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Love Lessons by The Hot Nerd

Love Lessons by The Hot Nerd

By China Aiko Noelle

From the YouTube channel, LOVE TAROT BY THE HOT NERD, which drops motivational talks at the end of every tarot video, we present to you: LOVE LESSONS BY THE HOT NERD, which are clippings of all the channel's motivational talks, hot topics & relationship advice dished by tarot chic YouTube superstar, China Aiko Noelle. This Ivy League history-maker, journalist and bona fide hot nerd, is formerly the founding editor of Madame Noire (an old moniker of hers) and a spiritually creative talent with powerful broadcast experience. Check out her original tarot YouTube channel at youtube.com/thehotnerd.
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LESSON 12: How to Stop Falling in Love With the Idea of Love| April 25, 2022

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LESSON 11: How to Let Love Be Easy | April 15, 2022
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LESSON 10: How to Let Your Life's Traumas Humble You | April 4, 2022
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LESSON 9: How to Build Love & Relationship Muscles | March 28, 2022
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LESSON 8: How to Squash Negative Doom Thinking | March 24, 2022
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LESSON 7: Why You Solve People's Love Issues Better Than Yours | March 23, 2022
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LESSON 6: How to Surrender Yourself to Love | March 21, 2022
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LESSON 5: Picking a Lover Who Shares Your Love Style | March 21, 2022 (2)
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LESSON 4: How to Detect Their Mask Before Falling in Love | March 20, 2022
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LESSON 3: How to Accept That You're Enough | March 17, 2022
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Love Lessons from Real Housewives Ep. 2: Karma Is Real

Love Lessons from Real Housewives Ep. 2: Karma Is Real

As some of the housewives make fun of each other's downfall, we have to note that karma never fails to collect! Why is it that laughing at other people's misfortune is so commonplace on the Housewives shows? In this episode, you'll have to tune in, and let me know whether you agree or not that some of your faves may have crossed lines when it comes to commenting on each other--and karma doesn't look away.

Nov 08, 202117:08
Love Lessons from Real Housewives Ep. 1: Keep True Friends

Love Lessons from Real Housewives Ep. 1: Keep True Friends

In the premiere episode of my series, Love Lessons from Real Housewives, we're talking about keeping true friends, and exploring whether some of the ladies of Housewives stay true to friendship rules, whether spoken or unspoken. Tune in and see whether you agree or disagree with my assessment of the Housewives shade, and whether we can use that level of shade in our real lives or not. 

Nov 08, 202124:40
#HOTSHORTS - When Was the Last Time Your Heart Was REALLY Broken?!

#HOTSHORTS - When Was the Last Time Your Heart Was REALLY Broken?!

You're listening to #HOTSHORTS! It's a hot special series under The Hot Nerd, launched just in time for the summer, in which I, China Noelle, will be dishing bite-sized commentary on the goings-on of women's lives, dating, relationships, and popular topics! 

Hot Shorts by the Hot Nerd is like one of those jam-packed ginger shots you get at your favorite juicer to spike up your taste buds and get you thinking about life: it's short, but powerful. And it's served, daily, honey: yes. 

Join me in this episode, as we chat about when the last time was your heart was REALLY broken! It's crazy. Follow me at @chinagrams on Instagram for more ruminations. Thank you for listening! 

Run Time: 11 mins.

Jun 12, 202110:60
#HOTSHORTS - How the Heck Do We Go From Pandemic to Pleasure?!

#HOTSHORTS - How the Heck Do We Go From Pandemic to Pleasure?!

You're listening to #HOTSHORTS! It's a hot special series under The Hot Nerd, launched just in time for the summer, in which I, China Noelle, will be dishing bite-sized commentary on the goings-on of women's lives, dating, relationships, and popular topics!
Hot Shorts by the Hot Nerd is like one of those jam-packed ginger shots you get at your favorite juicer to spike up your taste buds and get you thinking about life: it's short, but powerful. And it's served, daily, honey: yes.
Join me in this episode, as we chat about going from pandemic to pleasure? It's crazy. Follow me at @chinagrams on Instagram for more ruminations. Thank you for listening!
Run Time: 7 mins.
Jun 11, 202106:44
#HOTSHORTS - If You Have to "Correct" Someone in Any Relationship, RUN!

