The Love You Want, It Starts With You!

In this episode from the Art Of Connection series, created with Alexander McDonell and me, we explore what the true meaning of love is. Alexander and I have very different backgrounds but our shared connection of a higher being and spiritual connection inspires a very interesting conversation on what love is.

“In our journey of self-love, I believe it’s important to accept our flaws and mistakes as part of our human experience and learn to have more self-grace towards ourselves. For self-love cannot exist without self-grace.” Anne Hellgren 

We argue whether love can be found in every aspect of our lives- even in addictions, fears, jealousy, crime, and control. When do we go from a healthy aspect or perception of love to when it turns into something ugly- but still believing it is an act of love?

This conversation is very deep and inspirational food for thought! It will challenge your ideas of love and give you different perspectives that are well worth your time, so make sure you listen to the full episode!

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Some obvious things are well known to destroy most relationships, and some less known, or silent killers, of a relationship. In this episode, I want to talk about what we can sometimes overlook as being insignificant but repeated long enough, is sure to kill your relationship. 

“Some people will repeatedly hurt or disrespect you, offer apologies, but never change their behaviors. Please see them for who they are - not what you would like them to be.” Anne Hellgren

Some of these things can be done consciously or subconsciously but the hurt and distraction will follow. So as you listen in, look out for things that you may be experiencing from your partner, or that you are doing or saying yourself.

I cover the following topics in detail and you may be surprised by the insights you receive from this episode, so make sure you listen to the end of this podcast!

1. The green-eyed monster of comparison

2. If you don’t create your boundaries and enforce them, someone else will do it for you!

3. Unhealthy and Unwanted power imbalances can be a ticking time bomb.

4. Over-reliance on your partner is a turn-off on many levels

5. You can only be inauthentically you for so long. Ps. It’s demoralizing and soul-draining. Don’t do it…

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I am joined by Tyrone Wheeler, a Relationship Coach who helps men heal their relationships with their dad or their father figures in life. Having gone through a period of being absent from his father for over 35 years after the separation of his parents, he went on to experience various challenges in his life. He was affected by this absent relationship with his father and it went on to affect his own adult relationships and marriage.

“A parent’s physical presence doesn’t automatically meet a child's emotional and psychological needs. If you have an unhealthy attachment style, or dysfunctional patterns in your relationships- it would serve you highly to examine how your physical, emotional, and psychological needs were met by your parents or carers as a child.” - Anne Hellgren

Only when he did the work on himself, was he able to heal from not just the physical disconnect, but also the emotional disconnect he experienced with his father.

This conversation is something that we as a society need to speak more openly about. If we continue to ignore the importance and impact that absent fathers have on their sons- and not just daughters- we create a society that leaves behind a trail of emotionally broken men. Men who have struggled to form and experience healthy and secure attachments in their relationships. And many times this can also carry a lot of resentment, insecurity, detachment, addictions, and anger. Which, dangerously, are not always even at a conscious level. 

Please share this episode with other people in your life. You may be surprised how many people suffer in silence as they struggle to admit that an absent father or father figure has significantly had an impact on them! 

I am joined by Stuart Wade, a clinical hypnotherapist and sports performance mind coach. As an athlete and a person who has always been interested in how the mind works, this led him to pursue a degree in sports science which includes sports psychology.

“Be responsible for your happiness, your emotions, and your thoughts. Have some self-love and self-grace towards yourself, just the way you'd have to someone that you love.” - Anne Hellgren

In this episode, we discuss the importance of having a positive mindset and how it can affect your relationships. So if you are aiming to have a good relationship with yourself and others, this episode is for you! 

Everyone has struggled with negative self-talk. As human beings, we are wired to notice the bad over the good things. This can stem from a past experience like bullying, or it can come from your personal trait of being self-critical or perfectionistic. But there is a way to end this vicious cycle and it starts with you!

It all starts with mindfulness - be aware of what you take in and spill on others. Take a moment to identify your wants, and focus on them. Do something that will feed your happiness, it can be going to the gym for a workout, a stroll in the park, creating a spiritual practice, eating healthy food, or getting a good amount of sleep. Maybe a change in your environment is necessary to do the trick. 

It’s not too late to rewire our brains for positivity. Know that by being the best version of yourself, you are easily attracting what you want and that includes happy and healthy relationships. The results may not happen overnight but with continuous practice coupled with self-grace, you will surely get there.

This episode is taken from a new and exciting podcast series I created with 4 other coaches called “Relationship Secrets Unlocked.”

“The programming we receive and the stories we tell ourselves as a result of what happens to us in our childhood is often complex and multiple-faceted. So to fully understand your relationship patterns, be willing to honestly explore yourself deeper and wider.” - Anne Hellgren

“Relationship Secrets Unlocked" is a uniquely enriching podcast series that presents a holistic view of relationships from an international and culturally diverse perspective. With an expert panel of five relationship coaches hailing from diverse cultural, religious, and professional backgrounds, the series aims to educate listeners about the complexities of human relationships and how to navigate them effectively.

Like this podcast, Relationship Secrets Unlocked is a platform for learning, understanding, and embracing the myriad facets of human relationships. With their varied expertise, the panel presents a comprehensive picture of what makes relationships work, how to navigate challenges, and the role of cultural and religious factors in shaping our experiences. It is an essential resource for anyone seeking to deepen their understanding of human connections and improve their own relationships.

Join Julie Fitzpatrick, Claire Auchmuty, Ksenia Droben, Gazala Saleem, and me as we discuss how our Childhood beliefs consciously or subconsciously affect our attachments, communication, connections, and everything else in our relationships! 

Moniqe Fiddes is a South African songwriter, superstar musician, and multi-million-pound entrepreneur. She is also the wife of Matt Fiddes who is well known for his outstanding success as a businessman and friend of the late Michael Jackson. 

In this episode, Moniqe and I discuss how she was a very well-known success in her own right, before getting married to Matt. She grew her music career in South Africa while keeping her sights on a larger goal of being successful and providing for her family. She shares her story of being held at gunpoint in South Africa while her father was robbed of his whole pension money as her family home was robbed of all valuables!

She also shares her story of how she met Matt while he was in South Africa, a beautiful story indeed! 

Moniqe is an open book and also shares insights into how Matt’s relationship with Michael Jackson also had an effect on their relationship.  

We then discuss how it is to be a mother of 3 young children (6 in total) while running her successful property portfolio, her music career, and massive support for her husband. She is truly an inspiring woman and powerhouse! 

