To Be Single or Not to Be

On this episode we revisit my views on what it really means to be independent and is there a such thing as too independent in a society that say women want to be masculine anyway! It's much deeper than taking out the trash when a man is in close proximity. Listen to the episode and let me know what you think! If would like to support & buy me a coffee, please visit https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TBSONTB To become a patron of all things Shaanah Montanna of TBSONTB podcast, please visit patreon.com/shaanahmontanna To subscribe to The To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast on Youtube, please visit https://youtube.com/@shaanahmontanna Have an inspiring relationship story or advice you want to share on The To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast? Please submit your story at tobesingleornottobe@gmail.com Shop Merch via the Website: https://shaanahmontanna.com/ Social Media Info: Instagram: Shaanah Montanna - @shaanahmontanna The To Be Single or Not To Be - @tobesingleornottobe Twitter: Shaanahmontanna - @shaanahmontanna Be sure to hashtag #TBSONTB with any comments about the show and be sure to give the episode a thumbs up if you enjoyed it!

On this episode we revisit my views on cheating, how you define what cheating is to you personally, the hand social media plays in cheating present day, and how you navigate it if it happens to you (whether you should leave or stay). Listen to the episode and let me know what you think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me a coffee, please visit https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TBSONTB To become a patron of all things Shaanah Montanna of TBSONTB podcast, please visit patreon.com/shaanahmontanna To subscribe to The To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast on Youtube, please visit https://youtube.com/@shaanahmontanna Have an inspiring relationship story or advice you want to share on The To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast? Please submit your story at tobesingleornottobe@gmail.com Website: https://shaanahmontanna.com/ Social Media Info: Instagram: Shaanah Montanna - @shaanahmontanna The To Be Single or Not To Be - @tobesingleornottobe Twitter: Shaanahmontanna - @shaanahmontanna Be sure to hashtag #TBSONTB with any comments about the show and be sure to give the episode a thumbs up if you enjoyed it!

On this episode we revisit my views on timelines in relationships and dating and why they are not as necessary as I once thought. It's more so about what you are doing with the time you are giving over how much time has gone by! Listen to the episode and let me know what you think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me a coffee, please visit https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TBSONTB To become a patron of all things Shaanah Montanna of TBSONTB podcast, please visit patreon.com/shaanahmontanna To subscribe to The To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast on Youtube, please visit https://youtube.com/@shaanahmontanna Have an inspiring relationship story or advice you want to share on The To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast? Please submit your story at tobesingleornottobe@gmail.com Website: https://shaanahmontanna.com/ Social Media Info: Instagram: Shaanah Montanna - @shaanahmontanna The To Be Single or Not To Be - @tobesingleornottobe Twitter: Shaanahmontanna - @shaanahmontanna Be sure to hashtag #TBSONTB with any comments about the show and be sure to give the episode a thumbs up if you enjoyed it!

On this episode we revisit my views and the truth about GENERATIONAL CURSES! They are more than only building financial wealth. There are actually FEELINGS involved, too! Listen to the episode and let me know what you think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me a coffee, please visit https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TBSONTB To become a patron of all things Shaanah Montanna of TBSONTB podcast, please visit patreon.com/shaanahmontanna To subscribe to The To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast on Youtube, please visit https://youtube.com/@shaanahmontanna Have an inspiring relationship story or advice you want to share on The To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast? Please submit your story at tobesingleornottobe@gmail.com Website: https://shaanahmontanna.com/ Social Media Info: Instagram: Shaanah Montanna - @shaanahmontanna The To Be Single or Not To Be - @tobesingleornottobe Twitter: Shaanahmontanna - @shaanahmontanna Be sure to hashtag #TBSONTB with any comments about the show and be sure to give the episode a thumbs up if you enjoyed it!

On this episode we revisit my views the HARD truth about breakups, why they happen, what you can possibly do to prevent them, and how to navigate them if you run into their murky waters! Tune in for the deets and let me know what you really think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me a coffee, please visit https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TBSONTB To become a patron of all things Shaanah Montanna of TBSONTB podcast, please visit patreon.com/shaanahmontanna To subscribe to The To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast on Youtube, please visit https://youtube.com/@shaanahmontanna Have an inspiring relationship story or advice you want to share on The To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast? Please submit your story at tobesingleornottobe@gmail.com Website: https://shaanahmontanna.com/ Social Media Info: Instagram: Shaanah Montanna - @shaanahmontanna The To Be Single or Not To Be - @tobesingleornottobe Twitter: Shaanahmontanna - @shaanahmontanna Be sure to hashtag #TBSONTB with any comments about the show and be sure to give the episode a thumbs up if you enjoyed it!