#HOTSHORTS - If You Have to "Correct" Someone in Any Relationship, RUN!

You're listening to #HOTSHORTS! It's a hot special series under The Hot Nerd, launched just in time for the summer, in which I, China Noelle, will be dishing bite-sized commentary on the goings-on of women's lives, dating, relationships, and popular topics!

Hot Shorts by the Hot Nerd is like one of those jam-packed ginger shots you get at your favorite juicer to spike up your taste buds and get you thinking about life: it's short, but powerful. And it's served, daily, honey: yes.

Join me in this episode, as we chat about "correcting" people in relationships, whether romantic or platonic, and why you should RUN!!! It's crazy. Follow me at @chinagrams on Instagram for more ruminations. Thank you for listening!

Run Time: 9 mins.

Jun 10, 202109:23
#HOTSHORTS - Do Men These Days Expect Women to Chase Them?

#HOTSHORTS - Do Men These Days Expect Women to Chase Them?

You're listening to #HOTSHORTS! It's a hot special series under The Hot Nerd, launched just in time for the summer, in which I, China Noelle, will be dishing bite-sized commentary on the goings-on of women's lives, dating, relationships, and popular topics!

Hot Shorts by the Hot Nerd is like one of those jam-packed ginger shots you get at your favorite juicer to spike up your taste buds and get you thinking about life: it's short, but powerful.

Join me in this episode, as we chat about whether men these days expect women to chase them! It's crazy. Follow me at @chinagrams on Instagram for more ruminations. Thank you for listening!

Run Time: 6 mins.

Jun 09, 202106:11
#HOTSHORTS - Aunts, Moms & Nosey People: Stop Shaming Women About Kids!

#HOTSHORTS - Aunts, Moms & Nosey People: Stop Shaming Women About Kids!

It's the premiere episode of #HOTSHORTS, a hot series, launched just in time for the summer, in which I'll be dishing bite-sized commentary on the goings-on of women's lives, dating, relationships, and popular topics! 

Hot Shorts by the Hot Nerd is like one of those jam-packed ginger shots you get at your favorite juicer to spike up your taste buds and get you thinking about life: it's short, but powerful.

Join me in this episode, as we chat about aunts, moms & nosey people, who need to stop shaming women about having kids! It's crazy. Follow me at @chinagrams on Instagram for more ruminations. Thank you for listening! 

Run Time: 5 mins.

Jun 08, 202105:01
S2/E3: The Ultimate Guide to Sex for Women Over 30 (Part 1)

S2/E3: The Ultimate Guide to Sex for Women Over 30 (Part 1)

Sex is such a frazzled and chaotic topic, and probably the subject of some of the worst advice you receive from your girlfriends who really don't know any better than you in this department, which is why you need to develop your own sense of dating independence, married-life independence, but most importantly, sexual independence. Tune in as I teach you how to establish your SexID™, which my copyrighted, trademarked, intellectually protected, sexually protected, sexual and intellectual IP, as you can see--but I am WILLING to share it with you, my listeners, because some of the smartest of us out there can be some of the DUMBEST in love and sex. Wanna learn from your hot nerd, China Noelle? Tune in now, share, and discuss, I've love to hear from you especially during these very odd times we're living in!

Feb 14, 202133:21
S2/E2: IMPORTANT - For My Single Ladies Out There!

S2/E2: IMPORTANT - For My Single Ladies Out There!

