Tantra Made Easy

It is a common phenomenon that many women do not enjoy sex as much as they would like to. Many suffer from numbness or pain, and do not know why, nor how to heal themselves. As a result, there are women who just endure intimacy as a way to connect with their partner, and others who just avoid it.

Laura Walter is an expert in this topic, because she herself used to suffer from numbness and pain. Through Tao Tantra tools she began to heal and turn around her situation. Now she coaches many women to heal the same issues, and reclaim their right to pleasure.

Join Shashi Solluna and Laura Walter in a conversation about this issue and the steps required to move through it.

Margot Anand was very much at the beginnings of Neo Tantra, as she was asked to teacher Tantra by the mystic Osho. She has been a huge part of the development of the modern Tantra scene.

In this interview she chats about the changes she has seen in this scene and the future of Tantra in the world.

Hear her juicy stories and an incredible perspective on the evolution of Neo Tantra.

We are drawn to relating so that we can enjoy giving and receiving...the very foundation of what makes a relationship. And yet, these are areas that we are not taught about in our education, and indeed there is a lot of confusion about it all.

One of the leading voices on this topic is Betty Martin, who created the Wheel of Consent. This is a practice and a model for exploring the intricacies of true giving receiving, both as the "doer" and being "done to". Once we start to takes these pieces a apart, only then can we begin to understand all of these dynamics.

In this interview, you will learn:

• * Why doing and giving are not synonymous
• * Why being done to and receiving are not synonymous
• * Understand more about how to take pleasure
• * Why receiving is so challenging
• * How to learn what you really desire
• * How to activate your senses to really take pleasure from touch
• * Why even long term couples can benefit from consent and agreements

Tibetan Tantra is probably the path least known by Westerners. Most of us in the modern Western world follow NeoTantra and dive into Taoist Sexual Arts and some classical Indian Tantra. This might be partly due to the fact that Tibetan Tantra is much a monastic path, practised largely by monks. This may be one of the reasons it is not so seen in Western culture. Also many of the teachings are secret and not revealed until the practitioner has attained a certain level of personal achievement.

Today Shashi Solluna chats with Jampa Stewart, who has dived deep into Tibetan Tantra as well as the Tao Tantric Arts. The intention is to explore what are the difference and similarities of the different paths.

What is the connection between kundalini rising, the energy body, energetic sex and astral sex?

Perhaps one of the few people on this planet who can talk with confidence on these topics is Michael Winn, founder of Healing Tao USA, who has been facilitating the Taoist Sexual Arts and Inner Alchemy for over 40 years.

Following on from his class in the LiveTantra Kundalini Symposium, I chat with Michael about his own first experiences with astral sex and what he learned from it. 

In this juicy and alive conversation you will discover:

• The difference between raising sexual energy up to the heavens, and circulating it in the body.
• All about energy orgasm and spiritual orgasm
• Detailed descriptions of astral sex
• Micheal shares his first experience of being "sexually taken" by a woman in the astral plane!
• He talks about learning how to work with energy more consciously and deliberately.
• Michael will share about the profound energetic connection he has with his wife of 25 years, and how they even transcended life and had energetic sex after she had passed away (get a box of tissues ready for this story, as it is very touching)
• All about porn and how it operates on the astral plane

Yes, this interview is far out there and yet somehow also down to earth.

This is an unusual episode, because I am interviewing my own partner! I wanted him to share how he chose me. Because this man has impressed me deeply since I met him, and the process of being "wooed" by him was extraordinary. 

I know that I can be intimidating to men, purely because I am a well-known Tantra teacher. That in itself can be enticing, but also intimidating. In the past I had men approach me to get something from me, or there was a power struggle there. But with Shahid, he stood solidly in his own power, in his own center, whilst choosing me fully.

In this chat, we talk about our story. How a garden designer from North Netherlands came about choosing a powerful tantrika who lived in Asia. How he overcame his fears. How he moved from polyamory to going deep with one, and why. The journey from the first kiss to a full surrender of the heart.

