The After 30 Podcast

On September 11, 2001, at 9:26 a.m. the FAA shut down its airspace. More than 4,000 planes were forced to land. Flights coming from Europe were grounded in Canada. And so 38 planes containing 6,579 passengers and crew members, 11 dogs, nine cats and two endangered apes were diverted to Gander, Newfoundland.

This small town on an island at the edge of Atlantic (population: 9,651) with a giant heart quickly sprung into action. Suddenly over the course of five days, Gander’s population exploded. Community buildings were transformed into shelters. The town called on its citizens for help for anything they could do. And they delivered!

Diane Davis was one of the incredible teachers responsible for managing the influx of passengers. Gander at the time, provided food, shelter and helped anyone who was stranded to get what they needed. She also inspired one of the main characters in the extraordinary musical Come From Away. Diane talks to us about the thousands of people deplaned in Gander and how they made extraordinary connections with the community who shared their hospitality, and taught the world about our capacity to give during times of crisis.

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It's gonna happen, you're after 30 and a proper adult, a BIG decision is bound to show up where you're not immediately and instinctively aligned with your partner - a big job, a big move, a big change in your family dynamic. Que the tension. 

Today we debate the good and bad about discussing such major decisions with friends and family, and the emotional (or helpful) roller coaster that can ensue. We chat about how crucial it is to get clarity on what YOU want amongst honouring your collective goals, how much we think identifying your values plays a key role, and we share what's worked for us navigating a crunchy situation like this. 

We hope you love it! 

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Anis & Tabs

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We chat with Jennifer Fils-Aime, the founder and owner of NWA Boutique in Montreal. It's interesting because Jennifer has made some unconventional and daring decisions in her family life which has given her the perspective she’s needed to build a life for herself which is unique and purpose filled.

We’ll chat about her decision to create an unconventional arrangement at home - as a mother working through a separation but still wanting to grow the family. And instead of focusing on societal judgements and self-doubt - she’s sticking true to this decision so she can be truly happy. And we discuss how this arrangement is actually so aligned with the current state of affairs of the world i.e. there is no such thing as a convention.

What does etiquette even mean today!? Our world is culturally diverse and dynamic, and so highly digital and casual - hardly anyone seems to abide by the rules and standards of "traditional etiquette" today. So does that matter? Should we care? What should we still be making sure we know and do? 

In this show we’re constantly picking apart the assumptions, stereotypes, and unrealistic or outdated expectations that society places on us - and today we’re getting laser focused on one of the common ones that befalls us as we get into our 40’s - the story that we’re somehow done. That getting off our current path, particularly our career one, and building an altogether new one is somehow not ideal at this age.  

We have Tania Richardson help us pick-apart why that's the dumbest story ever. She started her lifestyle brand, Hey Lady, in her 40’s after seeing a major gap in the market in brands speaking directly to her - a strong, proud, and ambitious 40 year old woman. Tania amassed a fan following after appearing on The Real Housewives of Atlanta and we discuss why starting something new in your 40’s is actually the best time ever, what holds most people back, and why you have to keep an eye on (and out) for the younger generations.

Hope you love it!

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Tabs + Anis

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We have Dr. Carla Marie Manly with us today, a clinical psychologist and author who recently released the book Date Smart that’s a must-read for Millenial daters focusing on how to date strong, fearlessly, and smart. Even if you’re in a committed relationship, this book highlights the key elements of what constitutes the foundation of strong, healthy relationships. It’s a no-nonsense guide that takes the guesswork out of dating with the latest research, real-life examples, and 33 vital mindset shifts. We chat about what some of those mindset shifts are, how to increase your awareness to red flags, and how to foster empowered communication, boundaries, and realistic expectations.

We hope you love it! 

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Tabs + Anis

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Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a practicing clinical psychologist, author, and speaker, uses a mindfulness-based approach that is rooted in neurobiology. Dr. Manly's passion is helping others discover joy, balance, and optimal wellness from the inside out.

Don't get us wrong, the world opening up right now is GREAT. We love it, we are so here for it, we are 2 seconds from hugging every single person walking down the street. BUT we also know that shifting how we've been living for 16+ months can feel overwhelming too, on top of already probably feeling hella burnout. So we’re pulling in Ashley Wray to help us with a very practical and centuries old tool to help us calm our hearts and minds in this time of yet again, change. 

