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The Unfairer Sex

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We are The Unfairer Sex. Four women, four glasses of wine and a whole world of problems to navigate. Yes, there’s going to be some rage, but there’s also going to be a hell of a lot of laughing, learning, catharsis and camaraderie along the way. So grab a glass of wine and join us.


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Episode 30: Motherhood & Feminism

The Unfairer SexMay 29, 2023

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Episode 30: Motherhood & Feminism

Episode 30: Motherhood & Feminism

Today’s episode covers the topic of pregnancy, motherhood and all the fun stuff that comes from having a baby, not having a baby, the complex relationship between feminism and the pregnant body, certain taboos around being a stay at home parent and everything in between.


Even if you don't have children, this is a fun episode for all those perceived to be capable of having children, and the pressures society places on women to uphold patriarchal structures and gender roles under the guise of marriage and motherhood.

And to top things off, our SWDYS section covers an (un)pleasant exchange in a garden centre carpark and the stats that debunk the uneducated jibe that 'women are worst drivers' – spoiler alert, we're not...


Enjoy!

May 29, 202301:24:47
Episode 29: Sexy but Psycho with Dr Jessica Taylor

Episode 29: Sexy but Psycho with Dr Jessica Taylor

After a brief hiatus, due to work, moving house and various life things, we are back with QUITE the episode!

This week we speak with Jessica Taylor FRSA. Jessica is a British feminist author and campaigner. She is a Chartered Psychologist, Sunday Times bestselling author and Director of VictimFocus.

Her books include 'Why Women Are Blamed For Everything' and 'Sexy but Psycho', and her most recent manual – the Indicative Trauma Impact Manual. It is the world’s first completely trauma-informed manual of its kind! It's designed to indicate, respond to, and understand every kind of human trauma and emotion.

In this episode we talk to Jessica about her work around understanding trauma, the way women are over diagnosed with mental illness and depression, and the knock on effect of that over diagnosis and the medication they subsequently take.

We also discuss the roles women take in society, including witches and bitches and the ways women have been categorised throughout history.

This is a fabulous episode that we really enjoyed recording and we hope you enjoy it as much as we did!

May 01, 202301:39:24
Episode 28: Her Prime for What?

Episode 28: Her Prime for What?

We had plans this week but sometimes plans don't...well....go to plan. So Rhiannon and Ely sat down for an impromptu chat about the things that made their blood boil this week — namely, a series of public-facing misogynostic trope. Topics include: > The incredibly sexist comment by Alan Sugar on The Apprentice which inexplicably didn't make the headlines. > It being suggested that Rihanna is "wearing the trousers" in her relationship, how downtrodden that makes her male partner, and what being a "wife" means in society. > Don Lemon citing Google as his source for 'knowing' women over 40 aren't in their prime anymore. > The insane situation where Tucker Carlson (and others) lost it at the video posted by Chelsea Handler showing her "day in life of a childless woman". Finally, we talk about how sexist remarks making headlines and going unchallenged on national TV is worth getting angry about, because it has a direct impact on the way people behave towards women and girls in the real world.
Feb 27, 202350:54
Episode 27: Take Your Seat at the Table with Maryam Monsef
Feb 13, 202301:22:34
Episode 26: Financial Independence with Lena Patel

Episode 26: Financial Independence with Lena Patel

Next up in our guest series is Lena Patel – multi award winning Chartered Financial Planner at ISJ Financial Planning Ltd and Financial Adviser of the Year at the Growth Investor Awards. Lena joins us on The Unfairer Sex podcast to discuss financial independence, the impact of the sandwich generation and how we need to reframe how we think about money. 

**PLEASE NOTE** the contents of the episode will share stories and general information on financial planning only. With this in mind, if something we talk about resonates with your personal situation, this is purely coincidental. Everything we discuss will be non-specific to individual needs and before any action is taken by listeners, we recommend you seek professional advice and conduct your own independent research on your financial situation. Should you require more information about UK pensions, benefits or other financial-specific information, we recommend heading to the UK Government website for the latest updates. If you seek more specialist advice for your finances, we recommend heading to Unbias.co.uk to find your local financial advisor – or reach out to Lena at ISJ Financial Planning.


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Links from the episode:

https://uksaysnomore.org/uk-says-no-more-joins-forces-with-hsbc-uk-for-financial-abuse-campaign/

Women regret divorce less than men, Paul Dolan

https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/healthandsocialcare/healthandwellbeing/articles/morethanoneinfoursandwichcarersreportsymptomsofmentalillhealth/2019-01-14

https://www.unbiased.co.uk/news/financial-adviser/women-lag-behind-men-in-pension-planning

https://www.insuringwomensfutures.co.uk/uploads/2018/10/Womens-pensions-life-journey-23-10-c6.pdf

Jan 30, 202301:28:55
Episode 25: Diet Culture

Episode 25: Diet Culture

**Trigger warning** – In this episode we discuss body image, diets, eating disorders and disordered eating. Please consider this when choosing whether to listen to this episode. 

