The Open Bedroom Podcast

It's "Story Time With Jen" again and today I'm teaching you how to have delicious, gourmet sex.

I somehow came across sex coach Kim Anami about a decade ago, and ideas of a three-hour sex date (or ALL DAY SEX DATE!) and how I could enhance my sexual experiences started dancing through my head.

I was nowhere near having anything more than 20 minute sex for almost a decade, but continued to be curious until my last marriage became an open relationship.

That's where I met my partner Scott, and my mind was blown completely open as I began to realize I'd been having sex like a teenager for almost TWO DECADES!

Multi-hour sex became my norm, and I refused to have anything else but gourmet sex moving forward.

In today's episode, I teach YOU how to also have mind-blowing sex for the rest of your life.

YOU DESERVE to have all of the pleasure life offers you, in and out of the bedroom.

I hope you enjoy this episode!

XO,

Jen

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Shana James is a coach, author, and podcaster who has been working with men for the past 20 years. 

Shana shares her experiences and insights on creating safe spaces for men to have vulnerable conversations, feel their feelings, and work through their problems. 

She discusses her shift in perspective on men and emphasizes the importance of looking “underneath the surface” and assuming the best in men. 

Want more from your man? Shana also provides practical advice on how women can create safe spaces for men to open up and explores the importance of open communication in relationships

The underbelly of men [00:00:52]

Shana shares her experiences of working with men and seeing their vulnerability and desire for connection.

Seeing men differently [00:01:58]

Shana discusses why she sees men differently and how her perspective allows her to have positive experiences with men.

Experiencing vulnerability in men [00:04:47]

Shana talks about an exercise where men express their emotions and she witnesses their deep longing for love and connection.

The importance of holding space for men [00:09:00]

Women often aren't taught how to hold space for men, and men are taught not to express. Creating safe spaces for vulnerable conversations.

Building safety and intimacy in relationships [00:10:59]

When women feel empowered and don't need a man to be a certain way for them to feel good about themselves, relationships become stronger and more loving.

Advice on holding space for men [00:12:09]

A practice for women to hold space for their partners by asking open-ended questions and creating a safe environment for vulnerability and emotional expression.

The importance of vulnerable conversations [00:19:06]

Discussion on the significance of having open and honest conversations about desires and fears in a relationship.

Creating a safe space for communication [00:20:00]

Exploration of the need for non-judgmental and compassionate communication to foster a safe environment for sharing.

Venting and making requests [00:21:22]

Advice on the importance of conscious venting and transitioning into making requests to empower oneself and improve the relationship dynamic.

The importance of conscious connection in relationships [00:29:30]

Discussion on how most people struggle with vulnerability and checking in with their partner's needs.

The power of presence in a relationship [00:30:14]

Sharing a personal experience of feeling more connected and present with a partner during a dinner date.

Encouraging appreciation and support in relationships [00:31:27]

Exploring how expressing gratitude and appreciation can encourage more positive behavior in a partner.

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I'm thrilled to share with you the 100th episode of our podcast!

It's been an incredible journey, and I couldn't have done it without your support. To celebrate this milestone, I invited back two of our favorite guests & my friends, Tony and Cristina, for a deep dive into their lives beyond the usual topics.

Here's a sneak peek into what we discussed:

Previous Tony & Cristina Episodes of The Open Bedroom:

Today we have Cashelle Kali, a guest who is in an open relationship and known for breaking rules in various aspects of her life. 

She discusses the outdated thinking around dating and relationships, and Cashelle shares her perspective on the subject. 

She talks about her unconventional lifestyle, her belief in individual sovereignty, and her experiences with dating multiple people.

We also touch on topics such as sleeping in separate bedrooms, the healing benefits of cuddle tribes, and navigating relationships as a mother.

Cashelle emphasizes the importance of open and honest communication in all types of relationships. 

The episode concludes with Cashelle offering advice on communicating needs and desires without blame, and Jen expressing gratitude for her insights and growth.

