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Tis the season for family traditions. You know the ones we love and the others that feel like a burden.  This episode Sandy and Amy share some of their family traditions, how they evolved, which ones stuck and which ones did not. It’s a perfect conversation for the season.

AI is here. There are some good ways to use it and our guest, Heather Noggle shares some cautions.  She also gives us some great advice on how we can protect ourselves, #1 multi factor authentication.  Helping us find a balance between fear and vigilance when it comes to cybersecurity.

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What just happened?  Sometimes that is how we feel when we see someone stepping out of the box and being their authentic and real selves. This episode we are celebrating that courageous authenticity which can challenge our beliefs and who we think we are.  It can feel good and also a bit uncomfortable.

They’re talking about books, both banned and unbanned.  Sandy and Amy are big readers.  They share their latest reading, a podcast on books, and discuss the banned book lists.  It’s a good conversation.

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If we had a million dollars and didn’t need to save it - what would you spend it on?  We asked this question to our listeners.  We learned the answer, many times, reflects our values.  It’s an interesting thing to ponder.   

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Sometimes our confidence on a topic is greater than our competence.  This episode Sandy and Amy share when we’ve been armchair quarterbacks.This conversation takes us down the road of growth mindset, and the “Think Again” book by Adam Grant.  The more we know, the more we realize how much we don’t know.  

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When we put ourselves out there to do something new or different, it can be scary. This episode, Sandy and Amy talk about change, benefits of change and how we’ve embraced it…or not.

We can all agree that people evolve and change. Yet, we also recognize that people are very much the same as they have always been. This episode, Sandy and Amy discuss how we change, how we might want to change and what will really never change. 

A.I. is here and this week we share how we’ve been playing with it.  What we’re seeing, what we’re hearing, possible opportunities plus some cautions.  It’s interesting and will be a game changer. How do you plan to harness the power of A.I.?

We’re back!  In this episode, we’re doing our catch up from the summer and kicking off season 5.  Sandy and Amy both spent time with important people this summer while they did some stuff and learned some stuff.  

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Sandy and Amy are signing off for the summer.  In this episode they discuss the things that are just different for summer and how we all have to adjust.  Summer goes fast and with intentionality we can make the most of it.

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People remember the value you bring when you are your authentic self.  In this podcast, Sandy and Amy dig into values and how incorporating them into your day can help bring happiness.

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Inspiration helps us move forward to a better place or mindset. But moving forward typically requires taking the first step and then the second.  It needs a  process.  In this podcast, Sandy and Amy share inspirations and how they discovered the need for the process.

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This episode Sandy and Amy discuss multitasking, why it’s impossible and some of the other things that distract us. Amy also shares a quick test you can do to see if you’re an efficient multi-tasker.

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What most people refer to as "mean girl behavior" is really relational aggression. Sandy and Amy discuss this type of bullying, recognize that it’s not just the girls and share strategies to protect yourself.

When should we play defense? Is it ever necessary? We all have moments when we react defensively.  Sandy and Amy share some situations that triggered them and brainstorm better responses.  Always keeping it real.

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Meeting new people can be fun.  Sometimes we make a good connection, sometimes we think maybe not and then there’s the times we get ghosted.  In this podcast, Sandy and Amy share their networking stories, some good and some not so good. 

Can someone teach you confidence?  If we are lifting each other up and empowering others, are we teaching them to be confident?  Sandy and Amy discuss just that this week.  We start with one thought…you’ll have to listen in to see where we end up.

When you look around, are most of the people around you like you?  There are many benefits to surrounding ourselves with people who have different faiths, different pronouns, different ethnicity...you know, diversity. This podcast Sandy and Amy discuss times when we’ve felt uncomfortable with diversity in our own surroundings.  We share how we handle it and how we learn.  

Too often we live in a tight box of expectations that we have created and rarely does life give you that exact path. The things that exceed our expectations are the things that make our highlight reel. Knowing that expectations are unavoidable, in this episode Sandy and Amy discuss how we keep our expectations, good and bad, in check.  A few hints…adaptability and flexibility are key.

Lesson learned from our travels: It is better to be adaptable than expectant.

Sandy and Amy have been doing some traveling.  In this episode, we share why we like to travel, how keeping it simple gives us the same joy as the elaborate vacations plus some favorites. Many times, we realized, it’s the people we’re with not the location that makes the magic.

You want to hear a juicy story?  If you said yes, you might want to listen to this podcast.  If you said no, you might also want to listen. Sandy and Amy are talking about gossip. The good, the bad and the ugly.

Is drama in your life because of your circumstances or because of your choices.  Sandy and Amy dig into this topic in this episode. What we determine is that drama gets a bad rap. Sometimes it’s bad, but there can also be a good side to it.

When we know we’ve messed up our knee jerk reaction is to apologize with hopes of forgiveness. That’s the easy way out. Sandy and Amy discuss the steps that need to happen before the apology and understanding that forgiveness may never happen and that’s ok.

Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg: On Repentance and Repair: Making Amends in an Unapologetic World.

We all see the before and after.  What is in the middle is usually pretty messy.  Sandy and Amy share a few stories about overcoming adversity, perseverance and how to get through that messy middle.

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Do you have a plan B?  Some of us always have a back up plan which can be good. There is a flip side where a Plan B can sabotage your Plan A. This podcast Sandy and Amy share stories about when Plan B’s were good and when they held us back.

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In the book “The Measure”, this one morning  everyone over the age of 22 receives a box with a string that tells you the length of your life. Sandy and Amy discuss this idea.  Would you open the box?  If you did, what would you do with the information?

