Steadfast Life Coaching

Paige’ 18th birthday is 4 days away …I made it.  I raised a teenager!!!

I’ve learned a lot through mistakes and successes over these teenage years and somehow my daughter has turned out to be an amazing, adventurous, independent, Christ loving, book writing, virtue filled human being.

This is my take on why 🙂

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We teach you how to awaken your inner athlete to prevent quits, self judgement, negative self talk, disconnection, and pressure as you pursue God's purpose for your life.

There are 3 super fun ways to work with us

1. Lifetime Access to our group coaching program called "Remain Steadfast"

Everyone is always asking “What’s the deal with the snakes?” …and it’s a fair question.  There aren’t many social media accounts for life coaches that include equal parts life change posts and snake posts!!

The truth is that it all started as a journey I took with fear that resulted in the powerful knowledge that fear doesn’t actually know anything even though we tend to give status as if it knows the future, loves us, and is warning us of the certain doom that awaits.

Fun side note …I was literally lost in a mess of cedar trees when I thought I heard the Holy Spirit said, “Now - Record it now.”  So there you go.

Be entertained

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We teach you how to awaken your inner athlete to prevent quits, self judgement, negative self talk, disconnection, and pressure as you pursue God's purpose for your life.

There are 3 super fun ways to work with us

1. Lifetime Access to our group coaching program called "Remain Steadfast"

Whit lost her father earlier this month and I watched navigate the tightrope of living a life of faith in Jesus Christ and all he promises while simultaneously experiencing WAVES of sadness and loss.

The blessing for me - and for you - is that Whit is a pro! (Not perfect, but a PRO) and I got to see what it looks like when an ELITE LIFE ATHLETE is faced with the loss of her dad and I had the opportunity to learn from her courage, love, and resilience.

Don’t miss this one!

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We teach you how to awaken your inner athlete to prevent quits, self judgement, negative self talk, disconnection, and pressure as you pursue God's purpose for your life.

There are 3 super fun ways to work with us

1. Lifetime Access to our group coaching program called "Remain Steadfast"

Happy Valentine’s Day!!!  In honor of this celebration of love and relationships I figured I talk a bit about fighting with Whit 🤣

I’m sure you already know and practice “getting some air” - but is it an “I need to get some air” like …you’re so annoying you’ve made me need to get air?  Or is it more like “My next step in being a great teammate is getting some air?”

Rather than walking around ruminating and fuming about how wrong your spouse was, what if you had a 6 step process to go through while you were out there.  A process guaranteed to help you walk back in the door as the person who can show up in this particular situation JUST as it is.

This could change everything!!

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We teach you how to awaken your inner athlete to prevent quits, self judgement, negative self talk, disconnection, and pressure as you pursue God's purpose for your life.

There are 3 super fun ways to work with us

1. Lifetime Access to our group coaching program called "Remain Steadfast"

There are people who play sports and there are athletes  - you will find that not everyone who plays sports is an athlete, and not every athlete plays sports.  The classification of “Athlete” comes down to values:

An Athlete values a friendly relationship with discomfort

An Athlete values developing the SKILL of self talk

An Athlete values taking 100% responsibility and REFUSES to blame

An Athlete values teammates and contribution to something bigger than themselves

An Athlete values the process and is driven to find the next 1% adjustment

To awaken the athlete that is living inside of you, try asking these 5 questions about the next challenge you face:

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We teach you how to awaken your inner athlete to prevent quits, self judgement, negative self talk, disconnection, and pressure as you pursue God's purpose for your life.

There are 3 super fun ways to work with us

1. Lifetime Access to our group coaching program called "Remain Steadfast"

“You are a child of God” - Have you already heard this 4 billion times?  Do you even remember why it matters? …I struggle with the same thing.

So let’s dive into it - why does it matter what family you belong to?  What if you were a Kennedy?  A Manning?  A Kardashian? …what if you were a member of a family whose last name is CHRIST?

You see, it matters!!