Listen in as I blast the world with doses of valuable knowledge about singledom and its reverence, its meaning, and how to get unstuck from thinking that singleness is some kind of "problem." If you're single and don't know what to do with a single STATUS, then you're completing missing out on the privileges that are right before your eyes. Even if you have someone physical by your side, a good percentage of your actual, lived, psychology, i.e. the world according to your mind, isn't tangible, physical, or near you. So how optimal is that mind of yours, in your current state? Let's delve into this single versus taken discussion and bless you with some gems that will help you conquer your single state in ways you never considered before!

Note: New episodes for the season are now being released every Sunday, so LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE NOW.

Jan 24, 202125:25
S2/E1: How to Know You've Chosen the Wrong Partner - or The One

S2/E1: How to Know You've Chosen the Wrong Partner - or The One

FEATURING SPECIAL GUEST: Ame the High Priestess of Love!

Hey, HOT NERD: been thinking about "The One" in your life lately, have you? If you ask me, there are many "The Ones," and deciding on a partner isn't as draconian as old values and rules can scare you into believing, and while it may be scary indeed to have gone about the world thinking you've chosen the "wrong" partner, and while, yes, there are some very wrong, and embarrassingly awful, choices you can have made in love, all is not lost, darling.

YOU are loved, just by being you--and there are so many tips, tricks, and more that you can apply when thinking about how to fashion your love life.

Join me and my homegirl, Ame the High Priestess of Love, as we indulge in this first episode of Season 2! I'm excited to have my friends occasionally hop on with me in this new China & Friends format, right here on The Hot Nerd podcast, and I look forward to your breaking bread and relationship bytes with us!

Nov 29, 202019:36
S1/E18: What To Do If Your Lover Supports Trump

S1/E18: What To Do If Your Lover Supports Trump

Now that we're only a few weeks away from Election Day in the United States, politics has ballooned in every conversation, even dating conversations, and it has begun to matter whom you're dating, what the person's political stance is, and whether you two can make it. For one thing, Trump supporters are controversial people to date, but many may not reveal themselves as his supporters--they may hide their affiliation. And is that okay with you in the dating space? Would you want to know if the man or woman you're dating supports Trump? And, if so, how would that person's political affiliation affect the way you relate? Would you break up with someone if you found out that the person had a different political affiliation than you? I'm giving you my two cents and more in this episode, so I'd love for you to join in! 

Oct 11, 202032:29
S1/E17: A Dating Guide For Women Over 30

S1/E17: A Dating Guide For Women Over 30

Dating over 30 is not for the faint at heart, but if you're a woman on a mission and find yourself fumbling, this reflective podcast episode is for you! Putting yourself last and not knowing how to rely on your God-gifted common sense to make wholesome decisions, is a pretty common dating dilemma and we're going to tackle that dilemma with some red hot-nerd truths! Join me as I take on the most annoying and the most satisfying pieces of dating-wisdom nuggets that grown--and growing--women need to know! Listen in to The Hot Nerd podcast wherever podcasts are available. 

Sep 21, 202031:28
S1/E16: "Pretending to Be Black" & Other Hot Topics

S1/E16: "Pretending to Be Black" & Other Hot Topics

Did you hear of the lady/professor, Jessica Krug, and how she'd been "pretending" to be black? That story is curious, like, why couldn't she just have taught African studies without the performance? Lots of folks from many backgrounds do! Join me as I unpack what on earth the deal is with Madame Krug, whom I'd have interviewed if she were willing, and let's get into identity in a hilarious and nuanced way. The issue isn't as clean-cut or black and white, no pun intended, as all the social media screamers make it seem. While folks like Jessica Krug and Rachel Dolezal are a lil wiggity whack for their identity performances, I'm not convinced that everybody else is so performance-free. Of course, not in the Krug/Dolezal vein, but--honey, chile...many of y'all's boyfriends be performing like they love you when they really don't. Zing! Okay, but seriously, identity is fluid, and these two cases of the black-identity pretenders need to be unpacked. Share your thoughts any time by leaving a message at anchor.fm/thehotnerd and pressing the Message button. You can also listen to this podcast episode anywhere podcasts are found!