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All we need for true happiness is enough.  Enough sun to keep your attitude bright, enough rain to appreciate the sun more and so on as the poem goes.   Sandy and Amy explore this concept of enough and what makes us feel like we need more.

"I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.

I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.

I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.

I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.

I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.

I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.

I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye."

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 We all take things for granted.  Sandy and Amy share how they’ve taken things for granted in the past.  They also discuss how to find the balance between optimism that all will be good and the reality that things might go away and be missed. Sometimes it’s hard to know we appreciate something til it’s gone.

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At any age,we have choices. Sometimes when we hit a certain age, we feel it’s easier to settle in and ride it out.  In this episode, Sandy and Amy share their career changes, some of the feedback and some of the support they got plus some insights on making a change.

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This is a fun episode.  It’s the holiday time, so Sandy and Amy are sharing some of their favorite things. We’re not Oprah but we still share gift items and self care favorites.  We both walked away with some good gift ideas.

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Moving can be stressful but also an adventure If we’re moving to something we’re excited about.  This week Sandy and Amy share the hard and the fun parts of moving.

This week we’re talking about how you can never go home, or can you? Home changes, you change and when you go back “home” it feels different.  This week Sandy and Amy share how to keep your expectations in check.  You can go home to celebrate the memories and celebrate the present.

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As we hit midlife, we have noticed as women, we aren’t as noticed as we were when we were younger.  This podcast Sandy and Amy discuss aging as females.  We want to celebrate what age gives us - confidence, authenticity, deep relationships plus so much more.

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In gratitude, we recognize that the source of goodness is outside of ourselves. Sandy and Amy attended a Gratitude Summit recently.  In this episode they share insights and inspiration to incorporate gratitude into daily life. They’re keeping it real while striving for the ideal.

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Raise your hand if you’ve ever screwed up.  Yes, us too. This episode, Sandy and Amy discuss how to apologize and what happens when we don’t take accountability for our mess ups, either through ignoring them, doubling down or apologizing with justification of why we did what we did.

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If being nice is being agreeable, then being your authentic self is sometimes not nice.  In this podcast, Sandy and Amy discuss how to be your authentic self and we distinguish the difference between being nice and being kind.  We always ask what’s the real, and what’s the ideal.

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Have you ever felt stuck?  You may be experiencing lifestyle fatigue. In this episode, Sandy and Amy share times when they’ve felt stuck and some strategies to get you out of the funk.

Pivots, big and small happen everyday.  How can you make your pivots go smoother?  With Amy in the middle of a big pivot, you know her, she’s done some research that she’ll share in this episode plus, since Sandy is a master in pivots, she shares her wisdom, insights and strategies.

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Amy is moving to a new city and making that decision was pretty huge. This episode Sandy and Amy talk through decision making advice and insights.  They share their experiences and a few lessons learned. Always keeping it real.

A few things we shared:

If you want something different, you have to do something different.

Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.

Life is built on the dailies.

Where we are today is an accumulation of our choices.

It’s all good in the end.  If it’s not good, it’s not the end.

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Stats can be perspective changing.  For example, did you know that you form a first impression of someone within 6 seconds of meeting them?  In this episode Sandy and Amy share some stats that they stumbled upon that were interesting, to say the least.

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We have all heard that mental toughness can help you achieve great things.  In this podcast Sandy and Amy discuss what Mental toughness is, the good of mental toughness and the bad, like how it can turn into shaming and judgment.  The key is trying to achieve while giving yourself some grace to not be perfect.

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Thanks for joining us for Season 4. It’s been a great summer break and now It’s Back to Podcast time.  In this episode, Sandy and Amy discuss their summer break along with their hopes and dreams for Season 4 of the podcast.  There are some big discussions that will be happening this season along with a few personal decisions that will get shared. Lots of good stuff in store.

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We are still off for the summer but wanted to share an edited down version of one of our favorite conversations.  We discuss that scene from the movie "When Harry Meet Sally" where Sally fakes an orgasm and the lady in the booth next to them tells the waiter "I'll have what she's having".  We've all done it, we see someone happy and think whatever it is they have (cute clothes, a new spouse, a new house, a different job, etc.), that is the thing that will make us happy too.  We explore this a bit more in this conversation.  

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Oldie and goodie podcast here from when we discussed the Life Script Model in 2020.  Life script is a concept that once you see it, you can’t unsee it.  We edited down this conversation so it's a little shorter the 2nd time around but still perspective shifting.  We hope you enjoy it!

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How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?  Hmm, things that we ponder.  Sandy and Amy discuss this and more about why Time is a Stinker.  Balancing that with the fact that it’s also a gift.

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This episode, Sandy and Amy go back in time to their first podcast in June of 2020 titled “Our New Normal”. We discuss that moment in time, how things have changed and stayed the same over the last 2 years.  Reflection is always enlightening.

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Toxic positivity involves dismissing negative emotions and responding to distress with false reassurances rather than empathy. Sandy and Amy discuss how positivity is often well-intentioned but can cause alienation and a feeling of disconnection. We share what toxic positivity looks like, why it is harmful and how we can avoid being toxic with our positivity.

What will our world be like in 2050?  Sandy and Amy discuss the top 10 drivers of change (climate change, convergence, demographics, energy, food, oceans, poverty, urbanisation, waste, and water) and do a little looking back and some looking forward.  It’s an exercise that helps you strategize for the possible future.

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Inspiration is all about when you’re “mentally stimulated to manifest what you want to create”   There are many ways to get inspired.  Sandy and Amy discuss some of the recommendations and share what works for them.

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