Steadfast Life Coaching

Paige’ 18th birthday is 4 days away …I made it.  I raised a teenager!!!

I’ve learned a lot through mistakes and successes over these teenage years and somehow my daughter has turned out to be an amazing, adventurous, independent, Christ loving, book writing, virtue filled human being.

This is my take on why 🙂

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We teach you how to awaken your inner athlete to prevent quits, self judgement, negative self talk, disconnection, and pressure as you pursue God's purpose for your life.

There are 3 super fun ways to work with us

1. Lifetime Access to our group coaching program called "Remain Steadfast"

Everyone is always asking “What’s the deal with the snakes?” …and it’s a fair question.  There aren’t many social media accounts for life coaches that include equal parts life change posts and snake posts!!

The truth is that it all started as a journey I took with fear that resulted in the powerful knowledge that fear doesn’t actually know anything even though we tend to give status as if it knows the future, loves us, and is warning us of the certain doom that awaits.

Fun side note …I was literally lost in a mess of cedar trees when I thought I heard the Holy Spirit said, “Now - Record it now.”  So there you go.

Be entertained

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We teach you how to awaken your inner athlete to prevent quits, self judgement, negative self talk, disconnection, and pressure as you pursue God's purpose for your life.

There are 3 super fun ways to work with us

1. Lifetime Access to our group coaching program called "Remain Steadfast"

Whit lost her father earlier this month and I watched navigate the tightrope of living a life of faith in Jesus Christ and all he promises while simultaneously experiencing WAVES of sadness and loss.

The blessing for me - and for you - is that Whit is a pro! (Not perfect, but a PRO) and I got to see what it looks like when an ELITE LIFE ATHLETE is faced with the loss of her dad and I had the opportunity to learn from her courage, love, and resilience.

Don’t miss this one!

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We teach you how to awaken your inner athlete to prevent quits, self judgement, negative self talk, disconnection, and pressure as you pursue God's purpose for your life.

There are 3 super fun ways to work with us

1. Lifetime Access to our group coaching program called "Remain Steadfast"

Happy Valentine’s Day!!!  In honor of this celebration of love and relationships I figured I talk a bit about fighting with Whit 🤣

I’m sure you already know and practice “getting some air” - but is it an “I need to get some air” like …you’re so annoying you’ve made me need to get air?  Or is it more like “My next step in being a great teammate is getting some air?”

Rather than walking around ruminating and fuming about how wrong your spouse was, what if you had a 6 step process to go through while you were out there.  A process guaranteed to help you walk back in the door as the person who can show up in this particular situation JUST as it is.

This could change everything!!

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We teach you how to awaken your inner athlete to prevent quits, self judgement, negative self talk, disconnection, and pressure as you pursue God's purpose for your life.

There are 3 super fun ways to work with us

1. Lifetime Access to our group coaching program called "Remain Steadfast"

There are people who play sports and there are athletes  - you will find that not everyone who plays sports is an athlete, and not every athlete plays sports.  The classification of “Athlete” comes down to values:

An Athlete values a friendly relationship with discomfort

An Athlete values developing the SKILL of self talk

An Athlete values taking 100% responsibility and REFUSES to blame

An Athlete values teammates and contribution to something bigger than themselves

An Athlete values the process and is driven to find the next 1% adjustment

To awaken the athlete that is living inside of you, try asking these 5 questions about the next challenge you face:

1. What purpose will this discomfort serve in my life?
2. What would I say to a teammate or friend in this situation?
3. How do I want to respond in this moment without needing anything to change?
4. What is one easy adjustment I can make immediately?
5. How does it help others for me to show up my best?

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We teach you how to awaken your inner athlete to prevent quits, self judgement, negative self talk, disconnection, and pressure as you pursue God's purpose for your life.

There are 3 super fun ways to work with us

1. Lifetime Access to our group coaching program called "Remain Steadfast"

“You are a child of God” - Have you already heard this 4 billion times?  Do you even remember why it matters? …I struggle with the same thing.

