Therapy Thoughts

Tiffany Roe Episode 58 - Attachment Styles

Attachment styles are hugely influential in our lives as they shape the way we seek relationships with others throughout life. Our styles, secure or insecure, have been greatly influenced by the way we connected to our caregivers in early life. In today’s episode, we talk about the difference between the two styles, their types, and transitioning from an insecure to a secure attachment style. More importantly, I discuss how healing from core attachment wounds can be possible even at a later age.

• The difference between secure and insecure types of attachment .
• How you can transition from an insecure to a secure attachment style.
• Discussing Mary Ainsworth’s and the Strange Situation.
• How you can heal your core attachment wounds.
• How insecure attachment can affect your life.

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses self-harm and specific means and ways folks may self-harm. This is intended to be an educational and supportive episode. It covers what self-harm is. It covers myths, stigma, statistics, the window of tolerance and how to cope in our individual trauma states. This episode offers suggestions for steps to take if you are struggling with self-harm. It also has suggestions for those of you who love someone struggling with self-harm.

Welcome to psych class. We're talking about anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa. Get my therapy thoughts on these two serious and deadly eating disorders. Let's spread the education, empathy, and mental health support for eating disorders!

Welcome to season 4! Let's talk about the Validation CURE! If you're loving the podcast, subscribe and share.

Just when you thought we had released all the episodes until next season we have another Bonus Episode for you! This is an amazing social justice oriented episode between Lindo Bacon and Tiffany.

Can't wait to see you soon for Season 4 of Therapy Thoughts!

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More About Lindo Bacon:

Dr. Lindo Bacon is a researcher and former professor, and for nearly two decades taught courses in social justice, health, weight, and nutrition. Dr. Bacon holds a Ph.D. in physiology with a specialty in nutrition, and master’s degrees in psychology and exercise metabolism. Dr. Bacon has mined their deep academic proficiency, their clinical expertise, and their personal experience to write two bestselling books, Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight, and the co-authored Body Respect: What Conventional Health Books Get Wrong, Leave Out, or Just Plain Fail to Understand about Weight. Their newly released book, Radical Belonging: How to Survive and Thrive in an Unjust World (While Transforming it for the Better), takes their inspiring message beyond size, to shaping a culture of empathy, equity, and true belonging.

In this episode of Therapy Thoughts Tiffany chats with Lauren Newman, RD, LD to discuss all things diabetes and its intersection with mental health and intuitive eating. Lauren talks to us all about how diabetes works, the differences in the types of diabetes, and gives some amazing analogies for how bodies with diabetes function. They also discuss the idea of the big picture of health and how health for diabetics is about more than just blood sugar levels. This is a great episode you don't want to miss!

More About Lauren:

Lauren Newman is a Registered Dietitian passionate about helping individuals with Diabetes make peace with food and their bodies. Lauren uses a Health at Every Size approach, and intuitive eating principles to help clients connect with their body’s needs and learn to respond without rigidity, restriction, or shame.

On this episode of Therapy Thoughts, Tiffany spends time talking to Kimberley Quinlan. Kimberley is not only one of Tiffany's friends but is a stellar OCD therapist and she comes this week to break all of the OCD stigma down and talk about what recovery from OCD looks like! They talk about every OCD and also how self compassion comes into play. And they also cover the three most important words: "Not Happening Now." Also the two cover CBT, medication, as well as exposure and response prevention (ERP) treatment. You don't want to miss this episode!

More About Kimberley Quinlan:

TRIGGER AND CONTENT WARNING: PHYSICAL ABUSE, TORTURE, SEXUAL ABUSE, SUICIDE

This is a deep and emotional episode of Therapy Thoughts this week. Tiffany spoke with Nathan Winterton about his experiences growing up gay in the Mormon Church and his direct experiences with conversion therapy and suicide. There are graphic and detailed descriptions of conversion therapy and suicide in this episode so please listen to this episode when you are in a place to do so and have coping skills available to you. Nathan also talks to Tiffany about how he's doing now living his truth. And how he is now happy and on a life journey. This episode is an amazing interview that you don't want to miss. 

More About Nathan:

Nate Winterton is 25 years old. He was born in Salt Lake City, UT and raised in the Mormon faith. He is a suicide survivor, a conversion therapy survivor, and gay. He is a public speaker on suicide awareness, LGBTQ+ awareness, and self-love.

On this episode of Therapy Thoughts, Dr. Courtney Tracy joins Tiffany Roe to talk about Substance Abuse, Mindfulness, and Living our Truth. They talk about the intricacies of substance abuse and recovery. They also talk about mindfulness and listening to where we're at. Dr. Tracy challenges us to think outside the box of traditional substance abuse recovery and this conversation is GOOD! 