Ashley is the founder and CEO of Mala Collective, who works with artisans from Bali to Nepal to create products to support a mindfulness and meditation practice. Ashley aims to make meditation and mindfulness more accessible and fun and we’re chatting today about how to do just that. How meditation and taking space fr yourself to manage any feels of anxiety could be exactly the tool that you need. 

Today, we celebrate three exceptional After 30 Dads - Nahid, Sean, and Chris. We interview each of them on how they show up differently for their kids, and the challenges they experience as modern fathers. We hope you love it and Happy Father's Day Weekend!   

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Anis & Tabs 

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Dunno 'bout you, but we've found it can be an intimidating exercise to land on our leading values. We've come to believe that knowing them, and then living by them can be one of the greatest things that we can do to make life easier, more graceful, and integrous - particularly when it comes to making tough decisions. In this ep we're joined by leading Success Coach, Sarah Gibbons, who on-air coaches on how to determine them. Sarah works with prominent Creative Executives and Entrepreneurs in the Arts & Entertainment Industry in LA and specialises in helping them thrive at the intersection of creativity and impact, and she's a pro at helping people gain clarity on their values. We chat about how crucial it is to structure and create a life around your leading values, how to make decisions in-line with them, and how to learn to lead from your heart instead of your head. 

*Grab a pen and paper and a quiet space for yourself for this one** Included in this ep is a guided exercise that can help you too. 

We hope you love it. 

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Tabs + Anis

Coined from CBC’s Working Moms, we’re talking about the skin of the vulvar region. When it comes to the vagina, we know things go in it, and can come out of it. Beyond that, we don’t really talk about it (which is a whole other conversation) and probably don’t even think about the fact that the area around the vagina is all skin.

Dr. Jen Newell join us, Naturopathic Doctor and founder of Connected Health & Skin. Dr. Newell’s clinic focuses on skin health and is committed to helping her clients resolve frustrating skin issues and reclaim their inner glow. We’ll discuss how we don’t see the vaginal area as skin in the first place, get into talking about the skin itself, the misconceptions around it, what happens to vaginal skin as we get older, and what we can do to take care of this often not spoken about zone.

We hope you love it!

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Anis & Tabs

Alexandra Solomon is the legendary clinical psychologist, author and speaker, specialising in families, marriage, and relationships. Featured in O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and presenting on the Todays Show, the United States Military Academy at West Point, Microsoft, and The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), Dr. Solomon has spent the last two decades becoming one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships. She's passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships and we get into ALL of it. We cut right to the juicy stuff asking Dr. Solomon how we get past our own stuff in an argument, how to take turns, how to effectively acknowledge the other person, and how to ensure your self-awareness is at the forefront of the conflict. 

We hope you love it!

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Tabs + Anis

Welcome to Season 3!!! We open up a bottle (or 2) of New Zealand Sauv Blanc, celebrate International Sauvignon Blanc Day and talk about Amping Up Your Wine Confidence with wine influencer Angela Aiello. Also known as “Super Wine Girl”, Angela has been changing the world of wine for the past 20 years by democratizing it and making it more accessible. We talk about how we're all feeling about incorporating pleasure into our lives, taking the snobbiness out of drinking wine, the 5 steps to knowing more about the wine in your glass, and how to drink wine with our food. We hope you enjoy the first of Season 3!!

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Anis + Tabs 

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Angela Aiello is a TV host for CTV Morning Live, CHCH Morning Live and hosts her own show “The Juice”. She’s celebrated as One of The Most Inspiring Power60, and Angela has interviewed chefs, sommeliers and celebrities like John Malkovich, Christine Cushing, Priyanka Chopra, and Max Riedel (she even hosted Nelson Mandela’s Daughter and granddaughter in her wine cave when their wines launched in Ontario). Angela currently has an on-going campaign that highlights #WinesThatGiveBack and also sits on the Board of Directors for Femmes du Vin, a not-for-profit organization that supports women in the wine trade. She’s helped thousands of people learn about wine in a non-pretentious, yet educational way. 