Sep 08, 202029:54
S1/E15: Toxic Relationships: You May Need to RUN From Family!

S1/E15: Toxic Relationships: You May Need to RUN From Family!

Did you hear Lauryn Hill's daughter, Selah Marley, discuss the beatings and rage with which her mother would approach her? Alas, toxicity begins at home, doesn't it? Some of the closest relationships in which you might find yourself, may be responsible for some of your most challenging traumas!

With all the reckonings that have happened across so many movements, from #BLM to #MeToo, you'll find that many young people, like Selah Marley, like me, and like you...have a need to correct the horrid ways of the past and heal from the destructive behaviors that have been normalized into "culture."

Lauryn Hill clearly traumatized her daughter, in Selah's own words, and after hearing Selah speak about that experience, Lauryn's response almost justified that childhood trauma through the lens of "culture!"

Beware of what people tell you is your "culture," and beware, most of all, that those "people" will be your family members. Your healing might require you breaking from the people and things you love. I definitely had to break from my love for Miseducation of Lauryn Hill to set its creator straight in this episode, aptly titled: Toxic Family & Why I'm So F***ing Over Lauryn Hill.

Tune in for one of my longest and most worthwhile episodes yet. Catch The Hot Nerd podcast, wherever you listen to podcasts, whether Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, iHeartRadio, or wherever else!

Aug 16, 202042:55
S1/E14: Dating, Married, & Unemployed

S1/E14: Dating, Married, & Unemployed

Times are rough, even if you're single, so you can imagine those who must share living spaces or emotional spaces with others in their dating or married lives--especially when money becomes a GARGANTUAN topic! Join as this episode explores how money makes men feel adequate or inadequate in relationships, even in same-sex ones. How do women who are unemployed in relationships cope and is their sense of self-worth as affected as when a man, who is expected to "provide," cannot in fact provide? The COVID-19 pandemic in many ways humbled a few households and relationships and the way we think about the term "no romance without finance" has come under major scrutiny. Can't wait to dig in? Press Play now & look for The Hot Nerd podcast on any listening platform from Spotify to Google Podcasts to Apple Podcasts and literally anywhere you listen in!

Aug 06, 202029:31
S1/E13: Your Husband Is Not On Bumble!

S1/E13: Your Husband Is Not On Bumble!

Role reversals are being taken to a totally different level with dating apps these days, and you really must tune in for some tea on how men tend to break rules and rites in modern dating, to the point where women are now finding themselves courting men? What's up with that? And, with particular communities, such as self-identified 'black' men in dating, would you agree that some men are overly heralded as "catches" whom women should chase? Let's dig into these topics, and more--even looping in the Kanye/Kim marriage, while we're at it, for an unforgettable episode to which you must listen now, HOT NERDS! 

Jul 21, 202033:17
S1/E12: Is Marriage Realistic? (Will & Jada Edition)

S1/E12: Is Marriage Realistic? (Will & Jada Edition)

Sure Will Smith and Jada Smith have addressed the tea spilled by an artist (stating that he and Jada dated), but the way they addressed the situation sparked many interesting relationship and marriage questions that we HAVE to discuss! The main question is: do you think that marriage, as we know it, traditionally, is "realistic?" Do you believe that there are any changes in a husband/wife's approach that may be needed to sustain that pledged structure over time? Maybe there is something to staying open in how you may evolve or how your relationship may evolve over time, and not suffocating yourself into misery, simply because you believe no marriage template can bend or change. Let's get at it! Join me for a hot discussion now & catch The Hot Nerd Podcast on any platform or podcast app.

