By Host Susan Bartley & Heaux Apparel
The HeauXXXcastJun 20, 2023
8 Grannies & 1 Grandpa Dance Troupe
Can you be sexy in your golden years? Society tends towards a big "NO!" to that question. Is there a place for the Senior Community inside the wider Aerial Community? If you asked that question you might respond with an "I don't know". The answer to that question was unchartered territory until the beautiful and talented Mica Saunders came along, threw convention to the wind and began teaching Pole Dancing and Chair Dancing at her local Senior Centers in Baltimore, MD. But lets face it, as talented as she is, Mica would not have been successful if there weren't students willing to take her class.
She brought Pole Dancing to the senior community in Baltimore, and that community said "Yes, please". From this the amazing dance troupe "8 Grannies and 1 Grandpa" was born. If you attended PoleCon 2023, you had the awesome opportunity to see these folks perform. They were amazing. I can't like, when the song "Brickhouse" came on, I thought the audience was going to come unglued. It was so much fun.
This episode highlights all the wonderful dancers from the "8 Grannies and 1 Grandpa" troupe. They introduce themselves, tell their story and talk about why and how the decided taking a Pole Dancing class would be a good idea. The conversation is awesome and we laughed a lot. I hope you enjoy listening to them as much as I enjoyed interviewing them.
Pole to Glow with Sky Luna
Holding Middle Ground with Tamara
We all know that Pole is a ton of fun and sometimes can get pretty CRAZY!!! That is why we love it, right? We also know that people find this sport for a bunch of different reasons and some of those reasons aren't very fun at all. Women come to Pole who are sad, lonely, and who are trying to find that inner light and peace. Pole has saved many women, and you have already heard how it saved me.
This episode is how our sport saved my good friend Tamara. Tamara and I met at the USPSF Nationals just a few months ago and it was BFF status from the get go. She is full of light and life and this impish charm that makes you know immediately that you are going to have a ton of fun hanging out with her. And as we do, I asked for your Instagram so I could follow her. I was expecting a bad ass chick doing bad ass things on the pole, but instead I found a lovely Instagram page full of motivational quotes and videos. I asked her why? She told me that she was creating what she felt she had needed during some of her most trying times.
In this episode, Tamara opens up about her struggles with weight, body image and self love, as well as her addiction to online gaming. It is a compelling story, and one I think will resonate with everyone. We have all been there, and some of us probably are still in that dark lonely place. Tamara agreed to tell me her story in the hopes that she can reach women out there who are stuck in the cyclone of self-doubt and let them know that they are not alone. She was very brave in her honesty, and I appreciate her for that.
Enjoy the episode and please pass it along to anyone you know who is struggling and might need a little extra light and understanding.
The Betty Genesis and The Best Damn Horroresque Show Ever
Heaux Apparel has gotten the opportunity to sponsor some really cool events over the past few years, but when I was approached about sponsoring "Death Becomes Them" I was 100% all in. I was so all in, that I knew I had to get the producer of the show, The Betty Genesis, on an episode of The HeauXXXcast to hype that sh*t up. If you are in Tampa, FL on Friday, October 13th, then you are going to want to be at The Brass Mug for an extravaganza of macabre entertainment.
Buy your in person and virtual tickets NOW at www.deathbecomesthem.com
In this episode we talk about so much, not just this amazing show. We also get into Betty's background as a dancer, what its like being a Burlesque star and raising 5 children (that a huge juggling act that only a Pro could do) and her job as a Doula. We even spend a bit of time talking about my worst nightmare....alligators. But hey, its Florida so alligators are fare game.
Ellie Klein of Jelliebend
This week’s conversations is with Ellie Klein, founder of Jelliebend. I was really excited to get to know Ellie because we have recently picked up her products on Heaux Apparel. Ellie makes a waist warmer that works beautifully to keep your core warm and protected while you stretch, warm-up or practice your skills. I knew the product would be Grade A when I saw that Ellie was also a contortionist, and that she put her skills into making the product that she needed for her own training. As with most of my episodes, we began by talking about Ellie’s background, in her case a long history of top tier ballet starting from when she was just a little girl. From there, we jumped into her career in the world of finance and then ended talking all about Jelliebend. Oh, and we go off on a tangent on Venture Capital, Angel Investors and how Banks basically suck when it comes to offering help to small businesses. I know you will love Ellie’s bubbly personality, and will resonate with the lessons she learned through her time in ballet. I hope you enjoy the episode, and if you do don’t remember to pop over to www.heauxapparel.com and pick up a Jellibend waist warmer.