Gah! Our 100th!! With 50 episodes before a pandemic and 50 in one, we reflect back on our 2 year podcast journey thus far. Our favourite moments, which guests made us nervous, and what we've learned. Most of all we are so grateful to every single one of you who have supported us, listened to us, shared us and reviewed us (yes even that off-color one about Anis). We LOVE you and thank you from the bottom of our hearts!

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Tabs + Anis

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"Women have rewritten every part of our lives, except how we marry. We’re still getting hitched in much the same way that generations before us have, albeit with the added modern pressures of having it be Instagram-perfect.” We chat with Michelle Bilodeau and Karen Cleveland, co-authors of The New Wedding Book: A Guide to Ditching All The Rules, which dropped 3 days ago in Canada. We talk about how you can drop the ball on your authenticity, budgeting, and priorities when you're planning for your big day and how "traditions" aren't really traditions. Michelle and Karen give us some tangible tips on keeping communication at the forefront, thinking about everyone to make events more inclusive and accessible, and sticking true to what's meaningful for your wedding. This ep is packed, we hope you love it!

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Anis and Tabs

Erin Lowry, author of the BROKE MILLENNIAL series and millennial personal finance expert, joins us to chat through real-life awkward money situations we undoubtedly have been in, or will be in. Erin explains the four Money scripts® (our unconscious beliefs about money that are rooted in our childhood that ultimately shape our financial health) and we touch on managing value differences therefore spending behaviours with friends, how to ask for more money at work or find out what colleagues or pears are earning, prenups and even what to say when your bridezilla is breaking your bank account. Grab Erin's latest book Broke Millennial Talks Money: Scripts, Stories and Advice to Navigate Awkward Financial Conversations wherever books are sold. 

Sometimes there are no words. This is one such time. We're going into a lockdown again in Ontario and bringing you a much needed pod to calm the nerves and slow down. We’ll let our minds wander with intention, we'll take you through the meditation with the hope of bringing you some peace and calm into your evening. It hasn't been easy for anyone, let's hold the space for each other. 

We hope you love it. 

This meditation is from the book: Yoga Nidra, by Swami Satyananda Saraswati. 

Music: Christopher B. from Awaken Music Productions

ROAD TRIP! Today we take you back to biology and down the digestive track with Nora de Bora, a Holistic Preconception Planning Coach. We find out why there's been so much hot research around gut health the last number of years, what happens as we get older and what we need to do to reverse any damage we did in our 20's, the effect of gut health on our hormones *and fertility* and we chat about tuning into your body and paying attention to the signals when you're not feeling too hot. Nora schools us on our foods journey from the esophagus, to the stomach, liver, small intestines, and large intestines and gives us tips for specific foods and vitamins for each of these crucial organs. Get your notebooks, this one is fibrous.  

Hope you love it! 

xoxox

Anis & Tabs 

At this point in our lives, we know we aught to reject many societal "shoulds".  What we “should” have, where we “should” be at in our careers, what we “should” look like, that we "should" be married with kids, with the suburb house - we don't subscribe to most of that crap. Instead, today we focus on the other, less talked about “shoulds” and "should nots". The ones that foster empowerment, self-love, fulfilment, and freedom. The actions, behaviours and practices that we "should" be in at this point in our lives that make us better people, friends, partners, professionals, and (maybe) parents. We break it down to money, self, body, work, and social situations. So so good. 

Hope you love it. 

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Tabs + Anis

We switch things up a bit this week and talk with Ginette Biro, a Medium, Cosmic Channeler, Educator and Kinesiologist about her personal near death experience and account of going to the other side. She describes in vivid detail what she saw, how it happened, and the kinds of choices she was able to make about her life in the here and now. We discuss why being more comfortable talking about and contemplating death will help us live greater lives now, and how to find your purpose even if you haven't had a transcendent experienced. Interesting, triggering, and/or soothing this is a good one to listen to with curiosity and exploration.

Let us know what you think! 

