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The Maven's Private Diaries

The Maven's Private Diaries

By Susan Jarvis, The Maven

Through sharing stories, knowledge and personal experiences, The Maven leads the listener on an informative, evocative and sometimes hilarious journey towards embracing sexuality and mortality.
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The Maven's Private DiariesJun 26, 2019

Let's Talk About Sex with Nathalie Mills

Let's Talk About Sex with Nathalie Mills

Let's Talk About Sex and Consent

The very first time I heard Nathalie Mills speak was when I watched SBS Insight in May 2023 (episode 10). Nathalie was one of the guests talking about sex and consent and I was captivated by her energy and attitude towards sex and sexuality. I give my thanks to the producers of the show who put me in touch with Nathalie because I feel I have met a soul sister.

Nathalie is French-Canadian, grew up in Haiti, was schooled by nuns, and received no sex education. Nathalie works as a nurse and runs her own clinic specialising in lymphodema therapy, Complex Decongestive Therapy and personal coaching. Nathalie has also commenced her journey learning the art of yoni repatterning and I cannot wait to learn more about this from Nathalie.

If you want to connect with Nathalie you can reach out via her website and Facebook.

I hope you enjoy this conversation! Please let me know your thoughts as well as liking and sharing this podcast amongst your network.

With lush regards,

Susan The Maven


May 22, 202351:04
Amanda Kate is a Divine, Messy, Human and so are you.

Amanda Kate is a Divine, Messy, Human and so are you.

A warning about today’s conversation: domestic violence and strong language.

Today’s guest is Amanda Kate, a Kinesiologist, Mentor, Mother and more.  Author of 'Divine. Messy. Human. A Spiritual Guide to Prioritising Internal Truth over External Influence', Amanda released the book with the information, tips and practices that have helped her move from self-loathing to self-acceptance, self-love and self-empowerment. 

A recovering people-pleaser and self-flagellator, she walks the path straddling the Divine and Messy daily. Always growing, developing and learning new ways of being to, hopefully, one day leave the Earth better than she found it. 

Amanda Kate helps people to regain their vitality, smashing through their internal glass ceiling and limitations to find new levels of health, vitality and abundance. She also works with business owners to increase their vibration and attract greater wealth and prosperity. 

We explore the power of owning that special word C*NT and I offer myself to Amanda to perform publicly a kinesiology reading on me so that others can learn what a session is like.

We also talk about Amanda’s experience with domestic violence. Knowing that this podcast is listened to by people all over the world, If this episode raises any issues for you, please contact a support agency, relative, friend or call your emergency number. 



Wherever you are in the World, please share, like and review this episode!

May 15, 202349:26
A conversation with a male sex worker, Samuel Hunter.

A conversation with a male sex worker, Samuel Hunter.

Welcome to the Maven’s Private Diaries. My guest today is Samuel Hunter who I met during the recording of my appearance on SBS Insight talking about Midlife Sexual Awakenings. Samuel was there to discuss his experience as a sex worker. 

Samuel has had a varied working life. He’s been a mower man, a videographer, specialist salesman in the mining industry and before COVID experienced a moment that changed his life. Samuel made the ultimate career switch and became a sex worker. 

In our chat we explored sex and disability, emotional celibacy, female orgasm, movies to watch, and surprisingly, Samuel’s own personal experience of body shaming and how he feels about his ‘dad bod’.

Samuel is certainly not a ‘dial-a-dick’ sex worker and is someone I would recommend to women who need a safe space to explore and reconnect with their sexuality. 

I admire Samuel greatly. Make sure you explore his website and the links to recommended viewing.

I hope you enjoy this special chat. I certainly did.



Documentary and Movies to watch:

  • How to Please a Woman 
  • Good Luck to you, Leo Grande (starring Emma Thompson)
  • - Impassioned about freedom of sexual expression, sex worker Rachel Wotton has become highly specialised in working with clients with disability.

May 02, 202348:09
Meet Marci Warhaft, The Good Stripper | Resiliency Coach and Body Image Advocate

Meet Marci Warhaft, The Good Stripper | Resiliency Coach and Body Image Advocate

Welcome to The Maven's Private Diaries, where we chat with extraordinary individuals about sex, death and disability. 