Jul 12, 202031:05
S1/E11: How to Stop A Partner From Gaslighting You

S1/E11: How to Stop A Partner From Gaslighting You

Did you know that some of us, women included/especially, are conditioned into wanting "connection" so much that our senses get suspended in the midst of relationships with people? We start to permit tiny little micro-aggressions, or put-downs, and other forms of sabotage, such as...GASLIGHTING? In this episode, I want to discuss gaslighting as it happens in intimate relationships, as well as on a societal level, and what we can do to detect and prevent it!  Subscribe to The Hot Nerd Podcast, anywhere you listen: Apple, Spotify, Google, and much more!

Jul 06, 202026:36
S1/E10: Dating in America Versus Dating Abroad

S1/E10: Dating in America Versus Dating Abroad

This hilarious episode about dating and marrying in the United States versus in the U.K. is sure to pique all the bicontinentally-curious minds out there. You don't have to rely on your physical space or reality(!); in this episode, we're digging into love interests from other worlds, with idiosyncrasies that vary from "how to make tea" (HINT: maybe not with an American microwave?) to whether it's okay for your date to come over to your house so soon. Hmmm...so many unspoken rules, I tell ya! And what do they all mean for both single women and women who feel stuck in monotony? Let's dive right in, with this special chat about loving the folks around you and loving the folks who are new to your life's experiences. Check out The Hot Nerd Podcast on Apple Podcasts, Overcast, Spotify, Google, and anywhere you listen! 

Jun 28, 202034:28
S1/E9: What Are Your Relationship Patterns?

S1/E9: What Are Your Relationship Patterns?

Do you push people away without knowing it? Do your insecurities create a veil of toxicity when it comes to dating and relationships? This episode is about self-examination of our relationship behavior pattens, but it's also about how other public figures in relationships have commented on their relationships in ways that make us probe our own behaviors! With Angelina Jolie's top news that she ended her relationship with Brad Pitt for "the wellbeing of her family," for example, it's like: gasp--we must dive more deeply into this maverick woman. Can mavericks truly be in relationships? How do you approach relationships goals? By pestering your partner, by being too aggressive, or too timid? If you're not feeling as healthy as you should in any relationship, whether at home or at work, there's always room for self-examination. Join me as we lift this issue up and shake it-shake it-shake it, aaaall the way down! 

Jun 21, 202037:29
S1/E8: Do We Demand "Social Change" But Make Zero Change In Personal Relationships?

S1/E8: Do We Demand "Social Change" But Make Zero Change In Personal Relationships?

All this violence and brutality from officials we trust to protect us can be an unforgivable betrayal, and it makes you wonder: whom else do you trust to protect you that ends up traumatizing you instead? Also, as we demand all this social change and take a stance against brutality, are we remembering to change the way we approach our loved ones at home? After all, it is incongruent to threaten your partner or child in the house, and get violent, or get abusive, while simultaneously demanding that others halt their violence! We need to take care of BOTH areas: we need to, yes, demand that the vile actions of trusted officials stop immediately, AND we must also watch our violence in relationships! In news headlines, we'll discuss  Dave Chappelle's very personal and very painful relationship to the national protests and the George Floyd tragedies. We'll also cover how all of this environmental stress and collective trauma intertwines with the latest research that says: everybody's having less sex! Tune in now to listen. Hit the "Follow" button or subscribe to The Hot Nerd Podcast anywhere you listen in--whether it's Apple Podcasts, Overcast, Google Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever! 

Jun 14, 202031:20
S1/E7: Dating or Marrying Someone With Differing Political Views

S1/E7: Dating or Marrying Someone With Differing Political Views

Rapper Eve set the record straight with critics who asked about the "difficult" conversations she's had with British entrepreneur hubby, Maximillion Cooper, and schooled us on the many conversations that people with different backgrounds in a union must have. In this episode, we're going to break down how and when to stick with, or leave, someone whose political views may be adding to or detracting from YOUR life progress. Tune in now and follow me on any of your fave podcast platforms: Apple, Google, Overcast, Spotify & more.