So let’s dive into it - why does it matter what family you belong to?  What if you were a Kennedy?  A Manning?  A Kardashian? …what if you were a member of a family whose last name is CHRIST?

You see, it matters!!

In this episode of the Steadfast Life Podcast you will learn what it means to actually live as though God is your Dad.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We teach you how to awaken your inner athlete to prevent quits, self judgement, negative self talk, disconnection, and pressure as you pursue God's purpose for your life.

There are 3 super fun ways to work with us

1. Lifetime Access to our group coaching program called "Remain Steadfast"

The purpose of trash talk is to decrease the effectiveness of a player who is clearly effective.  Your opponent is attempting to decrease your performance.

Once you understand the  purpose, then you have the knowledge to avoid many of the traps of your own trash talk.

We often trick ourselves by wondering if there is any value in our self criticism.  The old tough love or “iron sharpens iron” defense.  But when you understand trash talk in competition, you understand that it only has ONE PURPOSE …to decrease performance.

When dealing with opposing fans - NEVER TRY TO CHANGE THEIR TUNE!!  It can’t be done, they have an agenda.  To get you to shut down!  The opposing fans are not offering you a balanced assessment of your strengths and growth areas.  They are trying to get you to stop attempting to be great in hopes that you won’t be.

God wants big things for you - the enemy wants to decrease your effectiveness.  Believe God!

Of course - Jesus is the answer, I want to find my joy in Jesus, I want to put my worth in Jesus, Jesus is trustworthy therefore I never need to worry, and I am righteous because of Him.  Soooooo I guess I don’t need a coach …but I do

The main reason - because God chose to limit His authority when it comes to my mind.

As Joyce Meyers puts it -

“You are the only one that can deal with your thoughts.  It’s not something that another person can do for you. You are the only one that can do anything about your thoughts. There’s not a person alive that doesn’t have to choose to not think something and they think something else. Every single day”

There are a lot of coaches who can teach you how to take your thoughts captive. There are SOME who will then help you make them obedient to christ.

There are a lot of coaches who can help you to be intentional about where you find you worth, value, and identity. There are SOME who will help you make sure that identity is a child of the living God.

There are a lot of coaches who embrace a specific lifestyle.  There are some who invite you to join them.

If you’re ready to join Whit and I for a lifestyle of amazing ADVENTURE, BOLDLY following Christ, recklessly BELIEVING that your Heavenly Father wants to partner with you to pursue the MASSIVE dreams He has put in your heart - then we’re excited to meet you nd grateful to have you on the team.  Let’s be “Teammates in Christ”

FAITH - Is the belief that, when you seek it with Himt, your vision will be provided to you by God, not because you're so awesome at creating it, but because He is so awesome at gifting it.

HOPE - Is the vision. Your faith gives you permission to hope bigger than your capabilities and then rather than try to be more capable, you can decide to be more faithful.

LOVE - Is all that we are asked to do in the meantime and after it comes to fruition. Following His commands is not to be confused with earning anything because THIS IS MY COMMANDMENT - that you love one another as I have loved you.

What a relief huh? Get your vision. Believe it is coming. Then Love people!!

If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. - 1 Cor 13:1-2

1. Your desire for the breakthrough is less than your desire for another purchase
2. You can make the change on your own
3. You already provide more accountability to yourself than you care to have
4. You know that someone else’s path to success is not the same as yours
5. You are not looking to inflate yourself - you are looking glorify Jesus with your life

I’m sure you have a lot of thoughts about life coaching - so do I.  I’ve worked with about 15 different coaches in different capacities …personal, marriage, business, group settings, individual settings, and sometimes just Whit, a coach, and me.

We have purchased lifetime coaching for $57 and we have paid $20k for a 4 month coaching program.  We’ve been in programs with a specific goal and programs designed at simply upleveling our mindset.

There are some legitimate reasons that life coaching would be a waste of your time, money, and energy.