Tune in to this episode and learn how we view having it all as a society and what it means to be truly happy in our own right! For a couple in the public eye, I highly admire how genuine and honest Moniqe is about her professional and private life!

If you haven’t already, make sure you also listen to Matt Fiddes's interview on this podcast, episode 51! Again- such an inspiring and honest conversation!!

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Yvonne is a Corporate Lawyer, The Founder of Pause Penny, a Motivational Speaker, and the host of the podcast, “All Up in Your Biz”. She is also a mother of 4 children. Yvonne shares her intriguing story of how she manifested her soulmate who is now her husband. 

“I believe that in order to really manifest what you want in life, be very clear on not just what you want- but also what you want to repel.” - Anne Hellgren

If you have ever been interested in finding out how you can also manifest the right partner for you, this episode is for you! We also discuss the importance of being very clear on exactly what you need vs want in a relationship, and in a partner.

If you’ve listened to this podcast before, you’ll know that I emphasize there is a big difference between our wants and needs in a relationship! 

Just as importantly, knowing what you don’t want and being able to identify that before you start to manifest your ideal partner is so key! 

Yvonne is a ray of positive energy and has openly shared her journey with me! I hope this episode inspires you to dig deep and get clarity about want you’re looking for so you can start to manifest your desires. Even if you are already in a relationship, you can always improve certain aspects of it, and this episode will help you on your journey to do just that! 

In this special episode, I share with you an episode from a  new and very exciting project I’m working on with Alexander McDonell called “The Art Of Connection”. We talk about how sex is viewed in various cultures, religions, and in today's society. This is an honest and open conversation with nothing held back! From prostitution, multiple partners, and taboos, to sacred intimacy and everything in between! 

"Intimacy is not confined to the bedroom; it is a way of being that creates connection on multiple levels." — Unknown

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More to come on this new series- “The Art Of Connection” with Anne and Alexander.

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I am joined by Sophie Swinn, an Executive and Leadership Coach, and mental health ambassador. With steadfast courage and remarkable optimism, she has transformed adversity into opportunities for growth and emerged triumphant in both her personal and professional life.

“Do you like yourself when you’re drunk? If not, it’s important to evaluate your relationship with alcohol.” Sophie Swinn

This conversation with Sophie honestly discusses how an unhealthy relationship with alcohol affected her and her relationships. She went through toxic and abusive relationships while admitting that she too suffered from unhealthy attachment styles and was at times the cause of the toxic relationship. However, she decided to stop drinking and had therapy. This decision turned her life around completely!

Though it wasn’t an overnight change, her story is truly inspiring as she now has an amazing relationship with her husband and children. She also enjoys a successful career.  

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With love till next week….

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For anyone reading this, I want to share that you deserve better. And it’s not just for those in an abusive relationship! It’s for anyone who has that gut feeling that they have sold themselves short in their relationship! If this is you, or someone you know, this episode is for YOU!

After years of therapy, counseling, personal development retreats, workshops, books, and courses, you name it, I realized I had a pattern that was robbing me of happy relationships and a better life. There were 5 key things I needed to work on. I did the work on myself and now help my clients do the same.

I want to share these with you and I promise you, if you work on getting these 5 things right, you will transform who you are, how you value yourself, and how you make your life choices!

Make sure to listen to the whole episode as it will serve you immensely!

PLEASE FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST AND SHARE IT! xx

With love till next week…. Anne xx

P.S. I have got a NEW AND EXCITING series coming up soon…. STAY TUNED my lovelies xx

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I am joined by Julie Fitzpatrick, award-winning Therapist and coach and Founder of Millieside Therapy & Coaching. She works with empowering Business Owners and professionals to Unlock the power of their imagination so they can Become Unstoppable!

“We need to create a society where we stop our need for constant and immediate gratification and accept delayed gratification as normality in certain circumstances. This is especially important when striving for growth, connection, and success.” Anne Hellgren

In this episode, we discuss how our programming and current society are affecting how we show up in life and how we react to what is happening to us. As coaches, we dive into the topic of the current state of how we live, in which a lack of presence, entitlement, constant offense, and need for instant gratification have formed our life experiences and relationships with those around us. How mindful are we about how our newly formed attitudes of constant dissatisfaction in the smallest of things are affecting our relationships, romantic or not?

We also share some tools and techniques to help you get back into a healthier mindset that serves us, rather than keeps us trapped in a state of constantly feeling like we are lacking or not enough. This is an episode for those who need an uplifting message that the best is yet to come if we adopt a healthy mindset and move away from negative thoughts when we can.

 Can you please do me a favor if you enjoyed listening… Please click on the “FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE” button. Also please SHARE the podcast with someone who needs to hear this today! 

With love till next week….

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This is an episode that everyone needs to hear! The concept of energy has been a massive topic in the last couple of years and for a good reason. Whether you believe in the power of energy or not, the fact remains that we cannot thrive in an environment that depletes us constantly.

 “Whether you believe in the power of energy or not, the fact remains that we cannot thrive in an environment that depletes us constantly. Therefore, you will not reach your full potential if you allow people or things that deplete you, or steal your energy, to take up space in your life.” Anne Hellgren

In this episode, I talk about the importance of keeping people and things that are draining us or even toxic to us, away. This can be hard when the person who’s stealing your energy is close to you, but that doesn’t mean you remain without choice. You still have the choice of how much time you spend in the company of such people. You also have the choice of whether to completely cut them off. Yes, it may be harsh and perhaps a last option in some cases. But remember, this is about you being able to have a healthy state of mind so you can be there for those who truly need you - and for yourself! This isn’t selfish, it’s self-care! 

In this heartfelt episode, I invite you to join me on a deeply personal journey as I recount my harrowing experiences with abuse and dysfunction in relationships. My story is a testament to the incredible strength of the human spirit and the transformative power of healing.

“To encourage survivors of relationship abuse to speak out, it's crucial that we refrain from asking why they stayed. Such questions can intensify their shame and suffering. Instead, let's focus on how we can support them in their healing process. This approach fosters understanding, empowers survivors, and creates a safe space for them to share their experiences and seek help.” Anne Hellgren

Main Discussion Points:

1. My Path through Abuse: I open up about my own experiences with the painful realities of abuse and dysfunction within relationships, shedding light on the emotional and psychological toll it can cause.

2. Fueling a Mission for Change: I share how my personal journey of healing and recovery has become the driving force behind my mission to help others break free from the same patterns of abuse and dysfunction.