In this episode of the Steadfast Life Podcast you will learn what it means to actually live as though God is your Dad.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We teach you how to awaken your inner athlete to prevent quits, self judgement, negative self talk, disconnection, and pressure as you pursue God's purpose for your life.

There are 3 super fun ways to work with us

1. Lifetime Access to our group coaching program called "Remain Steadfast"

The purpose of trash talk is to decrease the effectiveness of a player who is clearly effective.  Your opponent is attempting to decrease your performance.

Once you understand the  purpose, then you have the knowledge to avoid many of the traps of your own trash talk.

We often trick ourselves by wondering if there is any value in our self criticism.  The old tough love or “iron sharpens iron” defense.  But when you understand trash talk in competition, you understand that it only has ONE PURPOSE …to decrease performance.

When dealing with opposing fans - NEVER TRY TO CHANGE THEIR TUNE!!  It can’t be done, they have an agenda.  To get you to shut down!  The opposing fans are not offering you a balanced assessment of your strengths and growth areas.  They are trying to get you to stop attempting to be great in hopes that you won’t be.

God wants big things for you - the enemy wants to decrease your effectiveness.  Believe God!

Of course - Jesus is the answer, I want to find my joy in Jesus, I want to put my worth in Jesus, Jesus is trustworthy therefore I never need to worry, and I am righteous because of Him.  Soooooo I guess I don’t need a coach …but I do

The main reason - because God chose to limit His authority when it comes to my mind.

As Joyce Meyers puts it -

“You are the only one that can deal with your thoughts.  It’s not something that another person can do for you. You are the only one that can do anything about your thoughts. There’s not a person alive that doesn’t have to choose to not think something and they think something else. Every single day”

There are a lot of coaches who can teach you how to take your thoughts captive. There are SOME who will then help you make them obedient to christ.

There are a lot of coaches who can help you to be intentional about where you find you worth, value, and identity. There are SOME who will help you make sure that identity is a child of the living God.

There are a lot of coaches who embrace a specific lifestyle.  There are some who invite you to join them.

If you’re ready to join Whit and I for a lifestyle of amazing ADVENTURE, BOLDLY following Christ, recklessly BELIEVING that your Heavenly Father wants to partner with you to pursue the MASSIVE dreams He has put in your heart - then we’re excited to meet you nd grateful to have you on the team.  Let’s be “Teammates in Christ”

FAITH - Is the belief that, when you seek it with Himt, your vision will be provided to you by God, not because you're so awesome at creating it, but because He is so awesome at gifting it.

HOPE - Is the vision. Your faith gives you permission to hope bigger than your capabilities and then rather than try to be more capable, you can decide to be more faithful.

LOVE - Is all that we are asked to do in the meantime and after it comes to fruition. Following His commands is not to be confused with earning anything because THIS IS MY COMMANDMENT - that you love one another as I have loved you.

What a relief huh? Get your vision. Believe it is coming. Then Love people!!

If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. - 1 Cor 13:1-2

I’m sure you have a lot of thoughts about life coaching - so do I.  I’ve worked with about 15 different coaches in different capacities …personal, marriage, business, group settings, individual settings, and sometimes just Whit, a coach, and me.

We have purchased lifetime coaching for $57 and we have paid $20k for a 4 month coaching program.  We’ve been in programs with a specific goal and programs designed at simply upleveling our mindset.

There are some legitimate reasons that life coaching would be a waste of your time, money, and energy.

…and there are reasons that the amount of time, money and energy you are wasting because you don’t have a coach is what is REALLY draining your reserves of all 3.

Just do me this favor - if you’ve never been coached, embrace the possibility that someone who has been coached as much as I have might have a nugget of information you’ll find valuable.

Sometimes God delivers the breakthrough you’re craving in the snap of a finger …and sometimes you’re going to have to “go through it” if you want the breakthrough.  I don’t know how He decides, but I know this.  Whit and I have a specific calling on our life to team up with Believers who are in their own “go through it” breakthrough and lend our expertise to make sure they don’t stop “going through it” before they reach the peace God has waiting for them on the other side

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

We eat food because we desire it

We over eat food because we over desire it

Over desire is caused by 3 factors:

Every GOOD life coach already knows this and can help you lower that desire, but what does it look like to take this incredible knowledge from the secular world of self-help and align with the teaching and values of Christ?