Money Gun Carol is a Bad Thang
Carolina Lemmer aka @shesabadthank123 (TikTok and Instagram) is out here doing all of the things. I originally wanted to interview her for the show simply because she is an amazing human and dancer. I asked if she could come on and talk about how to present your authentic self on social media and in performances. She was an obvious choice for this conversation because she is 100% always the shiniest happiest person you will meet. It didn't take long (in fact I think it happened in those few minutes before I pressed record) for me to realize just how much she does. She is an instructor at Lush Movement Company in Evansville, IN, she travels all over to perform in showcases and other revues and the is a professional dancer at Thickendales, a club for Plus size dancer in Atlanta, GA. I hope you enjoy this conversation, I know I did.
Vibin' w/ Poundcake from Naughty GoddeXX
Poundcake is a pole instructor in Cali, the owner of Naughty GoddeXXX and a super bad ass human. We met at PoleCon in 2021 when both Naughty GoddeXXX and Heaux Apparel were brand new baby companies. Since then we both have grown, and it has been fun to grow together. Naughty GoddeXXX specializes in pole clothes for chicas that are a 1X or above, and the clothes are designed to enhance all the curves you have to show.
This episode was supposed to be all about the company, but like so many times before, Poundcake has a profound story to share and I wanted that to come out. She is doing ALL OF THE THINGS and I am here for it. You will be too, because she is very much an inspiration. I hope you enjoy this episode.
What Are Indian Clubs And How Can They Make You Better At Pole
This episode features my friend James Neidlinger.
The Pole Circus with Salis Charming
Do you know what a Pole Circus is? I didn't. I mean, I knew all about The Pole Circus, the virtual competition that is held twice a year, but I didn't understand what it all meant. The Pole Circus is an virtual competition that makes space for EVERYONE no matter what your level or what apparatus you want to compete on. That is so cool. She has created a space with no exclusion....only inclusion.
She takes that one step further as the curator of the Para-pole showcase at PoleCon for the last two years. She works tirelessly to create a space that is safe for everyone to dance in - no matter what your ability.
And if that wasn't enough, she is opening her own studio called Girl Next Door Fitness. There is nothing this beautiful lady can't do, and she made that perfectly clear in this conversation. I hope you enjoy listening to her. You can find her on Instagram at @ThePoleCircus and @GirlNextDoorFitnessLLC
My Journey With Be Activated - How The Voodoo Changed My Life
The newest part of my Heaux Apparel journey has been to begin teaching workshops called “Activate Your Pole”. Many of you have jumped on one of my free virtual workshops, and I have had the pleasure of working one-on-one with some people as well. I am hoping, that I will also be able to bring my workshop to your home studio, I believe that the techniques I teach are of a great value to our community. “Activate Your Pole” use a system called Be Activated, which was created by a crazy South African physical therapist named Douglas Heel. You can read more about Douglas and the system on his website www.douglasheel.com. I came upon this system 7 years ago with my then husband, we had heard that what Douglas taught, could help my husband work through the disconnect he felt after a journey through cancer and cancer treatment. I did not know then that the journey I thought was meant for him, would change my life forever.
Before you can trust me to come into your studio, or into your life, I thought it would be good to walk you through what Be Activated has meant to me over the past 7 years, how it has changed me. Without Be Activated there would be no Heaux Apparel and no HeauXXXcast. The truth is, without Be Activated there would also be no ME, I was numb, disconnected and felt very alone back then but I am more alive than ever now.
I hope you enjoy listening to my history, and I hope it strikes a chord in you to learn more about what I teach and how it can help. You can follow me on Instagram @ActivateYourPole or go to https://heauxxxapparel.com/pages/activate-your-pole to read reviews and look through my workshop menu.