3. Practical Strategies for Healing: I offer practical strategies and tools drawn from my own experiences for those seeking to heal from dysfunctional relationships. These include insights on establishing healthy boundaries, rebuilding self-worth, and recognizing the warning signs of problematic relationships.

4. Embracing Healthy Connections: I emphasize the significance of nurturing healthy and supportive connections after breaking free from dysfunction. I provide insights into how individuals can create and maintain meaningful, loving relationships.

With love till next week…. 

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P.S. I have got a NEW AND EXCITING series coming up soon…. STAY TUNED my lovelies xx

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We are joined by Milka Kamau to delve into a powerful story of resilience and healing as we explore the unspoken struggles surrounding mental health. 

“As we continue to be silent about our experiences in mental health, we’re fostering the stigma to continue. The way for us to end the stigma is to come out and say I’m going through a mental health illness. And as we say that, the stigma will end. It will have no place.” - Milka Kamau

We learn about Milka’s experiences growing up -  feeling like something was wrong with her, constantly seeking validation, and wearing a mask to hide her true self. She takes us to the emotional complexities of her relationship with her father, navigating abuse and strict household rules, and the impact it had on her mental well-being. This story doesn't end in despair. Milka shares her realizations and shows us her path to healing. We highlight the importance of seeking help and raising awareness that mental health conditions are treatable. But in order to end this stigma, one must first break their silence.

We explore the power of sharing serious messages about mental health, abuse, and PTSD, urging you, our listeners, to spread this important episode far and wide. Remember, your voice matters. Milka also talks about her advocacy efforts, their role in a global group striving to collect resources for individuals with mental health conditions, and their relentless pursuit to make a difference.  Together, let's create a world where mental health is openly discussed, understood, and supported. 

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Most of us at some point felt like we needed our partners more than they needed us. And while this can be a normal feeling when it ISN’T a constant feeling, and when the other person also shares the same feeling from time to time. It is however not healthy when there is a desparate or overly neediness of one person to another. 

 “Everyone wants to feel needed in a relationship, but no one wants to be with a needy person.” Anne Hellgren

This episode will discuss some of the issues that arise when one person is overly needy to highlight how it can lead to the demise of a relationship. I will also be sharing what you can do to avoid feeling overly needy in a relationship. Remember, these steps shared below can be applied to any relationship and not just romantic ones.

Here are steps you can take to stop being overly needy:

1. Practice Self-Reflection

2. Build your Self-Confidence and Self-Worth

3. Develop Individual Interests.

4. Set Healthy Boundaries Together.

5. Practice Self-Sufficiency

6. Communicate Openly and Honestly

7. Celebrate Independence

Remember that making changes takes time, and it's okay to seek support along the way. Be patient with yourself and your partner as you work toward a healthier and more balanced relationship dynamic.

With love till next week….

P.S. I have got a NEW AND EXCITING series coming up soon…. STAY TUNED my lovelies xx

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In this episode, I’m talking about how to fail forward when your relationships fail. Usually, failed relationships aren’t something most of us want. And in fact, can be an extremely difficult time for many. With divorce rates in the Western world averaging 52% (currently), there are clearly a lot of failed relationships out there. This is not even counting non-marriages.

“There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship. But every relationship has the ability to teach you something about yourself, others, and the world.” - Anne Hellgren

I discuss what it really means to fail forward in a relationship, and how we can use failed relationships to improve our lives moving forward. And also how to let go of things and behaviors that may be keeping you in a pattern of failed relationships. I will also share some tools that you can use if you find that you need to heal from a failed relationship that has felt you hurt, angry, disappointed, and more. 

If you feel that you are going through a stage in your life and want some support on how to overcome it, reach out to me at anne@annehellgren. Life is best lived when you are able to learn, heal and move on from what doesn’t serve you!

As always, I would be forever grateful if you can share this. 2023 has taught me that many of us are in the same boat - just not aware of it or sharing the same language or courage to share our own experiences. Let’s make a difference if and where we can.

With love till next week….

P.S. I have got a NEW AND EXCITING series coming up soon…. STAY TUNED my lovelies xx

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If you are anything like the vast majority of people around the world, you have struggled with always showing up as your authentic self, constantly and unapologetically. 

“As much as I don’t like using the word ‘regret’, I feel strongly enough on this one to use it. My one regret is not showing up UNAPOLOGETICALLY ME sooner in my life.” Anne Hellgren

We are so conditioned - FROM BIRTH- to feel, act, think, and be in a certain way. Sometimes this serves us so beautifully. Sometimes it hinders and hurts and even destroys us so fundamentally. 

The saddest thing, in my view, is that the conditioning goes on well beyond our childhood. You can form ideas of your worth and what is “wrong” with you or “acceptable” with you and etc based well after your childhood. 

I want to unpick these issues in this podcast. I want to discuss where we get our programming that forms us so we can question - IS THIS REALLY ME? 

When we do identify “it” is me - or at the least the version I want to be even if I’m not there yet, how can I stop believing that I need to be apologetic for being me? Not the programmed me - but the me that has perhaps gone against what the family, religion, culture, society and everyone’s damn expectations of me should look like and be like?

This is a deep one and will shake some feathers - within you and in your circle of people!!! You have been warned…BUT I PROMISE YOU…doing the work to show up unapologetically you is the BEST GIFT you will ever give yourself!! 

This episode is all about how you are navigating through your life, whether you are single or in a relationship. I want to challenge you during this episode to ask yourself if you actually have a plan for who you spend time with, how you spend time with them, and what you both bring to each other through that relationship.

“The relationship you’re in has the power to affect all other areas of your life.” - Anne Hellgren

A lot of the times when I think about relationships that really didn’t serve me or which I did not serve, it boils down to a couple of things, but the theme is - I had no clear intention and wasn’t living with purpose in that relationship! 

This is going to be a deep one, but stick with me! I’m about to give you some deep insights that you can learn and use in ALL areas of your life. If you’re single and want a relationship - this will help you get clarity on what kind of relationship would truly be suitable for you. 

If you’re already in a relationship, you will learn how to improve it so you can experience deeper and more honest connections with your partner. 

And if you are happily forever single, you can use what I share to create great non-romantic relationships. :-)

Talking points:

• Intention - do you know why you want to be in a relationship? Is that intention even yours or someone else's? Let’s get clarity here!
• Purpose - What are you looking to get out of that relationship? What is drawing you to get into a relationship? What are the short-term and long-term goals? How will it fulfill you and inspire you in other areas of your life?