How many times have you found yourself readjusting your clothing or glancing in a reflective surface, judging yourself and criticising one thing or another? 

And have you ever asked yourself why you do it? 

This week we discuss diet culture, what it is and where it came from. We discuss the endless images of "perfection" juxtaposed with pictures of celebrities with some perceived flaw circled for us all to see, judge and worry about in ourselves. 

We touch on the way diet culture focuses on white western beauty standards, that this does not account for intersectionality, race or different socio economic backgrounds etc. We also openly discuss our feelings on our own bodies, diet and food as anecdotal evidence of the way diet culture has effected us and those around us.

In our "Sorry, what did you say?" we tear apart a comment about women not wanting to do "dirty and dangerous" work. This one got us riled up…


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Links from the episode:

https://www.dove.com/us/en/stories/about-dove/our-vision.html

https://www.nytimes.com/1991/01/02/garden/the-90-s-woman-how-fat-is-fat.html

Jan 16, 202301:28:44
Episode 24: Christmas – Less Belles, More Balls
Dec 19, 202201:19:39
Episode 23: Feminist Cities, Downblousing and Early Years Funding

Episode 23: Feminist Cities, Downblousing and Early Years Funding

Episode 23 explores three feminist stories – Glasgow becoming the UK's first feminist city, early years funding being missed off the Autumn budget and the criminalisation of 'Downblousing’ & the sharing of pornographic deepfakes in England and Wales. 

We are also honoured to share Martine's 'sorry, what did you say' moment. Sadly, her story remains a persistent problem in the workplace for many, even twenty years later. We hope by sharing Martine's ballsy retort, you'll gain the courage to meet misogyny head on next time it happens to you! And if nothing else, we've all gained a new mantra for life – what would Martine do?

Enjoy!

 

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Links from the episode:


Feminist Cities

https://www.euronews.com/culture/2022/11/07/glasgow-set-to-become-the-uks-first-feminist-city

https://vidhilegalpolicy.in/research/making-a-feminist-city-planning-safety-and-autonomy-for-women/


Early Years Funding

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/oct/18/pay-child-uk-childcare

https://pregnantthenscrewed.com/

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/jun/15/childcare-costs-women-britain-work-mothers

https://www.turn2us.org.uk/Your-Situation/Bringing-up-a-child

https://www.pwc.co.uk/economic-services/WIWI/women-in-work-2021-executive-summary.pdf


Downblousing and Pornographic Deepfakes

https://www.itv.com/news/2022-11-25/downblousing-and-sharing-of-pornographic-deepfakes-to-be-criminalised

https://www.cps.gov.uk/legal-guidance/voyeurism

https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2022/nov/24/keir-starmer-pledges-zero-tolerance-violence-women-girls

Dec 05, 202201:14:41
Episode 22: Feminist Foreign Policy with Kristina Lunz
Nov 22, 202258:03
Episode 21: Waves of Feminism with Patricia Hodgins

Episode 21: Waves of Feminism with Patricia Hodgins

Ever wondered where the bra-burning barren feminist trope came from? Turns out, it all started with the Freedom Trash Can and one rouge bra that made headlines. 

And we're pleased to say, that wasn't the only thing that's made headlines when it came to feminism!

Over the next 90mins, you have the absolute pleasure of listening to stories from life-long feminist Patricia Hodgins – an incredible woman who once invited Ely to a sex shop. Not only are we taking you on a journey through the wave of feminism, this episode get into the nitty gritty of c***s, lycra and the power of effective communication. Not one to be missed! 


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https://www.wob.com/en-gb/books/anne-dickson/woman-in-your-own-right/9780715654545

https://www.womensweb.in/2020/12/the-gaali-project-tamanna-mishra-neha-thakur-dec20wk1sr/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=clPeyJ7ZHSQ

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-45303069

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-63401193

https://www.amnesty.org/en/latest/news/2022/10/iran-at-least-82-baluchi-protesters-and-bystanders-killed-in-bloody-crackdown/#:~:text=Iranian%20security%20forces%20unlawfully%20killed,Zahedan%2C%20Sistan%20and%20Baluchistan%20province%2C


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As always, The Unfairer Sex is not sponsored so, if you liked our show, please show your support by liking, subscribing and sharing on all your favourite social media platforms! We'll send you positive vibes for being awesome human beings and helping us spread the word.

The Unfairer Sex music was masterfully created by Artur Kondas: https://akondas.com

Research, editing and artwork fulfilled by The Unfairer Sex.


Nov 07, 202201:30:27
Episode 20: Politics of Masculinity with Steve Roberts

Episode 20: Politics of Masculinity with Steve Roberts

Why is the study of men, and the social the constructs of what being "a man" is, important to feminism? And why are the women at the Unfairer Sex talking about it? The simple answer – men being expected to behave in a particular way has a direct impact on the way women are expected to behave. 