Today's special guest is Marci Warhaft, author of the memoir, 'The Good Stripper: A Soccer Mom's Memoir of Lies, Loss and Lap Dances’. Marci is also a resiliency coach and body image advocate who provides coaching to help individuals develop skills needed to thrive in today's world. Marci is also the host of the podcast, How to Ruin Your Own Reputation which has also featured our Maven, Susan Jarvis.

"After spending years battling a severe eating disorder as a result of a multitude of traumas and low self-worth, I found the strength to regain my health and reclaim my life. Before my recovery, I allowed the shame I carried from a difficult past keep me from living my life freely. I lived in fear of being judged and never felt that who I was could ever be enough. I was wrong. Once I made the decision to make the changes necessary to be happy, I was finally able to enjoy my life in ways I never could have imagined."

We really don’t want to give away any spoilers other than to say that we are sure that you will enjoy this chat between two women over 50 about life, sex and pleasure!

We’d love to hear your feedback:

Find out more about Marci:

Instagram: @marciwarhaft

Facebook: @fitvsfiction

Podcast How to Ruin Your Own Reputation:

Jan 30, 202341:49
Candice Care-Unger answers: Can you still have sex after acquiring a disability?

Candice Care-Unger answers: Can you still have sex after acquiring a disability?

Today, we have an inspiring guest, Candice Care-Unger, the founder of Care Rehab. Candice is a passionate advocate for people with disabilities and she is here to share her story and talk about the importance of sexual rehabilitation for people with acquired disabilities.

This inspired her to start her own organization, Care Rehab, which is dedicated to helping people with disabilities reclaim their sexual lives. Candice's organization provides information, training,  support and counseling for people with disabilities, and their partners, to help them overcome the physical and emotional challenges that can arise after an injury or illness.

Through her work, Candice has helped countless individuals with disabilities to understand that having an acquired disability does not mean the end of their sex life. Instead, it is a new opportunity to explore new ways of intimacy, pleasure and connection.

Visit the Care Rehab website for updates on educational resources such as ‘Talking to your child about sex after spinal cord injury’ and ‘Talking about Sex in Disability - how to bring it up and then what?’

Book mentioned by Candice about neuroplasticity to rewire our brains: 

The Brain That Changes Itself by Norman Doidge, MD

An astonishing new scientific discovery called neuroplasticity is overthrowing the centuries-old notion that the adult human brain is fixed and unchanging. It is, instead, able to change its own structure and function, even into old age.

Psychiatrist and researcher Norman Doidge, MD, travelled around the United States to meet the brilliant scientists championing neuroplasticity, and the people whose lives they've transformed - people whose mental limitations or brain damage were previously seen as unalterable, and whose conditions had long been dismissed as hopeless.

We see a woman born with half a brain that rewired itself to work as a whole; a woman labeled retarded who cured her deficits with brain exercises and now cures those of others; blind people who learn to see; learning disorders cured; IQs raised; ageing brains rejuvenated; stroke patients recovering their faculties; children with cerebral palsy learning to move more gracefully; entrenched depression and anxiety disappearing; and lifelong character traits changed.

Doidge takes us onto terrain that might seem fantastic. We learn that our thoughts can switch our genes on and off, altering our brain anatomy. We learn how people of average intelligence can, with brain exercises, improve their cognition and perception, develop muscle strength, or learn to play a musical instrument - simply by imagining doing so.

Using personal stories from the heart of this neuroplasticity revolution, Dr Doidge has written an immensely moving, inspiring book that will permanently alter the way we look at our brains, human nature, and human potential.
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Jan 16, 202328:46
Meet Kate Toon, the sexiest copywriter in the world!

Meet Kate Toon, the sexiest copywriter in the world!