In this episode, I am going to go deep and vulnerable about what I did to learn to love myself more. I did cause I know not doing it would keep me on a path of dysfunctional habits, thoughts and actions. I wanted more for myself and I hope this episode inspires you to think about what you are currently doing in your life that is stopping you from having the kind of relationship you want with yourself first - then others. As I always say, it starts with you!

Now I am able to proudly stand in my peace and truth of who I am and how I show up - even during the bad days - my self-love helps me endorse the tough moments and keeps me going. 

I talk about:

• Let go of other people's opinions
• Let go of negotiating my self-worth
• Let go of thinking self-love is selfish

In this episode I will be keeping it short, sweet and very real! I want to talk to you about how you need to learn to protect your peace in your relationships. Just because you are in a relationship, doesn’t mean that you are responsible for constant negative damping from your partner. It doesn’t mean that you should allow yourself to live in a constant state of drama caused by your partner. And sure as hell doesn’t mean that you are constantly responsible for managing their moods and healing all their wounds. 

“Don’t let other people’s unhealed trauma be your daily drama.” Anne Hellgren 

We each need to take responsibility for how we show up in our relationships. We are responsible for our happiness, emotional regulation and peace of mind. So that said, I encourage you to take charge of these factors and make sure that you evaluate if what you are getting from your relationship is growing you or draining you. Then make the decision to either change a draining relationship through seeking help, or changing the environment. Either way, the choice to protect your peace is on you- whichever way you choose to do so.

If you enjoyed this episode, could you do me a favour? Could you please LIKE, SUBSCRIBE AND RATE it? Also, being the kind person you are, who do you think you can share this with to protect their peace? 

I love to connect with my listeners, so if you are struggling with something in your relationship or struggling to find the kind of relationship you desire - I’m offering you a FREE 30 minute coaching call! A thank you for being a listener to this podcast and supporting it! 

In this episode, we delve into the topic of self-sabotage in relationships and share strategies to overcome this destructive pattern.

“Until you learn that unhealed trauma or fear is affecting your programming, you will continue to self-sabotage your relationships - consciously or subconsciously.” Anne Hellgren

Main Segment:

1. Understanding Self-Sabotage

• Explore the reasons behind self-sabotage in relationships.
• Discuss common patterns and behaviors that indicate self-sabotaging tendencies.
• Emphasize the importance of self-awareness in breaking free from this cycle.

2. Unearthing the Underlying Fears 

• Delve deeper into the fears and insecurities that drive self-sabotage.
• Reflect on past experiences and traumas that may contribute to these fears.
• Provide guidance on identifying and challenging negative beliefs to foster healthier relationship dynamics.

3. Embracing Vulnerability and Self-Compassion 

• Highlight the role of vulnerability in building meaningful connections.
• Discuss the importance of self-compassion and self-care as foundations for healthy relationships.
• Encourage open communication and honest expression of fears and emotions.

4. Seeking Support and Professional Help

• Explore the benefits of seeking support from trusted friends, family, or therapists.
• Discuss how external guidance can provide fresh perspectives and help navigate emotional challenges.
• Normalize the act of seeking help as a sign of strength and commitment to personal growth.

5. Practicing Patience and Celebrating Progress

• Emphasize the need for patience throughout the journey of overcoming self-sabotage.
• Encourage listeners to celebrate even small victories and acknowledge setbacks as part of the process.
• Provide motivation to keep moving forward and maintain a commitment to personal growth.

Conclusion:

• Remind listeners that self-sabotage can hinder the potential for healthy and fulfilling relationships.
• Encourage them to apply the strategies discussed to break free from self-sabotaging patterns.
• Remind Listeners that they can get a COMPLIMENTARY COACHING CALL with myself!

I was drawn to this topic following a conversation I had with a friend during the week. Most of today’s society will make us believe that monogamy is the standard way to exist in a romantic relationship and while I believe the vast majority favour it too, I am drawn to explore the topic of non-monogamy relationships. And why some people choose to have open and non-monogamous relationships.

"Love knows no bounds. Open relationships offer a path to redefine commitment and embrace limitless connections." Anne Hellgren

This episode explores the challenges and benefits of having more than one romantic partner at a time. And when and how it works and doesn’t work out. What rules need to be in place and when does it go from non-monogamous to cheating?

This week I share an interview where I was interviewed by Anthea McCourtie on her podcast ‘Action Women’.  I share my own experiences with domestic abuse and how I have broken the toxic and terrifying cycle of abuse suffered at the hands of past partners. I also share about my work and how I help others to gain and maintain meaningful, empowering relationships.

“Unless we have open and honest conversations about abuse, it will keep happening behind closed doors- just as the abuser would have it.” - Anne Hellgren

Some Key Points:

• People sometimes suffer domestic abuse in silence because they are afraid to talk about the things that matter. If we don't vocalise, then we cannot hope to heal effectively.

• Escaping domestic abuse is not an easy thing. Often we are so conditioned by the time it begins that our initial reaction to its appearance is a loss of hope and a feeling of being trapped.

• Cultures often dictate that women are meant to be subservient to their spouses. Submission is taught, and normalised. This needs to change.

• Change has to begin within ourselves if we want it to take root. Start by loving yourself, which will make abuse a crime against someone we come to care for.

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Today's episode focuses on building trust in relationships, the foundation for a deep and meaningful bond. In this episode, I will share some key elements of trust as well as strategies for building and maintaining trust.

"Trust is not just about faithfulness but also about being vulnerable and open with one another." - Unknown

Key Elements of Trust in a Relationship:

• Trust: comprises several core components: reliability, honesty, vulnerability, and integrity.
• Reliability: Being dependable and following through on commitments.
• Honesty: Open and transparent communication as the basis for trust.
• Vulnerability: Feeling safe to be authentic and share without fear of judgment.
• Integrity: Acting in alignment with personal values and being true to one's word.

Strategies for Building and Maintaining Trust:

• Effective Communication: Open and honest dialogue, active listening, and seeking to understand each other's perspectives.
• Setting Clear Boundaries: Respecting and honoring each other's boundaries to establish a safe space.
• Building Emotional Intimacy: Sharing vulnerable moments, thoughts, and feelings to deepen the emotional connection.
• Consistent Actions: Small gestures, acts of kindness, and keeping promises to build trust over time.
• Forgiveness: Allowing the healing process and restoration of trust after mistakes or misunderstandings.