I’ll tell you what it looks like!  It looks STEADFAST

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

“Have faith in God.” - Jesus

What if trusting God is the greatest gift I can offer Him?  In that case the more dire the situation, the more honoring the trust.

So how cool would it be to adjust the way you see the world in such a way that you ACTUALLY believe that God works ALL things for your good?

Pretty scary?

…Or would it change everything?

One of the most important questions that Whit and I are called on to answer is, “How do I forgive myself?”

In this video, I break the process down into 4 parts.

First - let’s get clear on the general idea of forgiveness toward others

Second - we’ll take a look at the value of self forgiveness, so you’ll know exactly WHY you are doing it for those moments when it gets difficult

Third - you’ll learn the process that we use with clients, so you can guide yourself through it.

Last - we’ll do it …right here on the video

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Last Saturday I reached the top of Lone Pine Peak alongside Renee Watson and my daughter, Paige Roehl.  When we reached the bottom, Paige said, “Dad, that was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.”

After we had water and food, I asked Renee and Paige if they would share some insights into their mindset, fears, and self talk during the morning’s adventure - they happily agreed.

How do you keep climbing when you’re terrified …for good reason?

How do you keep climbing when you think you can’t take 5 more minutes and the next turn reveals there will be no mercy for hours?

Why even go in the first place?

Paige and Renee both have incredible insights into the struggle and success of REMAINING STEADFAST in the face of adversity that will translate directly to the mountains in YOUR life.

Truly I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them.
Mark 11:23

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

We all KNOW the benefits of play …

Reduced stress, recharge, increased ability to be present, access to flow state, increased creativity and innovation …and a more fun life!!!

…but so many of us don’t know how to do it, or are unwilling to prioritize it over productivity, so we just DON’T.

This video was filmed playfully …in the mountains, in one take, with a phone propped up on a boulder, and even a dog that jumped into a lake during filming.  It was filmed playfully to honor playfulness!!

Take 15 minutes and learn how you can add more playfulness to your day.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Caylea is an up and coming pop artist who writes, performs, and produces her own music …and it all started because the family iMac her parents purchased for the family came loaded with Garage Band.

Caylea was courageous enough to peel back the curtain with full vulnerability to share her fears, her doubt, her dreams and her desire to surrender it all to God.

This 30 minute video will inspire you, it will show you that your fears don’t have to stop you, it will deepen your relationship with God as you pursue YOUR dreams

…AND it will give you a sneak peak into what coaching with Whit and Jake really looks like.

You know you’ve been wondering!!

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

I recently read the book: Mind, Mouth, Mood, and Attitude and had my mind blown.  Here are some of the things Joyce said that made me smile with excitement.

Check it out for yourself:  https://www.amazon.com/Mind-Mouth-Moods-Attitudes-audiobook/dp/B01AYA38I6

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

We run into Christians who have some questions that usually fit in 1 of 2 basic categories:

We just decided to address them both head on.  SPOILER ALERT: The short answer to both is “NO”

Additionally - the next place this conversation tends to go is, “Jake, where do you and Whit fit into all of this?  What do you even do?”

We figured we’d answer that too!  SPOILER ALERT: We teach you Self-Trust …you learn to Trust U

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

On May 27th 2016 I sent a message to one "Whitney Joeckel" on the dating app Ok Cupid.  May 28th she responded ...and May 30th we met in person for the first time.  But here's the crazy part ...on May 26th I was completely unaware that Whit existed and I had tons of stories about what was possible for me, what limits were "just facts" about my life, and what my best course of action was for the life that was in front of me. 

It was all 100% WRONG!!  