We're one year into the global pandemic and the waves and troughs of fatigue are familiar AF. We’re in a race to normalcy and in the Northern Hemisphere anyway, we’re in the dead of winter with even less ability to pull in the things that give us joy and self-care. In this ep we have a heart-to-heart on all the feels we've been experiencing over the past year, we recap our roses, Anis pulls from her psychotherapy expertise and explains why what we're feeling rn is trauma, and we indulge ourselves on what we can't wait for post-pandemic. 

Business owners, entrepreneurs, freelancers - listen up!!! This episode is for you. We chat with Darielle Teitelbaum, a corporate lawyer and the founder of AWE Legal and AWE contracts to find out everything we need to be thinking about for our legal needs. It becomes so clear through our conversation with Darielle, that so many of us are not properly set-up with the right policies to cover our liabilities but ALSO to protect our time, our rights, and even our financial opportunities. This episode gives you the vocabulary to be able to have the right conversations with your clients, and a clear roadmap for the contracts you should have in your back pocket. We talk about what the pandemic exposed for many business in their cancellations/refund policies & what you need to include now (*note why the pandemic is not considered force majeure). We dive into IP and the many complications and existing rights surrounding IP, privacy policies including with kids online classes, and what side hustlers should be thinking about too. Also we talk about the tomato feta drama, obviously.  

One of the best things about this conversation is that it's accessible. Darielle created AWE contracts during COVID specifically to service small businesses that are often underserved by the cost-prohibitive and lengthy process of individually drafted contracts. They've taken all the guess-work out by offering all of the relevant contracts required to operate your business, and they include the essential contracts you need or may need in the future as you grow, tailored to your industry.  

We chat with Sarah Schwab, founder and president of Content Creation Coach, author of the bestselling book “Content That Dances”, and host of the podcast 'Inspired and Amused' about what creativity looks like as we get older. How it's so common for life to take over as adults, leaving your connection to creativity and hobbies be a thing of your childhood past that we no longer dedicate time for. We chat about how to get into the creative flow, the importance of business and leadership allowing for additional time and space for creative exploration, and how to reconnect or get inspired to things that light you up. 

Enjoy!

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What they are, why they’re interesting, and how we can learn more about alternative investments. Joseph Buaron, Chief Technology Officer and Co-founder of GoPeer,  walks us through alternative investments in simple terms. We cover financial literacy and why thats so important for ALL of us in our 30's, if alternative investments are right for us, and how you can get involved. 

Joseph is a seasoned developer with over two-decades of related experience as a programmer, solutions architect, DevOps engineer, entrepreneur, and investor. Before co-founding goPeer, Joseph worked as the CTO for a corporation that was acquired by Unilever, and was responsible for directing the IT, Digital Marketing and Consumer Support divisions. Before that, he worked to scale a thriving FinTech start-up, with a focus on payment industry regulatory compliance and data security.

In our first episode for 2021 we're kicking off with a 3 part money series because we want you to be rich, and to not feel bad about your holiday money hangover. There's also A LOT to talk about with money right now, our spending did who knows what in 2020, the gender pay gap widened even more, meanwhile we're adults and still have to figure out how to manage that house/car/keep our business alive/pay for kids and actually make sure we save and invest. So we're talking about money from three angles over the next week and a half. 

Today we're joined by Stephanie Wolfe who’s the founder of Wolfe Collective Wealth, Inc. a financial coaching company that helps ambitious women bring their financial goals to life. In this episode we focus on how to get financially naked with your significant other. How to talk about money if you're newly dating or married, what you do if it's getting tense, and how to get more comfortable having the money chats in social settings . Included are some helpful tips on how to practice mindful spending and what percentage of your net income should go where. 

Tune in on Monday for Part 2 - Alternative Investments with Joseph Barron. 

Best-selling author, speaker, nutritionist and founder of the Academy of Culinary Nutrition, Meghan Telpner joins us to break down the Barrel Effect: the analogy that our body and life is a vessel with a finite amount of space, it spills over if there’s too much in it. With the holidays approaching in the most uncertain year we’ve ever experienced in our lifetimes, we’re about to overflow OR we've been overflowing thrice over for 10 months. Meghan helps us handle our overflowing barrels, and how we can make space in it. 