Final Thoughts and Advice:

• Building trust is an ongoing effort that requires commitment from both partners.
• Patience, open communication, and seeking professional help if needed are crucial in rebuilding trust.
• Trust is a two-way street, necessitating vulnerability and a willingness to extend trust to your partner.

I am so honoured to be joined on this episode by Matt Fiddes! Matt is one of the most respected experts in the international world of martial arts and fitness.  Matt’s achievements have seen him honoured at the highest level, after being inducted into the UK Martial Arts Hall of Fame and presented with the prestigious ‘Martial Arts Superstar Award’. He is also the owner of the world's largest martial arts franchise!

“If you want your partner to understand and support you and your growth in business, take them with you when you go to business empowerment events!” Matt Fiddes

Matt has also been privileged to have been Micheal Jackson’s friend and bodyguard, where he learned a lot from a very exclusion circle of people. He is also a serial entrepreneur, mentor and a genuinely lovely human!

Nothing is off limits in our conversation and Matt is a dream guest who shares his truth unapologetically and honestly, even if they may be controversial! We talk about success, money, divorce, marriage, sex, and so much more!

I met Matt at an entrepreneurs & business event hosted by his friends Rob Moore and Jessen James, and I had the pleasure of sitting opposite him during dinner. His story on stage and our conversation during the dinner promoted me to have a deeper conversation about all his success, his first marriage, life with Michael Jackson as his friend, and his current marriage with his beautiful wife Moniqe Fiddes.

He shares extremely valuable insights on what it takes to make a great relationship, all while juggling the pressures and responsibilities of his global companies of worth over £100 million!

Matt is also my mentor and is very generous with giving back to others! Much sure you follow him on Instagram and join his MF.club! Links Below!

Being in a toxic relationship can cause significant mental health problems, such as emotional distress, depression, chronic stress, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder, amongst other issues. This episode will discuss some of the signs to look out for as a result of being in a relationship that is toxic. If you find yourself or someone you know experiencing the symptoms and going through the scenarios discussed in this episode, please seek out help as soon as possible. The longer one stays in such relationships the more damage is done. Also, please share it with others who you feel would benefit from the episode.

Please don’t forget to SIGN UP for my FREE WEBINAR on THIS EXACT TOPIC! 

I will be going deep with you for 60 minutes on how to identify toxic relationships, even those that may not be so obvious. I will show you how they are affecting you so you can make a very informed decision about your next steps and how to go about them. 

Please also share this webinar with those that need it! Let’s stop living a life that we were never created to live- and start coming into your true power and happiness!

I am joined by Anthea McCourtie, who is a registered nutritional therapist, yoga instructor, personal trainer, and Transformation coach. We discuss how our body image affects our self-confidence and how that goes on to affect all other areas of our lives, including our relationships. 

I was drawn to having Anthea on this podcast as her approach to increasing our confidence through our body image is something I feel we need to discuss more in a time where filters, social media, mainstream media, etc. tell us that we need to look a certain way. We discuss that instead of waiting to create the body you want before you truly start to love yourself, you should start by nurturing and working out your body first. Once you do this you will be able to understand just how amazing your body is, ditch the calorie counting, and create a healthy relationship with yourself - so you feed your body what it needs to thrive and look great too. And ultimately increase your self-confidence!

For those of you who know me or the podcast, you’ll know that my mission is to help as many people be empowered in themselves first, so they can be empowered in their relationships. This episode is going to share with you some things that you should never feel guilty about. Whether the guilt is coming from you, or others, and trust me, you will have experienced people trying these points on you! 

I hope this message inspires you to create a different and more empowered mindset and create inner peace within you. If you know someone who needs to hear this, please share. We have all been here at some point and you never know who really needed to hear it today! 

As promised in the podcast, here are the links to Trent Sheldon’s podcast link as well as Brendon Burchards’ Growthday app. I cannot recommend these enough!

While what one woman finds attractive in a  man can differ from person to person, here are a couple of things high-value women will be highly attracted to in a man. I found these to be true in my own experiences, my friends, and my clients.

• Clarity - Knowing who you are and where you are going and what you want.

• Confidence- We may not always rank high in this one, but the good news is, we can always work on our self-confidence. I have experienced through my work and personal life that men with very low self-confidence dating someone they consider “out of their league” doesn’t work out well. Unless of course, they work on their confidence. In an effort to feel better about being in a relationship with this person, can develop toxic habits like being controlling, very jealous, paranoid behavior, and even emotional abuse. Why? people who are not loving themselves will try to cut you down to their size so you don’t outshine them. 

• Connection- How you connect with her will go a long way. Are you in tune with what she likes and doesn’t like? Are you trying to really get to know her by having honest conversations? Are you attuned to how she wants to receive love, attention, and appreciation? 

• Stability- This is huge if you’re looking for a serious relationship. No one wants to feel unsure about where their life is headed and especially after you get to a certain age and want a serious relationship with the right person. If you cannot provide her stability by showing her that you serious through your actions and not just words, she will eventually wisen up to your tactics. 

• Financial Security- Some of you may not like this, but I’ll say it anyway. Most high-value women want a man who can provide for them and their future families. I am not talking about large bank deposits, but enough to know that life won’t be a constant struggle financially. After all, it is one of the highest reasons for divorces- YES Money!

• Attitude- Women may not want you to be positive 24/7 but for me, few things turn off faster than Mr. Gloom Doom. Women want to know that even through the hard times and the struggles, her man is still able to maintain a sense of leadership and a positive mindset that will help them through the tough times. I’m not saying fake it or don’t talk about your real fears and stresses, just TRY to be the captain of the ship in the midst of storm. 

I am joined by Isobel Gorden who is a trauma-sensitive therapist who talks about her experiences of being married to a narcissistic alcoholic. She shares how being in a relationship with a narcissist can influence your whole life. You will also learn that being in such relationships can be difficult to identify as narcissists are usually very good at manipulating and lying. They are also very clever at masking it until you are deep into the relationship. By this point, you are likely to have some sort of brainwashing and emotional abuse that causes you to doubt yourself and your decisions. You will also have probably been emotionally and psychologically beaten down so you find it hard to leave the relationship. 

While this episode is not about sharing some sort of diagnosis of what it means to be a narcissist, you will learn to identify some of the red flags. These flags shouldn’t be ignored as the deeper you get involved with such people the more damaged you are likely to become. The emotional scares that follow can hurt for years to come, and in many cases will affect your self-worth and confidence. Given the tactics used by narcissists, you may also find that your self-clarity has been affected. However, there is light at the end of the tunnel, and you can heal and move past the trauma. You will however need to be ready to leave that situation as healing cannot occur when you’re still in such a toxic environment.