This week we have the pleasure of hosting Steve Roberts, a Professor at the School of Education Culture and Society, Monash University. He is a sociologist who specialises in youth studies and critical studies of men and masculinities. He discusses the impact that growing up with an abusive step parent had on him, his views on toxic masculinity and how he broke what could have been the cycle of abuse. We also explore elements of his research – looking at politics of masculinity and the promotion of healthy/positive masculinities among boys & men to help tackle harmful masculine norms & achieve greater gender equality.


The first in a series of The Unfairer Professor,  Steve will appear in the future on The Unfairer Sex to give his academic opinion and views on the things we discuss as well as interview us about our experiences of sexist behaviour.


*Just to note, we experienced a little tech problem around 30mins in so please forgive the slight change in volumes! Everything Steve said was all super important so we didn't want to leave anything out.*


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https://research.monash.edu/en/persons/steven-roberts

https://twitter.com/SteveRoberts_

https://lens.monash.edu/2021/04/28/1383148/a-very-personal-call-to-action-for-non-violent-men-to-denounce-mens-violence

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As always, The Unfairer Sex is not sponsored so, if you liked our show, please show your support by liking, subscribing and sharing on all your favourite social media platforms! We'll send you positive vibes for being awesome human beings and helping us spread the word.

The Unfairer Sex music was masterfully created by Artur Kondas: https://akondas.com

Research, editing and artwork fulfilled by The Unfairer Sex.




Oct 24, 202201:17:22
Episode 19: Ladies First the Musical with Alice Johnstone

Episode 19: Ladies First the Musical with Alice Johnstone

Ladies First The Musical is a new musical based on the life of the first female doctor in the UK: Elizabeth Garrett Anderson. And we were beyond excited to have the feminist icon, composer and writer Alice Johnstone on our podcast to talk more about her work. During this episode, we learn more about the lives of Elizabeth, her sister Millicent Fawcett and Emily Davies, as well as take a look at the Women's Health Strategy for England and the knock-on effect of women's experiences being ignored in healthcare.

What's more, we are feeling pretty bloody lucky to be able to share a behind the scenes listen to one of the hits from the musical itself!

We hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did.


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www.alicejohnstonemusic.com

www.ladiesfirstthemusical.com

https://api.parliament.uk/historic-hansard/commons/1867/may/20/clauses-3-4-progress-may-17#column_817

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/womens-health-strategy-for-england/womens-health-strategy-for-england


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As always, The Unfairer Sex is not sponsored so, if you liked our show, please show your support by liking, subscribing and sharing on all your favourite social media platforms! We'll send you positive vibes for being awesome human beings and helping us spread the word.

The Unfairer Sex music was masterfully created by Artur Kondas: https://akondas.com

Research, editing and artwork fulfilled by The Unfairer Sex.

Oct 10, 202201:38:41
Episode 18: Equality in sport with Michaela Breeze

Episode 18: Equality in sport with Michaela Breeze

There have been many successes for women in sport in the last couple of months. This success, notoriety and the subsequent media attention has attracted criticism – with some believing men are having resources pulled to give women an unfair advantage.

In the second in our guest host series we were super lucky to speak with GB Olympic weightlifter Michaela Breeze about what it's like to be an athlete at the top of your game in a male dominated sport. 

Breeze is one of the most successful female weightlifters in UK history. As well as coaching lifters of all sizes, shapes and ages, she is well known for commentating at various events including Rio Olympics and Tokyo Olympics and is currently training for the IWF World Masters Championships later this year. What's more, Breeze is a proud mum of three!

This episode builds on our equality in sport episode (Ep.8) and follows Breeze's experiences of men reacting to her success, how she continues to overcome criticism and what tips she has about learning from and supporting others in sport.

We hope you enjoy the conversation as much as we did!


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https://www.instagram.com/michaelabreeze/

https://powerposition.co.uk/

https://www.instagram.com/twomumswithtwinsplus1/

Gribbles Butchers in Ivybridge, Devon sadly closed in 2021. 


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As always, The Unfairer Sex is not sponsored so, if you liked our show, please show your support by liking, subscribing and sharing on all your favourite social media platforms! We'll send you positive vibes for being awesome human beings and helping us spread the word.

The Unfairer Sex music was masterfully created by Artur Kondas: https://akondas.com

Research, editing and artwork fulfilled by The Unfairer Sex.

Sep 26, 202201:04:54
Episode 17: Modern Women with Bonnie Hatcher

Episode 17: Modern Women with Bonnie Hatcher

In the words of Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics, “We do have some good longitudinal data following the same people over time, but I am going to do a massive disservice to that science and just say: if you’re a man, you should probably get married; if you’re a woman, don’t bother.” 

Data has suggested that women are happier without children or a spouse, whilst men benefit greatly from the addition of a wife. Despite marriage being a two-way street, the grass being a little greener on one side has often come down to an inequality within relationships. Women have brought emotional maturity, continue to take on more of the unpaid childcare and domestic work and suffer in the bedroom when it comes to the orgasm gap.  