Reference to Jojo’s Episode #80

This week on the podcast I have SEXperts Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown as we discuss the fascinating concept of vulva mapping and the importance of understanding and embracing one's own body for pleasurable experiences.

Leah’s specialty is in Tantra Yoga, Positive Psychology, and a myriad of somatic therapies.

Dr. Willow specializes in Taoist sexology, acupuncture, and functional medicine.

Understanding Vulva Mapping

A practice that involves understanding the different parts and erogenous zones of the vulva, such as the clitoris and vestibular bulbs. Many people are unaware of these structures, and we encourage listeners to explore and appreciate their own bodies.

Leah and Dr. Willow stressed the importance of feeling secure and connected with one's body and sexuality. They acknowledged that societal pressures and insecurities can hinder this process, but also highlighted the healing potential of embracing and witnessing one's own beauty.

Practical Advice for Vulva Mapping

Setting up a sacred space with candles and music, using a mirror to observe changes in color and shape, and using lubrication for enhanced pleasure are all components of Vulva Mapping. 

We delve into the anatomy of the vulva, discussing the various parts and emphasizing that there is more to it than what people traditionally thought. Leah and Dr. Willow explain that vulva owners have as much erectile tissue as men, and encouraged vulva owners to imagine the same level of arousal and pleasure. They highlighted the importance of allowing blood to flow and noticing changes in color and swelling.

Appreciating the Natural Beauty of the Vulva

Leah suggested taking a private picture of the vulva to appreciate its natural beauty and uniqueness. She addresses the asymmetry of the labia and compares them to the asymmetry of breasts, emphasizing that it is normal and should not be judged.

Vulva Mapping Introduction [00:00:44] * Leah and Willow discuss the importance of understanding the vulva and its anatomy for pleasurable experiences. Exploring the Vulva [00:02:11] * Leah explains that the vulva has erectile tissues and discusses the importance of pleasuring the outer surface layer. Creating a Sacred Space [00:06:54] * Willow suggests setting up a sacred space with candles and music, using a mirror to witness the changes in the vulva during arousal. Vulva Anatomy and Arousal [00:10:16] Explanation of the erectile tissue in the vulva, the importance of blood flow, and the range of swelling and color changes. Embracing Asymmetry and Body Judgments [00:12:11] Discussion on the natural asymmetry of vulvas and the need to stop judging and comparing one's own body. Exploring the Clitoris and Sensitivity [00:19:08] Explanation of the clitoral hood, the potential issue of lichen sclerosis, and the invitation to explore sensitivity and access points on the clitoris. Vulva Mapping and Arousal Expansion [00:21:06] Leah and Willow discuss the importance of understanding one's own vulva and how to explore and expand arousal through vulva mapping. Yoni Witnessing and Sacred Space [00:22:53] They explain the concept of yoni witnessing, which involves creating a sacred space to explore and appreciate the beauty and changes of the vulva. Rewiring Neural Pathways and Mind-Body Connection [00:27:20] Leah and Willow talk about rewiring neural pathways to enhance arousal and pleasure, and the importance of the mind-body connection in experiencing heightened sensations.

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I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Danielle from Openly Committed, a TikTok star with over 133K followers and over 2 million likes, where she shares her experiences and insights about non-monogamous relationships.

As a wife and mother, Danielle is just like any other person you might meet. However, her journey from a small town in Texas to England, where she currently resides, and her 13-year-long non-monogamous relationship with her British husband and unique storytelling ability make Danielle fascinating to follow.

The Journey to Non-Monogamy

Danielle and her husband decided to explore non-monogamy early in their dating phase. They began creating content about a year and a half ago to provide examples of healthy non-monogamous relationships, as they found limited resources when they started their journey. Danielle's husband initially appeared in their content but later decided to step back due to the negative comments they received. Despite this, Danielle continues to create content and engage with people who ask genuine questions about non-monogamy.

The Growing Interest in Open Relationships

We attributed the growing interest in open relationships to two main factors. Firstly, the increasing conversations around gender fluidity and the exploration of sexuality, particularly among younger generations like Gen Z. Secondly, the idea of a global consciousness that is becoming more accepting and open-minded. We compared the perception of open relationships to the legalization of gay marriage, which was once viewed as bizarre but is now widely accepted.