All relationships will change over time, whether because we make a conscious effort to work towards growing together, or we don’t. When we do, it usually produces positive results as you are aware that you are going together even if it’s not in the same way. However, when growth occurs separately and in different directions, the results tend to be a separation from each other and the end of the relationship. Or in some cases, people exist in the relationship as flatmates or friends rather than a couple.

This episode will discuss how relationships change over time and will focus on the five below.

• External factors, health, finances, people

• Change in priorities

• Intimacy shifts

• Communication and Conflict 

• Increased Comfort 

While all the above is very unique to each couple, it’s important to remember that you can both make a conscious effort to work through each of these areas in a way that enhances the connection and love you aspire for. Too often people forget to treat their partner the way they did when they first started dating. While we cannot expect this constantly throughout the relationship, it’s important not to forget about dating your spouse, just because you’ve been together for a long period of time. 

Whether a relationship can work after cheating or not, is a very individual question and one that should not be made lightly. After all, there will be a lot of work and patience involved to rebuild the trust that has been broken. There will also be a lot of hurt, betrayal, anger, and disappointment to deal with. The thing to remember is though that a relationship can survive cheating, and many do in fact. However, both parties need to be completely committed to making it work. And more importantly, both must WANT it to work.  And whoever was unfaithful should under no circumstances try to pressure their partner to take them back. And rarely does this shady technique work out in the long term anyway.

So this episode I will share with you 5 factors I believe you want to focus on to help save your relationship if one or both of you have been unfaithful. 

• Authentic and undefensive apologizing. This means being honest about really being sorry for what one did- no space for blame projection here. One must fully acknowledge and take responsibility for the cheating.

• Understand why the cheating happened. You need to have an honest conversation around this, no matter how painful it might be for the other person to hear. Honesty and openness go far.

• Build up the trust again. No such thing as a good relationship without trust, so this must be rebuilt if the relationship is to have a chance.

• Patience is key - so don’t try to rush the healing process. That will only cause a further drift or deny one or both parties the time they really need to get to the other side of the hurt and trauma of it.

• Get outside help. Sometimes the reality is that it’s not possible to solve a problem that you’re too attached to. Get coaching, or therapy, individually or as a couple.

I often hear people say that they find it difficult to find or attract a partner. I respond by saying that finding a partner isn’t the real problem, finding the right one is. And by right one, I mean the right one for THEM. No one should settle for just having a partner just for the sake of it. In fact, I often believe that it can be damaging to be in a relationship with someone who is really unsuitable for you. 

So in order to avoid wasting our time, money, and resources in the wrong relationships, I ask you to look at these 5 factors when making a decision on who to date. If you are already in a relationship, you will find that this episode will encourage you to look at your relationship and see where it can be improved. You may, or may not, wish to work on your existing relationship, but either way, you will learn how to create a mindset that serves you and your future relationship/s at a higher level.

The following 5 key factors are discussed:

1. Clarity

2. Confidence 

3. Communication

4. Connection 

5. Changed Mindset 

As a lover of personal development, I want to share with you the 6- Minute Diary that has really helped me start and end my day with more focus and insight. We are constantly evolving and growing and a fantastic way of doing this is by taking the time to journal and reflect on our behaviours and thoughts. This dairy will definitely give you the daily insights to help you grow each day. 

The relationships we create and nurture are one of the most important aspects of our lives. Whether we consciously or subconsciously create and nurture them, I believe it is in our human nature to be connected to others. Time and again, we see people who seem to have it all on the surface but are deeply unhappy if they lack good relationships and connections with others. This episode will be focusing on the relationships we build outside our romantic relationships. We will discuss how other relationships can also affect us on much deeper levels than we realize.

Sophie Watson joins me on today’s episode. She is a soul coach specializing in helping people who are feeling lost and would like to gain direction when they are making a transition in their life. She uses her ability to communicate with spirits and be highly empathic to help people tune into their intuition and energy.

Sophie shares the complex relationship she had with her sister since her teen years and onto their adulthood. Her very honest and open conversation is something I believe many people can identify with, unfortunately. However, in Sophie and her sister’s case, the relationship could not be saved. Listen in for signs that you may be in a toxic relationship with a family member or even a friend.

We discuss how at some point, no matter who the toxic relationship is with, one must learn to protect their mental health and detach from it. While we cannot choose our family, we can choose what we tolerate from them. 

In Episode 39, I shared my first 5 things to think about to establish if you are in the right relationship for YOU. I share these points with the hope that you take time to honestly evaluate your relationship and how you are experiencing it. We know that who we are in a relationship with affects so many areas of our lives. It affects our emotional, physical, financial, and mental health. And it also affects how we show up in our careers, parenting, business, friendships, and much more. 

On this week's episode, Part 2 looks at the following points in further detail: 

• Are your instincts, reasoning, emotions, or body telling you it’s not the person? You need to listen in.

• Are making the decision to be in the relationship out of fear? Fear of loss, disappointment, failure, loneliness, or other disempowering reasons?

• Are you being led away from your spirituality, morals, values, ethics, and who you truly are or want to be?

• Do you feel that they don’t meet your standards?

•  Are they emotional fillers or emotional drainers?

These questions can sometimes be really difficult to honestly examine as they can bring up some unwanted or challenging truths that we’re not ready to face. However, imagine how much time you have already wasted. How much money, heartache, resources, opportunities, and happiness has already passed you by because of your relationship? Do you really want to continue like this any longer? How much more are you willing to lose before doing something about it? 

My hope is to inspire people to live the most fulfilled, joyful, successful, and empowered life they possibly can by getting their relationships right. So as you listen in, keep in mind how much you have already lost and how much more you are willing to lose before taking action.

Have you ever felt like a victim of circumstances, unable to overcome adversity and reclaim control over your life? It's a common experience, but it doesn't have to define your future. 

By discovering your purpose, you can rise from victimhood to become a survivor who is empowered to create the life you want. Finding your purpose is a process that involves self-discovery, reflection, and action. It's not a one-time event but an ongoing journey that evolves as you grow and change.

Healing from childhood trauma is an essential step to finding your way back to yourself. It's a process that requires self-reflection. As you work through your traumas, you'll discover a renewed sense of self, purpose, and empowerment. You'll be able to reclaim your life and create a future that's guided by your own values. Hence, it is important to remember:

• The importance of looking back to our childhood and identifying old patterns and habits.