Skip forward to the year 2022 and women's liberation has seen a shape rise in the initiation of divorces and an increase in the number of women choosing to remain single, child-free and unmarried. 

As part of our guest series, we invited Bonnie Hatcher, Managing Director of ZAG drinks, to join us for a conversation around choice, being the 91% and female empowerment. We discuss a growing intolerance to low standards in relationships, greater financial freedoms and fertility options for women, and the pure joy of taking yourself out of the dating market.  We hope you enjoy listening as much as we enjoyed recording. 


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As always, The Unfairer Sex is not sponsored so, if you liked our show, please show your support by liking, subscribing and sharing on all your favourite social media platforms! We'll send you positive vibes for being awesome human beings and helping us spread the word. 

The Unfairer Sex music was masterfully created by Artur Kondas: https://akondas.com 

Research, editing and artwork fulfilled by The Unfairer Sex. 


Useful links: 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-state-our-unions/202208/the-rise-lonely-single-men 

https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20220511-why-women-file-for-divorce-more-than-men 

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/may/25/women-happier-without-children-or-a-spouse-happiness-expert

Sep 12, 202201:29:57
Episode 16: Believe Women

Episode 16: Believe Women

Why is it, when a man is trailed by rumours of sexual harassment and assault, or their behaviour reaches the level of a "despicable open secret," we are so quick to dismiss women and protect men? 

This episode explores some of the reasons why women aren't believed and why it takes upwards of 10, 20, 60 women to come forward before an accusation is taken seriously, or 50+ UK MPs to be currently under investigation for sexual misconduct before we believe there might be a systemic problem. 

We look to the likes of Johnson, Trump, Weinstein, Cosby, R. Kelly and Saville to show how accusations against some of the most powerful men in the world are dubbed as 'piffle', 'conspiracy theories' or just another excuse for a dumb gold digger to make a quick buck.  This week's SWDYS is a sobering experience from one of the panellists.  

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Helpful links:  

https://www.gov.uk/government/consultations/creating-an-offence-of-public-sexual-harassment/public-sexual-harassment-consultation https://www.newyorker.com/news/news-desk/from-aggressive-overtures-to-sexual-assault-harvey-weinsteins-accusers-tell-their-stories  https://www.npr.org/2020/01/22/798222176/the-harvey-weinstein-trial-a-brief-timeline-of-how-we-got-here?t=1661807267895 https://www.axios.com/2017/12/15/the-hints-of-weinsteins-behavior-that-went-ignored-1513306130 https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/11/business/weinstein-company.html https://www.theguardian.com/media/2017/apr/01/bill-oreilly-fox-news-sexual-harassment-settlements https://www.washingtonpost.com/posteverything/wp/2014/11/13/bill-cosby-raped-me-why-did-it-take-30-years-for-people-to-believe-my-story/ https://www.vox.com/identities/2019/10/4/20852639/me-too-movement-sexual-harassment-law-2019 https://www.vox.com/2015/7/26/9044867/bill-cosby-new-york-magazine https://www.latimes.com/entertainment/la-et-bill-cosby-timeline-htmlstory.html  https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/arts-and-entertainment/wp/2018/05/03/camille-cosby-in-the-case-of-bill-cosby-unproven-accusations-evolved-into-lynch-mobs/  https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2019/jul/08/jeffrey-epstein-sex-abuse-allegations-started-2005-explained https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2016/oct/13/list-of-donald-trump-sexual-misconduct-allegations https://www.businessinsider.com/women-accused-trump-sexual-misconduct-list-2017-12?r=US&IR=T#ivana-trump-2 https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2019/sep/29/no-10-denies-claims-boris-johnson-squeezed-thigh-journalist-charlotte-edwardes https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2022/apr/28/is-there-no-end-to-tory-mps-sexual-misconduct https://gen.medium.com/why-dont-good-men-believe-women-23be0ce607c9 https://www.harpersbazaar.com/uk/culture/a33497652/why-do-we-believe-some-women-and-not-others/ https://www.nytimes.com/2017/11/28/opinion/metoo-sexual-harassment-believe-women.html

Aug 29, 202201:28:22
Episode 15: Nipples. To free or not to free?

Episode 15: Nipples. To free or not to free?

For as long as our bodies have been clothed, breasts have been a point of contention. Our nipples even more so. In this episode we explore the double standard when it comes to sexually promiscuity, how breasts are used in art and marketing to sell consumer goods but a picture of a woman breast-feeding on a magazine cover, instagram feed or park bench is considered unsavoury, and how women are expected to lead with their boobs or their brain, but never both. We also consider the age at which girls are asked to start covering their torsos and the sexualisation of girls at school, and question if there's ever a right time to tell a female body to cover itself. 

Have a listen and reach out to us on Instagram, Twitter or email to let us know your thoughts.


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As always, The Unfairer Sex is not sponsored so, if you liked our show, please show your support by liking, subscribing and sharing on all your favourite social media platforms! We'll send you positive vibes for being awesome human beings and helping us spread the word.     The Unfairer Sex music was masterfully created by Artur Kondas: https://akondas.com

Research, editing and artwork fulfilled by The Unfairer Sex.