…and there are reasons that the amount of time, money and energy you are wasting because you don’t have a coach is what is REALLY draining your reserves of all 3.

Just do me this favor - if you’ve never been coached, embrace the possibility that someone who has been coached as much as I have might have a nugget of information you’ll find valuable.

Sometimes God delivers the breakthrough you’re craving in the snap of a finger …and sometimes you’re going to have to “go through it” if you want the breakthrough.  I don’t know how He decides, but I know this.  Whit and I have a specific calling on our life to team up with Believers who are in their own “go through it” breakthrough and lend our expertise to make sure they don’t stop “going through it” before they reach the peace God has waiting for them on the other side

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

We eat food because we desire it

We over eat food because we over desire it

Over desire is caused by 3 factors:

1. Hormones
2. Patterns
3. Unpleasant Emotions

Every GOOD life coach already knows this and can help you lower that desire, but what does it look like to take this incredible knowledge from the secular world of self-help and align with the teaching and values of Christ?

I’ll tell you what it looks like!  It looks STEADFAST

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

“Have faith in God.” - Jesus

What if trusting God is the greatest gift I can offer Him?  In that case the more dire the situation, the more honoring the trust.

So how cool would it be to adjust the way you see the world in such a way that you ACTUALLY believe that God works ALL things for your good?

Pretty scary?

…Or would it change everything?

One of the most important questions that Whit and I are called on to answer is, “How do I forgive myself?”

In this video, I break the process down into 4 parts.

First - let’s get clear on the general idea of forgiveness toward others

Second - we’ll take a look at the value of self forgiveness, so you’ll know exactly WHY you are doing it for those moments when it gets difficult

Third - you’ll learn the process that we use with clients, so you can guide yourself through it.

Last - we’ll do it …right here on the video

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Last Saturday I reached the top of Lone Pine Peak alongside Renee Watson and my daughter, Paige Roehl.  When we reached the bottom, Paige said, “Dad, that was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.”

After we had water and food, I asked Renee and Paige if they would share some insights into their mindset, fears, and self talk during the morning’s adventure - they happily agreed.

How do you keep climbing when you’re terrified …for good reason?

How do you keep climbing when you think you can’t take 5 more minutes and the next turn reveals there will be no mercy for hours?

Why even go in the first place?

Paige and Renee both have incredible insights into the struggle and success of REMAINING STEADFAST in the face of adversity that will translate directly to the mountains in YOUR life.

Truly I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them.
Mark 11:23

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

We all KNOW the benefits of play …

Reduced stress, recharge, increased ability to be present, access to flow state, increased creativity and innovation …and a more fun life!!!

…but so many of us don’t know how to do it, or are unwilling to prioritize it over productivity, so we just DON’T.

This video was filmed playfully …in the mountains, in one take, with a phone propped up on a boulder, and even a dog that jumped into a lake during filming.  It was filmed playfully to honor playfulness!!

Take 15 minutes and learn how you can add more playfulness to your day.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Caylea is an up and coming pop artist who writes, performs, and produces her own music …and it all started because the family iMac her parents purchased for the family came loaded with Garage Band.

Caylea was courageous enough to peel back the curtain with full vulnerability to share her fears, her doubt, her dreams and her desire to surrender it all to God.

This 30 minute video will inspire you, it will show you that your fears don’t have to stop you, it will deepen your relationship with God as you pursue YOUR dreams

…AND it will give you a sneak peak into what coaching with Whit and Jake really looks like.

You know you’ve been wondering!!

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

I recently read the book: Mind, Mouth, Mood, and Attitude and had my mind blown.  Here are some of the things Joyce said that made me smile with excitement.

Check it out for yourself:  https://www.amazon.com/Mind-Mouth-Moods-Attitudes-audiobook/dp/B01AYA38I6

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

We run into Christians who have some questions that usually fit in 1 of 2 basic categories:

1. I have Jesus, why would I need coaching, plus, isn’t it kind of idolatrous to be thinking I can “self-help”?
2. Are you just going to tell me to pray about it and that it’s all part of God’s plan?  I know that’s true, but it is not going to help me right now.