Danielle's Personal Journey with Non-Monogamy

Danielle shared her personal journey with non-monogamy, explaining how it evolved over time. After becoming parents, she and her husband realized they had been monogamous for about a year and decided to explore polyamory. Danielle described her experience with polyamory, stating that she’d had multiple boyfriends whom she cared about deeply. Currently, she and her husband are more open to meeting new people and having casual connections.

Dealing with Jealousy

When asked about jealousy, Danielle acknowledged that she experiences it, but believes that the positive emotions and experiences that come with non-monogamy outweigh the negative ones. She emphasized that insecurities and jealousy are personal issues that individuals need to address themselves. Communication with her partner is crucial in navigating jealousy, as they can provide support and understanding.

The Impact of Hate Comments

Danielle also discussed her experience with hate comments and the polarizing nature of viral content. She reflected on her first viral video, acknowledging that it may have come across as fake and insecure. She receives hate comments suggesting that a woman cannot possibly want to share her husband or be in an open relationship for herself. Danielle attributes the polarizing nature of her content to the extreme opposing views on monogamy and non-monogamy.

A Couples Guide to Opening Up

To help couples navigate non-monogamy, Danielle has created a course called "A Couples Guide to Opening Up". The course combines advice from over 20 successful open couples with her own recommendations and stories, providing a one-hour guide for couples looking to navigate non-monogamy.

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I'm Jennifer Kaylo, your host at the Open Bedroom Podcast. Ladies, I hope these nuggets will inspire you to join us on this journey of self-discovery and sexual empowerment.

1. The Power of Self-Exploration: My journey to loving my body, embracing my curves, and accepting my post-pregnancy changes has been transformative. I encourage you to start with body mapping to learn what your body likes.

2. Communication with partners is key. Knowing your own body and what brings pleasure can enhance sexual experiences with partners. Explore your bodies, become familiar with what brings you to orgasm.

3. Toys, Tools, and Techniques: From the toys to everyday objects, we explore different tools for pleasure. I also share some of my favorite apps like Guided by Glow and Bellesa for mental stimulation.

The podcast has a name! I also take time to thank each of you for supporting me so well. And... I'm launching another podcast for those of us fully living who we are in the world... and taking submissions for potential guests. DM me (any social channel) if you're interested in being a guest and sharing about how you are showing up authentically in your life.

Appreciate you all!

XO,

Jen

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I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard women say “I never feel turned on” or “I can never orgasm” or “I hate when he just wants to get right into putting his P in my V and that’s it”.

I've also sat across from men that while their partner was present said "She just takes FOREVER to cum".

Men: How to Be Good at Sex walks you through 5 steps to consider IF your partner is actually enjoying what you’re doing.

- How you can pick up what they like, and what they don’t.

- How to learn additional skills to bring into the bedroom.

- And how to make her crave you!

Today I have on the show Ellie Berland, a Sacred Life and Business Coach, Sacred Space Holder, and the host of the empowering Fire & Flow podcast. With an unwavering commitment to guiding individuals and businesses towards their true purpose, Ellie has dedicated herself to unlocking the fullest expression of self through the power of body connection.

Ellie believes that our bodies hold immense wisdom and serve as a compass on our personal and professional paths. By nurturing this body connection, Ellie guides her clients to tap into their innate intuition and embrace the full spectrum of their being.

Today Ellie and I talk about the power or pu$$ies, and how creating a relationship with them, we can be guided in life.

The same way that a body feels turned on by pleasure, we can also feel turned on in our “yes”.

Scott and I have an ethically non-monogamous partnership.

I’d classify it as polyamorous. We also have a closed triad, meaning that we only have s*x with 1 person that joins us in the bedroom. Lastly, we only sleep with women.

Our dynamic (what you’d call the way we operate as a couple) is pretty narrow in terms of what you’ll find in the Lifestyle, but that’s another topic for another day.