With that experience in my back pocket, I reflect on the lessons I learned from it each May 26th.  So now - 6 years later - this is what I want to offer to you:  

1. "Behind" isn't real 

2. You're not as smart as you think you are 

3. Real faith surrenders control 

4. Confidence comes from your self talk ...and ONLY from your self talk

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Just because you know what a hammer is and what it is for doesn’t mean you have achieved mastery - that comes from building your SKILL at using the tool.

The same is true with belief - awareness of the tools doesn’t give you authority over your thinking, but building these 5 skills does!!

The Skills of Belief:

Want to learn the specific path to belief that we teach our clients …The 7 step process to taking authority over your beliefs that combines these tools and skills?  Let’s talk about working together to make your SOMEday your TUESday!!

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

When you’re building a house, there are tools that make things go way faster once you know they exist …then there are the skills of knowing just how and when to use each individual tool

The same is true with belief - you don’t have to just believe whatever pops into your head and hope that someday you believe stuff that helps you be the person you want to be.  There are tools  that make things go way faster when you’re setting out to build belief.

The Tools of Belief:

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Mark 9:24  Immediately the boy’s father exclaimed, “I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!”

There is a HUGE myth about belief that keeps us feeling stuck and feeling guilty.  The myth is this:  Belief is something outside of me that will take root in me once there is enough evidence to support it.

When we subscribe to this myth, our doubt is a problem that requires a solution.  But that’s a lie!

Take Aways:

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

I had a great conversation with Enneagram coach Kelsey Taylor where we dove into some layers that lie underneath “The Number”  . We talked about skepticism, application, her personal testimony, and how Christians sometimes look on self help tools like this one with suspicion.

Kelsey patiently walked me through my questions ..as she does :)  …and now YOU get to benefit from her expertise.

Take Aways:

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Whit headed out to California to grow her mind with some of the best in the world, and I got to spend 96 hours with my son who needs a bottle every 3rd one.  I decided to use the same technique we coach clients with:  Plan, Execute, Evaluate, Adjust …and I documented it as I went so we can ALL learn from the film room :)

Lessons:

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Having a front row seat to Whitney’s journey through a new type of difficult time, I wanted to share some observations on the specific qualities that both inspired and blessed me in hopes that you will be inspired to bless others.

I unpack:

She has no idea I’m recording this - and probably wouldn't approve, don’t miss your opportunity to hear how amazing she is behind the curtain.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

We are currently 4 weeks into a MASSIVE life change as we are raising our son Maverick Jon.

Whit delivered Maverick on March 21st at 1:06pm and he was 1 foot 9 inches tall and weighed in at 8lbs 5oz

Since then - life has been a whirlwind of gratitude, doubts, immeasurable blessings, and overwhelming fears.  We know we have amazing mindset skills …and we know that sleep is REQUIRED if we’re going to access them.  And this poses a problem

Bottom line is that Whitney and I are practicing what we preach (we’re pulling out every tool in the bag) and we decided to invite you in to peek behind the curtain and see how we do mindset in work in real time.

Check it out - take a little time to explore how default thinking can show up even in the midst of amazing miracles, and what you can do in those moments to take back your authority over your felt experience of live and REMAIN STEADFAST!!

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

We are in some unprecedented times in education - like teaching 7th graders who haven’t had a full year in a classroom since the 4th grade!!  And teachers asked to become IT experts and teach students they’ve never seen in person.

So what if we accepted this reality instead of trying to “should” it back to something it is not?  What if the innovating and creating to succeed in this situation actually applied to THIS situation instead of the situation we wish it was?  What if this could be JUST the adversity needed to create the most resilient generation of 40 year olds when they are taking the reigns of this country?  What part would you like to play in that?

Some of the topics we covered in this ONE HOUR zoom session:

1. What do I do when parents try to blame the teacher for their child not performing?

2. What to say to a student who complains that they “studied” for hours for the test and still did poorly

3. What to say to a student who asks for extra credit to help their grade but doesn’t even do the regular credit

4. How do I help students who don’t seem to care, even if their parents are providing a supportive environment and they don’t fully understand the consequences of their actions

5. How do I  deal with students who are distracted using cellphones in class

6. How do I incorporate growth mindset into classroom policies and procedures (but that doesn’t involve letting kids retake every test, etc.)

