
Talking Brains
By Stephanie Sarkis PhD
www.stephaniesarkis.com

Talking BrainsDec 28, 2019

How to Navigate Female Friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson
Finding and keeping healthy female friendships can be a challenge in adulthood. Join me, Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, author of Healing from Toxic Relationships and Gaslighting, as I talk with Danielle Bayard Jackson, a friendship coach, to discover how we can have healthy friendships in our lives. You will also learn how to handle issues that may arise during friendships, and what to do if social anxiety is making it difficult for you to meet new people. Danielle can be found at betterfemalefriendships.com, and I can be found at stephaniesarkis.com. Enjoy the episode.

How to Reduce Anticipatory Anxiety
Anticipatory anxiety is a feeling of dread or panic before something big happens or when you think something will happen. Learn the techniques I teach clients to help reduce their anticipatory anxiety. Stephanie Sarkis Ph.D. is a psychotherapist and author based in Tampa, Florida. www.stephaniesarkis.com

Mindfulness and ADHD with Mark Bertin MD
Join Dr. Stephanie Sarkis and Dr. Mark Bertin as they discuss the benefits of mindfulness and how you can make it part of your daily routine. Mark Bertin MD is a developmental pediatrician based in Pleasantville, New York. He is the author of several books, including Mindfulness and Self-Compassion for ADHD and How Children Thrive. His website is www.developmentaldoctor.com. The host of Talking Brains is Stephanie Sarkis PhD at www.stephaniesarkis.com.

Preschoolers, ADHD, and a Pandemic with Esta Rapoport Ed.D.

Millennials: Highest Risk of Anxiety, Depression, and Suicide
According to a new CDC study, adults 18-24 have the highest rate of anxiety, depression, and suicidal behavior of any age group. I'm joined by Ari Tuckman PsyD CST to talk about why this is happening, and what you can do to take care of yourself during the Covid-19 pandemic. Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST is a psychologist and certified sex therapist in private practice in West Chester, PA, specializing in diagnosing and treating children, teens, and adults with ADHD, as well as couples and sex therapy. He's the author of several books, including ADHD After Dark. www.adultadhdbook.com. I'm Stephanie Sarkis PhD, the host of Talking Brains and author of Gaslighting. www.stephaniesarkis.com

Psychiatry, ADHD, and a Pandemic with Mark Wilson MD
What is it like to be a psychiatrist with ADHD during a pandemic? In this episode of Talking Brains, I speak with Mark Wilson MD about our new normal during the COVID-19 crisis, and how he got through medical school with ADHD. Talking Brains is hosted by Stephanie Sarkis PhD at www.stephaniesarkis.com. Mark Wilson MD can be found at www.markwwilson.mdpc.net.

How Availability Bias Can Mess Up Our Relationships
Availability bias states that we put the most importance on our most recent or emotionally-laden memory. This can lead to us having difficulties coming up with solutions to issues that pop up in our relationships. Stephanie Sarkis PhD is the host of Talking Brains. www.stephaniesarkis.com

ADHD & Anxiety: Coping with a Pandemic with Ari Tuckman PsyD CST
If you have ADHD and/or anxiety, the coronavirus pandemic can impact you in much more significant ways. Guest Ari Tuckman PsyD CST shares how you may be experiencing the pandemic differently, and how to best cope with events beyond our control. Psychologist Ari Tuckman PsyD, CST is an expert in ADHD and the author of ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship. He can be found at www.adultadhdbook.com. Stephanie Sarkis PhD is the host of Talking Brains. www.stephaniesarkis.com

Parenting During a Pandemic with Mark Bertin MD
You may already have marked a week since you quarantined with your kids. You also may feel like you're about to lose your sanity. Good news! Mark Bertin MD has returned to Talking Brains to help you figure out this "new normal." Dr. Bertin is a developmental pediatrician and author of How Children Thrive, Mindful Parenting for ADHD and The Family ADHD Solution. He is also a contributing author for the book Teaching Mindfulness Skills to Kids and Teens. Dr. Bertin is on faculty at New York Medical College and the Windward Teacher Training Institute, and on the advisory boards for the non-profits Common Sense Media and Reach Out and Read. His blog is available through Mindful.org and Psychology Today. Visit his site at www.developmentaldoctor.com. Talking Brains is hosted by Stephanie Sarkis PhD at www.stephaniesarkis.com.

