The Perfect Mess w/Ray Molina

By Ray Molina

A man who lost it all, divorced, broken and nearly gave up. Instead, I grew from it…used my pain as motivation to become a better man and better father than I ever dreamed. My life is simple now, but it wasn’t always. A former graffiti artist, turned graphic designer, turned national touring hip hop artist, turned baseball coach, turned podcast host and more recently; furniture restoration dude. I’ve been through the ringer but I’m still here and I’m happy to share my story….hope it helps someone along the way. My life isn’t perfect, often times it’s a mess…but for me; it’s The Perfect Mess.

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Ep. #117 - You Made That

The Perfect Mess w/Ray MolinaNov 29, 2023

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Ep. #117 - You Made That

Let's talk about baseball in Las Vegas and how this trip showed me my teenager is growing up before my very eyes. Man...it does not slow down, not one bit. Fathers, you need to hear this one if your son plays travel ball...you'll appreciate it. Thanks for listening, and if you hear something you think someone you know needs to hear...please share this episode!

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Nov 29, 202351:04

Ep. #116 - Not So Lil'

Well...I thought I only had to deal with my high schooler growing up too fast. But, I was wrong because me lil man is moving faster and I am trying to keep it together over here. Let me tell you a little bit about it today. I hope you enjoy, and if you do...please share it with someone, thanks!

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Nov 01, 202337:12

Ep. #115 - We're Tired

"Where have all the good men gone?" - We're tired...listen, and follow me on this. This is such a hot topic right now and I have my own experience with this I would like to share. I hope you enjoy and as always if it hits home...SHARE IT! Thanks!

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IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod @itsbeastorfamine

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Oct 21, 202344:36

Ep. #114 - Better Off

Ever wonder if you are better off being single? At 49 I wonder that often...I often say "I miss the noise". Meaning, the family...kids, partner, animal...all of it. But what is it going to take to get back there and is it even possible after being single for so long? Let's talk about that on this episode.

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IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod

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Oct 16, 202354:07

Ep. #113 - Do Whatever It Takes

I know we've talked about this exact topic I think back in May of 2023...but it needs to be said once more. I hope you find that hustle in you when your businesses or trades are slowing down and things start to pile up on you financially. This has been my story recently and I am sharing with you how I am working through it...I hope it helps you. If so, please share it!

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IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod @itsbeastorfamine

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Oct 13, 202350:58

Ep. #112 - Your "Friend", The Lobbyist

We all have at least one. A "friend" who does things out of the "kindness of their heart" only to unleash them on you when you least expect it. It's usually when you've told them something they needed to hear that may jeopardize your friendship moving forward. This episode is direct, to the point and a bit vulgar...(sorry about it) but sometimes it calls for it. Hope it helps anyone with these people in their lives on how to hold their ground and stay true to themselves. Like it, please share it.

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Youtube: www.youtube.com/@theperfectmesspod

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Sep 22, 202339:32

Ep. #111 - The Perfect Ten

Does the perfect ten even exist? Let's talk about it and I will give you my thoughts and if you feel so inclined once you are done listening...I would love to hear your input. Let's talk...

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IG/TikTok: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod @itsbeastorfamine

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Sep 06, 202348:31

Ep. 110 - It's Always Us

Tough episode...but necessary. Let's talk about how we always muck up the message and make decisions on our own and use the word to defend it. This will hit different depending on where you are in your walk with Christ...but if it hits home, please share it...thanks!

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Aug 30, 202301:01:00

90 Seconds of Inspiration - It’s on me…

Today I share a story that should put a smile on your face, and hopefully inspire you from when I was shopping in the dollar tree, have a blessed day. IG/TIKTOK: @itsraymolina / @theperfectmesspod • Web: www.raymolina.com • YT: www.YouTube.com/@theperfectmesspod

Aug 28, 202301:32

90 Seconds of Inspiration - “Help Someone”

I hope this story I’m sharing with you today inspires you to help somebody.

Aug 17, 202301:31

90 Seconds of Inspiration - It’s all Perspective

Sometimes it’s just the way we look at things it’s all perspective. If this hits home for ya, please share it thanks! Web: www.raymolina.com • IG/TikTok: @itsraymolina • YouTube: www.YouTube.com/@theperfectmesspod

Aug 06, 202301:32

Ep. #109 - "Be That Guy"

We spend a lot of our lives being afraid to be the guy who says, "naw...I don't think I'll be there" or "it depends on who's going...I may or may not come". We or I for that matter never wanted to be that guy, but as I've gotten older it's more important than ever to "Be That Guy" because it's putting you first and looking out for you. That is important especially if you have made some major changes in life. Anyway, I talk about that here on this short episode which I hope you enjoy...thanks for listening!

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Aug 01, 202330:46

90 Seconds of Inspiration - Don’t take it personal

I hope this helps you like it helped me. Sometimes things happen throughout our day that we have no control over. What we have control over is how we react.