You likely have a general understanding of the 5 Love Languages: quality time, acts of service, giving or receiving gifts, physical touch, and acts of affirmation. But what about working through the ish when you and your partner don't speak the same love language?? We chat with returning guest and relationship expert Jelena Vulic, a psychotherapist  who works with individuals and couples wishing to explore and strengthen their relationships. Jelena tells us more about the tensions that rise when we don’t speak the same love language, and give us some pointers on how we can communicate in a love language that's not our own.

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We’re joined by country music and industry award winning couple Shannon Ella & Steven Lee Olsen for a convo we never thought we'd have - having a pandemic pregnancy. Shannon is the host of radio show Pure Country and she’s recently picked up the 2020 Country Personality of the Year Award and Industry Person of the Year Award while casually growing a baby. NBD. Steven is an artist and songwriter, with songs like "Can't not" and "Raised by a Good Time" and co-writing songs like @KeithUrban's double-platinum hit “Blue Ain’t Your Color” (which earned a CMA, Grammy noms and a ton of other accolades). Also NBD. This impressive and incredibly sweet duo have had a wild ride this year (even more than most of us) kicking it off with getting married in the backyard of their Nashville, Tennessee home, and experiencing their first-time pregnancy, in a pandemic, on both sides of the border. We’re getting right into the ups, downs, and in-betweens of what it’s been like to have a pandemic pregnancy. 

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SHANNON ELLA (Country Personality of the Year CCMA // Industry Person of the Year CMAO) is the host of nationally syndicated midday radio show on Bell Media's Pure Country. This show airs across Canada on 13 different iHeartRadio stations from Ontario, to B.C, Manitoba, Saskatchewan, Nova Scotia and New Brunswick. It features exclusive interviews with the top country stars in Canada and the U.S., such as Shania Twain, Rascal Flatts, Maren Morris and Dan + Shay plus behind the scenes looks at the biggest events in country music from festivals, award shows and tours across North America. Shannon is also the host of the country music outlet Complete Country which has a strong online and social presence through interviews and games with country stars.

STEVEN LEE OLSEN Since moving to Nashville in 2004, Olsen has worked tirelessly, honing his craft as an artist and songwriter, and all the hard work has paid off impressively. Olsen co-wrote Keith Urban’s double-platinum hit “Blue Ain’t Your Color” – which in 2017 was named the NSAI Song of the Year and crowned “Single of the Year” at the CMA Awards, in addition to being nominated for “Best Country Song” and “Best Country Solo Performance” at the 59th Grammy Awards, and “Song of the Year” at the ACM Awards. He also penned Kip Moore’s #1 hit “More Girls Like You” and co-wrote Dallas Smith’s Platinum #1 hit “Drop” as well as numerous cuts for other stars including Garth Brooks, Billy Currington, Rascal Flatts, The Judds, Emerson Drive and more.

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We’re all missing our vacation time, our weekend trips, or a few weeks away to escape our regular routines. Many of us have had holidays this year that have been cancelled, and we’ve realized how much those imminent trips that we plan regularly give us life and a sense of excitement for something to look forward to - the experiences and energy that we get from learning about new cultures, places, foods, nature, wildlife, whatever your travel style. 2020 has hit our suitcases hard and most of us haven't been venturing far from home.

We have with us today Tamara Elliot, founder of  Globe Guide, a hub of savvy travel advice for extraordinary adventures from the ground up. Starting it from a simple passion project travel blog  to the mega brand it is today with over 28k followers, countless travel writing awards, and regularly featured in media like Flare, Lonely Planet, Breakfast Television, Global News, and countless others. Tamara will help us determine where to go to feel safe, what we should look for in accommodations and  transportation, and give us some tips on how we can still salvage our vacation time in 2020.

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Its 2020, need we say more?! For this sweet, short episode, we talk to the kids and get their take on Halloween this year.  Happy Halloween!

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Our 2nd ep in the infertility support series, we have Michelle Strong, co-founder of myMindBodyBaby guiding us through the importance of the body while trying to conceive. Specifically focusing on endocrine disruptors, living a chemical-free lifestyle, and hormonal health.

What requires decision making right now? We chat through some of the big decisions we're facing. witnessing, and reading about. We take you through our process of decision making with the ongoing pandemic, raise the questions around the decision making, and speak to the multi-faceted dimensions of this moment. 

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