The Good Mood Show with Matt O'Neill

One of the keys to happiness is reducing your stress. Professional stress coach, Andrew Oakes, teaches us the correlation between stress and happiness. Andrew explains that the higher your current stress, the harder it is to feel happy. And, when you are feeling relaxed and carefree, it’s so much easier to feel happy. 

In this episode, Andrew joins Matt O’Neill to discuss how to think of stress as a game you get to play. Once you start to learn the game mechanics, you can begin to equip yourself with the necessary tools to navigate it. You can conquer stress in a fun, rewarding way. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Learn what creates stress.  Acknowledge little discomforts in your life and deal with them.  Have the discipline to take on big mountains.  Stress is a game you have to play.  Record and reframe. 

[02:16] The Happiness and Stress Scale: 

On a scale of 1 to 10, how happy are you? From that same scale, how stressed are you? Happiness and stress are inversely correlated. Once stress compounds, it starts to move solely in that one direction. Often, what we do is assign all our problems to big mountains in our life. But in reality, what maxes out our capacity are the discomforts that then create stress. 

[15:00] The Natural Flow of Dopamine: 

Our body only has a certain capacity for taking on discomforts. We’re hardwired for survival. The brain rewards us with feel-good feelings—dopamine—upon removing that discomfort. It’s the same process when you urinate after holding your bladder for some time. However, the brain can’t really tell the difference between a small and big discomfort. 

[19:32] Stress Management Toolbox: 

Having a hammer—anger or frustration—as your standard equipment in your toolbox only leads to more stress. Andrew has come up with re-tools to re-tool your toolbox: Record: Use cheat sheets, journals, organizers, etc. “5P’s” means “Proper planning prevents poor performance”. Reframe: Reframe how you see things to stop the stressor from coming in as a discomfort. Practicing gratitude changes the way you see life. The tools you will put in your toolbox are going to be unique for you. 

Notable quotes: 

[27:15] “Stress plus time equals wisdom.”  [27:17] — Andrew 

[27:35] “It's not the stressor that causes the stress, it's your reaction to the stressor. If you accept the stressor, you can be surrounded by stressors and not be stressed.” [27:46] — Andrew 

[30:15] "A setback is a setup for a comeback." [30:18] — Andrew 

Resources Mentioned: 

Download Stress Relief HQ’s FREE stress management resources here!  The Inner Work by Mathew Micheletti and Ashley Cottrell  Episode 24: The Inner Work with Mathew Micheletti  Download the Good Mood Toolkit here!  THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more… 

About the Guest: Andrew Oakes is the founder of Stress Relief Headquarters. He is a mental health advocate, stress management consultant, and public speaker. His Street View of Psychology brings a new approach to resolving complex mental matters. You can connect with Andrew through LinkedIn.

Join #1 NYT best-selling author Marianne Williamson as she discusses how love is a miracle. Love is the ultimate purpose of your life. The only way for someone to be truly happy is to realize this purpose and to love unconditionally as God loves. 

In this episode of The Good Mood Show, Marianne Williamson, author of four #1 best-selling books, including “A Return to Love” joins Matt O’Neill to talk about the lessons she has learned from A Course in Miracles. This conversation will deepen your understanding of love, happiness, and finding miracles amidst a world so desperate for healing. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Loving leads to happiness.  Always choose to forgive.  Surrender to the miracles of God’s will.  Practice love and compassion every day.  Live with responsibility for the world’s healing. 

[12:16] The True Meaning of Miracles: 

True miracles do not happen when we make God our errand boy. True miracles happen when we realize God’s unconditional love for us. We can allow things to happen when we are dwelling in love. 

[23:37] How to Be Loving and Trusting in the Moment: 

The will of God is our highest joy. When we learn to be still and connect with God, we eventually see that His will for us is also our greatest good. This creates a fierce trust in God. 

[28:26] The Daily Practice of Love and Compassion: 

God placed us in roles where we can practice love and compassion daily. However, Marianne also emphasizes the practice of morning meditation to empower us to love better. She invites everyone to sign up for Mornings with Marianne. 

[35:00] The Responsibility and Power of Love to Change the World:

The ultimate goal of love is not just to heal ourselves but also to heal others. We all have a responsibility to love one another; when we do, it has the power to change the world. 

Notable quotes: 

[02:33] “God is love. We are creations of God. Our purpose on this earth is to love….That is when we’re happy.”  [02:40]  [12:20] “You can have a grievance, or you can have a miracle. You cannot have both.” [12:23]  [14:03] “You were not created to be at the effect of lovelessness within yourself or anyone else.” [14:08] 

Resources Mentioned: 

Connect with Marianne: Website | LinkedIn  A Course in Miracles by Foundation for Inner Peace Everyday Grace  Download the Good Mood Toolkit here!  THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more… 

About the Guest: Marianne Williamson is an American author, a spiritual mentor, and a political activist. Four of her books have been recognized as New York Times bestsellers, and in 2020 she ran for the Democratic nomination for President of the United States. Marianne has been teaching the principles of A Course of Miracles for over thirty years, and in the process, she has brought hope, love, and joy into the world. Sign up for Mornings with Marianne or find one of her books on Amazon.

Finding true happiness — the genuine, juicy, and authentic kind — is within your reach at this very moment. We all have the capabilities, tools, and everything we need to create happiness for ourselves, regardless of what’s going on around us. 

In this episode, The Happiness Doctor, Dr Sophie Godkin, joins Matt O’Neill to talk about creating happiness from the inside out. They talk about finding joy within ourselves and even unpack some tools to jump start our journey to becoming genuinely happy. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Take time to know yourself.  Heal from places where you hold a lot of emotions.  Orient your mind to find things to be grateful for.  Practice mindful meditation.  Befriend your inner critic.  Be compassionate with yourself. 

[6:57] Reacquaint With Your Soul: 

The first and hardest step to getting in touch with your soul is to heal from places where you hold a lot of emotions. Your wounds, pains, and hurts should not be buried; instead, acknowledge, process, and learn from them. 

[14:28] Gratitude - Your Biggest Tool: 

Gratitude can be your biggest tool for happiness. Learn to be joyful despite life’s stress. The mind has a natural affinity to focus on the negative. It is drawn towards everything that’s not going right in our lives. 

[17:53] Do Mindful Meditation: 

Maintaining a Gratitude Journal also helps keep the mind’s negativity bias away. It retrains our mind to start counting things to celebrate. Some prompt to get you started is to write down what went right that day or take note of opportunities you have now that you didn’t have before. 

[24:47] Deal With Your Inner Critic: 

Perfection gets in the way of your happiness. It prevents you from living authentically. The voice that tells you to be perfect is the voice of your inner critic. The only way to shut it out is to start working on your thoughts and feelings. 

Notable quotes: 

[04:50] “Who you truly are is, you know, infinitely capable. Who you truly are has the skill set that you need to achieve. You have the love to succeed.”  [05:02] 

[16:47] “It's really up to us to take it upon ourselves to orient our mind towards the kinds of things that we do want to focus on -- the kinds of things that we want to pay attention to in life. And gratitude is just such a simple, easy process that allows us to do that.” [17:02] 

[27:50] "When we realize that every single thought, every single feeling is actually here to help us, right? We can befriend it. [27:55] 

Resources Mentioned: 

The 5-Minute Gratitude Journal: Give Thanks, Practice Positivity, Find Joy by Sophia Godkin  Mark Nepo  TheHappinessDoctor.com  Sophia’s LinkedIn and Twitter  Download the Good Mood Toolkit here!  THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more… 

About the Guest: 

Dr Sophia Godkin is an internationally recognized expert on happiness. Better known as “The Happiness Doctor,” Sophia’s mission is to use holistic education and coaching to help people become healthier, happier adults.

Your higher self is one of the greatest sources of strength, confidence, and happiness available to you. Sometimes all you need to do is to look inside yourself to find the answers you are looking for. 

In this episode, author Ulrika Sullivan joins Matt O’Neill to talk about the journey of awakening to your higher self. They talk about Ulrika’s book “Wisdom Beyond What You Know” and what you can do to connect with, and love yourself on a deeper level than ever before. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Love yourself and put yourself first  Find your opportunity for self-awareness  Tune in to your body  Set your energetic boundaries  You are part of a big, wide universe. 

[06:25] You Complete Yourself: 

Turn your focus inwards. Ask yourself first before seeking validation from others. You know best what works for you. You are a source of love for yourself. Even without others, you’re whole and complete. 

[16:38] Journey of Self-Awareness: 

Ulrika was a successful woman whose identity revolved around her job. However, when she got laid off, she found herself lost and not knowing who she was. This was the start of her journey to self-awareness. 

[21:44] The Body Talks: 

Everyone has an energetic connection to their bodies.For Ulrika, yoga was her gateway to this connection. Spiritual practices and time tuning into yourself can help you learn to connect with your emotional, physical, and spiritual body. 

[35:02] People Pleasing:

When you seek to please others, you can lose your own sovereignty. Set your energetic boundaries and say no to what doesn’t align with your true self. You are connected to the whole universe. You have a connection to a bigger, true self. 

Notable quotes: 

[02:31] “Awakening can be awakening to who we truly are… to our true self.”  [02:38] 

[14:00] “We all have this story of how we got to where we are. But the important part is to allow ourselves to distance ourselves a little bit to those stories inside” [14:11] 

[23:42] "Yoga is this connector of movement, breath, and stillness. Because all three are required in a way to be able to listen to what the body and its intuition is telling us. It's not really separate. [24:00] 

Resources Mentioned: 

Wisdom Beyond What You Know by Ulrika Sullivan  Jerry Maguire (1996)  Healing Back Pain by John E. Sarno  All the Rage Saved by Sarno (2016)  Ulrika Sullivan’s website  Download the Good Mood Toolkit here!  THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more… 

About the Guest: 

Ulrika Sullivan is an intuitive spiritual life coach, energy healer, and yoga teacher. She is also the host of the New Light Living Podcast where she talks about finding the calm and balance many people hope to live with.