7. How do I help kids take more ownership of their education

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

There are certain emotions that are just a bit more enjoyable to experience than others and in full transparency, if resisting, numbing, or pretending they weren’t there actually worked - I’d be the first in line to learn how to do it.

But the truth is that the more we try to resist an emotion, the louder it gets …and if we numb is or deny it, it’s only a matter of time until it breaks free with a vengeance.

So what if you tried a different approach?  What if you allowed it?  What if you accepted ALL emotion as part of your life?  What if you made a habit of learning the lesson it was offering you instead of telling it to be quiet and go away?

That’s what this episode is all about.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Whit and I had the chance to coach the amazing Skye Dumont and you get to sit in on the session.

This is a great opportunity to let her example inspire you and to see how an outside view of your journey can launch you through obstacles that could take months on your own.

Get to know Skye here: https://www.instagram.com/skyedumont/

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Enjoy this Q&A with Whit as she gets vulnerable about the fears, the negative self-talk, the uncertainty - and the compassion that changed it all.

If you are looking for big growth, but find that you are denying yourself the experience of being grateful for the blessings you’ve already received.  You’ve got to check this out.

It is safe to wish things were different AND feel gratitude at the same time!!

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Powerful question - is that 100% true?  Because if it’s not, then its not a fact - it’s a choice

We make the choice (consciously or subconsciously), then we never look back and think it was a fact.  No problem - unless its a problem and I start believing that dreams of mine are impossible because of these “facts” I have chosen over the past 30 years.

Here’s what I want you to try:

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

When you set out on an adventure, people love to say, “Be safe out there.” …and I totally get what they mean, but the TRUTH is that being safe is NOT why we got there.

In school we’d always hear adults sayin, “Safety first.” - but I believe that is why so many people have a hard time making the big change that will lead to their new identity, making the big investment that will lead to financial freedom, or taking the risk that will build their resiliency.

So what if you tried something new - what if every time you heard yourself whisper “safety first” you whispered back “no - safety second.”  It’s just a little reminder that you don’t REALLY want safety to be your top priority.

In this video I was inspired (basically to tears) by:

Havilah Cunnington: https://shop.truthtotable.com/

Ausitn Fischer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SEm3_aE89-w

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

We all believe that holding our standards and demanding people rise to meet them is a powerful stance - but it is NOT!!

The most powerful person in the room is the person who does not need anyone in the room to do or be any particular thing in order for them to be okay.

The person who has the self awareness to know what it is they are hoping to get when the world changes to meet their expectations, then builds the skill of offering it to themselves …so THEY hold the power instead of the world.

Want to learn how to become aware of the places you are giving your power away?  Want it back?

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Cognitively we KNOW that forgiveness is a good thing, but what about our safety?

If I forgive, doesn’t that just let them off the hook?

Doesn’t it remove ANY accountability for their actions?

How will they learn their lesson?

Won’t people just walk all over me?

Let’s take a look at options that become available if forgiveness is safe!

And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” - Mark 11:25

Here’s the link to the meditation I use: https://www.steadfastlifecoaching.com/products/meditations/categories/3660876/posts/12858462

Comment if you want me to send you the forgiveness script that Whit and I use.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Dr. Bob Rotella puts it in his book "Golf is Not a Game of Perfect”:

"The trusting mentality is essential for getting ready to play competitively. If you want to be able to trust your swing on the golf course, you have to spend time doing it on the practice tee. Human beings are creatures of habit.

They cannot, as a general rule, spend all of their practice time in the training mentality and then switch to the trusting mentality for competition.

…so how do you practice in a trusting mindset if you need to have enough reps before you can REALLY trust your game?

Click play :)

“I can’t disappoint people - I just have a big heart” - Do you? Or are you really just avoiding the emotion that comes up when your actions don’t match someone else’s expectation?

Disappointing people is simply a name we give to the experience of making choices that don’t match OTHER people's expectations.  There are a lot of times when taking the value aligned action that defines showing up authentically is to everyone’s benefit.  Especially when it is the only way to pursue the mission that God has charged us to steward.

