By Melodye Hilton
#StopDevaluation Podcast Nov 18, 2022
Taking a break!
Taking a break manuscript: After three seasons of the #StopDevauation Podcast I have decided to take a break and allow time to build a larger repertoire of interviews with value-generating leaders who are making a difference in their world.
There are 140 episodes for many to go back and re-listen because they carry such depth from individuals who have overcome horrific experiences of prejudice, devaluation, and dehumanization as well as established leaders who use their platforms for the good of humanity. Actually, the entire Unmasking Prejudice: Silencing the Internal Voice of Bigotry audio book is found in previous episodes. The whole audio book!
I’m not going anywhere and the #StopDevaluation movement continues to grow with greater impact. You can find hundreds of videos on the YouTube channel, follow us on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook and check out the website at StopDevaluation.com to download free eBooks.
I want to thank all of you who have been faithful listeners, I would love to hear from you at email@example.com
Continue to be a part of this movement of courageous voices who will continue to build bridges across the cultural divides through validation. Many who have experienced injustice and devaluation are looking for YOU, who are willing to be an instrument of justice using their power, their voice, their platforms for the good of others. Thank you for demonstrating love, honor, and validation to all that you meet.
EP140 MY STORY Interview with Andrea Hinson
Andrea Hinson shares the identity battle she faced living with prejudice from two very different worlds. She learned to show up differently trying to fit in until an educator saw and affirmed her potential. This powerful story is filled with so many poignant stories of the those treated as insignificant, bringing them into a validating community.
EP139 MY STORY Interview with Joy Renee Arnold
Gang raped at eight years old and years of blocked memories left Joy Renee Arnold angry, depressed, and suicidal. This along with 20 years of 15 pills a day, being institutionalized, and living in self-hatred screams a destroyed life; but Joy shares how she got to the other side and how her life is one of loving people authentically and genuinely. Powerful and poignant story!
EP138 MY STORY Interview with Karley Daniel
As Karley shares her story she says, "You have to come to peace with your broken pieces." The majority of Karley's childhood was filled with the broken pieces of abandonment, neglect, and abuse. How could she come to peace and wholeness?
EP137 MY STORY Interview with Ahelya Vargas
Emotional manipulation along with verbal and physical abuse has the power to scar the soul and render one powerless. The crippling fear to reach out for help silences the voice as confidence is lost in the sea of shame. Ahelya Vargas' moving story will touch your heart and reveal the power that unconditional love and safety carries the ability to rescue the broken.
Ahelya Vargas has written a beautiful book entitled, "Restoring The Waters."
EP136 MY STORY Interview with Denise DeCou
Denise DeCou shares her story of growing up multiracial and multicultural. This presented her with unique challenges, which she calls a “bag of burdens.” She also learned many life lessons positioning her to be a voice championing diversity, equality, and inclusion.
EP135 MY STORY Interview with Donna Scott
It is so easy to judge a person’s actions when you are unaware of their suffering. Donna Scott shares the hidden pain of sexual, physical, and verbal abuse from the age of two through fifteen-years old. These and other events immersed her into the lies of shame and a self-destructive lifestyle. Hear how the hidden things were brought to the light and how a healing journey began for this woman who has become a powerful generator of hope.
EP134 MY STORY Interview with Niquio Benjo Valcobero
Niquio Benjo Valcobero shares his childhood hurts, disappointments, and fears but also the power of the one who saw his worth and his potential. This mentor placed a demand on the amazing gift he held and Niquio is now impacting and mentoring people globally.
EP133 MY STORY Interview with Dr. Sam Kojoglania
Known as the Mender of Hearts, Dr. Sam Kojoglanian is an interventional cardiologist. Dr. Sam earned his Medical Doctor degree at the University of Southern California and inspires his patients to live healthier and fulfilled lives. To date, he’s had the distinction of being recognized as a five-year honoree of the Patients’ Choice Award and Most Compassionate Award — a recognition granted to only 1% of the 900,000 active physicians in America. He’s also been awarded the position of "Top 1%” of professionals in his line of work in the USA and was named “Ultimate Cardiologist” by the state assembly of California. While in the office Dr. Sam is known for healing and rehabilitating those with serious heart conditions, his reputation outside the office has become that of mending the soul. Traveling to nations he provides medical care to the indigent, food and shelter to orphans, and cares for the brokenhearted. Thousands of lives have been touched both physically and spiritually through his life.
EP132 MY STORY Interview with Will Ford
What story line are you going to be a part of? Will Ford’s powerful and poignant life story will astound you. Will has traveled the nation for twenty years with a kettle pot owned by his ancestors. This treasure was passed down to him along with the horror stories of slavery and his family’s suffering at the hands of their slave owners. Yet, this amazing man focuses on racial reconciliation and challenges all of humanity to bring healing to the divides for the sake of future generations. Get out the tissues, this is a story you must hear!