We just decided to address them both head on.  SPOILER ALERT: The short answer to both is “NO”

Additionally - the next place this conversation tends to go is, “Jake, where do you and Whit fit into all of this?  What do you even do?”

We figured we’d answer that too!  SPOILER ALERT: We teach you Self-Trust …you learn to Trust U

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

On May 27th 2016 I sent a message to one "Whitney Joeckel" on the dating app Ok Cupid.  May 28th she responded ...and May 30th we met in person for the first time.  But here's the crazy part ...on May 26th I was completely unaware that Whit existed and I had tons of stories about what was possible for me, what limits were "just facts" about my life, and what my best course of action was for the life that was in front of me. 

It was all 100% WRONG!!  

With that experience in my back pocket, I reflect on the lessons I learned from it each May 26th.  So now - 6 years later - this is what I want to offer to you:  

1. "Behind" isn't real 

2. You're not as smart as you think you are 

3. Real faith surrenders control 

4. Confidence comes from your self talk ...and ONLY from your self talk

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Just because you know what a hammer is and what it is for doesn’t mean you have achieved mastery - that comes from building your SKILL at using the tool.

The same is true with belief - awareness of the tools doesn’t give you authority over your thinking, but building these 5 skills does!!

The Skills of Belief:

1. The Skill of Perspective
2. The Skill of Focus
3. The Skill of Self-Trust
4. The Skill of Emotional Maturity
5. The Skill of Self Respect

Want to learn the specific path to belief that we teach our clients …The 7 step process to taking authority over your beliefs that combines these tools and skills?  Let’s talk about working together to make your SOMEday your TUESday!!

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

When you’re building a house, there are tools that make things go way faster once you know they exist …then there are the skills of knowing just how and when to use each individual tool

The same is true with belief - you don’t have to just believe whatever pops into your head and hope that someday you believe stuff that helps you be the person you want to be.  There are tools  that make things go way faster when you’re setting out to build belief.

The Tools of Belief:

1. Awareness of Belief
2. Relationship with Belief
3. Turning the Dials of Belief
4. The Experience of Choosing your Belief
5. Remaining Steadfast with your Belief

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Mark 9:24  Immediately the boy’s father exclaimed, “I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!”

There is a HUGE myth about belief that keeps us feeling stuck and feeling guilty.  The myth is this:  Belief is something outside of me that will take root in me once there is enough evidence to support it.

When we subscribe to this myth, our doubt is a problem that requires a solution.  But that’s a lie!

Take Aways:

1. Belief is a decision …and only a decision
2. Jesus understood the myth and taught us how to break free from it
3. No one can tell me what I believe - for better or worse.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

I had a great conversation with Enneagram coach Kelsey Taylor where we dove into some layers that lie underneath “The Number”  . We talked about skepticism, application, her personal testimony, and how Christians sometimes look on self help tools like this one with suspicion.

Kelsey patiently walked me through my questions ..as she does :)  …and now YOU get to benefit from her expertise.

Take Aways:

1. The same tools and skills that are promoted through in depth study of yourself through the lens of your enneagram number are present in The Gospel
2. Your enneagram number does not predict what you will do …you have full authority over that.  The enneagram gives you the scouting report on your specific formula for motivation
3. When you learn what you focus on, you will become aware of what you tend to miss.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Whit headed out to California to grow her mind with some of the best in the world, and I got to spend 96 hours with my son who needs a bottle every 3rd one.  I decided to use the same technique we coach clients with:  Plan, Execute, Evaluate, Adjust …and I documented it as I went so we can ALL learn from the film room :)

Lessons:

1. Plans are better held loosely otherwise I spend my energy trying to bend reality to meet the fantasy I created rather than adjusting my response to the situation I’m actually in
2. Taking authority over my experience of life is about building skills and learning to use tools, not getting to the top of a mountain so I can check it off my bucket list.  Beating myself up for feeling out of control is an indication that I am misunderstanding this journey
3. It takes energy to interrupt the pattern you’re in, but if you don’t like what the pattern is producing, that is energy well spent.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Having a front row seat to Whitney’s journey through a new type of difficult time, I wanted to share some observations on the specific qualities that both inspired and blessed me in hopes that you will be inspired to bless others.