**Warning:  You might need a lie down after this episode.  ⁠

From learning how to roller skate to learning how to give a blow job, you will LOVE this chat with Kate Toon!⁠

⁠I'm not going to give away too much about this chat other than to say you will be captivated and you will chuckle throughout.  If you don't, please let me know why this chat didn't float your boat!⁠

Recommended reading and viewing: 

Forever by Judy Blume

Sex In The City (the original series)

Dec 14, 202254:50
The Five Traits of the Deeply Satisfied Woman with coach, Nicole Stewart
Nov 18, 202238:19
Silver Sirens Redefining Ageing with Faith Agugu

Silver Sirens Redefining Ageing with Faith Agugu

This podcast episode has a poll and a question for you to answer. We hope that you will give us, and our listeners, some insight. Responses are anonymous but our Maven will gladly share her responses when the poll closes.

  • Have you ever faked an orgasm?
  • What changes are you making in your life as you age?

Faith Agugu is an Australian leader in the global positive ageing movement, which seeks to champion 50+ women and re-define how they approach ageing.

As a mental health professional and founder of the Silver Sirens annual event and online resources, Faith is well-positioned to help women live their best life after 50.

Who are Silver Sirens? 

They are women 50+.

■ They are undergoing major life changes and making challenging life

choices to create the life they want to live.

■ Some are choosing more autonomy to fulfill their potential beyond the traditional roles of wives, mothers,

and grandmothers.

■ Others have independent children, giving them more time to focus on exploring their own dreams and desires.

■ Many are choosing to remain single and live alone.

■ Each woman has in common the desire to explore her agency and the opportunity to fulfill her full potential.

■ Their priority used to be taking care of others; now they seek to focus on their own development and potential.

Follow for events and resources to help you discover your potential.

Sep 07, 202220:45
The Big Boobie Bash with Georgia Lashman

The Big Boobie Bash with Georgia Lashman

The fabulous Georgia Lashman aka Confessions of a G Cup on Instagram is our next guest!

Georgia founded a body positivity event called The Big Boobie Bash and has a mission to show women, of all shapes and sizes, that they are indeed beautiful just as they are.

Through Georgia's event, I was fortunate to meet and interview two of her guests, Ellie Sedgwick (500 Vulvas) and Mya Dia Monte (The Power of Burlesque), make sure you check those episodes out as well!

May 16, 202223:44
The Power of Burlesque

The Power of Burlesque

I have been an admirer of burlesque for many years and is something that I have wanted to try. I was fortunate to meet Mya Dia Monte at an event and I am delighted that Mya has agreed to chat with me on The Maven's Private Diaries.

We covered many topics such as breast cancer awareness, pap smears, body positivity, confidence and even water yoga!

You will have to listen to the episode for all the details! 

These are the links to the topics we chatted about.

Mya's dress:

The Big Boobie Bash, hosted by Georgia Lashman (soon to be on The Maven's Private Diaries as well!) 

IG: @confessions_of_a_gcup

Jacqueline Furey, burlesque performer: IG @jacqueline_furey

Water yoga with Anne Noonan, the Silver Yogi:

Do you have a question you would like answered by myself and Mya?  Send it through to: 

Remember to abide by manners.

Apr 14, 202223:28
After 500 Vulvas, Ellie Sedgwick is comfortable in your skin

After 500 Vulvas, Ellie Sedgwick is comfortable in your skin

I met Ellie Sedgwick at The Big Boobie Bash hosted by Georgia Lashman aka Confessions of a G Cup on Instagram. 

I was quite taken by Ellie's story of vulval dysmorphia which appears to be have been triggered by an ignorant teenage boy at high school when he slipped her a note asking 'Are you an innie or an outtie?'.  Since that moment, Ellie felt shame about her vulva and even went to see a plastic surgeon to have it changed. Thankfully, the surgeon had ethical values and talked Ellie around to thinking differently about why she wanted a labioplasty. 

Today, Ellie is on a mission to educate all women about their vulva and to embrace the beauty and power of our bodies, just as they are.

Ellie is driving around Australia to photograph 500 vulvas of women from all ages and walks of life. Her plan is to create a coffee table book called 'Flip Through My Flaps' so that women everywhere can see just how varied and beautiful vulvas are.