More About Dr. Courtney Tracy:

Dr. Courtney Tracy, known as "The Truth Doctor" on social media, is an addiction and mindfulness expert. She fuses the stimulating intelligence of a research-informed Psy.D. with the honesty of a true friend and the compassion of a loving mother. Dr. Tracy has been using her talents to develop, run and create space for programs from non-profit agencies to luxury high-profile treatment centers to her own community-based adult addiction clinic called Good Heart Recovery. Since obtaining both her LCSW license to practice and her doctoral level degree, she's been featured in numerous news outlets. Always leaving us wanting more, Dr. Tracy is known as "the AOC of therapy" and she's changing the game.

On this episode of Therapy Thoughts, Tiffany and Anna Sweeney, MS, RD, LDN, CEDRD-S sit down to talk about Anna's work and her life with chronic illness. They talk about body acceptance and body neutrality and how they differ and are the same. They also talk about body wisdom and how we need to not outsource it but listen to it and tap in wholly. They discuss trusting our bodies and how hard that can be. And they also talk about diets that claim to cure uncurable illnesses - how these can be triggers for eating disorders and disordered eating. This episode is packed with so much amazing content!

More About Anna:

Anna Sweeney, MS, RD, LDN, CEDRD-S is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Supervisor, Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor and owner of Whole Life Nutrition Counseling, a weight inclusive nutrition therapy practice dedicated to the thoughtful treatment of eating disorders, disordered eating, and body image concerns. Anna practices nutrition care from a Health at Every Size lens, is dedicated to empowering her clients to notice and refute the influence of diet culture in their lives, and understands that nutrition and interaction with food is both unique and personal.  Anna is also a full-time disabled person and uses her lived experience to enhance the work she does.

This week Tiffany sits down to talk all things Binge Eating Disorder (BED) with Jennifer Rollin. Jennifer Rollin works regularly as a therapist for clients with BED and brings A LOT of expertise to this conversation. Also, the two talk about stigma surrounding mental health support for therapists in the field. This is a great episode if you or someone you know is struggling with bingeing in any form. There is no restrictions on who suffers from binge eating and deserves help. As Jennifer says, "if you're bingeing, you're sick enough."

More About Jennifer:

Jennifer Rollin is an eating disorder therapist and founder of The Eating Disorder Center. She has been interviewed speaking about eating disorders on ABC, NBC, PBS, and NBC. She has been named as one of the top eating disorder experts in the country.

You do not want to miss this episode! In this episode Tiffany talks all about one of the most important things in the mental health game! She talks AFFIRMATIONS! And she walks you through several affirmations. 

In this episode of Therapy Thoughts, Tiffany talks with another one of her friends, Kimberly Anderson. Kimberly talks about her life growing up Mormon and transgender. She speaks about how therapy saved her life but also how therapy could have been a dangerous experience for her in her teenage years. She talks about suicidality for LGBTQIA+ youth and adults as well. She speaks about the various trauma marginalized folks experience daily and how this can affect mental health. And Kimberly also tells us that the best taco truck is the one you're in front of at the moment. 

More About Kimberly:

Kimberly Anderson is a transgender woman working as a Marriage and Family Therapist in Utah and California. Kimberly has a history working in residential Eating Disorder and Behavioral Health in California, and is currently working with the transgender and queer community in Utah through Flourish Therapy.

In this episode of Therapy Thoughts, Tiffany talks with her friend, Neena Warburton about her values and her faith. Neena gives us great insight into how she lives intentionally through her values and the action steps she takes daily to focus on mindfulness and self care. She also talks directly about her faith and how she grew up Mormon and how she follows her faith today. Tiffany and Neena talk about the innerworkings of self care and mental health care and also some ways to support kids and teenagers today.

More About Neena:

Neena is a former School Psychologist (BS, EdS, NCSP) turned stay at home mom to four kids 11 and under, entrepreneur, and parent educator. She focuses her life around making an impact in the world, whether it’s through her health and charity company, at home with her children, or in the lives of parents or caregivers seeking advice and support in their lives. She's passionate about raising a generation of adults and children that are more emotionally aware and adaptive to influence the world for the better!

In this episode of Therapy Thoughts Tiffany walks you through ten original tips for navigating family relationships at all ages and in all relationships. She discusses parenting your inner child and setting boundaries with in-laws. This episode is a must listen as we head into the holiday season and family gatherings. 