Jun 09, 202031:07
S1/E6: Self-Love & Healing in Times of Racial Trauma

S1/E6: Self-Love & Healing in Times of Racial Trauma

George Floyd, Amy Cooper, and all the protests around the world: when does it end? How did racism find its way into our psyche during a serious quarantine period? And, how is your peace when the world breaks into pieces over this persistent evil of racism? Is the leadership around you aware of the vicarious trauma that you experience?  It's incredibly hard to stay focused and free when everything around you can fall apart so easily and brutally, as social media exposes how deeply toxic our society is. Join me to unpack the whos, whys, and whats of these turbulent times and take a stance against the biggest virus killing society: racism. Tune in now and follow me on any of your fave podcast platforms: Apple, Google, Overcast, Spotify & more.

May 31, 202033:10
S1/E5: Top 3 Reasons You Might Be Blocking Love & Happiness Right Now

S1/E5: Top 3 Reasons You Might Be Blocking Love & Happiness Right Now

You want to find The One, you want to date, you want your man to be this way, and you want the promises of happiness that seem to come with all these relationship tales on television and surrounding you. But, are you blocking your love and happiness in ways that you can't even see? How helpful is it to hang your sense of romantic joy on other people's opinions--especially if those "people" are not designed like you? Tune in with China Noëlle to break down three biggest reasons why you might be blocking love and happiness right now.

May 26, 202028:44
S1/E4: How To Level Up In Dating & Relationships

S1/E4: How To Level Up In Dating & Relationships

Are you always dating folks who are, in truth, not on your level? Ciara's story with Russell Wilson sounds fabulous, but what does "leveling up" really mean when it comes to relationships? Admit it: all relationships, in fact 100% of them, turn into mundane routines after the thrill of chasing--a love interest fades. What happens when you're dating or eyeing the wrong person, or when there's really nothing to chase anymore? In order to level up--and stay that way, we can't just do it one time, we have to find and MAINTAIN the thrill...partner with people who keep pushing with us to our next levels! And we can only do so by being honest about this episode's three areas of staying leveled up: 1) leveling up the self, 2) leveling up by not being afraid of money--and chasing it with someone who pushes you...and 3) leveling up your soul with the right person. 

May 18, 202025:33
S1/E3: (BONUS) Beauty Tips to Start Now & Look Fab When Lockdown Ends

S1/E3: (BONUS) Beauty Tips to Start Now & Look Fab When Lockdown Ends

Hey hotties & lovers, why not pimp indoor life by prepping NOW to be cute for when you can start dating your significant other, future bae, current love, or imagined sweetheart again--after quarantine? Let's talk beauty tips you should ritualize now, so that you'll be lit and glowing when lockdown ends, and you'll mesmerize your love interest like no other! Listen in, especially for my face and feet tricks, wink-wink!

May 16, 202010:48
S1/E2: Are Dating Apps Dead?

S1/E2: Are Dating Apps Dead?

Swiping on dating apps is easy, but is the current environment really keeping the spark alive with Tinder, Bumble, and the like? In this episode, we'll break down dating app culture: why some of us were reluctant with it, how we got into it, how to detect the wrong people on it--and of course, the taboo topic of dating "preferences!" We'll also introduce the "hot nerd" concept and why you should be a HOT NERD too!

May 09, 202035:57
S1/E1: Introducing The Hot Nerd: Smart Love & Relationships, w. China Noelle

S1/E1: Introducing The Hot Nerd: Smart Love & Relationships, w. China Noelle

In this trailer, you're getting a hot taste of the juicy relationship topics to come. We're going to be discussing all the hot topics in the news as they relate to love/personal relationships, as well as perennial topics about LOVE. We're also going to be talking about whether you're settling, panicking too much about your relationship status, surrounding yourself with the right mates and friends in love, as well loving your own self as deeply and thoroughly as possible. It'll be the hottest, nerdiest, podcast you've ever heard--with me, China Noëlle, as your go-to gal!

May 09, 202001:24