For more information about Ellie's journey and to perhaps sign up as a vulva model, visit Ellie's website:

Instagram: @comfortableinmyskin_

Feb 27, 202224:50
Retirement can and should be the best time of your life!
Jan 17, 202224:03
Midlife Shaming with Tracy Minnoch (Sexy Ageing)

Midlife Shaming with Tracy Minnoch (Sexy Ageing)


Tracy Minnoch-Nuku, is the founder of Sexy Ageing. I asked Tracy to join me in a conversation about midlife shaming because I had never heard of it and was quite shocked to learn that some women are shamed by others for how they choose to manage their menopause journey.  

Tracy’s goal is to create a community and information space for women who have questions and can’t find the answers to the effects that hormonal changes have on you. Tracey readily admits that she is NOT a doctor or an expert on hormonal health BUT knows people who are, and she connects people to those resources.  Tracy also hosts a podcast of the same name, Sexy Ageing, and speaks with incredibly inspirational women who are experiencing the changes, happy to share, and making their dreams come true into their 50’s and beyond. On the podcast you will find an incredible panel of speakers (me included!), please follow the links below: Instagram: @sexyageing  

What is your menopause journey? Are you choosing to ride it out au natural because you don’t know what support is available or you’ve decided to go down the path of HRT? At the time of this podcast, I am not on HRT and only because myself and my GP feel I don’t need it at this stage. I have experienced a stage of intense brain fog where I couldn’t remember things, my concentration was poor and I felt out of kilter. My blood results picked up my thyroid was underactive and I have commenced medication which had an almost instant effect. I continue to monitor my menopause journey and feel fortunate that I have a very supportive and progressive GP (and a wonderful supportive partner). If you’re not feeling supported by your GP, I urge you to speak up to them and if needed, find yourself a new one.  

Thanks for tuning in!  Please like and share the love.

All the best, Susan, The Maven

Dec 13, 202129:00
Erotica! The Intertwined Love Trilogy with author, Sandra Carmel

Erotica! The Intertwined Love Trilogy with author, Sandra Carmel

By day, Sandra Carmel is an Occupational Therapist who specialises in sex and disability and by night, Sandra pens erotica.

I chat with Sandra about why she chooses to write erotica involving characters living with disability.  It's not inspo-porn or devotism (people who have a fetish for people with a disability), Sandra's experience is informed by real-life experiences (her husband mobilises using a wheelchair) and is powered by her mission to inject the reality of life with disability into erotica and show the world that people with disability are sexual beings.

Book 2, Game for Intimacy, involves Brody, an online gamer who meets his cyber lover in real life and Sandra weaves his fantasy into real life, throbbing passion oh so artfully! We talk about the complexities of meeting someone for the first time and disclosing your disability, navigating the first kiss and more.

"While playing a sexy virtual reality game, Brody, a mobility-challenged, gamer whiz makes an unlikely connection with Beth, the woman of his dreams. Although way out of his league, she seems to like him—really like him.  As they become more intimate, he learns her perfect façade hides demons deeper than his physical insecurities, which puts a huge strain on their relationship. Can he help her break through her defensive walls and create an everlasting love?"

Sandra's next planned works will focus on a man with disability who is into BDSM and is a Dom.

If you would like to read more, follow the links:

Book 1, Last Hope:

Book 2 Game for Intimacy:

Book 3 Dance of Love:

You can find Sandra on Instagram: @sandracarmel_author

and Facebook: @SandraCarmelAuthor

Dec 05, 202129:33
Maureen Matthews, Retired Purveyor of Pleasure Products
Jul 19, 202140:33
Sandy Lowres, founder of Women Beyond 40 magazine for those that dare!

Sandy Lowres, founder of Women Beyond 40 magazine for those that dare!

You know the old saying 'if you want something done properly do it yourself'? Well, my next guest, Sandy Lowres, took that to the next level. When Sandy couldn't find a woman's magazine that she actually wanted to read she decided to create one and so Women Beyond 40 was born.