Fixing Female Sexual Dysfunction with Alex Kikel
In this episode I had the pleasure to speak with Alex Kikel about female sexual dysfunction. I started following Alex on Instagram (@alex_kikel) several months ago and I find his work fascinating. He works with clients to help fix biological dysfunction. The breadth of issues that he tackles is amazing, and the results his clients get are even more amazing. He works to make these changes with diet and exercise as a base, but then his forte’ is working on the biochemical side of the body. He made a progress post on a client who was dealing with sexual dysfunction and he detailed what they did to fix the issue. Having faced sexual dysfunction in the past, and knowing that there are virtually no resources for women who have issues in this area, I was intrigued. Thus, this podcast was born and it is a doozy. He talks about the female anatomy, the brain and all the chemicals that are needed to produce orgasm and intimacy. There is a good bit of science involved so I have created a cheat sheet to help you, and if you have any other questions please feel free to be in touch at email@example.com. I hope that you enjoy this episode. Hopefully, it will be the first of many, as this issue is of vital importance to the health and well being of all my beautiful Heaux’s.
To get in touch with Alex follow him on Instagram @alex_kikel or visit his website www.theprepcoach.com
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From Rage to Redemption with The Magic Man JL Holdsworth
In this episode I was finally able to capture my magical friend to record with me. You have heard me mention him in previous episodes, though not by name. I usually refer to him as The Magic Man, because he is the one who brought me to Be Activated. I have known JL for around 20 years. I first remember meeting him at a powerlifting meet. He beat was in the same weight class as my boyfriend and he was just this HUGE, angry ball of twisted steel and sex appeal. Years later, in 2016 we met up with him at a conference in Toronto and at dinner he was telling us all about a system called Be Activated that he had been learning. He had written an article about it, my husband at the time had read the article and signed us up for the next 4 day workshop. At dinner that night JL did a little bit of work on my husband and got his arm from a shoulder that could barely raise up to being able to touch his nose with ease. It was amazing voodoo stuff (and the backbone for the Activate Your Pole workshops I teach) and in the past 7 years Be Activated and JL have completely changed my life.
Spiritual Constipation w/ Stephen Ladd
In today’s episode, I have the opportunity to sit and speak with my friend from Be Activated, Stephen Ladd. He is the author of the book Spiritual Constipation and is a certified CHEK Corrective Exercise Kinesiologist. He is a Level 2 Be Activated practitioner and a Reflexive Performance Reset practitioner. He holds multiple certifications for coaching golf. Other coaching he participates in at the Level 2 Holistic Fitness is his jam, and he will talk us through his vision for HF and the culture around it.
Fun facts about Stephen:
-His house is run by felines. We have that in common.
-His favorite exercise and least favorite exercise are one and the same!
To check out Stephen’s Renegade Transformative Life coaching, you can visit https://renegadelifecoach.com/
Plus Size Polers With Arlisa Rosser
In this episode I had the pleasure of speaking with Arlisa Rosser about a very important topic. It took me a while to decide who I wanted to bring on the podcast to start the discussion on plus size women and pole. One day I was scrolling through Instagram and saw a video of Arlisa and just knew she was the one. She shares her wisdom while boldly telling her story. We are both in agreement that pole is for every BODY. That message is one we stand by and have to put out into the world. We hope you enjoy!
Accessorize Your Pole Journey
This week's The HeauXXXcast brings you a solo episode with your host Susan Bartley. This episode is all about accessories - those things we use to make our pole/aerial journey more accessible. I chose to have this be a solo episode because everyone seems to have a different view on how and when students should be allowed or encouraged to use accessories. The first part of the episode is me waxing philosophic and the second part is me talking through some of the more popular products on the market.
The Sho Stopper
On the last day of PoleCon 2022 I had the good fortune to start talking to a beautiful woman who was browsing in the Heaux Apparel booth. We instantly connected and had a long, wonderful talk about mental health and well-being and all the things we wanted for the women in the Pole Community. A friendship was born, and I did not realize until a little while later that I had been in the presence of greatness. I had the absolute good fortune to meet The Sho Stopper. Color me FLOORED when I realized who I had been speaking with, and just how beautiful of a human she was.
