The Enneagram Mom

Are you taking time to grow yourself? 

The enneagram is so much more then a personality test, it can begin to heal you if you let it. In this episode I go over some ways to start to look into your past trauma, heal it and move forward. Healing doesn't always have to be painful, it can just be moving forward. 

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Do you want more depth and more communication in your marriage? The enneagram is the way to find it! 

The enneagram helps you communication, with conflict resolution and connection. 

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Enneagram six has the wings of a 5 or a 7. This episode can help you understand some of the behaviors with this an enneagram six and it's wings. 

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Been wanting to dive into the wings of the enneagram? This episode we are diving into ennagram nine wings! 

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Where do these strong instinctual feelings come from. The three different centers. Gut, Feelings, Head.

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Have you been wondering how to up your business or social media game? The enneagram has the answer! (It holds all the answers, but no really...) The Enneagram + Social Media = Magic! 

This episode I talk about the pros of each type in business, the struggles they might have and how to use social media a little more effectively. 

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Have you always wondered about those really unhealthy numbers. In this episode we will be diving into the ugly of each enneagram type. How to see red flags and how to move forward. 

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I've wanted to do these bonus episodes where I take Tv shows, books, podcasts, and more and enneagram analysis them! Today I am talking about the Susan Powell case. I have listened to the Cold Podcast multiple times and finally got Josh's enneagram number nailed down. We also dive into Susan's number and the evil father in law Steve Powell. 

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Do you want to know your husband's number? Kid's? Co-Workers? Here's some tips to help find other's numbers and give them room to explore and have their own enneagram journey. 

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Do struggle to clean or declutter? Here's some ways that each enneagram type cleans.

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Do you ever get into a stress spiral, where you are sick or stressed for a long period of time? In this episode I share the important of stress and how to use your enneagram number to incorporate things daily to improve your health and stress. 

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After Amanda Louder's amazing retreat last week I realized how often we are searching for external validation. When you learn to love and heal yourself you don't need external validation anymore. On this episode I teach you some steps to change your internal talk and give you permission to heal. 

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How does each type show & receive love! Happy Valentine's Day!

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Valentines is here and I wanted to talk about how each enneagram type shows and receives love in return. 

Our first interview to understand the different types ! Kylee is absolutely incredible to talk to. She has really worked on becoming a healthy enneagram one. Along with trying to understand all the relationships around her. 

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Have you been wanting to figure out your spouses enneagram? On this episode I give you some tips on how to find theirs! Also on why understanding your enneagram can help your communication and marriage! 

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Each enneagram has some messages that created them. In this episode I will talk about what they might be and how to work on healing yourself. 

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Want to know the strengths of each enneagram type! Also I add in my Harry Potter character analysis. 

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Do you want to know what pulls you out of stress, knowing that you are in it! This episode I share the unhealthy numbera your enneagram moves to when in stress. 

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This episode I hope means so much to you. I hope the Enneagram gives you permission to question yourself, to ask why, to be yourself, to grow. 

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Have you wanted to know more about how your work this episode I dive in to enneagram types 5-9 in the workplace! 

In this episode I talk about children and the enneagram types 5-9.

Each child has varying personalities just like adults do. I don't believe children's enneagram types set in fully until 4-5 depending on their nature and nature. Using these two episodes as guides I hope they help you identify your children's enneagram type to parent them the way they need to be parented.

5-Practical Child: They see the world in a logical way. They prefer to be alone and may hide themselves away. They might hide from overbearing parents, parents that don't show deep love or too many siblings. They will play by themselves for a long period of time. The might be computer wiz, book readers and collectors. They aren't in tune with their feelings and don't recognize they feelings of others. Think Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory. School they might love because of the challenge it brings but they struggle with the social aspects. They have a hard time being silly and vulnerable. All types have a wounded message but they wounded message might be that "fives can handle the emotional connection." Which might help you to understand why they behave the way they do. They might be spacey and aloof.

If you have a type 5 child allow them the space and freedom they desire. Do not force socialization on them. Make sure to take time to get to know their interests and passions.