Useful links:

@genderless_nipples project 

https://www.harpersbazaar.com/celebrity/latest/a40575630/florence-pugh-responds-criticism-free-nipple-valentino-show/

https://startsat60.com/media/news/breast-cancer-ad-that-actually-shows-boobs-goes-viral

https://www.theguardian.com/media/2022/may/11/adidas-sports-bra-ads-banned-uk-twitter-asa 

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/waitwhy-do-my-nipples-need-to-be-freed_b_574e0d38e4b0068c40dfa4dc

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/04/17/style/student-bra-nipples-school.html

https://time.com/3892965/everydaysexism-school-dress-codes-rape-culture/

https://law.justia.com/cases/federal/district-courts/FSupp/919/1496/1580969/ 

https://bpr.berkeley.edu/2014/05/04/dress-codes-foundations-of-rape-culture/

https://breaking-down-patriarchy.captivate.fm/episode/girls-and-sex-by-peggy-orenstein

Https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/review-of-sexual-abuse-in-schools-and-colleges/review-of-sexual-abuse-in-schools-and-colleges#fnref:12

https://www.tate.org.uk/art/artworks/guerrilla-girls-do-women-have-to-be-naked-to-get-into-the-met-museum-p78793


Aug 15, 202201:30:53
Episode 14: Abuse isn't always physical

Episode 14: Abuse isn't always physical

Picture someone suffering from domestic violence. Do they have bruises? Is their partner clenching a fist? Are they sitting next to you at work volunteering for overtime because they can’t keep up with their partner’s spending?

Domestic violence takes many forms. It isn’t always physical. It isn’t always obvious. 

It is always impactful. It is always unacceptable.

This episode of The Unfairer Sex unpacks some of the less well known forms of domestic violence like financial and psychological abuse. We talk through how we can identify the symptoms and support each other to take action to quash domestic violence against women and girls. Let’s celebrate the advances we have made with awareness, the Domestic Abuse Act 2021 and next steps with The Unfairer Sex.


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The Unfairer Sex is not sponsored so, if you liked our show, please show your support by liking, subscribing and sharing on all your favourite social media platforms! We'll send you positive vibes for being awesome human beings and helping us spread the word.

The Unfairer Sex music was masterfully created by Artur Kondas: https://akondas.com

Research, editing and artwork fulfilled by The Unfairer Sex.

Aug 01, 202201:20:07
Episode 13: Princess Problems

Episode 13: Princess Problems

The Walt Disney Company – home to Marvel Studios, Lucasfilm and the much loved Pixar and Walt Disney Pictures animated movies. And it is from these animations that many of us learnt about Prince Charming, true love's kiss, and happily ever afters.  

While at first glance they are seemingly harmless and entertaining tales of princes and princesses, many of the animated children’s films produced by The Walt Disney Company have reinforced and even exaggerated traditional gender stereotypes. 

In this episode, we explore the impact these heteronormative stereotypes have on children and the ideals we hold on to as we get older. Should The Walt Disney Company answer for some of our hangups, or is it all just harmless fun? Have a listen to The Unfairer Sex panellists as we share our views on all things Disney.  

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The Unfairer Sex is not sponsored so, if you liked our show, please show your support by liking, subscribing and sharing on all your favourite social media platforms! We'll send you positive vibes for being awesome human beings and helping us spread the word. 

The Unfairer Sex music was masterfully created by Artur Kondas: https://akondas.com 

Research, editing and artwork fulfilled by The Unfairer Sex. 


Useful links:  

Wreck-it Ralph 2 Scene – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yirc35yIjfc  https://medium.com/@hairyanto/representations-of-females-and-femininity-in-disney-princess-films-bfdc58c7d217 http://www.inquiriesjournal.com/articles/1701/the-feminine-threat-reconsidering-the-damsel-in-distress-in-early-disney-films https://www.academia.edu/33466790/Power_to_the_Princess_Disney_and_the_Creation_of_the_20th_Century_Princess_Narrative https://www.academia.edu/33466790/Power_to_the_Princess_Disney_and_the_Creation_of_the_20th_Century_Princess_Narrative https://www.ft.com/content/e4e84eac-8502-4a7f-b51b-c372752b4b38    https://nypost.com/2022/06/25/lightyear-flop-audiences-are-weary-of-hollywood-wokeness/ 
Jul 18, 202201:21:11
Episode Twelve: Misogyny, memes and the media

Episode Twelve: Misogyny, memes and the media

We discuss the carnival of misogyny unleashed by the recent Depp v Heard court case. Despite an English court having already determined that it was "substantially true" that Depp had subjected Heard to domestic violence, Depp then decided to pursue Heard through the US court system and what followed was very much a trial by media - in particular, social media. Content with the hashtag #justiceforjohnny had billions of views, while the equivalent hashtag for Heard only attracted views in the millions. TikTokers, tweeters, bloggers and YouTube content creators produced thousands of pieces of content that presented Depp in sympathetic terms, while vilifying Heard. 