Our girlfriend and I were in the kitchen last weekend, and we started talking about WHY she chose to have s*x with couples vs. stay monogamous, as well as what makes a couple worth having and keeping a “third”.

We discuss being a “third” by referencing terminology like “unicorn” or “bluefish” as well.

I hope you enjoy this conversation and personal thoughts of our girlfriend.

Listen to the podcast to hear the full conversation: (link in bio)

Wanna know how to have a threesome? 

Meet the amazing Whitni Miller, queer sex educator, intimacy coach, & TikTok star. 

Whitney's knowledge and expertise in sex ed shines through as she discusses the importance of understanding both the biological and psychological aspects of sex. 

One thing that impressed me was how Whitni manages to deliver her content in a way that never feels uncomfortable or overly sexual. 

Her calm and safe manner of delivery stems from her background in yoga and working in stressful environments. 

It's truly refreshing to see someone who can make such sensitive topics approachable and educational.

Whitni opens up about her experiences with censorship on popular platforms like TikTok and YouTube. Her accounts have been shut down, and she's had to resort to using coded language and emojis to avoid detection. 

Talk about a frustrating battle when most of our audiences are on these major platforms.

Luckily, Whitni found her safe place on Patreon, where she can provide more explicit and uncensored content. 

Her Patreon content includes props and demonstrations, making the information more accessible to her neurodivergent audience. 

I’m one of Whitni’s Patreon members, and I cannot recommend her content enough. It’s so educational, and I’ve learned so much.

I hope you enjoy

This is Part II to last Sunday's Part I Podcast

https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/PfGa7cIbcBb

Coach Brian Jenkins, a Men's S/x and Intimacy Coach, talks about the importance of authentic communication in relationships and shares his personal experience with difficult conversations with his wife.

He discusses their struggles with his wife's health challenges, and how it has affected their relationship, including their consideration of an open relationship.

He emphasizes that going through difficult things in our own relationships is necessary to help others and encourages couples to have authentic conversations and not let fear stop them from exploring new possibilities.

Coach Brian Jenkins, a Men's S/x and Intimacy Coach, talks about the importance of authentic communication in relationships and shares his personal experience with difficult conversations with his wife.

He discusses their struggles with his wife's health challenges, and how it has affected their relationship, including their consideration of an open relationship.

He emphasizes that going through difficult things in our own relationships is necessary to help others and encourages couples to have authentic conversations and not let fear stop them from exploring new possibilities.

Welcome to part 2 of Shifting Desires!

Have you ever felt jealous in a relationship? It's a common feeling, even in open relationships.

But did you know that jealousy can actually be a portal for self-discovery and growth? In this podcast episode, Andre and Susannah share their experiences with navigating jealousy in their open relationship. They emphasize the importance of open communication and support for each other through difficult emotions.

But it's not just about jealousy. Andre and Susannah also discuss the importance of building a strong foundation for any relationship, including communication, appreciation, safety, and trust. They offer tools and support for individuals exploring open relationships, and encourage listeners to approach relationships with love and respect.

Overall, this episode offers a positive and empowering message about the potential for growth and transformation in relationships. So if you're ready to learn how to navigate difficult emotions and build a stronger foundation for your relationships, this podcast is for you!

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Have you ever wondered how an open relationship works?

In this podcast, Andre and Suzanna share their journey from being in the military to their current work in s/xual healing and teaching. They discuss their open relationship and the course they created together, "Open to More," which helps others explore non-traditional relationship dynamics.

The most valuable lesson from this conversation is the importance of authentic communication in relationships and the need to reassess and renegotiate dynamics as individuals grow and change. They also mention the significance of maintaining little moments of connection to keep the relationship fresh.

Andre and Suzanna emphasize the importance of giving oneself permission to think differently and explore non-traditional paths in life.

They share their experiences with open relationships and shifting desires, and how they discovered what works for them. They also talk about the challenges they faced and the importance of communicating with their partners.