Ways to Effectively Parent During Coronavirus (COVID-19)
As a parent, you are probably feeling a variety of emotions right now about the coronavirus pandemic — anxiety, fear, anger, burnout, confusion, and an overwhelming sense of chaos. We are in the midst of an event that many have not seen in our lifetimes. On top of that, your kids' school has just been canceled for two weeks. You may have been asked to work from home, or maybe you need to continue at your job while your kids are out of school. On top of that, you want to keep you and your kids healthy and safe. It's a lot to handle at once. Learn how to maintain some sense of normalcy and answer your kids questions about this pandemic. I'm an American Mental Health Counselors Association Clinical Specialist in Child and Adolescent Counseling with over 20 years experience counseling children and their parents during crisis. I'll tell you what I know helps. Dr. Stephanie Sarkis is the host of Talking Brains. www.stephaniesarkis.com

Narcissist Red Flags on a First Date
How do you spot a narcissist or gaslighter on a first date? I'll tell you warning signs that tip you off that this person is a manipulator. I'll also teach you a technique to help you find a healthy mate. A similar (but not exact) written version of this episode can be found on my blog at Psychology Today. Go to www.stephaniesarkis.com/blog for the link. The host of Talking Brains is Stephanie Sarkis PhD. www.stephaniesarkis.com

ADHD Shortens Your Life Span with Ari Tuckman PsyD MBA
Did you know that ADHD can shorten your life span by several years? Join me as I talk with colleague and fellow ADHD expert Ari Tuckman PsyD MBA about Russell Barkley PhD's research on ADHD and life span. Learn what you can do about extending your life expectancy when you have ADHD. Psychologist Ari Tuckman PsyD MBA is the author of ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship. He can be found at www.adultadhdbook.com. Stephanie Sarkis PhD is the host of Talking Brains and the author of Gaslighting. www.stephaniesarkis.com

Navigating Friendships in Adulthood with Irene Kerzhnerman PhD
Making and keeping friends gets simultaneously harder and easier in adulthood. Learn how to determine if your friendships are healthy, how to set boundaries, and how you can have equal give and take in your friendships. Irene Kerzhnerman PhD is a psychologist based in Boca Raton, Florida. Her site is www.drireneonline.com. Talking Brains is hosted by Stephanie Sarkis PhD at www.stephaniesarkis.com.

Science Fiction and the Writing Process with Rick Moskovitz
Welcome to the third season of Talking Brains. Today's guest, Rick Moskovitz, appeared in season 1 where we discussed memory and trauma. Rick is back to talk about his new science fiction trilogy and his fiction writing process as a psychiatrist and scientist. Rick Moskovitz is a Harvard educated psychiatrist who taught psychotherapy and spent nearly four decades listening to his patients tell their stories. After leaving practice, he in turn became a storyteller, writing science fiction that explores the psychological consequences of living in a world of expanding possibilities, including even the prospect of evading death. His characters deal with enduring moral and emotional struggles against a backdrop of a near future world that is still dealing with environmental crises as it navigates the intersection of human and artificial intelligence. www.rickmoskovitz.com The host of Talking Brains is Stephanie Sarkis PhD. www.stephaniesarkis.com

Why Are We Yelling? The Art of Productive Disagreement with Buster Benson
Learn why our communication styles get in the way of reaching a common goal, and discover how you can have more productive conversations. Buster Benson is an entrepreneur and a former product leader at Amazon, Twitter, Slack, and Patreon. He’s now CEO of 750words.com and writes for Medium and busterbenson.com. This is his first book. The host of Talking Brains is Stephanie Sarkis PhD at www.stephaniesarkis.com

Achieving Work-Life Balance with Russell Clayton PhD
Balancing work and your personal life can be a challenge. Join me as I speak with Russell Clayton PhD from the Muma College of Business at the University of South Florida. Dr. Clayton is the author of Balancing Life: Seven Strategies That Can Help You Achieve Work-Life Balance. Learn how you can achieve wellness in your life — by putting your priorities first, without sacrificing your gifts. Talking Brains is hosted by Stephanie Sarkis PhD. www.stephaniesarkis.com

You're Really Not That Smart: The Dunning-Kruger Effect
What's the opposite of imposter syndrome? When someone thinks they know more than they actually do. It's a cognitive bias called the Dunning-Kruger Effect, and you'll learn how to combat it. Also, my story of an unnamed giant in the mental health field who told me that ADHD fMRIs were fake and colored in by hand. Stephanie Sarkis PhD is the host of Talking Brains and the author of Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People and Break Free. www.stephaniesarkis.com