EP131 MY STORY Interview with Annette Dickens
Growing up in North Carolina in the 60's and 70's, Annette shares her story of traumatizing racial prejudice. Can you imagine waking up to a burnt KKK cross with cards covering your lawn saying the "'KKK was out to get you?"
EP130 MY STORY Interview with Fadzi Whande
Back by popular demand: Fadzi Whande, Global Diversity and Inclusion Strategist, shares her story of abuse of power and her process to discover the value she holds. I, Melodye Hilton, first met Fadzi when she was a champion for many in her nation of Perth, Australia. Listen also to her TEDxPerth to hear more of her story: https://www.ted.com/talks/fadzi_whande_how_diversity_heaven_can_be_inclusion_hell Note: She now works for the United Nations in Switzerland.
EP129 Your Innate Unchanging Nature with Melodye Hilton
Do you realize that society needs the treasured contribution you carry? Dr. Melodye Hilton is a Master Trainer/Executive Coach in the Core Value Index. You will hear why this has make a huge impact in her life as well as see a brief overview of the four core values. With her passion to generate value in lives and culture, she has discovered and utilizes the CVI as one of the most value-generating tools as individuals discover how they can generate value in their family and organizations.
The Core Values Index™ (CVI) is the only human assessment using strategic and tactical values in a word-choice format. It reveals the innate nature of a person and their core motivational drivers. As a coaching tool, The CVI™ delivers a values-based human nature profile. With it, we see how a person views the world from their unique perspective and how they will respond to life’s challenges with predictable strategies and tactics. Working with core values nature provides a springboard for understanding motivation for action, sense of personal mission, and the interpretation of individual work and life activity as meaningful.
Website: DrMelodye.com to find out how you can take your free CVI.
The Core Values Index™ (CVI™)
EP128 Adult Responses to Childhood Perceptions
Jerome Joseph, Cognitive Therapist, shares how childhood perceptions that remain unchallenged can cause problems later in life.
EP127 What I learned from Betrayal
Most every person on the planet has experienced rejection, manipulation, and betrayal. Dr. Melodye Hilton, leadership consultant and founder of the #StopDevaluation movement shares ten things she learned from betrayal. These lessons will be a great support to you as you navigate these emotional stormy waters. May you learn and gain encouragement from Melodye's journey.
EP126 What is the Loudest Voice we Hear? with Dr. Melodye Hilton
The more self-aware we are, the better self-leadership decisions we make. This is a portion of an exhaustive training by Dr. Melodye Hilton in relationship to adaptation and innate; between personality and core values, and how our core self can be freed from the proverbial box.
EP125 Changing Internal Culture for External Change with Vonnetta West
This interview is loaded with powerful truths shared by Vonnetta West on how we can change our internal culture in order to bring external change. No matter what level of leadership influence you hold - from the family unit to business, government, or the educational system - you can apply principles that will empower you to love life and generate value in your world. Vonnetta is a visionary, community-oriented communicator and influencer with over 20 years of experience and success in program, leadership and content development for diverse environments. She is a dedicated, highly effective trainer with a passion for creating humane cultures, eradicating injustice, thought leadership, writing, youth engagement, service programs, interfaith initiatives, and building resilient communities.
Go West Consulting LLC facilitates experiences and produces content, inclusive of social media, podcasts, website, trainings, and speech content, purposed to connect, transform and engage people for good. She provides trainings on Eradicating Racism, The Bias Challenge, Leadership That Grows, The Language of the Beloved Community, Inside/Out: Internal Adjustments for External Change, and other sessions aimed at building and sustaining community. She is also a Certified Nonviolence365® Instructor for the Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.'s nonviolent philosophy and methodology.
EP124 Journey to Leadership Competency
As leaders we have the honor to serve others empowering them to achieve their highest and best. Leadership is not position, platform, or title but using these things for the good of others. Leadership is a journey throughout our lifetime as we grow in competencies step-by-step in both skills and character. What does this journey look like?
"In psychology, the four stages of competence, or the "conscious competence" learning model, relates to the psychological states involved in the process of progressing from incompetence to competence in a skill." When we understand the process we will have the courage to through and not stop short in order to obtain the conscious awareness of the value of our competencies.
Dr. Melodye Hilton is the founder and owner of Hilton Consulting LLC with a vision to make a sustainable positive impact within the lives of leaders, organizations, and people groups. Melodye is a leadership consultant, behavioral analyst, CVI master trainer, executive coach, and author. She also is the founder of Voice of Justice Foundation to confront human trafficking and the #StopDevaluation movement - a movement of courageous voices that will confront prejudice and cross the divides through validation.