On this episode we revisit my views on non-negotiables because it's time for us to discuss WHY do we even have them if we are not going to ever stick beside 'em? Tune in for the deets and let me know what you really think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me a coffee, please visit https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TBSONTB To become a patron of all things Shaanah Montanna of TBSONTB podcast, please visit patreon.com/shaanahmontanna To subscribe to The To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast on Youtube, please visit https://youtube.com/@shaanahmontanna Have an inspiring relationship story or advice you want to share on The To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast? Please submit your story at tobesingleornottobe@gmail.com Website: https://shaanahmontanna.com/ Social Media Info: Instagram: Shaanah Montanna - @shaanahmontanna The To Be Single or Not To Be - @tobesingleornottobe Twitter: Shaanahmontanna - @shaanahmontanna Be sure to hashtag #TBSONTB with any comments about the show and be sure to give the episode a thumbs up if you enjoyed it!

On this episode we revisit my views on the financial perspective of a relationship! Should women go half, should they never consider it, or is it still up for debate? Tune in for the deets and let me know what you really think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me a coffee, please visit https://www.buymeacoffee.com/TBSONTB To become a patron of all things Shaanah Montanna of TBSONTB podcast, please visit patreon.com/shaanahmontanna To subscribe to The To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast on Youtube, please visit https://youtube.com/@shaanahmontanna Have an inspiring relationship story or advice you want to share on The To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast? Please submit your story at tobesingleornottobe@gmail.com Website: https://shaanahmontanna.com/ Social Media Info: Instagram: Shaanah Montanna - @shaanahmontanna The To Be Single or Not To Be - @tobesingleornottobe Twitter: Shaanahmontanna - @shaanahmontanna Be sure to hashtag #TBSONTB with any comments about the show and be sure to give the episode a thumbs up if you enjoyed it!

On this episode, we take another dive into a conversation around labels and the necessity of them since it seems many people are unclear about this said thing! Whether a label is to make sure all parties know they are in a relationship or to clarify that you are not in one, they are needed across the board! This allows you to avoid confusion, heartache, and some pain when the tables don't turn how you desire or you are with someone who refuses to take a seat at the label table to give you what you heart truly desires! Take a seat at the table as we dive into this convo, for what I am sure, will not be the last time!

Special guests: Tori. A & Durriyyah of the podcast "Sweet Tea with Dee"

On this episode, we take a deep dive into the sometimes overlooked value of sisterhood! In this day and age of social media relationship goals, women being focused on getting the ring by any means necessary, and some people never having the experience of what genuine sisterhood looks like, it was mandatory that we had this conversation as a beautiful reminder of the power sisterhood holds! Join us for a conversation between girlfriends of almost 20 years and why we landed here, why we work to maintain our sisterhood, and the joy it brings to us all!

Special guests: Heather C. & Kandice M.

On this episode, we take a deep dive into what non monogamous and polyamorous relationships truly look like, inside and out! Many people will say those who choose this lifestyle are just greedy or afraid of commitment and there may be some truth to that. However, after this episode gives you insight to what the lifestyles are really like, what life looks like in one of these partnerships, and how one must maintain their composure at all times to remain in one, we think you will walk away with a newfound perspective on these lifestyles and if they are really all they seem to be!

Special guest: Flo Oliveira

On this episode we take a deep dive into the feared and almighty meaning of the word, "ACCOUNTABILITY"! It is wild how one word has so much power; yet, so many people fear stepping into the action of what it really means consistently. On this episode, we have a seat at the table with Mr. Accountability himself to discuss why people struggle so much with this term, what it looks like to really hold you and your partner accountable, and why every successful relationship must make sure it is present!

Special Guest: Chad Scott The Accountability Coach

On this episode, we take a deep dive into what breaking a toxic relationships looks like! In the world of Futures and Kevin Samuels #RIP, we have to determine where the largest problem lies, how this problem started, and why we cannot seem to move past it in this day and age! Toxicity relies on the people entangled within it to keep it going. So, on this episode, we help you understand the ACTION that must take place NOW to move on from it today and for generations to come after.

Special guests: Amani M. & James B. of Mind of a Man Podcast

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On this episode we take a deep dive into a necessary conversation around the facts of the matter when it comes to women and men healing and taking care of themselves in therapy and if we are doing it at the same rate! We are finally a generation of people who understands the importance and power of therapy. However, we must get all hands on deck in making sure our MEN are showing up the same as women to make sure we are aligned and even capable of creating the happy & healthy relationships we desire! This is a convo you do not want to miss! Special guests: Mikell & Sam of the You Good Bruh? Podcast and Kristen S.

On this episode, we take a deep dive into the GREAT importance of getting into therapy while you are dating! For many years, the only time we would hear about therapy would be shortly before marriage and it was in the form of pre-marital counseling only! However, we now know that therapy should be an integral part of the development and growth of your relationship as soon as you are both committed and serious about making sure it elevates in the healthiest way possible! So, dive into this episode and put on your thinking caps because you will be in for a treat!

Special guests: Nikita H. & Kognitively Kendra

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On this episode, we take a deep and interesting dive into what may be an unknown or new acronym and lifestyle that is making waves through society that is known as "Single Mom by Choice!" A SMBC is someone who decides to become a mother, knowing that they will be the sole parent of their child at least at the outset. Dive into this amazing episode with two moms who speak their truth about this lifestyle and walk away with new knowledge and respect for this lifestyle that serves those that it is supposed to serve as needed. 

Special guests: Rachel Nicks & Kirsten W.

On this episode, we continue the conversation around Black maternal health in America and how we overcome this crisis!

Special guests: Callie D., Aeryka H., Chemyeeka T.

On this episode, we take a deep and very necessary dive into the state of Black maternal health in America to uncover why we are in a crisis, how we help ourselves and future generations overcome it, and what we must do to get justice in this fight for our lives!

Special guests: Callie D., Aeryka H., Chemyeeka T.

On this episode, we have an entertaining, upbeat, and insightful conversation around who is more responsible for the issues we see in relationships! From finances, to first dates, to cheating, and so much more! We leave it all on the table and at the end of this episode, we leave YOU to decide! Tune in EXCLUSIVELY on YouTube! You won't regret it! 

Special guests: Bulli C., Kari C., D. Smith, & The Letter U

View it on YouTube: https://youtu.be/r-7greCAp6s

On this episode we take a deep dive into the true meaning of self love to help listeners understand that suffering is not a pre-requisite to gain the love that you desire. We unpack how Disney sold us a nightmare and packaged it as a sweet dream, how being in relationships with the right person may take time but not suffering, and what role we play in loving ourselves no matter what kind of relationship we are in! You will walk away with laughs and knowledge for sure! Special guests: Brooke B., Dani. B., & Erika D.

On this episode we take a deep dive into one of the relationship types that I highly value and that would be FRIENDSHIPS! In this sometimes toxic culture of "throwing people away" we wanted to really dissect the importance of friendships, how to navigate changing friendships, and how to handle it when other people are placed at higher importance than your friendships. If you love your friends or are struggling in this area, this episode is for you! Special guests: Joy B., Nikki H., & Reese W.

Listen in as myself and special guest pregame before a recording session with some interesting tea and thoughts on Kim & Kanye! This may not age well, but we enjoyed the convo, and for the time being it seemed so appropriate! Special guests: Alleged Kardashian Historian Kandice Allen & Heather C.

On today's episode, we dive into love languages deeper than you ever have before! Love languages are all about showing up and loving your partner the way that they desire. So, why not show up EXACTLY as they desire with personalized languages? Thinking about how to love deeper and show up better in your relationship should be a goal for everyone. Listen to this episode to uncover what that looks like, what you should be thinking about when it comes to creating your own love language, and what to do if your partner decides they don't want to speak your love language at all. Special guest: Julie Wadley

On this episode, we take a deep dive into making long term relationships last forever! Alexa, play Keith Sweat. We dive into understanding what good (or inevitable) change looks like, how to understand and navigate it, and how to adjust your personal sails in the winds and high tides of what we call relationships. All change is not a bad thing. You just have to be able to put in the work and determine what type of change you are dealing with and how you need to show up to handle it! Special guests: Kandice M. & Keshia S.

On this episode we take a deep dive into knowing when it is time to go, understanding the process to arrive at and stand by the decision, and understanding that you are NOT a loser if you decide to part ways! Leaving is not losing and want the world to know that in any situation, at the end of the day, you will absolutely be okay! Special guests: Sierra of Legacy Speaks & Mikey R.

On this episode we take a deep and FUN dive into what money and relationships looks like present day because we want to know is it pay for play in 2022? We discuss the Kevin Samuels mindset, what role finances play in partnership, and if money is or should be the most important thing when dating and navigating these relationship streets! Tune in so we can help you decide if you should be paying or if you should keep playing! Special guests: The Letter U, IGLess Janae, Deandre S.

On this episode, we take a deep dive into why we continue to take people back, repeatedly, in relationships when they have shown us they are no longer worthy of our attention, love, or time. We explore where these behaviors stem from, what we were not taught growing up that has led us here, and how we overcome this obstacle to break generational curses and create the healthy and lasting love that we desire WITHOUT repeated abuse in the form of taking those back who don't deserve it. In this episode, you will learn that you can have better if you choose better and, most importantly, show up and do better. Special guests: Courtney Arlesia, Syreeta Blakely, and Nikita Haynie

On this episode, we take a deep dive into the fantasy of love verses the reality of it. Are we creating our own illusions of love or are they being painted for us? Are we really up for the fight of what true love is or not really? Are we really taking a holistic look at potential partners and all that they come with before making an informed decision on partnership? There are so many questions that need answers and this episode is here to give answers to them all! Tune in as we conclude Season 3...it is a helluva an informative and entertaining ride! Special guests: Ms. Carter, Nikki H., Joy B., and Tiff from the Sipp!

On this episode we take a deep dive into what imposter syndrome really looks like, how it shows up in our lives, how we understand it, and how we navigate it to move around it and not let it stop us from greatness! The thought of feeling like we don't belong in places and spaces where we are meant to grow, thrive, and excel is no longer acceptable and is something we are no longer standing for. So, get into this episode and learn why we are out with the "old" imposter syndrome and in with the "new" of us women standing tall in rooms and positions that we have earned and deserve! Special guests Obrenka, Kandice A., Bulli C., Nikita H.

On this episode we take a deep dive into what may be new territory for some and that is relationship attachment styles! Many times, they way we move in adult relationships is rooted in our childhood and relationships that existed there. So, this episode is here to give you insight on how growing up may have affected the way you move in your love life, why you are connected to the attachment style that you are currently in your life, and how to navigate it the best you can by using what you got to get the love that you want! HELLO SOMEBODY! Tune in and learn all about which attachment style best suits you and how this info can truly aid and guide you getting to the relationship you honestly desire. Special guests: Mikey of 4th & Well & L'Kenya

On this episode we take a deep dive and a revisit to previous episodes we've had around money and relationships! Money is a funny thing and it's even funnier if you and your partner or potential partner aren't on the same page about it! So, all of that said, we dive into what the conversations should look like around money, releasing shame attached to money, and how you and your partner should BOFF stay tryna get this money! So, pull up, grab your partner, and get this tea on how to handle making sure you know where the money reside, where the money reside...and how to make sure you always know (in your relationship) where the money reside! Special guests: Mia X., Shemika B., & Controversial Cass

On this episode we dive into a very necessary, yet sometimes controversial topic, on social media and those dam cell phones! We live in a world where social media is a permanent fixture in it. So, this means that we must start having real conversations about it with our partners so that we can all be sure we are keeping it real with each other. In this case, ignorance truly is NOT bliss. So, pull up a chair, grab your cell phone, and feel free to listen to this episode with your partner to get the convo going if you need that extra nudge! Don't worry, we got ya back! Special guests: Shemika B. & Obrenka of the podcast The Sit Down With Brenks.

On this episode, we had the opportunity to get the real from a man's perspective when it comes to what they really want from women, what communication they really need from women, and how to handle conflict with them because SURPRISE... they do know how to communicate!! Men are a special species. However, most are very simple. More simple than we tend to think or give them credit for (in a good way). So, pull up on us and listen to this informative, yet hilarious conversation, with the men and of The Doneson Podcast (that I also co host as well) as we get into a much needed and overdue conversation around WHAT MEN REALLY WANT! Special guests: Rod & Uncle Rico

On this episode, we take a deep and necessary dive into the effects that uncertainties and insecurities can have on relationships. We discuss what these items show up as and how to navigate these waters with a partner or just within if without one. There is truly a difference between uncertainty and insecurity and this episode will give you all the tools you need to decipher the difference between the two, understanding what to do with this info, and how to proceed moving forward and doing so with caution where applicable! Pull up for this tea with our special guests: In house wife Tori Brianna & Therapist Chemyeeka Tumblin

On this episode we have a very awakening and eye opening discussion about HAPPINESS! We dive into the definition of what happiness truly is, what it should actually look like for you personally, and how we navigate this life keeping it in the forefront of your minds and our lives! If we are not happy with ourselves, how can we be happy in a relationship? Pull up a chair, sit back, and take notes as we dive into this much needed conversation about surrendering to happiness and why we deserve it oh so much! Special guests: Morgan Bullock from the "Around and Within" podcast and Nikki H.

On this episode, we take a deeper diver into what it means to be the right fit in Part II of this conversation! We discuss why you need to spend time getting to know a partner before they become a partner, where your loyalties should lie before a person becomes a partner, what it looks like from the MALE perspective when choosing the "right fit" in a partner, and so much more! Join us for this informative, yet hilarious conversation with special guests: Therapist James Bush of the Mind of a Man Podcast, Nikki H., and Cara Freeman