Creating a powerful mindset is the key to mastering your life experience. Your mood is 100% determined by the mindset you choose. 

In this episode, renowned podcast host Case Kenny joins Matt O'Neill as they discuss his book But First, Inner Peace. Listen to their conversation as they teach powerful techniques to fortify your mindset. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Practice mindfulness with radical honesty  Find your incentives  Start with your whys  Believe in yourself and be proud of yourself  Write your narrative with a positive mindset 

[02:04] What is Mindfulness?

Practicing mindfulness doesn’t have to be complicated. It may have many forms and layers but simply put, it’s about radical honesty with yourself. You have to combine your inner and outer gaze to take in the world around you and redefine it as what’s true for you. Mindfulness is like self-therapy. 

[10:07] Starting With Why

When you’re searching for your why, be intentional about it. Journaling can help you find clarity. Think about what you don’t want to regret. Ask different questions about what you do and don’t want in your life. 

[23:41] Redefining the Negative

It’s easy to fall into a negative mindset. This negative environment and personal experiences can push people to quit. However, you have magic in your future. Despite everything else, it’s up to you to rewrite the narrative and give tomorrow a second chance. 

[32:54] Your Beliefs, Your Story

Align yourself with what you believe. When you understand reciprocity, you can bridge the gap between the head and the heart. The stories you tell matter, so be more positive in your narrative. 

Notable quotes: 

[20:07] My fear is looking back and having regret because you cannot change it. And that scares the shit out of me. [20:12] 

[26:58] “The greatest gift you can give yourself is to believe in second chances.” 

[31:44] At the end of the day, it does come down to you writing or rewriting the rules and expectations for yourself. And I think that's the greatest gift we can give ourselves [31:54] 

Resources Mentioned: 

New Mindset, Who Dis? Podcast and website  But First, Inner Peace by Case Kenny  Case Kenny: Instagram  Start With Why by Simon Sinek and his Ted Talk  Download the Good Mood Toolkit here!  THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more… 

About the Guest:

Case Kenny is a writer, podcaster, and recording artist. He started New Mindset, Who Dis, with his passion for growth. You can learn more about Case and his work as a mindfulness thought leader on his website and Instagram.

Empathy is an extraordinary gift, and it must be managed with skill. On the one hand, your empathy allows you to establish deep connections with others, and on the other hand, your ability to feel the emotions of others can feel draining. This is why highly empathetic people (empaths) must understand how to accept the gift and manage the downsides of high empathy. 

In this episode, intuitive life-coach Krista Carpenter joins Matt O’Neill to talk about the struggles and joys of being an empath. They talk about dealing with internal problems that can come with a high level of empathy and how you can still live a happy, empowered life. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Never give up on yourself.  Trust yourself more and do not listen to the outside world.  Cut off the toxic and triggering people in your life.  Do proactive self-care.  Set boundaries and enforce consequences. 

[01:57] What Are Empaths? 

Empaths are highly-sensitive people who feel for and pick up other people’s emotions and energies as though they were their own. They often grew up with narcissistic caregiver/s who made them feel unsafe and drove them to become hypervigilant — even with microexpressions. 

[15:32] Overcoming Dark Times: 

Never give up on yourself. Instead, follow your bliss. Force yourself to do things you always wanted and haven’t permitted yourself to. And if you do not have the energy to force yourself, just take some time and give yourself space. 

[20:07] Self-Love and Self-Compassion: 

Trust yourself more. Do not listen to the outside world — the judgements, opinions, or societal norms. Cut out toxic people in your life. Prioritize quality over quantity when it comes to the people around you. 

[33:41] An Empowered Empath: 

People will treat you how you allow them to treat you. Set boundaries, and enforce consequences on people who push past your boundaries. Or even better, surround yourself with people who respect you enough that you won’t need boundaries. 

Notable quotes: 

[27:31] “Four quarters is better than 100 pennies. Meaning, if you have four friends that are truly uplifting, it's way more valuable than 100 people that make you feel bad.” [27:47] — Krista 

[32:05] “Don't wait till you're totally burnt out to do the self-care because then you're just trying to do repair work.” [32:11] — Krista 

[35:06] “People will treat you how you allow them to treat you. So you have to have some boundaries and consequences if they push past those boundaries.” [35:18] — Krista 

Resources Mentioned: 

The Empath’s Workbook by Krista Carpenter  Krista Carpenter’s website  Download the Good Mood Toolkit here!  THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more… 

About the Guest: 

Krista Carpenter, MS, CLC is a bestselling author and life coach. She is well-known as an expert on helping empathetic people identify unique gifts of living empowered. Krista’s book, The Empath’s Workbook, has over 700 5-star reviews on Amazon.

You can change the way you look at money & time to see how they are imaginary. This radical new perspective helps you to stop "working" for a living, and instead choose to start living for a living. 

In this episode, Jamal Jivanjee joins Matt O’Neill to talk about his important book "Living for a Living". They talk about how life is full of beauty, love, and happiness when you choose to look for the good. And that choice is the key to a life well-lived.

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Shift your perspective inward.  Live in the present.  Adopt an abundance mindset.  Be totally involved in everything you do.  Control how you respond to life. 

[01:32] The Key to Empowerment: 

Empowering someone requires a shift in perspective. We can control our inner state of being and how we respond to certain things. 

[06:06] Living in the Moment: 

We often feel like we’re running out of time, which can lead to anxiety. But the truth is, all you have is time. Stay present in the moment. Stop trying to hang onto the past. 

[12:40] The Concept of Lack: 

We give money value. Economy is an exchange of energy. While there might be fluctuations in that exchange, nothing is lost. All we have is everything. 

[21:31] Hard Work Ethic: 

Success requires total involvement. If your desires, actions, and values are fully aligned, it becomes easy. As long as you’re totally involved, you’ll get to where you want to be. 

[30:00] The Root of Our Evil: 

People are inherently good. But when our core needs aren’t met, it creates trauma. Some behaviors that come from trauma are evil. But if you dig deep into the trauma, there’s healing. If we can control how we respond to life, we can end these cycles. 

Notable quotes: 

[05:05] —  [05:15]  “As a society, as a species, as humanity, we have to understand that we’re not actually separate from each other. Your success is instrumental to my success.” — Jamal 

[22:25] — [22:28]  “Success is predicated upon total involvement.” — Jamal 

[31:54] —  [31:59]  “If you can get below the trauma, there’s no evil; that’s where healing is.” — Jamal 

Resources Mentioned: 

Free to Love by Jamal Jivanjee  Living for a Living by Jamal Jivanjee  The Love Cast  Jamal Jivanjee’s website  Download the Good Mood Toolkit here!  THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more… 

About the Guest: 

Jamal Jivanjee is a bestselling author, podcaster, and full-time life coach. With more than 20 years of experience working with people in various stages of life, he discovered the common roots of human suffering and sustainable solutions to help people become empowered.  He has written two books, Free to Love and Living for a Living. 

Becoming a parent doesn't come with an instruction manual. Thankfully, Mike McCarthy wrote the book "Miracle Mornings for Families" to give you the instructions on how to lead your family well. 

In this episode, Mike joins Matt O'Neill to discuss how you can create family miracles every day. He shares the importance of creating family values and teaches you how you can set goals as a family unit. Mike also describes why intentional family meetings matter, and how you can adopt this powerful practice. Lead your family to be the best it can be by tuning in to this episode. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

How to create family values  The importance of family meetings  Reinforcing values from the home to the world  Setting family goals  Establishing accountability 

[06:36] Creating Family Values: 

Every family member should have a role in creating your family values. As a family, create a list of words and decide which ones are important. Let these serve as guideposts that will lead your family to the ideal. Reinforce them when challenges arise and affirm family members when they uphold them. 

[20:28] The Family Meeting: 

Bring intentionality to the family through family meetings. Set a schedule and sit down together to appreciate one another. Tell each other your desires, plans, and goals. Gather and communicate. 

[33:42] Family Goals: 

In light of your family values, create categories to form the basis of your goals. These categories may be health, adventure, finances, and more. The decision relies on what you value as a family. However, be intentional in setting these goals and creating accountability measures for them. 

Notable Quotes: 

Mike [07:36] - “If you want people to really care about whatever it is that you’re creating, as a family, as an organization, as a team, then the first step is to get everybody to play a role in creating whatever that is.” 

Mike [18:13] - “If you’re going to build something great, you want to do it on a foundation of really solid values.” 

Mike [30:07] - “It’s my job to make sure they’re prepared for the world. It’s not the world’s job to make sure they’re prepared for me at home.” 

Resources: 

Connect with Mike McCarthy: Website | Instagram  GoBundance  FamBudance  XChange Approach  The Miracle Morning for Parents and Families, available on Amazon (with accompanying playbook)  Miracle Morning Playbook Free Exercises  Living Untethered by Michael Singer, available on Amazon  Grit by Angela Duckworth, available on Amazon  Enter your email here to download the Good Mood Toolkit

You don't have to believe every thought your brain shows you. While you do have a mind, you are not your mind. You can consciously choose which thoughts to believe, and which thoughts to discard. 