Fast forward to 2023 and The Sho Stopper agreed to be on The HeauXXXcast and I was so excited for our conversation. Y'all it was better than I could have expected because this lady has an EPIC story to tell. She has been through trials and tribulations that would make most anyone else crumble, but she rose victorious. Her resume says it all about her work ethic, but all you have to do is talk to one of her friends to see that she shines past her work. I hope you love listening to this conversation as much I loved recording it. You can follow her on all social platforms just look for @TheShoStopper
S2E5: The Queen of Polerskating
The intention for this episode was to talk with Denise, aka DanceLegz about how she got into skating. However, as you’ll hear we got distracted and talked more about life, dancing in general, and her background. Obviously, we will have to have her back on for an episode dedicated to skating, but where’s the problem in that? We loved having her on!
To show her some love, check out her resume below and follow her on Instagram @dancelegz.
2018 - Current
Urban One Honors (Hip Hop) - Doug E Fresh official rollerskating performer (TV One)
Brick TV - Roll Call ATLANTA skate feature
Tyler Hubbard - “Baby Gets Her Lovin” official music video main roller skater
Lil Boosie - “Weekend Bday Bash” Official Skate Assistant
Midnight Market ATL Food Festival - Official Roller Skate Instructor
Netflix Series “Insatiable” featured skater
STARZ series “VALLEY” featured skater / background actress
HBO United SKATES Documentary - Tricks and Splits Chicago Scene featured skater
Co Author - “The Evolution of Skating Vol #IV” ITS OUR EXPRESSION
ABC Good Morning America “National Skate Day” Music video release / Atlanta Skater
Dance Studio featured - Pole & Skate Entertainer / Instructor
Adriane The Fierce
On this episode Heaux Apparel speaks with Adriane Wilson, a professional athlete in the Highland Games and a personal trainer at Athlete’s Arena in Ballentine, South Carolina. Adriane is a longtime friend of Heaux Apparel and a legend in her own right. In this episode, we explore various lessons she has to offer as a professional athlete for both beginner and advanced pole dancers and how the worlds merge. Adriane is an expert in structure training for sports that are multifaceted, and let’s be real - pole is multifaceted. Pole is an all-encompassing sport that requires strength, flexibility, mobility, and dance.
To show some love for Adriane, you can follow her on Instagram @adrisue, and check out @athletes_arena to see how the magic happens. To learn more about the Highland Games, search #highlandgames on Instagram and follow @ihgfoffical.
J. Marie from @boobtionary Gets Real About Sexual Health
In this episode I speak with @Boobtionary’s J. Marie, a certified sexologist and coach. We have an intimate discussion on self-esteem, sexuality, and how the two can enhance AND hinder each other. We explore specific issues women have with intimacy and the pursuit of a fulfilling sex life. Heaux Apparel found this gem on Instagram and we are not looking back! Prepare for laughter, insight, and too much information (or is it?). @Boobtionary’s objective is to embolden women to take control of their sexual needs and desires.
Blast Your Strength Training to Beast Mode
In this episdoe Heaux Apparel speaks with Kirsten Maria. Kirsten is a personal/group trainer at the YMCA in Sumter, South Carolina. We discuss how she got into strength training and how it has helped elevate her own aerial skills in pole and lyra. We nerd out on our mutual love of when strength training and aerial fitness meet and how they benefit each other. Kirsten’s group classes are offered at all levels and she is a master of adapting movements to an individual’s needs. This transfers over well into the pole world because modifications are important stepping stones. Kirsten’s goal is to help the community realize that at any level, strength training can enhance overall quality of life.
To show some love for Kirsten, you can follow her Instagram @kirsmariawellness. She is a fabulous Heaux Apparel #ambadassadore and her home studio is Elysium, located in Columbia, South Carolina.