We made this to inspire others. Our path is not for everyone. But we hope that there is something there for others like us, who wish to find  way to be empowered and yet in love.

How is a man to find a healthy way to be in his masculine in today's world? When we hear so much about the "toxic masculine", the backlash of the #metoo movement paints a very dismal picture of men and masculine energy.

So what is a man to do? Ignore the feedback and label it all as projection? Crumple in guilt and give up all trance of masculinity?

How is a man to date in a post-#metoo era? Can a man still approach a woman and ask her for a drink without being the "toxic masculine"? Is it actually safe for men to try dating as they used to?

What does the world of Tantra and Men's work have to offer men struggling to find their way in current times? I chat with Paal Christian Buntz, creator of the Wildman Project, to find out what men are going through and what ways they can move forward. We chat about #metoo, boundaries, tantra and polyamory, porn addiction and relationships.

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Many women find that their libido diminishes after they have a baby, and it can be a struggle to get it back. As well, a partner may have various struggles with knowing how to relate intimately with her once they become parents.

Of course, there are hormonal changes, there are late nights with crying babies, but it IS also possible to bring the intimacy back.

Power dynamics can be one of the biggest causes of conflict and harm in a relationship.

Commonly, women give their power away to men in various ways, although this can also be the other way around. In this podcast, I talk with Sonja Shradha Devi about unhealthy power dynamics that result in a woman devaluing her own experience. This might be a personal relationship but is also seen in student-guru relationships.

We will talk about:

- physical abuse, emotional abuse and even spiritual abuse

- how to spot that you are in a disempowered relationship

- steps to start to heal within

- steps to start to short the relationship or leave

- watching not to fall into victim mentality

- moving from blame to responsibility

- finding your own values, needs and truth

- the qualities of empowered relationships and how to attract them

Something that I feel we all need to learn about if we want to have harmonious relationships is trauma healing.

Most of us have had more trauma than we realize, and right now we are in times of mass collective trauma (trauma is defined as anything that is overwhelming for our system to process). It affects our emotions, our nervous system our ability to relate with others...and this all comes out in our interpersonal relationships.

Add to that the amount of sexual trauma and abuse that many have suffered. You may feel as if you have got over it, and yet in an intimate relationship you get triggered and find yourself shutting down. This is because often our unresolved trauma resurfaces in intimate relationships.

For that reason, as I have worked with couples for many years to teach them about Tantra, I have come to the realization that we also need to understand at least the basics of trauma healing if we are to have a harmonious relationship. In fact, this needs to be the precursor to learning Tantra practices (otherwise some of the practices will trigger you and you won't know why).

I have made this podcast to help couples understand the basics of trauma healing and the importance of integrating this into your relationship tool kit.

So many men carry shame around issues such as premature ejaculation and impotence. And to make matters worse, many carry this shame alone as they do not know where to go for guidance and support.

Meet Taylor. He is offering support for men in the form of articles, videos and courses to guide them through a process that he himself went through. With his experience of Tantra, Taoist Sexual Arts and his own explorations, he has been putting together a toolkit for men to shift their sexuality.

In this interview, we cover a number of issues including:

* How to overcome porn addiction, and re-direct your energy back into your life.

* Getting over premature ejaculation.

* Discovering what ejaculatory choice is.

* Healing your relationship with non-erection.

* How self-pleasure can become a tantric practice.

* Discovering sexual pleasure beyond the genitals.

* How to have psychedelic experiences just from love-making!

* Full body orgasm for men,

...and so much more.

About Taylor

Taylor is a sex educator and coach who helps men master their sexual energy so they can use it to supercharge their entire life. He combines tantric and taoist sexuality with western practicality in ways that make this work practical, grounded and real. He runs in-person workshops, and...

He runs two online courses for men:

Many religions teach that in order to be truly spiritual, you must suppress sexuality and destroy your sexual urges. Tantra is one rare exception, that instead invites you to enter sexuality but with full awareness and consciousness.  