6-Considerate Child: The cautious and considerate child learns to worry at an early age. You will notice the anxiety early on. Messages of what not to do stick with them and they see the world in an unsafe place. They will either trust adults or rebel against them. They stand back and watch others try things first. They lack confidence but will often question people when they are given compliments. They are loved by those around them. They are great followers, listeners and part of a group. They are constantly looking for advice from others. They can use their anxiety as humor. (Think Chandler Bing.) Change is hard for a six.

Having a six child. Make sure to give them a secure place. Make sure you are honest and upfront with them. Validate their worries.

8-Brave Child: They are bold and a force of nature. They learn the world is a dangerous place and only the strong survive. They are always worried about betrayal so they only trust a small group of people. They do not like to be controlled, they are not controlling. They have a tendency to get their way. Eights might be perceived as bullies but let's set this right. Eights are typically not bullies because they fear no one and bullies have a tendencies to act on their fears and insecurities. Eights are actually the one most likely to stand up for the underdog or help the weak. Going out of their way to take care of those around them that they care for. Eights have a strong sense of justice a common phrase is "that's just not fair." They will follow rules if it gives them more freedom. They are also more likely to trust themselves then adults. They might have a soft spot for animals and babies.

If you have and enneagram 8 child it is important for them understand they won't always get their way. Teaching them anger management tips for when they don't believe things are fair.

9-Thoughtful Child: They are very easy going and calm. Many have been in a home where they might be seen as not as important or having important opinions and are often middle children. They might sleep more than others types to avoid conflict. They might not be noticed as often because they have learned to just cope with not getting their way or voicing their opinions. Nines really struggle with staying on task. Nines are very easy to be with.

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Today I will be chatting about some of the behaviors of the enneagram children. Types 1-4 is on this episode.

Each child has varying personalities just like adults do. I don't believe children's enneagram types set in fully until 4-5 depending on their nature and nature. Using these two episodes as guides I hope they help you identify your children's enneagram type to parent them the way they need to be parented.

1-Rational Child: They can be seen as the model child. These children have a strong sense of right and wrong. They have been known to correct others around them and compare themselves to others (think Hermione Granger the first time you meet her.) They might have a hard time why others would do things differently. They do not want to be seen as bad or wrong. They may shy away from things they will not excel at and only do things they will do perfectly. They are ones that naturally want to keep things clean and orderly. They do not like to make mistakes at all and things better be well done. They might be seen as little adults.

If you have a one child. Let them know mistakes are normal. Don't correct them in front of others.

2-Compassionate Child: They love to give. The might be seen as people pleasers. They will have close friends but might give to others and have no boundaries to feel love from others. They wear their heart on their sleeve. They might seem sad because they don't understand how they lovable they are. When receiving praise for their giving they begin to give more, much like a teacher's pet. They are very independent because they don't want to be a burden on others. They are drawn to other people and they might get drawn into other's feelings and drama. Their feelings can get hurt easily.

If you have a two child. Don't pry too much into their feelings, they struggle to know their own feelings. Make sure you separate your personal feelings from them.

3-Confident Child: They may not always seem confident but they are able to put on a confident façade. They are high performance achievement machines. They believe they are loved because of what they do. They might not know what they want because they will meet the standards around them. They might get praised heavily when excelling and keep up with it. They desire to be praised. They wake up with a plan. They are socially aware of where to sit in school groups. They are very motivated, quick and efficient. They like organized but not to be calm like a one but for appearance. They might be seen as braggy but they are trying to connect to others. They love to be noticed.

If you have a three child if they fail, be there to know they are still loved. Notice what they do the big and little things.

4-Artistic Child: Creative and romantic child. They might feel different and misunderstood. They get their feelings hurt easily and spend a lot of time alone in their own space to heal. They can seem approachable and unavailable at the same time. They want to stand but deeply desire to belong. They want people to get them and might use eccentric ways to communicate. They try to stand out and fit in at the same time. I watched Little Fires Everywhere, Izzy is a type four and a great example of a teen trying to understand your child. Type fours often use the "what if..." scenarios and process what to do before and after socializing. They will have depression type qualities. It might not be depression keep an eye on how they are socializing and depression. They like to sit in sadness. They get overwhelmed by their deep feelings.