S2E1: SWAN - Superior Wellness and Nutrition with Toni Bowyer
In this episode Heaux Apparel speaks with Toni Bowyer, owner of SWAN (Superior Wellness and Nutrition). At the height of COVID, Toni got a skin condition called Perioral Dermatitis. She was let down by the medical community and as a result looked for alternative ways to heal herself. This exploration led her to becoming a health coach. SWAN is all about exploring the way Toni can help the pole community with the health side of training including nutrition, daily habits, and self talk. SWAN was built on the idea of the ugly duckling theory, but the journey itself to becoming a SWAN, is Toni’s specialty. Everyone deserves to feel stronger, better, and happier on the pole and Toni is a testimony to that.
To show some love for Toni, you can follow her business Instagram @swan.healthcoach and her personal journey @belle.of.the.pole. Her home studio is The Pole Academy, located in Greenville, South Carolina and owned by the fearless Heaux Apparel #ambadassadore @jaxpole.
S1 E3: PoleCon's Very Own Colleen Jolly
This episode is great fun, albeit long, conversation with Colleen Jolly. When I was first thinking about creating this podcast, she was someone I knew I had to have on - there is just so much to talk about with her. In this episode, you get her back story, a great discussion about her book Mobility for Pole and all the details on PoleCon 2023. I promise you, we could have talked for much longer but in the interest of you time we cut it short. That just means that we will have her on again.
S1 E2: The Ooey Gooey Jax Spencer
This episode is for everyone who isn't already head over heels in love with Jax Spencer. Jax is the owner of The Pole Academy in Greenville, SC and one of the baddest dancers we know. She was also one of the first supporters of Heaux Apparel as an Am-Bad-Ass-Adore. We talk about how she got started in dance and how that led to her owning her own studio. Gives some great advice for anyone looking to do their first competition and for advanced competitors looking for an edge. And, we hit on the criteria she is looking for in someone who wants to submit for consideration to perform in the Creepy Showcase at PoleCon 2023
S1 E00: Emonie's Closet
Heaux Apparel is excited to announce its new partnership with Emonie's Closet. We are currently running a contest on social media to raise fund and awareness of this organization and we look forward to doing more in the future. At first, this was just going to be a short episode introducing Emonie's Closet so that you knew what you were out there shaking your booty's for in the #twerkforyourturkey giveaway. But, once Leigh Trahan Canada, the founder of Emonie's Closet began to tell her story, I was hooked. There was no way to short cut all that she had to share. The first half of this episode we learn all about Emonie and the second half we learn how her legacy is impacting children in foster care in the Atlanta, GA.
This episode is airing on Sunday, November 13th which is Emonie's birthday. I am so glad that we were able to get it all edited quickly so that we could honor this amazing young lady on the day of her birth.
S1 E1 - Improvly Speaking
In this episode I sat down with my "Bestie from the Leftie" aka Dayna Gowan my best friend and the owner of Improvly Speaking. Improvly Speaking is a business that uses Improv games to teach better public speaking and communication skills in the workplace. I wanted her to be my first guest for a few reasons. 1. I was much less nervous on a first run with my friend and 2. All the skills she teaches in her workshops, are skills that we also learn on our pole journeys. Same skills, just a different way to learn them.
S1 E0: Introducing the HeauXXXcast
Welcome to The HeauXXXcast your new favorite podcast about all things related to (and tangential to) the aerial sports. In this introductory episode you get to hear from me, Susan, the HeauXXXcast host, about why I wanted to start this podcast. Its a short episode but hopefully by the end you will see my vision and be willing to jump on this crazy train with me. In future episodes I hope to talk about everything from sexuality to strength training and rehab and I hope you will share with me the topics that you are most interested in hearing about or learning about. I game for anything as long as it makes us all better.
In the interest of "just do the thing" I recorded and published this first episode even though it isn't perfect. I am hoping you will give me some grace since it was the first recording but just in case, here are a few things that are wrong in the episode.
1. This is the only episode with just me talking. And THANK GOD, because after 16 minutes I was even tired of me. The next episodes all feature guests so you can look forward to that.
2. I do an "outro" within the episode that sort of mirrors the "outro" at the end of the episode. I'm sorry about that, I just didn't have my ducks in a row on what I needed to record when.
3. I can not guarantee that I will document my push to a 200 lb. bench press because I'm not sure that is of any interest to anyone but me.
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