We dig into the reasons behind the overwhelming support he received versus the intense hatred directed at her, as well as looking at similar instances of the treatment of women by the media, such as Monica Lewinsky and Britney Spears, and we share our views on what this says about our society and culture.

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The Unfairer Sex is not sponsored so, if you liked our show, please show your support by liking, subscribing and sharing on all your favourite social media platforms! We'll send you positive vibes for being awesome human beings and helping us spread the word. The Unfairer Sex music was masterfully created by Artur Kondas: https://akondas.com 

Research, editing and artwork fulfilled by The Unfairer Sex.


Useful links:

https://people.com/movies/juror-in-johnny-depp-defamation-trial-says-jury-didnt-believe-amber-heards-crocodile-tears/ https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10878019/Johnny-Depp-won-trial-TikTok-fans-rejoice-social-media.html https://www.nbcnews.com/pop-culture/pop-culture-news/amber-heard-johnny-depp-trial-memes-chilling-effect-victims-domestic-a-rcna28572 https://amp.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/jun/01/amber-heard-johnny-depp-trial-metoo-backlash?fbclid=IwAR2IrXkQ2J6hXlef8oBMu8n4Xtay5hk9kHQb4EvEKhgZENp163QgJV-I8sA https://www.thequint.com/voices/opinion/johnny-depp-amber-heard-saga-feminism-metoo#read-more https://apnews.com/article/fact-check-amber-heard-talented-mr-ripley-487576135842 https://www.pajiba.com/celebrities_are_better_than_you/johnny-depps-case-against-amber-heard-was-textbook-darvo.php https://slate.com/culture/2022/06/johnny-depp-amber-heard-trial-verdict-evidence-truth.html https://www.theguardian.com/books/2022/may/03/fix-the-system-not-the-women-by-laura-bates-review-a-compelling-insight-into-gender-injustice 
Jul 04, 202201:38:32
Episode Eleven: Women aren't funny

Episode Eleven: Women aren't funny

When so many people still believe a woman’s place is in the home when a comedian’s place is anywhere but, an aversion or bias against women performing comedy (in any context) should be expected.

Inspired by a conversation with a woman who claimed she "just doesn't find women funny", we explore where this idea comes from, why it has survived so long and some of the pathetic attempts people have made, and continue to make, to prove "women just ain't funny".

We cover Christopher Hitchens' notorious 2007 Vanity Fair article, the discrimination & abuse experienced by female stand-up comedians, as well as the problems associated with sexist humour.


Links: 

Christopher Hitchens' 2007 Vanity Fair Article – https://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2007/01/hitchens200701  Bridget Christie Ant stand up – https://youtu.be/vIUG2dNeECY Chortle – https://www.chortle.co.uk/about/2008/06/23/6954/about_us Woody Allen and Twiggy Interview – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CgrCmel-RWs Piers Morgan Interview with Hayley Hughes– https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZSA0Hx_OS_k Women's History Month Blog Series: Women aren’t Funny by: Sydney Kovach – https://www.jcipr.com/post/women-s-history-month-blog-series-women-aren-t-funny


*In the first 30mins we talk about female comedy writers and would like to confirm that Amy Poehler only wrote 3 episodes of Parks and Recreation: "Telethon" in season 2, "The Fight" in season 3, and "The Debate" in season 4 (for which she was nominated for a Primetime Emmy Award for Outstanding Writing for a Comedy Series).

 

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Jun 20, 202201:07:47
Episode Ten: How abortion is used to control women

Episode Ten: How abortion is used to control women

Before we jump in, a quick note on this episode's content. This particular conversation covers issues around abortion, rape and incest. In light of the recent introduction of restrictive abortion laws in some US states and the possibility that the US Supreme Court may overturn Roe v Wade, we thought we should address the issue of access to abortion. 

In this episode we discuss the ways in which denial of access to safe, lawful, free abortions in many parts of the world are driven by patriarchal traditions, which deny women’s rights to autonomy over their own bodies and are used to control, oppress and punish women. 

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Jun 06, 202201:16:30
Episode Nine: Wonderful world of periods

Episode Nine: Wonderful world of periods

In this episode we discuss periods – the stigma, the bizarre myths about what effect periods can have on everything from crops to handling ham, and why in the 21st century, periods are still considered shameful, mysterious and symbolic of many things, from entry to womanhood to a woman's "crazy", emotional behaviour. We also talk about period poverty, tax on period products and how adverts and the media perpetuate the view of periods needing to be kept secret or that they're a bit icky.  

So grab a glass of wine and join us. 