So how do you foster the art of disappointing people?

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

There is NO benefit to guilt!!  Okay ...maybe there’s a tiny miniscule benefit, but the way you show up in guilt is so unhealthy that even THAT doesn’t get to add value to your life.

So what DOES it look like to show up WELL in guilt?

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Skip the “pros and cons list” it’s ineffective and it leads you to this stressful place where your decision making skill is more like future predicting skill.  If I have to know the future to make good choices ...then yes, I am definitely living in stress!!

So what if you separated the SKILL of choosing from the outcome?  What if you elevated your experience of choosing?  How fast could you move forward then?

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

The thing about myths is that they tend to keep us in a box.  Then we use the limits of the box to determine if we’re doing good or bad - and if we are or are not capable of success in the future.

In this episodes, Whit Busts these FOUR MYTHS about weightloss

Any of these seem true to you?

Yeah ...that’s the thing about myths.  The problem is that we believe them.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

It’s a pretty common cycle when you’re trying to change an eating habit - restrict, overeat, guilt, restrict ...ad nauseum.  The big error is actually WHERE we attempt to disrupt this cycle.  Right in the little space between restrict and fail.

The REAL culprit is the guilt!

Without guilt, you can evaluate, you can learn, you can experiment, you can make 1% adjustments, you can find out what works best for you now, and you can understand how to make adjustments as needed in the future.

With guilt - you punish, you berate, you force, you deny, you suffer, you battle, you judge ...and you overeat ...again.

It’s not you - it’s the guilt!  Learn how to elevate your relationship with food to place beyond guilt.  Understand your TRUE authority over this cycle!

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

I've wanted to be the hero since I can remember.  My first concussion came from jumping off of a boulder onto my dad without him knowing because I had seen the hero do it on TV.

Unfortunately that incident was not enough to teach me the danger of the love affair with swooping to the rescue.  When I became a father, in my mind it was hero or failure.  I set out to be my daughter's hero ...and full transparency, it was more like her invincible, bulletproof, unstoppable SUPER hero.

It was WAY too much pressure because it turns out I am, in fact, mortal.  I truth that punched my right in the face when I had to sit down and tell her that the security I had assured her would last forever was actually a security too heavy for me to carry and that it was all about to come crashing down ..and she was going to get hurt.  I couldn't protect her this time.  Even worse, I was the one that was about to hurt her.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

You open the fridge, you see the cupcakes, you’re tired - it’s been a long day, you decide to just eat one, then you feel terrible.  WHY would I eat that at 10pm??  Now the one next to it starts to look really good - and you know where it goes from here.

Whit and Jake do it too - we eat refined sugar, empty calories, the foods that make our joints hurt or make us feel bloated ...and we do it because it is just such an easy way to feel a little bit better.

But the story doesn’t have to end there.  When you experience this, it is NOT the final nail in the coffin or the straw or the camel’s back.  It’s part of being a human being and it doesn’t have to stop you from reaching your health goals.  You don’t even have to punish yourself to get “back on track” ...there’s no track.  It’s a metaphor.  It’s an analogy.

The Holidays are fast approaching and Whit and I hear so much about the “stress” of the time period.  In this video we decided to tackle the topic head on!!

And we chest a little at the end by talking about the process of simply placing it at the feet of Jesus :)

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Your identity becomes a filter through which all possibilities for your life must pass.  That makes the ability and desire to adjust the settings on that filter extremely important.

If you a business builder, you know first hand that your business has an identity of it’s own - and THAT identity is going to have a massive impact on what is possible for your business.

Take a behind the scenes look at the role IDENTITY plays in business building and how it has shaped Jake and Whit.

Whit and Jake are Christian Life Coaches at Steadfast Life Coaching.  We bridge the gap between the secular wisdom of the self-help world and the transformative power of faith in Jesus.

Whit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching.  In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.

How do you set realistic goals?