Jul 27, 202301:31

Ep. #108 - Old Man, New Road

I'm back from the road y'all. Fresh off two baseball road trips for my kids to San Diego, CA and Branson, MO. Won a championship in SD and came home with a winning record in Missouri! Lot's to catch up on and I hope you enjoy this episode. If so, please share it! Thanks!

Web: www.raymolina.com

IG: @itsraymolina @theperfectmesspod (TikTok as well)

Jul 25, 202346:22

Ep. #107 - Answer The Call

Sometimes we get the call to go a completely different direction in life. I find myself struggling with this but I am finally coming around to answering it and living in the moment. So, let's talk about it and I hope this helps you with something you may be going through that is similar. Thanks for listening here are the links you need: Web: www.raymolina.com IG/TikTok: @itsraymolina YT: www.youtube.com/@theperfectmesspod - Please hit subscribe and notifications!

Jun 13, 202301:03:27

Ep. #106 - Influenced or Inspired?

Let’s talk about inspiration and influence and which is best for your kids and you. Hope you enjoy this episode and if you do, please share it! Thanks! Web: www.raymolina.com • IG/TikTok: @itsraymolina • @theperfectmesspod • @itsbeastorfamine

May 29, 202350:28

Ep. #105 - Corporate and Why I Left

I was asked a question after episode 104 as to why I left corporate and what made me want to pursue becoming an entrepreneur. Hopefully this answer gives some of you clarity and maybe for the right people it inspires you. As always, if this hits home for you or you feel someone needs to hear this please share it. Thanks for listening. Website: www.raymolina.com • IG/TikTok: @itsraymolina • YT: www.youtube.com/@theperfectmesspod

May 25, 202334:10

Ep. #104 - Whatever It Takes (LTAI)

Let’s talk about doing whatever it takes to achieve your goals. See some of us are too proud to do certain things in order to do so and that only hurts YOU. So let’s get real one second and discuss how I deal and have dealt with this. I hope this hits home for you and if it does please share it. Website: www.raymolina.com • IG/TikTok: @itsraymolina YouTube.com/@theperfectmesspod

May 23, 202326:31

May 08, 202338:36

Ep. #101 - Time Fly’s (LTAI)

This is your friendly reminder that time is not your friend it does not wait. In fact, it flies, and before you know it, things will change in the blink of an eye, so cherish today. If this hits home for you, please share it with somebody. Thank you. My website is www.raymolina.com my IG/TikTok is @itsraymolina

May 04, 202319:11

Ep. #100 - Competitive Gene (LTAI)

Yes, I know…I said “Creative Gene” in the beginning of this episode…haha when you do these on the fly sometimes that happens. Anyway, let’s talk about the Competitive Gene and if you have it…was it learned or born with? Can it be taught? I hope you enjoy this episode and if so, please share it with someone thanks! Website: www.raymolina.com • IG/TikTok: @itsraymolina

Apr 27, 202331:12

Ep. #99 - Be of Service

I am finding out that one of the things God is using me for is to "Be of Service". Sometimes you are just good at what you're good at...and that's that. I hope this episode finds you all healthy and happy and if this hits home, please share it with someone. Thank you! My website is: www.raymolina.com and my IG/TikTok is @itsraymolina

Apr 23, 202301:19:42

90 Seconds of Inspiration - “Difficult for the sake of being Difficult”

Sometimes you need to stop making things difficult so you can get to moving on. I hope this word speak to someone and if it does, please share it. Thank you.

Apr 18, 202301:31

3 From Me - Talk “With” Your Kids…

There is a huge difference between talking to your kids and talking with your kids. I hope this three minutes helps explain that and if you feel like you think someone should hear it, please share it. Thank you. My website is: www.raymolina.com and my IG/Tiktok is: @itsraymolina

Apr 04, 202303:34

Ep. #98 - “Full Transparency”

Some of you may be like me. I turned everything off. I stop replying I stop reading and I just do me. I’ve had to do that over the last week or so because, well… The things going on just required me to do so. I hope you enjoy this episode of my life, if you do, it may be at his home for you or someone you love please share it, thanks for listening. Web: www.raymolina.com • IG/TikTok: @itsraymolina • YouTube: The Perfect Mess Podcast

Mar 22, 202336:07

3 From Me - “A Lesson in Everything”

There is a lesson in everything. And every time I’m with my children, I make sure to share them with them. I think it’s important that we pour into our children everything we’ve got. I hope this hits home for somebody and if it does, please share it. Thank you.