• What is hidden behind every victim's story?

• How being of service to others can lead to the discovery of one’s purpose.

• The result of not being in alignment with your purpose.

• How one can rise from being a victim to a survivor.

• Why deciding to make a change can only start from within.

• What our relationships are teaching us about ourselves.

This episode holds tremendous value for those grappling with past traumas or trying to break free from toxic relationships. Caroline and I will be your guide as we delve into the process of healing and rediscovering your true self.

If you have ever been in a relationship, I bet this question has crossed your mind in at least one of those relationships. The question may have been different, but you are ultimately questioning whether that person is who you want to be with. In this episode, I share 5 of the 10 points you may want to consider when making this decision. I will share the following 5 points in next week’s episode 40, so be sure to tune back in!

In this episode, I will take you through the following points that you should consider when making a decision about your current or future partners.

• Are your core values the same or very different?
• Are you experiencing healthy or unhealthy and/or toxic conflict?
• Are you consistently struggling to trust them? And this based on their actions or your own old patterns of mistrust?
• Are you being held back from being the best version of yourself?
• Are there red flags that you are ignoring or in denial of in your relationship?

I dig deeper into these questions and give you real food for thought to help you make informed decisions about whether you are in the right relationship for you.

In this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking to Kieron Achara OLY MBE, who is a Former pro basketball player, 2012 Olympic athlete, and 2018 Commonwealth Games athlete. Kieron is now working as Non-Executive Director at OneRen, a British Basketball Analyst at Buzz 16 Productions, a Sports Development Executive at Frog Systems Ltd, and an Athlete Mentor and Associate at Switch The Play. He is also passionate about diversity, inclusion, positive mental health, and helping others reach their full potential.

Kieron shares his story on what is what like to play basketball at a professional level and represent Scotland and Great Britain at national team level. He speaks about how his experience of working as team taught him valuable lessons around creating and maintaining relationships, the downsides of his nomadic life and the impact it had on his relationships.

These experiences have led him to become a better communicator, seek clarity on what is important, why it is important and how to compromise. He shares very valuable insights on how we can use communication, self-awareness, and clarity in our relationships to create the kind of relationships that we desire for ourselves.

His views on the importance of working as a team in his relationship with his wife will be a game-changer for many! Rather than speaking about what he and his wife want to achieve as individuals only, he uses the term “we” to describe the shared goals and desires for their relationship- creating a “Team Achara” attitude that serves him, his wife, and 2 children.

Listen in to this conversation to get amazing insights into how creating a “we” mentality in your relationship can create whatever you want for you and your partner!

We also talk about mental health and the importance of speaking out and seeking help when needed. In a culture that stigmatizes men for speaking up about their mental and emotional struggles, it is a much-needed conversation.

As humans, we are created to be social beings who rely on others for our existence, happiness, fulfillment, purpose, and even survival. This is a fact that we know to be true from the moment we are born to our dying days.

However, today’s society has installed a mentality that we need to rely on ourselves to achieve our goals in our careers, businesses, relationships, and all other aspects. The thought of being dependent on others for our well-being is also frowned upon and seen as a weakness. However, I believe that this mentality can be extremely damaging to us if applied in the wrong areas of our lives.

There are many reasons why we have abandoned ‘living in a village’ mentally to ‘each one for their own’ mentally. I discuss these in this episode and uncover some dangerous lies we have come to accept as a way of living.

I also share with you how you can stop buying into the Do-Everything-Myself syndrome that is doing more harm than good. Instead, I inspire you to seek deeper connections, reach out when needed, be more compassionate and caring, and seek wisdom from those who can teach us. After all, are we still not reading and praising the wisdom and learnings from those who have come before us?

Reach out to me on my email if you are struggling with issues in your relationship. I’m happy to provide a 30-minute free consultation as a thank you for being a listener!

In all relationships, there are moments when you get into arguments with your partner and you just can’t seem to see their side of things. Or perhaps you do, but your ego or pride won’t let you admit that you may just be wrong on this one. So then the arguments continue and if you’re lucky, you may choose to agree to disagree, if that is an option.

On today's episode, I want to address how and when we pick our battles in a relationship. I invite you to ask yourself if that is really a warranted argument. Or are we just picking arguments for the sake of it? Or perhaps blowing things out of proportion and letting things escalate well beyond needed? And also, how and where are you choosing to have these arguments?

I will share 7 points with you on how to discern how and when to pick your battles so you can avoid unnecessary arguments in your relationship while maintaining a healthy dynamic.

Remember that every relationship is unique and what works for one couple may not work for another. The key is to approach conflict with a mindset of collaboration and mutual respect in order to maintain a healthy and strong relationship.

Reach out to me on my email if you are struggling with issues in your relationship. I’m happy to provide a 30-minute free consultation as a thank you for being a listener!

I’m joined by Marta Hyder, the Founder of ‘Goddess Thing’ and an amazingly creative artist. Join us in this episode as we explore how general trauma affects us as individuals and in our relationships. We also look at how we develop certain habits and expectations based on what we experienced growing up and how they then affect our overall interactions with others and our self-talk.

We also look at our social, religious, cultural, and other influential conditioning factors that have an effect on us, for better or worse. Though we have different backgrounds and come from different cultures, we both come from cultures that have a huge impact on how we are expected to behave. This brings us to a conversation that we are both very passionate about. That is, how our generational and current conditioning and trauma affect our perceptions of what it means to be masculine and feminine. We answer the questions:

• What does it really mean to be masculine and feminine and why is it important to distinguish these terms in a relationship, if at all?
• What effects it has on Marta and me, identifying as female, and on our partners, who identify as male?

This episode looks at the kind of relationships we create outside our romantic ones and the effects they can have on us. This can be positive or negative and can affect us emotionally, mentally, financially, spiritually, and physically. Many times we go through life without taking the time to think about the effects and influence certain people have on us. When we live without questioning their impact on us, we can be easily influenced into thinking or behaving in an undesired way.

My intention for this episode is to inspire you to consciously and intentionally ask yourself what influence your close circle of friends and family has on you. Do they uplift you, support you, and enhance your overall growth? Or are they the loud or silent voices that keep you playing small and toxic games? This episode welcomes you to look at your circle of friends and family closer with the aim of making wiser decisions about the amount of time, energy, effort, money, and love you invest in them!

And if you are planning to positively improve your personal life, your career, business, health, and finances, remember, your net worth is a reflection of your network! Choose intentionally and wisely!