I unpack:

1. Her relentless pursuit of “Eureka” as she navigates the 2 great pitfalls of self growth
2. What massive action looks like when it is a value rather than a means to and end
3. Whitney’s powerful why - the one that is so powerful that sometimes I am just a passenger on the train her passion is driving

She has no idea I’m recording this - and probably wouldn't approve, don’t miss your opportunity to hear how amazing she is behind the curtain.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

We are currently 4 weeks into a MASSIVE life change as we are raising our son Maverick Jon.

Whit delivered Maverick on March 21st at 1:06pm and he was 1 foot 9 inches tall and weighed in at 8lbs 5oz

Since then - life has been a whirlwind of gratitude, doubts, immeasurable blessings, and overwhelming fears.  We know we have amazing mindset skills …and we know that sleep is REQUIRED if we’re going to access them.  And this poses a problem

Bottom line is that Whitney and I are practicing what we preach (we’re pulling out every tool in the bag) and we decided to invite you in to peek behind the curtain and see how we do mindset in work in real time.

Check it out - take a little time to explore how default thinking can show up even in the midst of amazing miracles, and what you can do in those moments to take back your authority over your felt experience of live and REMAIN STEADFAST!!

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

We are in some unprecedented times in education - like teaching 7th graders who haven’t had a full year in a classroom since the 4th grade!!  And teachers asked to become IT experts and teach students they’ve never seen in person.

So what if we accepted this reality instead of trying to “should” it back to something it is not?  What if the innovating and creating to succeed in this situation actually applied to THIS situation instead of the situation we wish it was?  What if this could be JUST the adversity needed to create the most resilient generation of 40 year olds when they are taking the reigns of this country?  What part would you like to play in that?

Some of the topics we covered in this ONE HOUR zoom session:

1. What do I do when parents try to blame the teacher for their child not performing?

2. What to say to a student who complains that they “studied” for hours for the test and still did poorly

3. What to say to a student who asks for extra credit to help their grade but doesn’t even do the regular credit

4. How do I help students who don’t seem to care, even if their parents are providing a supportive environment and they don’t fully understand the consequences of their actions

5. How do I  deal with students who are distracted using cellphones in class

6. How do I incorporate growth mindset into classroom policies and procedures (but that doesn’t involve letting kids retake every test, etc.)

7. How do I help kids take more ownership of their education

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

There are certain emotions that are just a bit more enjoyable to experience than others and in full transparency, if resisting, numbing, or pretending they weren’t there actually worked - I’d be the first in line to learn how to do it.

But the truth is that the more we try to resist an emotion, the louder it gets …and if we numb is or deny it, it’s only a matter of time until it breaks free with a vengeance.

So what if you tried a different approach?  What if you allowed it?  What if you accepted ALL emotion as part of your life?  What if you made a habit of learning the lesson it was offering you instead of telling it to be quiet and go away?

That’s what this episode is all about.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Whit and I had the chance to coach the amazing Skye Dumont and you get to sit in on the session.

• Learn about her framework for obstacles
• Understand how she sees her journey and where Whit spots adjustments in her thinking
• Gain insights into her vision for her future, her plan for stewarding her blessings, and her decision making process as she sets out to impact the next generation.

This is a great opportunity to let her example inspire you and to see how an outside view of your journey can launch you through obstacles that could take months on your own.