Mar 21, 202303:31

3 From Me - “Let Them Go”

This is a new series I’m doing called three for me or I’ll give you three minutes of some food for thought. I hope you enjoy this one titled “let them go”. Website: www.raymolina.com • IG/TIKTOK: @itsraymolina • YouTube: The Perfect Mess Podcast

Mar 14, 202303:29

Ep. #97 - "Purpose"

So many of us are searching for our purpose in life. I know I have for quite some time. What I've come to realize is this...and it's quite simple: "Your purpose is the thing that comes to you most naturally"....I hope this episode helps someone who needed to hear this. If you think someone you know should hear it, please share it. Thank you for continuing to listen... Website: www.raymolina.com • IG/TikTok: @itsraymolina • Youtube: www.youtube.com/@theperfectmesspod

Mar 13, 202301:01:52

90 Seconds of Inspiration • If You’re Blessed Enough…

Responsibility doesn’t come lightly but it does mean you may have a calling…

Mar 01, 202301:31

Ep. #96 - “You’ve Got Some Nerve” (LTAI)

Let’s talk about childhood trauma, and how it gets passed down from generation to generation. This one may staying a little bit but it’s necessary. I hope if it hits home for somebody you share it. Thanks for listening. My website is www.raymolina.com and my IG is @itsraymolina

Feb 23, 202323:32

Ep. #95 - Two Things (LTAI)

Two things, two things...lets talk about it! Stop complaining about shit being hard and choose your damn hard before it chooses you...cause trust me, it will be over before you know it and they will quickly forget about you. If this short one hits you...please share it with someone. Thanks for listening and please check out my website: www.raymolina.com I'm also on IG & TikTok: @itsraymolina

Feb 09, 202332:60

Ep. #94 - Daily Thanks (LTAI)

Why do I say, "Thank you Lord for another day, Amen" everyday? Let's talk about it...if this hits ya, please share it with someone. Also, follow me on IG/TikTok: @itsraymolina and my website is: www.raymolina.com

Feb 06, 202326:08

Ep. #93 - Piecing Your Puzzle

"When we can't piece together the puzzle of our own lives, remember the best view is from above. Let HIM help put you together." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Let's catch up...let's talk Jordan Peterson, Books, Training, Parenting, and putting life's puzzle together as we navigate through. If you enjoy this episode please share it and do not forget to check out my website here: www.raymolina.com and follow me on IG & TikTok: @itsraymolina

Jan 31, 202301:09:39

Ep. #92 - New Career...? (Audio Blog)

I view my life differently than most folks when it comes to what I do to earn a living. Not very traditional, but I think it keeps me learning and to be honest...young. Hope you enjoy this blog I wrote for my website www.raymolina.com that I now bring to you in audio format. Thanks!

Jan 30, 202305:23

90 Seconds of Inspiration • “When Change Has Come”

I hope this helps somebody who is trying to find change in their life and working hard every day. If this inspires you, please make sure to subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple, as well as YouTube. Please make sure to follow me on Instagram @itsraymolina or bookmark my website at www.raymolina.com

Jan 12, 202301:31

90 Seconds of Inspiration • “Just Be…”

Sometimes it’s good just to sit and do absolutely nothing… and just be.

Jan 09, 202301:31

Ep. #91 - “Fear is Healthy” (LTAI)

Be wary of those around you who say they live with no fear. It’s important to have a healthy level of fear to stay on your toes and be alert and aware that anything could happen at any time. I hope this message get through to you and if you like it and thinking somebody should hear it. Please share it. You can also follow me on Instagram @itsraymolina and my website is www.raymolina.com

Jan 05, 202316:54

Ep. #90 - "Nobody Gives A Sh*t" (LTAI)

If you find yourself being contacted by someone who cannot let go of the past...and I am talking about years, 10, 15, 20, 25 years ago...you need to walk. Protect your energy, your sanity...after so many years most people don't give a shit anymore. If they do then its a good bet they've struggled their entire lives. If this episode hits home for you, please share it with someone. I hate to start the new year off with this one, but it needed to be said so you start fresh! Enjoy...please check out the website at www.raymolina.com

Jan 02, 202317:38

Ep. #89 - “Perspective” (LTAI)

Every now and again, we get these little reminders that tell us to put things in perspective with regards to our lives. I hope this hits home for somebody and if it does, please share it and remember you can always check out everything I do on my website www.raymolina.com.

Dec 29, 202216:03

90 Seconds of Inspiration • “Educate”

A lot has changed with me and a lot of that has to do with educating myself daily.

Dec 29, 202201:31

Ep. #88 - “PRIDE” (Audio Blog)

I deal with pride like most men. It used to really control my life. I’ve had to learn to control it. If this hits home for you, please share it and remember you can always read it and text format on my website at www.raymolina.com.

Dec 28, 202206:45

Ep. #87 - "Calm Under Pressure"

"True character is revealed in the choices a human being makes under pressure - the greater the pressure, the deeper the revelation, the truer the choice to the character's essential nature". - Robert McKeet

In this episode I catch you up on a few things going on in my life w/regards to learning to repair my own car, my sons learning new hustles, old friends who've come home better than ever on down to new books and coffee with a loved one. In my case, my Pastor.

The meat of the message on this one is about handling a recent situation at a baseball field that got ugly fast and how my checkered past actually came in handy...I hope you enjoy this one and if you do; please share it!

Thanks for listening... www.raymolina.com - @itsraymolina

Dec 08, 202201:01:18