In this episode, I’m joined by Kate McCosh, a Confidence Coach specializing in helping new entrepreneurs work through their fears and self-limiting beliefs with the aim of building up her client's confidence.

We discuss the importance of creating a relationship on our terms instead of looking to others to define what that should be like for us. We also break down some social norms, expectations, and beliefs that can actually harm us when it comes to our relationships- single or not.

We also discuss how our self-confidence affects our decisions in our relationships and other areas of our lives. We also look at what other influences and pre-programmed norms we have acquired through various means affect our confidence and ability to choose what really works for us.

Kate and I share our stories in a very honest way with the aim to help others gain insights about their own lives. We also talk about social pressures put on us to have a relationship, marriage, children, and other milestones, both consciously and subconsciously.

After being married to her husband for 19 years, Kate also shares what she thinks has held them together and happy for so long. We also talk about the 5 love languages and what else we can do in our relationships to make sure that we are creating the most loving relationship possible.

Kate is launching a 6-week Group Coaching program for stressed, overthinking women who want to learn how to feel calmer, happier, and more in control. Click the link below to find out more and sign up now.

It’s fair to say that we have all come across a situation where we saw or felt that something wasn’t right, or it was even horribly wrong but ignored our thinking and feelings. This episode explores how to identify the red flags in your relationships and in your partners or potential ones, and why you need to get away from those situations and people sooner rather than later!

As usual, I bring up examples of my own experiences in an effort to help others realize that they are not alone in what they may be experiencing. And even more important to help others realize that there is a better way of navigating through life than what we may be currently experiencing.

I have had my share of red flags that I have ignored. And unsurprisingly, I wish I hadn’t and trusted my intuition, but only when I had lost something significant like my efforts, resources, money, and most valuably - my time!

• Do you have negative nagging feelings or thoughts that keep you up night after night? Or disturb your emotional or mental peace throughout the day?
• Are you ignoring someone’s toxic behavior in the hope that YOU will be able to change them?
• Is someone doing one thing while verbally promising you another time and again?
• Do you often feel a lack of respect, trust, and safety in your relationship?

If you or anyone you know may be experiencing red flags in your relationships, but are unsure if they are or what to do, please listen to this episode! It could be the game changer that you’ve been waiting for!

Klementina Karol is a Deep Transformation Coach, Holistic Sustainability Consultant, and a Collective Visionary, working with leaders who are committed to Lead, Live, & Love consciously. Her mission is to connect the dots between collective sustainability and the deep connection to self. She's inspired to work with leaders who want to do good at a scale, and are also willing to transform internally, so they can create in true alignment with self and source.

In this episode, we talk about doing the inner work that is needed to create the kind of mindset and life that we desire. We also speak about limiting beliefs and past trauma and the effects they have on our relationships and dating partners and decisions. We also take on a holistic view of how we can make more informed decisions as well as empower ourselves, in all areas of our lives.

If you feel you have been affected by any of the topics discussed, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. I would love to offer you a FREE 30-minute private coaching session with me.

Email me at anne@annehellgren.com to schedule an appointment.

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Joined by Owen Nwanebu, a certified executive and conversational intelligence coach, and one of the few persons certified to administer social and emotional intelligence profile (SEIP). Owen teaches people how to transform their lives and relationships with emotional intelligence skills. He guides people through the simple yet powerful process of self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management to help people achieve life-changing results.

This week I’m joined by Lisa Murphy, Healthy Aging Expert who’s been running her own business since 2013. She helps middle-aged women live longer, healthier, and more delicious lives while having more fun! She empowers them with my signature RAV protocol, so they can age healthfully, like I have learned how to do, in order to remain relevant, active, and vibrant (RAV).

Lisa left her lucrative corporate gig to travel the world after getting married. She studied Eastern philosophy and taught yoga to members of the royal family in Dubai. She later got divorced and instinctively she thought her world fell apart— that later changed! At the age of 47 she reinvented herself and now at 56 years young, her world is bigger and brighter than ever!

Lisa and I talk about:

• Divorce and the effects of it when it happens later in life.
• Losing our identities in relationships and how we go about re-discovering ourselves outside the tags of wife, mother, partner, etc.
• Staying in relationships that we should have left sooner.
• How generations and culture affect our dating habits and expectations of a relationship.
• Being independent while still appreciating factors in a relationship that now seem to be seen as outdated.
• How our happiness is directly related to our health and chronic loneliness and isolation can be deadly for our health.

If you feel you have been affected by any of the topics discussed, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me. I would love to offer you a FREE 30-minute private coaching session with me.

Let your 2023 start and continue with the best version of you possible. Email me at anne@annehellgren.com to schedule an appointment.

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I’m delighted to be joined by Maz Ifzal who is a passionate and committed Public Speaking and Communication skills expert. Having acquired her experience working for some of the highest-profile financial institutions, she has intelligently transitioned her skill set to become an industry-leading expert in her field.

We have all heard that without good communication, a relationship is doomed to fail. Maz and I discuss what is meant by great communication, how to have it in your relationships, and where people go wrong with it in romantic relationships.

We also discuss the importance of self-love and why making sure you fill your cup first is essential for your own happiness and those around you. This can be especially important in a society that has taught us to put everyone’s needs ahead of our own. We see this happening often in certain cultures and also more so in women who are raised to be natural carers, rightfully or wrongly so.

Mental health is also a passionate topic for both of us and so we look at how we can all be doing more to ensure that we all get the help we need, as soon as we need it. Again, we discuss why certain cultures, upbrings, and gender can influence if they seek out mental help when needed. In this case, we see less men seeking help, but fortunately, there is a change for the better in recent years, but much more work is still needed.

In this first part of a two-part episode, I am joined by someone I consider to have one of the most beautiful souls and kindest hearts I’ve ever met. I have the pleasure of speaking with Sasha Gardner, who is a personal trainer and lover of personal development. She is also a previous client of mine and who I now also have the privilege of calling a dear friend.

Sasha shares her personal stories in a very candid and vulnerable way about why she reached out to me as a relationship coach. 

We then go on to talk about the following:

1. Why putting your mental health as a priority is essential!
2. There is a difference in the kind of help you seek when you feel you need help.
3. The importance of being able to work on yourself on a constant basis
4. How self-love helps you get the kind of relationship you desire- with yourself first- then with others.
5. How we have to be active participants in our own mental, emotional, and physical growth, and empowerment.

The second part of this interview will be published on the 22nd of December 2022. So don’t forget to subscribe to the podcast to get a notification when it has been released!