In this episode, Matt O'Neill is joined by author and musician Jeremy Reiseg to discuss how to change your reactions to the things your mind thinks. You will be able to get into a good mood no matter what your brain presents you. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Your physiology affects your mood  Your first reaction shouldn’t be the last  Cut off negativity  A new perspective can make all the difference  Conditioning yourself takes time 

[00:55] Power of Physiology: 

One way of dealing with a bad mood is to change your physiology. Get into a position or stance and perform an action that fills you with energy and confidence. The way your body reacts to this changes your mood and makes you a new you. 

[12:06] Cut Out Negativity: 

Many things in the world affect your mood and condition you to be a certain way. Notable ones include TV shows, world events, and the people around you. If they negatively impact your mood and mindset, it may help you to avoid them. You will feel a change in yourself once you cut out negativity. 

[24:55] Have A Different Perspective: 

When upsetting things pile on, you feel overwhelmed and blame everything and everyone around you. Sometimes, all you need is a different point of view to understand what is happening and how to improve it. 

[32:04] What Are You Grateful For? 

The secret weapon to a good mood is gratitude. Take a moment to write down a few things you’re grateful for every day. The more gratitude you have, the more you attract things to be grateful for and appreciate. 

Notable quotes: 

[2:14] — [2:18] “As soon as you change your posture and physiology, your mood changes.” - Matt 

[30:28] — [30:36]  “If you can take an old emotion and an old pattern and you can let it go today, that piece is gone forever.” - Matt 

[34:39] — [34:49]  “When you use the brainpower of 10 people or 20 people or 100 people, you get a way better answer than one genius at the front of the room.” - Matt 

Resources Mentioned: 

Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Byron Katie  Michael Singer | The XChange Approach | David Cooperrider | Ron Fry | JonBurghoff  Experiential Learning: Experience as the Source of Learning and Development by David A. Kolb  Download the Good Mood Toolkit here!  THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more…

When you look at your calendar, what do you see? Does your day make you happy? The exercise of reviewing your calendar to decide which activities add to your happiness and which activities drain your energy is one of the most powerful things you can do. 

In this episode, mega-successful entrepreneur Pat Hiban joins Matt O’Neill to discuss doing more of what you enjoy and quitting the things that don't add to your good moods. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Do more of the things you enjoy!  Appreciate what you already have.  Cut out what puts you in a bad mood.  Express and accept your feelings.  Consciously choose to be in a good mood. 

[01:17] What Puts You Into a Good Mood: 

You’re not always conscious of how you feel in the present. You have to ask and get to know what gets you into a good mood. Once you know what things you enjoy doing, go out and do more of them! 

[09:57] Too Scared to Quit: 

Many people feel trapped and miserable in their jobs. However, they’re too scared to quit. It’s you who can make the most impact on your success. However, quitting doesn’t always mean you have to start your own business. It can lead to creating your own place to pursue your passion or to finding a job with a better culture. 

[18:43] Are You Ready to Quit? 

Don’t just simply quit your job. Quitting doesn’t mean sitting still.  You have to put in the work and build the skills you need to make it work. Don’t let go of something because you’re comparing your situation to what others may have. Instead, appreciate what you have. [24:55] Quitting Bad Moods Matt and Pat talk about the practice of marking your calendar with pluses, minuses, and equals. Get rid of your minuses and equals. Instead, pursue a calendar full of plus days. You can do the same with the people around you. 

[35:00] Accepting Your Feelings: 

Expressing how you feel can affirm how true your feelings  are for you.It’s alright to feel and acknowledge your emotions. However, you’re in charge of making a good life for yourself. Make the conscious decision to move away from bad moods into good ones. 

Notable quotes:  

[13:10] —  [13:14]  “Betting on yourself is actually the safest bet you could make.” - Matt 

[20:07] — [20:11]  “If you’re going to quit, you better have the skills inside you or the resolve to go and build those skills.” - Matt 

[32:21] — [33:25] “I think we all need other people and human interaction to be in a good mood.” - Matt 

Resources Mentioned: 

The Quitter’s Manifesto by Tim Rhode and Pat Hiban  Tony Robbins  Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill  Download the Good Mood Toolkit here!  THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more…

When life presents us with change, our first reaction is to resist. But when we choose to surrender to change, we see it is actually a blessing sent to help us grow. 

In this episode, Matt O’Neill talks about his takeaways from Michael Singer’s book "The Surrender Experiment." He shares the lessons of how to be more at peace with life when it presents its most difficult changes. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Surrender to life.  Challenges are so much bigger than you.  Don’t resist and try to control the forces of the universe.  Make the empowered choice.  Connect the dots from your past to create a new light.  Whatever is happening is supposed to be happening. 

[01:36] Surrender to the Flow of Life: 

Surrender to the flow of life; life knows more than you do. We are not responsible for even the tiniest fraction of what is manifesting around us. It’s so much bigger than you. 

[08:51] Resistance Creates Suffering: 

Resistance to challenges the universe presents creates suffering. The resistance is the problem, not the challenge. Ask yourself, “This is happening. What am I going to do about it?” The first piece grounds you in reality. The second piece is where your power comes from. 

[11:16] Dare to Let Go: 

Dare to let go and trust the flow of life. Stop listening to the mental chatter about your personal likes and dislikes. Instead, start the willful practice of accepting the flow of what life is presenting you. 

[17:50] A Matter of Perspective: 

Every single experience we have in life compared to nothing is a gift. It’s just a matter of perspective. Whatever reality presented to you is supposed to be happening. You always have a choice to add pain on top of your pain, but there’s always one choice—the empowered choice. 

[20:00] Creating Something Beautiful Out of Your Suffering: 

Challenging situations bring about the force needed to create change and break out of the inertia of everyday life. You could use a challenging situation you’ve overcome to create freedom inside yourself. 

Notable quotes: 

[07:01] — [07:13]  “Instead of anxiety and tension and trying to control all the forces of the universe that you can't—only God can—surrender, and say ‘This is the way it's supposed to be,’ and you're gonna have peace.” - Matt 

[11:22] — [11:27]  “Dare to let go and trust the flow of life.” - Matt 

[18:03] — [18:09] “Every single experience we get to experience in life compared to nothing is a gift.” - Matt 

Resources Mentioned: 

The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer  The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer  Tony Robbins Date With Destiny  Download the Good Mood Toolkit here!  THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more…

#1 best-selling author Mathew Micheletti offers you an invitation to true freedom and lasting happiness. Join the conversation as he discusses his important book "The Inner Work" with Matt O'Neill.

As they discuss, it’s called inner ‘work’ because lasting happiness actually takes discipline and effort. If it were easy, everyone would already be happy. Learn how you can catch yourself from spiraling into the negative patterns of the mind. Your awareness could be the key to turning a seemingly bad situation into lasting happiness. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Practice discipline and effort to do inner work.  Be aware of the addictions of your mind.  Remember you are always worthy and loved.  Hold yourself accountable for your actions.  Exercise your freedom to choose. 

[02:05] Putting Energy Into Inner Work: 

Instead of exerting time and effort into pursuing comfort, put your energy into inner work. It takes a lot of effort, courage and discipline. Though there’s a hard road ahead, it’ll all be worth it. 

[09:30] Addictions of the Mind: 

Your mind can be addicted to emotions and encourage thoughts and beliefs that feed this.  When you do inner work, you must experience discomfort. Be aware of your mind’s patterns. It takes discipline and control to avoid following what your ego tells you to do. 

[22:29] Shame Consciousness: 

You learn shame from someone else. Your mind ends up combining self-worth with the choices you make. However, remember that you are always loved and worthy. Shame and guilt don’t help anyone. You must be accountable for what you do. 

[28:52] Freedom to Choose: 

In every circumstance, you always have the freedom to choose. In that time, stay in discomfort and truly think about your choice. Your response determines whether you suffer or turn difficult times into something beautiful and good. 

Notable quotes: 

[19:45] — [19:49]  “Anything the ego promises you, it delivers you the exact opposite of that promise.” - Matt 

[23:32] — [23:40]  “Shame, the feeling that I’m not good enough, wasn’t a thought that was created. It was a thought that I inherited or learned.” - Matt 

[32:59] — [33:06] “You were still doing the very best you could at all times, even if what you were doing was wrong. And that’s why you don’t have to add guilt on top of your action.” - Matt 

[41:52] — [42:01]  “Every single external circumstance that happens to us that’s negative, there’s always an empowered option.” -Matt 

Resources Mentioned: 

Chris Singleton  The 7 Day Frequency Reset Challenge  Inner Work by Matthew Micheletti  The Yoga Couple website | TikTok | Instagram  Matt O’ Neill Real Estate LinkedIn and Facebook  Download the Good Mood Toolkit here!  THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more…

Many of us tend to take our friends for granted, thinking they will stay in our lives forever. But anything worth having takes work, including friendships. To foster a friendship that will stand the test of time, you have to give it effort and care. 

In this episode, Matt O’Neill’s life-long best-friend, Michael Rosales joins us to talk about putting effort into your friendships. They talk about the type of person you should choose to build great friendships with, and how to make these friendships meaningful. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Put effort into your friendships.  Make time for your friends.  Go all out for relationships that matter.  Enjoy life with people you value. 

[01:00] Why Friendships Take Work: 

No relationship would be successful without effort. Anything worth having is worth putting in the work for it. Only our souls are eternal; that’s why friendships are powerful. 

[06:14] What Type of Person is Worth the Effort? 

It’s different for everybody. It can be someone you can count on, who lifts you up, sees the best in you, and calls you out with the best intentions. On the other hand, you should move on from friendships that seek to tear you down, drain your energy, and cause anxiety. 

