The YOU Effect®
By Nick + Roxane Cokas
Simple conversations around big or small actions that have impact.
Impacting lives since 2014.
The YOU Effect®May 04, 2023
Whoa! Did you just SERIOUSLY do that?! In this episode of The YOU Effect, Nick and Roxane Cokas take deep breaths while they recount situations that make one feel enraged, see red and spike their adrenaline. Whether it is on the road, online or at a sporting event, we have all been there - but can we find ways to react that are productive rather than destructive? Solutions, exercises and action steps are described.
(01:48) A Sensitive Society
(05:10) SHOCKING Behavior On The Road
(07:33) Whose Needs Are More Important?
(11:06) Finding The Reason To A Heightened Level Of Animosity
(12:22) Post Game Behaviour - A Good or Spoilt Sport?
(15:30) Witnessing A Sucker Punch - ouch!
(16:40) Thinking Of Others As Greater Than Ourselves
(18:55) A Habit Of Flipping Our Minds and Our Reactions
(20:48) Being A Good Representative For What You Believe In
(22:22) Creating Scenarios That Grant Grace To Others
(23:41) Simple Conversations Leading To Better Scenarios
What are you looking at?
Come on - 1 minute a day...Why is it so hard?
Do you know how difficult it is to create a new habit?
The old saying use to be do something for 21 days in a row and you will establish a new habit...
If only it was that easy.
The benefits of observation are backed by research but why can't people and executives, from huge organizations to the small business owner, not find the time?
Take time out of your day to simply observe. No expectations.
Step out of your normal routine for 1 minute per day and focus on something other than yourself.
In this Episode:
Increase peace. Increase health. Increase connectedness
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(00:40) The Art of Observation
(01:08) The Museum of Modern Art San Francisco (www.sfmoma.org)
(02:34) Do Things Seem Bland At First Glance?
(03:13) Taking An Afternoon to JUST Observe
(04:19) Focus On Something Outside of Yourself
(04:32) Perspective - Fast & Small vs Slow and Large
(07:05) Trying to NOT Figure Out The Story
(08:52) A Conscious Exercise of Observation
(09:46) The Benefits of Stepping Into A New Space
(11:24) Observation Leads To Healthier Interactions With Others
(13:04) Focusing on The Process vs The Results
(13.30) Perspective On Who You Are In The Centre Of Humanity
(19.42) Scheduling A Date With Observation
Choose One Step - Start With Fashion
Can a topical conversation from which you usually put off, actually leave you with a changed perspective and the motivation to change your actions? After recording this episode, we can definitely say, 'Yes, it can!'
We were lucky enough to have Philips McCarty as our guest on this episode of The YOU Effect - the Executive Director of the FIT Foundation in New York City (Fashion Institute of Technology). McCarty is an expert in the field of sustainability, strategic philanthropy and social impact initiatives... In other words, or as Nick likes to call him - he is a 'genius' in his field. McCarty was able to enlighten The YOU Effect hosts, Nick and Roxane Cokas, on the topic of Sustainable Fashion and, in just 20 minutes, was able to encourage and inspire them to change the daily rhythms of their lives.
Find out 'why it is okay to spend $1000 on a coat' as well as learning about 'sweaters made from saliva' on this episode of The YOU Effect!
(02:14) Make An Impact Where You Live, Work and Play
(03:05) A Micro-Explanation of Sustainable Fashion
(03:47) Sustainability is Polarizing
(04:29) Innovative Fashion Solutions out of F.I.T. New York
(05:45) Is Your Sweater Made From Saliva?
(07:15) Do You Love A Little Vintage?
(08:16) There Is No Such Thing as a Fully Sustainable Company
(10:00) Focusing On Where You Want To Go, Not On What Bogs You Down
(12.28) Define Who You Are & Choose One Step
(15:31) "Green Washing" vs Part of Your DNA
(18:50) Your Responsibility As The Consumer
(21:22) Invest In Great Pieces
(25:06) Redefining Sustainability
The Best Way To Binge
What are you binging on? Yes, we all need time to zone out and wind down after a busy day... But can we swap our remote controls for our phones and find entertainment in our friendships?
In this episode of The YOU Effect, Nick and Roxane Cokas challenge listeners to question the rhythm of their lives and switch off in order to connect. Sound easy? Give it a try!
(00:52) Invested In Characters
(01:24) What 'Binging' Causes
(02:57) Binging On Real Relationships
(03:18) We Need Time To One Out
(04:31) Too Busy To Carve Time Out For Friendships
(06:01) Questioning The Rhythm Of Our Lives
(06:52) Can Our Friendships Be Our Entertainment?
(08:25) Empty Investments
(09:26) Quiet Company
(10:47) "Swap Remote Control For Your Phone" Challenge
(12:25) Pressing Pause In Order TO Connect
(13:12) Connected Disconnection - Loneliness Statistics*
(14:15) Are You Friendless?
(14:55) Be A "Statistic Changer"
(15:47) The Impact Loneliness Has On Your Health
(17:37) Who Are You Going To Call?
*Loneliness Statistics from Blind Spot from Gallup by Jon Clifton
Practice The Pause
Someone or something has irked you… How do you respond? Do you shut down? Or do you flare-up, rise to the challenge + bring out your best argumentative skills?
In this episode of The You Effect, Nick + Roxane Cokas challenge their listeners to play with the idea of 'Practicing The Pause' followed by 2 additional steps - which leads to bridging the gap + finding common ground.
(00:32) Shutting Down
(02:03) Ask Good Questions
(02:54) What The Heck Is Wrong With You?