EP123 Stepping into our Highest and Best
As a certified master trainer of the Core Values Index™ (CVI™) I, Dr. Melodye Hilton, have helped emerging and established leaders through coaching as well as corporate leadership training and consulting. As a leader in your organization you can provide the power of opportunity for your team to discover their highest and best contribution. Want more info? www.DrMelodye.com/cvi
EP122 Guarding Your Influence with Desiree Fox
Each person holds the power of influence for good or harm. Intentionally guarding our influence will empower us to be a part of the solution. This compelling interview with Desiree Fox will bring courage to your heart as you use your power for the good of others.
EP121 Authoring Your Self-Worth Story
If you let others write your story then you will never be the author of it. Outpatient Psychotherapist Rhonda Dickens, shares how to look into the mirror to discover your self worth.
EP120 From Pain to Purpose with David Brooks, Counselor
Our propensity as a human being is to bury our pain. Can pain be a catalyst for our freedom and purpose? Powerful interview with David Brooks, counselor.
EP119 Confronting Generational Competition
Harold Williams asks Dr. Melodye pointed questions about intimidation concerning a younger generation and the fear of them taking leadership roles from the Baby Boomer generation. You must realize that what you carry will never be wasted, you are irreplaceable, and you must never stop contributing.
EP118 The Importance of Fathers with "The Cadillac Counselor"
Criminologist and counselor, David, "The Cadillac Counselor" Brooks shares how the statistics increase when there is not a father in the home or a strong male figure. What is he doing about it?
EP117 The Self-Talk of Failure with Kevin Ikeda
When facing the disappointment of failure we often begin to believe self-devaluing irrational self-talk, however, mistakes can actually be our greatest opportunities for growth. In this short video, business owner, Kevin Ikeda, shares his greatest emotional challenge and how he processed through it.
EP116 Relabeling Our Story with Jerome Joseph
Melodye Hilton shares her story of child sexual abuse as she interviews Cognitive Therapist, Jerome Joseph. We often minimize, as Melodye did, or exaggerate our past experiences. The core of anxiety is an overestimation of danger and an underestimation of our ability at the same time; therefore, I cannot cope. Our labels shape our perspective as our behaviors follow. We interpret today's events based upon those labels. We can attach positive labels to people and situations that can shift how we think, believe, and function. Looking at civil rights movements there was a shifting of labels, people realized it was a good thing so they supported it, and the result was amazing changes in our human history. Positive and healthy labeling has to be intentional as we consciously rehearse the new because internally we will have automatic labels based upon our experiences. The new ways of thinking will bring rewards. It feels so good to move beyond the labels! This interview will impact your life and help you to relate and connect to others in healthy ways. How we label can help ourselves and others heal.
EP115 How Important is Transparency? with David Brooks
We often wear a mask as we create a pseudo identity and community. The sad reality is that we hide the real us in our exterior world hindering our ability to have healthy or productive relationships. Is it possible to be "one" person no matter where we go and who we are with? How will this impact marriage, family, and other relational environments? You'll learn so much from David Brooks, the Cadillac Counselor.
EP114 To Value or Not to Value? That is the question.
Just because something is culturally tolerated does not make it right, because it is the loudest doesn't make it true, or because it's all we've ever known doesn't make it beneficial. Injustice, abuse of power, prejudice, and the thought that a human being can be "owned" by another is inherently wrong. Either we will conform to the majority or courageously take a stand and herald a voice for what is right, just, and pure. We may not be able to change the world but we can decide who we want to be in our world and contribute unreservedly in valuing ways.
Life would feel like a prison if we could not respond to our ability and develop our potential. Dr. Melodye Hilton shares the power of assuming higher responsibility. The principles shared can shift the way you view yourself, your leadership, and provide the pathway to greater levels of increase-personally and professionally.
EP112 The Directions of Empathy
Understand the pathways of empathy and the type of empathy a leader should function in. Learn how authentic words of empathy can impact the neural networking of the brain.
EP111 The Power of Empathy
Our human propensity is to be critical of what we do not understand, but when we make a focused effort to connect and relate with what another feels and how they perceive a particular situation they will know they are valued by us. When we can see from another's perspective it will reveal our compassion, understanding, and our desire to identify with them.
EP110 Emotions: Friend or Foe?
What are the factors that determine if our emotions are a friend or a foe? Can feel good emotions ever take us off-course? How do we protect ourselves from being emotionally hijacked? Is it possible to change the way we feel? Dr. Melodye simply and strategically answers these and other questions helping us to chart an emotionally healthy life journey.
EP109 A Leader's Heart
Hear the heart of a justice-motivated leader. What are some attributes of how leaders can make a difference by creating a culture of validation.
EP108 Why can't we all just get along?