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May 23, 202201:19:53
Episode Eight: Equality in sport

Episode Eight: Equality in sport

Join us for another instalment of the Unfairer Sex. This episode we’re discussing equality in sport. Why are so many school girls dropping out of sport even though a majority of women wish they were sportier? Where is the media exposure for our role models and why aren’t female athletes paid as much as men? We also discuss the flawed reasons some give to justify inequality sport and shine a light on the double standards that still exist. If you're interested in learning more about the inequality in sport, we recommend the following documentaries:  

2018 - Maiden (available on Netflix)  

2020 – Athlete A (available on Netflix) 

2020 – Rising Phoenix (available on Netflix)  

2022 – No Woman No Try (available on Amazon Prime)  


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EDIT: Ely would like to put her hands up and say she was incorrect when she said Team GB women's hockey 2016 Olympic final was the most watched game during the olympics. The real story is, the BBC pushed back its nightly News at Ten broadcast in order to show the game in full after viewers complained about being forced to channel hop in the semi-final match: https://www.mirror.co.uk/sport/other-sports/team-gb-hockey-golden-girls-8659788

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May 09, 202201:22:42
Episode Seven: The Double Bind

Episode Seven: The Double Bind

In this episode we discuss a phenomenon termed the "double bind" or the "corporate tightrope". At its simplest, the double bind that women face results from the fact that we have all been taught that the base case or natural leader is male. This leads to problems with how women are perceived when they lead.

More specifically, we have been taught that men lead, men take charge, they are strong, decision and assertive. Women on the other hand are caregivers, we are nurturing, we are emotional, we are communicative. These are stereotypes that we've been taught to believe, even in the face of empirical evidence to the contrary. And while these stereotypes persist, women are left in a double bind: if we exhibit what are viewed as male leadership attributes, such as taking charge, we may be viewed as competent, but we will be disliked. Whereas if we conform to the female stereotypes and are caring, we will be liked but viewed as less competent. Hence the double bind: whatever we do, we're screwed. We can be likeable or competent but not both and often neither.

We discuss our own experiences of the double bind and strategies to challenge it.


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Useful links:

https://www.catalyst.org/research/infographic-the-double-bind-dilemma-for-women-in-leadership/https://www.catalyst.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/The_Double_Bind_Dilemma_for_Women_in_Leadership_Damned_if_You_Do_Doomed_if_You_Dont.pdf

https://www.npr.org/2016/10/18/498309357/too-sweet-or-too-shrill-the-double-bind-for-women

https://genderbiasbingo.com/double-bind/#.YlhL0MhByUk

https://www.forbes.com/sites/rebekahbastian/2019/03/08/personality-based-performance-reviews-are-fine-to-give-women-as-long-as-men-get-them-too/

https://www.google.com/amp/s/fortune.com/2014/08/26/performance-review-gender-bias/amp/

https://www.mckinsey.com/featured-insights/diversity-and-inclusion/women-in-the-workplace


Apr 25, 202201:10:02
Episode Six: How film has failed women
Apr 11, 202201:12:52
Episode Five: Sorry, what did you say?

Episode Five: Sorry, what did you say?

If we're being completely honest, we had something completely different planned for episode five. But alas, it seems that our audience's sorry what did you say moment sparked a fire in our bellies and rather than look at the world around us, we divulged into the sexism and misogyny we had experienced of late.
The reason we felt it important to publish this episode was because everything we share happened to us in 'ordinary' settings doing 'ordinary' things. From volunteering at a hockey game to going to work, to being asked to 'pretty up this document'.
As always, a big thank you for engaging with the podcast and to the listener who shared their 'sorry, what did you say' moment with us this week. Not only did it give us time to reflect on a previous episode's 'sorry, what did you say moment' (episode 3: wedding traditions), it enabled us opportunity to look back on how we reacted when faced with our own moments, and how we would react differently now with hindsight.
If this episode sparks the fire in your belly, send us a voice note of your 'sorry, what did you say' moments to
theunfairersex@gmail.com or DM us on instagram – theunfairersexpodcast

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Mar 28, 202201:06:47
Episode Four: International Women's Day

Episode Four: International Women's Day

Happy International Women’s Day! This bonus episode takes you on a whistle-stop tour of IWD basics. We talk about the origins of IWD and how it has grown from a small march protesting gender inequality to the internationally recognised day for championing women’s rights on a global scale. We check out how different cultures celebrate the day and take a moment to consider what IWD means to us and how we like to celebrate it as individuals. There is a deep dive on this year’s UN IWD theme ‘gender equality today for a sustainable tomorrow’ as we discuss how stronger women’s rights can drastically alter the path of climate change. 

Finally, the team gives an Unfairer Sex salute to some less well known but no less notable women who have inspired us. 

There’s a lot to celebrate and a lot of work still to be done so pour a glass and join us for another episode of The Unfairer Sex.

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Mar 08, 202201:16:29
Episode Three: Wedding traditions

Episode Three: Wedding traditions

When was the last time you looked into the origins of a tradition? 

Or perhaps, a better question might be, how many times have you been told you have to do something because 'it's tradition' – even if it makes you feel uncomfortable or question your moral compass? 