09:42] The Effort Required for a Friendship to Blossom: 

First, invest and make time to be together. Second, a good friend is someone who picks you up when you’re down and offers an invaluable support system. Third, find someone you can be vulnerable with and get encouragement from. Fourth, it’s either you’re all in or you’re all out. Fifth, follow through with your word. Finally, you need to laugh and be goofy together. 

Notable quotes:   

[06:25] — [06:30]  “There are some friendships that aren’t meant to last a lifetime, and then there’s some friendships that you really should work on. And if you don’t work on them, they’ll fizzle, and you lost a big opportunity for somebody who really could have been a positive influence on you.” - Matt 

[13:36] — [13:39]  “You got to put in effort, and it’s worth it to have great friendship.” - Matt 

[15:49] — [29:12]  “That’s what a good buddy does. It’s, ‘You’re down? I’m gonna pick you up.’” -Matt 

[22:30] — [22:38] “If you have that somebody that has your back like that, that always wants the best for you, it is worth every ounce of effort you can put in.” - Matt 

Resources Mentioned: 

The Top Five Regrets of the Dying by Bronnie Ware 

Matt O’ Neill Real Estate LinkedIn and Facebook 

Download the Good Mood Toolkit here! 

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Many people spend their days in a career they don’t feel inspired by. To live the life of your dreams, sometimes you must quit the life of comfort. It takes courage, but the effort will always be worth the bravery. 

In this episode, author Tim Rhode joins Matt O’Neill to talk about how quitting can be the start of a new chapter. They talk about listening to the signs and taking action. Join this conversation to find out how you can learn what’s next for you. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Pursue your interests.  Keep moving toward fulfillment.  Make time for what truly matters in your life.  Enjoy the journey. 

[04:45] Interests Over Obligation: 

Live a life of 80% interests and 20% obligations. Take time to be quiet and determine what you want to do next. 

[11:39] Find Your Fulfillment Triangle: 

The Fulfillment Triangle is where your talents and passions collide with real-life opportunities. As time passes, it can change. Listen, ask and reflect. 

[16:41] The Biggest Challenge is You: 

Acknowledge what you excel in. Then find others to help you fill in the gaps. Cut off things that don’t matter and make more time for things that do. 

[27:22] The Importance of Identity: 

Take the time to reflect on your outcome, purpose, and action plan. Don’t let fear stop you from taking action and moving forward. Commit to your identities. 

Notable quotes: 

[09:01] — [09:04] “I had all these little signals that were tugging at me to what I was supposed to do next.” - Matt 

[27:15] — [27:19]  “When we just follow that guidance, our life is blessed.” - Matt 

[29:08] — [29:12]  “You start with your outcome. That’s number one. You have to say ‘Where am I headed ?’” - Matt 

Resources Mentioned: 

Tony Robbins 

Tucker Max 

The ONE Thing 

The Quitter’s Manifesto 

Tim Rhode’s website and Facebook 

GoBundance 

1 Life Fully Lived. 

Matt O’ Neill Real Estate LinkedIn and Facebook 

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What is the meaning of life? And where do we even start looking for it? As it turns out, the answers are already within you. 

In today’s episode, Matt O’Neill discusses the seven questions that led him on a lifelong quest to answer the question "What is the meaning of life?" You will come away from this episode with a deeper understanding of why we are all here and what it all means. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

You speak your life into existence. Love and learn from your enemies.  Choose love and peace.  Cherish and the life you have.  Enjoy the journey. 

[06:57] Why Are We Here? 

God created everything by speaking it. We can also speak things into existence because every one of us is a piece of God at our core. 

[12:37] How Can We Love Our Enemies? 

If we’re all made of God, then our enemies are also God. Loving your enemies is the same as loving God and yourself. Every person in your life is sent to teach you a spiritual lesson. 

[14:52] Where’s Heaven Located? 

The Kingdom of Heaven is within you. We only perceive what our mind perceives. So the only thing you can truly know is yourself — and to know yourself is to know God. 

[22:02] Why Doesn’t God Answer Us Out Loud? 

Your whole life is a conversation with God. He communicates with you through every single person and experience that you encounter. 

[24:13] Why Doesn’t God Stop Bad People From Killing Others? 

God gave us free will. Every single choice you make has a direct divine consequence. Always choose peace and love in your life. 

[27:53] Why Do We Have To Die? 

Death makes life richer. Our souls are eternal, but our life isn’t. Knowing life is fragile makes everything more important. Cherish and love the people you have. 

[34:33] What’s The Meaning Of Life? 

Life is uncertain. Uncertainty scares our ego. We must experience and learn from the ego to find our way back to God. Life’s meaning is to: Learn and grow to be more loving and peaceful. Love and cherish your relationships with others. Enjoy the journey. 

Notable quotes: 

[14:01] —  [14:05]  “All is God. And ultimately, all is love.” - Matt 

[24:47] — [24:50]  “You’re free to choose to love, and you’re free to choose to reject love.” - Matt 

[34:18] — [34:26]  “Life is meant to be cherished. And because it’s not permanent, we cherish it even more.” - Matt 

Resources Mentioned: 

A Mind at Home with Itself 

The Inner Work 

The Little Soul and the Sun 

Surviving Death 

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We can have inner peace and happiness, even with a busy life. There is no better time than now to choose unconditional happiness and go beyond our limitations. 

In today’s episode, Matt O’Neill and Adam Copenhaver discuss their key takeaways from Michael Singer's hit book "The Untethered Soul." They talk about how we can free ourselves from the shackles of negative thoughts and chaos. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

You have the power to control your thoughts.  We create our own reality.  Be open to all experiences.  Constantly let go and embrace what is Choose to be Unconditionally Happy

[04:30] You Have an Inner Voice 

The incessant negative thoughts in your head do not define who you are. Recognize that your inner voice is just a fleeting opinion of yourself. By doing so, you start gaining awareness of who you are and stop getting caught up with pessimistic thinking. 

[13:20] Don’t Close Your Heart 

Amid unpleasant thoughts or experiences, we frequently opt to close our hearts and protect ourselves. However, this reaction might only result in suffering. Stop resisting. Remember that you have the freedom to let go and be open to new experiences. 

[18:55] Remove the Thorn 

You are worthy and loved; believing differently is a lie. Stop putting up with the thorns that cause you pain. It's necessary you understand how you respond to difficulties and recognize that your negative self-perceptions are untrue. 

[31:59] Accept Death 

Contemplating death teaches us lessons to improve our lives. It allows us to make sure we’re not wasting our limited time on Earth so we can increase the happiness and fulfillment in our lives. 

[38:59] Choose to Be Unconditionally Happy 

Commit to unconditional happiness. Despite the odds, make a conscious decision to choose happiness over misery. It will teach you all there is to know about yourself, others, and life in general. 

Notable quotes: 

[26:17] — [26:23] “I don't care who you are. You are good enough. You are lovable. And that's the real truth about you. Because you're a son of God, you are designed perfectly.” - Matt 

[29:11] — [29:13]  “Whatever you believe is your reality.” -Matt 

Resources Mentioned: 

The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer 

CopeGrand Homes website, Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn 

Adam Copenhaver LinkedIn 

Matt O’ Neill Real Estate LinkedIn and Facebook 

The Good Mood Show website 

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There are two goals that everyone seems to be striving for: wealth and happiness. Some people believe that you cannot have both at the same time. The truth is that it is possible to be both wealthy and happy. It just takes intention and effort.  

Matt O’Neill and Jarrett Hodson discuss the seven steps you must take to build wealth. It starts with desire and work ethic. And it also includes a niche, a budget, and a boldness to take calculated risks. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Find your desire to be wealthy.  Develop a work ethic.  Choose a niche and keep going at it.  Make more money than you spend.  Balancing risk and leverage.  Invest in what you know. 

[3:08] Wealth and Good Moods 

Wealth makes it easier to explore ways to be happy and accomplish your goals. It also helps you be more honest and confident. Truly wealthy people don’t like short-term relationships and tend to be humble. 

[5:09] Having a Burning Desire 

Everyone wants to be wealthy. The first step to becoming wealthy is to have a burning desire. You will not make it without a burning desire to have what you want. Do you want what you want badly enough? 

[11:23] The Importance of Work Ethic

Do whatever it takes to get what you want. That means doing something every single day to make more money. You must train yourself to have a work ethic — it’s not an innate ability. Every successful person has a powerful work ethic. Consistency and commitment lead to success. 

[21:17] Pick a Niche and Keep Going 

The third step is focusing on a niche. Then do not stop until you are great at it. It would be easier to focus on something smaller. So pick a niche with evidence of people having financial success in that particular niche. And then invest time into showing up and doing the hard work. 

[27:39] Make More Than You Spend 

You need capital to invest to grow wealth. While there are ways to make a quick buck, such as crypto, it’s not a path to wealth. You should always find a way to keep some measure of savings, whether it’s cutting expenses or making more money — or both. 

[32:36] Leverage Risk 

Letting an opportunity pass by is a risk. Leverage is crucial to creating wealth. Every leverage comes with risk. Matt and Jarrett diverge when it comes to debt. But they agree that investing is important. 

[37:50] You HAVE to Invest 

Invest in yourself, your business, and something you are an expert at. You can either set investment goals or buy when the opportunity presents itself. Invest in what you know. Or study what you want to invest in. Diversify your portfolio. 

Notable quotes: 

[22:59] “If you can focus for five years with every single day, you’re showing up and grinding, you’re going to be successful no matter what career path you’re going down.” 

[26:39] “Choose a niche that is proven to have results.” 