"Women Beyond Forty is more than a magazine, more than a Podcast, more than a website.  It is a philosophy that all women beyond forty have incredible hard-won wisdom and have much to offer the world. We want to build a community of like-minded women. Women who want to see more empathy and compassion in the world. Women that want to see other women in the sisterhood rise. Women who want to help make the world we live in a better place for future generations. We aim to make this an inclusive and diverse space and in collaborating with a wide range of women – both those who tell their stories and those that share with us through their writing, editing and creative skills – we hope that others will be encouraged to share of themselves too. We acknowledge that without the generosity, support, love and advice of many women, WB40 would not have been launched."

In my chat with Sandy, we talk about the magazine, attitudes towards sex by older women, ageism, owning our sexuality, giving oneself permission to explore sexuality, going to a sex party, getting flogged by fire and more...

Generally, we have a heart-to-heart conversation. We're not solving the problems of the world, but I certainly hope that listening to our conversation inspires you to seek out the Women Beyond 40 magazine and become involved in some way and perhaps even share your story.

In Issue 4, I have shared my personal story of living with an STI and how I felt all of my hopes for the future were crushed. To know more about that, well, you can subscribe to all issues either by a digital download or hard copy (my preference) or purchase issues individually.

Jul 12, 202128:56
Talking about Menopause: the big dry with Sandy Davies, founder of HappyPause balm

Talking about Menopause: the big dry with Sandy Davies, founder of HappyPause balm

We are always on the lookout for products that will enhance the lives of our customers and we are excited to discover an Australian-designed, vegan product that can help to ease vaginal and vulval dryness – HappyPause balm, made in tropical Far North Queensland!  We are delighted that the founder, Sandy Davies, has selected The Spicy Boudoir as a stockist and advocate for wellness during menopause.

Vaginal atrophy and vaginal dryness, along with the associated discomfort, impacts millions of women.  Sometimes the discomfort can be a mild irritating feeling when your skin rubs together; other times it can feel like sandpaper grating.  You might only feel occasional discomfort at the start of intercourse or battle recurring UTIs.  Vaginal dryness impacts each of us in different ways.

Numbing vaginal itch wipes mask the problem, but when the treatment wears off itching returns with a vengeance even more severe due to skin irritation heightened by harsh ingredients.

HappyPause is gentle and eases discomfort.  The blend of the really good stuff, such as ethically sourced Direct Micro Expelled hand-pressed coconut oil, with additional plant-derived natural ingredients to seal in moisture, means that your vulval area is soothed with no preservatives or nasties.

Most products on the market are geared towards lubrication which can lead to having 'goop' in your panties and needing to wear a panty liner. Other products can require a prescription from your GP whereas HappyPause is available easily, over the counter, feels great, and has a lasting effect with no icky residue.

So, find your 'sexy' again and get back to living a lush life! Finding a solution to ease the intimate itch that tags along with menopause could be the break you need to confidently shout “I’ve got this!” to the rest of your menopausal woes.


  • Certified organic cocos Nucifera, cetyl alcohol, glycerol, no preservatives.
  • Store in a cool, dry place.
  • For external use. If irritation occurs, discontinue use.
  • Made in tropical Far North Queensland.

HappyPause is not about making menopause disappear, it is about easing vaginal dryness to help you get your groove back. Listen to Sandy talk about her painful experience using pessaries to overcome dryness and how she decided to take the health of her vulva and overall wellbeing into her own hands.

If your symptoms please see your GP for an assessment, not all irritations are related to menopause.

Mar 15, 202127:59
There's more to our beauty than botox and dermal fillers!

There's more to our beauty than botox and dermal fillers!

I truly believe that how we feel about ourselves impacts on our sexual confidence and that's why I was very interested in reading Beautiful Unique Faces. I also wanted to understand why women (particularly people in reality TV shows), decide to have their lips and cheeks overdone. I just don't get it!  The book does explain this to me and now I feel compassion for those women.

This episode is for everyone and anyone. Particularly those who are considering having cosmetic procedures such as botox and dermal fillers. 

I had the good fortune to speak with Anita East, author of Beautiful Unique Faces. Anita is a professional actress turned nurse practitioner in the cosmetic medicine industry. In this episode, we touch on multiple topics that Anita covers in her book.