Traditions are, by nature, a product of the past and for the most part, are “accepted without being assessed by any criterion other than it having been believed before” (Shirley Jackson). Whilst some are harmless or have been given a modern interpretation, there are many which have disturbing origins that continue to be harmful today. Whilst it's a personal choice to follow a tradition or not, many feel pressured to conform. 

This can be for a number of reasons. Out of fear of upsetting somebody else's expectations – expectations based on deeply ingrained ideas of what is 'proper'. Religious, partner or family values. Not wanting to be the first to go against the status quo. Knowing you don't feel right about something, but not knowing how to change it. Not having the money or freedom to choose another path. 

And the list goes on. 

In this episode we question the origins of five popular wedding traditions and discuss the expectations placed on women from society, family, partners, patriarchy and in some cases, ourselves. As always, we share our own experiences and 'sorry, what did you say' moments as we try and understand our in the moment reactions, and how we might react differently with the benefit of hindsight. 

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Before we jump into the main theme of this episode, we share a 'Sorry, what did you say' moment from one of our listeners. This moment explores the topic of up-skirting and battery performed by a man with a duty of care to the victim. It runs until 23:12 so if this is a trigger for you or you're just super keen to jump into this week's theme of 'Wedding traditions', you're welcome to skip ahead. A big thank you to our listener for trusting us with your story.   

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Feb 28, 202201:11:38
Episode Two: Clothing & how it's policed

Episode Two: Clothing & how it's policed

Clothes. 

Too long we've been told what to wear, what not to wear, how long or short our skirts need to be and when we can wear trousers. That our outfits are too slutty, prudish or time-stamped, and that playing handball in a bikini is the only way we can play the sport – despite our male counterparts competing in mid-thigh shorts.  


And to be honest, we're tired of people feeling like they have a say over other people's choices. We're bored of the hypocrisy and double standards. And we're disappointed that we're still dealing with the same old shit in 2022. 


So let's walk you through a quick history of clothing, how it's policed and some of the hilarious explanations society has come up with to validate a backwards (and sometimes harmful) way of thinking.  


Before we jump into the main theme of this episode, we share a 'Sorry, what did you say' moment from one of our listeners. This moment explores the topic of sexual health and our own experiences with medical professionals. It runs until 22:08 so if this is a trigger for you or you're just super keen to jump into this week's theme of 'Clothing', you're welcome to skip ahead. A big thank you to our listener for trusting us with your story. 

 

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Feb 14, 202201:06:05
Episode One: Sorry, what did you say?

Episode One: Sorry, what did you say?

When was the last time the perfect comeback slipped your mind in the moment?

In this episode, The Unfairer Sex explore notable "sorry, what did you say?" moments, reflecting on how we responded at the time, how we wish we had responded with the benefit of hindsight and sometimes, patting ourselves on the back for delivering the perfect retort. Don't be fooled.

Just because you said the right thing doesn't mean you won't get an earful from a disgruntled bystander who can't stand that you've been so witty! We'll be exploring that too. Using our own experiences, research, and the biases and social context surrounding these all too common moments, we hope to give listeners actionable suggestions.

We recommend keeping these stowed away in your back pocket for the time you're presented with something equally as jaw dropping as some of the moments we explore in this episode. Because we can promise you, those moments are coming.

You might also want to download the Cookie Monster song.  You'll thank us later.


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Jan 31, 202254:44
Introductory Episode

Introductory Episode

From baby feminist to get the fuck out of my way, this episode gives you an intimate introduction to The Unfairer Sex, our aspirations for the platform and the four women behind the microphones that will be gracing your ears each episode. 

What is The Unfairer Sex?

We're glad you asked!

We are a group of professional women who are really quite tired of the misogyny, discrimination and effects of the patriarchy that we are forced to navigate everyday. But that shit isn’t going to go away by itself - so let’s talk about the problems and, even better: the solutions.

Whether it is a stranger asking why you aren’t yet married, gender bias in advertising, having your clothing policed, being expected to do all the admin at work, that persistent gender pay gap, or all the ways in which the pandemic has made women’s lives harder, we will share our research, experiences and perspectives on it all so next time you’re faced with that crap you know exactly what to say.

Each week we'll pick a new theme, deliver our favourite 'Sorry, what did you say' moments and suggest fun homework so you can start to put into practice our l'esprit de l'escalier wisdom – aka, our staircase wit! For the themes we don't know very well, we'll reach out to more knowledge guests so you benefit from first-hands experiences rather than our well-intentioned guesswork. 

And yeah, there’s definitely going to be some rage, but there’s also going to be a hell of a lot of laughing, learning, catharsis and camaraderie along the way. So grab a glass of wine and join us.

Small print

The unfairer sex is not sponsored so, if you liked our show, please show your support by liking, subscribing and sharing on all your favourite social media platforms! We'll send you positive vibes for being awesome human beings and helping us spread the word. 

We also thought it important to note... the views and opinions expressed are those of the hosts and guests and do not reflect any views of the organisations for whom they work. 


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Jan 29, 202220:37