If you have a type 4 child remind them that you are trying to see them. Love them no matter what.

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Each type is really going to handle goal setting completely differently. The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Ruben really helped me understand why I set goals and how to set them. She talks about the four tendencies as the Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel. In this episode I go through each type and how to make the best with goal setting or choosing a word for the new year. I also talk about @enneahealth, follow her for more enneagram health tips going into the new year.

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Motherhood and the enneagram types. Each enneagram type will mother differently than the next.

Type 1: Reliable mom: desire to be good, strive to be better and improve, do not take criticism well, desire for perfection, want to be seen as mature and confident and well organized, often expect their children to be behave and act a certain way,

Type 2: Encouraging mom: love to give and help others, teach their children how to help others, do what needs to be done, they will give and give, understanding of their children's needs, make their children and other feel comfortable around them, the party house because they take care of everyone,

Type 3: Gold star mom: motivational mom, always on the go, doing things, want to have the best and there kids to be the best, reward charts, avoid failure, like to show their kids achievements,

Type 4: Free range mom: creative, help kids understand about feelings, inspiring, want to be understood, authentic, and feel misunderstood, can be moody but are self aware,

see each kid for authenticity and they are.

Type 5: Analytical: large depth of knowledge, research everything, observe for the best way to do things, need down time to process your feelings, need alone time

Type 6: Safety first mom: always prepared, like order, plans, and rules, reliable consistent, need time to decide, trustworthy, can overplan, calm in crisis, need consistency and security, loyal to a fault, often doubt themselves.

Type 7: Enthusiast mom: have adventures, want kids to experience life, optimistic, keep things light, turn situations around, story tellers, fun loving and can be distracted and scattered,

Type 8: Empowering mom: desire independence and try to teach their kids that, desire justice and fairness, do what others can’t be done, desire to teach kids how to connect through conflict, value honesty, see things as black and white and avoid being seen as weak, get things done.

Type 9: Supportive mom: passionate in what they believe is right even though they struggle to make a decision, struggle to finish what they start, avoid conflict, want themselves and their children to be known as the peacemaker, love to relax, stubborn or passive aggressive when things come up that are not agreeable

There are no bad mom enneagram numbers, each one of you has the power to teach your children and it’s helpful to know how you teach them.

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Have you been wondering what someone you love wants for Christmas or how each type receives gifts? This episode goes through Enneagrams 1-4 and their gift giving and gift receiving tendencies!

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Have you been wondering what someone you love wants for Christmas or how each type receives gifts? This episode goes through Enneagrams 5-9 and their gift giving and gift receiving tendencies! 

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Today we are discussing how to understand the wings. You will usually pull from one wing more than the other. You pick the wing that you see more traits in yourself. There are times that the wings are balanced which is when you pull from characteristics of the wings on each side of your dominant number but those are rare.

Your dominant number will never change, that's the one that stays with you forever. Your

fear, desire, and drive comes from your dominant number. Your wing numbers can change.

Your wings are directly next to your type. If you are a type 2 you would have wing 1 or wing 3. Your wings can not be 6 if you’re a type 2.

You’ll see how some dominant types and wings can work against each other. Wings are adding more spice to whoever you are, people with the same dominant numbers can have different wings. It’s also known that people with the same number can be different because there’s so much depth to the enneagrams. Always remember that all of the types are amazing people and there are no bad or good types.

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Welcome to episode one! We are getting started with enneagrams.

The enneagram is explained as a system of personality typing that describes patterns in how people interrupt the world and manage their emotions. There are 9 different personality points which type and map each enneagram type with a 9 pointed diagram which helps to illustrate how the types relate one to another. All people belong to one of the 9. You can only be one type of enneagram and your enneagram does not change but if you are in stress your behaviors will change but your type does not change.

Another part of the enneagram is wings. They are the numbers that are directly to the sides of the enneagram type. You can pick up traits from your wing. You can traits from either wing or you can be an open wind which is where you pull traits from either side equally.

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Welcome to the Enneagram Mom Podcast!