[38:06] “You first invest in yourself. And then you invest in a business. And then you invest in something that you're an expert at.” 

Resources Mentioned: 

Sweetgrass Capital 

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill 

Matt O’ Neill Real Estate LinkedIn and Facebook

How do you experience maximum achievement in your life? By taking full responsibility and expecting the good. 

In this episode, Matt O’Neill and Missy Reid discuss their key takeaways from the classic book "Maximum Achievement" by Brian Tracy. They talk about choosing responsibility, reaching your goals, and striving to fulfill life’s sole purpose: love. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Take responsibility for what happens to you.  Welcome and expect good things.  Know that all your experiences have a reason.  Ask God for help in giving and asking for forgiveness.  Always strive to grow, love, and be better. 

[01:58] Taking 100% Responsibility 

Take responsibility for everything that happens in your life. Accept what has happened and choose to learn and grow from it rather than wallowing in negative emotions. 

[36:25] Expecting Good Things 

Expect good things in your life and share that good with others. Know that all that has happened is for you. As long as your intentions are good, God will guide your actions and answer your prayers. 

[23:13] A Reason For Everything 

Have faith that there is a reason for the brightest and darkest times in your life. All the good and bad moments have led to where you are now. Be grateful even during these darkest times. 

[28:15] Forgiveness Is Life’s Cornerstone 

There will always be people to forgive who have hurt and betrayed you. But forgiving can be difficult due to our pride and ego. You can always ask for God’s help to find, give,  and ask for forgiveness. 

[36:25] The Purpose of Life 

Taking responsibility and forgiving can be challenging. But they make life worth living. Things may never be perfect but that’s okay because it means there is room to grow, love and be better. God’s love is perfect, so strive to spread the same love from God. Everything we do should be motivated by love. 

[36:25] Envisioning Your Life’s Masterpiece 

When you set goals and plans for the future, you find your masterpiece. Take time to meditate. Reflect on your aspirations and give yourself positive affirmations. Have faith in achieving your vision and open yourself to the good you are expecting. 

Notable quotes: 

[13:15] — [13:18]  “I do believe that everything is happening for us and not to us” - Matt 

[24:01] — [24:04]  “One of the cornerstones to a life well-lived is forgiveness.” - Matt 

[29:21] —  [29:25]  “The sole purpose of this journey is to grow more and more and more loving.” - Matt 

Resources Mentioned: 

Maximum Achievement by Brian Tracy 

The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer 

The Untouchables (1987) 

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod 

Connect with Missy Reid at 8639345447 or missy@mattoneillteam.com. 

Matt O’ Neill Real Estate LinkedIn and Facebook 

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Judging blocks your happiness. If you want a happier, more joyful life, you will want to learn how to unwind all of your judgments.  

In this episode, Matt O’Neill shares his key takeaways from Marianne Williamson’s best-selling book "Everyday Grace." He explores how to get rid of judgment, be patient with where you are now, and ask God for help.  

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Stop judging others and choose love and light.  Give out love, happiness and peace instead of judgment and hatred.  Be wary of the ego and how it separates you from others.  Ask God for help and guidance.  Try to see other people in a new light. 

[01:58] Stop Judging 

You can’t be judgmental and happy at the same time. Judging other people blocks your light in the world. Every judgment comes from a place of sadness and fear.  When we’re at our worst, we’d also like to receive compassion, forgiveness and empathy from others. Pray to God and wait for three days. It took for Jesus three days to rise from the grave. It may take three days for your thoughts to be resurrected. After that, your judgment will soften. 

[23:13] Ask Help From God 

God loves you so much that He will not interfere with your will unless you ask Him to. He gives us total freedom to make even the worst mistakes. He only will help if you ask — so start asking. If you feel the judgment, hatred or hurt, know that He loves you and will help you  with whatever you ask. 

[28:15] Letting Go 

Place all your decisions in the hands of God. God dwells in eternity and He knows the past, present, and future.  Every single thing is happening for your benefit. You can learn even during the bad times. Just ask God to guide your actions and thoughts. 

[36:25] Finding Peace Within Yourself 

We can be extremely critical of ourselves. Learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes because God has already forgiven you. When you’re in conflict with someone, you can either be right or you can be happy. But you can't be both. If you want happiness, peace and joy, stop trying to be right all the time. 

Notable quotes:  

[06:04] — [06:08] “In that state, where I’m at my very worst, what I would really want from someone else is to have grace on me.” -Matt 

[07:05] — [06:08]  “When we heal that sadness, we get to heal the judgments.” -Matt 

[10:53] — [10:58] “When you’re giving, you feel great. And when you’re judging, you feel awful.” -Matt 

[16:54] —[16:59]  “God’s will for you is your highest, most happy, most joyful, most peaceful self.” -Matt 

Resources Mentioned: 

Everyday Grace: Having Hope, Finding Forgiveness, and Making Miracles by Marianne Williamson 

The Good Mood Show Episode 13: Pray Everyday 

Tony Robbins’ Priming 

Financial Peace by Dave Ramsey

Chris Singleton forgave the unforgivable. His mother, Sharonda Coleman-Singleton, was one of nine African-Americans killed during Bible study at AME Church on June 17, 2015. She was killed out of hate because of the color of her skin. How could you ever forgive?

In this powerful conversation, Chris joins Matt O'Neill to describe his choice to forgive. He is inspiring the world as he speaks of empathy and understanding. Join this episode to learn how we can unite the world through love, faith, and kindness. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Choose to forgive.  Seek God for strength to overcome struggles.  Exercise empathy and understanding.  Let love and kindness manifest in your words and actions.  Be helpful and humble. 

[10:58] Using Your Free Will 

Free will is a gift and a curse. People can make terrible choices. When you actively seek strength and guidance from God, you will gain the strength to overcome tough battles and make the right choices. But forcing people to turn to God will only make them resist more. 

[15:42] Fighting Against Hatred 

Hatred can only be overcome through unconditional love. It is difficult to be mean to somebody if they are genuinely loving and kind to you. Love will always triumph over hate. 

[18:35] What Unity Means 

Unity is realizing that every single person has a story behind what they do and who they are. Try putting yourself in other people’s shoes. Understanding others does not mean changing your beliefs. It is simply seeing things from their perspectives and respecting them. 

[25:06] Choosing to Forgive 

You can forgive someone while also wanting justice to be served. Justice might look different for every person but forgiveness is always freeing. 

[28:29] The Importance of Empathy and Faith 

Learn to listen to understand. Empathy is a crucial factor in understanding and loving others. Be helpful to others as much as possible — and even in the smallest ways. Always be humble and control how you respond to adversities. Faith brings you peace in times of uncertainty. 

Notable quotes: 

[17:25] —[17:32]  “Hate and the darkness actually doesn’t have power. All it has is the absence of love.” - Matt [

35:11] — [35:15] “Your greatest adversity can become your greatest gift, too.” - Matt 

[36:54] — [36:59]  “The goal in life is to be able to traverse all the uncomfort with peace.” - Matt 

[33:33] — [33:34]  “Whatever we give, we get back.” - Matt 

Links to Resources: 

chrissingleton.com 

loveyourneighborbrand.com Instagram: @csingleton_2 Twitter: @csingleton_2 TikTok: @csingleton_2 

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When we think about God, we often imagine Him being far away. But the truth is that God is always close by and available to us. We can reach Him at any moment through prayer. 

In this episode, Matt O’Neill shares the powerful lessons he learned from Marianna Williamson about prayer and asking God to guide our days. He emphasizes the importance of prayer and how it can help us lead a fruitful life. Prayer draws us closer to God and helps us heal from the things weighing us down. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Surrender your pain and suffering to God  Pray every day  Ask God for a miracle  Always strive to live in God’s will  Love and forgive others 

[01:06] Let Go and Let God 

Some people may believe that if they want something, they have to grind to get it — as if God has no part in their achievements. But external success will not give you true happiness and peace. Attachment to the external world is a life that is setting you up to suffer. No problem is too hard for God to solve. No matter what you are going through, God is more powerful than any suffering. 

[05:57] The Power of Prayer 

To pray is to take spiritual action. When you have a problem, say a simple prayer. Miracles can happen at any moment. When there is a change in your perception from fear to love, then that is a miracle. Make prayer a daily habit. 

[09:51] What Keeps Us From Asking For Miracles 

Because our suffering is familiar, we might not ask for miracles. But you have to give that up to find true peace. The ego drives a wedge between God and us. Other times, we do not ask for miracles because we do not trust God. Or perhaps we do not want to relinquish control. But life becomes so much easier when we give everything up to God and stop carrying everything on our shoulders. 

[14:36] The Importance of Forgiveness 

We are on earth to love and forgive. Forgiveness sets people free. Your heart becomes open. It creates space for blessings and miracles to appear in your life. Your ego wants you to act with lovelessness but recognize that when you make mistakes — and you do — you’ll want forgiveness. 

[19:41] Living God’s Will 

Miracles happen when you allow them.  God sustains your entire existence. Without God, you may not even be here. Every experience is a gift, even the painful and sad ones. Your job is to show up in the most loving, joyful, and inspired way possible. 

[25:16] Love and Be Loved 

Our relationship with God is our relationship with ourselves. Knowing that God is love is knowing you are loved. Never forget that you are loved, and you will be able to love others truly. Ask God to make you be more loving. God is always listening. 

[29:31] How to Get Rid of Pain and Fear 

Meditate every morning. Connect with God through silence. Pray out loud every day because words are powerful. These will help you change your perspective from fear to love. 