A discussion with a Great Grandma from the Silent Generation who cannot understand "Why can't we all just get along?" Is there a solution? Can we be agents of change? Can we enjoy emotional health? Societies disease and its potential cure is provided on today's episode.
EP107 Forgive? with Jerome Joseph, Cognitive Therapist
Jerome Joseph, expert in Cognitive Therapy, shares the result of both forgiveness and unforgiveness. You decide what is best for you.
EP106 Become a Value Generator with Jerome Joseph
When someone's life has been void of validation are they ever able to see their worth? Cognitive Therapist (Oxford University) Jerome Joseph shares powerful value-generating truths.
EP105 To the Person Who Feels Beyond Repair with David Brooks
When we experience abuse of power we can develop the illusion that we are damaged beyond repair. Melodye Hilton interviews counselor, David Brooks, as he confronts this illusion with truth. We at the #StopDevaluation movement hold your value as a treasure to be protected.
EP104 Make it Great Without Hate with David Brooks
David Brooks, founder of the Make it Great Without Hate movement talks to Melodye Hilton, founder of the #StopDevaluation movement and shares the importance of every individual to confront hatred.
EP103 Guarding Against Abuse of Power with Kevin Ikeda
In a world filled with abuse of power, Kevin Ikeda shares three simple leadership principles to guard against this misuse of leadership influence. After over 20 years of leading in a multi-billion dollar company and now the CEO of his own, we see that it is possible to use our power for the good of others.
EP102 The Self-Talk of Failure with Kevin Ikeda
When facing the disappointment of failure we often begin to believe self-devaluing irrational self-talk, however, mistakes can actually be our greatest opportunities for growth. In this short video, business owner, Kevin Ikeda, shares his greatest emotional challenge and how he processed through it. Powerful interview!
EP101 The Attributes of Powerful People
You were designed to be powerful! What does that look like? How do our personal choices, internal dialogue, and interpersonal relationships demonstrate how powerful we are? Dr. Melodye Hilton shares aspects of her personal life's journey from powerless to powerful - an ongoing work in progress.
EP100 I'M NOT GOOD ENOUGH
You are not the only one who has faced the battle of the soul that screams "I'm not good enough." What is the truth?
EP99 Personal Purpose - Part Two
Dr. Melodye shares on the power of identity, the importance and development of your personal purpose. This will empower you to see the value you hold and your ability to make a greater impact in your world. Learn the dynamics of discovering your personal purpose and how you can put language and expression to the distinct uniqueness within you!
EP98 Personal Purpose - Part One
Dr. Melodye shares Part One of a two-part series on personal purpose which is foundational to your vision and your mission. It takes you from a life of success to a life of significance and helps you position yourself to release your greatest self. Learn the dynamics of discovering your personal purpose and how you can put language and expression to the distinct uniqueness within you!
EP97 - Raising the Leadership Bar
Dr. Melodye Hilton brings a inspiring and passionate message for both emerging and established leaders. You'll learn the three key motivations that launched a global movement, the three things necessary for every person to raise their leadership bar, and the discovery of how justice-power used for good-can shift societal norms. This casual message will stir your heart to impact lives and culture!
EP96 - The Wisdom of a 98-Year-Old
The first episode of 2022 Melodye Hilton, founder of the #StopDevaluation movement, shares her pondering and reflections of the past and the present through a poem her 98-year-old mother memorized.
EP95 A Time For Pioneers
Pioneers pay the greatest price and assume the greatest responsibility as they dream of what can be for future generations and their nation. They may face opposition but carry the courage to be a forerunner modeling the way for others to follow.
EP94 Melodye's Monologue: Model the Way
Becoming an instrument of justice automatically confronts the abuse of power. We can use our leadership influence to model the way and confront the darkness by shining a light.
EP93 Melodye's Monologue: Negativity Sells
Neurologically and physiologically we are predisposed to be attracted to the negative, but how does that influence our decision-making reactions? How is this linked to fear and its ability to control us as we function opposite of who we are? What is the truth concerning the condition of humanity and the future of our nation?
EP92 Emerging Successfully Amid Global Difficulties with Tinell Dickens
When you discover your ‘why’ you can emerge successfully no matter the battles you face. You can pioneer strategies and solutions for advancement amid any and every challenge…even the pandemic. These life experiences call for us to reassess our journey and adopt the perspectives that empower resilience. What are the things we need to obtain to hold steady to our vision, purpose, and passion? What is the number one hindrance to fulfilling purpose? What is true success? Learn about the power of connection and how to focus on who we are and what we carry, not on the things we are not. Powerful interview with a powerful leader!
Tinell Dickens is an Actress, Women’s Rights Activist, Coach, and International public speaker. From this perspective you will discover principles that will reveal a beautiful pathway to know identity, walk out purpose, and help others in their journey.