Get to know Skye here: https://www.instagram.com/skyedumont/

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Enjoy this Q&A with Whit as she gets vulnerable about the fears, the negative self-talk, the uncertainty - and the compassion that changed it all.

If you are looking for big growth, but find that you are denying yourself the experience of being grateful for the blessings you’ve already received.  You’ve got to check this out.

It is safe to wish things were different AND feel gratitude at the same time!!

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Powerful question - is that 100% true?  Because if it’s not, then its not a fact - it’s a choice

We make the choice (consciously or subconsciously), then we never look back and think it was a fact.  No problem - unless its a problem and I start believing that dreams of mine are impossible because of these “facts” I have chosen over the past 30 years.

Here’s what I want you to try:

1. Think about your dream or goal and why it is difficult to achieve
2. Set a timer for 5 minutes and write down EVERY sentence that comes to mind
3. Read them and find one or two that might be excuses or limitations
4. Ask yourself: “Is that 100% true?” …and if it’s not, then
5. Ask yourself: “Do I want to keep on choosing that belief?”

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

When you set out on an adventure, people love to say, “Be safe out there.” …and I totally get what they mean, but the TRUTH is that being safe is NOT why we got there.

In school we’d always hear adults sayin, “Safety first.” - but I believe that is why so many people have a hard time making the big change that will lead to their new identity, making the big investment that will lead to financial freedom, or taking the risk that will build their resiliency.

So what if you tried something new - what if every time you heard yourself whisper “safety first” you whispered back “no - safety second.”  It’s just a little reminder that you don’t REALLY want safety to be your top priority.

In this video I was inspired (basically to tears) by:

Havilah Cunnington: https://shop.truthtotable.com/

Ausitn Fischer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SEm3_aE89-w

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

We all believe that holding our standards and demanding people rise to meet them is a powerful stance - but it is NOT!!

The most powerful person in the room is the person who does not need anyone in the room to do or be any particular thing in order for them to be okay.

The person who has the self awareness to know what it is they are hoping to get when the world changes to meet their expectations, then builds the skill of offering it to themselves …so THEY hold the power instead of the world.

Want to learn how to become aware of the places you are giving your power away?  Want it back?

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Cognitively we KNOW that forgiveness is a good thing, but what about our safety?

If I forgive, doesn’t that just let them off the hook?

Doesn’t it remove ANY accountability for their actions?

How will they learn their lesson?

Won’t people just walk all over me?

Let’s take a look at options that become available if forgiveness is safe!

And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” - Mark 11:25

Here’s the link to the meditation I use: https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com/products/meditations/categories/3660876/posts/12858462

Comment if you want me to send you the forgiveness script that Whit and I use.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Dr. Bob Rotella puts it in his book "Golf is Not a Game of Perfect”:

"The trusting mentality is essential for getting ready to play competitively. If you want to be able to trust your swing on the golf course, you have to spend time doing it on the practice tee. Human beings are creatures of habit.

They cannot, as a general rule, spend all of their practice time in the training mentality and then switch to the trusting mentality for competition.

…so how do you practice in a trusting mindset if you need to have enough reps before you can REALLY trust your game?

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“I can’t disappoint people - I just have a big heart” - Do you? Or are you really just avoiding the emotion that comes up when your actions don’t match someone else’s expectation?

Disappointing people is simply a name we give to the experience of making choices that don’t match OTHER people's expectations.  There are a lot of times when taking the value aligned action that defines showing up authentically is to everyone’s benefit.  Especially when it is the only way to pursue the mission that God has charged us to steward.

So how do you foster the art of disappointing people?

1. Know your values - answer the tough questions
2. Check in with yourself before, during, and after
3. Build your capacity to feel what comes up

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

There is NO benefit to guilt!!  Okay ...maybe there’s a tiny miniscule benefit, but the way you show up in guilt is so unhealthy that even THAT doesn’t get to add value to your life.

So what DOES it look like to show up WELL in guilt?