Suzanna shares her discovery of being multi-s/xual and how she enjoys watching Andre with other people. Overall, this podcast is a great reminder that relationships are not one-size-fits-all and that it's important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner.

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Creating Intentional Intimacy around our s/x lives is VITAL to getting the kind of erotic, enjoyable, juicy partner play that we want.

Today Charli McConnell shows us how and what to place on our monthly calendars to keep our s/x lives & relationships happy and exciting.

Charli McConnell is a Women’s Coach who focuses on women of all ages who want to find their power and increase their capacity for self-love, communication, and intentionality. She works with women on all thing’s life, sex, relationships, and business. 

She is an RN who specialized in women services and an entrepreneur who built a multi-million-dollar company in a male dominated industry. 

She has been married for 13 years and loves to share the things that have been instrumental in her own relationship.

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Recently I went to my partner Scott and began a conversation where I stated that there were two times in my life that my cup had felt "overflowing". Both involved opening my relationship and having additional partner play.

Now - feeling full or even almost full in our love and sexual lives is a fantastic thing. 

I understand most people don't even get to that point of fulfillment.

As someone that believes that it is possible to live a life completely overflowing in abundance, I feel that relates to the love and sex and relationship parts of my life, too.

The discussion did not go well, his feelings were (understandably) hurt, he felt no one could ever be enough for me, I'd never be satisfied... and seriously turned and looked at me with some concern and said:

"Do you think you might have a sex addiction?".

This is not the first time someone has asked me this.

As a society, we get REALLY uncomfortable around conversations about sex.

Lots of us walk around with trauma.

It's crunchy, and uncomfortable, and triggering.

AND... not everyone experiences high libido. It's foreign to them. They do not experience it in their bodies at all.

I came out of the womb with a high sex drive and always have been a sexual, embodied person.

So let's dive into the conversation of Sex Addition & Sexual Needs!

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If you're new to the world of BD$M, it's important to approach it with caution and care. K!nk educator London Crave shares her insights on how to explore BD$M in a safe and consensual manner.

5 Ways to Explore K!nk & Negotiate a Scene:

1. Focus on what you do want to try: When negotiating boundaries, it's important to approach it from a positive perspective rather than a negative one. Instead of focusing on what you don't want, focus on what you do want to try. This approach can help narrow the playing field and make it easier to control the scene.

2. Avoid negotiating mid-scene: Negotiating during a scene can be clouded by the rush of endorphins, adrenaline, and dopamine. It's best to stop the scene and negotiate before continuing, rather than trying to negotiate during the scene.

3. Vet potential partners: Before engaging in pickup play, it's important to have a better understanding of how to vet and screen potential partners. The best place to find events and groups is FetL!fe, which is like a fet!sh Facebook. Attend meet and greets and get vetted before attending private events.

4. Negotiate aftercare: Drop can occur after scenes, great s/x, or big events, and it is when the feel-good brain chemicals crash out, causing physical and mental effects. To deal with drop, it is essential to negotiate aftercare, which is how to take care of oneself and the people involved in the scene after it is over.

5. Treat negotiations as a seduction: Negotiations can be playful, fun, and teasing. It's important to bring the same mood to the negotiations as you would to the scene itself. Negotiations do not have to be business-like or very thorough, but they should cover safety and boundaries.

Remember, exploring BD$M can be empowering and help individuals learn more about themselves. But always prioritize safety, consent, and communication.

About London:

London Crave (she/her) is a bis/xual, polyamorous k!nkster who has been active in the BD$M, non-monogamous, and s/x positive lifestyles for a decade. 

In that time, she has led 2 BD$M focused groups that held k!nk focused parties, movie nights, educational events, and other social activities.

She has presented classes and demos at various k!nk-focused events and dungeons in Arkansas, Oklahoma, and nationwide virtual events as well as the University or Arkansas, CAVU Center's Conference on Spirituality, S/xuality and Intimacy, and Konsplosion.

London is available for a variety of classes, panels, and discussion related to BD$M, ethical Non-Monogamy, s/x positivity, and s/xual expression and empowerment. She can be reached at cravinglondon42@gmail.com for all inquiries.