Every time I get honest about the goals I REALLY want in my life I just blow them off because they’re so unrealistic, but the realistic goals don’t get me excited about the life they create - how do I bridge the gap?

How do you eat healthy when you have young kids eating with you?

The kids only eat chicken nuggets or mac n cheese - I’m trying to reduce processed food and carbs - what do I do, just wait until they move out?

Great questions!!  These are Whit and Jake’s answers...

Whit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching.  In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.

Sometimes I make a plan and I’m pumped to follow it ...but then I forget.  How do you remember stuff you’re not used to doing?

The thing about a plan is that it often has to do with changing an old pattern - well the thing about patterns is that you probably find yourself doing them without much thought.  So how do you remember to do something different after you decide to?

How do you dress to work from home?

Business casual?  Pajamas on the lower half?  Costumes?  What’s the deal?

Great questions!!  These are Whit and Jake’s answers...

Whit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching.  In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.

When it comes time to plan ...I DON’T!!  What does the planning process look like for you two?

It can be really hard to be successful following a plan when you don’t even have one!!  But how can you make a plan when you don’t know what to do?  Or what the day will bring?  Or what you’ll feel like doing at that time?

...and why would I take time out of the ACTION I’m already taking just to make a plan to take more action??

Great questions!!  These are Whit and Jake’s answers...

Whit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching.  In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.

How do I know the difference between quitting and simplifying/focusing?

Do you ever have those moments where it feels a little irresponsible to have peace because there is so much on the line?  If your performance increases with peace, it would be really nice to access your peace in these moments too!!

Why do you guys go backpacking every year?

Why choose this life?

Whit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching.  In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.

When the consequences are REAL, how can I feel peace?

Do you ever have those moments where it feels a little irresponsible to have peace because there is so much on the line?  If your performance increases with peace, it would be really nice to access your peace in these moments too!!

What do you each love most about Life Coaching?

Why choose this life?

Whit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching.  In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.

I Love Dessert - so how do I resist it every night?

Do you have a dessert you love?  Are you in a season of attempting to NOT eat it?  That can be rough and we’d LOVE to help you resist that craving, but it’s just not how we do things around here.

What’s a better vehicle - Mustang or Jeep?

I write these descriptions so, Jeep.  Do we even need a video to answer this?

It was my job to read the currents and keep us safe - I didn’t do a very good job and things took a dangerous turn.  But Dan didn’t panic - with no tangible evidence Dan BELIEVED that,

“It would probably be OK.”

But how can someone believe that when there is a significant probability that it won’t???

Because although your BELIEF is about the future, it's FOR the present.  It’s all about where you focus your attention to maximize your ability to show up RIGHT NOW!

If you find out you were wrong later ...too late, you already showed up awesome :)

If you don’t like how much energy you have to dedicate to overcoming the dread of what you have today or tomorrow - or if you’re sick of not having the time to do what you LOVE because there are just too many things you HAVE to do, then give yourself this gift.  Check out Trust U for FREE ...you’ll learn to kick dread and obligation to the curb

Whit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching.  In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.

How do I get my spouse to appreciate me?

When you do “all the work” and your spouse just acts like it’s expected!!  How do you change that so you can get the recognition you deserve??

How do Whit and Jake DISAGREE?

There are only about 1000 decisions per day that come up in a marriage, and you can add another 1000 when you own a business.  So how do you decide who’s right ...and how does the “loser” deal with that?

Whit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching.  In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.

How do you continue to believe when the stuff you’re believing doesn’t happen?

Belief is ABOUT the future, but it’s benefit is all about TODAY.  Whit and Jake talk about this powerful mindset shift that will allow you to maximize your attitude and effort in the present.

What role does trust play in your marriage?

Whit and Jake dive into the mechanics of trust - even in the face of infidelity

Whit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching.  In this episode - Whit discusses her experience of a SEVEN DAY FAST.  Spoiler alert - weight loss never even comes up in our conversation because the REAL benefits are so incredible.