Notable Quotes: 

[26:04] — [26:07]  “There is no problem that love cannot solve.” - Matt 

[23:17] —[23:19] “When we’re listening to our ego, we’re actually believing a lie. ” - Matt 

Links to Resources: 

Headspace App 

Everyday Grace by Marianne Williamson 

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They don’t teach you how to find happiness in school. Thankfully Matt O’Neill’s mother, Issy Burch, taught him lessons on happiness from an early age. When we’re young, we tend to brush off our parents' advice, only to find out later that their words had profound wisdom. 

In this episode, Matt and his Mom discuss the greatest lessons they learned growing up. You’ll be grateful to hear this wisdom, and you may just decide to call your mom and tell her how much you love her after you hear this show. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Balance hard work and self-care  Happiness comes from within  If you believe in yourself, you can be anything you want  Practice moderation in everything you do  Always choose joy 

[03:41] Take Time to Smell the Roses 

While it’s important to do your best in everything, it’s just as important to take care of yourself. Taking time to smell the roses is about finding the balance between giving 100% of yourself to whatever you’re doing and self-care. That’s how you can be your best self. 

[07:45] Practice Honesty and Integrity 

If you remain honest and truthful while living your best life, God will know. And being true to yourself will help fill your happiness tank, which will lead to good moods. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Have grace and compassion even for those who are unkind to you. 

[12:34] Money Doesn’t Buy Happiness 

Happiness comes from the inside. Unless you can find your joy, you’ll always be unhappy. You can go out and create wealth, but don’t rely on money to be happy. Do not idolize money and worldly successes. Do not lose your joy. 

[17:48] Believe in Yourself 

You can do and be anything you want as long as you work hard and put in the effort. Set realistic goals and believe in yourself. If you don’t put yourself out there, you’re never going to achieve anything. 

[22:48] Do Everything in Moderation 

Strike a balance between working hard and taking care of yourself. Don’t deprive yourself of things that you want. Instead, give yourself and do everything in moderation. 

[24:42] Always Choose Joy 

You can’t choose what happens to you, but you can always choose how you react. How you respond to situations and present yourself is so important. Sometimes choosing joy can be hard. Just have faith that things will get better and find a reason to be happy and grateful. It’s also important to let yourself be sad. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Understand what’s making you sad. Connect with nature to help you relax and be happy again. Remember to love and accept yourself. 

[35:25] Share a Smile 

Sometimes, just smiling at someone or being kind can make a person’s day. Try going out of your way to smile and greet the people you encounter — it could make your day, too! 

Notable Quotes:  

[26:21] — [26:35]  “We still can make a choice to choose our reaction, to choose our attitude, to choose the state, to choose the way that we’ll show up, to choose the emotions that will show up to handle that situation.” - Matt 

[34:37] — [34:46]  “Standing on the edge of the beach and looking at the vastness of this ocean… I mean, that’ll give you some perspective that ‘Man, this world is so much bigger than my little preferences.’” - Matt 

Links to Resources: 

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With all the demands of today’s busy world, it can be easy to feel burned out sometimes. But these low-energy, low passion periods don’t have to stick around. There are tools you can use to overcome burnout. 

In this episode, Matt O’Neill shares how he navigated his way out of the feeling of burnout. And how you can change your life by implementing more self care and daily practices to keep you free from burnout. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Burnout is a mindset.  Change your perspective and change your life.  Honor yourself and your energy, otherwise you won’t have the energy to give to others.  Your emotional state dictates the actions you perform every day.  A good ritual or routine can be your anchor in troubled times. 

[00:64] Getting In and Out of a Funk 

We’ve all been through low-energy, low-passion periods in our lives — Matt calls these troubled times “funks”. Rather than physical exhaustion, a funk or burnout describes the negative meaning we give to the way we feel about a certain event. Matt shares the story of a two-week series of events that left him feeling over committed and burnt out. Listen to the full episode for all the details.

[11:31] You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup 

If you don’t honor yourself and your energy, you won’t have the energy to give to others. It’s easy to get caught up in what “productive” things we think we should be doing and forget to serve ourselves first. Keeping up this kind of mentality can cause burnout and may even be counterproductive. It’s important to reclaim your calendar and add activities to it that spark joy — not just work. 

[17:11] Taking Back Control 

Matt shares how Steve Gill got him back on track: through the power of rituals. Your daily rituals create your state of being, and a powerful, positive emotional state will bring that energy into the actions you perform every day. Matt lists meditation, prayer, journaling, reading, and exercise as his daily rituals. Listen to the full episode for an in-depth look at how routine activities can affect your whole day.

[32:29] Creating the Life You Want If you don’t dedicate time to cleaning your mind and blessing your day, you fall prey to your ego and the world’s negative thoughts and influences — this is why, for Matt, daily rituals are non-negotiable. Your mindset is what creates your success, and you create your mindset with powerful rituals. There will always be fear, but your ritual and routine can be your anchor in troubled times. Matt urges listeners to come up with three morning rituals to follow for seven days. Stick to them and see the difference! 

Notable Quotes: 

[02:13] — [02:23] “If you're working and you don't feel like working, the meaning you're giving that work is ‘I don't want to do this, but I have to.’ Alright, you're gonna get burned out with that mindset.” -Matt 

[18:33] — [18:41]  “The emotional state that you're in, the emotions your body feels create the actions that you're going to perform that day. And your actions create all the results in life.” -Matt 

[33:49] —[33:57] “When any challenge is presented, we can choose to suffer, be a victim, or we can choose to be powerful and thrive.” -Matt 

Links to Resources: 

Make A Wish 

Overcoming Fear with #1 Coach Steve Gill

It’s important to choose powerful language, because your language creates your life. We all have the power to flip the narrative and speak a life of purpose into existence. 

In this episode, CEO Amy Wienands, host of the “You are More!” podcast, joins Matt O’Neill to talk about how she lives out her life’s purpose through positive thinking positive language. You can use your words to create your life into a masterpiece. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Take the time to celebrate your wins and express your appreciation to your family, friends, and co-workers Flip the narrative and use your perception to turn negative events around Everyone is original and each of us is called on to fulfill our one specific purpose Surround yourself with like-minded and supportive people 

[04:23] The Importance of Appreciating People: 

Amy didn't celebrate wins at first. It wasn’t until she saw how it made her team feel appreciated and valued that she realized the importance of doing so. She now treats her family the same way, believing that it’s not about having more time but rather more contact with them. 

[08:40] Your Language Dictates Your Life: 

Get into the mindset of flipping your narrative into something positive, especially during tough times. What you say reflects what you believe in, which will likely become your reality. Amy is grateful every single day for merely being alive and believes that everyone has their own life’s purpose. 

[18:06] Your Life’s Purpose: 

Amy believes that she’s original, but people tend to adopt a herd mentality. Deep internal work is key to developing the confidence to fulfill our life’s purpose. We all have a different purpose in life; it’s okay to embrace our differences and become who we truly are called to be. 

[25:57] Creating a Supportive Network: 

You only need a few key people in your circle. God leads us to the people we need at the exact moment we need them. Not every friend will stay with us, but this just means we’re growing. It’s normal to feel pain at the loss of a friend, but this creates space for like-minded people to walk with us instead. 

Guest Bio: 

Wife, mother to twins & President/CEO of Amy Wienands Real Estate, Amy Wienands is no stranger to the real estate industry and creating impact. For nearly three decades, Amy has been committed to creating an impact in her community and the growth of those around her, through the “vehicle of real estate.” Amy and her team have been consistently ranked as one of the Top 100 Teams in the Nation, and Iowa’s #1 team of REALTORS for the past 8 years. Her biggest passion in this life is to create one thing; a legacy. She knows she’s been put on this earth for “more” and is called to inspire, motivate, bring inspiration and leave a significant mark on this world. She is the host of the You Are More Podcast, a place of revelation and encouragement for all, and a pillar of faith for many. Amy is a firm believer that hard work, principles of faith, and having the “pop-back” factor are the keys to success. 

Links to Resources: 

“You are More!” podcast Website | Spotify | Apple | YouTube 

Amy Wienands Real Estate Website

Many people want to be a millionaire... but at what cost? If the cost is your health or your family, it wasn't worth it. A better goal is to be a Whole-Life-Millionaire, where you have abundance in all the important areas of your life. 

In this episode, Adam Roach, CEO of “I Love Coaching”, joins Matt O’Neill to share his tips on what activities you can do to create the best version of you. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Set aside time for self-improvement activities  Importance of journaling and reflecting  Tracking your progress  Know when and where to direct your energy 

[5:30] Finding "Me Time" 

Matt and Adam are both morning people. They discovered that the best time to exercise is in the early morning. It can be challenging to find time for yourself, but you may end up feeling lost or burned out if you don't. 

[9:18] The Power of Journaling: 

Writing about your day is cathartic. Whether positive or negative, you can release your thoughts and emotions in a journal. Your entries can also serve as messages from your past self to your future self about lessons learned. 

[11:11] Life Audit with Pictures and Reading: 

Looking back at old pictures allows you to reflect on what you've learned since they were taken. Reading past journal entries can help you see what has changed, what you can apply in the present, and what you can teach others. 

[16:45] The Importance of Tracking: 

Adam learned the value of tracking from his father, an Olympic swim coach. You're telling a story when you're tracking things. Tracking is an excellent tool for self-improvement because it can show you where you've improved and fallen short. 

[24:48] Understanding Your Energy: 

We can't give what we don't have, so keep track of your energy. Also know when and where to direct your energy. Strike a balance between giving and taking, energy-wise, to grow as a person. 