Relationship and s/x coach Ashley Garcia reminds us that our bodies were designed for pleasure.

Think about it....

The wind on our skin. 

Someone playing with our hair.

The sun warming on our skin.

Someone’s hot breath on our neck.

G******s that become erect when touched.

Beauty to look upon around us.

Our lovers' eyes.

Everything around us was designed to be pleasing to us… including our own bodies.

And you are ALLOWED to try all the things.

Give yourself permission.

Can you envision a life where life would be better if you had the space to heal yourself, to show up and be the best human you can be?

Instead of living as roommates with your partner, what if taking some space allowed you a different perspective about what YOUR needs actually were, and how to get them filled?

Releasing the need to force our partners to be the ones to fulfill our needs.

Shannon tells us how she was able to keep her marriage together after taking some time apart.
And when Shannon's “Pleasantville” life turned to color, she had this pivotal moment with her son that forever changed her.

> She realized that she was just going through the motions, life on autopilot

> Her kids looked different

> Trees looked greener

> She decided to live her life in each present moment

This podcast is for those that are ready to date.

This might be simple like a coffee or cocktail hour.

It’s a GREAT idea ladies to go dutch so it’s not weird for you.. And there is no obligation to do ANYTHING… even a kiss.

This might also include meeting up to just f*ck.

Today’s episode is the information your momma never taught you - how to talk about:

1. STI’s / STD’s and sexual health
2. Sexual preferences - how you like having sex
3. Non-negotiables / hard no’s

Buckle up - this one is packed full of lots of info in just 20 minutes.

XO,

Jen

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The confident Swinger Jo Leavitt is back on the show this week with a brand new topic: Get Outta Your Head & Into Their Bed!

It’s been 6 months since I’ve done a solo episode, so let me get you all caught up.  This episode was burning inside of me because I had a man online tell me “All I desire is for a woman to want to pleasure ME. I give, and give, and give to the women in my life, yet no one has EVER asked me what I want. What I desire. What I crave.”  And this story made me so f*ing sad.  So this episode is all about how I create a night just for my partner.  And this is specifically related to me + Scott because I held a C0ck Worshiping night for him last night.  Hope this spurs creativity and desire within you.   And that your C0*k or Pu$$y Worship night rocks.  XO, Jen  

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Today I have Kiley (@sexyswingerchic online).

S/x Work 101 is what we’ll cover today.

• What is a s/x worker?
• s/x advocacy
• Stripping
• OnlyFans
• More!

Kiley is a totally normal wife, mom, cat mom, and ex-teacher.

She’s so well spoken and I cannot wait for you to listen to this podcast.

So open your mind. Open your heart. And let’s dig in!

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In the spirit of 69’ing… which is all about reciprocity… mutual pleasure…. mutual desire… the “I’m so turned on I’ve gotta have you in my mouth RIGHT NOW” energy…

Today’s episode is about how to keep long term relationships hot 🌶.

69 is fun in theory… but in reality quite impractical.

Sometimes what seems hot and spicy isn’t what stokes the fire long term.

I’ve got Scott, my other half, on today’s show and I hope you have as much fun listening as we did recording this one.

Resources:

Keeley Rankin is a sex and relationship coach that specializes in male performance issues.

This episode is for the men!

Rachel Maine is a therapist turned sex and relationship coach, and today is all about PLEASURE.

We talk male & female pleasure.

How to talk to kids about pleasure.

Body Mapping.

How to bring more pleasure to your partner.

And MORE!

RESOURCES:

Danielle Addison, owner of Simply Magnetic is a coach that teaches others how to harness the power of magnetism and feminine energies to get what you want. I had Danielle on Episode #31: The Energy of $20K months: what it takes for creating multiple 5 figure months with ease. I’ve been fangirling her for years, and am in her Facebook group (it’s super sexy, y’all!), and am so honored to have her live on the show again! Today we’re talking about Seducing the Universe: How To Get What You Want. Did you know even your coffee can be sexy? Danielle shows us how. 