The Lessons:

Day 1-3:   Mastery of the skill of allowing urges

Day 4:     Yikes - maybe I can white knuckle to the end

Day 5-7:   Whit is set free

Would you like to have Whit and Jake by your side as you build the consistency required to live as big as you secretly want to?  

Whit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching.  In this episode, they talk to Jose Mendoza who was in a dark spot when the scale read "ERROR".  The most action he could muster was to throw away some of the pizza boxes around his living room ...so that's what he did!  Through setbacks, ice storms, injuries, and a pandemic, Jose just kept getting knocked backwards, then taking the next step forward.  You're going to want to spend 20 minutes understanding THIS mindset.  It just might make you UNSTOPPABLE

The Jose Mendoza Mindset:

Whit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching.  In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.

EPISODE QUESTIONS:

EPISODE QUESTIONS:  

Sometimes it seems like I WANT to be OK, but I feel obligated to disappointment or anger.  Other times I WANT to allow the authentic emotion I'm feeling, but I feel like I SHOULD just suck it up and be OK.    

How do I know which one to do when??   

EPISODE QUESTIONS:

From the way we met to our decision to take on the entrepreneur journey to God's favor as we connected with Brooke Castillo to the importance of our faith in both our business and our marriage - this has been the ride of a lifetime and we wanted to highlight THE LOVE  

Whit and Jake are Life Coaches and owners at Steadfast Life Coaching.  

In this video series they answer YOUR questions for your entertainment as well as your growth.  

EPISODE QUESTIONS:  How do you two work together day after day, then continue to hang out after work without getting sick of each other?  Is it possible to step into your personal growth success AND believe that it is God's strength that makes your success possible?  

Sometimes Whitney and I fight!!  We have built a business on a foundation of us being connected and in love - we did that on purpose!!  We WANTED the inspiration to FIND SOLUTIONS instead of numb, pout, and hide.  Well ...it worked.

I had a BIG BREAKTHROUGH a few nights back and I wanted to share it.  If you've ever felt angry with someone and simultaneously wished you weren't feeling angry, don't miss this.

Whit and I break down our path through the obstacles to becoming "morning people."  The biggest game changer was getting honest about what we'd have to give up and what we would gain.  Having the TRUTH on the table ...NOT just the story we were telling ourselves ...allowed to us to truly understand what we were trading.

If you find that you want to make changes like this faster than you're actually doing it - let's get connected!

As Whit and I get back to life after taking 12 teenagers on a 7 day wilderness adventure, we reflect on some of the insights that came up while the kids were staring at challenges with NO BELIEF that success was possible.  Then what they learned as they leaned into the impossible hard enough to make it possible.

The key is the fuel ...the emotion ...the feeling that you are experience as you are taking on a difficult challenge.  I KNOW you have a "mountain" of your own - that challenge in your own life that just looks impossible from here.  I believe that these lesson learned in the Sierra Nevada Mountains in California are the same lessons that help you to climb yours.

"I'll believe it when I see it" - we've all thought it, we've probably all said it, but what if the entire premise is wrong.

Every time I've tried to chase down a scary goal or make a big change in my life I do a risk/reward or cost/benefit analysis in my head.  Ultimately I come to the same conclusion - if the result was guaranteed by certain date and come a certain way, then the goal wouldn't be scary.  The scary part is all the risk and all the reward have to be put in up front and reward is "out there" somewhere.

One thing I know for sure - if I DON'T put in the work I will FOR SURE miss out on the reward.  So the conclusion is this ..."I need to see it to believe it." is a cop out.  It's a trick that our lizard brain uses to keep us safe and comfortable.  The truth is that we need to believe it FIRST, then we'll take the actions that will allow us to see it.

Whit and I went on a 5 day mountain climbing expedition.  There were so many things that happened, so many choices that had outcomes, so many times we tried to evaluate if those outcomes were better or worse than before we took action.  At the end of the day, things that we thoughts were great were more of a hindrance once we knew the whole story, and by the same token, things that we thoughts were errors turned out to be JUST the outcomes that ensured a successful summit of THE TALLEST MOUNTAIN in the Lower 48 States.