Ohad Ezrahi is part of the lead faculty of ISTA, leading conscious sexuality trainings around the world. However, in his early days he was immersed into Orthodox Judaism and was even ordained as a Rabbi. This came from his deep yearnings to find more to life than just the surface level. Yet, the split between sex and spirituality always caused him pain.

In this episode, Ohad shares his incredible story, and his findings along the way.

Find out how he went from looking for ascension, to turning it around and bringing spirit and consciousness deeply into the physical and sexual realms.

I often say, let us journey from Sex to Spirit. But in this case, I definitely will say: Let us journey from Spirit to Sex!

For centuries mankind has been struggling with the differential between the spiritual desire for non-attachment and the human desire for building relationships. 

Many have felt forced to choose...those who took the spiritual path renounced all worldly desires with celibacy, monkhood and other austere practices, giving up all the basic human desires (at least on the surface, as we now know many failed and just pushed their desires into shadowy behaviours).. Those who chose humanity may have chosen hedonism, bit many fell into attachment, addiction and cycles of emotionality.

Author John Amodeo has been exploring for several decades how to reconcile these two aspects. A trained therapist and marriage guidance counselor, he was also a Buddhist and spiritual seeker. Though these two worlds were mostly kept separate, John set out to find out how to find the meeting point....very much the core essence of Tantra.

The result is that he has found that relationship CAN be a valid part of our spiritual growth, if we apply the right tools and attitudes.

In this podcast episode, he explains what that looks like.

This includes:

* An explanation of the different needs of our spiritual aspect and our human aspect

* Exploring where these two meet

* How relationship can become our spiritual vehicle

* taking a look "attachment" and what that really means

* How to avoid spiritual bypassing, but also not get stuck in the human experience

To find out more about John and his work, please refer to:

Ma Ananda Sarita is one of the world's leading authorities on Tantra. She lived for 26 years in the Osho community, and 16 years in Osho's presence, receiving teachings and transmissions on the teachings and meditations of Tantra. We chat together about how sex can become a spiritual experience, and how a couple can transform an ordinary relationship into a tantric relationship. At the end of this podcast, Sarita shares step-by-step guidance for a couple's practice in spiritual sex.  

In this audio: 

* Find out what Osho taught to Sarita about Tantra 

* Hear how to unite our hedonistic nature with our spiritual path. 

* Learn how a couple can surrender their egos to Love. 

* Discover how sex can actually accelerate our enlightenment and awakening. 

* Find out how a couple need to integrate meditation into their relationship. 

* Hear about "Love Appointments" and how a couple can schedule in their tantric experiences. 

* Discover how to recognize good chemistry with a partner. 

* Find out some of Sarita's secrets of Tantra! 

* Hear a step-by-step practice that you and your partner can try out at home! 

How to deal with conflict in your relationship? For many people, arguing takes the fun out of being in a relationship, and can even be the cause for the whole relationship to fail.

Marriage Meditator, Max Rivers, explains that although conflict can ruin relationships, it also can actually take your relationship deeper. You simply need to know how to transform it.

His explanation is that we argue on one level, but resolve on another. Trying to resolve an issue at the level at which is causes conflict is actually not going to work. Because we need to get underneath into the underlying issues.

Once a couple know how to navigate to the underlying layers, then the exact same issue can actually open both of your hearts to deeper levels of compassion and understanding. Together you can start to build trust instead of torment.

In this interview, Max shares the steps to take to make this shift.

* How arguments can be retreated over and over again because we are at the wrong level for resolving it.

* How to access that deeper level and communicate from there.

* Non Violent Communication taken a step farther, into understanding the mystery of forbidden needs.

* How we attract the very person who can trigger us, and why. How to let those triggers take us deeper into self-understanding.

* The secret of how never to be "wrong" in your relationship.

* How to build a relationship that fulfills both people.

NOTE: There are a couple of small audio delays due to failing internet, however the information is still clear.

Pleasure is something that is so often seen as an enemy of being spiritual. So many religions will teach us that you have to choose between following your pleasure or following God.

Yet Tantra says the opposite.