1. You don’t over explain yourself
2. You don’t always change the plan you made before it was challenged
3. You don’t resist guilt or allow it to drive your choices
4. You trust yourself to make a value aligned decision in real time

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Skip the “pros and cons list” it’s ineffective and it leads you to this stressful place where your decision making skill is more like future predicting skill.  If I have to know the future to make good choices ...then yes, I am definitely living in stress!!

So what if you separated the SKILL of choosing from the outcome?  What if you elevated your experience of choosing?  How fast could you move forward then?

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

The thing about myths is that they tend to keep us in a box.  Then we use the limits of the box to determine if we’re doing good or bad - and if we are or are not capable of success in the future.

In this episodes, Whit Busts these FOUR MYTHS about weightloss

1. I MUST eat perfectly at least 80% of the time to lose weight
2. I MUST workout 3-5 times per week to lose weight
3. I MUST become a “health freak” to lose weight
4. I MUST shame myself for errors so that I can stay accountable in order to lose weight.

Any of these seem true to you?

Yeah ...that’s the thing about myths.  The problem is that we believe them.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

It’s a pretty common cycle when you’re trying to change an eating habit - restrict, overeat, guilt, restrict ...ad nauseum.  The big error is actually WHERE we attempt to disrupt this cycle.  Right in the little space between restrict and fail.

The REAL culprit is the guilt!

Without guilt, you can evaluate, you can learn, you can experiment, you can make 1% adjustments, you can find out what works best for you now, and you can understand how to make adjustments as needed in the future.

With guilt - you punish, you berate, you force, you deny, you suffer, you battle, you judge ...and you overeat ...again.

It’s not you - it’s the guilt!  Learn how to elevate your relationship with food to place beyond guilt.  Understand your TRUE authority over this cycle!

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

I've wanted to be the hero since I can remember.  My first concussion came from jumping off of a boulder onto my dad without him knowing because I had seen the hero do it on TV.

Unfortunately that incident was not enough to teach me the danger of the love affair with swooping to the rescue.  When I became a father, in my mind it was hero or failure.  I set out to be my daughter's hero ...and full transparency, it was more like her invincible, bulletproof, unstoppable SUPER hero.

It was WAY too much pressure because it turns out I am, in fact, mortal.  I truth that punched my right in the face when I had to sit down and tell her that the security I had assured her would last forever was actually a security too heavy for me to carry and that it was all about to come crashing down ..and she was going to get hurt.  I couldn't protect her this time.  Even worse, I was the one that was about to hurt her.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

You open the fridge, you see the cupcakes, you’re tired - it’s been a long day, you decide to just eat one, then you feel terrible.  WHY would I eat that at 10pm??  Now the one next to it starts to look really good - and you know where it goes from here.

Whit and Jake do it too - we eat refined sugar, empty calories, the foods that make our joints hurt or make us feel bloated ...and we do it because it is just such an easy way to feel a little bit better.

But the story doesn’t have to end there.  When you experience this, it is NOT the final nail in the coffin or the straw or the camel’s back.  It’s part of being a human being and it doesn’t have to stop you from reaching your health goals.  You don’t even have to punish yourself to get “back on track” ...there’s no track.  It’s a metaphor.  It’s an analogy.

The Holidays are fast approaching and Whit and I hear so much about the “stress” of the time period.  In this video we decided to tackle the topic head on!!

1. We built a scouting report around stress
2. We learned to recognize it in all 5 of its forms (Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Flop)
3. We chose to allow it
4. We build a mental framework that helps it do it’s thing and move on

And we chest a little at the end by talking about the process of simply placing it at the feet of Jesus :)

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Your identity becomes a filter through which all possibilities for your life must pass.  That makes the ability and desire to adjust the settings on that filter extremely important.

If you a business builder, you know first hand that your business has an identity of it’s own - and THAT identity is going to have a massive impact on what is possible for your business.

Take a behind the scenes look at the role IDENTITY plays in business building and how it has shaped Jake and Whit.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.