today's episode!
Minisode: I feel led to pray at 3am
We're back with another minisode! Today we're opening up about where we are in our faith journeys, what we wish to improve on, and the things we miss about unrestricted fellowship. We're also discussing what it means when you feel far from God, and the danger of saying "I'm just not there yet" with many things in our faith. Enjoy this short one!
7. The government doesn't have the mandate!
Wishing you a Happy New Year - may this one be full of joy and growth! Today we're talking about our relationship with time and nostalgia, and how this links to the value of living authentically. We're also sharing our love for Small Axe, what it teaches us about the history of the Black British identity, and how we maintain a balance between our ethnicity and nationality with this all in mind. (This was recorded before London was moved into tier 4). Enjoy, and here's to 2021!
6. Faith over feelings, as they say...
Merry Christmas to you and yours! Join our talk about Christmas past, present and future, as Adefela reveals herself as the Grinch while Joyce loves all things Christmas! We're also discussing our efforts to figure out what a Christian should actually look like, and straying from the faith despite one's upbringing. Also, what's with people condemning others while a log remains in their own eye? Have a wonderful Christmas day!
5. You're always asking me for money.
Today we're getting into our transition into adulthood. What did we think being an adult meant when we were younger, and how do we know when we're in the thick of it? We're also discussing money and independence - why is it that we're so focused on depending on no one but ourselves, and does this indicate deeper issues that should be fixed through therapy?
Get to know us!
4. Losing a friend like you is like missing the bus
We are back! Let's talk about friendship - how easy we find it to make friends, setting boundaries within friendships, our school memories, and the wonderful topic of insecurities. Enjoy!
3. Rising up could mean paying the ultimate price
Today's episode brings us back to #ENDSARS and social justice. We're discussing performative activism and whether we're living in the midst of a revolution. Also, the search for a sense of belonging, and the constant wonder of where God is when we need Him.
2. I'm single, so I'll become a missionary in Ghana
Welcome back! Today we're discussing being single forever, and how much it's seriously considered. We're also touching on the dynamics of marriage, the emphasis placed on intentional dating, and seeking God when he feels like a mystery.
1. I wanna enjoy and then come back to Christ!
Welcome to our first episode! Today we're discussing all things from our experiences as leaders in uni Christian fellowships, to our regrets, salvation, convictions, and our dislike for bowling as the only acceptable Christian group activity - enjoy!