  • Oxytocin is troll bait
  • Strategies to change your mindset and tap into your inner power of practice, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
  • Princesses and Queens
  • The secret knowledge that lives within us, that we can only find when we stop paying attention to external factors.
  • 'Earn the right to sing'
  • Comparing yourself to others

And you know what?  If ever you have doubts about your beauty, read this book.  You will then realise that you ARE beautiful.  

For further information:

Dec 10, 202039:20
Talking about sex, cancer and chemotherapy - can they co-exist?
Aug 02, 202025:25
Time to focus on Male Sexuality - introducing Clinical Sexologist, Dave Wells.
Jul 12, 202015:26
Chatting with Bonnie & Joel from the cast of jessica drake's Wicked Guide to Senior Sex
Feb 09, 202024:37
All about sex education for Seniors!
Jan 19, 202033:33
Celibacy is my orgasmic friend (and masturbation is good for you!)

Celibacy is my orgasmic friend (and masturbation is good for you!)

In this episode, I’m going to talk about how celibacy…or rather…'abstinence from having orgasms'…helps me to maintain my ability to achieve orgasm. 

Yes…that’s right. Abstinence strengthens my ability to orgasm as well as influences the intensity.  Sounds incredible doesn't?

Stick around to the end because I’m going to stand on my box of vibrators and deliver a moral to my story.

Sep 30, 201922:10
Susan, The Maven interviews Joan Price, Senior Sexuality Advocate and Author of new book Sex After Grief
Aug 01, 201923:22
Would you go to a sexuality workshop? I'm about to, for the very first time!

Would you go to a sexuality workshop? I'm about to, for the very first time!

Despite being a person who is very comfortable with their sexuality and talking about sex, I have never been to a workshop to explore and develop my sexual persona and knowledge.

That is about to change with my participation in workshops conducted by the good people from Curious Creatures.  In this episode, I am speaking with one of the facilitators, Roger Butler, about what to expect and what to wear.

My partner and I will be attending 'Fun Little Sex Games' and 'Kink 101'. We're looking forward to sharing this experience together.

Stay tuned to the podcast as I'll be speaking with Roger again next week when I debrief with him about our learnings.

Thank you for listening!

Warm regards,

Susan, The Maven

Jul 19, 201913:21
Conversations with a Sexologist: sensuality, being your authentic self & how a vibrator can help with your orgasm!
Jul 10, 201933:33
The Woman's Guide to 'Adult' Online Dating

The Woman's Guide to 'Adult' Online Dating

My tips for women when dating in the 'adult' online dating-sphere.

You will hear how I approached writing my profile and I hope you find some valuable lessons in how to write a profile that will attract the right person.

Unlike some, I chose to date on an adult site because I could not find mature, like-minded people on the more conservative sites.

There will be a guide for men in the future too.  


Susan, The Maven

Jul 01, 201915:35
BONUS: My wrinkled Dolmio grin

BONUS: My wrinkled Dolmio grin

Wrinkles are important and not just to women seeking a youthful appearance.

My wrinkles mean something that is unique to my life and to erase them would rub out precious memories. Doesn't mean I don't moisturize though, no one likes dry, itchy skin.

What do your wrinkles mean to you?

This episode is dedicated to my Mother, Maggie Tabberer and Joan Price.

Jun 28, 201903:21
First time here? Have a taste of what's in The Maven's Diary before you jump into bed with me between your ears.

First time here? Have a taste of what's in The Maven's Diary before you jump into bed with me between your ears.

I am not a porn star. 

I'm a woman who embraces life with kindness, compassion, empathy and lots of bloody good sex.

Not looking for fame, just looking to help others lose their fear to try something different in life - except don't do drugs, that shit is bad for you. This trailer will give you an idea of what topics you'll find in my diaries.

Remember these two things:

Living a life in fear is a life half lived - Anonymous

What would life be if we didn't have courage to attempt anything? - Vincent Van Gogh

I hold these quotes close to my heart and they give me strength to be me. You can too.

Love and light.

The Maven

Jun 26, 201905:56