Notable Quotes: 

[31:28] —  [31:33] “When my cup is full, I can spill over into others, and when it's empty, I don't have anything to give.” - Matt 

Guest Bio: 

Adam has been a serial entrepreneur and a recruiting junkie for over two decades!  From playing collegiate tennis, to owning his first business in his 20's, Adam recruited and built one of the most dynamic tennis club's in all of Beverly Hills CA.  He later cut his real estate teeth in Los Angeles, with 6 and 7 figure flips. In his mid 30's, Adam transitioned to owning and running multiple Keller Williams Realty franchises. Combined, this team led over 700 agents doing nearly $2 billion dollars in total sales. In his 30’s he developed a recruiting software and company that has now recruited over 130,000 agents across North America. To date, The I Love Recruiting family of companies includes 4 recruiting platforms (recruiting bridge, xceed, chamber scout, and touchngrow), and the I Love Coaching Company includes 10 1:1 coaches, a monthly group coaching and an evergreen course. By the end of 2022, the I Love Coaching Company is projected to have revenues exceeding $8 million, and on track to bring its Vision Statement to life; “To empower Coaches to change 100 million lives. For fun, Adam loves traveling and creating experiences with his fiancée Dana Gentry, his 2 kids, Addison and Amelia and the family dogs Frankie and Charli. 

Links to Resources: 

I Love Coaching website 

I Love Coaching Instagram 

Reaching your dreams takes mental toughness. It can take years of discipline and dedication to get closer to the person you want to be and the life you want to live. There will be hurdles along the way, but honing your mental toughness will help you overcome the obstacles that stand between you and success. 

In this episode, Davon Gilliard, CEO of Can’t Stop Training, joins Matt O’Neill to share his tips on developing mental toughness. With consistency and effort, you can be mentally tough enough to achieve your dreams. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Put consistent effort into improving  Elevate your work ethic  Plan your day around your goals  Eat healthy and exercise  Find a coach to guide you 

[08:18] Increase Your Work Ethic: 

Increasing your work ethic involves consistent practice and progress. Adopt the mentality of training to become the best, and develop the confidence to know that you’ve worked hard enough to deserve success. Set concrete goals, plan your day around them, and make intentional choices. 

[21:18] Plan Your Day: 

Establish your goals. Find time to meditate and journal or adjust your schedule to make time. Doing these activities for a few minutes a day will compound. 

[26:55] Mind Your Nutrition: 

Plan your meals around your nutrition goals. If you work out, you need to eat within 30 minutes of starting. After working out, just a smoothie is fine, but you can also eat carbs and protein. Listen to the full episode for more dietary tips and suggestions! 

[41:35] Get a Coach: 

Finding a mentor gives you access to tips and advice on how to improve yourself. It also deepens your understanding of how to better yourself and achieve your goals. Don’t worry so much about what other people think about you. 

Notable Quotes: 

[17:29] — [17:34]  “The difference between five championships and zero championships is just choices, decisions.” - Matt 

[20:51] — [21:01] “You’re focusing on the positive rather than beating yourself up for the negative because as we beat ourselves up, that’s more guilt. And guilt just takes us down even further.” - Matt 

[40:23] —  [40:27]  “It’s better to go one day a week to start or two days a week to start, and then build from there.” -Matt 

Guest Bio: 

Davon Gilliard is the CEO and Director of Sports Performance at Can’t Stop Training. He is a member of the National Academy of Sports Medicine and has received a certification in sports performance. He is passionate about helping people develop their sports performance, skills, and personal fitness. Davon has spent much time volunteering with REACH, a health and fitness program designed to educate and train young adults with autism. Davon has also trained high school and collegiate basketball players in skill development. His experience working with different athletes has influenced his coaching style and helped him grow as a health and fitness professional. 

Links to Resources: 

Can’t Stop Training website @cantstoptraining 

The 12 Week Year by Brian Moran 

High Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard 

THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more…

Sadness can be your awakening to the gift of life. In this powerful episode, Matt O’Neill gets vulnerable and opens up about his wife’s failed pregnancies. He talks about the profound lessons they learned from those heart-breaking experiences. 

If you are open to it, you can learn to see the silver lining in your suffering and treasure every moment gifted to you. You will leave this episode with a desire to go home and hug the people you love a little tighter. You will finally see the truth, that another day with the ones you love is not owed to you, it is gifted to you. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

The Power of Choosing Love  Strengthening your Faith  Lessons from sadness and loss  How to learn from life’s challenge  Free yourself from attachments  

[00:45] Choosing Between Fear and Faith: 

Many people think that everything is owed to us. But we must realize that nothing is owed to us — rather, every moment is gifted to us. In Marianne Williamson’s A Return to Love, she says that we only ever have one choice: to choose love or not. Choosing love means connecting with God and our souls, and coming into our eternal being. 

[04:07] Strengthening Your Faith: 

Strengthening your faith can be done by connecting the dots backward in the darkest moments of your life and putting them into perspective. You will realize that you were being guided in those moments and that you are always being guided by a higher purpose. 

[08:13] The Gift of Sadness:

With God’s guidance, we learn lessons in either of two ways: through wisdom or from experience. If you’re not learning from wisdom, he’ll teach you through experience — these can be difficult to overcome. Through his wife’s miscarriages, Matt learned that the point of loss is to teach us not to take anything for granted. Every moment is precious. Treasure what you have and let the people you love know that you love them. Nothing is owed to you so don’t take anything — or anyone — for granted. 

[16:27] Learning From Challenges: 

You don’t always need to learn from experience. You can also learn from wisdom, study, and contemplation. Contemplate the lessons in the stories you hear and read. After that, choose to love. Know that challenges are not meant to discourage you; they’re happening for you. 

[30:02] Releasing Major Attachments: 

Our egos always have attachments, some of the biggest being money, health, and life. There are some attachments that you need to release for the benefit of your soul. Just remember that you’re okay and that God always has your back. 

Notable quotes: 

[01:57] —  [02:03]  “Every moment that we get is gifted to us. Nothing is owed to us.” -Matt 

[11:55] — [12:03]  “The point of loss is to teach us not to take any moment for granted. Every single moment is precious.” -Matt 

[27:09] — [27:17]  “Resistance is suffering. And what we resist, persists. And if we don’t learn the lesson, we’ll continue to get the exact same lesson.” -Matt 

[29:55] —[29:59]  “Problems are a gift sent from God to help you grow.” -Matt 

Links to Resources: 

A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson 

The Inner Work by Mat & Ash 

THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more…

What if a headache isn’t just a headache? Pain in your body may actually be a signal that there are emotions stored in your body that need to be released. 

In this episode, CEO of Thrive Physical Therapy, Kim Kolodiji, joins Matt O’Neill to teach you how you can heal your body by healing your emotions. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Learn to listen to your body  Discover how your emotions are linked to your muscles  Incorporate the Emotional Freedom Technique into your life Your body's innate wisdom  Open yourself up to high-vibration emotions like peace and joy

[01:37] Kim’s Path Down the Steiner Route: 

Twenty years into her career in physical therapy, Kim found herself in a slump. She wasn’t getting the results she wanted and her patients weren’t making full recoveries. But in 2011, Kim met Rebecca Steiner of the Steiner Institute and became her apprentice. Kim learned how to listen to her patients better, and realized that you don’t have to age with pain. You don’t have to limit yourself in life. 

[11:38] Your Body’s Wisdom: 

As opposed to more traditional forms of physical therapy, the “Steiner Route” goes deep into concepts like joint movement and muscle alignment, and how they relate to our emotions. By listening to the wisdom of our bodies, we can help heal them. Matt is Kim’s patient as well. 

[21:03] The Science of Emotion: 

The longer we keep negative emotions in our bodies, the harder it becomes for our nervous systems to deal with them. Opening ourselves up to high-vibration emotions like joy and peace reflects in our posture. 

[32:35] The Emotional Freedom Technique: 

Certain “meridian points” on our bodies are linked to certain emotions. By identifying the root of our emotional pain, we can address our physical pain as well. Listen to the full episode to hear Matt and Kim’s discussion on the Emotional Freedom Technique. 

Notable Quotes: 

[13:42] — [13:52] “The emotions that were stored in my body that were negative were ones I didn't want to admit that I had. That is the issue.” - Matt 

[17:17] — [17:25] “I was saying, ‘No, I'm super happy. I love everything that's going on. I'm really positive.’ Subconsciously, my body was saying, ‘Yes, I have anger stored in my body.’ - Matt 

[23:53] — [23:58]  “It's just these bad moods that get in the way of us feeling what's at our core already.” - Matt 

[36:21] — [36:28] “Even though I'm feeling the emotion of anger, it's okay. I deeply and completely love and accept myself.” - Matt 

Links to Resources: 

Kim’s LinkedIn 

Thrive Physical Therapy 

Steiner Institute 

THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more… 

About the Guest: 

Kim Kolodiji is a physical therapist with 34 years under her belt, as well as an independent business owner. She started Thrive Physical Therapy as a way to provide one-on-one integrative therapy with a focus on helping people achieve their personal rehab and wellness goals. Kim’s other ventures include being a licensed massage therapist, an energy healing practitioner, and the owner of a small-business massage and bodywork practice, Awakenings Massage.

So many people are held back by fear. It’s always easier to stay in your comfort zone, but that is not where you reach your full potential. To surpass your limits and transform your life, you must push past your fears and reframe how you look at life’s challenges. 

In this episode, Steve Gill, the #1 Coach in the Tony Robbins organization, joins Matt O’Neill to share how to conquer your fear and transform your life for the better. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Discover how to face your fears  Regain control over your life  Find out how to thrive in uncertain times  Overcome challenges  Learn how to get into a good mood 

[03:44] How to Deal with Fear:

The first step to dealing with fear is to take notice of how you’re feeling. Fear and faith exist in your mind. While fear causes your mind to run wild, faith is directed focus. Reframing the way you think about fear will give it new meaning because nothing in life has any meaning except the one you give it. 

