TCK CareJan 14, 2020
Adjustment takes time. It takes patience, and flexibility, and so many things. TCK's are professional adapters, but let's not forget that it can be beneficial to rehearse the basics if you want to pursue excellence. So let's talk about the basics of what it takes to adjust.
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie talks about what happens when people tell and listen to a single story. I believe that Third Culture Kids are prone to tell single stories, especially about themselves. But that doesn't have to be true. Let's talk about what it would take to tell your whole story.
Why might TCK's have difficulty getting in touch with their feelings? How might that impact relationships? And what's to be done about it? Let's talk about emotional availability.
Here's an excellent article on emotional availability that I reference in the podcast.
Don't forget to listen to my interview with Micahel Pollock defining what it means to be a TCK.
Transition is Visceral
Is it just me, or does the process of transition have an inextricable connection with deep feelings? In this week's episode, I speak to the way that an outward experience can affect us on the inside, dramatically shaping our emotional reality. And I talk about how feelings are just feelings, and that there's nothing wrong with them.
"Not Just Words" with In Inés Yabár
Inés joins me on the show to share her amazing story of travel, adventure, language, and connection. Inés and I talk about the nature of relationships in a transient state, and how language is more than just the words that we speak.
I Remember Everything
Have you ever felt alien? Do your memories appear strange to you, as if you may come from another world, or another time? Today I'm going to talk about what it's like to carry the memories from the Third Culture, memories of other worlds that we carry inside ourselves.
The New Normal
#RealTalk Take 2
"Self Compassion" with Darci Nealeigh
"Wherever you go, there you are." In this episode, Darci Nealeigh talks about the state of self compassion. She identifies early on how crucial this practice is given the current health pandemic where we are often stuck with nothing but ourselves. We talk about trust, inner dialogue, and give several analogies and exercises for being compassionate to yourself.
"Social Media" with Rhys Pasimio
The world has never been as small as it is with social media. And accessing information has never been so easy. Connecting with loved ones with images and messages from our lives feels amazing. But what is the cost? Addictions counselor Rhys Pasimio joins me on the show once again to talk about how social media affects our lives and relationships.
#RealTalk Take 1
"Setting Anchor Part 2" with Jon Walthour
"Setting Anchor" with Jon Walthour
Two TCK's (Jon Walthour from TCK Tales and myself) talk about the journey of setting anchor in the middle of a mobile life. We talk about the different kinds of anchors that hold people in place, factors that support stability, and what it's like to pick up (or cut off) those anchors and move on. Real talk with TCK podcasters.
TCK's in Crisis
"Raising Healthy TCK's" with Lauren Wells
Titles and Tools
How helpful is the label "TCK"? Or any label, for that matter? What is the danger in using a label as you introduce yourself? In this episode I interact with Stephanie Boon's article Identity Theft of Third Culture Kids to talk about the place of labels in the TCK community.
"Citizen of the World" with Christina Hoag
"Change and Transition" with Julia Gutgsell
Julia's global, multicultural upbringing uniquely enables her to connect with expatriates on an empathetic level. Julia decided to use her aptitude for connection combined with her appreciation for global mobility to begin a career in expat coaching and consulting. In this episode, Julia tells her own story and extrapolates on the difference between change and transition, breaking down the transition framework created by William Bridges. For more information about Julia, visit her website, Yellow Wood Coaching, read her blog, or follow her on Facebook or Linkedin.
"Understood" with Tanya Crossman
"How I see my TCK work is all about building bridges between people" says Tanya Crossman, author of the book Misunderstood. Tanya has spent years caring for TCK's, interviewing TCK's, and working with TCK families. She speaks into the need for giving TCK's permission to fail. To learn more about Tanya, check out her Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.
"What It Takes" with Louise Wiles
Expat coach, consultant, writer, podcaster with a background in occupational psychology, Louise Wiles speaks from her firsthand experience traveling the world as well as raising TCK's to address the end goal of the drive to see the world. Louise covers the basics of what it takes to thrive abroad. Be sure to check out Louise' website, check out her book, Thriving Abroad, her own podcast, and the resource she mentions Families in Global Transition.
"Music Took Me Through" with DC Collard
Artist, musician, and producer DC Collard shares the story of his upbringing in Malaysia and London. DC speaks to the role of music in processing the challenges of his globally mobile life and focusing on the benefits from his TCK experience. To learn more about DC and his music, and for more information about his TCK themed album, click here.
"From Here Now" with Alyssa Bartling
Alyssa starts her story by talking about being from here now, which I believe is an excellent summary of the sense of ongoing transience that many TCK’s claim. Alyssa shares the positive and challenging aspects of her journey, framing it all in the lens of continual growth and increasing awareness for an uplifting TCK story.