In this episode of Therapy Thoughts, Tiffany talks with her friend, Darryl Dzapasi about his journey to Self Love and growth from a place of severe pain. Darryl takes us through the pain he suffered from and how he came to where he is today. He also leaves us with tips for loving ourselves and some tangible actions to take. 

More About Darryl:

In this episode of Therapy Thoughts, Tiffany talks with Sarah Landry @thebirdspapaya about her body neutrality journey after having her first three kids. Where she started and where her journey took her. Then they move on to talk about the intricacies of body positivity. And lastly, they talk about Sarah's new pregnancy and her current life surrounding that experience. 

More About Sarah:

Sarah Nicole Landry is a mom of three – pregnant with her fourth! – who loves cultivating powerful social media conversations around life and our experiences in it. Sarah is a body confidence activist, speaker, writer, 3x cover girl, and weekly podcast host. Her lifestyle includes approximately 12,000 unanswered emails and peanut butter straight from the jar.

In this episode of Therapy Thoughts, Tiffany talks ADHD with Jaklin Levine-Pritzker. Jaklin works with womxn and non-binary folx* to through 1:1 coaching, group coaching, monthly membership, and soon to be retreats and in person events. Tiffany and Jaklin talk about Jaklin's own experiences with ADHD, misconceptions around ADHD, and medication for ADHD. Jaklin leaves the audience with 5 tips for how to thrive with ADHD. It is clear from this episode that ADHD is both a huge strength + superpower AND really challenging in the context of today's world. ADHD often presents much different than what we think about in 12-year-old, white boys. There is a need for more understanding within the mental health and medical system.

More About Jaklin:

Jak is a 28 year entrepreneur who empowers ADHD womxn + non binary folx* to embrace their strengths and work through challenges in community. She does this through 1:1 coaching, group coaching, monthly membership, and soon to be retreats + in person events. Jak is passionate about normalizing and depathologizing what it means to be human, especially a neurodiverse human. 

In this episode of Therapy Thoughts, Tiffany breaks down the best ways to support someone struggling with an eating disorder. She shares her own personal experiences with outside support during her eating disorder and shares several resources for listeners to check out to learn more. If you want a better idea of how to support your friends, family, etc. suffering from an eating disorder this episode is a great place to start. 

In this episode of Therapy Thoughts, Tiffany sits down to talk with Eli Weinstein all about men's mental health and the inherent difficulties and paint points for men in therapy. Eli is a therapist based in New York who works with clients all across the spectrum of gender, sexual orientation, age, and more. 

More About Eli:

Hi, my name is Eli Weinstein, LMSW. I am a Social Work therapist who has worked in a psych hospital, intense outpatient clinic and currently work in a community clinic in queens. I have gone through my own struggles with anxiety, ADHD, infertility and men’s issues (being a new dad, body image issues, relationships, and general self-esteem/confidence) My main goal is to help people on their journey to add support, care, empathy, expertise, and insight.

In this episode of Therapy Thoughts Tiffany tells the story of her own faith transition away from Mormonism. She gets very personal and takes us through her process and decisions and ultimately her transition away. In the second part of the episode, Tiffany shares her top 10 tips for navigating a faith transition. She's adamant that it is not an easy process and that it takes time and a lot of feeling your feelings. The information in this podcast applies to all faith transitions and not just ones involving Mormonism.

In this episode, Tiffany meets to talk with Dr. Colleen Reichmann (@drcolleenreichmann) about so many topics. They start off talking about the struggle of recovery and mental health during the COVID19 pandemic. Dr. Reichmann breaks down some ways we can all practice self care during this pandemic. The two move on to discuss wellness diet culture and toxic fitness culture too. They share their own experiences and call out problematic behavior in the wellness community. Dr. Reichmann and Tiffany share about the difficulties of sharing their infertility stories and why doing so in a public space, like the internet, can be so taxing. Lastly, Dr. Reichmann gives us a hint at what her new book "The Inside Scoop on Eating Disorder Recovery: Advice from Two Therapists Who Have Been There" (co-authored with Jennifer Rollins) will be about when it's released in March 2021! She leaves us with a message of hope that recovery is possible and that eating disorders go deeper than food.

In this episode, Tiffany meets to talk with Nia Patterson (@thefriendineverwanted) about what recovery has been like for her in a fat, marginalized body. She tells us about the discrimination she received in treatment and how her treatment team encouraged her to maintain a downward trending weight. She talks about how she overcomes those internalized thoughts and also attacks from trolls online. We also discuss body positivity and how it differs from self-love and positive body image. Nia also lays out some action steps for those of us wanting to challenge your internalized fatphobia and society's diet culture.