When You Don't Feel "Good Enough": Imposter Syndrome
Do you have fears that people will find out that you're really not as good as they think you are? Do you feel that you're never "good enough"? Imposter syndrome is common phenomenon that can leave you feeling inadequate and insecure. Learn how to conquer it on this episode of Talking Brains. Stephanie Sarkis PhD is the host of Talking Brains. www.stephaniesarkis.com

Is it Gaslighting or Poor Communication?
I received an email asking me the difference between a gaslighting relationship and one where the partners don't communicate effectively. I'll be sharing quotes from that email along with my answers. The host of Talking Brains is Stephanie Sarkis PhD, author of Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People and Break Free. www.stephaniesarkis.com

Demystifying Mindfulness with Dr. Tony Quaglieri
The word "mindfulness" seems to be everywhere. Do we really know what it means to be mindful, or to practice mindfulness? Dr. Tony Quaglieri talks about what mindfulness really is, and leads you through a mindfulness exercise. He also lets you know how easy it is to practice mindfulness even if you have only a few spare minutes a day. Tony Quaglieri PhD can be found at www.anthonyquaglieri.com. The host of Talking Brains is Stephanie Sarkis PhD at www.stephaniesarkis.com.

Coping with Empty Nest Syndrome
You may have children going off to college this year. Feeling a sense of grief about your child leaving is totally normal. Learn how you can best cope with your "new normal." The Psychology Today article of this episode, along with the interview on empty nests in Good Housekeeping, can be found here: https://bit.ly/2P6pE9b The host of Talking Brains is Stephanie Sarkis PhD at www.stephaniesarkis.com.

ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship
Welcome back to Ari Tuckman PsyD MBA, author of the new book ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship. Dr. Tuckman's book is the first that focuses exclusively on ADHD and sex. Discover how ADHD impacts your sex life, and why unloading the dishwasher without being reminded is one of the best things you can do for your relationship. Seriously. Dr. Tuckman's site is www.tuckmanpsych.com. Stephanie Sarkis PhD is the host of Talking Brains. www.stephaniesarkis.com

Why Are People with ADHD More Vulnerable to Gaslighting?
If you have ADHD, you may find that you are more prone to being manipulated in relationships due to ADHD-related issues, including feeling "less than". Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse where a person manipulates others to gain control over them. According to studies, you are more likely to be an abusive relationship than your peers when you have ADHD. Why does having ADHD make you more vulnerable to gaslighting? Learn what you can do to prevent having these types of relationships in the future. The host of Talking Brains is Stephanie Sarkis PhD, author of Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People and Break Free. www.stephaniesarkis.com.

Why a Gaslighting/Narcissistic Relationship Is So Devastating
Gaslighters/narcissists cause a great deal of trauma to others. If you are in a relationship with a gaslighter/narcissist, it may have traumatized you in ways that you aren't consciously aware of yet. Discover how the gaslighter/narcissist may be impacting your view of yourself and the world around you. The host of Talking Brains is Stephanie Sarkis PhD, the author of Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People and Break Free. www.stephaniesarkis.com

Rebuilding After a Gaslighting or Narcissistic Relationship
You survived an emotionally abusive relationship with a gaslighter/narcissist. How do you start healing and how do you avoid these relationships in the future? How do you find yourself again, after being told repeatedly that you were "less than"? Learn the building blocks to surviving and thriving after a relationship with a gaslighter or narcissist. The host of Talking Brains is Stephanie Moulton Sarkis PhD, author of Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People and Break Free. www.stephaniesarkis.com

Parallel Coparenting: You Do Your Thing, I'll Do Mine...with Jeremy Gaies PsyD
No one said coparenting would be easy. But what if your coparenting relationship causes anger and frustration more days than not? Parallel coparenting and consulting with a parent coordinator may be options for you. Jeremy Gaies PsyD, psychologist, family mediator, and coauthor of Mindful Coparenting: A Child-Friendly Path Through Divorce shares which coparenting options might be best for you - whether your coparenting relationship is low-conflict, medium-conflict, or high-conflict. If you aren't sure which conflict style your coparenting might be, Dr. Gaies can help you with that too. I'm Stephanie Sarkis PhD, host of Talking Brains and author of Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People and Break Free. www.stephaniesarkis.com

How CBT Can Help You Deal With Difficult People
Research in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) has found it to be an effective treatment for anxiety, depression, and ADHD. CBT can also help you cope with life stressors, including dealing with difficult people. Our guest is Seth Gillihan PhD, a licensed psychologist and author. He is the author of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Made Simple, and the creator of The CBT Deck: 101 Practices to Improve Thoughts. Dr. Gillihan can be found at www.sethgillihan.com. I'm your host, Dr. Stephanie Sarkis. I can be found at www.stephaniesarkis.com.

Financial/Economic Abuse: How to Break Free
Financial/Economic abuse is present in 99% of domestic violence cases. It's a way that abusers/gaslighters/narcissists gain power and control in a relationship. Find out how to identify financial/economic abuse, and learn what you can do to protect yourself and your children. Resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline at www.thehotline.org or 1-800-799-7233; domestic violence pro bono legal services guide at www.probono.net/dv/oppsguide/. Dr. Stephanie Sarkis is the host of Talking Brains and the author of Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People and Break Free. www.stephaniesarkis.com

What to Do When Your Boss is a Gaslighter
What should you do when your boss is a narcissist or sociopath? How should you cope when your boss continually harasses you and sabotages your work? Learn the answers to these questions, and discover how to protect yourself. Stephanie Sarkis PhD is the host of Talking Brains and the author of Gaslighting: How to Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People and Break Free. There is a whole chapter in Gaslighting devoted to gaslighting in the workplace. www.stephaniesarkis.com

When is a Relationship "Bad Enough"?: Leaving a Gaslighter
I've had several people contact me and ask me, "What if my partner meets only a few characteristics of a gaslighter? Should I leave?" In this podcast I detail 11 warning signs of a gaslighter, plus information to help you decide if it is time to leave. Stephanie Sarkis PhD is the author of Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People - and Break Free. www.stephaniesarkis.com

Gaslighters & Gift-Giving
Gaslighters are terrible at giving gifts....and they can be equally as terrible at receiving them. What do you say when you get stung by the gaslighter over a gift? Talking Brains is hosted by Stephanie Sarkis PhD, author of Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People and Break Free. www.stephaniesarkis.com

Collaborative Divorce Helps Families Heal with Jeremy Gaies PsyD
Collaborative divorce helps families heal when parents' relationships change. Jeremy Gaies PsyD is a licensed psychologist and certified family mediator who specializes in helping divorcing families pursue peaceful solutions. Dr. Gaies is the author of “A Clear and Easy Guide to Collaborative Divorce” and the co-author of “Mindful Co-Parenting: A Child-Friendly Path Through Divorce.” The host of Talking Brains is Stephanie Sarkis PhD at www.stephaniesarkis.com

Malevolence "Monster" OCD with Seth J. Gillihan PhD
Malevolence or "monster" obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) includes obsessions about hurting other people. Licensed psychologist Seth J. Gillihan PhD gives us more info about malevolence OCD, including treatment. Dr. Gillihan is a clinical assistant professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania. His books include Overcoming OCD: A Journey to Recovery. His website is www.sethgillihan.com. Talking Brains is hosted by Stephanie Sarkis PhD. www.stephaniesarkis.com

Racial Bias in Media & What You Can Do About It
This episode I'm joined by Torraine Walker to discuss racial bias in media - specifically the ways in which the media tends to portray white alleged offenders as "innocent" and people of color alleged offenders as "guilty". (Thank you Torraine for describing our discussion so well!) We also talk about what you can do to combat this bias. Torraine Walker is a writer, journalist, and social media influencer with over 50 bylines in publications including Teen Vogue, Huffington Post, Splinter (formerly Fusion), and RaceBaitR. His website is www.torrainewalker.com, and his Twitter and Insta are @torrainewalker. I'm your host, Stephanie Sarkis PhD www.stephaniesarkis.com

Collaborative Law and Collaborative Divorce: Putting Your Kids First
Learn how collaborative law, a non-adversarial way to settle issues, can help make life less stressful when you are going through a divorce or separation. Special guest is attorney and published author Adam Cordover JD at www.familydiplomacy.com and based in Tampa, Florida. Talking Brains is hosted by Stephanie Sarkis PhD at www.stephaniesarkis.com

Herding Cats: The Psychology Behind Managing a Large Online Group

Mental Energy as Expenses and Income with Irene Kerzhnerman PhD

How Children Thrive with Mark Bertin MD

Anxiety, Burnout, Tribalism, & Taking Action

Memory, Trauma, & State-Dependent Learning with Rick Moskovitz MD

Are You In a Relationship With a Gaslighter?

Let's Talk About Sex...and ADHD