[10:42] Taking Back Control: 

There’s a lot of fear in entrepreneurship; that’s why you need more certainty. Rituals are controllable practices that will help give you a sense of control, thus eliminating fear. Rituals plus routine equals peak performance. Giving meaning to your actions can make even the simplest decisions feel incredibly empowering. 

[16:52] Thriving Despite Fear: 

Find out what you’re afraid of and ask yourself if you would do it if your fear did not exist. If the answer is yes, then you need to do it. The mark of a great business is how you thrive amidst the chaos and fear. 

[25:00] Meeting Your Worthy Opponents: 

Worthy opponents come into your life to help you become the best version of yourself. When you meet people who challenge you, they are meant for you. It’s happening for you — not to you — to conquer that worthy opponent and step up to another level. 

[28:50] Getting Into a Good Mood: 

Tony Robbins would say there are only two states of being: the beautiful state and the suffering state. Exercise your emotional muscles by acknowledging when you’re in the suffering state so you can overcome it and get to the beautiful state. 

Notable quotes: 

[10:18] — [10:30] “The fear is always there. And you’ve talked about it earlier here. You just have to trump the fear, you have to be more powerful than the fear. And you do that with faith. And faith is this directed focus.” - Matt 

[20:28] — [10:30] “Conquer this one small hard thing that’s not going to hurt you — it won't hurt you, it’ll help you — and then the rest of your day, the hard things really aren’t that hard to just go ahead and step forward and do them.” - Matt 

[32:19] — [32:26] “A mood is not just an emotion and thought patterns in our head. A mood is a full-body experience.” - Matt 

Links to Resources: 

steve.gill@tonyrobbins.com 

@sgresultscoach 

#MAXOUT Your Life by Ed Mylett 

THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more… 

About the Guest: 

Steve Gill is a  Senior Mentor/Platinum Coach, and Master Business Results Trainer, for Tony Robbins. The  top 1% best coaching in the world. He has worked with different  individuals and businesses around the world on almost every topic  imaginable. He  was named Coach of the Year in 2017 and 2019 for his ability to  implement Tony’s strategies and for his impact on his clients.

Every little bit you give matters to someone in need. Life is constantly putting us in position to give back and make a difference. And what you ultimately find is that the blessings come to those who give. 

In this episode, CEO Shannon Hawkins joins Matt O’Neill to share her journey through adversities and how she has received blessings by giving back to others. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

How to dig yourself out of the trenches  Appreciating all that you have  Giving back makes room for blessings  Have faith in God and His plan for you 

[03:44] Getting Out of Bad Moods: 

Many years back, Shannon had to dig herself out of the trenches and talk herself out of many negative situations. Now, people see her gift as helping others with their own life obstacles. Shannon was young when her dad died and it affected her tremendously growing up without a Dad. She got pregnant with her firstborn at a very young age. She had to put herself through school and work while raising him. These are only some of the trenches that Shannon had to dig herself out of — and now she is living a beautiful, abundant life. 

[07:04] Dealing with Abandonment: 

It might be difficult to realize but when God takes someone from us, He does it to protect us. Matt talks about his appreciation for his mother’s efforts in raising him. Shannon had a similar story when she was hustling to provide for her son at a young age. One time, she brought home shrimp to put in their ramen noodles after receiving a bonus and her son considered it a luxury. He was able to see the fruits of his mother’s hard work and seeing him appreciate what was in front of him was a moment Shannon will never forget. 

[12:32] Giving Back to Others:

When her son was around four or five, Shannon didn’t have the money to buy him a Christmas present. She had made a promise to herself that if there came a time that she wasn’t living paycheck to paycheck, she’d give to other people. Now, she brings food to families in their communities. She even took in a homeless man named Charles — listen to the full episode to hear her inspiring story. 

[26:17] Shannon’s Faith: 

Shannon’s faith became strong because it was about all she had as a young mom. When she had a hard time sleeping, she was advised to pray before going to bed. By continuing to do that, she was able to finally find peace and trust in the Lord. Everybody has moments where they doubt if they will be able to overcome hardships. But if God brings you to it, He’ll bring you through it. In the end, it will help you learn and grow. 

Links to Resources: 

THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor and more… 

About the guest: 

Shannon Hawkins has been voted the best interior designer in Charleston for the past three years. She is the owner of Refresh Your Nest, a company that helps homeowners and real estate professionals to improve the interior of their homes or offices. After spending 15 years in the medical field, she finally tapped into her life-long love of design. Her mission is to not only elevate people’s homes but their spirits. She touches the lives of others every single day through the work she does and gives back in any way she can. Outside of design, she enjoys trips to the beach with her family, live music and of course, scouring antique shops for hidden gems.

Some people believe that positivity is an innate trait, that you are either born with or not… but this is not the case. You can cultivate a positive attitude by changing your habits and thinking. From the moment you wake up, there are small things you can do to start your day on a positive note. 

In this episode, Matt O'Neill talks with Marcia Germain about what positivity is and how they incorporate it into their daily lives. They also offer advice on how you can choose positivity and how you can share it with the world. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Positivity is selfish, but in a good way, because it allows you to choose yourself  Know that you are enough  Live your passion, even if only in a few aspects of your life  Don’t write out the negative people around you, encourage positivity instead  Be kind to others and look for the good in their situations  Life's adversities provide opportunities for growth 

[1:23] Let the Positivity Spread Around: 

Matt and Marcia share their recent victories in life. Marcia discusses the success of her vision dream board workshop with teens and how rewarding it is to connect with young people. 

[6:06] Start Your Day Positively: 

Getting out of bed and starting your day can be difficult at times. There are, however, small steps you can take to get back on track. Consider what you are grateful for and how you can express your gratitude to others. 

[12:35] Put Your Passion Into Your Daily Activities: 

Passion leads to happiness, but most often people do not have their dream job. Living with passion means finding it in the components of your career and other aspects of your life. It is important to understand that no career or job is perfect. 

[17:30 ] Energy is Contagious: 

Energy whether positive or negative radiates to the people around you. There is a saying that goes, “You are the same person as those closest to you”. However, not everyone we interact with will be in a positive mood all the time. Remember to choose kindness. 

[24:12] Growth Comes from Good and Bad Experiences: 

There is an assumption that optimistic people are born with optimism. You go through different experiences in life that shape the person you are today. There is a silver lining in every negative experience. It’s about how you look at the experience and what you take from it. 

Links to Resources: 

The Secret 

Guest Bio: 

Marcia Germain is an account executive at Choice Home Warranty and a personal life coach at Yours Truly Life Coaching. She helps others find and set their goals to live meaningful lives. LinkedIn Facebook

Confidence is a feeling that you can succeed at what you choose to do. Self-confidence isn't about what the world shows you; it's about what you believe internally about yourself. 

In this episode, Matt O'Neill shares his life story — how his family faced discrimination, the challenges he faced as a child, and how he overcame them. He also shares three critical pieces for building your self-confidence. 

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: 

Hurting yourself hurts other people  Belief is all that self-confidence is  Identify low confidence beliefs and write the truth beside them  Some low confidence beliefs can be helpful, but you can't keep them forever  Tell yourself that you can  When you fully believe something, the world will feel it too  Do not let yourself down 

[01:03] Generations of Low Self-Confidence: 

Matt and his family lived difficult lives for generations. Matt's grandparents fled Ireland due to the potato famine and were treated like lesser people when they arrived in the US. These experiences created generational pain. The thing is, only people who are in pain hurt others. Matt’s father constantly told him that he was unworthy of good things. Unfortunately, as a child, Matt believed it. 

[11:35] What Is Self-Confidence? 

Belief is all that self-confidence is. Self-confidence can give you momentum, but everything will slide backward if you think things are going wrong. It all comes down to what you believe — if you think you’re going to succeed, you will. 

[16:54] Manifest Powerful Beliefs, But Know When to Let Go: 

Matt’s grandfather believed that their family was full of determined fighters. It was a powerful belief that kept him alive on the streets of New York. Matt inherited this energy and used it to fight for everything, whether success or survival. It helped him become successful today, however, being a fighter isn't a happy place. He eventually changed that belief to "success flows easily to me." It was a better mindset than thinking he needed to fight. When your subconsciousness knows what self-confidence is, the world will begin to validate your beliefs. 

[23:34] Telling Yourself You Can: 

A critical element to building self-confidence is believing you can do something. Someone else might tell you that they believe in you — a real confidence booster. However, you don't have to wait for someone else to believe in you or tell you that you can do it — you can tell yourself. Write down in a journal every day until your subconscious fully believes you. 

[24:40] Keep Your Promises to Yourself: 

How you act in one thing is how you do everything. It's critical never to let yourself down; you're the only person you can count on. Even when it's hard, you have to drag yourself out of bed. 

[28:09] Doing Lots of Work and Aiming for Big Goals: 

Doing a lot of work in a short amount of time always increases your self-confidence and self-belief. When you put in the work, you believe the results are coming. That is self-confidence — the belief in yourself and your success. 

Links to Resources: 

Lou Holtz

When you feel like your best self, you are your BEST SELF. Life’s challenges get a whole lot easier when you’re feeling amazing. 

That’s where The Good Mood Show comes in. Each week is a guaranteed Good Mood. 

You will learn how to overcome the limiting thoughts and beliefs that block your happiness. 

Welcome to The Good Mood Show.