Tantra says: let pleasure take you home. Let pleasure awaken you. Let pleasure bring you back to your true self.

So many religions have told us that we have to overcome desire in order to become spiritual. Desire is basically a hindrance to spiritual awakening, they say...

Yet, we are all born with desire. We desire breath, then breast milk and warm loving arms. Desire helps us choose life. How can something so fundamental to humanity be against our awakening? I ask these questions to my friend, Dr. Saida Desilets.

Dr. Saida Desilets is a phenomenal teacher of Sacred Sexuality.

She was brought into the field through her own personal tragedy, and yet defied all of the odds to heal and recover herself, and not only survive, but THRIVE. After many years studying Tantra and Taoist Sexual Arts, Saida went on to complete a PhD in female sexuality in Transpersonal Psychology, making her one of the world's leading authorities in the Tao Tantric Arts for women.

Her latest book, Desire, explores the juicy topic of desire...including how we can resolve our desires whilst following a spiritual path. She brilliantly breaks down desire into different categories to help us understand it better. She also looks at sexual desire evolving, so that we can understand shifts in our desire over our lifetime.

Kiya Shanti, filmmaker of "Sex to Spirit" and "Tantra Lovers" and author of soon-to-be-published novel "Tantra Island", is a leading inspiration for men who want to experience full body orgasm and the states of ecstasy that this leads to.

In the mainstream world, men are taught that the highlight of their sexual pleasure is to have an ejaculatory orgasm which can be over in seconds and often leaves a man feeling tired or depleted. In the Tantra world we are taught that we can move into full body orgasm. 

Yet even in Tantra, the focus is often on the women's orgasm. It can be common in  Tantra for men to take the role of space-holder (we call it "Shiva presence") whilst the woman goes into full body orgasm (that we call Shakti energy).

However, there is actually another level possible, which is for BOTH partners to be in full body orgasm. This happens when both partners have activate their inner masculine and inner feminine (and thus it is even beyond physical gender).

In this interview, Kiya explains:

~ What the difference between ejaculatory orgasm and full body orgasm is.

~ How to avoid "blue balls" or frustration whilst transitioning to full body orgasm.

~ Three amazing tools he used to develop full body orgasm capacity.

~ How the energy paths work in full body orgasm.

~ Ways to pull up sexual energy from the sex center to the heart and consciousness.

~ The use of breathwork to develop energy orgasm.

~ How emotions are connected to orgasmic states and to ecstasy.

~ How two partners can connect and enter energy orgasm together, and how this takes them to a higher state of consciousness.

So finally this information is out there! I recommend that all men who are desiring a more fulfilling sexual experience take a listen to this podcast and get inspired!

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These days if you venture into the field of Tantra, you often find the trend of "polyamory" entwined with it. Polyamory means "many loves" and is a way to try to deal with the fact that we have many connections with different people, even if we are in a committed relationship with one person. 

"Poly" can mean anything from having multiple lovers at a time, sharing energy and touch with many people but sex with one, or have a primary relationship in which there is an openness about attraction to others.

It has sometimes been used to deepen trust, honesty and connection in a relationship. But it has also been used to try to "have it all", and can become an excuse to take what you want, no matter whom that hurts.

As a group of Tantric professionals, we entered discussion about this. Is this actually a path for growth and expansion, or it is causing us unnecessary pain?

Join us on our red table discussion on the topic...

In this episode I explore the mechanics around using sex and sexual energy to generate spiritual experiences. Topics covered include: - What IS a spiritual experience anyway? 

- How can our state of contraction or expansion affect our reality?

 - Why do we seek expansive or spiritual experiences? 

- What did Tantra and the Taoist Sexual Arts teach us about using sexual energy for spiritual growth? 

- Can sex lead us to our higher self? 

- How is orgasm related to generating expanded states of consciousness? 

- How can we use sexual energy as rocket fuel for our spirituality? 

- What are the energy pathways used and how can we open them? 

- What practices are used to facilitate sexual-spiritual experiences? 

- What precautions do we need to take doing these practices?