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Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines.

She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT certified sex educator.

Classically trained opera singer @lanaviolette was repeatedly told she had no place on the stage or in the arts.

Lana found Burlesque, and she found her Tribe as well as an empowering, body-positive space that allowed her to mix all of her talents: opera singer + dancer + production manager + pasties artist into one fabulous outlet.

Let us take you on a journey with a behind-the-scenes look at what becoming a burlesque artist looks like, what it takes to be a burlesque performer, and how difficult the system currently is to even have burlesque performed in your local city.

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So… you’ve decided to open your relationship… now WTF do you do?

This podcast is for you!

We cover where to start, where to go, where NOT to go, the different dynamics of each spot from your local Swinger Club to S*x Clubs and Dungeons.

Justin and I have got you covered!

Topics:

• 3:03 - 3:57 What It’s Like to Run a Swinger Club
• 8 - 9:05 Make Swinger Friends Before you Go Out
• 11 - 11:48  Move at the Pace of the Slowest Person
• 11:48 - 13:38 Swingers Parties Are a Great Place to Be a Voyeur
• 18:31 - 19:17 Lifestyle Humans = Communication, Consent & Meeting Me Where I’m At.
• 20:46 - 21:11 + 21:38 -  22:03 ETHICALLY Non-Monogamous Meaning
• 24 - 24:40 Sharing Your Dynamic

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This is SUCH a juicy episode! 

Join Taylor and I as we discuss how she became a female dominatrix.

We discuss ALL things like:

• Meet Taylor 0:56 - 2:15
• “Not Vanilla” 2:43 - 3:41
• I Really Like to Spank - 4:54 - 5:51
• What is Tinder Gold? 6:28 - 6:54
• Do NOT put “kink” in your Tinder Profile - 7:01 - 10:37
• What is a C*ckold? 8:01 - 8:49
• D/s Does Not = S*x 12:11 - 33 + 13:10 - 13:45
• What Domme Type Are You? 14:57 - 15:43
• The Cuddling Domme 16:54 - 17
• What’s In it for the Domme? 17:19 - 18:09
• When to Walk Away from your Partner 21:09 - 22:36
• FetLife 26:44 - 26:59 + 27:48 - 28:13
• Jen’s Fetlife Experience - 30:22 - 30:15

Definitions:

• "FLR" - Female Led Relationship
• "C*ckold" - The male sits back watching a bull have relations with his partner.

Links:

Sheila Jones is the owner of Whicked Results. Hence the name, her focus is getting big results for her clients in their personal and professional life.

Today's theme is: Putting Your Dreams to the Test!

We are both so freaking passionate about helping people create and birth the life of their dreams.

If you're not excited every day to jump out of bed and work on your passion, then you're doing life wrong.

So many good nuggets in this episode like:

• 2:07 - 2:58:  Is This Dream Really Your Dream?
• 3:15 - 4:21 Discover Your Dream by Finding What Brings You Fire
• 5:00 - 5:57 Bring Your Dream Into Fruition
• 8:33 - 9:20 No J-O-B is Going to Pay Me $3M
• 9:22 - 10:10 Your Dreams Are What We Need

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More than 50% of all humans have STI's, so why all the shame?

Today's podcast with nurse practitioner Lauren Haines de-stigmatizes STI's and STD's allowing us to hear the facts and normalize this part of being sexually intimate with others.

It's not as scary as society has made it out to be.

You're not dirty or gross or tainted in any way for having STI's or STD's.

Lauren even gives us some scripts to help in telling your partner(s).

This is the episode I've been waiting for - to bring you the depth of truth that your momma wouldn't tell you.

This is reality.

2:14 - 2:54 STI vs. STD 

2:57 - 3:22 How Do You Know if you Have Chlamydia or Gonorrhea? 

3:24 -5:40  How Often Should You Get Tested? 

5:54 - 7:22 What type of testing should I do?

7:31 - 11:19 What are the most common STI’s?

13:13 - 14:34 Scripts for telling your partner about your STI.

Ways to connect with Lauren and I: