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WADT

By Hafiz & Parcsen

A podcast for fathers by fathers.

Join hosts Hafiz and Parcsen in fun and frank conversations about being a father and its challenges. Get tips to connect better with your family. If you would like more resources check us out on FB and IG @wadtpodcast. Feel free to share with us your comments and questions!

This podcast is sponsored by Emaan Catalyst Community. Their mission is to catalyse communities for sustainable social impact. You can connect with them on FB and IG @emaancatalyst.
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Ep 72: Transformed Michael and William

WADTJun 21, 2022

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Ep 72: Transformed Michael and William

Ep 72: Transformed Michael and William

This week we continue with the Transformed series. In this episode, Rosman and Jatin will share their stories of transformation. Be sure to listen to the end where both of them will share their personal message to men out there.
Jun 21, 202220:44
Ep 71: Transformed Rosman and Jatin

Ep 71: Transformed Rosman and Jatin

This episode is part 3 of a 4-part series called Transformed For this series, we are collaborating with Thye Hua Kuan Moral Charities, a non-profit Organization that provides assistance to the elderly, the sick, families, children, and persons with disabilities through many different programmes and services. One of which is the Brotherhood programme where men who have caused hurt to their loved ones are helped to resolve their issues with anger and aggression. Throughout this series, you will hear very real and personal stories of adversity, courage and victory told by those who lived these experiences. With us today to share their stories are Rosman and Jatin.
Jun 13, 202222:56
Ep 70: Transformed Ismail and Sebestian

Ep 70: Transformed Ismail and Sebestian

This episode is part 2 of a 4-part series called Transformed, where you will hear very real and personal stories of adversity, courage and victory told by those who lived these experiences. With us today to share their stories are Ismail and Sebestian.
Jun 09, 202217:31
Ep 69: Transformed - Firdaus and Suresh

Ep 69: Transformed - Firdaus and Suresh

 Today we begin a new series called Transformed For this series, we are collaborating with Thye Hua Kuan Moral Charities, a non-profit Organization that provides assistance to the elderly, the sick, families, children, and persons with disabilities through many different programmes and services. One of which is the Brotherhood programme where men who have caused hurt to their loved ones are helped to resolve their issues with anger and aggression. Throughout this series, you will hear very real and personal stories of adversity, courage and victory told by those who lived these experiences. With us today to share their stories are Firdaus and Suresh.
May 31, 202225:50
Ep 68: Dealing with mean kids

Ep 68: Dealing with mean kids

In an earlier episode we talked about helping our kids choose their friends. Most of our kids friends are good, but they might encounter those that are not so good. They are the mean kids. If your kid is being bullied by a mean kid, would you know what to do? This will be the subject of our discussion today. Like and Share this episode with someone you think will benefit from it.
May 24, 202237:15
Ep 67: Getting kids to obey

Ep 67: Getting kids to obey

The perfect child, if there is such a thing, in most parents’ minds is a well-behaved and obedient one who also does well in school. Driven by this vision, parents have resorted to a number of methods to have perfect children. In this episode of WADT, the co-hosts will be discussing the right and wrong ways of getting children to obey.
May 17, 202236:09
Ep 66: Choosing Friends

Ep 66: Choosing Friends

This week on the WADT podcast, we discuss a very important aspect of childhood: making friends. As children grow, they will be making more and more of the decisions that affect their lives themselves. One of those decisions is who to choose as friends. How much say should parents have in their children’s choice of friends? What should parents do if their child’s friends are a bad influence? How can parents help their children make good choices when it comes to friends and how to develop strong friendships?
May 09, 202232:45
Ep 65 : Hari Raya Puasa

Ep 65 : Hari Raya Puasa

Hari Raya Puasa or Eidul Fitri is here. Many know, for a month before that, Muslims “puasa” or fast by not eating and drinking from dawn until dusk. Many also see Muslims go visiting in colourful attire, not just for the day but even for the whole month. Also, not to mention the Hari Raya bazaar in Geylang Serai and Kampong Glam, where you see some food and drinks that only appear during this season. However, like for other religions, many may not know what are its significance and which practices during Hari Raya Puasa that are religious or cultural. There may also be questions that you may have about it but afraid to ask. No fret, today we have Ustaz Khalid Rafi to enlighten us. Before that, let me introduce him. A father of…, he is a Research Executive at Wak Tanjong Mosque. He also holds a Bachelor in Syariah from the University of Madinah and a Masters degree from RSIS, Nanyang Technological University in Asian Studies, specialising in ‘Studies in Inter-Religious Relations in Plural Societies’. He enjoys engaging the public through inter-religious dialogues to promote mutual respect and understanding for a progressive community.
May 01, 202233:38
Ep 64: Stress-less Exams

Ep 64: Stress-less Exams

Exams happens twice a year and each time both parents and children are feeling stressed. What can parents do to make exams stress-less?
Apr 24, 202235:57
Ep 63: Raising future-ready kids

Ep 63: Raising future-ready kids

Change is taking place all the time. But in the last 50 years, the rate of change has been increasing exponentially. At this rate, the future will be exciting and unpredictable. How then can parents prepare their children for it? How can parents raise future-ready kids starting today?    You’re listening to the WADT podcast. I am Parcsen and my co-hosts today are Hafiz, Kevin, and Fannie.
Apr 18, 202248:51
Ep 62: Eat, Sleep and Move

Ep 62: Eat, Sleep and Move

 Our children are not moving enough, not sleeping enough, and eating too much. Although it has not reached crisis level yet, there are reasons to be concerned and the government saw the need to come up with a 24-hour activity guidelines for children and teens. Is this issue a hot potato? We think it is and we’ll be discussing it today.
Apr 10, 202243:01
Ep 61: How divorce impacts children

Ep 61: How divorce impacts children

The number of divorces and annulments in Singapore has been hovering above the seven thousand mark for many years now. In 2019, 55% of the divorces involves a child under the age of 21. Accumulatively, more than 40k children over the last 10 years are affected by divorce to varying degree . Often, parents assume that children are resilient and so long as they are not showing too much negative emotions (like being depressed or feeling sad) or doing poorly in school, they assume that the kids are okay. But are they?  In this episode of WADT, we discuss how the divorce of parents impacts their children.
Apr 05, 202251:31
Ep 60: Puppy Love

Ep 60: Puppy Love

You are listening to the WADT podcast and this week we continue with the new series call Hot Potatoes where we discuss difficult situations parents face with their children and provide some practical tips on how to handle them. If there is a hot potato that you would like us to touch on do let us know through our social media and email.   We are joined by our new co-host Alvina, a mum to 3 teenagers and currently works as Family Life Educator with MUMs for Life.
Mar 29, 202246:59
Ep 59: Regulating your kid's screen time

Ep 59: Regulating your kid's screen time

Welcome to the WADT podcast and this week we continue with the new series call Hot Potatoes where we discuss difficult situations parents face with their children and provide some practical tips on how to handle them. If there is a hot potato that you would like us to touch on do let us know through our social media and email.
Mar 22, 202245:15
Ep 58 Teaching kids about money

Ep 58 Teaching kids about money

We work hard for it. It affects nearly every aspect of our lives. We use it everyday and think little of it until it runs low. Then we worry. I’m talking about money. You are listening to the WADT podcast and this week we start a new series call Hot Potatoes where we discuss difficult situations parents face with their children and provide some practical tips on how to handle them. If there is a hot potato that you would like us to touch on do let us know through our social media and email.. My co-host today are Hafiz, Kevin, and introducing Shufen, a stay home mum to 5 children between the ages of 5-10 and we will be talking about how parents can educate their children about money: its value, its purpose, and how to spend, save, and share money.
Mar 15, 202239:23
Ep 57: Women: Worthy of Honour

Ep 57: Women: Worthy of Honour

The International Women’s Day is celebrated globally on March 8 to commemorate the achievements of women. It is celebrated in different ways in different parts of the world. WADT is marking this important day by talking about women, specifically about how to respect and honour them because they are worthy of them. You will notice something different about our podcast today. instead of there being just two co-hosts (Hafiz and Parcsen), there are four. Joining us are two younger co-host: Kevin Goh and Fannie Lim. Kevin was our guest on the previous episode and he will be joining us as a co-host starting today. Although WADT is primarily a podcast on fatherhood and manhood, having a female co-host will add an additional perspective and make our conversations even more interesting. An important fact about Fannie is that she is married to Kevin and the two of them have 3 children, ages 11, 9 and 7. If you want to get to know Kevin and Fannie better, you will find a their profiles our Instagram and Facebook pages.
Mar 06, 202239:34
Ep 56: Importance of making friends

Ep 56: Importance of making friends

Welcome to the WADT podcast. In today’s digital world, it is not uncommon for someone to have hundreds, or even thousands of ‘friends’ on Facebook. But having so many online connections has not improved the quality of life for many. In fact, it has resulted in anxiety and depression of some, especially among the young. What is more important that the number of friends is the number of quality friendships you have. Today, Hafiz and Parcsen will be talking about the importance of making friends.
Mar 01, 202231:34
Ep 55: Finding your purpose and passion

Ep 55: Finding your purpose and passion

Welcome to the WADT podcast. Today our guest is Kevin Goh, Deputy Group Head of Engagement and Programmes at the Centre for Fathering. We will be discussing with him about how one can find, follow and fulfil one’s purpose in life. We’ll talk about how important having a life purpose is, what is passion and what role it plays. Kevin is also a father of 3.
Feb 22, 202235:20
Ep 54: To drink or not to drink

Ep 54: To drink or not to drink

 Welcome to the WADT podcast. Do you drink? And by that I mean alcoholic drinks like beer, wine, and different types of spirits. Singaporeans consumed on average around two liters of alcohol each in 2018, which was among the lowest in Asia-Pacific. This was partly due to the heavy taxation of alcoholic beverages in Singapore. Even so, health officials were concerned about a rise in unhealthy drinking habits among the young because of the harm alcohol has on the body. In this episode, we will reveal the truth about alcohol so that you will be better informed the next time you have a drink.
Feb 15, 202232:30
Ep 53: Men Need Sex

Ep 53: Men Need Sex

Welcome to another edition of the WADT Podcast. We are still on the the Manhood 2.0 series. In our previous episode we discussed about ego, a 3-letter word. In this episode, we will be discussing another 3-letter word - sex. Nothing is more linked with masculinity than a man’s sexual drive and desire. Is it true that men have a greater sex drive than women? Is sex a need for men? We will asking Eugene Chong, Principal Counselling Psychologist at Seeding Minds these questions and more. We will also be talking about porn and masturbation. In Episode 20, we had Dr. Muhd Taufiq on as our guest to talk about Men and Sex. If you missed that episode, do listen to it.
Feb 07, 202252:17
Ep 52: Right-sizing your ego

Ep 52: Right-sizing your ego

Ego has been given a very bad rap. It has often been associated with being selfish, self-absorbed, and narcissistic. Is ego really a bad thing? And do only men have it? You’re listening to another edition of the WADT podcast. Today, Eugene Chong is returning to provide us with answers to these questions and more.  As in the previous episode, we will be announcing a promo code that you can use for something special. So, keep listening to the end. If you like what you hear, we hope that you will subscribe to our podcast and share it with some one who might like it too.
Feb 01, 202233:40
Ep 51: Feeling Down

Ep 51: Feeling Down

Welcome to the WADT podcast. We are in the second episode of the Manhood 2.0 series where we talk about issues pertaining to men’s mental health and relationships. With us again today is Eugene Chong, the principal counselling psychologist at Seeding Minds. Today, Eugene will be helping us understand depression.    In this episode, we talked about:  1. What is depression - what does it look, sound, and feel like?  2. What causes depression?  3. Why should men seek help asap if they are having depression?  4. Why do men tend not to seek help for depression?   As in the previous episode, we will be announcing a promo code that you can use for something special. So, keep listening to the end.
Jan 26, 202233:08
Ep 50: 20 Questions

Ep 50: 20 Questions

With this episode, Hafiz and Parcsen celebrate WADT's first anniversary. This podcast started on 20 January 2021 and it's been a joy bringing these episodes to you.   This week, Hafiz and Parcsen will be answering 20 questions to reveal their personal sides. The question are as follows:    1. What’s your favorite way to spend a day off?  2. What type of music are you into?  3. What was the best vacation you ever took and why?  4. Where’s the next place on your travel bucket list and why?  5. What are your hobbies, and how did you get into them?  6. What was the last thing you read?  7. Would you say you’re more of an extrovert or an introvert?  8. What's your favorite ice cream topping?  9. What was the last TV show you binge-watched?  10. Are [you into podcasts or do you only listen to music?  11. If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?  12. Do you like going to the movies or prefer watching at home?  13. What’s your favorite sleeping position?  14. What’s your go-to guilty pleasure?  15. When you were a kid, did you eat the crusts on your sandwich or not?  16. What’s your favorite quote from a TV show/movie/book?  17. What do you do on your commute to/from work?  18. What activity instantly calms you?  19. What's one thing that can instantly make your day better?  20. Which meal is your favorite: breakfast, lunch, or dinner?   If you like this episode, please share the link with some one who you think will like it too. Also, don't forget to subscribe to our channel.
Jan 19, 202235:21
Ep 49: Taming Anger

Ep 49: Taming Anger

Welcome to the WADT podcast. Today we kick off a new series called Manhood 2.0 where we will talk about issues pertaining to men’s mental health and relationships.    Our guest today and for the next few episodes is Eugene Chong.  He is the principal counselling psychologist at Seeding Minds (seeding-minds.com). He helps those with a mental health condition such as depression, anxiety and trauma. He also helps couples with their strained marital relationships. Apart from being a therapist he is also a husband and a father of a 10 year old boy.   In this episode, Eugene will be helping us understand anger: what are its causes and how can men manage and overcome it.    During the podcast, we will be announcing a promo code that you can use to get a 20% discount for the first two counselling session at Seeding Minds. So, keep listening to the end.
Jan 08, 202233:59
Ep 48: How To Achieve Your New Year Resolutions

Ep 48: How To Achieve Your New Year Resolutions

Hello listeners. Hafiz and I want to wish all of you a very Happy New Year and hope that all that you wish for yourself will be fulfilled. New Year’s day is one of the happiest times of the year. People look forward to it, hoping to put the past behind them and start over, and wish that the new year will be happier and better than the one before. It is customary for people to also make New Year resolutions. But, as experience tells us, by the second week of February most people would have given up on their resolutions. What went wrong? What will it take for us to stick to our resolutions and achieve them? These are some of the questions Hafiz and I will try to answer in this episode of the WADT podcast. If you have enjoyed listening to this episode, do follow or subscribe so that you will not miss future episodes. And share it with someone whom you think will benefit from it too. Also, leave a review on either our Spotify, YouTube, Facebook or Instagram pages.
Jan 05, 202231:53
Ep 47: The Gift of Christmas

Ep 47: The Gift of Christmas

Christmas is probably the most popular celebration in the world, maybe due to the ubiquitous commercialisation by retail businesses taking advantage of the year end holiday season and buzz. Well, who doesn't know Santa Claus, Rudolf the red-nosed reindeer and the familiar Christmas songs!  But what is Christmas actually beyond the Christmas tree, presents and turkey? Like many religious celebrations, those outside the Christian community may have only a little understanding of its history and significance. Are there practices during Christmas that are purely religious and others are mainly due to culture? Beyond religious beliefs and practices, what are the good values and community spirit that Christmas brings? Are there controversies surrounding Christmas that non-Christians are not aware of?   We are fortunate to have someone who is qualified to answer these questions and many more. Who else but WADT co-host and former pastor, Parcsen.   We take this opportunity to wish WADT followers a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
Dec 21, 202135:01
Ep 46: Back to School with Dad

Ep 46: Back to School with Dad

Welcome to the WADT podcast. Our guest today is Shawn Quek. He is a father of two young children and the Manager of Outreach at the Centre for Fathering. He is the point person for the Back to School with Dad campaign that has been running since 2006. He will be sharing with us more about this campaign and how fathers can benefit from it.  Be sure to visit fathers.com.sg/btsd to download the templates you can use to write special messages to your child on their first day of school. Be sure to visit fathers.com.sg/btsd to download the templates you can use to write special messages to your child on their first day of school.
Dec 13, 202132:58
Ep 45: Can divorce be amicable?

Ep 45: Can divorce be amicable?

Each year in Singapore, there are over seven thousand divorces and annulments. And for many of them, they are acrimonious. This year, the Government of Singapore conducted several conversations with members of the public to find a way to make divorces more amicable. An amicable divorce is undoubtedly beneficial for all parties involved, especially the children. But is it possible? Our guest today is Himli Ali and he has been divorced from his wife for about a year and his divorce was (guess what?) amicable. Today, Hafiz and I will be finding out how they did it.
Dec 06, 202139:05
Ep: 44 Problem-solving

Ep: 44 Problem-solving

In the final installment of the Book Club based on the book How to Talk so Kids will Listen, Hafiz and Parcsen discuss how parents can include and engage their children in the process of problem-solving. Problem-solving is an essential life skill and it can be taught through modeling and practice on a daily basis.
Nov 30, 202133:16
Ep 43: Men who Abuse

Ep 43: Men who Abuse

Violence is everywhere. It's in cities and on the streets. It is brought to our homes through movies and video games. Most concerning is that it is happening at home in the form of domestic violence. Thankfully there are organizations like PAVE that help those who use violence against a family member, be it a spouse or child. Today, we have as our guests Saravanan Krishnan and Hewlett Chew who are social workers at PAVE and we will be discussing domestic violence and why men use violence. If you are experiencing verbal, emotional, or physical abuse, do not hesitate to reach out to one of the following: 1. PAVE 6555 0390 2. National Anti-Violence Hotline 1800-777 0000 3. Men's Helplink by Society Against Family Violence https://www.safv.org.sg/mens-helplink
Nov 23, 202141:19
Ep 42: Alternatives to Punishment

Ep 42: Alternatives to Punishment

Hafiz and Parcsen are back to give an overview of the third chapter of the book How To Talk So Kids Will Listen. This chapter explores the alternatives to punishment. Commonly, parents equate punishment with discipline but they are not the same thing. Punishment has been found to be ineffective in teaching children the right behaviour. What can parents do then? Well, listen to this episode and find out. Do also join in the in-depth discussion at our Book Club which is held on the first Wednesday of every month.
Nov 18, 202132:52
Ep 41: Branding with purpose

Ep 41: Branding with purpose

Our guest today is Ferdaus, founder of the branding company Neu Entity whose clientele includes MediaCorp, MOE, HP, and Citibank. Before starting this company Ferdaus worked as a web creator and eventually rose to become the creative lead in a company. By now you must have guessed what we will be talking about in today's podcast. That's right. Branding. And you might also have noticed that our social media platforms like Instagram and Facebook and Youtube, they all look different, nicer, well that's thanks to Ferdaus and his team of designers.
Nov 09, 202131:45
Ep 40: Deepavali: Festival of Lights

Ep 40: Deepavali: Festival of Lights

Welcome to the WADT podcast. The multi-racial harmony that is found in Singapore is unique and it did not happen by accident. It came about as a result of good policies and the combined effort of the citizenry. One of the ways that Singaporeans maintain racial harmony in the nation is by learning about the different cultures that are represented, including those belonging to the minority groups. Today, we will be learning more about Deepavali. Our guest is Ganesan, a civil servant, a husband, and a father of 2. Ganesan also volunteers with Appa Valnaal Uravu, an arm of Dads for Life that reaches out to fathers in the Hindu and Indian community in Singapore. You can learn more about what they do and their activities by visiting their Facebook page. https://www.facebook.com/Appa-Valnaal-Uravu-Dads-For-Life-962575130613559
Nov 01, 202129:41
Ep 39: Engaging Cooperation

Ep 39: Engaging Cooperation

In this episode, we return to the book How to Talk so Kids will Listen. In the previous chapter, we've been concentrating on how parents can help children deal with their negative feelings. Now we will focus on helping parents deal with some of their own negative feelings.
Oct 26, 202135:52
Ep 38: Flourishing at Work

Ep 38: Flourishing at Work

Today's episode will be especially important and relevant for men who are either approaching or past the age of 50. The big 50 is a very significant milestone in life. With it comes many changes in the areas of health, outlook, relationships, and work. Our guest is Mohamed Fadhil who has over 10 years of experience in the professional training industry as a facilitator, conducting workshops relating to emotional intelligence, wellbeing, digital literacy, and workplace communication. He is currently completing his Ph.D. in Education. He is also a father and has an 11 yo son. What we talked about: Why is the age 50 so significant? What is the meaning of flourish, and what is the opposite of it? What is midlife crisis? How to flourish. Listen to this episode here anchor.fm/wearedadstoo
Oct 19, 202145:19
Ep 37: I don't want to live anymore

Ep 37: I don't want to live anymore

Our topic for today is a solemn and serious one. It is something that is affecting more and more people in Singapore. I am talking about suicide. In Singapore, Suicide is the leading cause of death for those aged 10-29. 452 lives were lost to suicide in 2020. And the fact that more than 70% of those who took their own lives are males make us want to talk about it on this podcast. Understandably, those who are thinking about killing themselves or have attempted suicide would not want to talk openly about it. But today, we are honoured to have a friend who thankfully lived to tell his story. Please welcome Jamal. Hafiz and I have attended the training provided by Caring For Life for those who wish to be equipped to support early suicide ideation identification and care. Go to https://caringforlifesg.org/programmes/ to find out more and sign up for the course.
Oct 12, 202138:34
Ep 36: Stress can make you stronger and smarter

Ep 36: Stress can make you stronger and smarter

Nobody likes to feel stressed. It makes us uncomfortable and has a sense of helplessness. Advice abound on how to live a stress-free life which is something everyone hopes for. But few dare to even suggest that stress may be good for you, that it can make you stronger and sharper. It can also help you avoid some debilitating diseases in old age.  Our guest today, Dr Khairudin Aljunied, recently read a book entitled The Stress Test and is here to share what he has learned from it. Dr Khairudin is an associate professor at the National University of Singapore. He is the author of 7 books. And when he is not writing a book he plays soccer on Sundays and jogs 2-3 times a week. He is also a father of six children whose ages range between 7 and 21. What we talked about: What is fatherhood about How can stress make us stronger How a lack of stress can be dangerous How stress can make our minds sharper and keep Alzheimer's Disease at bay Why reading is important How reading can help fathers relate better with their children.
Oct 04, 202145:58
Ep 35: Rewilding

Ep 35: Rewilding

Our way of life has changed drastically Since the days when men were hunter-gathers thanks to technological advances. These advances may have made our lives and work more convenient and efficient but have not necessarily made us stronger or healthier. Human beings are innately wild but modern living has domesticated us and made us no different than wild animals in a zoo. It is time for man to return to their natural state. It is time to rewild. In this episode, Hafiz and Parcsen will explore this interesting subject of rewilding: what it means and how do we do it. Topics covered include: 1. What is rewilding and why it is necessary? 2. Assessing your movement debt 3. Reintegrating your primal movements 4. Rewilding your home 5. Going wild
Sep 27, 202135:37
Ep 34: Helping children deal with their feelings

Ep 34: Helping children deal with their feelings

Welcome to the We Are Dads Too Book Club. In today's episode, we begin our deep dive into the book "How to talk so kids will listen & how to listen so kids will talk." This book was dubbed the ultimate “parenting bible” by The Boston Globe. Both the authors Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish are parenting experts who have written extensively about the parent-child relationship. Chapter one teaches parents how to deal with their children's feelings. The authors want parents to know that when kids feel right, they'll behave right. And the way to help them feel right is by accepting their feelings.
Sep 20, 202135:28
Ep 33: Fit Dad

Ep 33: Fit Dad

Singaporeans, and human beings in general, are living longer today. And to enjoy this longer life, it is essential to stay healthy and to avoid suffering chronic illnesses in old age. Today we have Daryl Sung as our guest. He is a husband, father, and physical educator. He believes in keeping fit and staying healthy and does them with a passion. In this podcast, we talked about... 1. Worrying trends in children's activeness 2. 3 Simple keys to health and fitness 3. How to get started on the road to health 4. How to lead your family to health
Sep 13, 202138:29
Ep 32: Ayah, saya sayang kamu (Daddy, I love you.)

Ep 32: Ayah, saya sayang kamu (Daddy, I love you.)

Welcome to the We Are Dads Too podcast. Dads For Life is a national fathering movement that started in 2009 to inspire, mobilise and involve fathers to become good influences in their children’s lives - for life! Numerous studies have found that children do better in nearly all areas of life when they have involved fathers as compared to children with absent fathers. Behind this movement is the Centre for Fathering, a non-profit organization whose mission is to empower fathers to strengthen families. It offers programmes and workshops to equip fathers in all life stages to become effective dads. In 2016, a group of volunteers of the Centre for Fathering came together to focus their efforts on equipping and empowering fathers within the Malay Muslim community in Singapore. It was the birth of Bapa Sepanjang Hayat, or BSH for short. Today, we have with us Surafian, a father of 4 and has been a volunteer with BSH for a number of years. Do look for Bapa Sepanjang Hayat on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/bapasepanjanghayat) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/bapasepanjanghayat/) and follow them so that you will not miss any of their activities and events.
Sep 06, 202120:22
Ep 31: Teacher, Teacher

Ep 31: Teacher, Teacher

Welcome to the We Are Dads Too podcast.  Teachers play a very significant role in all our lives. For at least a decade of our existence, teachers have been helping us learn and grow as a whole person. One day in a year is set aside to show our appreciation to our teachers, and rightly so because apart from providing instruction in the classroom they also accompany students on field trips, conduct extra or remedial classes, help with the organization of school functions, and serve as supervisors for co-curricular activities. How one person is able to bear so many responsibilities at the same time confounds and evokes great respect from us all.    Because Teacher's Day being just around the corner, this episode will be dedicated to all the teachers who have played such a significant role in our children's lives. And to help us understand the work that teachers do, we have as our guest Andrew Kang.  Andrew Kang is a former MOE Vice-Principal and NIE External Consultant. Education seems to be in Andrew's blood because even after leaving the teaching job, he went on to start a company to reimagine learning. Andrew is also a dad. The ages of his children are 18, 16, 14, 11.   Topics  How do you imagine education?  Roles of a teacher  How do teachers maintain their work-life balance  A teachers' mental health  Parent-teacher partnership   Like and Follow us on Facebook (facebook.com/wearedadstoo) and Instagram (instagram.com/wearedadstoo). Go to fathers.com.sg/programmes to check out the workshops offered by Centre for Fathering. Teachers can attend for FREE by using the code "TEACH" when signing up.
Aug 31, 202133:42
What's New In Season Two

What's New In Season Two

Can't believe that it's been thirty episodes already. We hope that you have enjoyed it as much as we have enjoyed producing them for you. Hafiz and I will be taking a short break but will be back with more good and exciting stuff.  Season Two will start on September 1 and it will have new things. Find out what they are. 
Aug 18, 202107:20
Ep 30: Knowing You, Knowing Me

Ep 30: Knowing You, Knowing Me

"Knowing you, knowing me", in this 30th episode of @wearedadstoo, it highlights the importance of fathers in maintaining their interest, curiosity in building a meaningful relationship with their children. All is well when an observant dad asks a specific question and speaks the language of their children for an eventful, worthwhile communication between a father and a child. Tune in to @wearedadstoo Spotify channel to find out more on this topic.
Aug 10, 202136:53
Ep 29: A Chat With Suhaimi

Ep 29: A Chat With Suhaimi

Suhaimi Yusof, is a no stranger name in the media industry. An actor, comedian, and former radio announcer who has been in the industry for the last 32 years believes that humor gives color in one's life and helps to build a good social rapport. Behind all the smiles and laughter, he enjoys reading a lot! It gives him a sense of escapism! Join @wearedadstoo podcast this week with Suhaimi who is a versatile, dynamic, and entertaining personality sharing wisdom on his life as an entertainer, a son, a husband, and a father to 3 beautiful children only at our Spotify! Tune in to find out more.
Aug 05, 202101:00:55
Ep 28: Play: A Child's Work

Ep 28: Play: A Child's Work

Let’s LEGO everyone! Do you know what is meant by LEGO? 'LEGO' is an abbreviation of the two Danish words “leg godt”, meaning “play well”. Yes, play well everyone, regardless of our age, incorporate play in life is essential especially to the children’s development. It evokes creativity, brain development, social competency, and most importantly, they are learning on the go! Well, as the saying goes, “all works and no play makes Jack a dull boy”, it’s high time for us to get amuse and enjoyment in play again. Don’t worry about toys, as our surroundings can be the best toy! What are you waiting for? Let’s play be a part of our family time. Before that let’s tune in to @wearedadstoo Spotify and get the best play of information.
Jul 29, 202147:44
Ep 27: What New Dads Need to Know

Ep 27: What New Dads Need to Know

What new dads should know? ‘Among all my firsts in life, being a first time dad is my favourite’ - Unknown. What a beautiful transition life journey one could experience from being a responsible adult man to having a lifetime partner and now being a dad, it surely life moments etched in one heart. Well we @wearedadstoo as a ‘senior’ dad, would like to share ‘secrets’ on what new dads should know to help make your adventure fatherhood journey as memorable life moments together with Dr. Zainal Muttakin a specialist paediatric only at @wearedadstoo Spotify and Youtube channel. Don’t forget to tune in!
Jul 21, 202142:31
Ep 26: Who Should Care ?

Ep 26: Who Should Care ?

Who should care?🤔 Caring about others is a heroic act by itself.  As we (children) are busy growing up, we tend to forget that our parents are growing old at the same time. And the most precious things we can give to our elders are time, love, and care.  @wearedadstoo knows that caregiving for our elders has never been a walk in the park. With the empowering culture of care involving every level of society from the school, youths, employers, neighbours, doctors and nurses to the friendly aging policy changes in the government.  We can have compassion, empathy, and a culture of care as a reality.  Listen to this episode featuring Dr. Chan Yeow if you are curious to know who should be responsible for taking care of the elderly at Spotify @wearedadstoo!
Jul 14, 202136:48
Ep 25: Values in Action

Ep 25: Values in Action

Son: Dad, I’m going to make a cup of coffee to stay awake for final EURO 2020, would you like to have a cup? I can make it for you. Dad: Oh dear, it sounds tempting, but I’m good. Thank you for asking. Son: Welcome! The above conversation might sound normal with the son being considerate and caring. But, to have these values inculcated actually takes a lot of practice in a family household. There are a lot of family values, but what we can do is to choose and pick those values that we can put into action on a daily basis. The more the values are being practiced, the more it becomes second nature to the family.  Come and join us @wearedadstoo on Spotify if you are curious to know about the three pillars of family culture and how family values can be translated into action.
Jul 07, 202144:40
Ep 24: Parenting That Works

Ep 24: Parenting That Works

Which types of parenting styles work for you? Authoritative? Indulgent? Indifferent? Collaborative?🤔 Well, there’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to parenting. Each parent is different, but what's similar is that every parent wants the best for their children💯 Sit back and join @wearedadstoo podcast this week as we share how to have rules at home without overdoing them, the importance to have a learning environment where mistakes and open discussion are welcome and cherished🎉. Tag us @wearedadstoo on your key takeaways!
Jun 30, 202153:21
Ep 23: The Hidden Enemy

Ep 23: The Hidden Enemy

Can you guess who is it? Well, it is not your usual frenemy, but it’s none other than the big C; Cancer.  According to the Singapore Cancer Society, about 39 people are diagnosed with cancer every day. 1 in 4 people may develop cancer in their lifetime. While not everyone develops cancer,  there are many factors that may trigger this disease. The possible factors include our environment, having a sedentary lifestyle, hidden toxins found in our daily household items such as softener.  Want to know more about this enemy and the science behind it? Tune in to this episode with special guest Dr. Mariam, a cancer researcher.  Find us @wearedadstoo on Spotify and Youtube now! Visit wellnesswithdrmariam.com for more dynamic health information.😉
Jun 23, 202129:13
Ep 22: To Dad, With Love

Ep 22: To Dad, With Love

“To the world, you’re a dad, To our family, you’re the world”. ~ Unknown~ Happy Father’s Day to all fathers, you’re truly the unsung heroes!  On this special day, let's take this opportunity to fondly reconnect with our dads; be it via Zoom, Facetime or Skype as long as we cherish every moment with our loved ones. Try asking these questions with your dads if you often struggle to keep the conversation going!👇🏼  1. What’s the one thing you like to thank your father for? 2. What’s the one thing you received from your dad and you would like to pass to your children? 3. What’s the one thing you want your father to know? @wearedadstoo hope you’ll have a splendid time together with your family as family is where life and love begins and never end.
Jun 16, 202134:32
Ep 21: Raising Sons & Daughters

Ep 21: Raising Sons & Daughters

Parents only want the best for their children. The subject of raising children in this fast-changing world such as how they play, live, communicate, think and how they grow as an individual - are profound concerns most parents have. Should parents raise their sons and daughters according to gender stereotypes? Join us in our podcast today with our special guest, Martin Lim, Chief Relationship Officer at Focus on the Family. Here, we talk about the difference between traditional and modern parenting, the stereotypical gender roles in society and how parents play an important role in their children’s early development. Do visit www.family.org.sg/strongerwithdads for this year's Father's Day campaign.
Jun 09, 202154:31
Ep 20: Men & Sexual Health

Ep 20: Men & Sexual Health

In Asian culture, it is taboo to have open discussions about healthy sexual health among family, friends and even with our own partner. We feel uncomfortable and tend to keep our sexual health problems to ourselves without seeking help from medical experts. In this episode from @wearedadstoo on Men and Sexual Health, Dr Taufiq Rashid from Pulse Medical Centre shares insights from the difficulties men face in their sexual health, such as going through andropause and many more! Tune in to Spotify @wearedadstoo to know more.
Jun 02, 202132:26
Ep 19: "Real Men" Don't Get Sick ?

Ep 19: "Real Men" Don't Get Sick ?

A lot of men have developed the mindset that “If nothing is broken, don’t fix it” when it comes to their health. They believe that they are strong enough to do their daily activities as per usual. However, what happens then when their health starts to deteriorate? In this episode, Dr Taufiq Rashid from Pulse Medical Centre, shares with us why prevention is better than cure. He talks about the importance of going for health screening, our fitness and shares ways to maintain a healthy lifestyle.
May 26, 202137:32
Ep 18: Digital Candy

Ep 18: Digital Candy

What happens when you give candy to a child? He or she would want more of it. In the same way, when parents hand a digital device to their young children, they are giving them digital candy. In this episode, Professor Michael Chia from the National Institute of Education (NIE), shares about the impact digital devices has on children during the early childhood years and what parents can do to help moderate their children's screen-time. He also talks about why children should play more. Don't forget to follow on all our social media platforms @wearedadstoo for more tips and resources on fatherhood.
May 19, 202158:08
Ep 17: Fatherhood Starts Here

Ep 17: Fatherhood Starts Here

Did you correctly guess about the guest and topic for this week's episode?🤔 No worries, we got you covered! @wearedadstoo is honored to have Bryan Tan, CEO of Centre For Fathering, on this week's conversation. A father of 4 children, he recently welcomed the arrival of his 4th child. A former senior officer with the Singapore Armed Forces, he made a career switch to the social service sector several years ago. Tune in to this episode on our Spotify channel to catch Bryan's views on matters of concern to fathers, including the importance of fully utilizing paternity leaves.
May 12, 202147:14
Ep 16: A Mother Speaks

Ep 16: A Mother Speaks

Special on Mother's Day, @wearedadstoo together with Dr. Mariam, a working mom, delved into various themes such as struggling of working mothers, importance of compromising between a wife and a husband, developing an effective communication style to express your thoughts and emotions productively and lots more more about motherhood as life as a wife and mother is never a destination but a beautiful journey. For more resources on parenting check us out on Facebook and Instagram @wearedadstoo. We would like to hear your comments and questions too. Feel free to share them and be connected to other dads as well!
May 08, 202158:21
Ep 15: Hope For The Busy Father (Part 2)

Ep 15: Hope For The Busy Father (Part 2)

In the previous episode we have discussed about the three ingredients needed to have good quality time. In part two of Hope for the Busy Father, we will discuss on how fathers out there can compartmentalise their time between work and family!! Listen to this episode for some tips to know how you can balance your time to ensure that you have some time to wind down, work and spend time with family.
Apr 28, 202129:04
Ep 14: Hope For The Busy Father (Part 1)

Ep 14: Hope For The Busy Father (Part 1)

“Give me five minutes, I’ll get back to you” Do you often say this to your child? Then this episode is for you! We understand that you may be busy but that little pockets of time you make for your child makes a huge impact. Sometimes organising or having family time does not equate to quality time between you and your children. Listen to this episode to learn some tips on how you can ensure the time you spend with your children are of quality.
Apr 21, 202126:43
Ep 13: Dads In Progress

Ep 13: Dads In Progress

Fathers, small progress is still PROGRESS. Celebrate your small wins! Fathers, like mothers, are also considered part of the backbone in the development of a child's emotional well-being. Did you know that fathers may experience postpartum depression as well? This is called paternal postpartum depression. In our society, males are depicted as the pillar of the family but what people don't see is their vulnerabilities. In this episode, WADT touches, among others, on how to cope with being a first time father and signs of paternal postpartum depression. This may be something you can relate with! So let's chill with WADT in our episode "Dads in Progress" to understand more about the journey of fatherhood. Share, comment and follow @wearedadstoo on all our social media platform!
Apr 14, 202133:47
Ep 12: Fathering After Divorce (Part 2)

Ep 12: Fathering After Divorce (Part 2)

In this second part of "Fathering After Divorce" episode, we will explore the importance of quality time between a father and the children to develop the best relationships between them. Plus point, if you're wondering when is the best time to be in love again, give a listen to this episode exclusively at We Are Dads Too (WADT). If you enjoy our episode, please do share it around, comment and tag us @wearedadstoo. WADT love to hear from you!
Apr 10, 202128:59
Ep 11: Fathering After Divorce (Part 1)

Ep 11: Fathering After Divorce (Part 1)

"Divorce" in most cultures has always been associated with negative connotations. What if we change our perspective to the positive by talking about it so that both separated parties move forward in co-parenting their child? Our child will always be ours no matter what happens to the marriage. For the dads and moms struggling to build a life from the shattered glass, practical insights and tips are shared in this conversation, specifically for you! Hang in there! WADT got you covered! Tune in to the next episode to know how to move forward after divorce.
Mar 31, 202126:55
Ep 10: Q & A With Hafiz and Parcsen

Ep 10: Q & A With Hafiz and Parcsen

We all agree with the saying goes: "Rome wasn't built in a day". The same goes with TRUST in a relationship. Yet, we still test the water and at the end of the day, most of us are clueless on how to save our precious relationship. Tune in to this episode to know how you can navigate through this issue! We have received a deluge of questions and we have answered a few in this episode. We truly appreciate all the questions that you have given us. For more resources on fathering check us out on Facebook and Instagram @wearedadstoo We would like to hear your comments and questions too. Feel free to share them and be connected to other dads as well!
Mar 24, 202111:44
Ep 9: When Conflicts Turn Violent

Ep 9: When Conflicts Turn Violent

In this episode, we talk about domestic violence with the Co-Founder and Executive Director of Casa Raudha Limited, Zaharah Ariff. People have heard about domestic violence but more can be done to spread awareness of its severity and impact on families. Listen to this conversation also to know how domestic violence can be prevented and what victims can do when facing such a challenge.
Mar 17, 202147:60
Ep 8: Conflict Management In Marriage

Ep 8: Conflict Management In Marriage

We are all imperfect communicators. We think we know what we are saying but sometimes we are not aware of the emotions involved. The slight change of intonation and emphasis can cause a conflict. Conflict among partners is inevitable, listen to this episode to know how you and your partner can manage conflict better! It is important to know how to articulate your feelings and learn some tips to conflict management.
Mar 10, 202132:42
Ep 7: Communication In Marriage

Ep 7: Communication In Marriage

Communication is key in achieving connection and intimacy in a relationship. This episode discusses about communication as the backbone of a marriage relationship. When communication breaks down, the marriage will start to crack and partners will feel the distance between them increasing. Listen to this episode to know how you and your partner can achieve a deeper connection through improving your communication with one another.
Mar 03, 202132:56
Ep 6: Beware of The Marriage Breakers (Part 2)

Ep 6: Beware of The Marriage Breakers (Part 2)

One of the keys to good parenting is a strong marriage. When fathers treat their wives well and do what they can to keep the whole family intact, they are modelling to their children what they should do to have a healthy family in the future! Listen to this episode to know more about the next two indicators of marriage breakers!
Feb 24, 202133:31
Ep 5: Beware of The Marriage Breakers (Part 1)

Ep 5: Beware of The Marriage Breakers (Part 1)

We will be covering the first part of marriage breakers in the fifth episode. Marriage is a big topic and many couples do not realise that the key to good parenting is a strong marriage. Fathers when they treat their wives well and do what they can to keep the whole family intact, they are modelling to their children what they should do to have a healthy family in the future! Listen to this episode to know more about the first two indicators of marriage breakers!
Feb 17, 202138:20
Ep 4: It Takes Two

Ep 4: It Takes Two

The topic for our fourth episode will be on parenting as a team. An important topic that we are going to discuss using the volleyball team analogy. Parenting roles were divided generally along gender lines but nowadays these two roles of mothering and fathering role are overlapping! Listen to this episode to hear some tips on how to work as a team when parenting! 
Feb 10, 202141:30
Ep 3: The New Balance

Ep 3: The New Balance

The topic for our third episode will be about working from home and how parenting or fathering will be in this situation.  It can be difficult to adjust to the new normal, but it is a blessing in disguise. Listen to this episode to know how you can find the balance between working from home and parenting!
Feb 03, 202139:07
Ep 2: Strong Minds, Soft Hearts

Ep 2: Strong Minds, Soft Hearts

The topic for our second episode is on mental resilience. Our children's education is something very close to our hearts and the Singapore education system can be very pressurizing. They might not know how to handle the pressure and many of them come to the point where they feel like they can't do it. Listen to this episode to know how Dads can play a part in helping the child to develop mental resilience skill!✨
Jan 27, 202140:44
Ep 1: Papa, Don't Teach!

Ep 1: Papa, Don't Teach!

The topic for our first episode is on children’s education. Many parents in Singapore are very much influenced by the high standard but pressurised education system. We understand that parents want the best for their kids but it also comes with considerable stress. Listen to know more about how we can allow our children to take control of their lives and reach their full potential!✨
Jan 20, 202129:27