(03:23) Learning About One Another
(04:35) Stop Offering Your Ideas + Opinions
(05:39) Ask. Listen. Lead
(07:45) How To Make An Impact
(08:48) Practice The Pause
(11:24) Outside Noise + Advice
(12:10) Trauma Response
(15:07) How To Have Influence and Purpose
(17:15) Wanting The Best For Others
(18:49) Be Interested Not Interesting
(20:32) Tearing Others Down
(21:24) A 7 Day Challenge
Are You In A Dull Relationship?
In this episode, we unpack the essence of The You Effect.
After a short hiatus, we are back!
What is the actual definition of ‘Dull’? Are we bored? Do we seek drama? Why aren’t we drawn to simple, loving, kind, accommodating relationships?
Two people who found the extraordinary in the simple.
The Science of Thanksgiving
Is there any science to back up thankfulness? What does it even mean to be thankful? Gratitude. Thankful. Perspective.
Lessons I learned from my dying mother. (dark? no. thankful? yes.)
Connected? Disconnected? What are the signs? Pt. 1
I came to accept I have no right whatsoever to judge others in terms of my own customs, however much I may be proud of such customs.
One Easy Step to Find Help and Give Hope
Afghanistan. Haiti. Miami. East Coast. The list could go on and on. Do you ever feel helpless? And can you turn that helplessness into hopefulness towards others in one easy step? Find out in this episode of The YOU Effect.
The Key To Your Best Possible Health
Mind-blowing! Get one particular thing right and everything else will fall into place. What is that 'one thing'? Well... this quote from Two Listeners is a clue - "It is not the circumstances that need altering first, but yourselves, and then the conditions will naturally alter."
Nick Cokas and Roxane Hayward share the answer to your best possible health in this episode of The YOU Effect.
'The Circle Of Life' referenced in this episode can be found here.
Thank you for listening!
I Can't Fit Into My PANTS!
Summer. Spring. Winter or Fall... this is my cycle.
Want three easy steps to get on the road to healthy living? Listen here! You might just be surprised.
The GetGiver www.thegetgiver.com
The Circle Of Life www.integrativenutrition.com/circle-of-life
The YOU Effect www.theyoueffect.co
Three Ways to Discover Tailor-Made Invigorating Self-Care
If we had a nickel every time someone said 'Self-Care'... But what IS self-care actually all about? And how do we begin to discover self-care routines, exercises, activities and moments that truly invigorate, fuel and energize us, personally?
Find out on this episode of The YOU Effect with Nick Cokas and Roxane Hayward.
A Perspective Makeover with Danny Painter
More than three in five Americans are lonely, with more and more people reporting feeling like they are left out, poorly understood and lacking companionship. - NPR
The YOU Effect welcomes Danny Painter - South African TV and Radio Presenter, kindness warrior and 'story-listener'.
We listen to her story (a change from her usual daily rhythm of hearing stories from her show's guests) where she guides us on how we can help those in our surroundings feel seen, heard and understood. After all, when it comes to asking questions and actively listening, she is a pro!
It starts which acknowledging that we all need each other. But, as the wonderful Danny Painter points out, that is just the beginning.
Join us on this episode of The YOU Effect and walk away feeling encouraged to join Danny on her 'kindness world takeover'.
You can find her on Instagram at @dannypainter
Finding The Perfect Gift When You Think You Have Nothing To Give
Why, What, How, When to give? And what does it mean? Skyler Badenoch, CEO of Hope for Haiti, shares his Gift Giving Guide.
One Way To Invite a Magical Moment Into Your Life
Each of us have interactions with others every day - even during a Global Pandemic. From the teller at your grocery store to the person waiting in line behind you. But, do we brush off those interactions before they even have a chance to develop into something more? Could we be brushing off a bit of magic that was about to find its way into our lives? Find out in this episode of The YOU Effect.
Does being open to chance encounters make for a more abundant life? In this episode we discuss how some of the most valuable relationships can stem from a seemingly random, serendipitous meeting. Chance, fate, magic, destiny, the Universe, synchronicity, God - we all have a name for something or Someone who brought these moments into our lives, but what happens if we go beyond the moment, stay open and join the ride!? Let's find out!
One Simple Thing for Better Health
We Made It In Time Magazine...
Well sorta... kinda... not 100%... But close!
An Apple vs Kindness - which one keeps the Doctor Away?
Are You Living In 'Should'?
Do your expectations ever let you down? Does your circumstance leave you feeling stuck? We chat to Markus Redmond - writer, director and novelist - as he highlights the power of a simple word... SHOULD.
"If Only..." - Dr. Oz. What holds us back? Who nudges us forward?
Starting something new... Is it too late? Have I got enough time? What if I'm not good at it? To identify what holds us back and to embrace those who nudge us forward.
Are Your Actions Dictated By How Others MIGHT Interpret Them?
If I feel it, should I say it? Or are some things better left unsaid? Do we miss opportunities to grow and enhance ourselves and our relationships due to the fear of 'not being liked' creeping in?
How To Be Part Of The Solution
My husband’s a police officer and he’s black.
On the last episode of The You Effect, we were discussing race and white privilege.
Let’s continue our conversation where we left off with Ana Agyeman… Marine. Mother. Wife. All around bada*%!
Can We Bond Over Our Differences?
How to be open to the unknown.
Race. Marriage. Two little Princesses. A simple conversation with Ana Agyeman - marine, wife, mother.
Serve. Listen. Lead. How To Find Common Ground.
Emotional. Raw. Transparent. A not so simple conversation. When you don't know what to do and your don't know what to say... Where is a good place to start?
Do You Feel Small Unless You Do Big Things?
It's not about the plot, it's about the characters.
It's not abut your circumstance, it's about your intentions.
Can small acts really have any significance in this big wide world? How can you make a difference in your lifetime?
Are You Smiling Behind That Mask?
Introducing The You Effect. A simple conversation with Nick Cokas and Roxane Hayward about how small positive actions can have big impacts.